Episodes
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33: The Relationship Killer No one Talks About
The thing quietly killing your closest relationship isn't a lack of love, it's the resentment you've swallowed to keep the peace. In this episode Ash and Charlie get honest about stored resentment: the invisible force field that goes up when your partner reaches for you, the grudges you feel...
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32: Control is Not Leadership
No strategy works until you're resourced enough to show up for it, and that's the bit nobody selling you a five-step plan will ever mention. This week Charlie and Ash get into why control keeps masquerading as leadership, and why forcing and white-knuckling your way to the goal always dumps you...
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31: The Unsexy Truth about Transformation
The reason no strategy has worked for you yet? Real change isn't a five-step plan you follow, it's who you're being while you do the doing. This week Charlie and Ash get honest about the thing nobody selling a blueprint will tell you. We've bought the programmes, the proven methodologies, the...
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Ep30: This is why you haven't started yet.
There is something you really want to be doing, and you are doing a smaller, safer version of it instead because that is what you feel ready for. This episode is about that gap, and why waiting to be ready rarely closes it. Charlie uses her own example: she has years of proof that sharing her…
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29: Life isn't only meant to look good on paper.
You built the life that looks successful, hit the top, and quietly realised it was never actually yours. That's borrowed desire, and this episode is where you stop pretending you didn't notice. I came home from my big trip still riding the high, then a few days later I was in the car…
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28: 40 hours on a plane to learn this one thing.
Here's why the women who go furthest aren't trying harder, they're finally giving themselves permission to know who they are and want what they want. Ash comes back from attending Living Brave Live in Denver having danced in her underwear with a crowd of two thousand strangers, and we unpick what...
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The Power Within You - Guest Fliss Gray
This one is a little different. Ash is away, so Charlie sits down with Fliss Gray, the coach and breathwork facilitator behind Finding Focus, before the session the two of them run together on Sunday 13 September. They talk about what breathwork actually is once you get past the noise around it....
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26: Overnight success doesn't come from failing less, it comes from failing more.
The overnight success doesn't come from failing less. It comes from failing more. That's the thread running through this episode, but it's really a story about redefining what success even means. Charlie once reached the version of success she'd been chasing since she was 19: her own consultancy,...
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24: Is this the end of our partnership.
Is this the end of our prtnership? That's the question that ran through Charlie's mind during one of the most vulnerable conversations we've had on this show yet. Ash had been sitting with a sudden question mark: how does this all fit and work? Was it time to do her own thing? Rather than swallow...
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Ep23: Meeting the part of you still afraid to cry - LIVE COACHING
This one's different. Instead of our usual back and forth, you're sitting in on an actual coaching session between the two of us, unscripted and unfiltered. Charlie had just said goodbye to family after a visit, and found herself doing the thing she's done since she was 14: holding it together,...
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Ep 22 - The money was never going to be enough
This week we're talking about something neither of us wanted to admit out loud for a long time: choosing money over ourselves. We've both built things that looked successful on paper. Steady income, a stable-looking marriage, the version of success everyone around us was quick to applaud. And...
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21: There Are No Good or Bad Decisions
This week's a bit different: new space, new format, and soon you'll be able to watch us as well as listen. The conversation lands in the same place it always does though: what's actually alive for us right now. We start with a school visit for Ash's son Harry, and the realisation that where he…
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Pleasure as a Resource with Viv Oldham
What happens when the life you’ve built no longer fits—and you can’t unsee it? In this episode with Vive Oldham, we dive into the messy, honest reality ofreinventing yourself when your inner knowing is pulling you away from the “acceptable” version of success. We explore what it’s like to break…
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19: Ever asked yourself "Is this it?" - this one's for you.
In his final days, Charlie's father told her he'd got it all the wrong way around, he'd built the businesses, ticked the boxes, and missed the things that actually mattered. This episode is the story of how Charlie woke up inside the exact life her dad had warned her about, and the bedtime story...
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18: The Moment I Realised I Didn't Need Anything to Be Happy
A few days ago, Ash was walking her dog down the street, listening to music, and was suddenly hit with the most alive feeling she'd ever experienced in her body. No million dollars in the bank. No flash house. No holiday booked. Just her and the absence of everything she used to think she needed....
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17: Why you keep paying for advice you'll never take
Hands up if you've ever paid good money for a course, coach, or expert and then quietly rejected every piece of advice they gave you. In this episode, Charlie and Ash get honest about the very human habit of seeking answers outside ourselves and then poking holes in every solution we're handed....
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16: When intimacy starts to feel like obligation
In this episode we discuss a common relationship dynamic where affection and intimacy start to feel like an obligation rather than a desire, often because life becomes overloaded with responsibilities (work, parenting, household admin, finances) and the nervous system feels “tapped out.” We talk...
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15: Your inner knowing is the only authority you need to lead.
In this episode we explore what it means to tune back into your inner knowing as a source of guidabce. In a world that sells outsourcing your authority by needing to be an expert or needing other peoples approval for permission. We beleive that when you truly lead from who you are authentically…
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14: The ONE THING id tell myself if I could go back.
In this episode we share the one thing that will help you actuallytake action and create the change you want in your life. Whether it's in your career, parenting, health and fitness or in your relationships. If you can start with this, the rest will unfold just as it should. Join us for our FREE...
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13: Be a fly on the wall while we chat.
Ever wondered what it's like to sit in our conversation? We were mid chat and I knew I needed to get the mics out! Come sit with us while we go deep in our personal conversation about the wild ride that is life and making the decision to go all in.
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12: Is indecision draining you?
In this episode we chat about the energetic drain of never being able to confidently make decisions. Big or small, spending time worrying, thinking about, going over scenarios, however you tackle it can be really exhausting and often leads you to the outcome you were trying to avoid. Here we help...
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11: The Cost of Living in Overwhelm
Today we look at what it looks like to live in a constant state of overwhelm . We unpack whats really driving us to be this way and give some practical tools to what you can about it. Check out our FREE resources here..... www.charlieandash.co.nz
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10: Suffering is Voluntary.
Are you choosing to suffer… without even realising it? This episode explores a confronting but deeply liberating idea: while real trauma and hardship absolutely exist, much of our everyday suffering is voluntary. Charlie shares a personal story about the moment I first heard this concept and...
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09: The Real Sh** No One Wants To Talk About
In this deeply honest episode, Charlie and Ash unpack what really happens when we get triggered and why the emotion we think we’re feeling (anger, frustration, defensiveness) is rarely the real one. Underneath it? Sadness. Care. Fear of not being enough. Together, they explore: Why anger often...
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08: No1 strategy to creating success most people get wrong
Have you made a goal or new years resolution and find yourself falling off the band wagon. You're not alone! We break down here the reasons why you keep getting in your own way and what you can do about it.
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07. Where is fear holding you back?
In this episode we talk into fear and how it can be keeping you from going after your dreams, goals or moving at all. We explore the concept that there is no such thing as failure and how you can continue moving forward without letting fear hold you back. We would love to hear what your key...
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6.0 Let's Chat with Amy Shaw
On this episode we chat with Amy Shaw, conscious business visionary and spiritual mentor. We cover all things healing, personal transformation, business building, feminine and masculine energy and almost everything in-between. Amy is a powerhouse full of knowledge, energy and spiritual gifts. We...
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5.0 Where is your worth?
In today's episode we talk about feeling worthy or valued outside of being productive and people pleasing, or from other people or situations. What does this look like? How do we know when it goes from serving us to being unhealthy? and what can we do to turn it around? We hope you love the...
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4.0 The Illusions that keep you stuck
In this episode we expose the patterns we see so commonly when we are trying to create change and how it really is an illusion and what you can do to overcome these patterns. If you loved this episode please give it a like, share it with someone you think will resonate and come over to our...
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3.0 The Truth About Real Change
In this episode we speak into the journey of creating real change. How you can create sustainable change through making it a lifestyle choice. We share openly and vulnerably about our journey and what we feel has been the greatest keys to moving forward in creating a life your excited to show up...
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2.0 Change is Possible.
In this episode we talk in the programming and beliefs that are formed in us from our childhood and play out throughout our lives, influencing what action ,or inaction we take, how we show up in out lives and what we achieve. This episode digs into how change is possible, when you choose it and…
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01: Success without Sacrifice
In this episode we share how we have both overcome building success that caused us to sacrifice our health, our closest relationships and most importantly ourselves. And the journey of creating success that truly feels aligned. We share how you can break free from creating someone else version of...
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Sharing vulnerably and authentically on all things personal development, mindset, building businesses, parenting and life in general.
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Charlie and Ash
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