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Adaptable | Behavior Explained
by Kelly O'Horo
I’m Kelly O’Horo, Attachment based EMDR Therapist, EMDRIA Consultant, and Advanced Trainer. I’m a mom of 5, Nonna of 5, wife, and a healer. I have the honor of spending my workdays walking along side people while they brave their healing journeys. I try to live with the generous assumption that we’re all doing the best we can with what we know. Therapists are teachers for the ”life stuff” and ”emotional vocabulary” that may not have been learned due to gaps in our care givers capabilities. In the last 15 years I’ve learned that people are freaking amazing, resilient, and inspiring. Most importantly, we are hardwired for connection and for healing! I hope to bring an authentic, compassionate, and unpolished approach while we explore a variety of topics such as parenting, marriage, relationships, dating, trauma, attachment, adoption, depression, addiction, anxiety, and love! There’s a why for all behaviors and an explanation that makes perfect sense as emotion is at the root of it all.
Episodes
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It's Not About Sex: The Attachment Reason Behind Affairs
Most affairs aren't about sex, they're about an unmet need the person can't name. EMDR therapist Kelly O'Horo explains how attachment injuries drive infidelity, and shares two stories of affairs that began after the birth of a child, when watching a wife nurture their baby reawakened a man's own...
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Turning 50 Changed How I See Everything (An Honest Conversation)
I turned 50 and got honest about time, stress, and what really matters. In this personal episode, therapist and founder Kelly O'Horo shares what midlife revealed: why time stops feeling abstract, how stress is often a signal of misalignment rather than busyness, and the shift from building a life...
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The Conversations Every Couple Needs Before Marriage (From a Therapist)
Love doesn't fail marriages. Unspoken expectations do. So before you walk down that aisle, there are a handful of conversations almost no one has and they're the ones that actually shape your day-to-day life together. I'm Kelly, an EMDR therapist, and today I'll walk you through every one. Before...
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Addiction Is Not the Problem, Trauma Is with Patrick O'Horo
Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! In this episode, we take a deeper look at addiction and what’s happening beneath the surface with Patrick O'Horo. Rather than being the core problem, addiction is often explored as a coping response to unresolved trauma, emotional pain, and nervous…
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Contempt: When Disrespect Replaces Safety
Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! This episode dives into Contempt — When Disrespect Replaces Safety, one of the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse. Contempt shows up as eye-rolling, sarcasm, mockery, or talking down to your partner, it’s not just frustration, it’s a shift into superiority...
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Criticism: When Needs Turn Into Attacks
Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! In this episode, we explore Defensiveness: When Protection Blocks Connection, one of the “4 Horsemen of the Apocalypse,” and how it shows up in our relationships. Defensiveness isn’t just about attitude, it’s often a protective response rooted in fear of...
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Criticism: When Needs Turn Into Attacks
Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! This episode explores Criticism: When Needs Turn Into Attacks, one of the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse, and how it can quietly erode connection in relationships. We break down how criticism often masks deeper unmet needs, why it shows up as blame...
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Stonewalling: When Silence Becomes The Wall
Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! In this episode, we explore Stonewalling: When Silence Becomes the Wall”, unpacking how what looks like withdrawal or avoidance is often a nervous system response to overwhelm. We break down the core causes of stonewalling, including emotional flooding…
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100K Milestone: Inside the Journey with Taylor O’Horo
Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! This episode goes over celebrating our 100K milestone and taking you inside the journey with Taylor O’Horo — what it took, what we’ve learned, and what’s next. I'm Kelly O'Horo, Attachment based EMDR Therapist, EMDRIA Consultant, and Advanced Trainer.…
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How to Cope When Parents Cut Off Adult Children
Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! This episode explores how to cope when parents cut off adult children. We unpack the complexity behind parental estrangement, why it happens, the emotional impact it leaves behind, and how adult children can begin to process, heal, and move forward. This...
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How to Cope When Parents Cut Off Adult Children
Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! This episode explores how to cope when parents cut off adult children. We unpack the complexity behind parental estrangement, why it happens, the emotional impact it leaves behind, and how adult children can begin to process, heal, and move forward. This...
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The First 100K: A Peek Into the Journey
Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained Season 3! In this episode, we explore The First 100K: A Peek Into the Journey. Kelly and Patrick reflect on what it felt like reaching 100,000 subscribers, sharing the lessons, challenges, and unexpected moments that came with building the channel from…
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Podcast Highlights: Perimenopause, Sexless Marriage & Rebuilding Closeness
Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! In this episode, we explore the connection between perimenopause, sexless marriage, and rebuilding emotional and physical closeness. Podcast Highlights: • How perimenopause can affect libido, mood, and relationship dynamics • Why many couples experience…
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Understanding Fear — When Protection Becomes a Prison
Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! In this episode, we’re diving into Understanding Fear — When Protection Becomes a Prison, exploring how fear begins as a powerful form of protection but can quietly take over when it never powers down shaping our thoughts, relationships, and nervous…
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Healing Your Inner Child
Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! In this episode, we explore Healing Your Inner Child, unpacking how early attachment experiences shape our adult relationships, emotional triggers, and sense of self. We’ll gently examine the parts of us that still carry old wounds, explore why those...
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Rebuilding Closeness in a Disconnected Marriage
Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! In this episode, we explore why emotional distance happens, how resentment and unmet needs quietly build over time, and what it truly takes to reconnect in a meaningful way, breaking down the patterns that create disconnection and sharing practical,...
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Sexless Marriage: Understanding, Unlearning, and Reconnection
Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained. In this episode, we explore why intimacy fades due to stress, trauma, hormonal changes, and pressure, not a lack of love and how compassion and nervous system awareness can create space for reconnection without shame or force. I'm Kelly O'Horo…
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Perimenopause: When Your Body Changes Before Anyone Warns You
Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! This episode explores perimenopause, a neurological and emotional transition that affects the brain, nervous system, and relationships long before most people are warned. Often showing up as anxiety, brain fog, emotional reactivity, sleep disruption, or...
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Resentment and How to Let It Go
Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! This episode explores resentment and how to let it go. Resentment often builds quietly when needs go unspoken or boundaries aren’t honored, slowly draining emotional energy and impacting relationships. We’ll explore where resentment comes from, how it...
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From Survival Mode to Subtle Joy
Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! This episode explores how nervous system patterns shaped by trauma slowly shift toward safety, regulation, and meaningful moments of calm. I'm Kelly O'Horo, Attachment based EMDR Therapist, EMDRIA Consultant, and Advanced Trainer. I'm a mom of 5, Nonna…
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Adaptations
Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! In this episode, we explore Adaptation, why we act the way we act and how our behaviors are shaped by our experiences, environments, and nervous systems. Many of our patterns once helped us survive or cope, even if they no longer serve us in the same way...
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Gental Goal Setting
Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! This episode goes over Gentle Goal Setting, a compassionate approach to creating goals that honor your capacity, nervous system, and real life, focusing on progress over perfection and helping you move forward without burnout, shame, or unrealistic...
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2025 Highlights
Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! This episode goes over our 2025 highlights, reflecting on the moments, conversations, and insights that shaped this year. From meaningful discussions on mental health and relationships to practical tools for growth and resilience, we’re taking time to...
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The Gift of Gratitude
Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! In this episode, we explore The Gift of Gratitude, how gratitude can be more than a feel-good practice and instead become a grounding, supportive tool, especially when life feels heavy. We’ll talk about how gratitude can exist alongside stress, grief…
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What We Need to Know About Millennials and Gen Z
Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! This episode, we’re unpacking What We Need to Know About Millennials and Gen Z, the beliefs, pressures, and cultural shifts shaping how these generations think, work, relate, and cope. If you’ve ever wondered why younger adults communicate the way they…
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The #NoContact Trend, Why It Happens and What It Costs
Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! In this episode, we break down the emotional and psychological reasons people choose to go no-contact, how trauma and survival patterns influence that decision, and the often unseen costs that come with cutting ties. If you’re a therapist or someone...
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Making Friendships in Adulthood
Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! In this episode, we explore Making Friendships in Adulthood, why it can feel harder as we get older, what gets in the way, and the key shifts that help us build meaningful connections beyond small talk. If you’re craving real friendship, this…
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Caretaking Declining or Aging Parents
Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! In this episode, we dive into Caretaking Declining or Aging Parents, exploring the emotional and practical challenges of supporting the ones who once cared for us. Learn how to balance compassion with boundaries, manage guilt, and create a care plan that...
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Parenting Little Kids with Big Emotions
Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! This episode goes over Parenting Little Kids with Big Emotions, why children’s feelings can feel so big, how to stay grounded when they’re overwhelmed, and what it takes to turn chaos into connection. Because when we understand the emotions beneath the...
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The Next Chapter-Life with your Adult Children
Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! In this episode, we’re diving into The Next Chapter: Life with Your Adult Children, how to navigate the shift from parenting to partnering, maintain connection without overstepping, and find meaning in letting go. We’ll explore what it looks like to...
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Understanding Disorganized Attachment
Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! This episode dives into Understanding Disorganized Attachment, what it looks like, where it comes from, and how it impacts our adult relationships. We’ll explore the push-and-pull dynamic of wanting closeness but fearing it at the same time, and how...
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Understanding Avoidant Attachment
Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! In this episode, we explore Avoidant Attachment, what it looks like, how it develops, and the ways it can show up in our relationships today. Learn how emotional distance, self-reliance, and discomfort with vulnerability often trace back to early...
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Understanding Anxious Attachment
Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! In this episode, we explore anxious attachment, what it looks like in relationships, how it develops, and ways to move toward greater security. Tune in to learn how awareness and understanding can help transform anxious patterns into deeper, more stable...
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Understanding Secure Attachment
Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! In this episode, Understanding Secure Attachment, we explore what it really means to feel safe, connected, and confident in relationships. We’ll break down how secure attachment develops, why it’s essential for emotional well-being, and how it shows up…
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Therapists are People too
Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! In this episode, Therapists are People Too, I sit down with Justine Bond to talk about the human side of therapy because behind every professional is a person with their own experiences, growth, and story. I'm Kelly O'Horo, Attachment based EMDR…
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Flip the Script - Part 2
Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! This episode goes over Flip the Script | Part 2 as Julie Russomanno once again interviews Kelly O’Horo. In this continuation, Kelly opens up even more sharing lessons on burnout, balance, and the deeper purpose behind her work. I'm Kelly O'Horo…
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Flip the Script
Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! In this special episode, we flip the script as Julie Russomanno interviews Kelly O’Horo, diving into her journey, insights, and the passion behind her work offering a fresh perspective you won’t want to miss. I'm Kelly O'Horo, Attachment based EMDR...
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What to Expect from Couples Therapy
Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! In this episode, Kelly O'horo and Justine Bond dive into what to expect from couples therapy, breaking down the process, common challenges, and how therapy can help partners strengthen communication, rebuild trust, and create deeper connection. I'm Kelly...
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Intimacy and How To Get More of It
Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! In this episode, we sit down with Kelly O’horo to explore the topic of intimacy, what it really means, why it matters, and practical ways to cultivate more of it in your relationships. I'm Kelly O'Horo, Attachment based EMDR Therapist, EMDRIA Consultant,...
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Growing through Grief
Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! In this episode, Growing through Grief with Kelly O’Horo, we explore how connection, compassion, and self-awareness can support the healing process after loss. Whether you’re navigating your own grief or supporting someone through theirs, this…
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Psychology of Burnout and Recovery
Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! This episode goes over The Psychology of Burnout and Recovery with Kelly O’Horo, exploring how burnout affects the mind and body, the challenges it creates in daily life, and the path toward resilience, healing, and renewed energy. I'm Kelly O'Horo,...
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Recovery and Renewal: A Fire Captain's Journey Part 1
Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! In this episode, Recovery and Renewal: A Fire Captain's Journey (Part 1), we talk with Dennis Joos, Retired Gilbert Fire Captain, about life on the front lines, the hidden toll of service, and what it means to heal after trauma. It’s a powerful story of...
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Anger and the Importance of Expressing it
Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! In this episode, Kelly O’Horo unpacks the importance of expressing anger — not avoiding it. Learn why anger isn’t the enemy, how it shows up in the body, and what healthy expression really looks like. Don’t miss this powerful conversation on one of our...
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Gaslighting
Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! In this episode, Kelly O’Horo explore the topic of gaslighting, a subtle but powerful form of manipulation that can leave you questioning your own thoughts, memories, and experiences. We’ll break down what gaslighting really looks like, why it happens…
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Forgiveness
Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! This episode goes over the power of forgiveness with Kelly O’Horo, exploring what forgiveness really means, how it impacts your healing, and why it’s more about setting yourself free than excusing the hurt. I'm Kelly O'Horo, Attachment based EMDR...
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The Foreseeable Crisis: How to Set Boundaries and Encourage Autonomy
Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! This episode goes over the foreseeable crisis: how to set boundaries and encourage autonomy with Kelly O’Horo, unpacking why over-functioning can lead to long-term challenges and how giving space can foster true growth and resilience. I'm Kelly O'Horo,...
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Parenting and Dating After Divorce
Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! This episode goes over parenting and dating after divorce with Tracy Kindeski exploring how to balance your role as a parent while opening yourself up to love again, all without losing your sense of self. I'm Kelly O'Horo, Attachment based EMDR…
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Healing and Reinventing Yourself After Divorce
Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! This episode goes over healing and reinventing yourself after divorce with special guest Tracy Kindeski. Discover how to rebuild your identity, reclaim your peace, and move forward with clarity after a life-altering breakup. I'm Kelly O'Horo, Attachment...
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Epigenetics and How We are Carrying 2 Generations of Trauma in Our Body
Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! This episode explores epigenetics and how we carry two generations of trauma in our bodies. We break down how traumatic experiences can alter gene expression and be passed down, affecting not just our mental health but also our physical well-being....
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Get Clarity on Your Life's Direction with The Big 5 For Life
Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! In this episode, we’re diving into a powerful framework called The Big 5 for Life, a concept designed to help you get clear on what truly matters to you and how to align your daily life with your deeper purpose. If you've ever felt stuck, directionless…
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ABOUT THIS SHOW
I’m Kelly O’Horo, Attachment based EMDR Therapist, EMDRIA Consultant, and Advanced Trainer. I’m a mom of 5, Nonna of 5, wife, and a healer. I have the honor of spending my workdays walking along side people while they brave their healing journeys. I try to live with the generous assumption that we’re all doing the best we can with what we know. Therapists are teachers for the ”life stuff” and ”emotional vocabulary” that may not have been learned due to gaps in our care givers capabilities. In the last 15 years I’ve learned that people are freaking amazing, resilient, and inspiring. Most importantly, we are hardwired for connection and for healing! I hope to bring an authentic, compassionate, and unpolished approach while we explore a variety of topics such as parenting, marriage, relationships, dating, trauma, attachment, adoption, depression, addiction, anxiety, and love! There’s a why for all behaviors and an explanation that makes perfect sense as emotion is at the root of it all.
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I’m Kelly O’Horo, Attachment based EMDR Therapist, EMDRIA Consultant, and Advanced Trainer. I’m a mom of 5, Nonna of 5, wife, and a healer. I have the honor of spending my workdays walking along side people while they brave their healing journeys. I try to live with the generous assumption that...
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