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Beyond the Bedroom
by Birna Gustafsson
Join sex educator Birna Gustafsson for weekly chats on sexuality, discovery, and relationship issues. Whether you’re curious, troubleshooting, or satisfied, there is always room for growth in your sexual journey.
Episodes
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#60 Can You Guide Me? Stop Dropping Hints and Get What You Desire
You can now watch this episode on YouTube! Host Birna Gustafsson invites Sexologist Natassia Miller on for a conversation about monogamy, desire, and how to measure when your sex life is really getting better. She reveals how to set SMART goals for sex (yes, really) and what to do when you feel...
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#59 Come Again? Mindfulness and Multi-Os with Catherine Drysdale
Now also on YouTube! Sex and relationship coach Catherine Drysdale joins Birna to talk about how mindfulness and somatic tools can shift how we experience intimacy. We dig into how to build a personal pleasure vocabulary, move through shame, and what it feels like to be multi-orgasmic. Plus, a...
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#58 College Sex Ed You Didn’t Get (But Definitely Need)
I break down real questions students ask me as a university-level sex educator, including: STI scares, awkard roommate encounters, drunk hookups, and how to survive being slut shamed. This episode reveals what’s really happening on campus and why it matters for everyone, not just students. Most...
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#57 Better Sex in Three Steps- Start Today!
NEW: Watch on YouTube! You’ve heard it a HUNDRED TIMES- just communicate, go explore! What does that mean? Where do you even start? In this episode of Beyond the Bedroom with Birna, I break down how to actually improve your sex life long-term in three solid steps. I guide you through where to…
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#56 How to Play with Power: Domming with Mistress Lauren
NEW: WATCH ON YOUTUBE @ BEYONDBEDROOMPODCAST! Did you just say "Mommy?" Mistress Lauren joins Beyond the Bedroom for a candid chat about what domming actually is (and isn’t). We answer listener questions about how to enjoy telling people what to do and receiving the care you deserve. Plus…
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#55 Pillow Talk, Playing Games, and Valentine's Surprises
A Valentine's Day special! Birna plays the couple's question game "Pillow Talk," now available for free on beyondthebedroom.com/games Check out all show notes, discount codes, and transcripts at beyondthebedroom.org Try Wisp for Birth Control, OMG Cream, Period Relief, and more
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#54 Sex at Conception? The Dangerous Myth Behind Anti-Trans and Anti-Choice Laws
Some politicians want you to believe that sex is determined at conception—but that’s not how biology works. In this mini episode, I break down the science of gestational development, debunk the dangerous myth of "sex at conception," and explain how this misinformation fuels anti-trans and...
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#53 Reacting to Reddit Sex Questions
To cheer us all up, Birna reacts to some fun and quirky questions from r/sex on Reddit. Topics include cockwarming, post-orgy guilt, and a drunk best friend begging to see a couple's sex tape. For show notes, articles, and transcripts check out beyondthebedroom.org Use code BBIRNA for a discount…
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#52 Get Your Glasses of Milk Ready! 'Babygirl' Hot Takes
Birna reviews the film "Babygirl" and discusses the kinky themes and layered characters. Plus, listeners's questions about communication and whether our childhoods can shape what we're into. Check out all affiliate links and show notes on beyondthebedroom.org
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#51 New Year, Nude You
Birna reviews intimate resolutions submitted by listeners. Topics include better solo play, sober sex, honest communication, and much more. Plus, she shares her own resolutions for the year, including how to slow down her sex life. Check out beyondthebedroom.org for show notes, discount codes…
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#50 Making the Yuletide Gay Again
This special bonus episode is full of holiday-themed listener questions, plus Birna's sex predictions for the new year! Longer show notes and transcriptions can be found on beyondthebedroom.org To get a discount on my favorite sex toys, use code BBIRNA at Unboundbabes.com on Flick, Ollie, or any...
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#49 HPV, Sexy Gifts, and Mediocre Oral
What should you do if you got the HPV vaccine but then had an abnormal pap? How do you gift lingerie without sending the wrong message? In this episode, Birna breaks down new HPV data, lists the do’s and don’ts of gifting sexy items, & helps a listener talk to his girlfriend about her...
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#48 Is Scissoring Real? Queer Cliteracy & Lesbian Sex Myths
What counts as unprotected if we both have vaginas? How do I handle a harness? Is scissoring real?? This week is all about vulva-to-vulva action, but you don't need to be a participant to enjoy this episode! Whether you're a seasoned pro, a curious newbie, or a total outsider with questions, I'll...
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#47 Halloween Mini Episode
Masks, tentacles, and roleplay, oh my! This mini-episode also answers listener questions re: sex magic, monster toys, and fantasizing about something against your values (spooky!!) To get a discount on my favorite sex toys, use code BBIRNA at Unboundbabes.com on Flick, Ollie, or any other…
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#46 Are ED med commercials killing your boners?
Is it just me, or are there ads for erectile dysfunction meds everywhere lately? I investigate what this cultural shift means for male sexuality in the US. Plus, I answer listener questions about female Viagra, performance anxiety, and gimmicky ED supplements. To get a discount on my favorite sex...
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#45 Sporty Sex & Sexy Sports
Challengers hit theaters and suddenly everyone wants two boyfriends and tennis lessons, and I don't blame them. I give my two cents on the film (minimal spoilers—don't worry!), discuss whether Gen Z really hates sex scenes, and answer questions about DP, sexting, and "overperforming" in bed....
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#44 Far from the Finish Line: Anorgasmia and Unsatisfying O's
So, you've tried everything, but you're still not "getting there." In this episode, you'll learn about the possible causes of female anorgasmia and how to make adjustments to facilitate pleasure. Subscribe to birna.substack.com for my newsletter, On the Nightstand for bonus content Use code…
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#43 Sexpionage, Curved Dicks, and Open Toed Shoes
I discuss the history of the prosthetic scrotum I saw at the spy museum, which sent me down a rabbit hole of sexual relations in intel operations. Plus: evolutionary theories on curved penises, why caffeine makes some people super horny, and my biggest dating "icks" Subscribe to…
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#42 Size Queens, Flicks of the Wrist, and Swallowing Spit
Another cozy Q&A episode answering anonymous questions about penetration, flogging, negotiating something sexy, and the relationship between vaping and ED. A mixed bag of topics with plenty of personal details and hot takes dotted throughout. Subscribe to birna.substack.com for my newsletter, On...
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#41 Antiquated Flirting, Prostate Play, and Cheating Kinks
You asked, I answered. Except this time, I surveyed my friends (of the real-life and internet variety) to help me with some topics. Here's what my circle is chatting about this week: What are some modern-day don'ts when it comes to flirting? How can I tell if I want an open relationship or just...
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#40 Tales from the Sex Shop with Saga from Losti
What's it like running a sex shop? I sat down with my former boss, Saga Lluvia, owner of the sex toy store Losti in Iceland, to chat about peddling pleasure. We answered listener questions about the types of customers we encountered, the toys we recommend, and so much more. Sub to my newsletter...
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#39 Love is Blind's Lessons in Sex Ed with Saga from Losti
Love is Blind may be reality TV, but the conversations about birth control, sexual values, and red flags are sparking real-life debates. We recap the show up until the last two episodes and ask ourselves: Is love really blind, and is love always enough? Saga Lluvia, the owner of sex shop Losti,...
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#38: Lessons in Chemistry
This week is a mix of serious and fun topics (isn't it always?) as I work through how reproductive rights restrictions are limiting our desire. Plus, I swap stories with listeners while answering the question, "Have you ever had crazy sexual chemistry with someone, and it surprised you?" Use code...
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#37: Cowgirls, Coaches, and Sex Tapes (Valentine's Episode)
The spiciest episode of the relaunch (so far)!! Enjoy this special edition of Beyond the Bedroom, answering all the spicy, steamy, fun questions I get from listeners. Bonus: lightning round of my favorite confessions of the week. Happy Valentine's Day! Plus, how-to's on keeping sex tapes safe,...
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#36 Strong Swimmers
This episode is all about ejaculation; I discuss both how it happens and how people feel about it. Does pineapple really improve the taste? Why do people shoot it at different speeds? Are breeding kinks real? What's the deal with blue balls? All of these listener questions are answered & more....
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#35: Has squirting divided the nation?
Welcome back! I discuss the public perceptions of squirting by diving into my comment section and finding the nuance of "hate sex." Use code BBIRNA at Unbound to support the pod and shop with a discount! Products mentioned: Ollie (wand) and Puff (suction toy) Find me on socials @bbirna (IG…
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#34: Did you wear Thinx? Don’t Panic!
Why did period underwear company Thinx get sued? Are my menstrual products toxic? And what the F are PFAS? In this episode, I answer these questions and more as it relates to the ongoing class action lawsuit against Thinx. I also give my advice as someone working in reproductive public health and...
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#33 First Time Hook Ups?
What pulled you in, and what pushed you away? Is an orgasm a requirement for a second go-around? I review my audience's poll answers and share some fun stories about first-time hookups gone wrong. Use code BIRNA10 for 10% off your Maude purchase at getmaude.com Learn more about your sexual...
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#32 Corporate Pride (feat. Mal Aldrich)
Mal joins me as we share some fun yet insightful commentary on how corporations take up space during Pride Month. Use code BIRNA10 for 10% off your Maude purchase at getmaude.com Learn more about your sexual wellbeing at beyondthebedroom.org Check out mal at @malcolmaldrich and me at @bbirna,...
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#31 Glenise Kinnard-Moore, Creator of the VDOM
Hold on- an app that can give your strap on an erection?? When I heard about the VDOM I knew I had to have Glenise on the show and pick her brain. We chat about sex AI, how to engineer a sex toy, and how Atlanta shaped the development of her groundbreaking device. Pre-order or learn more about...
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#30 Myths about Men’s Sexuality
Do men want sex more than women? Do they actually bond with their partners less? Let's dive into some myths about men, as dismantling them makes sex way better (for all of us). Support this podcast and get a discount at getmaude.com with code BIRNA10 Check out my sex ed courses:...
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#29 Scottie Jeanette Madden- “We Made Each Other’s Dreams Come True”
Scottie Jeanette joins me on Trans Day of Visibility to shed light on coming out as trans after years of a gut-wrenching journey. Check out her TedX Talk, books, and more on https://www.zuzubean.com/ Join me in celebrating Transgender Day of Visibility by checking out...
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#28 Susie Stellar and Equal Opportunity Ejaculation
I chat with artist and breakout OF star Susie Stellar about pussy eating, polyamory, the politics of squirting, and more - you don’t want to miss this juicy episode! Her Links: Twitter, onlyfans, and TikTok (google Susie Stellar for more) Shop Maude with 10% off with BIRNA10 Check out my free...
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#27 Fingered for Medical Reasons?
What happens at pelvic floor physical therapy? BTW- you can now watch this episode on youtube! I'll also chat about if penis size really matters, what my male clients are dealing with, and the latest sex ed drama here in Iceland (we need a "real housewives" show here stat). Use my code BIRNA10 at...
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#26: Red Flags: Bedroom Edition
We can't always predict the future, but sometimes it's good to take off those rose-tinted glasses and see those warning signs. I open up about red flags I regret not noticing, along with some things to look out for in your own behavior! 10-day program: Beyond the Bedroom Book a session with me:...
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#25: Merry Crisis
Worst first date stories, hooking up with exes, and sex toy advent calendars? Plus, a HUGE announcement at the end of the episode with my husband! BIRNA10 at Maude Shop Foria here Play couples' games here, beyondthebedroomgames.com Book a session with me: birna.net
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#24: Nip Tips
Everything you want to know about boobie pleasure- with a special guest, Mal! Does breastfeeding change your nipple pleasure desires? How much sensation should I feel in my nipples? Why do men get left out of the nipple pleasure convo? When should I get a breast exam? Listen to this week's…
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#23: Talk Dirty To Me
The sexiest episode ever? I'm talking all things dirty talk this week! What matters more: what we say or how we say it? How do I find my sex voice? Plus, I share the phrases that give me butterflies... This week's homework is juicy, I promise. Shop Maude Beyond the Bedroom Games Birna.net
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#22: Paranormal Sextivity
Can you have sex with a ghost? What is a succubus? I share some spooky sex fetishes, find a book about demon sex on amazon, share my listeners' Halloween sex stories... along with my own personal experience with a set of vampire fangs. Use code BIRNA10 at getmaude.com Check out Beyond the Bedroom...
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#21: Fantasize, Play, and Get Kinky
Season 3 of Beyond the Bedroom is more personal, edgy, and way more... me. Does the clitoris really have 8000 nerve endings? Is my fantasy normal? What even happens at a kink class? Use my code BIRNA10 to shop at Maude (product mentioned: Rise Plus) Play online at Beyond the Bedroom Games Book a...
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#20: Masturbation May
Bonus content! I play 10 minutes of a bonus. I talk about my journey through Masturbation May so far, discuss the results from the Instagram polls, and give some advice on how to talk about self-touch. Check out more of my work on my site or my Instagram @beyondbedroompodcast
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#19: What’s Missing From Your Sex Ed?
What did this week’s poll questions have in common? They’re common topics often left out of traditional sex ed models but are so vital for young adults (and everyone) to learn. Voting in the poll isn’t a prerequisite for listening, I’ll go over the results and share how I voted along with my…
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#18: Blowjobs and Pharmacology
Do you have go-to moves for oral? Have you been on medications that affected your arousal? Have you thought about someone else during sex? I review the results of these questions I posed to my audience and more, while I reveal how I voted with some sex-educator advice. Use my code BIRNA10 at…
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#17: Sex Worker’s Rights Are Human Rights
Bonus episode this week! I have written and organized so much for sex workers' rights, it's about time I record an episode about it- and I couldn't think of a better time than now, as I respond to Iceland's national discourse and debate about onlyfans. Main takeaway: if you are against sex work,...
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#16: The Polls Are In
It's time for hot topics again! This week, I asked my audience to vote on a series of questions tackling intimacy. Do you find giving and receiving equally as pleasurable? Do you zone out during intimacy? Doing it on the counter: hot or not? I add my own two cents along with some personal...
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#15: Instagram Deleted @bbirna
Instagram killed the podcast star. RIP bbirna, but you can keep up with my antics @ beyondbedroom podcast on Instagram. I’m hoping to get my account back, but in this unfiltered and unedited episode, I chat about censorship, FOSTA/SESTA, and why the F my IG was taken down. Use code BIRNA10 for…
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#14: Sex Scene Choreography with Chelsey Morgan
What is your favorite sex scene? In this episode, I chat with Chelsey, an intimacy coordinator and sex educator in training, about what really goes down behind the scenes. We discuss what intimacy coordination or coaching is (and isn’t!), what they feel is missing from the industry, and even...
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#13: My Love Language is a New Vibrator
Released in time for Valentine's Day, but applicable all year round... I'm chatting about love languages. I'll go into the history of the term, the science behind it, and how each love language applies to your sex life. Yes, this episode of Beyond the Bedroom goes backward (but isn't that always...
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#12: Cannabis and Sex
For this episode, I put my lab coat back on as I go into the science behind the effects of cannabis and the ways in which it can impact our sex lives. I'll review what your cannabinoid system does, what the deal is with CBD lube, and why there isn't a one-size-fits-all approach. Check out...
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#11: We Met on Instagram
This week, I have my friend Mal (they/them) on the show to discuss the connections between modern relationships and social media. Have you ever looked up a potential date's social media? What were you looking for? We delve into these questions plus topics like jealousy, catfishing, and more. This...
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Join sex educator Birna Gustafsson for weekly chats on sexuality, discovery, and relationship issues. Whether you’re curious, troubleshooting, or satisfied, there is always room for growth in your sexual journey.
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Join sex educator Birna Gustafsson for weekly chats on sexuality, discovery, and relationship issues. Whether you’re curious, troubleshooting, or satisfied, there is always room for growth in your sexual journey.
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