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Weight-loss programs spend a lot of time telling us how to lose weight. Far less attention is given to what happens afterwards.The usual language is maintenance: you’ve lost the weight, now the job is to keep it off. But that framing can hide an important part of the picture. Your biology doesn’t simply move into a new phase because the diet does.In this episode of Before Dieting, I look at what can happen when calorie restriction ends, why the maintenance phase can shift responsibility for weight regain back onto the woman, and why the period after a diet contains information worth investigating.I also share Vivienne’s story. After two decades of dieting, she knew she was good at starting diets but had trouble sticking with them. Her solution was to choose diets that promised increasingly fast results, until she found herself considering a five-day water diet.When Vivienne stopped looking at each diet as a separate event and brought them together, a pattern became visible. Her previous dieting experiences were influencing what she chose to do next.In this episodeWhy the term maintenance deserves closer examinationWhat calorie restriction can ask of a biological systemThe holding-your-breath metaphor and what it can tell us about biological responses to restrictionWhy difficulty maintaining weight loss isn't explained simply by willpowerHow one dieting experience can influence the diet chosen nextWhat Vivienne discovered when she stopped looking at her diets separatelyWhy repeated weight regain needs to be investigated as a patternHow your dieting history can become evidence rather than a record of successes and failuresSomething to think aboutRather than asking what you should do differently on your next diet, consider your previous diets together:What have all my previous diets been trying to tell me?The diets you finished, the ones you abandoned, how restrictive they became, how long you could stay on them and what happened afterwards may reveal far more than any single diet viewed on its own.Next weekBefore Dieting welcomes its first guest.I’ll be in conversation with Lanette Helene, owner of Canberra Pilates, talking about something I hear from many women living with repeated weight regain: feeling disconnected from their bodies.Our conversation ranges across midlife, balance, flexibility and practical ways to stay connected with your body as you get older. Lanette also shares some simple exercises you can try yourself, starting with your feet.It’s a longer episode than the usual Before Dieting monologue and the first of our occasional guest conversations.<a href="https://www.weightingforhappiness.com.au/post/when-one-diet-leads-to-the-next">Read my Blog:</a>

Show Notes:You can read the accompanying Blog here or copy and paste the Link below:<A href="https://www.weightingforhappiness.com.au/post/questions-diets-never-ask">Blog post for episode</a>In Today's episode:Most women know how to investigate a diet.They can tell you how long it lasted, how much weight they lost and why they think it failed.But very few have ever been shown how to investigate what happened after the diet ended.In this episode, Bronwyn explores why the period after a diet can hold some of the most valuable clues to understanding repeated weight regain.Using questions from two listeners, she introduces a different line of inquiry. Rather than judging another diet as a success or failure, she explains how looking more closely at what happened afterwards can reveal patterns, unexpected experiences and overlooked evidence that help explain why the cycle keeps repeating.You'll also hear why the Weighting for Happiness Project takes a collegial approach to understanding repeated weight regain. Your lived experience provides one kind of knowledge. Weighting for Happiness provides questions, tools and ways of organising that experience so the patterns become easier to see.Together, those different perspectives create a fuller understanding than either could achieve alone.Today's InvestigationBefore your next diet, spend some time investigating the one you've just finished.Instead of asking only,"Did the diet work?"try asking,What happened after the diet ended?What patterns kept repeating?What surprised me?What did this experience teach me about the way I eat?Sometimes the clues you've been searching for aren't hidden in the diet itself.They're waiting in what happened afterwards.In This Episode we examine:Why conversations about weight regain often feel much harder than conversations about weight loss.Why the period after a diet deserves as much attention as the diet itself.The different questions Weighting for Happiness asks once a diet has finished.How repeated patterns often become visible only when you look back over several dieting attempts.Why rushing straight to the next diet can mean overlooking valuable evidence.Why one woman's experience after weight loss can be completely different from another's.How unexpected feelings after weight loss can become important clues rather than something to dismiss.Why understanding repeated weight regain begins with investigation rather than judgement.Key TakeawayRepeated weight regain is rarely explained by a single event, decision or diet.It's usually the result of many experiences that have gradually become connected over the course of a lifetime.Understanding those connections begins by asking different questions.We'd Love to Hear From YouMany episodes of Before Dieting begin with questions from listeners.If today's episode has sparked a question of your own, I'd love to hear from [email protected]<a href="https://www.linkedin.com/in/bronwynfletcheratweightingforhappiness/">DM Me on LinkedIn</a> While I can't answer every question individually, many of them become the starting point for future episodes because, if you're asking it, chances are many other women are wondering the same thing too.

Weight regain and fear: Why looking more closely can feel so frighteningIf you've ever found yourself putting off looking more deeply at your weight regain, I don't think it's because you don't want to understand it. Most women I've spoken to have spent years searching for answers. They've read books, followed diets, listened to podcasts and promised themselves that this time will be different. That doesn't sound like someone who isn't interested in change.What I think is happening is much more understandable.Looking more closely can feel risky because we've been taught that if we discover what's causing our weight regain, we'll immediately have to stop doing it. If the answer is chocolate, we have to give up chocolate. If it's eating late at night, we have to stop eating late at night. Understanding has become tied to giving something up.But what if that isn't the purpose of investigation at all?What if the purpose is simply to understand what your eating has been doing for you? Not so you can judge it, but so you can finally see why it has been so difficult to change.That single shift turns investigation from something threatening into something useful. Instead of asking, "Why don't I stop?" you begin asking, "What problem is this eating solving?" They're very different questions and will lead you to very different places.So, before you start another diet, perhaps spend a moment with one question instead.What are you afraid you might find if you looked more closely at your weight regain?You can read my Blog post here or, on Apple, copy and paste the link belowhttps://www.weightingforhappiness.com.au/post/weight-regain-and-fearFor answers you can start here or, on Apple, copy and paste the link below:https://www.weightingforhappiness.com.au/weight-and-diet-history-diagnosticORIf you have any questions, please email me at: [email protected]#weightregain, #emotioneating, #overeating, #foodrules, #eatingsystem, #womenshealth,#midlifewomen, #dieting, #weightlossafter40, #dietcycle, #menopauseweightgain,#psychologyofeating, #beforedieting, #reliefeating, #comforteating, #emotionaleating, #8eatingtypes

Before Dieting... Episode 53Why do we eat?It sounds like a simple question, but the answer is rarely straightforward.In this episode of Before Dieting, Bronwyn responds to a listener's question about the Eight Types of Eating. Rather than looking at eating as simply "good" or "bad," she introduces a different way of thinking: eating is purposeful.This episode is an overview of the Eight Types of Eating, the framework that sits behind many of the stories explored throughout the podcast. You'll discover why eating isn't one behaviour with one cause, but many different behaviours serving different purposes.Bronwyn introduces:Functional EatingSecondary EatingDietingRestricted EatingSocial EatingComfort EatingRelief EatingConscious EatingAlong the way, she explains why understanding why you're eating is far more useful than judging what you're eating.If you've ever wondered why your eating can feel completely different from one situation to the next, this episode provides a practical map for understanding your own eating patterns.Key TakeawaysEating isn't one behaviour with one cause. Different types of eating serve different purposes, and recognising those differences is an important part of understanding repeated weight regain.The purpose of eating matters more than the behaviour itself. The same food can serve very different functions depending on the situation, whether it's nourishment, comfort, social connection or emotional relief.The goal isn't perfect eating. The goal is conscious eating, where you know what you're choosing, why you're choosing it, and no longer feel driven by your eating.If this resonates, start with the Weight Ecosystem diagnostic.https://www.weightingforhappiness.com.au/diagnostics/weight-ecosystem-diagnosticPlease subscribe to this Podcast and leave a rating, so other women can find it.If you know any other woman who is struggling with weight regain, please pass this on.If you have any questions, please email me or copy and paste the link [email protected] this resonates, start with the Weight Ecosystem diagnostic or copy and paste the link below:https://www.weightingforhappiness.com.au/diagnostics/weight-ecosystem-diagnostic==========================================================#weightregain, #emotioneating, #overeating, #foodrules, #eatingsystem, #womenshealth,#midlifewomen, #dieting, #weightlossafter40, #dietcycle, #menopauseweightgain,#psychologyofeating, #beforedieting, #reliefeating, #comforteating, #emotionaleating, #8eatingtypes

When Weight Regain Returns You to Safety. Kate’s story and the pattern that food alone could not explain. Season 3 Episode 52.Kate knew how to lose weight. She had done it many times.What she could not explain was why reaching a lower weight left her feeling frightened, exposed and unprotected, or why familiar eating patterns returned soon afterwards.For years, she blamed her sweet tooth and lack of willpower. But when she worked through her Weight & Dieting History, a different pattern became visible.Kate had grown up in a volatile home where avoiding attention helped keep her safe. Being smaller and more visible as an adult activated a discomfort that dieting advice had never examined. Her history also revealed an early connection between secrecy, sweet food and the time she spent with the parent who made her feel protected.The food was part of the story, but it was not the whole story.In this episode of Before Dieting, Bronwyn explores why losing weight and understanding weight regain require different lines of inquiry. Kate’s story demonstrates what becomes visible when the investigation extends beyond calories, food choices and whether a woman followed the plan.In this episode you'll discover:Why successful weight loss does not explain repeated regainHow a Weight & Dieting History reveals patterns across separate attemptsWhy the point after weight loss may contain the most useful informationHow early experiences can continue influencing adult responsesWhy secret eating may serve a function that food rules cannot addressHow changing the question changes what becomes visibleYour weight history is not proof that you failed. It is evidence that needs to be included in the investigation.Explore the Weight & Dieting History diagnostic: or copy and paste the link below.https://www.weightingforhappiness.com.au/weight-and-diet-history-diagnosticYou can also read my accompanying Blog or copy and paste the link below: https://www.weightingforhappiness.com.au/post/kate-s-story-when-weight-regain-was-telling-a-deeper-storyPlease subscribe to this Podcast and leave a rating, so other women can find it.If you know any other woman who is struggling with weight regain, please pass this on.If you have any questions please email me at [email protected] note: This episode includes references to parental alcohol misuse and childhood family violence.#weightregain, #emotioneating, #overeating, #foodrules, #eatingsystem, #womenshealth,#midlifewomen, #dieting, #weightlossafter40, #dietcycle, #menopauseweightgain,#psychologyofeating, #beforedieting, #reliefeating, #comforteating, #emotionaleating, #8eatingtypes

Childhood Food Access: When you weren’t allowed to choose.Episode overview Most women assume that as adults they should know what ‘enough’ food looks like. But portion confidence, stopping cues, and self-trust don’t appear automatically. They’re built through early experiences of choice, permission, and authority at the table. In this episode we explore Agency: who decided what and how much you ate and how those early meal dynamics can shape adult patterns like dieting dependence, private overeating, and fear of judgement.This episode continues the paired theme with Access, because these two factors (Access + Agency) often work together to build the blueprint for lifelong eating.In this episode, you’ll learn• What food agency actually means (and what it doesn’t)• Why food confidence is often a developmental skill, not a motivation issue• Why eating differently in front of others is a protective response• How secrecy becomes a substitute for choiceKey takeaways• Agency is authority at meals is for choice, portion sizing and stopping• Private overeating is often the system restoring autonomy• The dinner table taught rules that still shape eating todayIf agency was limited in your early life, dieting won’t solve the root issue; it only temporarily overrides it. The Weighting for Happiness Project helps you investigate your specific blueprint and diagnose the true drivers behind weight regain, so lasting change becomes possible.If agency was limited in your early life, dieting won’t solve the root issue; it only temporarily overrides it.The Weighting for Happiness Project helps you investigate your specific blueprint and diagnose the true drivers behind weight regain, so lasting change becomes possible.Please leave a review or rate the Podcast so other women can find it.Download my FREE e-book "Why Diets Work Until They Don't" using the link below:https://www.weightingforhappiness.com.au/e-book-request-formAnd if you know a woman who would benefit from hearing this information, please pass on the link to this Podcast or the e-book.You can leave me a message at:LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/bronwynfletcheratweightingforhappiness/Instagramhttps://www.instagram.com/beforedieting.podcast/Facebookhttps://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61587755296729OR directly email me any questions [email protected]@weightingforhappiness.com.auCheersBronwyn#weightregain #emotioneating #reliefeating #comforteating #overeating #foodrules #eatingsystem #womenshealth #midlifewomen #dieting #weightlossafter40 #dietcycle #menopauseweightgain #psychologyofeating #beforedieting #8eatingtypes

Podcast Episode 50 - Show Notes​The real drivers of weight gain start in childhood, long before dieting ever entered the picture. In this episode we explore Childhood Food Access.This is the autonomy you had (or didn’t have) to obtaining food outside regular meals, and how it shape lifelong patterns like urgency eating, secrecy, and scarcity thinking.​This isn’t about blame. It’s about understanding. Because you can’t change what you can’t see.​Access:🙋🏻‍♀️who decided when you weren't allowed to eat.​In this episode, you’ll learn:1️⃣ How focusing on reducing on current weight prevents you discovering the root cause of repeating weight patterns2️⃣ The difference between access and agency (and why both matter)3️⃣How restricted access builds survival strategies around food4️⃣Why secret eating isn’t a moral failure, it’s a system response​Key takeaways🔍 Food access is about permission and autonomy🔍 Many adult eating patterns were once childhood solutions🔍 Shame blocks the information you need to change your weight permanentlyIf this episode has connected dots you’ve never connected before, you’re ready for deeper investigation.​The Weighting for Happiness Project helps you investigate your specific blueprint and diagnose the true drivers behind weight regain, so lasting change becomes possible.Please leave a review or rate the Podcast so other women can find it.Download my FREE Guide Why diet's work until they don't or use the linkhttps://www.weightingforhappiness.com.au/e-book-request-formAnd if you know a woman who would benefit from hearing this information, please pass on the link to this Podcast or the e-book.You can leave me a message at:LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/bronwynfletcheratweightingforhappiness/Instagramhttps://www.instagram.com/beforedieting.podcast/Facebookhttps://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61587755296729OR directly email me any questions [email protected]@weightingforhappiness.com.au#weightregain #emotioneating #reliefeating #comforteating #overeating #foodrules #eatingsystem #womenshealth #midlifewomen #dieting #weightlossafter40 #dietcycle #menopauseweightgain #psychologyofeating #beforedieting #8eatingtypes

Ready to investigate your own blueprint?The Weight Ecosystem is the first diagnostic in the Weighting for Happiness Project.It steps back from food and helps you examine the wider conditions your weight and health sit within before moving on to the deeper patterns that shape eating.Click here or copy and paste the link below.https://www.weightingforhappiness.com.au/weight-ecosystem-diagnosticSee the end of the show notes for other downloads.Show NotesOne of the limitations of most weight loss advice is, it is all focused, on eating.What you’re eating, how much and how often.So, when it comes to relief eating, by the time the eating occurs, a great deal has already happened.In this episode, Bronwyn expands on food rules and food stories and introduces another part of the Eating Blueprint: the Eating System.Through Moira's experience, we explore what happened when she stopped concentrating on the chocolate and ice cream she was eating and became curious about the sequence leading into it.What she discovered was that relief eating didn't begin when she opened the freezer.It began days beforehand with emotional agitation and a narrowing attention.This episode challenges the idea that overeating is triggered by a single event and it introduces a different way of understanding relief eating.In this episodeThe difference between Hunger and HungeringMoira's discovery that her relief eating began days before the eating itselfThe early signs that an Eating System has become activatedHow widening the boundary changes what becomes visibleThe read the Blog associated with this episode, click here or copy and paste the link below. https://www.weightingforhappiness.com.au/post/eating-systems-explain-a-woman-s-weight-regain-moira-s-storyANDFor a copy of the 4 layers of eating, click here or copy and paste the link below.https://www.weightingforhappiness.com.au/4-layers-behind-eating

Resources for you in with this PodcastDownload the Four Layers Model that explains Sylvie's story: Four Layers Infographic: or copy and paste https://www.weightingforhappiness.com.au/4-layers-behind-eatingBegin identifying your own Blueprint; start with my first Diagnostic: ‘Understanding your weight ecosystem’ or copy and paste https://www.weightingforhappiness.com.au/weight-ecosystem-diagnosticShow NotesIn this episode of Before Dieting, I take listeners inside the first two layers of the Four Layers Model. The Food Rules and Food Stories and show how these layers shape eating in ways most women never realise.Through Sylvie’s story, we see how a lifelong pattern of junk‑food eating wasn’t about food at all, but about a feeling that began decades earlier at the family dinner table.This episode helps women understand why certain eating patterns feel immovable and how uncovering the emotional logic beneath eating can change everything.What You’ll LearnFood Rules describe what someone does with food.Food Stories explain why the behaviour formed in the first place.Childhood experiences often shape adult eating in ways women don’t recognise until they look back.Removing a food doesn’t remove the problem it is solving.Relief‑eating is the response to internal tension, not a lack of discipline.Work stress, conflict, pressure and emotional load can recreate the same internal conditions that shaped early eating patterns.Understanding the story behind eating opens the door to permanent change.Sylvie’s StorySylvie, a woman in her late forties, has spent years trying to understand why she keeps returning to junk food, especially when she’s alone. Her car has become a mobile dining room, filled with wrappers by the end of each day. She promises herself she’ll stop, but the pattern repeats.When she traces her eating back to childhood, she remembers tense family dinners where arguments erupted nightly. She learned to eat quickly, stay quiet and avoid attention, a Food Rule formed for safety, not nutrition.Later, when the house was quiet, she found relief in sweets. The knot in her stomach came first; the chocolate came second. That knot, not the food, was the beginning of the sequence.As an adult, her job now recreates the same emotional conditions: complaints, conflict, difficult conversations. Different setting. Different people. Same knot.Once she sees the connection, her eating finally makes sense.Key InsightWhen women focus only on the food, they miss the deeper story. Food Rules describe the behaviour. Food Stories explain the emotional logic behind it. And once the story becomes visible, the eating stops looking irrational and starts looking understandable.Next WeekI'll take you into the third layer of the model, the Eating Blueprints and explain how repeated experiences, Food Rules and Food Stories organise themselves into larger patterns that guide eating, long after childhood has ended.See my Blog for more information about understanding your Food Story by reading about Sylvie's or copy and paste the link: https://www.weightingforhappiness.com.au/post/sylvies-weight-regain-story

Diets tell you what to eat. Understanding the Four Layers Behind Eating explains why.🔦 Download your free comprehensive Infographic, "The 4 Layers of Weight Regain" here https://www.weightingforhappiness.com.au/4-layers-of-eating🔦You can read my Blog for this Podcast here https://www.weightingforhappiness.com.au/post/the-four-layers-of-eating-why-weight-regain-isn’t-about-willpower And please leave a review of this Podcast so other women can find this information.Show NotesIn this episode of Before Dieting, Bronwyn introduces the Four Layers Behind Eating Behaviour; a way of understanding why some eating seems easy to change while others feel out of our control.Drawing on conversations with more than a thousand women who have experienced weight regain, Bronwyn explores four distinct layers that sit beneath eating behaviour:Food RulesFood StoriesEating BlueprintsEating SystemsUsing practical examples, this episode introduces a new way of seeing eating behaviour. One that moves beyond calories, discipline and self-control to uncover the deeper structures shaping your everyday eating.In this episode✔️ Why new concepts and language are essential when solving complex problems✔️ The difference between Food Rules and Food Stories✔️How Eating Blueprints set the pattern for all eating✔️ Why some eating behaviours feel flexible while others seem impossible to change✔️ Why restriction is often one of the strongest triggers for relief eatingThree Key Takeaways🖌️ Not all eating operates on the same layer.Different eating behaviours have different drivers. Understanding the layer you're looking at changes the explanation and the solution.🖌️Rules describe behaviour. Stories explain behaviour.Food Rules tell us what someone does. Food Stories help explain why those behaviours became important in the first place.🖌️Relief eating is not a willpower problem.Relief eating is the behavioural expression of an Eating System attempting to reduce emotional pressure and restore equilibrium.

The weight regain boundary problemThe Weight Ecosystem link I reference in the episode that can start your weight regain solution.Today we look at:Why do weight regain explanations begin and end with calories?In this episode Bronwyn introduces one of the foundational ideas behind the Weighting for Happiness Project: boundaries.In systems thinking, a boundary determines what gets included when you're trying to understand a problem. And what sits inside that boundary strongly influences the explanation you end up with.Most weight-loss approaches draw a very narrow boundary around food and calorie intake.But what happens when the boundary expands?What happens when weight history, family food culture and long-standing eating patterns are included in the investigation?Bronwyn explores why expanding the boundary changed the way she understood weight regain and why we need to broaden our investigation more than calories.Key TakeawaysBoundaries determine solutions.Calories aren’t the entire problem.Weight regain occurs within a larger life context.Expanding the boundary changes what becomes visible.If you want to read my Blog that accompanies this episode, you can do so here.Also, you can contact me or connect with me by: [email protected] Instagram Facebook #weightregain, #emotioneating, #foodrules, #eatingsystem, #womenshealth, #midlifewomen#midlifewomen, #dieting, #weightlossafter40, #dietcycle, #menopauseweightgain#psychologyofeating, #beforedieting, #reliefeating, #comforteating, #emotionaleating, #8eatingtypes

Why does relief eating feel so overpowering, secretive and difficult to interrupt?In this episode of Before Dieting, Bronwyn Fletcher explores relief eating through the lens of systems thinking. Instead of framing eating as a simple problem of willpower or self-control, this episode examines how relief eating forms as a repeatable system designed to solve tension, overload and emotional discomfort.Using Meri’s story, Bronwyn walks through the hidden logic beneath late-night eating, food secrecy, rigid food rules and the constant internal tug-of-war many women live with around food.This episode also introduces the three stages of relief eating: Hungering, Eating and Resolution, showing how patterns that feel chaotic often follow a very structured process once they are slowed down and examined closely.Rather than asking ‘How do I stop eating like this?’, this episode invites a different question:‘What relief is this eating giving me?’Key TakeawaysRelief eating is not random; it operates as a repeatable system.Food can function as relief, escape, rebellion or nervous system regulation.Childhood food experiences often shape adult eating systems.Shame reduces understanding; observation increases insight.Start HereIf you want to understand what’s shaping your eating, start with the Weight Ecosystem diagnostic, or copy and paste the following link:https://www.weightingforhappiness.com.au/weight-ecosystem-diagnosticRead the Blog here or copy and paste the following link:https://www.weightingforhappiness.com.au/post/relief-eating-and-weight-regain-the-hidden-logic-inside-the-eating-systemPlease subscribe to this Podcast and leave a rating, so other women can find it.If you know any other woman who is struggling with weight regain, please pass this on.If you have any questions, please email me at [email protected]#weightregain, #emotioneating, #overeating, #foodrules, #eatingsystem, #womenshealth,#midlifewomen, #dieting, #weightlossafter40, #dietcycle, #menopauseweightgain,#psychologyofeating, #beforedieting, #reliefeating, #comforteating, #emotionaleating, #8eatingtypes

Soraya spent years believing her weight problem was about food. Like many women with recurring weight regain, she became highly skilled at dieting, cycling between strict calorie restriction during the week and overeating on weekends. On the surface, the explanation seemed obvious: she lacked control around food.But when we looked more closely, something very different emerged.Behind the dieting and overeating was a woman living a life built around duty, loyalty and keeping her parents proud. A woman whose career looked successful from the outside but no longer felt like her own from the inside.This episode explores one of the most important distinctions in the Weighting for Happiness framework: the difference between a food problem and a life problem that is expressing itself through food.Because recurring weight regain is rarely as simple as eating too much.It is often the visible symptom of a much larger system underneath.Key TakeawaysWhy recurring weight regain is a complex systems problemHow calorie restriction creates catch-up eatingThe difference between food-level explanations and root causesWhy understanding your eating system changes the questions you askIf this episode has echoes in your own life, start with the Weight Ecosystem diagnostic. It helps you move beyond food alone and begin identifying the wider emotional, behavioural and life patterns shaping your weight.You can read the accompanying Blog for more information: https://www.weightingforhappiness.com.au/post/when-weight-regain-is-really-about-the-life-you-re-livingIf this resonates, start with the Weight Ecosystem diagnostic.https://www.weightingforhappiness.com.au/diagnostics/weight-ecosystem-diagnosticPlease subscribe to this Podcast and leave a rating, so other women can find it.If you know any other woman who is struggling with weight regain, please pass this on.If you have any questions please email me at [email protected]#weightregain, #emotioneating, #overeating, #foodrules, #eatingsystem, #womenshealth#midlifewomen, #dieting, #weightlossafter40, #dietcycle, #menopauseweightgain#psychologyofeating, #beforedieting, #reliefeating, #comforteating, #emotionaleating, #8eatingtypes

Maggie’s story doesn’t start with food. It starts with trust.In this episode, you’ll hear how a lifetime of dieting and weight regain can sit on top of something far less visible; a loss of trust that began long before any diet was introduced. Maggie has built a highly controlled way of eating. On paper, it works. In reality, it leaves her unsatisfied and caught in a predictable pattern of relief eating.This episode moves beyond food choices and looks at the structure underneath them. How family conditions shape eating, how emotional needs become tied to food, and why control cannot replace trust.There is a clear shift here: from trying to fix eating, to understanding the system that produces it.Key TakeawaysWeight regain linked to trust, not willpowerRelief eating follows a predictable internal sequenceControl structures can stabilise eating but cannot resolve itEarly family conditions shape long-term eating patternsRead the full blog here: https://www.weightingforhappiness.com.au/post/why-diets-fail-the-role-of-trust-in-weight-regain-maggie-s-storyIf this resonates, start with the Weight Ecosystem diagnostic.https://www.weightingforhappiness.com.au/diagnostics/weight-ecosystem-diagnosticPlease subscribe to this Podcast and leave a rating, so other women can find it.If you know any other woman who is struggling with weight regain, please pass this on.If you know a woman who needs this, please share it with her.Any Questions: [email protected] OR Connect with me on:LinkedInhttps://www.linkedin.com/in/bronwynfletcheratweightingforhappiness/Instagramhttps://www.instagram.com/beforedieting.podcast/Facebookhttps://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61587755296729#weightregain, #emotioneating, #overeating, #foodrules, #eatingsystem, #womenshealth, #weightlossafter40, #dieting, #psychologyofeating, #midlifewomen

If you’ve been trying to fix your weight with better habits, this episode explains why that approach keeps failing.Last week, we introduced the idea that systems are not habits.This week, we go deeper.Because once you understand that your eating is a system, not a set of individual behaviours, a more important question emerges:Why does your weight keep returning, even when your goal is to change it?The answer is confronting.Your eating system has its own goal.And it’s not weight loss.In this episode, we break down:why habits only ever touch the surface of a much deeper structurewhy fast weight loss creates system backlash and weight regainwhy “low and slow” is the only approach that works with your system, not against itand why the scale is the least useful measure of progress when you’re trying to change a systemYou’ll also hear Denise’s story, a woman who spent decades losing and regaining weight and what changed when she stopped trying to get weight loss “over with quickly” and started working with her eating system instead.This episode will change how you think about:better eating habitsweight cyclingyo-yo dietingand why diets failKey Takeaways1️⃣ Your eating system has its own goalIt is designed to maintain balance, not to lose weight.2️⃣ Fast dieting creates backlashBig, sudden changes trigger hunger, slow metabolism, and lead to weight regain and overshoot.3️⃣ Habits don’t change systemsThey can support change, but they don’t alter the structure driving your eating.4️⃣ Low and slow is the only sustainable pathwaySmall, consistent changes allow the system to adapt without fighting back.🔗 Blog Post: Systems not habits are driving your weight regainhttps://www.weightingforhappiness.com.au/post/systems-not-habits-are-driving-your-weight-regainPlease leave a review so other women can find the podcast. And if you know a woman who needs to hear this information, please pass on the link.If you have any questions, you can email me at: [email protected] connect with me via:LinkedInhttps://www.linkedin.com/in/bronwynfletcheratweightingforhappiness/Instagramhttps://www.instagram.com/beforedieting.podcast/Facebookhttps://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61587755296729#weightregain, #emotioneating, #overeating, #foodrules, #eatingsystem, #womenshealth, #weightlossafter40, #dieting, #psychologyofeating, #midlifewomen