EPISODE · Feb 12, 2026 · 55 MIN
You're Here, But You're Not With Me ft Nicole Lee, LMFT
from Go Have Good Sex featuring The Christian Sexpert · host Angela Griffith
In this episode I chat with Nicole Lee, LMFT to unpack what’s actually happening when social media, online gaming, or constant scrolling starts to feel like emotional distance inside a relationship.Drawing from Nicole’s doctoral research, this conversation explores how perceived partner escapism—not just screen time—can significantly impact relationship satisfaction. Her study found that when one partner perceives the other as using social or interactive media to escape, relationship satisfaction drops by more than 22%.This episode isn’t about demonizing phones or shaming habits. It’s about perception, meaning-making, and emotional presence—and why couples often fight about time when the real issue is disconnection.We discuss:What escapism actually is and how it shows up in modern marriagesWhy perception matters more than minutes spent scrollingHow social media and other forms of escapism impact intimacy and conflictWhy men and women often experience and report relationship satisfaction differentlyHow mental load, emotional labor, and “pphubbing” fuel resentmentPractical ways couples can replace the scroll with real connectionIf you’ve ever felt ignored, deprioritized, or like your spouse is emotionally somewhere else—even when they’re right next to you—this episode will help you name what’s happening and start repairing connection without blame or shame.Because presence isn’t about being in the same room.It’s about being with each other.Resources from this episode:Modern Romance by Aziz Ansari1+1=3, You, Me, & Our Relationship by Nicole Lee1+1=3, You, My, & Our Sex Life by Nicole Lee31 Days of IntimacySmall Moments of ConnectionTo connect with Nicole:WebsiteFacebookInstagramTikTokTo support me, The Christian Sexpert, make sure you are checking out all of my resources, and of course, a Cash App gift helps me do all these things you love! WebsiteBook Coaching with Angela Facebook TikTok Instagram YouTube Podcast Patreon CashApp $TheChristianSexpertNote: These show notes contain external links to products and services. The Christian Sexpert may receive a commission for purchases made through these links.
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In this episode I chat with Nicole Lee, LMFT to unpack what’s actually happening when social media, online gaming, or constant scrolling starts to feel like emotional distance inside a relationship.Drawing from Nicole’s doctoral research, this conversation explores how perceived partner escapism—not just screen time—can significantly impact relationship satisfaction. Her study found that when one partner perceives the other as using social or interactive media to escape, relationship satisfaction drops by more than 22%.This episode isn’t about demonizing phones or shaming habits. It’s about perception, meaning-making, and emotional presence—and why couples often fight about time when the real issue is disconnection.We discuss:What escapism actually is and how it shows up in modern marriagesWhy perception matters more than minutes spent scrollingHow social media and other forms of escapism impact intimacy and conflictWhy men and women often experience and report relationship satisfaction differentlyHow mental load, emotional labor, and “pphubbing” fuel resentmentPractical ways couples can replace the scroll with real connectionIf you’ve ever felt ignored, deprioritized, or like your spouse is emotionally somewhere else—even when they’re right next to you—this episode will help you name what’s happening and start repairing connection without blame or shame.Because presence isn’t about being in the same room.It’s about being with each other.Resources from this episode:Modern Romance by Aziz Ansari1+1=3, You, Me, & Our Relationship by Nicole Lee1+1=3, You, My, & Our Sex Life by Nicole Lee31 Days of IntimacySmall Moments of ConnectionTo connect with Nicole:WebsiteFacebookInstagramTikTokTo support me, The Christian Sexpert, make sure you are checking out all of my resources, and of course, a Cash App gift helps me do all these things you love! WebsiteBook Coaching with Angela Facebook TikTok Instagram YouTube Podcast Patreon CashApp $TheChristianSexpertNote: These show notes contain external links to products and services. The Christian Sexpert may receive a commission for purchases made through these links.
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