Episodes
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Why We Love Being Women in the Church (After Years of Insecurity & Comparison)
Like a lot of women, we've struggled with comparison, jealousy, and insecurity. We've also been hurt by people in the church. But at the end of the day, our friendships with other women who love Jesus have been some of the most healing, life-giving relationships we've experienced. Here's more of...
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Listen to THIS Before You Go on a First Date
Going on a first date? We got you. Here's your pump up.
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Does Evangelism Dating Work?
Okay, we'll admit it. We've all had a crush on someone who wasn't a Christian before. Here's what we learned from our experiences.
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When One Person's "Just Not Feeling It"
What happens when you feel a romantic connection, but the other person... doesn't? In this episode, we unpack the disconnect that can happen in early dating, especially when a relationship starts long distance. We talk about how to handle the disappointment of feeling "summed up" or "dismissed"...
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Should I Get Back Together With My Ex? (with Katie Hern and Naomi Specht)
In this week's episode, we invited our very first returning guests, Naomi Specht and Katie Hern, to chat through the question many of us have asked at one point or another: Should I get back together with my ex? If you've ever wondered if you gave up too soon on someone great.... Or if it's a…
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A Guy’s Perspective on Dating, Vulnerability, and Communication (with David Sassounian)
If you've ever wondered... Why it feels like men and women are speaking a different language sometimes Why women have an easier time being vulnerable What to do when it's that time of the month for your girlfriend and she's having some emotions How to find good community (and why you need it)…
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We're BACK!! Wedding Dresses, Dating, and Meeting the Parents
We're BACK!! We missed you guys. We're bringing you alllll the life updates from December to February. P.S. This episode was recorded at the end of February for context. 😉
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When Things Get Serious: Pacing & Communication in the Committed Stage
How long should you date before getting engaged? When do you introduce someone to your family? What do communication and conflict look like in the serious dating stage? We talk through all of these questions and how we're currently navigating moving from “getting to know you” to “we're really…
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Does "The Ick" Mean It's Over?
You're dating someone, everything's going great, and then it happens: you get "the ick." He wore the wrong shoes. She chewed with her mouth open. Can you come back from this?! Kalli, Lauren, and Andrea talk through these burning questions.
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Dating Apps: From Profile Mistakes to First Dates
If you've ever wished someone would give you the full deets on how they approach dating apps - this is your episode. In this 1.3-hour-long episode, Lauren and Andrea break down everything: what makes us swipe left, how we’ve built our own profiles (and why), what we actually say when messaging...
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🫖 Tuesday Tea: The Podcast Hits Unprecedented Times
History has been made, folks. For the first time ever, all three Christians Who Date are in relationships at the same time. We’re spilling all the tea on: - Kalli's ginormous news - Andrea's pickleball romance - Lauren's dating bootcamp Grab your favorite mug, your emotional support water bottle,...
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Have We Prayed for Our Husbands?
We grew up hearing we should pray for our husbands. There are entire books and journals around it. But what has it actually looked like? This week, we're unpacking what it's looked like for us to... Toe the line between praying for marriage and idolizing it. Ask boldly for something that was…
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Do Our Callings Have to Match?
As Christians, we can get really fixated on finding someone with the same “calling.” But how much does that actually matter? In this episode, we talk about the balance between making your calling too big of a deal and not making it a deal at all. If someone’s dream is to live overseas and yours...
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When You're "Just Friends" But You're Not
What happens when you're "just friends" with someone and... They have a crush on you You have a crush on them You both have a mutual crush on each other, but you're in denial Kalli, Lauren, and Andrea sit down to answer this topic idea thrown out to us by one of you 🎉 : "Healthy friendship...
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From Relationship Anxiety to Married & Engaged in 2 Weeks (with Joy and Mathieu Rossignol)
Does anxiety in a relationship mean it's not from God? This week, we sit down with our friends and dating experts, Joy and Mathieu Rossignol. After experiencing their own anxiety throughout ten months of dating, they were finally able to work through it and get married and engaged IN TWO WEEKS.…
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Being Honest With Yourself About Wanting Marriage (with Kate Goeler)
What happens when you’ve convinced yourself you’re content being single… then realize maybe you’re not? In this episode, our friend Kate (37) opens up about her story of coming to the Lord, spending 10 years on the mission field, and getting really honest with herself about her desire to be...
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Is the Church Failing Singles?
In a 2024 survey, 50% of people said they're single and not looking for a relationship. Meanwhile, in the church, marriage and family are talked about all the time. Marriage even feels elevated as the godliest relationship status sometimes. As three people who are not married and have been single...
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How to Get a Boyfriend (Or Girlfriend)
Andrea is finally bringing the question to the table that all of us singles are asking: "How do you actually get a boyfriend?" (Or girlfriend, for you guys out there.) Kalli and Lauren open up about how they met their boyfriends, we trade tips on dating with intention, and we talk honestly about...
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Don't Put Life on Hold While You're Single
What if your best stories don’t have to wait until you’re married? In this episode, Andrea and Lauren sit down (without Kalli 😫) and talk through: How they met and became friends on the mission field Going from being super single to dating up a storm Dreams they’ve gone after in their single…
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There's No Crush Like a Camp Crush
Camp crushes hit different. In this episode, we're spilling all the details on: Lauren’s “camp” (that was mostly manual labor) where she fell in love with a guy mid-lunch prayer Kalli’s crush who sang a song in front of the whole camp… that wasn't for her. Andrea’s crush who gave her a nickname...
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Our Favorite Moments from 50 Episodes 🎉
We sit down for our 50TH episode and chat through: Our favorite moments from the first 50 episodes The episodes that surprised us in how people responded Our funniest behind-the-scenes moments What we talk about pre- and post- recording How our dating experiences have changed since starting the...
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How We Deal With Insecurities in Dating
Dating has a way of shining a spotlight on our insecurities. And while compliments feel good in the moment, they can be fleeting if we haven't rooted our worth in something steady. In this episode, we’re talking about the insecurities that creep into every stage of dating, why they can feel so...
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Why Marriage Isn't the Destination (with Namaan & Delcie Mian)
It's easy to feel like marriage is the goal, especially in the church. In reality, marriage is just one way Jesus helps us reach the ultimate goal, which is looking more like Him. In this episode, we sat down with Namaan and Delcie Mian to unpack their 4-year journey from friends to dating to...
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What Building Trust Really Looks Like in Dating & Marriage (with Abram Goff)
How far is too far? What counts as crossing a line? Where should we draw physical boundaries in dating? If you’ve ever asked those questions (or heard them a thousand times in youth group), you’re not alone. But maybe there’s a better question: What’s your goal and how are you going to get there?...
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Hot Takes on Popular Dating Advice
In this episode, we’re talking about popular dating advice we've all seen floating around out there. We share our honest, unfiltered thoughts on: - Will you really find love when you stop looking for it? - Should you play "hard to get"? - Do opposites attract? - Should it be you and your bf/gf...
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Should We Throw Out "The List"? (Plus Our Most Ridiculous List Items)
Let’s talk about The List. This is the mental (or literal) checklist of things we want in the person we marry. In this episode, we’re unpacking our old lists and asking questions like: - What are the most unrealistic or ridiculous things we’ve had on our lists? - What happens when someone checks...
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Where Is God in Suffering?
For centuries, philosophers and theologians have been wrestling with the question: “If there’s a good God, why do people suffer?” Or the classic: “Why do bad things happen to good people?” We’re not here to tie this episode up with a pretty bow. We’re sitting in the tension of believing in a good...
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Is Your “Ideal” Keeping You Single?
A lot of us have a picture in our heads of what a relationship should look like. In this episode, Kalli, Andrea, and Lauren talk about the difference between healthy standards and unrealistic expectations, and how to know if your “ideal” is actually keeping you from seeing the good thing (or good...
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Waiting on God (When You’re Tired of Waiting)
What does it mean for us to wait on God? What happens when we’ve been waiting a long time for our dreams for marriage and a family? In this episode, Kalli, Lauren, and Andrea share openly and honestly about seasons of waiting on God for dreams - whether that be a relationship, finances, or other...
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9 Power Couples We've Learned From
What makes a good marriage? In this episode, Kalli, Lauren, and Andrea talk about 9 real-life (not celebrity) power couples that have given them vision for what they want in a marriage. They cover things like: Why marriage isn't the end goal Inviting kids into the fullness of your life Being...
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Controversial Takes: 5 Love Languages & Enneagram
The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman has sold 20 million copies around the world. Millions of people have taken the Enneagram personality test (although Christians have been questioning its origins in the last couple of years). In what could be their most controversial episode yet, the Christians...
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Set-Ups, Standards, and Intentional Dating (with Kerry and Dane Earl)
What does it actually look like to date with intentionality? In this episode, Kalli, Lauren, and Andrea sit down with Kerry and Dane Earl as they drop all kinds of wisdom and practical tips on how to date well. They cover things like: How to create safety as a man in dating (lol, don't worry…
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From Over-Spiritualizing Dating to Owning Our Choices
Are there ways we over-spiritualize dating? How do we bring God into the process in a healthy way? Kalli, Lauren, and Andrea share their fails when it comes to over-spiritualizing dating and talk about what they do now instead.
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Do Things Need to Happen Organically?
Is wanting things to unfold “organically” holding you back? Kalli, Lauren, and Andrea chat through the tension between letting things be organic and dating with intentionality.
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Hot Takes: Height, Love at First Sight, and Splitting the Check
Do women make too big of a deal out of height? How much does it actually matter? Does love at first sight happen? Is it legit? Is splitting the check ever the move? Is movie taste a deal-breaker? Kalli, Andrea, and Lauren jump into some hot takes on all the questions above. Let us know what you...
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Ghosting, Good Morning Texts, and Getting Better at Communication (One Fail at a Time)
How much do you communicate when you’re first starting to date? What about when things are getting more serious? Kalli, Lauren, and Andrea talk through things like: - All-day texting - The “Good Morning” Text - Defining the relationship - Communication fails
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What Makes a Fun Date... Fun?
What are the markers of a fun date? Bungee jumping? Helicopter rides? Fancy outfits? Kalli, Lauren, and Andrea break down some of the most fun dates they've ever been on and why they were fun. Feel free to steal any of these date ideas for yourself. Shout out to The Adventure Challenge.
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When You're the Last One Single in the Friend Group
If you've said "yes" to being a bridesmaid (or groomsman) 17 times, and there is not a man or woman on the horizon for you to date, this one's for you. Kalli, Lauren, and Andrea get real about what it's like to be the last one single in your friend group. They talk through questions like: • How…
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How to Make Your Life Better (With or Without a Relationship)
Whether you're single, dating, or somewhere in between, this conversation is all about owning your life—right now. Kalli, Lauren, and Andrea unpack what it looks like to stop looking for someone else to give you the life you want and start building it right now. The ladies talk through: - Taking...
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Are All The Good People Taken?
"There are no good options out there. They're all taken." From the mountains of Montana, to the streets of LA, to the taco trucks of Austin, people everywhere are saying their city is the worst city to date in. BUT IS IT REALLY TRUE?! Kalli, Lauren, and Andrea sit down to unpack why it's tempting...
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Does “The One” Exist?
Is there one right person for everyone? Kalli, Lauren, and Andrea talk through their ideas about “the one” and how they’ve seen this idea play out in dating.
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When & How to Bring Community Into Dating
How do you bring other people into the dating process? When do you introduce someone to your friends? Family? In this episode, Kalli, Andrea, and Lauren unpack: Why it’s so important to invite people you trust into your dating life When to bring someone around your friends and family Why we don't...
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How Much Does Attraction Matter in Dating?
How much does attraction matter in dating? Do you have to be attracted to your boyfriend or girlfriend 24/7? In this episode, Kalli, Lauren, and Andrea dive into all the questions about chemistry, attraction, and what to do when you’re just not feeling it. We talk about: - What attraction…
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Getting Needs Met in Healthy Ways
You have needs. Physical needs. Emotional needs. Spiritual needs. But if you've ever felt like you should be "low-maintenance" or "not too needy," you're not the only one. In this episode, Kalli, Andrea, and Lauren unpack how to identify your needs and get them met in a healthy way—whether you’re...
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When & How Should I Bring Up Faith in Dating?
How soon is too soon to bring up faith when you're dating? And how do you bring it up naturally instead of making it feel like an interview. In this episode, Lauren and Andrea talk through the real-life questions they ask to bring up THE most important thing in their life: their faith. It's what...
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How to Set a Healthy Dating Pace (And Our Worst Pacing Fails)
How slow or fast is a healthy speed to move in a dating relationship? What does building trust look like? Kalli, Andrea, and Lauren talk through their biggest pacing fails and what they've learned about setting a healthy dating pace. Resource: How to Develop a Relationship: The Intimacy Ladder…
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2024 Dating Wrapped: What We Learned & What's Next
Andrea, Kalli, and Lauren sit down to recap the highs, lows, and unexpected plot twists of their dating lives in 2024—what worked, what flopped, and what they’re hoping for in 2025. The ladies talk about: The biggest lessons they learned from dating last year What they’re looking forward to in…
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Why We Don't Hate Valentine's Day
Valentine's Day feels HIGH stakes. If you're dating, it feels like there are a lot of expectations. If you're single, it feels like you're 100% gonna be sad all day. But is it possible to have a Valentine's Day and just... enjoy it? In this episode, Kalli, Andrea, and Lauren talk about how even...
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Why Dating?
3 best friends taking on the dating world with jokes and Jesus.
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Fun, Boundaries, and Dating in Community with Jess & B-Real Gulino (AKA The Honeys Do Love Talkin')
The Christians Who Date sit down with arguably one of the most entertaining couples ever to talk about setting healthy boundaries, prioritizing fun in your relationship, and dating in community. Jess and B-Real Gulino share their dating story and the advice they would give their single selves.
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Join 3 best friends over 30 as they take on the dating world with jokes and Jesus.
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Andrea Alley, Kalli Christofferson, and Lauren Bournique
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