Change The Odds

Why do you react the way you do under stress? Kevin Thompson and Dr. Barbara Wilson explore the nine Enneagram personality types and how understanding your motivations can help you grow, communicate better, and build healthier relationships.

Your personality affects more than you realize—especially in marriage. Kevin Thompson and Dr. Barbara Wilson explore how understanding yourself and your spouse can transform conflict, build empathy, and create deeper connection.

Worship leaders Garrett and Kate share how marriage, ministry, parenting, and life on the road all intersect. From learning each other’s strengths to navigating conflict, family priorities, and a rapidly growing platform, they open up about staying connected while following where God leads.

What does it really mean to support your spouse? Kevin, Blaine, and Adrienne explore how encouragement, respect, and understanding your spouse’s unique needs can create a stronger, more connected marriage.

Strong marriages are built through small, intentional moments of connection. Kevin, Blaine, and Adrian share simple daily and weekly rhythms that can keep couples connected and prevent them from slowly drifting apart.

Ep106 - Vacation Is Over... Now What? - Vacations can strengthen your relationships—but they can also bring unexpected stress. In this episode, Kevin, Blaine, and Adrian explore why reentry is often harder than the trip itself and how couples can navigate it with greater understanding. 

In this episode of Change the Odds, Kevin Thompson and Blaine Newfield unpack five things many men feel but rarely know how to say. Discover how understanding these hidden struggles can strengthen communication, deepen connection, and create a healthier marriage.

Many couples feel disconnected without knowing why. On Change The Odds Change we explore how creating a shared vision for your marriage can transform the way you love, communicate, and grow together.

In this episode of Change the Odds, Kevin Thompson shares the heart behind his new book, The Creation of Us, and explores what it takes to build a thriving marriage. Discover how healthy relationships flourish when both individuals—and the marriage itself—are intentionally nurtured.

In this special episode of Change the Odds, Kevin Thompson shares the personal story of his daughter Ella and the life-changing journey that began with her Down syndrome diagnosis. Through faith, family, and unexpected blessings, Kevin reflects on how trusting God through life's unplanned moments can truly change your odds.

Kevin unpacks triangulation—how couples, parents, and families pull others into conflict instead of going direct—and why closing the “side doors” can protect your marriage, kids, and peace.

100 episodes in, we reflect on the marriage lessons that have stuck: healthy conflict, attachment styles, friendship, intimacy, and the simple truths helping couples build stronger, lasting relationships.

Pastors and marriage experts Jason and Stephanie Caine unpack the biggest myths about marriage, navigating conflict, parenting differences, anxiety, trust, and what actually makes a relationship healthy and resilient.

Why do marriage books, retreats, and conferences often fail to create lasting change? Kevin unpacks the “two-story marriage” and reveals why connection—not communication—is the foundation of a thriving relationship.

A powerful conversation on moving beyond rule-based religion into authentic faith, vulnerable marriage, and intentional family life—plus why prayer and prioritizing your spouse changes everything.

Paul and Virginia Friesen share 50 years of marriage wisdom on conflict, forgiveness, faith, infidelity recovery, and why being “better together” is the key to lasting love.

Comedian Andrew Stanley joins Kevin to talk marriage, clean comedy, family legacy, life on the road, and the daily choices that help protect love, laughter, and home.

In the final episode of our Love Styles series, Kevin Thompson explores the connection between attachment theory, Scripture, and emotional healing. From Genesis 2 to Genesis 3, discover how fear, shame, and insecurity shape the way we relate to God and others—and how the gospel offers a path toward secure love, healing, and transformation. You are not stuck in old patterns. There is hope for healthier relationships.---If you want better relationships, start here: https://my.baysideonline.com/LOVESTYLES, and to try Love Styles AI, learn more here: https://my.baysideonline.com/LOVESTYLESAI

We unpack anxious, avoidant, and disorganized attachment—how they form, how they show up in relationships, and the hidden fears driving them. If love feels unstable, this episode helps you make sense of why.---If you want better relationships, start here: https://my.baysideonline.com/LOVESTYLES, and to try Love Styles AI, learn more here: https://my.baysideonline.com/LOVESTYLESAI

We unpack anxious, avoidant, and disorganized attachment—how they form, how they show up in love, work, and faith, and why your reactions might be rooted in old stories you didn’t realize you were still living.---If you want better relationships, start here: https://my.baysideonline.com/LOVESTYLES, and to try Love Styles AI, learn more here: https://my.baysideonline.com/LOVESTYLESAI

What does a secure relationship actually look like? We break down the traits of healthy attachment and how it transforms marriage, parenting, and friendships—giving you a clear path to stronger, safer connections.---If you want better relationships, start here: https://my.baysideonline.com/LOVESTYLES, and to try Love Styles AI, learn more here: https://my.baysideonline.com/LOVESTYLESAI

What if your past is quietly shaping every relationship you have? We break down attachment theory, why you love the way you do, and how you can actually change your patterns starting today.---If you want better relationships, start here: https://my.baysideonline.com/LOVESTYLES, and to try Love Styles AI, learn more here: https://my.baysideonline.com/LOVESTYLESAI 

Ever feel like your partner’s parenting is “too much” or “too soft”? This episode dives into how personality, attachment, and nervous systems shape discipline—and how to turn conflict into a parenting superpower.

We’re getting real about sex, shame, and intimacy in marriage with clinical psychologist Dr. Barb Wilson—covering communication, healing past wounds, and building a deeper, more connected relationship.

A playful gym moment turns into a surprising fight—and reveals how personality and attachment styles shape conflict. We unpack why small moments escalate and how couples can repair quickly and grow stronger.

Perimenopause can bring mood swings, brain fog, and relationship tension—but it doesn’t have to break a marriage. Clinical psychologist Dr. Barb Wilson shares how couples can understand the changes, communicate better, and grow closer through this season.

What really makes a marriage last? Jim Burns shares 51 years of hard-won wisdom on communication, connection, spiritual intimacy, and finishing well—proving marriage isn’t a coin flip… you can change the odds.

Taylor & Chloe Gall join us to talk grief, marriage in the “90/10” seasons, parenting four boys, and finding identity in Christ. Real talk on community, prayer, and moving from defense to offense after loss.

What if your biggest fights are actually your deepest moments of connection? In this Fight Club episode, we unpack anxious vs. avoidant attachment, makeup sex, and why some couples feel closer through chaos than calm.--Got a fight you want us to break down on the show? Submit it here and we’ll analyze it using Love Styles (attachment styles) and Lead Styles (enneagram): https://go.bayside.church/fightclub

Why are so many families experiencing estrangement with adult children? Kevin Thompson sits down with Jim Burns to unpack the causes, the hope, and the practical steps parents can take to pursue reconciliation without losing their convictions.

Ever feel hurt by something you never actually asked for? This Fight Club unpacks expectations, mind reading, attachment styles, and why romance falls apart when clarity goes missing—especially around Valentine’s Day.--Got a fight you want us to break down on the show? Submit it here and we’ll analyze it using Love Styles (attachment styles) and Lead Styles (enneagram): https://go.bayside.church/fightclub

When one partner reaches for connection through sex and the other pulls away, it’s not about rejection—it’s about repair. This Fight Club dives deep into attachment, intimacy, and the emotional work beneath the surface.--Got a fight you want us to break down on the show? Submit it here and we’ll analyze it using Love Styles (attachment styles) and Lead Styles (enneagram): https://go.bayside.church/fightclub

What happens when one partner carries the weight of everything—while the other says, “you never asked”? We unpack the fight about invisible labor, attachment styles, and how to stop the burnout spiral in your relationship.--Got a fight you want us to break down on the show? Submit it here and we’ll analyze it using Love Styles (attachment styles) and Lead Styles (enneagram): https://go.bayside.church/fightclub

What happens when he’s late (again), she’s overwhelmed, and neither feels seen? We break down the anxious-avoidant loop, love styles, and what actually helps couples change the odds when the same fight keeps happening.--Got a fight you want us to break down on the show? Submit it here and we’ll analyze it using Love Styles (attachment styles) and Lead Styles (enneagram): https://go.bayside.church/fightclub

From grey divorce to Gen Alpha’s AI-assisted dating future, we break down how each generation is reshaping marriage, sex, and relationships—and what it means for your love life in 2026.

In a first-ever father-son episode, Kevin sits down with 17-year-old Silas Thompson for an unfiltered, moving, and often vulnerable conversation about parenting, faith, legacy, and growing up as a pastor’s kid.

Why do we love the way we do—and how can we change it? Kevin Thompson and Mark Clark break down attachment theory, love styles, and how to build healthier relationships in every area of life.---If you want better relationships, start here: https://my.baysideonline.com/LOVESTYLES

He said $800, he spent $2,000. Can a little Christmas magic justify a big financial betrayal? We break down the fight, the fallout, and how to stop money issues from ruining the season.

Christmas is supposed to be joyful—but for many couples, it’s anything but. We unpack one couple’s holiday dilemma and dive into boundaries, triangulation, and how to stop dreading December.

Kevin and Jenny Thompson join us to talk love, ministry, parenting challenges, and what makes a strong marriage work—even when you don’t cry at dedications.

When sex turns into another task on the to-do list, what’s really going on in the marriage? We unpack pursue-withdraw cycles, anxious attachment, and how real connection begins outside the bedroom.

What happens when “because I said so” meets “let’s stay connected”? Blaine and Adrienne unpack a listener-submitted parenting fight and explore how control and connection can work together—not against each other.

What if a fight over lost keys isn’t really about the keys? We break down how everyday conflict reveals deeper personality traits, attachment styles, and the hidden strength of a healthy fight.

Struggles, spelling, and spiritual growth—this episode unpacks five signs your marriage might be aligned with God’s will (and why pain might actually be proof you’re on the right path).

Forget the cookie-cutter advice—this episode dives into five bold spiritual practices that build real connection, intimacy, and purpose in your marriage. It’s time to change the odds, together.

From smashed wedding cakes to CrossFit crushes, we’re talking marriage red flags, rebuilding trust after betrayal, and how to guard your relationship from subtle dangers—without sounding like your spouse’s preacher.

We bust the “logical vs. emotional” myth, unpack the head–heart–gut framework, and share practical tools—“it felt like…”, absorbing the first jab, and naming emotions—to strengthen marriage, conflict, and parenting.

Q&A time: staying connected with unpredictable schedules, business meeting vs date night, high/low drive and physical touch, dividing housework fairly, and how to align individual dreams into a shared one. Real talk, practical moves.

What happens when truth and love collide in marriage? We unpack why honesty, maturity, and intentionality are essential to unity—and how speaking truth in love transforms relationships.