Beyond the Letter

In today’s episode, Adam and Ashlee keep it light and hilarious as they wrap up the final Beyond I Do before the summer break. They share why the podcast is taking a short pause (hint: a big tech refresh is coming, including a 4K upgrade), and they talk about how routine-loving listeners might feel about it. Then Andy hits them with a surprise clip that instantly turns into one of the funniest moments of the season: Adam’s ongoing battle with curbs… and the now-legendary golf cart incident.They also end the episode with some real-life marriage talk in the middle of the laughs: Ashlee admits she’s been feeling a little more “needy” lately (her words), and Adam gives a practical take on why that shift might be happening. From texting during Bible Club to sharing drinks (and the boys’ backwash chaos), it’s one of those episodes that feels exactly like hanging out with them in real life.--Have a question about relationships? Ask us by clicking the link below!https://patria.church.ai/form/BeyondIdo_BEYOND I DO: MARRIAGE COURSEhttps://beyondido.thinkific.com/courses/beyond-I-do--Connect with Adam & Ashlee Mesahttps://www.instagram.com/amesa/https://www.instagram.com/ashleemesa/--Connect with Andy Lopezhttps://www.instagram.com/andytakesl/--Don't forget to stay connected with us: Instagram @beyond.idoTik Tok @beyond.ido--We've entered into an exciting new partnership with renowned jeweler Erin Barnett in Los Angeles. This partnership perfectly aligns with our love for relationships and jewelry. Whether you're looking for a special gift, an engagement ring, or a wedding band, Erin has you covered. And as part of the Beyond I Do community, you get exclusive discounts and the opportunity for a private showroom experience. It's time to celebrate your love with exquisite jewelry from our partner, Erin Barnett.How to get the exclusive discount?SEND HIM A DM and tell him you are part of the BEYOND I DO family or mention Adam Mesa. https://www.instagram.com/by.barnett/?hl=enhttps://bybarnett.com

This week on Beyond the Letter, Adam and Sammy react to a clip of Theo Von reading John 5 and getting hit with one haunting question: “Do you want to be healed?” They unpack how it’s possible to want change… but still cling to the patterns that keep us stuck.They also break down what Jesus’ command to “pick up your mat and walk” actually costs—identity, comfort, excuses, and sometimes even the “benefits” we’ve learned to live off of. If you’ve ever felt like healing sounds good in theory, but terrifying in practice, this conversation will challenge you in the best way.--Connect with:Adam Mesa https://www.instagram.com/amesa/Sammy Rodriguez https://www.instagram.com/samuelmrod/--Don't forget to stay connected with us:Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4OvpFp9OB9_DgVdVVbXhFgInstagram https://www.instagram.com/beyond.theletter/Tik Tok https://www.tiktok.com/discover/beyond-the-letter--Have a question? Submit it TODAY, by clicking the link below! ***SUBMIT YOUR QUESTION HERE: https://patria.church.ai/form/BeyondtheLetterQA--Get to know the team:@amesa https://www.instagram.com/amesa/@nancysnavas https://www.instagram.com/nancysnavas/@alizee.kayy https://www.instagram.com/alizee.kayy/@andytakesl https://www.instagram.com/andytakesl/

Ever look back and realize you don’t have enough videos of the people you love? In this episode, Adam and Ashlee get real (and hilarious) about “capturing the moment,” why Ashlee wishes Adam recorded more of her day-to-day life, and how quickly a simple ask can turn into a full-on marriage debate.Along the way, they call out excuses, talk about why small moments matter more than perfectly edited ones, and challenge couples to take ownership of what they say they value—because one day, you’ll wish you had more than just memories. Plus: Andy catches strays for finally going public with his girlfriend (and gets put on the spot to post the video).--Have a question about relationships? Ask us by clicking the link below!https://patria.church.ai/form/BeyondIdo_BEYOND I DO: MARRIAGE COURSEhttps://beyondido.thinkific.com/courses/beyond-I-do--Connect with Adam & Ashlee Mesahttps://www.instagram.com/amesa/https://www.instagram.com/ashleemesa/--Connect with Andy Lopezhttps://www.instagram.com/andytakesl/--Don't forget to stay connected with us: Instagram @beyond.idoTik Tok @beyond.ido--We've entered into an exciting new partnership with renowned jeweler Erin Barnett in Los Angeles. This partnership perfectly aligns with our love for relationships and jewelry. Whether you're looking for a special gift, an engagement ring, or a wedding band, Erin has you covered. And as part of the Beyond I Do community, you get exclusive discounts and the opportunity for a private showroom experience. It's time to celebrate your love with exquisite jewelry from our partner, Erin Barnett.How to get the exclusive discount?SEND HIM A DM and tell him you are part of the BEYOND I DO family or mention Adam Mesa. https://www.instagram.com/by.barnett/?hl=enhttps://bybarnett.com

In this episode, Adam and Allan talk about a trend that’s gotten louder online: people building platforms by clipping sermons, stitching content, and “calling out” other leaders for engagement. They unpack the difference between thoughtful biblical critique and straight-up clout-chasing — the kind that tears people down, fuels outrage, and makes money off someone else’s ministry.They also challenge believers to stop only complaining about what’s wrong on social media and start becoming part of the solution. If TikTok is where the next generation is living, learning, and forming opinions about faith, then mature, grounded voices need to show up there with clarity, humility, and courage — not just reactions.--Connect with:Adam Mesa https://www.instagram.com/amesa/Allan Walters https://www.instagram.com/alllanwalters/--Don't forget to stay connected with us:Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4OvpFp9OB9_DgVdVVbXhFgInstagram https://www.instagram.com/beyond.theletter/Tik Tok https://www.tiktok.com/discover/beyond-the-letter--Have a question? Submit it TODAY, by clicking the link below! ***SUBMIT YOUR QUESTION HERE: https://patria.church.ai/form/BeyondtheLetterQA--Get to know the team:@amesa https://www.instagram.com/amesa/@nancysnavas https://www.instagram.com/nancysnavas/@alizee.kayy https://www.instagram.com/alizee.kayy/@andytakesl https://www.instagram.com/andytakesl/

This week is a special crossover drop for Mother’s Day—part Beyond the Letter, part Beyond I Do—but fully focused on honoring the women who carry so much.Adam, Ashlee, Nathan, and Sanaz talk through what Mother’s Day should look like (and why so many people feel pressure, disappointment, or weird expectations around it). They unpack how to actually build a culture of appreciation in your home—so moms aren’t only celebrated one day a year—and why teaching your kids honor now becomes a gift to their future marriage later.They also get real about the “mom, mom, mom” season, kids sleeping in the bed, Teacher Appreciation Week chaos, and what it looks like to celebrate mothers without letting consumerism define the day. Plus—practical wisdom for single moms raising sons (and daughters) with healthy support, boundaries, and strong examples.--Connect with:Adam Mesa https://www.instagram.com/amesa/Ashlee Mesa https://www.instagram.com/ashleemesa/Nathan Mesa https://www.instagram.com/nathanjmesa/Sanaz Mesa https://www.instagram.com/sanazmesa/--Don't forget to stay connected with us:Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4OvpFp9OB9_DgVdVVbXhFgInstagram https://www.instagram.com/beyond.theletter/Tik Tok https://www.tiktok.com/discover/beyond-the-letter--Have a question? Submit it TODAY, by clicking the link below! ***SUBMIT YOUR QUESTION HERE: https://patria.church.ai/form/BeyondtheLetterQA--Get to know the team:@amesa https://www.instagram.com/amesa/@nancysnavas https://www.instagram.com/nancysnavas/@alizee.kayy https://www.instagram.com/alizee.kayy/@andytakesl https://www.instagram.com/andytakesl/

Sometimes marriage moments look way crazier from the outside than they actually are. In this episode, Adam and Ashlee give the full context behind their “big argument” from two episodes ago—what was happening emotionally, why it escalated, what was misunderstood, and how playful conflict can still expose real needs like rest, stress, and feeling heard. They also talk about how easy it is for people to project their own relationship pain onto a clip—when they don’t know the full story.To wrap it up, they speed-run a couples Q&A pulled from TikTok—reacting to marriage opinions and questions with honesty (and plenty of laughs). They cover things like arguing in front of the kids and what it looks like to model reconciliation, plus practical wisdom for navigating conflict without letting it turn into something bigger than it needs to be.--Have a question about relationships? Ask us by clicking the link below!https://patria.church.ai/form/BeyondIdo_BEYOND I DO: MARRIAGE COURSEhttps://beyondido.thinkific.com/courses/beyond-I-do--Connect with Adam & Ashlee Mesahttps://www.instagram.com/amesa/https://www.instagram.com/ashleemesa/--Don't forget to stay connected with us: Instagram @beyond.idoTik Tok @beyond.ido--We've entered into an exciting new partnership with renowned jeweler Erin Barnett in Los Angeles. This partnership perfectly aligns with our love for relationships and jewelry. Whether you're looking for a special gift, an engagement ring, or a wedding band, Erin has you covered. And as part of the Beyond I Do community, you get exclusive discounts and the opportunity for a private showroom experience. It's time to celebrate your love with exquisite jewelry from our partner, Erin Barnett.How to get the exclusive discount?SEND HIM A DM and tell him you are part of the BEYOND I DO family or mention Adam Mesa. https://www.instagram.com/by.barnett/?hl=enhttps://bybarnett.com

In this episode, Adam and Sammy start with some real-life banter, then shift into a heavy (but necessary) conversation about what happens when someone builds public faith… and then starts rewriting the rules in real time. They react to a viral clip where a creator claims God accepts them “as they are” because their heart feels sincere — and they unpack why that kind of feelings-first spirituality can quietly drift into lawlessness.They talk through the difference between struggling with sin vs. excusing sin, why “God knows my heart” can become a dangerous cover, and how influence comes with weight — especially when newer believers are watching. The bottom line: Jesus doesn’t just comfort us, He transforms us. And real discipleship means submitting our desires to His Word, not asking His Word to submit to our desires.--Connect with:Adam Mesa https://www.instagram.com/amesa/Sammy Rodriguez https://www.instagram.com/samuelmrod/--Don't forget to stay connected with us:Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4OvpFp9OB9_DgVdVVbXhFgInstagram https://www.instagram.com/beyond.theletter/Tik Tok https://www.tiktok.com/discover/beyond-the-letter--Have a question? Submit it TODAY, by clicking the link below! ***SUBMIT YOUR QUESTION HERE: https://patria.church.ai/form/BeyondtheLetterQA--Get to know the team:@amesa https://www.instagram.com/amesa/@verlonbakerofficial https://www.instagram.com/verlonbakerofficial/@nancysnavas https://www.instagram.com/nancysnavas/@alizee.kayy https://www.instagram.com/alizee.kayy/@andytakesl https://www.instagram.com/andytakesl/

In today’s episode, we start off with some pure fun—laughs, random rabbit trails, and the kind of real-life banter that feels like you’re sitting at the table with us. But halfway through, the conversation takes a sharp (and honestly needed) turn into something a lot of couples don’t realize they’re doing: overspiritualizing marriage in a superstition-based way.We react to a wedding trend and unpack the deeper issue behind it—how people start treating marriage like it can be “cursed,” contaminated by someone else’s “energy,” or protected by rituals… while ignoring actual wisdom, character, and spiritual authority. If you’ve ever felt anxious about vibes, jealousy, “evil eye” thinking, or letting fear shape your relationship, this conversation will help bring clarity, laughter, and a much healthier perspective.--Have a question about relationships? Ask us by clicking the link below!https://patria.church.ai/form/BeyondIdo_BEYOND I DO: MARRIAGE COURSEhttps://beyondido.thinkific.com/courses/beyond-I-do--Connect with Adam & Ashlee Mesahttps://www.instagram.com/amesa/https://www.instagram.com/ashleemesa/--Don't forget to stay connected with us: Instagram @beyond.idoTik Tok @beyond.ido--We've entered into an exciting new partnership with renowned jeweler Erin Barnett in Los Angeles. This partnership perfectly aligns with our love for relationships and jewelry. Whether you're looking for a special gift, an engagement ring, or a wedding band, Erin has you covered. And as part of the Beyond I Do community, you get exclusive discounts and the opportunity for a private showroom experience. It's time to celebrate your love with exquisite jewelry from our partner, Erin Barnett.How to get the exclusive discount?SEND HIM A DM and tell him you are part of the BEYOND I DO family or mention Adam Mesa. https://www.instagram.com/by.barnett/?hl=enhttps://bybarnett.com

In this episode, Adam and Haron react to a viral clip where a speaker claims, “I do not believe Christ died for our sin,” critiques the sacrificial system, and calls penal substitution “problematic.” Instead of just trading opinions, they slow it down and ask the real question: what does Scripture actually say about sin, judgment, and the cross?They walk through why “penal substitutionary atonement” is a theological label (like the Trinity) used to describe what the Bible teaches—namely that Jesus carried what we deserved and paid the price our sin owed. They also address popular lines like “Jesus didn’t save us from God,” clarifying the difference between God’s love and God’s righteous judgment against sin. If you’ve ever heard a deconstruction-style argument that sounds convincing but ignores the text, this one will help you rebuild your footing on the Word.--Connect with:Adam Mesa https://www.instagram.com/amesa/Haron Kaisa https://www.instagram.com/kaisaclan/--Don't forget to stay connected with us:Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4OvpFp9OB9_DgVdVVbXhFgInstagram https://www.instagram.com/beyond.theletter/Tik Tok https://www.tiktok.com/discover/beyond-the-letter--Have a question? Submit it TODAY, by clicking the link below! ***SUBMIT YOUR QUESTION HERE: https://patria.church.ai/form/BeyondtheLetterQA--Get to know the team:@amesa https://www.instagram.com/amesa/@nancysnavas https://www.instagram.com/nancysnavas/@alizee.kayy https://www.instagram.com/alizee.kayy/@andytakesl https://www.instagram.com/andytakesl/