You're Not a People Pleaser — You're a Liar

We're calling it: people-pleasing isn't a personality trait. It's dishonesty.In this episode, Nikki and Jess take one of the most trending conversations on social media — people-pleasing — and flip it completely on its head. Forget the soft reframes. If you're suppressing your truth to avoid conflict, you're lying. And the person you're hurting most? You.They dig into why people-pleasing never actually pleases anyone, what it really means to give someone authority to speak into your life (and why random people don't get that access), and how not doing the inner work now will catch up to you in your relationships later.This episode is raw, honest, and exactly the kind of conversation you didn't know you needed. Words matter. Honesty heals. And your people-pleasing? It's costing everyone — especially you.Soul School is back and she has no filter.Nicki and Jess unpack one of the most misused terms in self-development: people-pleasing. Their take? Stop softening it. People-pleasing is a form of radical dishonesty — and until you call it what it is, you can't change it.What They CoverWhy "people pleaser" is a comforting label that lets you avoid the real word: liarThe difference between avoiding confrontation and being honestHow to know who has actually earned the right to speak truth into your lifeSetting limits on how and when people can access you — and why that's an act of loveThe connection between not doing your inner work and people-pleasing in relationshipsWhy staying silent to "protect" someone is often just self-protection in disguiseThe Burning Bed and what Farrah Fawcett's character teaches us about what happens when people-pleasing builds upTaking full accountability for your life — not 50%, not your "part" — all of itNotable Quotes from This Episode"People pleasers — give me the phone numbers of the last five people you pleased.""People pleasing is dishonesty. You're a fucking liar. Why don't you speak your truth?""I want to avoid confrontation. I want people to like me. I can't stand being uncomfortable. Just say what it is.""You are the maker of your life."Mentioned in This EpisodeThe Burning Bed (1984, Farrah Fawcett)Spiritual bypassing (referenced from previous episode)