Can I Borrow Your Skin

It is all about the fails

Welcome to Detroit....my garden in Detroit, that is.Run down of the basics:Things to consider with planting, basic pest control, and (sadly) if you listen close enough I crush a watermelon (his name was Citrus).

Is it real or fake...do you care? Entertainment or education...do you care?

We tend to forgive and be gracious to everyone but ourselves. It is time to extend those attributes to the most important figure in our lives - us

We dive into the Stephanie Bennett-Henry quote deeply - ask yourself would you put your love for someone before your love for yourself?

Things that you thought were drowning you, were they teaching you how to swim? Is it better to cut your losses and move forward alone? Can the one comforting you also be stabbing you when you hug? There is not failure it is either success of a lesson... what have you learned from your long friendships?

Does the archetype Strong Black Woman a help or a hindrance?

Interview about male mental health: the good, the bad, the ugly and how to get over ourselves and move forward 

A new approach to caring for mental health from a man's perspective

At the intersection of Pride and Male Mental Health Month, there is a trans-man telling his story. The love and insight shared gives me hope for our world because the next generation is BRIGHT 

62 million visit and so few victims know or come forward. Sex trafficking and how hard to be believed when you escape. Why must you fight to be heard? Discussing her journey to become a forensic nurse after not being believed.

TRIGGER WARNING62 million visit and so few victims know or come forward. Sex trafficking and how hard to be believed when you escape. Why must you fight to be heard? Discussing her journey to become a forensic nurse after not being believed.Part 3 of 3TRIGGER WARNING

TRIGGER WARNING62 million visit and so few victims know or come forward. Sex trafficking and how hard to be believed when you escape. Why must you fight to be heard? Discussing her journey to become a forensic nurse after not being believed.Part 2 of 3TRIGGER WARNING

TRIGGER WARNING62 million visit and so few victims know or come forward. Sex trafficking and how hard to be believed when you escape. Why must you fight to be heard? Discussing her journey to become a forensic nurse after not being believed.Part 1 of 3TRIGGER WARNING

Maturity is not just contraception. What about not being able to communicate wants? Needs? Desires? Why exploring what you love in sex is bad? What about one-sided sex shaming where being community dick is ok, but having multiple partners? 

There is this glorious construct of Black love – a Black man finding a Black woman and pair bond and raise a family. It was always something that I saw growing up around my family and the foundation of my childhood. A theme in my book, Can I Borrow Your Skin, was that as an industrious woman focused on career was does the idea of Black love fade for an older, driven woman? 

 Is your sex evolving over time? If not, you may be cheating yourself out of a great time 

Even for those not in the sex industry, Good Sex is a currency and peopel are naïve to think that it is not .Sex is transactional. Why not turn that orgasm into an opportunity? 

In the medical field, we need to foster equity of a diverse group of identities including race especially in leadership, and education. It is crucial for validation, belonging, and breaking stereotypes. For the next generations to seek medicine as a field they need visible role models

Real threat for health care is how insurance companies define pre-existing conditions now. There are many ways to protect yourself while also getting the needed information.

The old stereotypes about minorities in medicine still have not been dispelled. When we are not participating in the system, then how is the system going to get better care? 

 April is National Minority Health Month. I started this podcast, this year with encouraging people to go to the Damn Doctor. I understand that there is a lot of mistrust in the health care system. And for good reason. As a minority, we do not get viewed well - we are saw as drug seeking, or are not listened to and mistreated. We have options for our community and we need to invest in them 

There are those deaths that remove the rose colored glasses. I experienced that with my parents. I was in my 40s and I felt that I was an adult, but I learned very quickly that many of things that I thought that grief and life in general was very wrong. It was a total slap in the face. I found my entire life turned upside down, but not for the typical, I feel like an orphan reasons. I was no longer rationalizing the things shown to be family and friends. I accepted whatever place that was shown to me…I lived Maya Angelou’s quote and I believed ppl as they showed me who they were and found a way to be okay with it. 

 The grief that is a haunting…where the song, painting, place, event sparks the most painful, but also glorious memories. This grief can be both by a death, but also a relationship ending 

 Rolling like tide, rough and engulfing. Grief can be unexpected and suffocating 

How we all picture grief when we first think of it(to celebrate my birthday tomorrow, let's get into something heavy, but necessary)

Whether we are discussing dressing scantly, in something painted on, or transparently...or more - it can be raw, I need it now passion or the thrill of being caught or pure attention. (also my engineer did not tell me that I had a whole buckwheat)

 The escapism of being someone else and seeing your partner in another light can be a turn-on for many. To leave the responsibility of everyday for one night of passion 

Do you love they way silk or satin feel upon your skin?Does your partner in lace make you smile?How do you think warm cotton should made to be used?Is it a nicely tailored suit? Or maybe something a little flirty?People rank clothing or the material of clothing as the second biggest fetish. It, also, like a foot fetish is very easy to practice in the world. Let's discuss

Here are some hockey basics so you can enjoy the Duel in the D todayMichigan won game 1 in OT last night. Hopefully today is entertaining, as well

Let's step right into it...looking at all the celebrations for February I had options of chocolate, showering with a friend, cleaning out your computer, wine, hangovers....sounds like fetishes to me. So let's just take some taboo out of sex. So we will focus on fetishes this February

 In response to the Reddit post, without female gentials there would not be male gentials as the male gential is just outside female gentials 

We have a bonus week in January, which is Health and Wellness Month...so we are focusing on things that makes us thrive, happy, and promotes good mental health. For me, it is football. With the Super Bowl 2026 next week, I wanted to give a few pointers for non-football watchers

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Each year, we struggle with where we are in comparison with where we want to be. This episode tackles that dichotomy and discusses what we can do within ourselves to resolve the internal struggle to move forward.

We focus so much on our physical body and mental health, but we need to talk care of our physical brain. Here are some tips

Losing weight is the number one resolution each year. As a perimenopausal woman, that may be more difficult. Here are some tips

New Year, new you? That is great but you need to start by getting an IST! You cannot move forward on your wellness journey without and IST.

Introduction of the podcast, the host, and bit of honesty from the beginning.