Episodes
-
Rage Against the AI Machine
I never thought I’d have to say this — but art is not the notes in a song, it’s not the colors on a canvas and it’s not the words on a page. Art is a direct and intimate expression of the human experience. If you take the human out of the art, it’s not […] The post Rage Against the AI Machine...
-
Heart-Shaped Box
I know what it's like, to put my heart in a box. The post Heart-Shaped Box appeared first on Boodaism.
-
Ethical Ecstasy: Can We Combine Intensity and Integrity?
Since publishing My Thoughts on ISTA last fall, the most common follow-up question I got is some version of “Can these types of experiences be done in a healthy way?” It’s an important question to consider, and a complicated question to answer. While ISTA (International School of Temple Arts) has...
-
My Thoughts on ISTA
What’s up with ISTA? That simple question has driven me to devote an unreasonable amount of time and energy trying to come up with a good answer. Sitting here now, many years into that journey, I’m actually a little embarrassed about how much attention I’ve given this research project I didn’t...
-
We Fucking Need Each Other
“I need you.” That’s a scary thing to say to someone, especially when it’s true. For many of us humans in modern, western civilization — realizing that we need to intimately involve other people in our imperfect, un-photoshopped lives is a frightening thing. So we avoid it. We live alone, we eat...
-
I miss blogs.
Gather round my digital friends, I’m going to tell you about a time , a beautiful and innocent time, when the internet made people happy. Long, long ago, before large corporations started buying up parts of the internet, and before sites like medium.com turned all the bloggers into employees…
more -
You Can’t Be Nice to a Narcissist
I can relate to narcissists. I love attention, I often overestimate myself, and I enjoy it when I am the topic of conversation. I’m going to talk about how to deal with narcissists, but I’m going to expand that definition beyond people with NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder), and speak...
-
Back in the Saddle: 2018 Annual Review
I took a break this year. For those of you who have been following this site, you’ll notice that sometime around the end of June I took a break from publishing every week. It wasn’t totally intentional, but it felt right. Up until that point I had been consistently posting every week since…
more -
Tell the Truth
Write something true. That’s my mantra. When I’m feeling blocked I pause and remind myself of this. Write the truth. Not the ultimate truth — just something that feels true, something authentic. That’s what writing is for me, a chance to admit the truth in a space where no one will judge me, hate...
-
Before You Read ‘The Way of the Superior Man’ Read This
I just wanted to shake his hand. Here was a man I learned so much from, that answered so many of my questions about “being a man”, and I just wanted to meet him and say “your book meant a lot to me” — but there were rules. It was 2011, and I was at […] The post Before You Read ‘The Way of the...
-
The Surprising Foundation of Every Great Relationship
I’m a systems thinker, which means I spend a lot of time trying to understand the root of a problem, rather than dealing with it’s symptoms. When we attempt to solve problems without first understanding the system that created them, it’s like bailing out a leaking boat. It may provide temporary...
-
The Day Life Coaches Replaced Best Friends
It’s the year 2030, and in the western world, turning to a coach for life’s challenges is as common as 1-hour drone delivery from Amazon. It’s easy, it solves our problem and we don’t mind paying a little extra for the convenience. In fact, in 2030 we have more resources than ever, and nearly...
-
To My Overachieving Friends, Whom I Love Dearly [Poem]
When all the websites have been built,When all the funding has been sought.When all the companies have been sold,When all the Teslas have been bought. When all the charities have been started,When all the employees have been hired.When all the dreams have been fulfilled,When all the people have...
-
Art Isn’t Dead, We Are
I’ve come to know what I call the “millennial applause” and it’s creepy as hell. Aside from being a snarky blogger on the internet, I play music 3-4 nights a week at local bars and clubs and I’ve been doing it since college. Since my job is to engage the audience, I basically stand in […] The…
more -
What It Means To “Leave Someone Better Than You Found Them”
Leave the campsite better than you found it. That’s the “campsite” rule, coined by Dan Savage and practiced by responsible lovers everywhere. It’s a pledge to leave people in as good a state (physically and emotionally) as you found them.1 As someone who sleeps with a lot of people — often people...
-
Everyone Believes in God
Last year I watched the moon pass in front of the sun, and the moment when the sky went dark, I became speechless. Like many people who came to watch the solar eclipse, I thought I knew what was going to happen. Pretty simple, right? The moon passes in front of the sun, and the […] The post...
-
You Don’t Have Time for Art
You don’t have time for art,But art has time for you.She’s like a friend who’s downFor whatever you want to do. Art is not a contestThere are no judges to be had,And all your feelings are welcomeBe them happy, angry or sad. Your job is not perfection,We’re not so good at that.Your job is just […]...
-
Loving All The Parts
I’m a walking contradiction. On one hand I believe in self-expression and sharing your opinions, even when they make other people uncomfortable. That’s what Boodaism is all about. On the other hand, my heart breaks when something I say makes someone feel bad or limits our ability to feel close to...
-
Why Nerds Are Happier
Here’s a statement everyone would agree with — the more time you spend with people that bring you joy, the more joyful your life will be. And yet — I meet people all the time who feel undernourished and frustrated with this area of their life. When I ask, “why don’t you spend more time […] The…
more -
The Difference Between Having Needs & Being Needy
I am completely repulsed by needy behavior in relationships. I’m the kind of person that needs a lot of space — and when I say “space”, I don’t mean once in a while we go out with friends, I mean a default setting of autonomy, with frequent and wonderful periods of togetherness. That may sound…
more -
2018 Ultra-Light Travel Guide: My Gear & Mindset
“Life is simple, but we insist on making it complicated.”~ Confucious When I think about the way I travel, I’m not surprised at how simple my set up is, I’m surprised as how complicated it is for everyone else. In many ways, minimalism has made me an outcast. There’s almost no material possession...
-
The Reason It’s So Hard To Find Happy Relationships on Dating Apps
I have a question for you. If you could start a relationship with the hottest man or woman in your city, would you? Let’s say you live in New York and you’re a straight man and you were able to meet the collectively agreed upon most attractive woman in the city. Would you want her […] The post…
more -
The Problem with Liberalism (From a Liberal Perspective)
I’m a liberal — at least that’s what people call me. Truth be told I don’t like labels or political identities, I think the democratic party is fundamentally flawed and I’m socially progressive and fiscally conservative. But for the purposes of this essay, it’s fair to say I’m diggin’ the scene...
-
17 Creative Ways To Be Lonely
Being alone is easy, but being lonely takes effort. We’re social animals, which means we like to be in groups. Yes, even that person who loves posting introvert porn on Facebook still has friends and enjoys gatherings of like-minded people from time to time. In the same way that headaches let us...
-
How Modern Marriage Is Making Us Lonely
Have you ever tried bailing out a boat you didn’t know was leaking? You see some water in the bottom of the boat, and you think “hey, I’ll get this water out”, so you grab a bucket and start bailing. Then you notice the water starts to fill up again. So you bail it out, […] The post How Modern...
-
You’re Not Trying To Debate, You’re Just Being a Dick
A true sign of intelligence isn’t how well you can explain your perspective, it’s how well you can articulate the perspective that opposes yours. I don’t care how well you can articulate your argument, show me how the other person is also partially right and I’ll listen. Show me that you’ve...
-
Stop Looking for “The One” and Do This Instead
The other day I got to witness a “classic” conversation among women. It’s a conversation that’s been going on in different forms for hundreds of years. A few married women were counseling their single friend about how she could meet “the one”. They went through the usual topics, they asked her…
more -
State Change vs Transformation
So often people come out of retreats, weekends or experiences and proudly declare “I’m transformed” — but I don’t believe them. It’s not that I don’t believe in transformation, I do — but we (especially spiritual people) love to mix up state change and life change. A state change is temporary…
more -
The President America Needs, Not the One It Wants
No one likes throwing up. That feeling you have just before you vomit is one of life’s most unpleasant sensations, yet we all know how good it feels afterward. However awful the experience of purging was, we know that on some level it needed to happen. Welcome to the United States under President...
-
Why Sex Workers Should Replace Dating Coaches
When it comes to understanding women, nothing beats primary source research. That’s why when I think about straight men who want to improve their love lives, I’d like to suggest something that may seem radical. I believe men would be better served if they hired a sex worker instead of a dating...
-
I Want You To Like Me [Poem]
I’ve been a singer and musician for most of my life. My biggest influences have always been black singers, and as a white musician who never wanted to sound white, I’ve always struggled with feeling like a phony. This is a poem I imagine myself speaking to a primarily black audience, because as a...
-
5 Simple Ways to Have More Intimacy with your Friends
Here’s something that’s been blowing my mind lately. Video chatting. I know—seems like no big deal, but think back just twenty years ago—before cell phones were a thing and we had to share phone lines with our bratty siblings. If someone gave you a device that fit in the palm of your hand, and...
-
On Public Shaming and the Death of Civilized Discourse
As someone with relatively thick skin, I’d like to speak out about something that really bothers me — personal attacks on people we disagree with. I know it’s part of the deal, “haters gotta hate” and all, but wow — it’s incredible what we will say when protected by the anonymity of the internet.…
more -
Consequences Create Motivation: 2017 Annual Review
Consequences create motivation. At the end of my 45-day bicycle trip in September I settled into some new habits that I knew needed to happen, but I never had the motivation for them. For example — my finances have been a mess since I left the Navy in 2010. I’ve always known that doing a […] The...
-
The 10 Kinds of People Who Leave Annoying Comments on Facebook
Remember what it was like before we could comment on everything? Seriously, just think back twenty years ago. Someone would do something and if you had something to say you either had to say it in front of people (scary!) or not say it at all. How crazy was that?!? Today, we can leave comments…
more -
Why Narcissists Love Spiritual Communities
I don’t think I’m going out on a limb if I said that people who identify as spiritual tend to be more narcissistic. This isn’t a jab at spirituality, it makes sense and I’d like to explain why. Modern spirituality (in the way we use the term) has become popular because of a need to […] The post…
more -
7 Ways I Use Minimalism on My iPhone
I don’t understand how my parents live with the TV constantly on. Like many of my peers, I’ve grown accustomed to living without cable TV running in the background. It’s become so normal for me that when I find myself somewhere with a TV constantly on, it’s distracting and I have trouble…
more -
5 Mistakes People Make When Writing On the Internet
Without the internet, I would have never become a writer. That’s because growing up I thought I was terrible at writing. I got C’s for grades, and I found reading books and writing essays painstaking and tedious. Then along came the internet. Blogging, social media and away messages for AOL…
more -
Dear Men in Glass Houses
I’m sick of watching men “otherize” the perpetrators of sexual violence, as if they could never, ever be capable of something like that. In the last few weeks I’ve heard men say things like this. I’m so angry I could kill that guy right now.I can’t believe it, who would do such a thing?Fuck you…
more -
I Don’t Care You Got Engaged
Oh boy. I mean, listen — I wish I cared. In fact, just before I wrote this I was browsing YouTube and I stumbled on Sara Bareilles’ music video for “I Choose You” where she spontaneously shows up and sings for two couples getting engaged. It was super cute, and I even had some feels. I […] The…
more -
The Ten Commandments of Boodaism
1. Don’t follow other people’s commandments. I know, right? What a weird fucking way to start this off. 2. Question Everything Including the statement “question everything”, including me telling you to question the statement questioning the statement “question everything”. Are you confused yet?...
-
The Key to a Peaceful Divorce
A few months ago I was part of a beautiful moment at the San Diego Superior Courthouse. Paula and I had gone to fill out paperwork, and in the waiting room we leaned on each other, shared stories and laughed together. I massaged her shoulders and she scratched my back. That all happened while we...
-
People Are Stupid — What George Carlin Taught Me About Happiness
Think of how stupid the average person is, and realize that half of them are stupider than that. ~ George Carlin I meet people all the time that are disappointed. They’re disappointed when people aren’t honest, disappointed when people don’t keep their word, disappointed when people don’t respect...
-
The Confronting Reason You Haven’t Been Able to Do That Thing You’ve Been Wanting to Do for a While
I really wanted to go to Iran this year. I love traveling — and being of Armenian heritage, I have a special place in my heart for middle eastern culture. That’s why next year I had been making plans to visit Iran (along with Armenia and Georgia) with my friend Amir, who is Persian and […] The…
more -
It’s Okay to End a Good Relationship
Sometimes it’s time to move on from a romantic relationship, even when what you have is “good”. Maybe you’re in a relationship that’s happy. In fact, it may be happier than most of the other relationships you see. You’ve surpassed the standards set by your family, culture and your community on…
more -
I’m Cycling from Vancouver to San Diego
In 2011 I took a trip that definitively changed my life — I rode a bicycle with 3 other friends from London to Greece (through Turkey). Before that I had considered myself a traveler but I really didn’t know what traveling was. I brought a tent, and I heard we were going to be “free camping”, […]...
-
You Can Always Walk Away
Some problems aren’t worth fixing. Sometimes the energy you give to something doesn’t equal the energy you receive, and it’s time to quit. Sometimes walking away is the solution, and sometimes the person initiating that has to be you. Some projects aren’t worth finishing. It takes courage to stop...
-
Relationships Are Really Really Really Really Really Really Fucking Important
I just got off the phone with an old friend of mine who I haven’t talked to in years. He called me to catch up, and share some appreciation for the way I show up online, which meant a lot to me, because he’s someone I really respect and love. Then he made a comment […] The post Relationships Are...
-
Dating Beyond Gender
I’ve always felt uncomfortable with gender expectations. The idea that I should be a certain way because I have a Y chromosome never sat well with me. Do I enjoy doing typical “male” things like fixing problems and opening stuck jars? Sure I do, but there’s a world of difference between being…
more -
I Wish We Would Stop Saying “You Can Have It All”
Let’s start off with some radical honesty. I used to be a life coach — and many times I was “that” life coach. Some of you who have been following my blog for a while may even know that, and to you I sincerely apologize. I even had the phrase “you can have it all” […] The post I Wish We Would…
more
We're indexing this podcast's transcripts for the first time — this can take a minute or two. We'll show results as soon as they're ready.
No matches for "" in this podcast's transcripts.
No topics indexed yet for this podcast.
Loading reviews...
ABOUT THIS SHOW
Like a religion, but cooler.
HOSTED BY
Dave Booda
CATEGORIES
Loading similar podcasts...
Frequently Asked Questions
How many episodes does Boodaism have?
Boodaism currently has 160 episodes available on PodParley. New episodes are automatically indexed when they're published to the podcast feed.
What is Boodaism about?
Like a religion, but cooler.
How often does Boodaism release new episodes?
Boodaism publishes regularly with 160 episodes available. Check the episode list for the typical release schedule.
Where can I listen to Boodaism?
You can listen to Boodaism on PodParley by clicking any episode. We provide an embedded audio player for direct listening, and you can also subscribe via your preferred podcast app using the RSS feed.
Who hosts Boodaism?
Boodaism is created and hosted by Dave Booda.
URL copied to clipboard!