A Little Bit Of Fab

Recently, two very different statements made the rounds online. One claimed that if a woman is in her 30s without a husband or children, something must be wrong with her. Another argued that a single mother is “damaged goods.” Hearing both of those opinions within the same week raises an obvious question. If women are criticized no matter which path they take, whose standards are we actually trying to live by?

Inspired by a moment in Sinners where music became a fusion of race, culture, and generation, this conversation reflects on ancestry, identity, and what it means to come from a people whose history was disrupted, fragmented, and forcibly rewritten. For many in the Caribbean and across the Black diaspora, lineage is not something easily traced by names, tribes, or villages. It must be pieced together through records, DNA results, intuition, and reflection.

We often celebrate independence without questioning how early it’s forced or what it costs.This episode isn’t about romantic breakups, but it does explore one of the earliest separations many of us experience, when support is withdrawn before we’re truly ready to stand on our own.

We talk a lot about heartbreak, abandonment, and unhealthy relationships, but we rarely talk about where those wounds actually begin.In this episode, we’re not talking about dating at first glance. We’re talking about home.

This episode is for the grown women who didn’t suddenly “forget” how to date. We simply outgrew the games, the confusion, and the emotional gymnastics that pass for romance today.Please share your feedbacks on IG: @fab.realtor or TikTok: Fabi’s randomness

This episode is for the grown women who didn’t suddenly “forget” how to date. We simply outgrew the games, the confusion, and the emotional gymnastics that pass for romance today.Please share your feedbacks on IG: @fab.realtor or TikTok: Fabi’s randomness

The unspoken rules I followed to stay likableWhy honoring my feelings changed my relationshipsOwning my need for attention, reassurance, and closenessThe difference between being expressive and being a nuisance

What the “good girl” strategy really taught us• The unspoken contract many women unknowingly signed• Why being agreeable is often mistaken for being valued

This is a conversation about mourning, humanity, legacy, and the quiet questions grief forces us to ask about the lives we are living and the impact we leave behind.

Christmas is not about fixing anything or forcing cheer. It is about sitting together in whatever this season is bringing up for you. The noise, the quiet, the memories, the grief, the gratitude, and the unanswered prayers that still live in your chest.In this episode, I talk about what it feels like when Christmas Eve is loud and overwhelming, when it is quiet and lonely, and when old memories surface in ways you did not expect. I reflect on what this year may have taken from us, what it gave instead, and how growth sometimes looks more like survival than celebration.

This episode is for anyone who has ever loved deeply, or struggled with choosing themselves while their heart was still attached.If you are learning how to walk away without hardening your heart, this conversation is for you.So grab your tea, your emotional support snack, and come sit with me for a moment of truth, healing, and return to self.

I miss you guys and I have lots to share.