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A Year to Understand Yourself
by ABSX Network
A Year to Understand Yourself delivers clear explanations of why your twenties feel like a maze and leaves you understanding yourself a little better. Hi, I'm Louis Dockers. I’m the voice that sits across from you when a question nags at night. I started this show because I kept wondering why so many of our choices in our twenties feel inevitable and yet surprising. Each episode I unpack the science behind a feeling or habit, speaking plainly, mapping research onto everyday moments, and closing with a thought that lingers. I explore relationships, work, money, mental health, friendship, and everything that makes growing up both thrilling and exhausting. You probably scroll, overthink, and say “I’ll fix it later” without knowing why. New episodes come out every Thursday and Sunday at 4:00 AM, each one named like a small psychological mirror. This show is for restless twenty-somethings, new graduates finding their feet, and anyone trying to make sense of
Episodes
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The Ten Thousand Hour Lie
You've probably heard that ten thousand hours of practice is what separates the good from the great. It's one of those ideas that sounds like science and spreads like gospel. But what if the study behind it never actually said that, and what does it mean for the thing you quietly gave up on…
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How to Fight Better (And Why It Changes Everything About How You Love)
Most people think fighting less is the goal. But what if the real issue isn't how often you argue, it's how? Arguing well in romantic relationships is a skill, not a personality trait. If you could argue the same fight one more time but better, what would you actually say? The gap between a good...
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Why Knowing What Others Earn Wrecks Your Sense of Enough
You check a salary number and something shifts before you can think about it. That feeling has a name, and understanding where it comes from might be the most underrated move in personal finance. When you stop measuring your finances against everyone else, what does enough actually feel like to...
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The Rivalry That Never Ends: Six Things About Sibling Competition Nobody Tells You
You thought you'd outgrown it, but something happens at a family dinner and suddenly you're fifteen again. Adult sibling rivalry is one of those experiences almost everyone has and almost nobody talks about openly. If you stopped trying to win your family, what would you actually want for…
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Ten Thousand Hours of What Exactly
You've probably heard the rule. Put in ten thousand hours and you'll master anything. It sounds motivating, maybe even fair. But if ten thousand hours won't make you great, what does the time you put in actually do for you? The number spread so fast and so far that the real research got buried...
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The Self You Build After a Breakup
You probably told people you were fine before you actually were. Breakup grief is real grief, and the timeline for getting through it is almost always longer than anyone admits out loud. If the person you became after your worst breakup is genuinely better, what does that say about the one you…
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The Psychology of Life's Turning Points: Why the Self Takes Longer Than the Calendar
You know that feeling when something has clearly ended but you can't quite figure out who you are on the other side of it? Big life changes, chosen or not, do something specific to the self, and understanding what that something is makes all the difference. If your life split into a before and...
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The Fear of Being Judged Is Quietly Running Your Life
You've probably convinced yourself you're just introverted, or you just prefer smaller gatherings, or you're simply not a phone person. But what if those preferences aren't really yours? Social anxiety is one of the most common and most misunderstood psychological experiences, and it tends to...
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The Habit Graveyard: Six Mistakes That Finally Taught Me What Actually Sticks
You've probably started more habits than you can count, and quit most of them, and wondered what that says about you. This episode is about the psychology of lasting behavior change and why the way most of us approach it almost guarantees it won't work. If you stripped away every rule you follow...
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The Milgram Myth: What the Most Famous Obedience Study Actually Found
You've probably heard the number before, sixty five percent of ordinary people delivered what they believed were lethal shocks because a scientist told them to. But how much of what you think you know about the Milgram obedience studies is actually true? If you had been in that basement in 1961,...
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The Perfectionism Loop: Why Good Enough Feels Like Giving Up
You reread the email after you sent it. You redo the thing nobody asked you to redo. You finish the project and feel nothing except awareness that the next one is already waiting. Perfectionism gets called a strength, but this episode asks whether it's actually fear wearing a very convincing...
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The Quiet Goodbye: Why Friendships Fade Without a Fight
You probably have someone in mind right now, a person you genuinely like, maybe even miss, who you just somehow stopped talking to. This episode is about friendship attrition, the slow, silent disappearance of close relationships that happens without any fight or falling out. If you could text…
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What You Were Really Shopping For
You've probably looked at something you bought and wondered why you even got it. Impulse spending is one of the most common and least understood money habits, and the real question isn't about your budget. When you bought the last thing you didn't need, what were you actually shopping for? The...
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The Five Stages of Grief Are Not Science
You probably learned the five stages of grief the same way most people did, from a pamphlet, a TV show, or a well meaning friend who handed you a list and called it healing. The five stage model is one of the most widely believed frameworks in psychology, and the research says it does not hold…
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The Five Stages Were Never Meant for You
You've probably heard that grief has five stages, and you may have caught yourself checking which one you're in. The five stage model is one of the most widely repeated ideas in popular psychology, and almost everyone is using it for something it was never designed to do. If it was always...
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The Rush Isn't Love. It's Anxiety in a Good Outfit
You've felt it before, that overwhelming pull toward someone new that makes you want to lock it in immediately, to plan, to merge, to make it real. This episode is about relationship escalation, the pattern of compressing emotional timelines before two people actually know each other. If you...
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Regret Is a Map, Not a Verdict
You've probably had that low hum in the background, the feeling that a different choice would have led somewhere better. Regret is one of the most universal human experiences, yet it's rarely talked about as a source of useful information. The central question here is: if regret is a signal and…
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Go Out or Stay In? Six Lessons Your Younger Self Needed to Hear
You've probably said yes when you meant no, or cancelled and spent the night feeling worse than the party would have made you feel. The tension between going out and staying in isn't just about introversion or energy levels. It's about what's actually driving the decision, and whether it's really...
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Your Personality Type Is Not Your Personality
You've probably led with four letters at some point, in a job interview, on a dating profile, or just explaining yourself to a new friend. The Myers Briggs Type Indicator is everywhere, but the science behind it tells a different story than the laminated card suggests. If a test cannot reliably...
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You're Not Broken, You're Just Wired This Way
You know that low hum of worry that never quite goes away, even when nothing is actually wrong? Everyday anxiety is one of the most common human experiences, yet most of us spend years trying to get rid of it rather than understand it. The central question here is this: if anxiety has been with…
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You're Not Just Nice. You're Disappearing
You say yes before you even know what you want, and somehow that's supposed to be a good thing. People pleasing gets mistaken for kindness constantly, but the cost it runs up is something most people never get to name clearly. If you stopped managing everyone else's comfort, what would you…
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Six Things I Wish I Knew Before My First Real Job
Starting your first real job can feel like walking into a room where everyone else got a memo you never received. The gap between who you are and who you think you need to be is disorienting, and most advice about it is either too polished or too vague. What would you actually go back and tell…
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The Pyramid Was Wrong All Along
You've probably told yourself you'll figure out the bigger stuff once the money stuff feels settled. That's not just a habit, it's a belief with a famous name attached to it, and it might be costing you more than you think. If your basic needs and your need for meaning are tangled together rather...
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Why You Keep Choosing the Same Person
You've ended things, started over, and somehow landed in the same place with a different face across from you. Choosing a partner turns out to be less about finding the right person and more about understanding what you're actually looking for and why you keep looking for it. If you stripped away...
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Limerence Is Not Love
You meet someone and within days the whole world reorganizes around them. That feeling has a name, and understanding it might be the most useful thing you do for your romantic life. If slowing down feels like losing something, what does that tell you about what you are actually afraid of? The...
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ABOUT THIS SHOW
A Year to Understand Yourself delivers clear explanations of why your twenties feel like a maze and leaves you understanding yourself a little better.
Hi, I'm Louis Dockers. I’m the voice that sits across from you when a question nags at night. I started this show because I kept wondering why so many of our choices in our twenties feel inevitable and yet surprising.
Each episode I unpack the science behind a feeling or habit, speaking plainly, mapping research onto everyday moments, and closing with a thought that lingers. I explore relationships, work, money, mental health, friendship, and everything that makes growing up both thrilling and exhausting. You probably scroll, overthink, and say “I’ll fix it later” without knowing why.
New episodes come out every Thursday and Sunday at 4:00 AM, each one named like a small psychological mirror. This show is for restless twenty-somethings, new graduates finding their feet, and anyone trying to make sense of
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A Year to Understand Yourself delivers clear explanations of why your twenties feel like a maze and leaves you understanding yourself a little better. Hi, I'm Louis Dockers. I’m the voice that sits across from you when a question nags at night. I started this show because I kept wondering why so...
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