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All About We
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All About We is a podcast about relationships…what complicates them and what makes them successful. It’s a collaboration between Don Olund, Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor and Relationship Coach, and Amanda Berlin, Communication Expert and Self-Improvement Devotee. The podcast promises real conversation and true-to-life examples of relationship foibles and triumphs. Topics include everything from the desire to shift from “roomies” back to romance to moving past the past, if that’s even possible. New episodes drop every week.
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5 Christmas Gifts You Can Give That Don’t Cost a Penny
Isaiah 9:6 NIV “For to us a child is born, to us a son is given, and the government will be on his shoulders. And he will be called Wonderful Counselor, Mighty God, Everlasting Father, Prince of Peace.” Many who follow me know I’m a spiritual guy. Christmas has deeper meaning. For Christians like...
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7 Ways You Can Make Your Marriage Better
2018 has been a mixed bag in my marriage. We had some pretty cool things happen. Like our trip to Switzerland with my youngest son Jordan. But then we also experienced some pain. Two weeks before the trip my mom died. Additionally, my wife Marian was dealing with chronic stress at work. Meanwhile…
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Will it be enough for me to stay?
“We’re not in a good place and haven’t been for some time. My partner doesn’t want the relationship to end and is willing to work harder at it. Will it be enough for me to stay?” Relationships suffer from a prolonged lack of attention. Despair morphs into disillusion. Walls of self-protection are...
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How to Support a Dying Parent
If you are a regular subscriber to my blog, by now you learned my mother died peacefully in her sleep a week ago. I could not have scripted a better ending to a remarkable life. My father died 24 years ago, so now I’m parentless. It feels empty. I miss my mom terribly. Fortunately, I am blessed...
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How to work through major problems
All couples encounter major problems from time-to-time. You are not going to get along 24/7. Problems don’t disappear once you adjust. Expect occasional conflicts throughout married life. This is normal. Problems may be minor or major depending on the circumstances. Most couples can manage to get...
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How to Heal When Love Hurts
I see the pain of love everyday. Love hurts. I’m experiencing it right now as the failing health of my mom is a stark reminder that I will not have her with me forever. How can something that feels so powerfully good, feel so awful at times? In Abraham Maslow’s hierarchy of needs, he lists “love...
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3 Critical Expectations You Cannot Avoid Talking About
When it comes to expectations about married life this is a question in the minds of most partners. “What do you expect from me?” Have you asked this of each other? And—have you taken time to unpack your expectations about spending life together? You might be surprised at how many couples don’t…
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5 Do’s and Don’ts of Couple Communication
When it comes to couple communication, here’s a request I get a lot. “Help us learn how to communicate right!” Sadly, many of the couples asking the question have been married for several years!By then they developed some awful patterns of communicating. In this lesson, I will address these…
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1 Thing That Sets Connected Couples Apart
What is the one thing that sets connected couples apart from others? It’s not just what they do per se. We’ve covered that in previous blogs. Things like: good communication mutual support respect date nights teamwork There is something unique about connected couples. It’s how they are toward…
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How to respond when your woman is becoming emotional
Most guys don’t know how to respond when their woman becomes emotional. It reminds me of a classic scene from the movie, “A League of Their Own”. “There’s no crying in baseball!” In the movie, Tom Hanks plays a drunken, worn out manager of an all women baseball league. He does the typical angry...
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5 Easy Steps to Enforce Consequences
A 16 year old client plops on my couch, noticeably angry. He informs me that his parents tried to do an “intervention” on him after a discovery of weed in his bedroom. He concluded the episode by saying, “The intervention was a waste of my time.” Then he looks me straight in the eye and says…
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5 Things to Consider Before You Enter an Affair
About 3 years ago an unmasking happened that rocked marriages. Someone hacked into Ashley Madison’s 37 million subscriber database exposing the identities of individuals seeking an affair. AM’s motto: “Life is short. Have an affair.” Karma struck. The business had a short shelf life. Beyond the...
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How to Stop Your Big But From Squashing Your Partner
One of the issues Marian and I deal with from time-to-time is our big buts. No matter what we do to disguise them, our big buts have caused some problems. I mean, there have been times my big but has squashed my wife! Not good. She’s done the same thing to me too! It’s gets so bad, we find...
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After Years of Unhappiness Can Couples Change?
After years of unhappiness, can couples change? Before I answer the question above, let me pose another. How many therapists does it take to change a light bulb? The answer? One–but the lightbulb has to want to change. While we chuckle at the joke, there is some truth in the statement. As a…
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5 Habits of a Power Couple
Are you a power couple? Do you even know what that question means? Hollywood carefully crafted it’s definition featuring their poster couple, Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie, until they broke up. Currently, Tom Brady (football) and Gisele Bünchen (fashion) rank high among power couples. If you want…
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Social Media’s Effect on Adolescent Mental Health
Are you worried about your kids’ obsession with their smart phone? Do you know what social media platforms they spend time on? Are you noticing any mood, emotional, or behavior signs that indicate they seem unhappy? A few days ago I read an oped in USA Today from a doctor who wrote about a...
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Why Marriages Struggle: getting to the heart of the problem
Do you want to get at the heart of the problem why couples struggle? Let’s figure it out and see if we can find a way to help couples soar. Ask the average couple the question, “Why does your marriage struggle?” You might hear… “We don’t know how to communicate” “It seems we fight all the time”…
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How to Maintain Self-respect in Your Relationships
Heidi lays alone in her bed completely exhausted. Her pillow drenched in tears. Curled up in a fetal position, she whispers, “I’m tired of being taken advantage of by people I care for.” The consummate giver, Heidi goes the extra mile in her marriage, with her kids, and for her boss. What does…
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How to Cultivate Like-minded Love
When I was a kid, I remember exchanging cards with classmates on Valentines Day. Everyone was your valentine! Later, when I fell in love and got married, I felt pressure like other guys to use this occasion express my heartfelt love and devotion. I remember the painstaking process choosing the...
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How to be the storyteller of your amazing life
Sometimes life can feel robotic. We get up every morning following the same script from the day before. Pressures of maintaining a household compounded by work demands seem to fill every waking hour. Days, weeks, months, and years are logged as events in the calendar, not experiences shared in…
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How to Win the Battle Over Your Insecurity
I’ve battled insecurity in one form or another my entire life. Feelings of fear, inadequacy, self-doubt, shame, and rejection are giants I engage in battle from time to time. These insecurities developed in my formative years and stood in my way on many occasion, taunting me like a playground...
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#1 Up n Down Struggle Between Couples
I’ll begin with a disclaimer. The #1 thing I address is not heavily researched. However, in my view it is the underlying element to the problems couples identify in surveys. Problems like… Communication Finances Sex Parenting Can you guess what it is? Clues are imbedded in the title. Observe the...
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The Complexities of Answering a Career Call
Normally on the All About We Podcast, my cohost Amanda Berlin interviews me on the content of my latest blog. This week we did a role reversal and I interviewed Amanda about her career journey. Read what she has to say about this topic and listen to the interview by hitting the play button above....
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3 Ways to Keep the Happy in the Holidays
The holidays are kicking in high gear. Are you ready for it? Do you have your “happy face” on? Yeah right. For some the holidays are more harried than happy. While others complain that the holidays are simply horrible. Yet when the day arrives we say, “Happy Hanukah”, “Happy Holidays”, or “Merry...
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5 Things to Talk About Before You Get Married
You can find yourself in unnecessary conflict after you get married. For example, have you ever been in trouble with your spouse and not sure what you did wrong? Confused right? This happens a lot, especially to guys. “How can you expect me to know what you want when you don’t tell me in the first...
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One thing parents do that kids hate and never get used to
I hated this when my parents did it. My kids hated it when we did it too. When I talk with kids in my office, this is the one thing they dislike the most about their parents. Constant fighting. Conflict is normal Conflict is normal. How it is expressed, resolved, and managed determines the level…
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3 Lessons People in Power Can Learn From MeToo
The look in this coworker’s eyes really disturbs me. It reflects the fear many individuals described in MeToo tweets in recent months. No one should ever be subjected to the sexual advances from a person of power in the workplace. #metoo is empowering individuals to come forward and report sexual...
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3 Reasons Why Expressing Gratitude in the Not-So-Good Times is Good For You
Sometimes gratitude is hard to find. Consider what’s happened in America and along our southern border in 2017: Hurricane Maria in the Dominican Republic Hurricane Irma in Florida Hurricane Harvey in Texas Earthquake in Mexico Fires in Sonoma, CA Shooting attack on lawmakers playing baseball in...
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My Top 3 Parenting Tips You Can’t Afford to Skip Over
My top 3 parenting tips are likely to surprise you. You won’t find them listed in best-selling books on the subject. In fact, you might argue that they have nothing to do about parenting at all! Be that as it may, I routinely find myself sharing these tips with parents I coach. I’m going old…
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What do I do when my parent is making my life a living hell?
“What do I do when my parent is making my life a living hell?” I get asked this question a lot. You’re doing your best to be a dutiful son or daughter, but never seems good enough for your parent. Instead you hear complaints, criticisms, or negative comments that get under your skin. Do you often...
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The Power of an Extra-Mile Marriage
I asked my friend and mentor, Steve Warner to be a guest writer on my blog. He published a book called Mile 2: 31 Extra mile secrets for an extraordinary life. You can also listen to our interview with him in the All About We Podcast above. Steve shares insights on how to go the second mile in...
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What Happens When Trust is Broken in Your Relationship
From the start you feel really good about this relationship. Your new found love checks all the boxes. Attraction Compatibility on values, morals, spirituality, lifestyle, etc… Emotional connection Romantic Adventurous Independent Health minded Financially responsible Stable family background…
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How to Prevent Your Insecurity From Hurting Your Relationship
“Can we have a talk? I want to share something with you that may make you angry and I am asking that you listen and try not to overreact.” Marian’s tone was respectful and disarming. I agreed and listened. She was right. I was angry. But, I kept it under control and tried to understand her...
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How to Help Your Kid Survive a Bullying Culture
Have you ever been bullied? Me too. As I child I often experienced bullying behavior as a white kid in a community turning black. It was during the civil rights movement in the sixties. I was confused because we lived peaceably with our black neighbors. Later as a teen, the first and only time in...
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How to Connect With a Disconnected Teen
Raising a responsible teenager is a parent’s dream. Living with an irresponsible teen is a parent’s nightmare! The task of raising teens today is challenging for some and frightening for others. Cyber-culture youth are exposed to multiple streams of information that shape identity and influence...
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6 Reasons Why Bad Moms are the Best Moms
One night last week before I was about to go to bed, the 2016 comedy Bad Moms was on TV. Five minutes into the movie I was hooked. It addresses pressure many mothers feel being “all things to all people”. The central character Amy, a wife, mother of two, and career person, lives in a Chicago...
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Help For the Heartbroken Over A Loved One’s Addiction
Addiction is a disease that breaks hearts. It has a profound adverse effect on everyone. Spouses, children, extended family, and friends, suffer heartbreak. Addiction damages and in some cases destroys relationships. Feeling utterly powerless while watching someone you care about self-destruct is...
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Starting Over: How to Know When You’re Ready to Begin a New Relationship
Starting over is not something we think about going into romantic relationships. Yet not all relationships go from “wire-to-wire” where the couple stay together the rest of their lives. Endings can happen in any stage. Early romance Broken engagement Cohabitating couples who call it quits Divorce...
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3 totally free organic ways to connect
People with a healthy mindset go organic. They don’t want genetically modified organisms (GMOs) in their food products. Healthy people will pay extra to ensure what goes into their bodies is natural, organic and contains no toxins. Relationships can also benefit from going organic too. We spend...
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4 Simple Steps to Set Boundaries
If you want to get good at setting boundaries you’ve come to the right place. In my previous blog I highlighted 4 benefits you can expect by setting boundaries. Here I’m going to give you 4 simple steps to do it. Let’s check out the first one. #1: Listen to your gut This is slightly different…
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4 Benefits You Can Expect By Setting Boundaries
Feeling exhausted? Is your calendar running out of empty space? The excuse “it’s that time of year” no longer fits. This is the story of your life. Do you feel like you’re always giving to others but get little in return? Always giving in but rarely getting your needs met. Tired of the drama…
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10 lessons I learned about being a dad from my dad
My dad died 23 years ago. I still miss him. Even as I typed that sentence, I got choked up. So much of my adult life I didn’t get to share with him. I feel robbed. But then again, I also feel blessed to have him in my life. In honor of Father’s Day I want to share some lessons I learned from my...
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7 Kid-Safety Rules for Divorce
Couples in broken marriages want out, but what often keeps them in is fear over how divorce may impact their kids. “Our marriage is broken but do we want to break up the family?” So they work hard to repair the marriage. In some cases too much damage is done and it cannot be fixed. Divorce is...
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How to Help Your Kids Cope With Tragedy or Loss
We witnessed tragedy unfold this week in Manchester, England when 22 concertgoers, many of them kids, were killed in a horrifying terror attack. This is not a first occurrence. Sadly, it is becoming more common. Our world doesn’t feel safe anymore. Coincidently, we are entering a Memorial Day...
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3 Moves to Bring Respect Back in Your Family
It’s a standoff between parents and their two kids. Kevin and Heidi have finally come together to bring respect back into their marriage. Now it’s time to get Brandon and Stacy on board. However, the kids remain defiant, in mocked attire. The picture above is taken from chapter 5 in my book that...
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How to Bring Respect Back to Your Relationship
The image above describes it. This couple is tired of fighting and acting ugly. Disrespect is getting old. It’s time for a change. So, they make a decision–together. Let’s shed the ugly costumes and act nice. Going forward, let’s show mutual respect. Bringing respect back Isn’t it time we bring...
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5 things you should NEVER have to give up for your spouse in marriage
I think it’s important to draw a line with your spouse in marriage. Don’t be confused by the picture above. This blog is not gender specific. It is for males and females. I write a lot about couples adjusting to marriage and the expectations they bring to the relationship. It is a give and take...
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10 ways to stop walking on eggshells
People walk on eggshells in their marriage or family relationships. Occasionally it happens when someone is having a bad day. That’s normal. But when it’s a pattern, it’s a problem. Here’s some examples. Some spouses are in constant dread that the other will push their buttons blame them for…
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7 Ways to Keep Money From Messing Up Your Marriage
It’s income tax season. Stressful time for many households. It often sparks arguments over money. If only money was not a problem in marriage. We fantasize how great things will be in our marriage and family if we won the lotto get the huge promotion somehow struck it rich Is the solution to your...
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How to Make Letting Go Easier on You
Every day I help people who find letting go of something difficult. I get their struggle. I’ve been there too. Some things in life are hard to let go of. Loss of a loved one Hurt or betrayal Resentment toward someone End of a relationship Acts of injustice toward you Disappointments from others…
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ABOUT THIS SHOW
All About We is a podcast about relationships…what complicates them and what makes them successful.
It’s a collaboration between Don Olund, Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor and Relationship Coach, and Amanda Berlin, Communication Expert and Self-Improvement Devotee.
The podcast promises real conversation and true-to-life examples of relationship foibles and triumphs.
Topics include everything from the desire to shift from “roomies” back to romance to moving past the past, if that’s even possible.
New episodes drop every week.
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