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Behind the Paddle
by Porcelain Victoria
Welcome to "Behind the Paddle", the podcast that explores the fascinating world of sex across a wide spectrum of topics; from LGBTQ+ and feminine power, to kink, sex work and the adult industry. We aim to inform, inspire and entertain, featuring expert interviews, compelling stories, and thought provoking discussions.Join Porcelain Victoria (a very experienced Pro-Dominatrix of 8yrs) on a funny and wonderfully truthful look at the world through the lens of a BDSM practitioner working in the sex industry.She will also be answering listeners questions about real-life queries which will be discussed on the podcast. These can be sent in via email or through anysocials. Email: behindthepaddlepodcast(at)gmail.comOur socials: https://allmylinks.com/behindthepaddle
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E115: An English Madam Part 4
Send us Fan MailThe Life and Work of Cynthia Payne Cynthia Diana Paine born 24 December 1932, she was known professionally as Cynthia Payne and nicknamed Madam Cyn, was an English madam, brothel keeper, party hostess, and media personality. She was widely considered to be Britain's best known madam. She made headlines throughout the 1970s and 1980s, when she was convicted of running a brothel at 32 Ambleside Avenue in Streatham, south London.Support the showCheck out our socials!Thank you so much for listening 💖
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E114: An English Madam Part 3
Send us Fan MailThe Life and Work of Cynthia Payne Cynthia Diana Paine born 24 December 1932, she was known professionally as Cynthia Payne and nicknamed Madam Cyn, was an English madam, brothel keeper, party hostess, and media personality. She was widely considered to be Britain's best known madam. She made headlines throughout the 1970s and 1980s, when she was convicted of running a brothel at 32 Ambleside Avenue in Streatham, south London.Support the showCheck out our socials!Thank you so much for listening 💖
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E113: An English Madam Part 2
Send us Fan MailThe Life and Work of Cynthia Payne Cynthia Diana Paine born 24 December 1932, she was known professionally as Cynthia Payne and nicknamed Madam Cyn, was an English madam, brothel keeper, party hostess, and media personality. She was widely considered to be Britain's best known madam. She made headlines throughout the 1970s and 1980s, when she was convicted of running a brothel at 32 Ambleside Avenue in Streatham, south London.Support the showCheck out our socials!Thank you so much for listening 💖
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E112: An English Madam Part 1
Send us Fan MailThe Life and Work of Cynthia Payne Cynthia Diana Paine born 24 December 1932, she was known professionally as Cynthia Payne and nicknamed Madam Cyn, was an English madam, brothel keeper, party hostess, and media personality. She was widely considered to be Britain's best known madam. She made headlines throughout the 1970s and 1980s, when she was convicted of running a brothel at 32 Ambleside Avenue in Streatham, south London.Support the showCheck out our socials!Thank you so much for listening 💖
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E111: London’s most notorious brothel keeper Cynthia Payne
Send us Fan MailCynthia Diana Paine born 24 December 1932, she was known professionally as Cynthia Payne and nicknamed Madam Cyn, was an English madam, brothel keeper, party hostess, and media personality. She was widely considered to be Britain's best known madam. She made headlines throughout the 1970s and 1980s, when she was convicted of running a brothel at 32 Ambleside Avenue in Streatham, south London.Support the showCheck out our socials!Thank you so much for listening 💖
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E110: Ash Regan Nordic Model Bill failure
Send us Fan MailToday we are talking about the horrific lies of Ash Regan and the uneducated people who supported her bill. Mixing up consensual sex work and trafficking, making vocal sex workers ghosts who have no voice when spoken. The laughs by the supports of the Nordic model when told about the facts and evidence the Nordic model does indeed endanger not just sex workers but trafficked women. I was there at Parliament sitting in the seats as they mocked women who consented to sex work. Let me bring you through what trauma i/we all endured sitting there having to be in silence just like how they want our voices.Support the showCheck out our socials!Thank you so much for listening 💖
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E109: How to be you part 12
Send us Fan MailWhat if everything you've been taught about being "normal" is actually rooted in systems of oppression? Welcome to a thought-provoking journey through the hidden forces that shape our understanding of executive functioning and neurodivergence.Diving into Ellie Middleton's "How to Be You," we explore how capitalism has trained us to equate our worth with productivity and independence. When profit becomes more important than people, our natural variations in planning, focus, and organization are reframed as personal failings rather than simply different ways of processing the world. We unpack how government cuts to support services have made it even harder for neurodivergent people to access the accommodations they need.Support the showCheck out our socials!Thank you so much for listening 💖
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E108: The 6888th Central Postal Directory Battalion
Send us Fan MailThe men didn't think the women could do it. The 6888th Central Postal Directory Battalion were an amazing group of women who stared into the faces of inequality, racism and sexism whom defined all odds. Everyone was against the women they didn't think they could sort 17million pieces of mail. In WW2 leaders thought that low moral was the cause of so many dying so they put 6888 Battalion in charge. Please listen to the amazing story of how the fight for coloured women's rights made a mark in history. Support the showCheck out our socials!Thank you so much for listening 💖
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E107: How to be you part 11
Send us Fan MailWhat if everything you've been taught about being "normal" is actually rooted in systems of oppression? Welcome to a thought-provoking journey through the hidden forces that shape our understanding of executive functioning and neurodivergence.Diving into Ellie Middleton's "How to Be You," we explore how capitalism has trained us to equate our worth with productivity and independence. When profit becomes more important than people, our natural variations in planning, focus, and organization are reframed as personal failings rather than simply different ways of processing the world. We unpack how government cuts to support services have made it even harder for neurodivergent people to access the accommodations they need.Support the showCheck out our socials!Thank you so much for listening 💖
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E106: The Lies of the NordicModelNow - Part 2 Booklet
Send us Fan MailIn this episode of Behindthepaddle, we take a critical look at the widely circulated booklet Decriminalisation vs the Nordic Model. Rather than debating ideology, this episode focuses on how the argument is constructed — from the emotional framing in the opening pages to the way evidence from New Zealand, Germany, and Europe is later presented.We unpack how language, selective survivor testimony, and eye-catching statistics are used to guide the reader toward a predetermined conclusion, and why this matters for anyone engaging in good-faith conversations about sex work policy. This isn’t about denying harm — it’s about asking whether harm reduction debates can be honest, nuanced, and evidence-based.If you’ve ever been sent this booklet as a “gotcha,” this episode offers the context needed to read it more critically.https://nordicmodelnow.org/wp-content/uploads/2022/04/Decrim-vs-the-NM-booklet.pdfBBC Episode - with myselfhttps://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/m002msdjSupport the showCheck out our socials!Thank you so much for listening 💖
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E105: The Lies of the NordicModelNow - Part 1 Booklet
Send us Fan MailIn this episode of Behindthepaddle, we take a critical look at the widely circulated booklet Decriminalisation vs the Nordic Model. Rather than debating ideology, this episode focuses on how the argument is constructed — from the emotional framing in the opening pages to the way evidence from New Zealand, Germany, and Europe is later presented.We unpack how language, selective survivor testimony, and eye-catching statistics are used to guide the reader toward a predetermined conclusion, and why this matters for anyone engaging in good-faith conversations about sex work policy. This isn’t about denying harm — it’s about asking whether harm reduction debates can be honest, nuanced, and evidence-based.If you’ve ever been sent this booklet as a “gotcha,” this episode offers the context needed to read it more critically.https://nordicmodelnow.org/wp-content/uploads/2022/04/Decrim-vs-the-NM-booklet.pdfBBC Episode - with myselfhttps://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/m002msdjSupport the showCheck out our socials!Thank you so much for listening 💖
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E104 :International Day to End Violence Against Sex Workers — 17th December
Send us Fan MailToday we will be talking about International Day to End Violence Against Sex Workers.This day exists because too many people who sold sex were harmed, ignored, disappeared, and killed and because the world decided that was acceptable, or at least inevitable.Some sex workers' deaths,assaults, disappearances aren't even accounted for.For the people whose lives were reduced to headlines that began with “Prostitute found…” Never questioned why, why did they happen. What can we do to prevent it. Support the showCheck out our socials!Thank you so much for listening 💖
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E103: How to be you Part 10
Send us Fan MailWhat if everything you've been taught about being "normal" is actually rooted in systems of oppression? Welcome to a thought-provoking journey through the hidden forces that shape our understanding of executive functioning and neurodivergence.Diving into Ellie Middleton's "How to Be You," we explore how capitalism has trained us to equate our worth with productivity and independence. When profit becomes more important than people, our natural variations in planning, focus, and organization are reframed as personal failings rather than simply different ways of processing the world. We unpack how government cuts to support services have made it even harder for neurodivergent people to access the accommodations they need.Support the showCheck out our socials!Thank you so much for listening 💖
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E102: Burke & Haire Edinburgh's Serial Killers & Strip Club
Send us Fan MailToday we dive dep into the serial killers Burke & Haire learning how Edinburgh has encapsulated these killers into the modern day world Support the showCheck out our socials!Thank you so much for listening 💖
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E101: Bettie Page
Send us Fan MailBefore BDSM had a place in the public eye, one woman stepped into the frame and smiled through the ropes. In this Behindthepaddle deep dive, Victoria explores how Bettie Page a Southern girl with a homemade fringe revolutionised erotic culture. From her trauma-shaped childhood to the Klaw Studios era of playful bondage, from moral panic to mental-health battles, and finally to her mythical return as a feminist and fetish icon, this episode reveals the woman who made kink visible…and made consent look like joy.Support the showCheck out our socials!Thank you so much for listening 💖
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E100: How to be you Part 9
Send us Fan MailWhat if everything you've been taught about being "normal" is actually rooted in systems of oppression? Welcome to a thought-provoking journey through the hidden forces that shape our understanding of executive functioning and neurodivergence.Diving into Ellie Middleton's "How to Be You," we explore how capitalism has trained us to equate our worth with productivity and independence. When profit becomes more important than people, our natural variations in planning, focus, and organization are reframed as personal failings rather than simply different ways of processing the world. We unpack how government cuts to support services have made it even harder for neurodivergent people to access the accommodations they need.Support the showCheck out our socials!Thank you so much for listening 💖
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E99: Windows of Amsterdam
Send us Fan MailWanna hear me go on a rant about how families should teach their kids about sex etc ? I try twice to focus back to Amsterdam the Prostitute Museum but there are so many reasons why as a society we see sex as taboo. Please listen in on how I a sex worker of 8yrs found Amsterdams Red Light District. Decriminalisation all the way Support the showCheck out our socials!Thank you so much for listening 💖
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E98: What's been happening ?
Send us Fan MailIn this episode I talk about how hectic the past two months have been with BBC interviews, Parliament visits, being a single mum and my Amsterdam work trip away. Want to know what its like being a sex worker ? Its just like any other person doing a job, this one is just a little bit more interesting than mostSupport the showCheck out our socials!Thank you so much for listening 💖
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E97: How to be you Part 8
Send us Fan MailWhat if everything you've been taught about being "normal" is actually rooted in systems of oppression? Welcome to a thought-provoking journey through the hidden forces that shape our understanding of executive functioning and neurodivergence.Diving into Ellie Middleton's "How to Be You," we explore how capitalism has trained us to equate our worth with productivity and independence. When profit becomes more important than people, our natural variations in planning, focus, and organization are reframed as personal failings rather than simply different ways of processing the world. We unpack how government cuts to support services have made it even harder for neurodivergent people to access the accommodations they need.Support the showCheck out our socials!Thank you so much for listening 💖
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E96:The Rage Before the Storm: Living with PMDD
Send us Fan MailIn The Rage Before the Storm: Living with PMDD, Porcelain Victoria delves into the raw, cyclical reality of Premenstrual Dysphoric Disorder a condition that turns the body’s natural rhythm into emotional warfare. Blending medical insight, feminist critique, and intimate storytelling, this four-hour episode explores the science, stigma, and survival behind PMDD. From hormonal sensitivity and misdiagnosis to relationships, rage, and reclamation.Support the showCheck out our socials!Thank you so much for listening 💖
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E95:How to be you part 7
Send us Fan MailWhat if everything you've been taught about being "normal" is actually rooted in systems of oppression? Welcome to a thought-provoking journey through the hidden forces that shape our understanding of executive functioning and neurodivergence.Diving into Ellie Middleton's "How to Be You," we explore how capitalism has trained us to equate our worth with productivity and independence. When profit becomes more important than people, our natural variations in planning, focus, and organization are reframed as personal failings rather than simply different ways of processing the world. We unpack how government cuts to support services have made it even harder for neurodivergent people to access the accommodations they need.Support the showCheck out our socials!Thank you so much for listening 💖
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E94: Collars and Creatures: Inside the World of Petplay
Send us Fan MailWhat happens when humans shed language, drop to all fours, and find freedom in a collar? In this deep-dive Petplay episode of Behind the Paddle, host Porcelain Victoria explores the culture, psychology, and practicalities of pet/handler dynamics from ancient animal rites to modern pup hoods and kitten ears.You’ll hear:What petplay is (and isn’t): clear consent lines, why it’s not zoophilia, and how sexuality ranges from non-sexual nurture to explicitly erotic power exchange.A quick history: shapeshifting gods, shamanic rites, leather culture, and the internet boom that made pups, ponies, kittens, and fantasy creatures visible worldwide.Petspace 101: the creature headspace, common triggers, and ways to enter/exit safely.Rituals & training: grooming, feeding, bedtime, obedience games, and bratty play—plus discipline styles that build trust.Handlers & ownership: roles (Handler, Trainer, Owner), traits of a good dominant, and what a healthy bond looks like.Community & visibility: public play etiquette, pet zones at events, and finding your pack.The deep emotions: shame and exposure, healing through animal role, nonverbal communication, red flags, and repair.Commitment & endings: collaring ceremonies, aftercare for drop, and how to navigate breakups with care.If you loved this episode, follow the show, leave a rating, and share it with someone who wags, purrs, or prances. 🐾Support the showCheck out our socials!Thank you so much for listening 💖
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E93:How to be you part 6
Send us Fan MailWhat if everything you've been taught about being "normal" is actually rooted in systems of oppression? Welcome to a thought-provoking journey through the hidden forces that shape our understanding of executive functioning and neurodivergence.Diving into Ellie Middleton's "How to Be You," we explore how capitalism has trained us to equate our worth with productivity and independence. When profit becomes more important than people, our natural variations in planning, focus, and organization are reframed as personal failings rather than simply different ways of processing the world. We unpack how government cuts to support services have made it even harder for neurodivergent people to access the accommodations they need.Support the showCheck out our socials!Thank you so much for listening 💖
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E92: The Nordic Model vs. Decriminalization
Send us Fan Mail Behindthepaddle podcast takes listeners inside one of the most polarizing debates in feminist and political history: the Nordic Model versus decriminalisation of sex work. With personal testimony, global case studies, and voices from sex-worker–led groups like SWARM, Scot-PEP, and Umbrella Lane, this episode dismantles myths, exposes the harms of Ash Regan’s proposed “End Demand” Bill in Scotland, and contrasts it with New Zealand’s evidence-based model of decriminalisation. From health and human rights to stigma, migration, class, and survival, Two Roads makes clear that this isn’t about abstract law it’s about dignity, safety, and the right to choose our futures. Support the showCheck out our socials!Thank you so much for listening 💖
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E91:How to be you part 5
Send us Fan MailWhat if everything you've been taught about being "normal" is actually rooted in systems of oppression? Welcome to a thought-provoking journey through the hidden forces that shape our understanding of executive functioning and neurodivergence.Diving into Ellie Middleton's "How to Be You," we explore how capitalism has trained us to equate our worth with productivity and independence. When profit becomes more important than people, our natural variations in planning, focus, and organization are reframed as personal failings rather than simply different ways of processing the world. We unpack how government cuts to support services have made it even harder for neurodivergent people to access the accommodations they need.Support the showCheck out our socials!Thank you so much for listening 💖
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E90:Burgers and Ballgags: Inside Munches and Play Parties in the BDSM World
Send us Fan Mail From diner booths to dungeon floors, “Burgers and Ballgags: Inside Munches and Play Parties in the BDSM World” explores the social and sexual spaces where kink comes alive. Porcelain Victoria guides you through the history, the people, and the rules that shape these gatherings from the casual comfort of a munch to the charged intensity of a play party. This is not porn, not fantasy, but the real story of how community, consent, vulnerability, and desire meet in public kink. Support the showCheck out our socials!Thank you so much for listening 💖
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E89: Secrets in the Sheets: Husbands, Fetishes, and the Cost of Silence
Send us Fan MailWelcome to Behindthepaddle. I’m Porcelain Victoria, and this episode… is a tender one.Today, we’re stepping into the bedroom but not just for fun. We’re pulling open the drawer of secrets. Hidden fetishes. Quiet urges. And those deeply human moments when a husband or partner finally tells the truth… to the person they love most.We’re talking about the difference between being honest and being unfaithful. Between sharing a kink and hiding it with someone else. Between keeping secrets… and finally being real.Support the showCheck out our socials!Thank you so much for listening 💖
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E88: How to be you part 4
Send us Fan MailWhat if everything you've been taught about being "normal" is actually rooted in systems of oppression? Welcome to a thought-provoking journey through the hidden forces that shape our understanding of executive functioning and neurodivergence.Diving into Ellie Middleton's "How to Be You," we explore how capitalism has trained us to equate our worth with productivity and independence. When profit becomes more important than people, our natural variations in planning, focus, and organization are reframed as personal failings rather than simply different ways of processing the world. We unpack how government cuts to support services have made it even harder for neurodivergent people to access the accommodations they need.Support the showCheck out our socials!Thank you so much for listening 💖
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E87:Crayons, Contracts, and Care: Inside the World of DDLG and Caregiver/Little Dynamics
Send us Fan MailBehindthepaddle Podcast invites you inside one of the most tender, misunderstood, and intimate corners of the BDSM world: Caregiver/little dynamics.We explore the acronyms (DDLG, CGL, MDLB, Littles, Middles, Brats), the psychology of regression and attachment, the rituals of rules and punishments, and the playful, sometimes erotic, worlds of diapers, pacis, and discipline.We dive deep into:What regression really is (and isn’t)Why structure makes Littles feel safeThe brat’s defiance as a plea for loveRituals of affirmation and daily caregiving practicesThe risks of Littlespace, drop, and unsafe dynamicsHow permission to need, regress, defy, and be loved is the heart of it allSupport the showCheck out our socials!Thank you so much for listening 💖
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E86: How to be you part 3
Send us Fan MailWhat if everything you've been taught about being "normal" is actually rooted in systems of oppression? Welcome to a thought-provoking journey through the hidden forces that shape our understanding of executive functioning and neurodivergence.Diving into Ellie Middleton's "How to Be You," we explore how capitalism has trained us to equate our worth with productivity and independence. When profit becomes more important than people, our natural variations in planning, focus, and organization are reframed as personal failings rather than simply different ways of processing the world. We unpack how government cuts to support services have made it even harder for neurodivergent people to access the accommodations they need.Support the showCheck out our socials!Thank you so much for listening 💖
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E85:Kink vs Fetish
Send us Fan MailIn this episode, I dive into one of the questions I hear all the time: what’s the difference between a kink and a fetish? These two words get thrown around a lot, but they aren’t the same thing and understanding the difference can change how we see ourselves and our sex lives.I share my own experience as someone who needs BDSM in my life to feel whole and authentic, but who can still enjoy and orgasm through vanilla sex. For me, kink is the language of my desire not always required for climax, but absolutely essential for fulfillment.We’ll also look at how fetish has been understood historically, why it was once pathologized, and how modern sex-positive approaches view it today. Along the way, I’ll reflect on how kink expands pleasure, how fetish sometimes replaces it, and why neither is something to be ashamed of.Support the showCheck out our socials!Thank you so much for listening 💖
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E84:How to be you part 2
Send us Fan MailHello welcome to Behindthepaddle podcast, what happens when your brain constantly pulls you in opposite directions? When one part craves structure while another needs novelty, or when one side thrives on patterns while another demands constant stimulation? This fascinating tension sits at the heart of Ellie Middletons transformative book "How to Be You," which we explore in depth on this episode of Behind the Paddle Podcast.The book presents a "pick-and-mix" approach to executive functioning strategies, acknowledging that no single method works consistently for neurodivergent brains. This feels revolutionary in a world where we're often made to feel broken for not fitting into neurotypical productivity models. As the author confesses to having drawers full of barely-used planners and abandoned productivity apps, many listeners will feel deeply seen and validated.Support the showSupport the showCheck out our socials!Thank you so much for listening 💖
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E83: Beyond The Dungeon: Exploring SSC, RACK & PRICK in BDSM
Send us Fan MailWelcome to Behind the Paddle podcast. Today we are speaking about BDSM not as a hobby, not as a kink to be giggled at behind closed doors, and not as a fleeting curiosity but as a world. A world of power, of discipline, of trust. A world of deeply human longing and deeply consensual depravity. A world some of us live in every single day.Whether you’re new to this world or have bruises that still carry stories from years past, this episode is for you.Let’s begin with a truth: BDSM is not about violence.Support the showCheck out our socials!Thank you so much for listening 💖
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E82:How to be you part 1
Send us Fan MailHello welcome to Behindthepaddle podcast, what happens when your brain constantly pulls you in opposite directions? When one part craves structure while another needs novelty, or when one side thrives on patterns while another demands constant stimulation? This fascinating tension sits at the heart of Ellie Middletons transformative book "How to Be You," which we explore in depth on this episode of Behind the Paddle Podcast.The book presents a "pick-and-mix" approach to executive functioning strategies, acknowledging that no single method works consistently for neurodivergent brains. This feels revolutionary in a world where we're often made to feel broken for not fitting into neurotypical productivity models. As the author confesses to having drawers full of barely-used planners and abandoned productivity apps, many listeners will feel deeply seen and validated.Support the showCheck out our socials!Thank you so much for listening 💖
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E81: How It all began- How i become a whoreified deviant
Send us Fan MailHello and welcome back to Behind the paddle podcast in todays episode I share my deeply personal journey into sex work, from discovering sexuality through late-night TV at 12 to performing webcam shows as a teen and entering in-person work at 17. My story highlights how lack of proper sex education and support made me vulnerable. Without guidance, I turned to virtual spaces like Second Life, where I first monetized my sexuality. Throughout, I experienced adults failing to protect me,police dismissing my story, club owners neglecting safety checks exposing systemic gaps. I believe open, honest conversations with children about bodies, consent, and sexuality are crucial. Creating safe spaces for questions and understanding beats silence and stigma. Only through education can we protect future generations from similar dangers.Support the showCheck out our socials!Thank you so much for listening 💖
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E80:Revolting Prostitutes p22 Finale
Send us Fan MailJoin Porcelain Victoria in this episode of Behind the Paddle Podcast as she reads and discusses pages 215-221 of Revolting Prostitutes, a groundbreaking work that challenges societal views on sex work. Delve into the critical themes of agency, labor, and the intersections of identity and exploitation. In this intimate reading, Porcelain brings her unique perspective to the text, offering insights and reflections on the issues that shape the lives of sex workers worldwide. Tune in for a thought-provoking and unapologetic exploration of a world often misunderstood. Support the showCheck out our socials!Thank you so much for listening 💖
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E79: I was Charged with Brothel Keeping part 2 Brothel keeping laws
Send us Fan MailIn this raw and urgent episode of Behindthepaddle, host Porcelain Victoria breaks her silence after being charged under Scotland’s archaic brothel-keeping laws—laws that criminalize sex workers for simply trying to work together in safety.Porcelain shares her personal story of the raid, the trauma of being treated like a criminal for surviving, and the systemic violence embedded in legislation that claims to “protect” while actively endangering lives. This is more than a story it’s a call to action.We unpack what Section 11 of the Criminal Law (Consolidation) (Scotland) Act 1995 really means, how it devastates sex workers across the UK, and why the right to safety should never be a crime. With insights from the English Collective of Prostitutes and lived experience from the front lines, this episode reveals the human cost of legal hypocrisy.This is the episode they don’t want you to hear.This is sex work. This is survival.This is what happens when you try to stay safe and the law makes it illegal.Support the showCheck out our socials!Thank you so much for listening 💖
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E78:Revolting Prostitutes p21
Send us Fan MailJoin Porcelain Victoria in this episode of Behind the Paddle Podcast as she reads and discusses pages 204-215 of Revolting Prostitutes, a groundbreaking work that challenges societal views on sex work. Delve into the critical themes of agency, labor, and the intersections of identity and exploitation. In this intimate reading, Porcelain brings her unique perspective to the text, offering insights and reflections on the issues that shape the lives of sex workers worldwide. Tune in for a thought-provoking and unapologetic exploration of a world often misunderstood. Support the showCheck out our socials!Thank you so much for listening 💖
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E77: I was charged with Brothel Keeping Part 1 My Story
Send us Fan MailOne knock on the door changed everything. Twenty police officers with a battering ram stood ready to break down my door – all because I, a dominatrix, had created a safe workspace with security measures and safety equipment.Safety shouldn't be criminal. Yet here in the UK, sex workers face an impossible choice: work alone and risk violence, or work together and risk arrest. This raw, emotional episode takes you through my journey of being charged with "brothel keeping" not for exploitation, trafficking, or harm, but simply for trying to survive in a system designed to keep us vulnerable.I share the gut-wrenching details of my police raid, from being paraded in front of neighbors in a riot van to spending hours in a cold cell wondering if I'd ever see my child again. When a lead officer callously remarked "I guess your pockets won't be so flush" upon hearing my concerns about supporting my family, I realized this wasn't about protection – it was about punishment.For over a year, I lived with the threat of prosecution hanging over me, unable to legally speak to witnesses, watching my professional network crumble, and struggling with PTSD. Though my charges were eventually dropped, the trauma remains, along with a criminal record that makes exiting sex work nearly impossible.This episode isn't just my story it's a window into why decriminalization matters. We don't arrest people who use safe drug consumption rooms because we understand harm reduction saves lives. Why then do we criminalize sex workers for implementing the same safety principles?Listen as I share what I'd planned to tell the court before my case was dismissed, and learn how organizations like the English Collective of Prostitutes provide crucial support to those criminalized for their own safety. This is about more than sex work – it's about human rights, harm reduction, and a system that criminalizes care.Support the showCheck out our socials!Thank you so much for listening 💖
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E76: Tethered Hearts: The Sacred Art of Aftercare in BDSM
Send us Fan MailWelcome to Behindthepaddle podcast with me, Porcelain Victoria. In this deeply personal and richly detailed episode, we unravel the sacred, often overlooked practice of aftercare in BDSM. Beyond cuddles and comfort, aftercare is a neurological, emotional, and ethical process—an act of reverence for the intensity we co-create.From the altered states of subspace and Domspace to the rituals that ground us, this episode explores aftercare as an art form, a science, and a moral responsibility. Whether you play soft or heavy, solo or in a dynamic, what happens after the scene can be just as profound as what happens within it.Support the showCheck out our socials!Thank you so much for listening 💖
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E75:Revolting Prostitutes p20
Send us Fan MailJoin Porcelain Victoria in this episode of Behind the Paddle Podcast as she reads and discusses pages 193-203 of Revolting Prostitutes, a groundbreaking work that challenges societal views on sex work. Delve into the critical themes of agency, labor, and the intersections of identity and exploitation. In this intimate reading, Porcelain brings her unique perspective to the text, offering insights and reflections on the issues that shape the lives of sex workers worldwide. Tune in for a thought-provoking and unapologetic exploration of a world often misunderstood. Support the showCheck out our socials!Thank you so much for listening 💖
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E74: Rope Bondage with Miss Fay Morgan Part 2
Send us Fan MailWelcome to BehindthePaddle Podcast in today’s episode we will be speaking to the amazing Miss Fay Morgan. Rope bondage transcends the physical act of tying knots, creating a profound psychological landscape where vulnerability, surrender, and healing intertwine. In this second installment of our rope series, guest expert Faye Morgan takes us deeper into the emotional terrain of shibari and rope bondage, exploring how these practices can foster deep connection and sometimes unexpected transformation.https://missfaymorgan.com/https://linktr.ee/faymorganhttps://fetlife.com/MissFayMorgan/https://x.com/Miss_Fay_Morgan/Support the showCheck out our socials!Thank you so much for listening 💖
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E73:Revolting Prostitutes p19
Send us Fan MailJoin Porcelain Victoria in this episode of Behind the Paddle Podcast as she reads and discusses pages 182-192 of Revolting Prostitutes, a groundbreaking work that challenges societal views on sex work. Delve into the critical themes of agency, labor, and the intersections of identity and exploitation. In this intimate reading, Porcelain brings her unique perspective to the text, offering insights and reflections on the issues that shape the lives of sex workers worldwide. Tune in for a thought-provoking and unapologetic exploration of a world often misunderstood. Support the showCheck out our socials!Thank you so much for listening 💖
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E72: Rope Bondage with Miss Fay Morgan Part 1
Send us Fan MailIn this deeply textured episode of Behindthepaddle, Porcelain Victoria is joined by the enigmatic and skilled rope practitioner @MissFayMorgan whose eight years of experience in shibari and rope bondage span teaching, performance, and profound emotional connection. Together, they untangle the physical, psychological, and spiritual dimensions of rope play from the meditative tension of a single column tie to the breathless beauty of full suspensions.Whether you're curious about trying rope for the first time or looking to deepen your existing practice, this episode offers invaluable insights into the technical, emotional, and spiritual dimensions of this intimate art form. Follow Miss Fay Morgan on FetLife or Twitter/X to learn more about her workshops and professional sessions in Edinburgh and Glasgow.https://linktr.ee/faymorganhttps://fetlife.com/MissFayMorgan/https://x.com/Miss_Fay_Morgan/https://missfaymorgan.com/Support the showCheck out our socials!Thank you so much for listening 💖
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E71:Revolting Prostitutes p18
Send us Fan MailJoin Porcelain Victoria in this episode of Behind the Paddle Podcast as she reads and discusses pages 172-182 of Revolting Prostitutes, a groundbreaking work that challenges societal views on sex work. Delve into the critical themes of agency, labor, and the intersections of identity and exploitation. In this intimate reading, Porcelain brings her unique perspective to the text, offering insights and reflections on the issues that shape the lives of sex workers worldwide. Tune in for a thought-provoking and unapologetic exploration of a world often misunderstood. Support the showCheck out our socials!Thank you so much for listening 💖
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E70:The Sexy Side of Healing: Virgin Island's Somatica Method Explained
Send us Fan MailIn this provocative episode of Behindthepaddle podcast we explore kink, shame, and embodied consent, I sit down with Celeste Hirschman and Dr. Danielle Harel, co-founders of the Somatica Institute and stars of Channel 4's Virgin Island, to uncover why somatica is such a wonderful practice we all need to learn about and what practices truly keep us safe.Whether you're kinky, curious, or simply interested in more authentic relationships, this episode offers practical wisdom on reading body language, providing meaningful aftercare (yes, even for dominants!), and recognizing when pleasure transforms into dissociation. Join us as we discover why "if you can't read a submissive's body, you're not ready to touch it" and how we might all learn to listen better to the wisdom our bodies already know.Want to learn more ?https://www.somaticainstitute.com/https://www.instagram.com/somatica_institute?igsh=MTI1eDJlNDZvbHczag==Support the showCheck out our socials!Thank you so much for listening 💖
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E69:Revolting Prostitutes p17
Send us Fan MailJoin Porcelain Victoria in this episode of Behind the Paddle Podcast as she reads and discusses pages 162-172 of Revolting Prostitutes, a groundbreaking work that challenges societal views on sex work. Delve into the critical themes of agency, labor, and the intersections of identity and exploitation. In this intimate reading, Porcelain brings her unique perspective to the text, offering insights and reflections on the issues that shape the lives of sex workers worldwide. Tune in for a thought-provoking and unapologetic exploration of a world often misunderstood. Support the showCheck out our socials!Thank you so much for listening 💖
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E68:Cups, Confidence, and Change: Ending Period Poverty with the Menstrual Cup
Send us Fan MailImagine a world where half the population regularly misses school, work, or risks their health due to a completely solvable problem. That's the reality of period poverty a crisis affecting 500 million menstruators worldwide every month.Christine Denning takes us on an eye-opening journey through her work tackling this global injustice. After discovering that period poverty wasn't just an issue in developing nations but also in places like London, New York, and everywhere in between, she pivoted her entire career to focus on a solution that's been hiding in plain sight for 88 years: the menstrual cup.Want to be part of the solution? Visit couldyou.org to learn how you can help provide a 10-year solution to someone in need or purchase your own cup through their buy-one-give-one program at https://couldyou.org/Support the showCheck out our socials!Thank you so much for listening 💖
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E67:Revolting Prostitutes p16
Send us Fan MailJoin Porcelain Victoria in this episode of Behind the Paddle Podcast as she reads and discusses pages 151-162 of Revolting Prostitutes, a groundbreaking work that challenges societal views on sex work. Delve into the critical themes of agency, labor, and the intersections of identity and exploitation. In this intimate reading, Porcelain brings her unique perspective to the text, offering insights and reflections on the issues that shape the lives of sex workers worldwide. Tune in for a thought-provoking and unapologetic exploration of a world often misunderstood. Support the showCheck out our socials!Thank you so much for listening 💖
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E66:The Hidden Intimacy of Phone Domination: Safety, Trust, and Digital Power
Send us Fan MailWelcome to BehindthePaddle podcast on this episode, The sultry voice on the other end of the phone line has been commanding submission long before webcams and instant messaging. From late-night hotline advertisements in the 1980s to today's digital dungeons on platforms like OnlyFans and NiteFlirt, phone-based domination continues to thrive offering both liberation and hidden dangers.Our guest Gareth shares his five-year journey with phone domination and online relationships, revealing both the beautiful connections possible and the devastating harm that occurs when boundaries are violated. Support the showCheck out our socials!Thank you so much for listening 💖
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ABOUT THIS SHOW
Welcome to "Behind the Paddle", the podcast that explores the fascinating world of sex across a wide spectrum of topics; from LGBTQ+ and feminine power, to kink, sex work and the adult industry. We aim to inform, inspire and entertain, featuring expert interviews, compelling stories, and thought provoking discussions.Join Porcelain Victoria (a very experienced Pro-Dominatrix of 8yrs) on a funny and wonderfully truthful look at the world through the lens of a BDSM practitioner working in the sex industry.She will also be answering listeners questions about real-life queries which will be discussed on the podcast. These can be sent in via email or through anysocials. Email: behindthepaddlepodcast(at)gmail.comOur socials: https://allmylinks.com/behindthepaddle
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Porcelain Victoria
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