在三十来岁你犯了什么错，并从中习得了什么？

What is the biggest mistake you made in your 30s and what did you learn from it?Alison WhitmireIn my thirties, I made four big mistakes.  Mistake #1:  I took getting pregnant for granted. About the time I was ready to start trying, a great career opportunity came up.  And you can't just get pregnant right after taking a new job, right? At least that's what I thought.  By the time I started focusing on getting pregnant, I couldn't.  I was slow investigating the means of assistance.  Finally, after trying a variety of things, I got pregnant, then miscarried (no one tells you how hard that is) and a year later I got pregnant again and then I made Mistake #2 which I may never forgive myself for.Mistake #2:  I thought that because I was in good shape, I could run through my pregnancy.  At 23 weeks, my water broke while I was running.  (23  weeks is a tipping point in viability and once your water breaks, you have to deliver.)  Mistake #3:  I didn't fight for my baby.  My husband and I didn't know what to do and I'm not sure we got good advice.  We were told the baby would not be viable.  They gave me morphine during delivery.  I don't remember much of what happened after that. I don't know exactly what happened to the baby.  It was just taken away.   I felt guilty and sad and ashamed and still do.  Mistake #4:  I turned away from my husband instead of toward him.  I was racked with pain and guilt and didn't know how to cope with it.  So, I separated myself from him (a man I loved and still do) and we divorced.  And then I turned 40.  And things got better.  I'd like to say I made fewer mistakes but I'm not sure that's true.  I made different ones.In my forties, I remarried and had a baby (at 43) and now we have an amazing family of 3.  Did I have to go through all that to get to this?  Yes, no, maybe so.