You’re Performing Okay While Collapsing

WHAT THIS EPISODE IS ABOUT: The word burnout gets used as a catchall — but for a lot of women, what they’re living isn’t depletion. It’s a pattern. A pattern of performing okay so consistently that the performance becomes indistinguishable from their actual state. This episode names that pattern and gives you one question to start interrupting it. THE PATTERN WE’RE NAMING: She calls it burnout. What’s actually happening is she has performed functioning so completely that even the people closest to her — and eventually she herself — stopped being able to tell the difference between looking okay and being okay. THREE THINGS FROM THIS EPISODE: · Rest replenishes. It doesn’t interrupt a pattern that’s still running. · The bar for a woman to say “I need help” is no longer being able to perform not needing it. · You don’t know where the performance ends and you begin. That’s the work. THIS WEEK’S INVOLVER: Where are you performing wellness right now? Not where are you struggling — where, specifically, are you looking okay when something in you already said stop? WHERE TO GO NEXT: The Exhale (Skool community) → [JOIN HERE] The Disruptor & Translator on Youtube→ [YOUTUBE] This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit thepatternfiles.substack.com