Artful Loving
by Nic
On Artful Loving we take a deep dive into all things LOVE, SEX and RELATIONSHIPS. Having the edgy conversations and exploring all the things we wish we knew before we began our trip on the heartbreak merry-go-round. Relationships and Intimacy therapist and coach Nic Tovey shares his 15 years experience as a therapist along with his colourful relationship biography to help you master your relationship world.
Episodes
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Episode 26 - Pregnancy & Birth - Through a Father's Eyes, Part 1
There is no greater miracle than the process of pregnancy and birth! It is possible the most transformative rite of passage a person can go through, and so of course it can bring with it myriad challenges. We hear and read a lot about the mother's experience through this amazing transformative...
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Episode 25 - Moving Beyond Co-dependency
Co-dependency gets a bad rap and is often sold to us as being something "wrong", which I don't think is helpful. I like to see co-dependency as a natural phase on the evolutionary journey of relationship. In this episode I share my view on the evolutionary trajectory we can take on our journey as…
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Episode 24 - Love in the Village
Our modern relational and family paradigm has created a very harmful epidemic of isolation around the western world and this doesn't have to be the case. In this episode I talk about why it is so very important for us to relieve our partner from the pressure of being everything for us. We are...
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Episode 23 - When is it Time to Break Up?
Break ups really suck, of course they do, but sometimes they're really really necessary. But how do we know when it's time to call it a day? In this episode I delve into the considerations we need to be tussling with to make sure we're making the right decision at the right time, and in so doing,...
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Episode 22 - You Deserve to be Having Great Sex!
We all have the experience, either in a new relationship or in one we've been in for a while, when the sex is just a bit below par, but what do we do about it? Sex is a crucially important part of life and of a good healthy relationship and Nobody should be enduring BAD SEX! But it's not always...
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Episode 21 - When to say I LOVE YOU
When is it ok to say those three very small but very significant words? These very simple words can have us all tied up in a tizz and wondering if its ok to say them, or if they're not said or reciprocated, we can get into an even bigger tizz about that. When is the right time to share an...
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Episode 20 - Avoiding the Infatuation Trap
I'm pretty sure we've all had the experience of being in a new relationship and becoming "head over heals" about this new person and losing all sight of everyday reality in the process. Infatuation is when we get totally inebriated on the new object of our love and desire and lose all sense of...
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Episode 19 - Getting Kinky
I think we've all got a little kinky side to us that sometimes gets locked away in the dark corners of our private fantasies, but for some people getting kinky is a very important part of their life and individual sexual expression. Kink and BDSM has definitely become much more mainstream in…
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Episode 18 - Spotting the Red Flags
I'm sure we've all had the experience of coming across traits, behaviours, values or beliefs in a person we're in relationship with that just don't feel good to us, and sometimes these can be enough to make or break a relationship. But sometimes these "red flags" can be hard to spot, or easy to...
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Episode 17 - Trauma in Relationships, Part 2
Part 2 on this conversation on Trauma in relationships. To continue the very BIG conversation on trauma in relationships, in this episode I dive deeper into Attachment Theory. Attachment Theory is all the rage these days, and for good reason - Its a very important and useful model that helps us...
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Episode 16 - Trauma in Relationships, Part 1
Part 1 in this conversation on Trauma in relationships. This is a biggy! Not only in time but in content ;) Trauma is such a big deal these days, and thats a really good thing! We've learnt a lot about trauma in recent years through advances in psychology, neurology and medical imaging, we've...
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Episode 15 - Communicating like a PRO
We all know that all good relationships are built on a foundation of good communication, so why do so many of us SUCK at it so bad??? The truth is that communication isn't the issue, it's emotion that gets in the way of good communication. In this episode I talk about this most important of the...
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Episode 14 - Bringing Back the Passion
One of the most common challenges that I hear about from many couples in long term relationships is the reduction of sexual desire and passion within the relationship compared to how things were in the early days, and of course I've had my own experiences of this too! This is such a common and…
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Episode 13 - Consensual Non-Monogamy
Alternative relationship styles to the standard monogamy paradigm aren't exactly new but they have gained a lot of mainstream attention and appeal recently. In this episode I discuss some of the options we have when it comes to consensual non-monogamy, the potential challenges and pitfalls that…
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Episode 12 - Talking Sexy
How to have those sexy conversations? Many of us really struggle to have open, honest and vulnerable conversations about sex - about what we like or dislike, what we'd like to experience or what we fantasise about. There is so much baggage that we hold that gets in the way of these sometimes...
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Episode 11 - The Initiation of Fatherhood
Fatherhood is one of, if not THE most powerful initiations a man can go through, yet some miss out on the full impact and responsibility that this offers. In this episode I share a lot of my own experience of being a father, the gifts and the challenges. I also discuss some of the really…
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Episode 10 - Porn, the good the bad and the ugly
Porn has of course been around for a very long time, but never has it been so readily available as today. In this episode I discuss my views on porn and its problems, and how we can engage with porn in a healthy way, as individuals and couples. Please let me know your thoughts with a comment…
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Episode 09 - Emotional Mastery in Relationships
There is no area of life where emotions are at play as much as they are in intimate relationships. And most of us are woefully ill-equipped to effectively deal with them. So of course, this becomes the route of the majority of relationship disconnect. In this episode I try (and fail) to offer a...
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Episode 08 - Redesigning Monogamy
Of course monogamy is very much the preferred relationship style for most people, but what does monogamy even mean? Unfortunately monogamy isn't often clearly defined and many assumptions get made causing all sorts of problems. In this episode I explore some of the all too common assumptions…
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Episode 07 - When should 2 become 3?
Parenthood is the most powerful initiation a person can undergo, and so it is one that ideally should be entered into with some careful consideration. In this episode I discus some of the things I feel are important to consider and to discuss when raising the question of bringing a child into the...
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Episode 06 - Boundaries and Consent
One of the most important skills to develop in all relationships and in life in general is the ability to understand, create and uphold healthy boundaries. Unfortunately this is not a skill many of us are taught during childhood and so we need to develop the skill later in life. In this episode I...
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Episode 05 - Navigating Desire Discrepancy
Every relationship will go through periods where the sexual desire of each partner does not match and this can often become a point of contention in the relationship. Desire discrepancy is a very normal experience for most couples from time to time and in this video I discus some important…
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Episode 04 - Winning at Tinder
Where else do we get to meet potential partners today except for online? Especially in our current COVID era most dating at least begins online, but as we all know, it can feel like a jungle out there and can be quite overwhelming. In this episode I talk about the online dating world and provide...
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Episode 03 - Getting Relationship Ready
Have you ever told yourself that you're not "ready for a relationship"? But how do you know when you are ready? What does "ready" even mean?? In this episode I dive into this complex and gritty subject. I explore some of the reason's we reach for relationship or are repelled from it and how to...
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Episode 02 - Co-creating an Amazing Relationship
In this episode I share my vision for what I call the (R)Evolutionary Relationship - a relationship built with intention to be a container for the evolution of each partner. I present the 4 Pillars of the (R)Evolutionary Relationship and what I believe are the key ingredients we need to...
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Episode 01 - Introducing Me
In this first episode I want to introduce myself to you, who I am, where I came from and how I got to be the man I am doing the work I do today. I also wanted to talk about my vision for the podcast and my greater vision for human relationships. I also mention that if you would like to go a…
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On Artful Loving we take a deep dive into all things LOVE, SEX and RELATIONSHIPS. Having the edgy conversations and exploring all the things we wish we knew before we began our trip on the heartbreak merry-go-round. Relationships and Intimacy therapist and coach Nic Tovey shares his 15 years experience as a therapist along with his colourful relationship biography to help you master your relationship world.
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