You’re Not Lacking in Confidence - You’re Disconnected From Your Body

Most people think confidence is a mindset. It's not. It lives in your body. In this episode of Startup Spouses, intimacy coach Marie and business coach Adam break down the concept of embodied confidence — and why affirmations, pep talks, and "fake it till you make it" fall flat without it. Marie shares her raw, personal story of learning to distrust her own body starting in puberty, battling an eating disorder as a mother, and how those messages quietly sabotage intimacy, self-worth, and even business decisions. Together, they lay out a practical path to reconnecting with yourself — from breathwork and body scans to visualization and building what Adam calls a "Reflection Reservoir." Whether you're struggling in your relationship, feeling disconnected from your partner, or making fear-based decisions in your business — this conversation will change how you think about confidence forever. In this episode: 00:00 — What even is embodied confidence? The difference between confidence in your head vs. your whole nervous system being online The dark side of "intellectual confidence" — why it becomes arrogance without humility How women are conditioned to distrust their bodies (and what that costs them) Why being "in your head" ruins intimacy — and boardroom decisions Body scan: the simplest place to start reconnecting Breathwork, music & movement as embodiment tools The Superman pose & posture hacks that actually work Visualization that engages ALL your senses (not just pictures) Adam's Reflection Reservoir: your personal bank of wins to draw on How to process rejection without letting it destroy your confidence Embodied confidence = presence. Anxiety = future. Shame = past. Why strong relationships and strong businesses go hand in hand Free Resource mentioned: 👉 Download the free Connection Workbook — a weekly check-in guide for entrepreneur couples startupspouses.co/free-workbook-download