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Send us Fan MailThe Life and Work of Cynthia Payne Cynthia Diana Paine born 24 December 1932, she was known professionally as Cynthia Payne and nicknamed Madam Cyn, was an English madam, brothel keeper, party hostess, and media personality. She was widely considered to be Britain's best known madam. She made headlines throughout the 1970s and 1980s, when she was convicted of running a brothel at 32 Ambleside Avenue in Streatham, south London.Support the showCheck out our socials!Thank you so much for listening 💖

Send us Fan MailThe Life and Work of Cynthia Payne Cynthia Diana Paine born 24 December 1932, she was known professionally as Cynthia Payne and nicknamed Madam Cyn, was an English madam, brothel keeper, party hostess, and media personality. She was widely considered to be Britain's best known madam. She made headlines throughout the 1970s and 1980s, when she was convicted of running a brothel at 32 Ambleside Avenue in Streatham, south London.Support the showCheck out our socials!Thank you so much for listening 💖

Send us Fan MailThe Life and Work of Cynthia Payne Cynthia Diana Paine born 24 December 1932, she was known professionally as Cynthia Payne and nicknamed Madam Cyn, was an English madam, brothel keeper, party hostess, and media personality. She was widely considered to be Britain's best known madam. She made headlines throughout the 1970s and 1980s, when she was convicted of running a brothel at 32 Ambleside Avenue in Streatham, south London.Support the showCheck out our socials!Thank you so much for listening 💖

Send us Fan MailThe Life and Work of Cynthia Payne Cynthia Diana Paine born 24 December 1932, she was known professionally as Cynthia Payne and nicknamed Madam Cyn, was an English madam, brothel keeper, party hostess, and media personality. She was widely considered to be Britain's best known madam. She made headlines throughout the 1970s and 1980s, when she was convicted of running a brothel at 32 Ambleside Avenue in Streatham, south London.Support the showCheck out our socials!Thank you so much for listening 💖

Send us Fan MailThe Life and Work of Cynthia Payne Cynthia Diana Paine born 24 December 1932, she was known professionally as Cynthia Payne and nicknamed Madam Cyn, was an English madam, brothel keeper, party hostess, and media personality. She was widely considered to be Britain's best known madam. She made headlines throughout the 1970s and 1980s, when she was convicted of running a brothel at 32 Ambleside Avenue in Streatham, south London.Support the showCheck out our socials!Thank you so much for listening 💖

Send us Fan MailThe Life and Work of Cynthia Payne Cynthia Diana Paine born 24 December 1932, she was known professionally as Cynthia Payne and nicknamed Madam Cyn, was an English madam, brothel keeper, party hostess, and media personality. She was widely considered to be Britain's best known madam. She made headlines throughout the 1970s and 1980s, when she was convicted of running a brothel at 32 Ambleside Avenue in Streatham, south London.Support the showCheck out our socials!Thank you so much for listening 💖

Send us Fan MailThis was taken from my bimonthly Zoom event. I’ve been thinking a lot recently about how some men don’t know either how to navigate in the bedroom, don’t have as much confidence, haven’t much experience or confidence or have trauma therefore needing some mentoring in some manner. I have started to notice in my years of being a companion that there is an increase in men using my services who either aren’t as experienced or aren’t as confident within themselves when in the bedroom. Well luckily for you I am here to guide you. I absolutely adore teaching people (not just men) how to not just pleasure a woman but also learn more facts about both bodies going into detail but not too much detail that it overloads the brain within a short time frame. I myself am talented in pleasuring people sexually. I know what I like, how I like it with a plethora of knowledge let me help you. T I’ve been working as a professional sex worker for 9yrs in that time I have grown not just personally but professionally I’m a autistic adhd pansexual switch 27yr old ive been told im open minded, an open book, easy to talk to,mind blowing knowledge about the human body, I'm patient and willing to hear you out. I’ve been practicing BDSM for over 11yrs I’m a switch so I know what it’s like to be on the flip side which personally gives me in my opinion a better insight in how to be a better dom. How to spank, how to look for indications your play partner might be freezing up, uncomfortable or just enjoying the scene.This is something I massively specialise in and I enjoy teaching. Seeing my clients flourish.Support the showCheck out our socials!Thank you so much for listening 💖

Send us Fan MailBaby Bumps & Backlash: S*x Work and Pregnancy. This episode came about from hearing about Bonnie Blues pregnancy gangbang/golden shower. In this episode of Behindthepaddle podcast you will hear from myself who has done adult content while pregnant. I will explain why, how I felt at the time and how I currently feel and how moving forward we can help pregnant women. This experience is from somebody who has lived and breathed it and I think that’s very important when listening to what needs to change.Support the showCheck out our socials!Thank you so much for listening 💖

Send us Fan MailBaby Bumps & Backlash: S*x Work and Pregnancy. This episode came about from hearing about Bonnie Blues pregnancy gangbang/golden shower. In this episode of Behindthepaddle podcast you will hear from myself who has done adult content while pregnant. I will explain why, how I felt at the time and how I currently feel and how moving forward we can help pregnant women. This experience is from somebody who has lived and breathed it and I think that’s very important when listening to what needs to change.Support the showCheck out our socials!Thank you so much for listening 💖

Send us Fan MailThe Life and Work of Cynthia Payne Cynthia Diana Paine born 24 December 1932, she was known professionally as Cynthia Payne and nicknamed Madam Cyn, was an English madam, brothel keeper, party hostess, and media personality. She was widely considered to be Britain's best known madam. She made headlines throughout the 1970s and 1980s, when she was convicted of running a brothel at 32 Ambleside Avenue in Streatham, south London.Support the showCheck out our socials!Thank you so much for listening 💖

Send us Fan MailThe Life and Work of Cynthia Payne Cynthia Diana Paine born 24 December 1932, she was known professionally as Cynthia Payne and nicknamed Madam Cyn, was an English madam, brothel keeper, party hostess, and media personality. She was widely considered to be Britain's best known madam. She made headlines throughout the 1970s and 1980s, when she was convicted of running a brothel at 32 Ambleside Avenue in Streatham, south London.Support the showCheck out our socials!Thank you so much for listening 💖

Send us Fan MailThe Life and Work of Cynthia Payne Cynthia Diana Paine born 24 December 1932, she was known professionally as Cynthia Payne and nicknamed Madam Cyn, was an English madam, brothel keeper, party hostess, and media personality. She was widely considered to be Britain's best known madam. She made headlines throughout the 1970s and 1980s, when she was convicted of running a brothel at 32 Ambleside Avenue in Streatham, south London.Support the showCheck out our socials!Thank you so much for listening 💖

Send us Fan MailThe Life and Work of Cynthia Payne Cynthia Diana Paine born 24 December 1932, she was known professionally as Cynthia Payne and nicknamed Madam Cyn, was an English madam, brothel keeper, party hostess, and media personality. She was widely considered to be Britain's best known madam. She made headlines throughout the 1970s and 1980s, when she was convicted of running a brothel at 32 Ambleside Avenue in Streatham, south London.Support the showCheck out our socials!Thank you so much for listening 💖

Send us Fan MailThe Life and Work of Cynthia Payne Cynthia Diana Paine born 24 December 1932, she was known professionally as Cynthia Payne and nicknamed Madam Cyn, was an English madam, brothel keeper, party hostess, and media personality. She was widely considered to be Britain's best known madam. She made headlines throughout the 1970s and 1980s, when she was convicted of running a brothel at 32 Ambleside Avenue in Streatham, south London.Support the showCheck out our socials!Thank you so much for listening 💖

Send us Fan MailThe Life and Work of Cynthia Payne Cynthia Diana Paine born 24 December 1932, she was known professionally as Cynthia Payne and nicknamed Madam Cyn, was an English madam, brothel keeper, party hostess, and media personality. She was widely considered to be Britain's best known madam. She made headlines throughout the 1970s and 1980s, when she was convicted of running a brothel at 32 Ambleside Avenue in Streatham, south London.Support the showCheck out our socials!Thank you so much for listening 💖

Send us Fan MailCynthia Diana Paine born 24 December 1932, she was known professionally as Cynthia Payne and nicknamed Madam Cyn, was an English madam, brothel keeper, party hostess, and media personality. She was widely considered to be Britain's best known madam. She made headlines throughout the 1970s and 1980s, when she was convicted of running a brothel at 32 Ambleside Avenue in Streatham, south London.Support the showCheck out our socials!Thank you so much for listening 💖

Send us Fan MailToday we are talking about the horrific lies of Ash Regan and the uneducated people who supported her bill. Mixing up consensual sex work and trafficking, making vocal sex workers ghosts who have no voice when spoken. The laughs by the supports of the Nordic model when told about the facts and evidence the Nordic model does indeed endanger not just sex workers but trafficked women. I was there at Parliament sitting in the seats as they mocked women who consented to sex work. Let me bring you through what trauma i/we all endured sitting there having to be in silence just like how they want our voices.Support the showCheck out our socials!Thank you so much for listening 💖

Send us Fan MailWhat if everything you've been taught about being "normal" is actually rooted in systems of oppression? Welcome to a thought-provoking journey through the hidden forces that shape our understanding of executive functioning and neurodivergence.Diving into Ellie Middleton's "How to Be You," we explore how capitalism has trained us to equate our worth with productivity and independence. When profit becomes more important than people, our natural variations in planning, focus, and organization are reframed as personal failings rather than simply different ways of processing the world. We unpack how government cuts to support services have made it even harder for neurodivergent people to access the accommodations they need.Support the showCheck out our socials!Thank you so much for listening 💖

Send us Fan MailThe men didn't think the women could do it. The 6888th Central Postal Directory Battalion were an amazing group of women who stared into the faces of inequality, racism and sexism whom defined all odds. Everyone was against the women they didn't think they could sort 17million pieces of mail. In WW2 leaders thought that low moral was the cause of so many dying so they put 6888 Battalion in charge. Please listen to the amazing story of how the fight for coloured women's rights made a mark in history. Support the showCheck out our socials!Thank you so much for listening 💖

Send us Fan MailWhat if everything you've been taught about being "normal" is actually rooted in systems of oppression? Welcome to a thought-provoking journey through the hidden forces that shape our understanding of executive functioning and neurodivergence.Diving into Ellie Middleton's "How to Be You," we explore how capitalism has trained us to equate our worth with productivity and independence. When profit becomes more important than people, our natural variations in planning, focus, and organization are reframed as personal failings rather than simply different ways of processing the world. We unpack how government cuts to support services have made it even harder for neurodivergent people to access the accommodations they need.Support the showCheck out our socials!Thank you so much for listening 💖

Send us Fan MailIn this episode of Behindthepaddle, we take a critical look at the widely circulated booklet Decriminalisation vs the Nordic Model. Rather than debating ideology, this episode focuses on how the argument is constructed — from the emotional framing in the opening pages to the way evidence from New Zealand, Germany, and Europe is later presented.We unpack how language, selective survivor testimony, and eye-catching statistics are used to guide the reader toward a predetermined conclusion, and why this matters for anyone engaging in good-faith conversations about sex work policy. This isn’t about denying harm — it’s about asking whether harm reduction debates can be honest, nuanced, and evidence-based.If you’ve ever been sent this booklet as a “gotcha,” this episode offers the context needed to read it more critically.https://nordicmodelnow.org/wp-content/uploads/2022/04/Decrim-vs-the-NM-booklet.pdfBBC Episode - with myselfhttps://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/m002msdjSupport the showCheck out our socials!Thank you so much for listening 💖

Send us Fan MailIn this episode of Behindthepaddle, we take a critical look at the widely circulated booklet Decriminalisation vs the Nordic Model. Rather than debating ideology, this episode focuses on how the argument is constructed — from the emotional framing in the opening pages to the way evidence from New Zealand, Germany, and Europe is later presented.We unpack how language, selective survivor testimony, and eye-catching statistics are used to guide the reader toward a predetermined conclusion, and why this matters for anyone engaging in good-faith conversations about sex work policy. This isn’t about denying harm — it’s about asking whether harm reduction debates can be honest, nuanced, and evidence-based.If you’ve ever been sent this booklet as a “gotcha,” this episode offers the context needed to read it more critically.https://nordicmodelnow.org/wp-content/uploads/2022/04/Decrim-vs-the-NM-booklet.pdfBBC Episode - with myselfhttps://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/m002msdjSupport the showCheck out our socials!Thank you so much for listening 💖

Send us Fan MailToday we will be talking about International Day to End Violence Against Sex Workers.This day exists because too many people who sold sex were harmed, ignored, disappeared, and killed and because the world decided that was acceptable, or at least inevitable.Some sex workers' deaths,assaults, disappearances aren't even accounted for.For the people whose lives were reduced to headlines that began with “Prostitute found…” Never questioned why, why did they happen. What can we do to prevent it. Support the showCheck out our socials!Thank you so much for listening 💖

Send us Fan MailWhat if everything you've been taught about being "normal" is actually rooted in systems of oppression? Welcome to a thought-provoking journey through the hidden forces that shape our understanding of executive functioning and neurodivergence.Diving into Ellie Middleton's "How to Be You," we explore how capitalism has trained us to equate our worth with productivity and independence. When profit becomes more important than people, our natural variations in planning, focus, and organization are reframed as personal failings rather than simply different ways of processing the world. We unpack how government cuts to support services have made it even harder for neurodivergent people to access the accommodations they need.Support the showCheck out our socials!Thank you so much for listening 💖

Send us Fan MailToday we dive dep into the serial killers Burke & Haire learning how Edinburgh has encapsulated these killers into the modern day world Support the showCheck out our socials!Thank you so much for listening 💖

Send us Fan MailBefore BDSM had a place in the public eye, one woman stepped into the frame and smiled through the ropes. In this Behindthepaddle deep dive, Victoria explores how Bettie Page a Southern girl with a homemade fringe  revolutionised erotic culture. From her trauma-shaped childhood to the Klaw Studios era of playful bondage, from moral panic to mental-health battles, and finally to her mythical return as a feminist and fetish icon, this episode reveals the woman who made kink visible…and made consent look like joy.Support the showCheck out our socials!Thank you so much for listening 💖

Send us Fan MailWhat if everything you've been taught about being "normal" is actually rooted in systems of oppression? Welcome to a thought-provoking journey through the hidden forces that shape our understanding of executive functioning and neurodivergence.Diving into Ellie Middleton's "How to Be You," we explore how capitalism has trained us to equate our worth with productivity and independence. When profit becomes more important than people, our natural variations in planning, focus, and organization are reframed as personal failings rather than simply different ways of processing the world. We unpack how government cuts to support services have made it even harder for neurodivergent people to access the accommodations they need.Support the showCheck out our socials!Thank you so much for listening 💖

Send us Fan MailWanna hear me go on a rant about how families should teach their kids about sex etc ? I try twice to focus back to Amsterdam the Prostitute  Museum but there are so many reasons why as a society we see sex as taboo. Please listen in on how I a sex worker of 8yrs found Amsterdams Red Light District. Decriminalisation all the way Support the showCheck out our socials!Thank you so much for listening 💖

Send us Fan MailIn this episode I talk about how hectic the past two months have been with BBC interviews, Parliament visits, being a single mum and my Amsterdam work trip away. Want to know what its like being a sex worker ? Its just like any other person doing a job, this one is just a little bit more interesting than mostSupport the showCheck out our socials!Thank you so much for listening 💖

Send us Fan MailWhat if everything you've been taught about being "normal" is actually rooted in systems of oppression? Welcome to a thought-provoking journey through the hidden forces that shape our understanding of executive functioning and neurodivergence.Diving into Ellie Middleton's "How to Be You," we explore how capitalism has trained us to equate our worth with productivity and independence. When profit becomes more important than people, our natural variations in planning, focus, and organization are reframed as personal failings rather than simply different ways of processing the world. We unpack how government cuts to support services have made it even harder for neurodivergent people to access the accommodations they need.Support the showCheck out our socials!Thank you so much for listening 💖

Send us Fan MailIn The Rage Before the Storm: Living with PMDD, Porcelain Victoria delves into the raw, cyclical reality of Premenstrual Dysphoric Disorder a condition that turns the body’s natural rhythm into emotional warfare. Blending medical insight, feminist critique, and intimate storytelling, this four-hour episode explores the science, stigma, and survival behind PMDD. From hormonal sensitivity and misdiagnosis to relationships, rage, and reclamation.Support the showCheck out our socials!Thank you so much for listening 💖

Send us Fan MailWhat if everything you've been taught about being "normal" is actually rooted in systems of oppression? Welcome to a thought-provoking journey through the hidden forces that shape our understanding of executive functioning and neurodivergence.Diving into Ellie Middleton's "How to Be You," we explore how capitalism has trained us to equate our worth with productivity and independence. When profit becomes more important than people, our natural variations in planning, focus, and organization are reframed as personal failings rather than simply different ways of processing the world. We unpack how government cuts to support services have made it even harder for neurodivergent people to access the accommodations they need.Support the showCheck out our socials!Thank you so much for listening 💖

Send us Fan MailWhat happens when humans shed language, drop to all fours, and find freedom in a collar? In this deep-dive Petplay episode of Behind the Paddle, host Porcelain Victoria explores the culture, psychology, and practicalities of pet/handler dynamics from ancient animal rites to modern pup hoods and kitten ears.You’ll hear:What petplay is (and isn’t): clear consent lines, why it’s not zoophilia, and how sexuality ranges from non-sexual nurture to explicitly erotic power exchange.A quick history: shapeshifting gods, shamanic rites, leather culture, and the internet boom that made pups, ponies, kittens, and fantasy creatures visible worldwide.Petspace 101: the creature headspace, common triggers, and ways to enter/exit safely.Rituals & training: grooming, feeding, bedtime, obedience games, and bratty play—plus discipline styles that build trust.Handlers & ownership: roles (Handler, Trainer, Owner), traits of a good dominant, and what a healthy bond looks like.Community & visibility: public play etiquette, pet zones at events, and finding your pack.The deep emotions: shame and exposure, healing through animal role, nonverbal communication, red flags, and repair.Commitment & endings: collaring ceremonies, aftercare for drop, and how to navigate breakups with care.If you loved this episode, follow the show, leave a rating, and share it with someone who wags, purrs, or prances. 🐾Support the showCheck out our socials!Thank you so much for listening 💖

Send us Fan MailWhat if everything you've been taught about being "normal" is actually rooted in systems of oppression? Welcome to a thought-provoking journey through the hidden forces that shape our understanding of executive functioning and neurodivergence.Diving into Ellie Middleton's "How to Be You," we explore how capitalism has trained us to equate our worth with productivity and independence. When profit becomes more important than people, our natural variations in planning, focus, and organization are reframed as personal failings rather than simply different ways of processing the world. We unpack how government cuts to support services have made it even harder for neurodivergent people to access the accommodations they need.Support the showCheck out our socials!Thank you so much for listening 💖

Send us Fan Mail Behindthepaddle podcast takes listeners inside one of the most polarizing debates in feminist and political history: the Nordic Model versus decriminalisation of sex work. With personal testimony, global case studies, and voices from sex-worker–led groups like SWARM, Scot-PEP, and Umbrella Lane, this episode dismantles myths, exposes the harms of Ash Regan’s proposed “End Demand” Bill in Scotland, and contrasts it with New Zealand’s evidence-based model of decriminalisation. From health and human rights to stigma, migration, class, and survival, Two Roads makes clear that this isn’t about abstract law it’s about dignity, safety, and the right to choose our futures. Support the showCheck out our socials!Thank you so much for listening 💖

Send us Fan MailWhat if everything you've been taught about being "normal" is actually rooted in systems of oppression? Welcome to a thought-provoking journey through the hidden forces that shape our understanding of executive functioning and neurodivergence.Diving into Ellie Middleton's "How to Be You," we explore how capitalism has trained us to equate our worth with productivity and independence. When profit becomes more important than people, our natural variations in planning, focus, and organization are reframed as personal failings rather than simply different ways of processing the world. We unpack how government cuts to support services have made it even harder for neurodivergent people to access the accommodations they need.Support the showCheck out our socials!Thank you so much for listening 💖

Send us Fan Mail From diner booths to dungeon floors, “Burgers and Ballgags: Inside Munches and Play Parties in the BDSM World” explores the social and sexual spaces where kink comes alive. Porcelain Victoria guides you through the history, the people, and the rules that shape these gatherings from the casual comfort of a munch to the charged intensity of a play party. This is not porn, not fantasy, but the real story of how community, consent, vulnerability, and desire meet in public kink. Support the showCheck out our socials!Thank you so much for listening 💖

Send us Fan MailWelcome to Behindthepaddle. I’m Porcelain Victoria, and this episode… is a tender one.Today, we’re stepping into the bedroom but not just for fun. We’re pulling open the drawer of secrets. Hidden fetishes. Quiet urges. And those deeply human moments when a husband or partner finally tells the truth… to the person they love most.We’re talking about the difference between being honest and being unfaithful. Between sharing a kink and hiding it with someone else. Between keeping secrets… and finally being real.Support the showCheck out our socials!Thank you so much for listening 💖

Send us Fan MailWhat if everything you've been taught about being "normal" is actually rooted in systems of oppression? Welcome to a thought-provoking journey through the hidden forces that shape our understanding of executive functioning and neurodivergence.Diving into Ellie Middleton's "How to Be You," we explore how capitalism has trained us to equate our worth with productivity and independence. When profit becomes more important than people, our natural variations in planning, focus, and organization are reframed as personal failings rather than simply different ways of processing the world. We unpack how government cuts to support services have made it even harder for neurodivergent people to access the accommodations they need.Support the showCheck out our socials!Thank you so much for listening 💖

Send us Fan MailBehindthepaddle Podcast invites you inside one of the most tender, misunderstood, and intimate corners of the BDSM world: Caregiver/little dynamics.We explore the acronyms (DDLG, CGL, MDLB, Littles, Middles, Brats), the psychology of regression and attachment, the rituals of rules and punishments, and the playful, sometimes erotic, worlds of diapers, pacis, and discipline.We dive deep into:What regression really is (and isn’t)Why structure makes Littles feel safeThe brat’s defiance as a plea for loveRituals of affirmation and daily caregiving practicesThe risks of Littlespace, drop, and unsafe dynamicsHow permission to need, regress, defy, and be loved is the heart of it allSupport the showCheck out our socials!Thank you so much for listening 💖

Send us Fan MailWhat if everything you've been taught about being "normal" is actually rooted in systems of oppression? Welcome to a thought-provoking journey through the hidden forces that shape our understanding of executive functioning and neurodivergence.Diving into Ellie Middleton's "How to Be You," we explore how capitalism has trained us to equate our worth with productivity and independence. When profit becomes more important than people, our natural variations in planning, focus, and organization are reframed as personal failings rather than simply different ways of processing the world. We unpack how government cuts to support services have made it even harder for neurodivergent people to access the accommodations they need.Support the showCheck out our socials!Thank you so much for listening 💖

Send us Fan MailIn this episode, I dive into one of the questions I hear all the time: what’s the difference between a kink and a fetish? These two words get thrown around a lot, but they aren’t the same thing and understanding the difference can change how we see ourselves and our sex lives.I share my own experience as someone who needs BDSM in my life to feel whole and authentic, but who can still enjoy and orgasm through vanilla sex. For me, kink is the language of my desire not always required for climax, but absolutely essential for fulfillment.We’ll also look at how fetish has been understood historically, why it was once pathologized, and how modern sex-positive approaches view it today. Along the way, I’ll reflect on how kink expands pleasure, how fetish sometimes replaces it, and why neither is something to be ashamed of.Support the showCheck out our socials!Thank you so much for listening 💖

Send us Fan MailHello welcome to Behindthepaddle podcast, what happens when your brain constantly pulls you in opposite directions? When one part craves structure while another needs novelty, or when one side thrives on patterns while another demands constant stimulation? This fascinating tension sits at the heart of Ellie Middletons transformative book "How to Be You," which we explore in depth on this episode of Behind the Paddle Podcast.The book presents a "pick-and-mix" approach to executive functioning strategies, acknowledging that no single method works consistently for neurodivergent brains. This feels revolutionary in a world where we're often made to feel broken for not fitting into neurotypical productivity models. As the author confesses to having drawers full of barely-used planners and abandoned productivity apps, many listeners will feel deeply seen and validated.Support the showSupport the showCheck out our socials!Thank you so much for listening 💖

Send us Fan MailWelcome to Behind the Paddle podcast. Today we are speaking about BDSM not as a hobby, not as a kink to be giggled at behind closed doors, and not as a fleeting curiosity but as a world. A world of power, of discipline, of trust. A world of deeply human longing and deeply consensual depravity. A world some of us live in every single day.Whether you’re new to this world or have bruises that still carry stories from years past, this episode is for you.Let’s begin with a truth: BDSM is not about violence.Support the showCheck out our socials!Thank you so much for listening 💖

Send us Fan MailHello welcome to Behindthepaddle podcast, what happens when your brain constantly pulls you in opposite directions? When one part craves structure while another needs novelty, or when one side thrives on patterns while another demands constant stimulation? This fascinating tension sits at the heart of Ellie Middletons transformative book "How to Be You," which we explore in depth on this episode of Behind the Paddle Podcast.The book presents a "pick-and-mix" approach to executive functioning strategies, acknowledging that no single method works consistently for neurodivergent brains. This feels revolutionary in a world where we're often made to feel broken for not fitting into neurotypical productivity models. As the author confesses to having drawers full of barely-used planners and abandoned productivity apps, many listeners will feel deeply seen and validated.Support the showCheck out our socials!Thank you so much for listening 💖

Send us Fan MailHello and welcome back to Behind the paddle podcast in todays episode I share my deeply personal journey into sex work, from discovering sexuality through late-night TV at 12 to performing webcam shows as a teen and entering in-person work at 17. My story highlights how lack of proper sex education and support made me vulnerable. Without guidance, I turned to virtual spaces like Second Life, where I first monetized my sexuality. Throughout, I experienced adults failing to protect me,police dismissing my story, club owners neglecting safety checks exposing systemic gaps. I believe open, honest conversations with children about bodies, consent, and sexuality are crucial. Creating safe spaces for questions and understanding beats silence and stigma. Only through education can we protect future generations from similar dangers.Support the showCheck out our socials!Thank you so much for listening 💖

Send us Fan MailJoin Porcelain Victoria in this episode of Behind the Paddle Podcast as she reads and discusses pages 215-221 of Revolting Prostitutes, a groundbreaking work that challenges societal views on sex work. Delve into the critical themes of agency, labor, and the intersections of identity and exploitation. In this intimate reading, Porcelain brings her unique perspective to the text, offering insights and reflections on the issues that shape the lives of sex workers worldwide. Tune in for a thought-provoking and unapologetic exploration of a world often misunderstood. Support the showCheck out our socials!Thank you so much for listening 💖

Send us Fan MailIn this raw and urgent episode of Behindthepaddle, host Porcelain Victoria breaks her silence after being charged under Scotland’s archaic brothel-keeping laws—laws that criminalize sex workers for simply trying to work together in safety.Porcelain shares her personal story of the raid, the trauma of being treated like a criminal for surviving, and the systemic violence embedded in legislation that claims to “protect” while actively endangering lives. This is more than a story it’s a call to action.We unpack what Section 11 of the Criminal Law (Consolidation) (Scotland) Act 1995 really means, how it devastates sex workers across the UK, and why the right to safety should never be a crime. With insights from the English Collective of Prostitutes and lived experience from the front lines, this episode reveals the human cost of legal hypocrisy.This is the episode they don’t want you to hear.This is sex work. This is survival.This is what happens when you try to stay safe and the law makes it illegal.Support the showCheck out our socials!Thank you so much for listening 💖

Send us Fan MailJoin Porcelain Victoria in this episode of Behind the Paddle Podcast as she reads and discusses pages 204-215 of Revolting Prostitutes, a groundbreaking work that challenges societal views on sex work. Delve into the critical themes of agency, labor, and the intersections of identity and exploitation. In this intimate reading, Porcelain brings her unique perspective to the text, offering insights and reflections on the issues that shape the lives of sex workers worldwide. Tune in for a thought-provoking and unapologetic exploration of a world often misunderstood. Support the showCheck out our socials!Thank you so much for listening 💖

Send us Fan MailOne knock on the door changed everything. Twenty police officers with a battering ram stood ready to break down my door – all because I, a dominatrix, had created a safe workspace with security measures and safety equipment.Safety shouldn't be criminal. Yet here in the UK, sex workers face an impossible choice: work alone and risk violence, or work together and risk arrest. This raw, emotional episode takes you through my journey of being charged with "brothel keeping"  not for exploitation, trafficking, or harm, but simply for trying to survive in a system designed to keep us vulnerable.I share the gut-wrenching details of my police raid, from being paraded in front of neighbors in a riot van to spending hours in a cold cell wondering if I'd ever see my child again. When a lead officer callously remarked "I guess your pockets won't be so flush" upon hearing my concerns about supporting my family, I realized this wasn't about protection – it was about punishment.For over a year, I lived with the threat of prosecution hanging over me, unable to legally speak to witnesses, watching my professional network crumble, and struggling with PTSD. Though my charges were eventually dropped, the trauma remains, along with a criminal record that makes exiting sex work nearly impossible.This episode isn't just my story it's a window into why decriminalization matters. We don't arrest people who use safe drug consumption rooms because we understand harm reduction saves lives. Why then do we criminalize sex workers for implementing the same safety principles?Listen as I share what I'd planned to tell the court before my case was dismissed, and learn how organizations like the English Collective of Prostitutes provide crucial support to those criminalized for their own safety. This is about more than sex work – it's about human rights, harm reduction, and a system that criminalizes care.Support the showCheck out our socials!Thank you so much for listening 💖