You're Not Over Your Ex Because You Still Hate Them

Are you still holding onto anger or resentment towards your ex? Drew Henry dives into why harboring hate for an ex is a major red flag and how it impacts your ability to find healthy relationships. Learn practical insights on moving past emotional baggage, recognizing unresolved feelings, and ultimately, why indifference is the goal when it comes to exes. Main Topics: The emotional toll of hating your ex and why it’s toxicHow long it really takes to get over someone (study insights)The importance of forgetting vs. hating your exRed flags to watch for when dating after a breakupStrategies for shifting focus from removal to addition in lifeWhy making hatred your identity is detrimental in relationshipsThe power of indifference over hate in emotional closureTimestamps: 00:00 - The red flag: still hating your ex is worse than being in love 00:22 - Why hating your ex could be a sign you're not over them 01:26 - Study reveals it takes twice as long to get over an ex as the time you were together 02:38 - How ADHD brains might get over exes faster due to object permanence 04:52 - The story of forgetting an ex quickly after moving on 06:28 - Red flags for unresolved emotions about an ex 07:54 - Why hating your ex points to unresolved feelings 08:50 - Red flag: hate becomes your entire personality 10:01 - Ramona Flowers’ example of making hatred an identity 11:39 - Recognizing when your ex dominates every conversation 12:25 - The difference between forgetting and dwelling—Taylor Swift’s perspective 14:08 - How to stop hating and start moving on 14:59 - Why fixating on stripping away your ex only intensifies your thoughts about them 15:58 - Focus on filling your life with new activities instead of removal 17:32 - The importance of making peace with letting go 18:32 - The opposite of love is indifference, not hate 19:01 - Final thoughts: Leaving your ex behind with indifference Resources & Links: How Long It Really Takes to Get Over an Ex - Psychology Today Connect with Drew: [email protected]