You're Allowed To Disappear (The New Rules Of Friendship)

 "If you wouldn't let them through your front door, they're not getting in the community."In the final part of this raw 2.5 hour conversation, we completely redefine what friendship means in 2025, and why the old rules are making everyone miserable.Elle and Cam break down why feeling obligated to respond to every text, show up to every event, or maintain weekly check-ins is actually preventing real connection. They share why the best friendships operate on spontaneity and flow rather than rigid expectations.What we explore: • Why "I haven't posted since 2011" people don't understand the attention differential • The evolution of friendship from obligation-based to flow-based connection • Why real friends can disappear for 6 months and pick up where they left off • How we're building a community where healthy attachment is the default • The passive-aggressive friendship texts that signal unhealthy attachment ("Did you fall off the Earth?") • Why you don't owe anyone your time, energy, or immediate response • How redefining "friend" makes room for actual depth and presenceThis isn't about being a bad friend. It's about building friendships that don't drain you, where you show up because you genuinely want to, not because you're obligated to.If you've ever felt exhausted by friendship expectations, guilty for not texting back, or suffocated by people who need constant validation... this conversation will set you free.Join Our Communities:✨ Apply for ⁠⁠The Board⁠⁠, a curated global network for people who have everything except the right room.✨ Walk with us for 5 miles and meaningful conversations, now in 10+ cities: ⁠⁠www.theboardwalks.com⁠⁠ ✨ Subscribe to ⁠⁠The Friday Debrief⁠⁠ for lightbulb moments from The Board WalksConnect With Elle & Cam:✨ Elle’s newsletter ⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠ ✨ Cam’s newsletter ⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠✨ Elle Beecher’s ⁠⁠social media⁠⁠ ✨ Cam Hogan’s ⁠⁠social media⁠⁠Explore Whimsy World:✨ Listen on Spotify, Apple, & ⁠⁠all platforms⁠⁠✨ Watch & Subscribe on ⁠⁠Youtube⁠⁠✨ ⁠⁠Buy us a spring water⁠⁠ if you enjoy our episodesAbout Your Hosts:⁠⁠Cameron Hogan⁠⁠⁠⁠ is an intuitive healer who helps high-performers shed their limiting beliefs and awaken. He is CEO of High Vibe Ventures, where he’s evolving work and business practices to match the planet’s rising consciousness. Cameron loves to write, speak, solve major life problems via courses, and build communities for meaningful connection like ⁠⁠The Board⁠⁠.⁠⁠Elle Beecher⁠⁠⁠⁠ helps people find community and fall in love with their lives. Elle is founder of ⁠⁠The Board Walks⁠⁠, a global movement of weekly walks in 10+ cities with over 18,000 attendees, and its premium extension called ⁠⁠The Board⁠⁠. She curates stories and insights from these communities in ⁠⁠The Friday Debrief⁠⁠ newsletter, and shares her personal reflections in ⁠⁠The Elle Diaries⁠⁠. She was awarded Forbes 30 Under 30 for her expertise in community building.