Absent Father Podcast
by Rodney Mueller
Join me for conversation with and about the impacts of growing up with an absent or distant father. I will share my personal journey, how I and others have learned to traverse the impacts of growing up fatherless. We will also discuss the role of the modern father and how it influences self-confidence, success, money and relationships.
Episodes
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How We Get Wired to Love and be Loved with Dr. Gary Salyer
In this episode, Dr. Gary Salyer discusses a new take on attachment theory, based on his groundbreaking research into this science of how our brain gets wired to love and be loved. He shares a technique for breaking the cycle of picking partners that mirror early childhood experiences which left…
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Healing the Wound with Mytrae Meliana
In this episode, I interview Mytrae Meliana, who is a trained holistic psychotherapist and sound healer. What does it look like to address the pain or the wound of growing up with an absent or distant father? We explore the concept of re-parenting - finding your own inner parent who will be with...
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Super Resilience with Dr Scott Mills
In this episode, we learn the deeper meaning of super-resilience from Dr. Scott Mills, creator of the Human Evolution System: A Gentle Approach to Creating More Resilience, Abundance and Joy in the Lives of People. He shows us how we can finally free ourselves from our hidden traps. Learn more at...
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I Don't Even Know What My Father Looks Like
In this episode, I talk to Mikey, a young father of two boys, who grew up with an absent father and has never met, nor seen a picture of his father. He shares about father figures that helped him along the way, coupled with the slow, steady experiences of pain and loss of growing up with an…
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Divorced Father Leaves Family and Creates Another
Today’s episode is a conversation with Courtney, a successful sales person and the mother of two young men who shares her story of starting with the idyllic family, a divorce at a young age and a father who slowly faded away. Vulnerably and courageously, she shares many painful moments, big and...
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Two Mom's, No Dad, Artificial Insemination
In the second episode of Season 2 of Absent Father Podcast, I interview Nile. In his own words, he is “the product of a bi-racial, lesbian couple and was conceived through the process of artificial insemination.” His story is fascinating in that he shares all of the traits and super powers and…
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Which One is My Father?
An interview with Toni, a mid 20's cosmetologist who has never met her father, although she knows its one of two men. One, she would be happy to have, and the other would bring even more pain to her absent father story. Learn more at absentfatherproject.com | rodneymueller.com Email me at...
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Reliability and Value
Exciting announcement about what to expect in Season 2. And a call for your stories. Please reach out to me if you would like to be featured on the Absent Father Podcast, be interviewed by me and share your story related to Absent Fathers in service of bringing awareness and healing to the…
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Perfection
Today's episode explores perfection and the crippling impact of always comparing ourselves to some fantasy version of life. I share two stories that really illustrate how perfectionists latch on to what's not working, in the face of all the things that are working. Finally, we also look at the...
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Special Episode: Mytrae Meliana Interview w/ Rodney Mueller
Last month, I was interviewed by Mytrae Meliana, acclaimed women's empowerment and Divine Feminine teacher, speaker, author, and sound healer. In this one hour interview, we go in depth on the origin of the Absent Father Podcast, as well as the pain and learning from my own absent father story. I...
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Authority Figures
Authority Figures can be bosses, leaders, people with rank, people you perceive as better than you, rich people, etc. How we relate and interact with "authority figures" is often directly related to our relationship (or lack there of) with our fathers. In this episode, we delve into our...
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Why Do Dad's Leave? Part 2
In part 2 of "Why Do Dad's Leave?" we discuss the generational nature of father absence. How our family history and the generation's who came before use greatly contribute and help explain why Dad's leave. My hope is that it helps all of us to see the bigger picture in our society that…
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Why Do Dad's Leave? Part 1
In this episode we tackle the big question: "Why Do Dad's Leave?" If you have a child, or a dog that you love, you might have thought about that one. How could someone abandon someone and something so great? In some ways, it may be a simple answer. That we avoid things in our lives that remind us...
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God Stuff
Today's episode discusses the role that spirituality and religion plays in our lives. I begin a conversation about my own spiritual journey by sharing the story of my confirmation in the lutheran church (aka Catholic without the fun stuff like drinking and gambling,) and how it served to create…
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Analysis Paralysis
Today's episode discusses analysis paralysis. The agonizing process many of go through when making a choice about buying something. A small purchase or big purchase, we analyze to the point of exhaustion or to the last minute. How to recognize it, where it comes from and how start practicing...
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Our Super Powers: Leadership
In the second installment of Our Super Powers, we discuss leadership. People who grew up with an absent or distant father tend to have these three qualities that make us exceptional leaders. I share a story of my first experience as leader in the Army, at age 21, on the verge of war leading a…
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Never Enough
Do you find yourself in a constant pursuit of being good enough? Are you always busy, often tired and feel like you can never catch up? This episode is for you, and us. In this episode, we breakdown the never ending chase for feeling good enough, where it started, how it relates to our father...
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About Oprah and Abandonment
Today's episode is primarily about Abandonment. In 2013, I was a guest on Oprah's Life Class with Oprah and Iyanla Vanzant, when Iyanla asked a question that forever changed my perspective on abandonment. We discuss that question in this episode. We talk about the types of abandonment, what it...
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Depression
Today's episode discusses depression. It's a serious word, but what does it really mean and how does it relate to the absent father wound. I also share my experience of going through a deep depression, how I dealt with it and what I learned from it. Ultimately, depression can be access to our...
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Our Super Powers: Intuition, Empathy and Safety
In this first installment of taking a look at the superpowers that you create along the way as a result of growing up as absent or distant father, we dive into the superpowers of intuition, empathy and safety. You might call it intuition or a deeper intelligence where you're able to connect the...
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Joy and Celebration
In this episode, we discuss joy and celebration. We talk about how those of us who grew up with absent or distant father have a very reasonable relationship to joy and celebration. The idea is that when we "make it" or when we actually do something good enough, then we will have time to enjoy it...
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Forgiving Your Absent Father
This is a wide ranging conversation about forgiveness, pain and healing. We talk about the number one access point to forgiving our fathers and others who we feel have caused us great pain. We wade into deeper issues in the world today and how it's an opportunity to start a real conversation…
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Money = Safety
In this episode we talk about money and how those of us who grew up with an absent or distant father quickly learn to equate money with our safety. We talk about the devastating impact of relating to money in this way, some of the ways it looks, the strategies we employ to protect ourselves and…
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Building Community
In this week's episode we talk building community and creating healthy relationships. You've got to be in community in order to have community. In this episode, we look at healthy relationships and community, how to have them, how we sabotage it and what's possible on the other side. Learn more…
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Pressure and Performance
In this week's episode we talk about pressure and more specifically how to not "choke" under pressure. Where does pressure come from and how does it relate to performance and growing up with an absent father. Learn more at absentfatherproject.com Email me at [email protected]
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Procrastination and Perfection
In this episode, we talk about procrastination. We all say it, might even identify as one, but what is it really? Why do we procrastinate and how is it related to growing up with an absent father? Get in touch with me at rodneymueller.com Read more at absentfatherproject.com
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What Qualifies as an Absent Father
Let's break down what qualifies as an absent or distant father, what the father represents to the child and the number one impact to people who grew up with absent father.
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My Absent Father Story
In the first episode, I talk about my absent father story and why I want you to join me in this conversation.
About this show
Join me for conversation with and about the impacts of growing up with an absent or distant father. I will share my personal journey, how I and others have learned to traverse the impacts of growing up fatherless. We will also discuss the role of the modern father and how it influences self-confidence, success, money and relationships.
Hosted by
Rodney Mueller