You're Not Too Much — You've Just Been in the Wrong Rooms | Episode 8

Have you ever been told you're too much — too emotional, too intense, too sensitive? Or maybe no one said it directly, but you learned it anyway through silence, looks, or people pulling back when you showed up fully? This episode is for you.Sandy explores one of the most common yet quietly damaging beliefs she sees in clients, colleagues, and her own life: "I think I'm just too much for people." She unpacks where that belief actually comes from — and why it's usually the wrong conclusion.In this episode, Sandy covers:Why "too much" is often a fit problem, not a you problemHow your nervous system responds when the people around you don't have the capacity to hold your emotions — and how that mismatch becomes internalized over timeThe difference between co-regulation and simple connection, and why it matters for the relationships you chooseHow to stop using low-capacity people as mirrors for your worthPractical ways to start shifting — from finding regulating relationships to naming your needs without shrinking themKey insight: When you bring big emotion or intensity and the person across from you shuts down, withdraws, or tries to rush you out of it — your nervous system doesn't register "I'm too much." It registers "this isn't being held." Over time, we confuse the two.You'll want to listen if:You find yourself consistently toning down, filtering, or making yourself smaller in relationshipsYou've been told your drive, emotion, or opinions are "a lot"You're ready to stop questioning yourself and start questioning the spaces you're inIf this episode resonated, Sandy works with clients on understanding their nervous system and building a more regulated internal foundation — including neurofeedback and somatic-based support. See below to connect with Sandy.CONNECT WITH MEFree Guide: 50 Things I Do to Calm My Freaking Nervous System: https://www.sandyboone.com/50-thingsFollow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thesandyboone/Learn More About Neurofeedback: https://sandy-boone.mykajabi.com/opt-inThe Ethical Exit Course: https://www.sandyboone.com/the-ethical-exit Work with Sandy privately: https://www.sandyboone.com/storeRooted Calm Collective Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/rootedcalmcollective