Your Divorce Was Not a Coincidence with Sara Fishkin

The day Sara Fishkin stood in her shower, everything had fallen apart. Her marriage was over. And in that moment, instead of collapsing further into it, something shifted. She decided to stop being the victim of her story and get curious about what was in it for her.What she found changed everything, including what she does now.Sara is a transformational mindset and prosperity coach whose work is built on one core idea: your subconscious patterns, the ones you picked up in childhood, the ones modeled by your parents, the ones you never consciously chose, are running the show. And until you change the film, the movie on the screen stays the same.In this conversation, we go deep.We talk about how Sara's divorce played out as an almost exact replica of her parents' divorce and why that's not a coincidence, what it actually means that your behaviors in marriage were mostly automatic, not intentional, the difference between watching your life and leading it and the moment both of us realized we'd been doing the former, why saying yes to a marriage when you're not fully in it is itself a generational pattern and how we pass that down without knowing it, and what it looks like to work at the level of subconscious belief rather than just mindset or motivation.Sara uses an analogy that's going to stick with you: the old-fashioned movie projector. The light is always shining. The question is what film you're running through it.Her message to women newly out of divorce: it can be pretty dark at the beginning. But if you can just start asking, what's the gift in this?, it becomes able to find you.