Adaptable | Behavior Explained

Love doesn't fail marriages. Unspoken expectations do. So before you walk down that aisle, there are a handful of conversations almost no one has and they're the ones that actually shape your day-to-day life together. I'm Kelly, an EMDR therapist, and today I'll walk you through every one. Before you say “I do,” there are a handful of conversations most couples never have and they're the ones that actually shape married life. In this episode, EMDR therapist Kelly O'Horo walks through what every couple needs to get clear on before the wedding: how you each handle conflict and repair, money and invisible labor, gender-role and family expectations, intimacy, and emotional safety. Grounded in Gottman's research, this is the premarital conversation guide nobody hands you. Whether you're engaged, thinking about it, or years in — this one's for you. I'm Kelly O'Horo, Attachment based EMDR Therapist, EMDRIA Consultant, and Advanced Trainer. I'm a mom of 5, Nonna of 5, wife, and a healer. I have the honor of spending my workdays walking along side people while they brave their healing journeys. I try to live with the generous assumption that we're all doing the best we can with what we know. Therapists are teachers for the "life stuff" and "emotional vocabulary" that may not have been learned due to gaps in our care givers capabilities. In the last 15 years I've learned that people are freaking amazing, resilient, and inspiring. Most importantly, we are hardwired for connection and for healing! I hope to bring an authentic, compassionate, and unpolished approach while we explore a variety of topics such as parenting, marriage, relationships, dating, trauma, attachment, adoption, depression, addiction, anxiety, and love! There's a why for all behaviors and an explanation that makes perfect sense as emotion is at the root of it all. -- Links -- https://linktr.ee/kellyohorolpc https://youtu.be/rLnARKekvgo https://www.emdria.org/find-an-emdr-therapist/

Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! In this episode, we take a deeper look at addiction and what’s happening beneath the surface with Patrick O'Horo. Rather than being the core problem, addiction is often explored as a coping response to unresolved trauma, emotional pain, and nervous system dysregulation. Together, we discuss how healing changes when we move beyond behavior and address the underlying trauma driving it. I'm Kelly O'Horo, Attachment based EMDR Therapist, EMDRIA Consultant, and Advanced Trainer. I'm a mom of 5, Nonna of 5, wife, and a healer. I have the honor of spending my workdays walking along side people while they brave their healing journeys. I try to live with the generous assumption that we're all doing the best we can with what we know. Therapists are teachers for the "life stuff" and "emotional vocabulary" that may not have been learned due to gaps in our care givers capabilities. In the last 15 years I've learned that people are freaking amazing, resilient, and inspiring. Most importantly, we are hardwired for connection and for healing! I hope to bring an authentic, compassionate, and unpolished approach while we explore a variety of topics such as parenting, marriage, relationships, dating, trauma, attachment, adoption, depression, addiction, anxiety, and love! There's a why for all behaviors and an explanation that makes perfect sense as emotion is at the root of it all. -- Links -- https://linktr.ee/kellyohorolpc https://youtu.be/rLnARKekvgo https://www.emdria.org/find-an-emdr-therapist/