Church Girl Chats Podcast

You’re in every ministry. You never say no. You show up every time the doors open. And you are exhausted in ways you don’t even say out loud anymore.In Part 2 of our Unchained Church Girl series, we’re getting honest about what the Good Church Girl pattern has actually cost us — emotionally, spiritually, and personally. We talk about burnout, perfectionism, and the surprising truth that staying busy in ministry can sometimes be a way of avoiding the very God you’re serving.If you’ve ever cried in a driveway after telling someone you were “blessed” — this episode is for you.💬 Comment: What’s the one church job you’re doing right now purely out of guilt? 🔗 Take the Church Girl Archetype Quiz: subscribepage.io/ChurchGirlArchetypes 🔔 Subscribe — Part 3 drops next week.#ChurchGirlChats #UnchainedChurchGirl #ChurchBurnout #ChristianWomenOver40 #FaithAndIdentity #GoodChurchGirl #ChurchGirlDetox #ChurchGirlReset Get full access to Becoming Engaged with Cheryl Thomas at becomingengaged.substack.com/subscribe

Have you ever felt like you had an “emotional dress code” before you even knew what emotions were? In this kickoff to our 4-part series, Unchained Church Girl, we’re going back to the beginning to ask: How did I get here?For many Christian women—especially those of us who grew up in the Black church—we learned church behavior long before we learned a real relationship with God. We were taught expectations before intimacy and service before daughterhood. Today, Cheryl and Valerie discuss the origin of the “Good Church Girl” and how to identify the invisible rulebook we’ve been carrying for decades.In this episode, we explore:* Sunday School vs. Scripture: Why we often prioritize church tradition over biblical truth.* The Invisible Rulebook: Naming the unwritten standards of dress, speech, and “strength” that lead to burnout.* Identity vs. Conditioning: How to separate who God says you are from who church culture told you to be.* The “Sanctified” Mask: Breaking the habit of performing for the third row instead of worshipping God.This isn’t about church bashing—it’s about church healing. It’s time to move from sitting on the sidelines to fully engaging in the life God actually called you to live.💬 COMMENT CHALLENGE: What is one unwritten church rule you carried for years? Drop it in the comments. Let’s name it so we can leave it behind.RESOURCES MENTIONED:* Church Girl Archetype Quiz: Click HERE to take the quiz now#ChurchGirlChats #BlackChurch #WomenInMinistry #ChristianWomenOver40 #SpiritualGrowth #FaithAndIdentity Get full access to Becoming Engaged with Cheryl Thomas at becomingengaged.substack.com/subscribe

As we close out Women’s History Month, we’re continuing our conversation about women, faith, and legacy inside the church.In this episode of Church Girl Chats, we explore a topic many Christian women quietly wrestle with: calling.Many women in the church carry gifts they don’t always feel permission to fully use.Not because they lack faith.Not because they lack ability.But because church culture has often left them wondering where their voice belongs.In this episode of Church Girl Chats, we talk honestly about what it means for women to sense a calling from God — and the tension that can arise when that calling isn’t always clearly affirmed or understood.This is not a conversation about fighting for position.It’s about understanding calling, stewarding gifts with wisdom, and walking confidently in what God has placed within you.We explore the difference between humility and shrinking, between service and invisibility, and how women can contribute powerfully to the life of the church while maintaining unity and respect.Because when identity is grounded in God, calling no longer feels like competition — it becomes stewardship.This episode is not about division or debate.It’s about reflection, maturity, and learning how to steward our gifts with wisdom and grace.If you’ve ever felt called but unsure where you fit, this conversation is for you. Get full access to Becoming Engaged with Cheryl Thomas at becomingengaged.substack.com/subscribe

Welcome back to Church Girl Chats, the podcast where we have honest conversations about faith, church culture, life after 40, and becoming the women God created us to be.This month we’re doing something a little special as we recognize Women’s History Month.We’re taking time to talk about the women who shaped our faith, carried our churches, and prayed us into the lives we’re living today.If you grew up in the Black church, you know exactly who we’re talking about — the church mothers, the prayer warriors, the Sunday school teachers, the women who seemed to always be there before everybody else arrived and somehow stayed after everybody else left.Their faith built foundations many of us are still standing on today.So for the next couple of episodes, we’re reflecting on their legacy, our calling, and what it means for women in the church today.Let’s get into today’s conversation.For many of us who grew up in the Black church, faith wasn’t just taught from the pulpit — it was modeled in the pews.It was the church mothers who prayed for us.The women who corrected us.The women who showed up week after week with quiet faithfulness.They may not have always had titles, but they carried the spiritual culture of the church.In this episode of Church Girl Chats, we pause to honor the women whose prayers, discipline, and devotion helped shape generations of believers.But we also ask deeper questions:What did these women carry spiritually and emotionally?What parts of their legacy should we continue?And what might we need to do differently so that faithfulness does not become exhaustion?This conversation is both gratitude and reflection — honoring the women who carried us while considering what it means to carry the church forward today. Get full access to Becoming Engaged with Cheryl Thomas at becomingengaged.substack.com/subscribe

Love Month invites reflection—and for Christian women over 40, that reflection often runs deeper than flowers and cards.In this episode of Church Girl Chats, we’re talking honestly about marriage material—what it meant to us years ago, what it means now, and how faith reshapes our understanding of readiness, partnership, and love. We also take a thoughtful look at the idea of “the one” and how trusting God can release us from pressure, fear, and comparison.This conversation explores:* What marriage readiness really looks like at this stage of life* Why wanting marriage isn’t the same as being ready for it* Emotional healing, self-awareness, and spiritual maturity* Whether “the one” is a promise or a pressure* How faith brings peace into the dating journeyThis episode is for women who still believe in love—but are learning to pursue it with wisdom, faith, and wholeness.It’s not about checking boxes or proving worth. It’s about becoming grounded in who you are in Christ and trusting God with your future.💕 Featured Resource - Dear Future Husband ebook“Before we wrap up, I just want to remind you—if today’s conversation stirred something in you, Dear Future Husband is a devotional I created to help you pray with intention during this season.You’ll find the link below if you’d like to learn more.”Click HERE to purchase today: 💕 Featured Additional Resource (BEST VALUE)– The Wife in Waiting BundleAs we talked about marriage material, readiness, and wholeness in today’s episode, I want to gently share another resource created for women navigating this exact season.The Wife in Waiting Bundle is a digital collection designed to help shift your focus from pressure to prayer, and from striving to spiritual preparation.It includes:This digital bundle includes:• Dear Future Husband devotional ebook (31 prayers for your future spouse)• Dear Future Husband Digital Journal (a guided space for prayer, reflection, and processing)• Preparing for Love ebook (30 days of Kingdom affirmations to speak life over your waiting season)A must-have for women trusting God with marriage and becoming whole along the way.This bundle is for the woman who desires marriage but is committed to becoming whole, grounded, and anchored in God while she waits.👉 Explore the Wife in Waiting Bundle here: Get full access to Becoming Engaged with Cheryl Thomas at becomingengaged.substack.com/subscribe

It’s February. Love Month. Valentine’s Day season.And for many Christian women over 40, it’s also a season of reflection.In this episode of Church Girl Chats, we’re talking honestly about the list—the one we had when we were younger, and the one life, faith, and God helped us reshape. This candid conversation explores dating, singleness, expectations, and love after 40 with humor, vulnerability, and grace.We discuss:* How our relationship “list” changes as we mature* Lessons learned from past relationships* The pressure Christian women feel around marriage* Whether singleness is a season, a calling, or simply life right now* How God refines our desires through growth and experienceThis episode is especially for Christian women navigating Valentine’s Day single—those believing God for love, companionship, and purpose without shame or comparison.💜 Resource Mention:During the conversation, Cheryl references her devotional Dear Future Husband, a 31-day prayer journey focused on praying for the spiritual, emotional, and mental well-being of your future spouse—shifting the focus from a checklist to prayerful preparation.📘 Learn more about Dear Future Husband here:👉  https://payhip.com/b/HxAXb This episode invites you to reflect, laugh, heal, and trust God with both your heart and your future. Get full access to Becoming Engaged with Cheryl Thomas at becomingengaged.substack.com/subscribe

Church Girl Chats: Season #3, Episode 2 | The Thing You Can’t ShakeThere’s that one thing you keep praying about.The one that resurfaces no matter how faithful, busy, or productive you are.In Episode 2 of Church Girl Chats: Season 3, we’re having an honest, compassionate conversation about the recurring struggle many Christian women quietly carry—the thing that won’t go away, no matter how much we try to move past it.This isn’t about failure.It’s about awareness.In this episode, we talk candidly about:* The difference between a temporary challenge and a persistent pattern* Why some struggles keep resurfacing despite prayer and effort* What this “thing” may be stealing from you emotionally and spiritually* The exhaustion that comes from feeling like you’re always starting over* How to name your struggle without shame or self-judgmentInstead of rushing to fix it, we slow down long enough to ask better questions—and invite you into that same reflection. This conversation is meant to feel like you’re overhearing your own inner dialogue… because many of us are carrying the same weight.💬 Reflection Question:What is the one thing in your life that keeps showing up, no matter how hard you try to move on? Get full access to Becoming Engaged with Cheryl Thomas at becomingengaged.substack.com/subscribe

Before you make another plan…Before you set another goal…Before you try to “fix” anything…There’s one honest question you have to answer first:What season are you really in?In the Season 3 premiere of Church Girl Chats, we’re slowing things down and having a real, unfiltered conversation about seasons—spiritual, emotional, relational, and personal. Not the season people think you’re in. Not the season you wish you were in. But the one you’re actually living right now.This episode is an invitation to pause, reflect, and tell the truth—without guilt, shame, or pressure to perform.In this conversation, we talk openly about:* Why so many Christian women feel “in between” seasons* The pressure to have it all together by a certain age* How expectations (ours and others’) keep us stuck* What’s shifted internally over the last 5–10 years* Why naming your season is the first step to clarity and peaceThis episode isn’t about answers yet.It’s about awareness.Because you can’t move forward honestly until you admit where you are.As you listen, you may feel like you’re overhearing a conversation you’ve already been having in your own head—and that’s intentional. We want you to see yourself here.💬 Reflection Question:If you had to describe your current season in one honest sentence… what would it be? Get full access to Becoming Engaged with Cheryl Thomas at becomingengaged.substack.com/subscribe

Sis… we are NOT carrying the same stress, mess, or holy hot chaos into 2026. Nope. Not this year. In this fun but truth-filled Church Girl Chats Holiday Mini-Episode, we’re talking about the things we’re choosing to leave right here in 2025 — from people-pleasing to overextending, from comparison to carrying emotional baggage God never asked us to hold.Because sis… growth requires release.Elevation requires separation.And peace requires boundaries.This episode is a mix of humor, honesty, personal stories, and spiritual wisdom as we name the habits, mindsets, fears, and emotional baggage that kept us tired, overwhelmed, overcommitted, and spiritually drained this year — and why they don’t get to come with us into 2026.In this episode we explore:✨ Why Christian women often overextend themselves (and how to stop)✨ Letting go of guilt-based “yeses”✨ How to stop taking things personally that were never about us✨ Releasing comparison and performance-driven worth✨ Embracing joy, ease, and God-esteem in 2026✨ AND a fun “reflection challenge” for you!When you’re done listening, drop a comment or reply to this email and tell us the one thing YOU are leaving in 2025. Your answer might bless another woman who needs the same courage.We’re stepping into 2026 lighter, freer, and spiritually aligned — and we want you to come with us.📌 Watch, reflect, and drop in the comments:“Sis… what are YOU leaving in 2025?”#ChristianWomen #ChristianPodcast #WomenOver40 #FaithPodcast #EndOfYearReflection #LettingGo #SpiritualGrowth #BlackChristianWomen #Sisterhood #ChurchGirlChats #NewYearPreparation Get full access to Becoming Engaged with Cheryl Thomas at becomingengaged.substack.com/subscribe

As the holiday season picks up speed, the to-do lists grow, the stores get crowded, and the pressure to “make everything perfect” settles heavily on our shoulders. But what if the most meaningful gift you can give this year… has nothing to do with money, wrapping paper, or rushing from place to place?In this beautiful and grounding episode of Church Girl Chats, Valerie and I sit down to talk about the quiet, heart-shifting truth that many of us forget:✨ Presence is a gift.✨ Connection is a gift.✨ Time is a gift.✨ YOU are a gift.We explore how easy it is to get caught in holiday chaos—cooking, buying, decorating, planning—and miss the moments and people right in front of us. We talk about slowing down, making space for the relationships that matter, cultivating traditions that feed the soul, and building memories that last far longer than anything you can put under a tree.This episode feels like a warm blanket, a gentle reminder, and a deep exhale for every woman who needs permission to be present… not perfect.In this episode we discuss:🎄 The beauty of giving your presence to the people you love🎄 Creating traditions that foster genuine connection🎄 How to prioritize what’s eternal over what’s expensive🎄 Why presence reflects the heart of Emmanuel—God with us🎄 The peace that comes from choosing stillness and intentionAfter you listen, I’d love to hear from you:👉 What is one simple, meaningful tradition you want to create or revive this Christmas? Get full access to Becoming Engaged with Cheryl Thomas at becomingengaged.substack.com/subscribe

Have you ever felt that little sting when another woman wins — that moment when you want to celebrate her, but something inside of you whispers, “What about me?”Sis… you’re not alone.In this final episode of our Self-Worth Series, we’re having a real, grown-woman conversation about community over competition — and how to genuinely cheer for other women without feeling smaller in the process.Because here’s the truth:When you know who you are in Christ, you can clap for someone else without questioning your own worth. 🙌🏾Join us as we:✨ Talk about how comparison quietly kills confidence✨ Learn how to celebrate other women from a place of security, not scarcity✨ Discuss why sisterhood in the Kingdom is not a competition — it’s a collaboration✨ Share practical ways to build community that uplifts and empowersThe world tells us that another woman’s success is a threat.But in the Kingdom? Her success is proof that God is in the neighborhood. 💜Let’s redefine what it means to be a confident woman of faith — one who celebrates, supports, and stands beside her sisters, not in competition but in community.🎧 Tune in to Church Girl Chats — Community Over Competition: How to Celebrate Other Women Without Shrinking.Now streaming on Substack, YouTube, Spotify, and Apple Podcasts. Get full access to Becoming Engaged with Cheryl Thomas at becomingengaged.substack.com/subscribe

As women—especially church girls—we’ve been conditioned to say yes to everything. Yes to serving, yes to helping, yes to showing up… even when we’re exhausted and empty.But what if your “no” is just as holy as your “yes”? 🙌🏾In this powerful episode of our Self-Worth Series, we’re unpacking what it really means to set boundaries without guilt. Because healthy boundaries don’t separate you from people—they protect your peace and preserve your purpose.Join us as we talk about:💜 The myth that good Christian women never say no💜 The difference between being helpful and being used up💜 How to protect your peace and energy without feeling selfish💜 Why Jesus modeled healthy boundaries—and so should weThis isn’t about pushing people away—it’s about walking in wisdom, protecting your assignment, and understanding that obedience to God sometimes means saying no to good things so you can say yes to the right ones.If you’ve ever struggled with guilt, burnout, or people-pleasing, this episode is for you.Because sis, it’s time to take your peace back. 💪🏾🎧 Tune in now to Church Girl Chats: The Power of No – Setting Boundaries Without Guilt. Get full access to Becoming Engaged with Cheryl Thomas at becomingengaged.substack.com/subscribe

Let’s be real, sis — most of us have spent years believing lies about who we are. Lies that say:“I’m not enough.”“I’m too much.”“I’ve missed my moment.”“I’ll never measure up.”But here’s the good news — God’s truth always trumps the enemy’s lies. 🙌🏾In this week’s episode of Church Girl Chats, we’re going deep into the process of renewing your mind and learning how to replace the lies you’ve believed with the truth of God’s Word. Because real transformation doesn’t start with a new wardrobe, a new man, or a new year — it starts with a renewed mind.Join us as we:💜 Identify the common lies Christian women believe about self-worth and identity💜 Learn practical ways to renew our minds through scripture💜 Talk about why “positive thinking” isn’t enough — we need biblical truth💜 Share personal stories of how we replaced shame with grace and insecurity with identityIt’s time to stop letting the enemy narrate your story.You are who God says you are — not who your past, your pain, or people said you were.So grab your notebook, open your Bible, and get ready for a truth detox.Because this episode will help you walk out of the lies and into your divine identity.🎧 Tune in now to Church Girl Chats: Replacing the Lies with God’s Truth (Self-Worth Series, Part 2) Get full access to Becoming Engaged with Cheryl Thomas at becomingengaged.substack.com/subscribe

There’s a lot of talk these days about self-esteem — how to build it, protect it, and project it.But what if the real power doesn’t start with self at all… what if it starts with God?In this first episode of our Self-Worth Series, we’re diving deep into the difference between self-esteem and God-esteem — and why learning to see yourself through God’s eyes changes everything.Because here’s the truth: you can read all the affirmations, repeat all the mantras, and still feel empty inside if your worth isn’t anchored in Him.In this episode, Cheryl and Valerie open up about:✨ Why “self-esteem” alone can’t heal what only God can restore✨ How to stop chasing confidence and start walking in divine assurance✨ Scriptures that reveal who you are in Christ — and why that’s the only identity that lasts✨ Real talk about the inner battles we face as women trying to find balance, belonging, and belief in ourselvesThis isn’t another motivational talk about loving yourself.It’s an honest, Spirit-led conversation about what happens when you exchange self-worth for God-worth — and finally understand who you are, and Whose you are.Whether you’re rebuilding your confidence, rediscovering your purpose, or just tired of measuring yourself against the world’s standards, this episode will remind you that:💜 You are chosen.💜 You are called.💜 You are crafted by God for something extraordinary.Welcome to Part One of the Self-Worth Series — where we trade self-esteem for God-esteem, and learn to live anchored in who He says we are.🎧 Listen now on Substack, YouTube, Spotify, and Apple Podcasts.Becoming Engaged with Cheryl Thomas is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber. Get full access to Becoming Engaged with Cheryl Thomas at becomingengaged.substack.com/subscribe

Too many women walk away from friendships after conflict. But in Part Two of our Friendships Over 40 series, we’re talking about why authentic sisterhood is worth fighting for.In this powerful episode, we:✅ Explore why so many women give up on friendships after conflict✅ Share practical steps for forgiveness and reconciliation✅ Talk about healthy boundaries vs. simply cutting people off✅ Share strategies for building new friendships and nurturing existing ones after 40✅ Highlight the role of prayer in protecting and strengthening sisterhoodThis conversation is real, raw, and rooted in God’s Word. If you’ve ever struggled with friendships, forgiveness, or finding true community, this one’s for you.Friendship isn’t always easy—but it is always worth the effort. This episode will encourage you to lean into love, forgiveness, and community in ways that bring healing and hope.✨ If you missed Part One, make sure to go back and listen—it’s the foundation for this conversation! Get full access to Becoming Engaged with Cheryl Thomas at becomingengaged.substack.com/subscribe

Why do friendships feel harder as we get older? In Part One of our Friendships Over 40 series, we’re diving into what authentic sisterhood really looks like for Christian women today.In this episode, we’re unpacking the beauty and power of authentic sisterhood for Christian women. Friendships may look different after 40, but that doesn’t mean they’re any less important—or that they can’t be deep, life-giving, and God-centered.Join us as we:✅ Talk about how friendships shift after 40✅ Define what makes a friendship authentic vs. surface-level✅ Explore the role of church culture in helping (or hurting) real connections✅ Share our personal stories of sisterhood—the joys, the challenges, and the lessonsGod never intended for us to walk alone. This conversation will remind you that authentic sisterhood is possible, powerful, and worth pursuing. 💜✨ Don’t forget—this is just Part One! In Part Two, we’ll dive into conflict resolution, forgiveness, and how to fight for friendships instead of walking away. Get full access to Becoming Engaged with Cheryl Thomas at becomingengaged.substack.com/subscribe

🎙️✨ Season 2 of Church Girl Chats is here—and we’re starting with something BIG!In this very first episode of Season 2, we’re pulling back the curtain to introduce you to the new co-host of Church Girl Chats! 💃🏾💜Get ready for a fun, light-hearted, and joy-filled conversation where we:✅ Share the story of how God connected us for this new season of the podcast✅ Do a “getting-to-know-you” session with fun and faith-filled questions✅ Talk about the exciting new topics and series we’ll be covering this season—everything from faith and church culture to health, wellness, relationships, lifestyle, and purpose✅ Give you a sneak peek at how this new co-host dynamic will bring even more wisdom, laughter, and candid conversationsThis episode is all about sisterhood, new beginnings, and the beauty of God’s timing. If you’ve ever wondered what happens when two bold, faith-filled women sit down at the mic together… this is the one you don’t want to miss.✨ Whether you’re a long-time listener or brand new to the Church Girl Chats community, this is the perfect place to jump in. Get full access to Becoming Engaged with Cheryl Thomas at becomingengaged.substack.com/subscribe

Sis, who says you can’t travel like a queen on a budget? ✈️🌴In this episode of Church Girl Chats, I’m joined by travel expert Carmen King to uncover the best budget-friendly summer travel destinations and insider tips for making your next trip unforgettable — without draining your wallet. Whether you’re planning a solo adventure, a girls’ getaway, or a family vacation, this conversation will give you the confidence (and hacks!) to book your next trip smart and stress-free.✨ Here’s what you’ll discover in this episode:* Hidden gem destinations that are affordable and fabulous* How to score cheap flights and hotel deals* Tips for planning memorable trips without financial stress* Creative ways to enjoy luxury travel on a modest budgetIf you’ve been craving a summer escape but feeling the pinch of rising costs, this episode is packed with travel wisdom, inspiration, and practical strategies to help you experience more without overspending.Sis, it’s time to pack light, pray over that itinerary, and get ready to enjoy a summer to remember — on a budget that blesses you. ☀️ Get full access to Becoming Engaged with Cheryl Thomas at becomingengaged.substack.com/subscribe

Sis, who said budget-friendly meals can’t slap? 🍴✨Welcome to Episode #1 of the Church Girl Chats Summer School Series — and we’re kicking things off with flavor, fun, and fellowship in the kitchen! I’m joined by the amazing Chef Sharon Watts of Copeland Culinary Eats, who shows us how to create fabulous summer meals on a budget that are quick, easy, and packed with joy.This week’s menu will make your family run to the table:🍗 Chicken quesadillas with homemade pico de gallo🍓 Fresh fruit parfaits layered with homemade whipped cream💰 All made affordably — because great meals don’t have to break the bank!Whether you’re a busy Christian woman looking for easy weeknight dinners, a foodie on a budget, or someone who just loves fresh, healthy summer recipes, this episode is filled with cooking tips, meal planning hacks, and God-honoring kitchen inspiration.Because Sis, this isn’t just about food — it’s about fellowship, fun, and feeding your family with wisdom and joy. 🙌🏾 Get full access to Becoming Engaged with Cheryl Thomas at becomingengaged.substack.com/subscribe

Sis… what if the confidence you’ve been chasing isn’t what you really need? ✨You got the degree. You landed the job. You even leveled up your glow-up game. But if you’re honest, the insecurity still creeps in — because self-esteem built on shaky ground will always leave you empty.In this soul-stirring episode of Church Girl Chats, we’re talking about God-Esteem — the kind of confidence that doesn’t crack when the mirror lies, the likes don’t come, or when people walk away. This conversation is a faith reset for every woman who’s tired of chasing validation and ready to rest in divine identity.✨ Here’s what you’ll learn in this episode:* Why self-esteem will always fall short without a spiritual foundation* The difference between who you feel you are and who God says you are* How to let go of worldly validation and walk confidently in your Kingdom identity* What the Bible actually says about your value, beauty, and purpose* How to live like a woman who knows she is fully known, fully loved, and fully calledThis isn’t just motivation, Sis — it’s transformation. 💛Because your identity isn’t built on emotions or approval. It’s built on the eternal Word of God. You don’t have to earn your worth. You don’t have to hustle for acceptance. You are already chosen. Already loved. Already enough. Get full access to Becoming Engaged with Cheryl Thomas at becomingengaged.substack.com/subscribe

Sis, can you love faith and fashion? 👗✨ Can you embrace your personal style while still honoring God?In Episode #16 of Church Girl Chats, we’re tackling the real conversation every stylish, Spirit-filled woman needs: Modesty, Ministry & Makeup — What Does God Really Think?Too often, church culture has misunderstood or misrepresented modesty. But here’s the truth: you can be saved and stylish, holy and fashionable — without apology. In this episode, we unpack what modesty really means, why fashion and faith are not enemies, and how you can glorify God in everything you wear.✨ Here’s what we cover in this conversation:* How Christian women can balance style, faith, and self-expression* What modesty and ministry really mean beyond the hemline* The truth about modesty without falling into legalism* How to walk confidently in your God-given identity while embracing your style* Why fashion + faith actually complement each other when put in the right perspective* Encouragement for women of faith navigating beauty, church culture, and modern trends👑 Sis, you were created to be holy and fashionable — to slay in grace and truth, reflecting the creativity of our Creator in everything you do… even in what you wear. Get full access to Becoming Engaged with Cheryl Thomas at becomingengaged.substack.com/subscribe

Sis, is prayer your lifestyle—or just your last resort? 🙏🏽In Episode #15 of Church Girl Chats, we’re diving deep into a conversation every believer needs: The Power, Privilege & Passion of Prayer. Prayer isn’t just a checkbox or a routine — it’s our lifeline, our strategy, and our sacred space of communion with God. Yet if we’re honest, many of us wrestle with staying consistent, connected, or even confident when we pray.I’m joined by Nichole Andrews, a passionate woman of prayer, leader, and speaker, as we unpack what it really looks like to build a prayer life that is powerful, personal, and Spirit-led.✨ In this episode you’ll discover:* What prayer really is — and what it’s not* How to reignite your personal prayer life with fire and passion* Why reverence and awe matter when approaching God* How to overcome dryness, disconnection, and prayer fatigue* Misconceptions about prayer in today’s church culture* How women of faith can reclaim their power through prayerThis conversation is for every Christian woman who feels spiritually dry, longs to experience God more deeply, or is ready to return to the feet of Jesus with boldness and reverence.Sis, prayer is not just powerful — it’s your privilege. Let’s reclaim it together. 💛 Get full access to Becoming Engaged with Cheryl Thomas at becomingengaged.substack.com/subscribe

Sis, are you feeling called to start a business but don’t even know where to begin? 💼 You’re not alone — and this episode of Church Girl Chats was made for YOU.In Episode #14, I’m joined by Erica Michele Bailey, a powerful Christian entrepreneur who has built her business with purpose, prayer, and power. Together, we’re unpacking what it really looks like to build a business from the ground up — not just with hustle and grind, but with biblical principles, Holy Spirit strategy, and Kingdom confidence.✨ In this episode, you’ll learn:* How to know if God is truly calling you into entrepreneurship* What to do before you launch your business* Practical steps for starting with God at the center* How to overcome fear, doubt, and comparison* Why Kingdom entrepreneurship looks different from the world’s model* How to hear from God in your business decisions* How to build something that glorifies God and impacts livesThis episode is packed with biblical wisdom, real-life experience, and faith-based business strategies to help you move from vision to execution with boldness and clarity.Sis, it’s time to stop second-guessing yourself and start building — God’s way. Get full access to Becoming Engaged with Cheryl Thomas at becomingengaged.substack.com/subscribe

Sis, when God gives you a dream, it’s exciting… until life gets in the way. 💭 Plans fall apart, timing doesn’t make sense, and suddenly you’re left wondering: Did I even hear God right?In Episode #12 of Church Girl Chats, I’m joined by Master Coach Tyrone Hutchinson for a powerful conversation on what it really means to plan the dream—to hold onto the God-given vision in your heart while walking in obedience, patience, and perseverance, even when the path feels unclear.✨ In this episode, you’ll learn:* How to hear from God clearly and receive divine instructions* What to do when obstacles challenge your faith and focus* The importance of faith-based goal setting and spiritual strategy* Why trusting God’s timing is vital to your process* How to hold on to your Kingdom vision, even in waiting seasonsWhether you’re an aspiring entrepreneur, a woman of faith pursuing purpose-driven living, or someone trying to reconnect with your calling, this episode will give you the clarity, confidence, and courage to keep moving forward.📖 “Write the vision and make it plain… though it tarry, wait for it; it will surely come.” – Habakkuk 2:2–3📖 “He who began a good work in you will be faithful to complete it.” – Philippians 1:6Sis, your dream is still alive—and God is faithful to bring it to pass. 💛 Get full access to Becoming Engaged with Cheryl Thomas at becomingengaged.substack.com/subscribe

Sis, God has called you to lead—starting with your own life. 💼 But let’s be real… many of us as Christian women were never taught to see ourselves as leaders, to step into purpose with authority, or to walk confidently in our God-given identity.In this episode of Church Girl Chats, we’re talking about what it means to truly become the CEO of YOU—leading your life with Holy Spirit strategy, discipline, and purpose. My guest, Master Life Coach and Strategist Eric Thomas, joins me for a powerful, faith-filled conversation on what it takes to walk boldly in leadership and purpose.✨ Here’s what we cover in this episode:* How to develop self-awareness and a strong biblical identity* Overcoming fear, procrastination, and self-doubt* Taking ownership of your God-given purpose and destiny* Leading with faith, confidence, and spiritual authority* Building discipline and mindset to align with your calling* Walking in Kingdom leadership so boldly that others can’t help but ask, “Sis, how did you get here?”It’s time to stop playing small. This is the season to rise up, embrace your purpose, and live faith-filled, purpose-driven, and Holy Ghost-led. God has called you to lead your life well—and this conversation will show you how to start. Get full access to Becoming Engaged with Cheryl Thomas at becomingengaged.substack.com/subscribe

Sis, having a dream is easy… but executing it? That’s where most people get stuck. 💡In this episode of Church Girl Chats: Dreamer’s Academy, I’m joined by Pastor Chadrick McGriff for a real, practical, and faith-filled conversation on how to move from vision to action. If you’ve ever felt trapped in the “dreaming” phase or struggled to push past fear, procrastination, or setbacks, this one’s for you.✨ In this episode, you’ll discover:* Why so many people stay stuck dreaming but never execute* The missing steps most overlook when implementing their vision* How to break free from fear, self-doubt, and analysis paralysis* Why faith and strategy must work together for success* The power of discipline, consistency, and divine timing in execution* How to align your plans with God’s will so your dream prospers🚀 If you’ve been holding onto a vision but don’t know how to bring it to life, it’s time to stop waiting, stop second-guessing, and start moving forward with bold, strategic, and faith-filled action.Your dream isn’t dead—it just needs your yes, your faith, and your follow-through. Get full access to Becoming Engaged with Cheryl Thomas at becomingengaged.substack.com/subscribe

Sis, have you ever felt like your dream has died? 💔 Maybe you put it on the shelf because of fear or doubt… or maybe life’s distractions convinced you it was too late. But here’s the truth: God hasn’t forgotten, and your dream is not dead. 🙌🏾In this vulnerable episode of Church Girl Chats, I’m sharing my own story of a dream I let die — and how God restored my hope, courage, and faith to believe again. If you’ve ever wrestled with trusting God’s timing or wondered if your purpose is still possible, this conversation is for YOU.✨ In this episode we’ll cover:* Why dreams fade and how to know when it’s time to revive yours* How to surrender your dream to God and trust His plan* Overcoming fear, doubt, and discouragement through faith* The power of obedience and faith-based action steps* Building a Kingdom mindset and support system for success* Walking boldly in your God-given purposeAnd here’s the scriptural encouragement that anchors this episode:“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” — Jeremiah 29:11 💛Sis, it’s time to resurrect your dream and believe again. Get full access to Becoming Engaged with Cheryl Thomas at becomingengaged.substack.com/subscribe

Sis, God’s call on women is undeniable. 🙌🏾 Yet stepping into ministry as a woman often comes with its own set of challenges, traditions to push through, and moments that require deep faith and bold obedience.In Episode #8 of Church Girl Chats, we’re celebrating Women’s History Month by honoring women preachers, teachers, and leaders who are making a Kingdom impact. I’m joined by two powerful women of God who share their journeys of answering the call, overcoming obstacles, and leading with courage.✨ In this conversation you’ll discover:* How women know they’re called into ministry (and what that journey looks like)* The unique obstacles women face in church leadership spaces* Breaking traditions and redefining leadership for the next generation* How to overcome doubt, discouragement, and spiritual warfare in ministry* The balance between faith, leadership, and personal life* Advice for women who feel called but hesitant to step forward* A glimpse into the future of women in ministry — and how to walk boldly in your assignmentThis episode is both powerful and emotional, packed with wisdom, encouragement, and real talk for women of faith. Whether you’re seasoned in ministry, just getting started, or still praying about your calling, this conversation will equip you to step forward with confidence and courage. 💛 Get full access to Becoming Engaged with Cheryl Thomas at becomingengaged.substack.com/subscribe

Sis, let’s be honest — these uncertain economic times can make money feel like it’s slipping through our fingers. Rising prices, inflation, and financial stress have many of us asking, “How do I keep it all together?” 💰 But here’s the good news: as Christian women, we’re not called to fear money — we’re called to steward it God’s way. 🙌🏾In this episode of Church Girl Chats, I’m sitting down with financial and wealth expert Catherine Franklin to talk about what it really means to secure your finances with both wisdom and faith. This conversation is about more than just surviving — it’s about thriving, even in uncertain times.✨ Here’s what you’ll discover in this episode:* How to recession-proof your finances and build long-term security* The biggest money mistakes Christians make (and how to avoid them)* How to balance faith and financial wisdom without fear* Practical strategies for budgeting, saving, and investing wisely* Why multiple streams of income matter (and how to start building them)* What the Bible really says about wealth, stewardship, and financial freedomWhether you’re paying off debt, preparing for retirement, or just trying to stretch your money further, this episode will give you the tools, the encouragement, and the biblical foundation you need to find true financial peace.Sis, it’s time to stop stressing and start stewarding — let’s get our wealth together, God’s way. 💛 Get full access to Becoming Engaged with Cheryl Thomas at becomingengaged.substack.com/subscribe

Sis, let’s talk about it — is love after divorce really possible? 💕For many Christian women, navigating life, faith, and relationships after divorce can feel like walking through a maze. Between personal healing, church culture, and all the “opinions” folks love to give 👀, it’s easy to wonder if love is even on the table again. But let me remind you — God is not done writing your story. 🙌🏾In this episode of Church Girl Chats, I’m joined by the incredible Pastor Chrissy Vickers of Mind of Christ Ministries in Ocala, FL. Together, we’re unpacking what it looks like to find love again with faith, wisdom, and confidence.✨ Here’s what you’ll discover in this conversation:* The challenges and joys of dating after divorce* How to navigate relationships in the church without the side-eye* What God really says about love, grace, and second chancesIf you’ve ever felt torn between “I want to love again” and “What will people think?”, this conversation is for YOU. Grab your tea ☕, invite a friend, and lean in — because sis, there is life and love after divorce. Get full access to Becoming Engaged with Cheryl Thomas at becomingengaged.substack.com/subscribe

Sis, let’s be honest — dating after 40 as a Christian woman can feel like a whole wilderness season. 💕 You’ve prayed, waited, trusted God, and maybe even tried the apps… but love still hasn’t shown up the way you thought it would. Meanwhile, it looks like everybody else is walking down the aisle — sometimes without even acknowledging God at all. And here you are, still waiting.So what’s really going on? 🤔In this episode of Church Girl Chats, I’m sitting down with my amazing guests, Valerie Thomas and Marcus Davis, for a real, raw, faith-filled conversation about what it means to find love after 40. Together, we’re unpacking the challenges, the hope, and the truth about dating God’s way in this season of life.✨ Here’s what you’ll discover in this episode:* The real challenges of dating over 40 as a Christian woman* Why it sometimes feels like Christian singles get overlooked* How to keep hope alive when you feel like giving up on love* What Christian men really think about dating after 40 (yes, the male perspective!)* Red flags, green flags, and how to date with wisdom and discernmentSis, you are not forgotten, and God has not overlooked your desires. There’s still hope, still purpose, and yes — love is still possible for you. 💍 Get full access to Becoming Engaged with Cheryl Thomas at becomingengaged.substack.com/subscribe

Sis, let’s talk love and marriage. 💍💕In this special episode of Church Girl Chats, I’m sitting down with my parents — who have been married for 62 years 🙌🏾 — to share wisdom on what it really takes to build and sustain a lasting, Christ-centered marriage. Whether you’re single and preparing for marriage, engaged, newly married, or celebrating decades together, this conversation is for YOU.Marriage is more than romance and wedding days. It’s about commitment, faith, friendship, and choosing love daily. My parents open up about the highs, the challenges, and the keys to keeping Christ at the center of their love story.✨ In this episode you’ll learn:* The keys to keeping love alive in every season of marriage* How to face challenges without losing your connection* Practical advice for single women preparing for marriage* Why friendship, laughter, and faith are vital in relationships* What couples wish they knew before saying “I do”If you desire a strong, healthy, faith-filled relationship, this episode is packed with encouragement and real talk to help you strengthen the love you have — or prepare for the love that’s on the way. Get full access to Becoming Engaged with Cheryl Thomas at becomingengaged.substack.com/subscribe

Sis, let’s be real — health is wealth, and it’s time we stop treating our bodies like an afterthought. In this powerful episode of Church Girl Chats, I’m joined by the amazing Lady Erica Reed as we dig into why our physical and mental well-being matter so much in this next season.As Christian women 40+, we often juggle all the things — family, work, ministry, community — and sometimes forget that taking care of ourselves is part of honoring God. But here’s the truth: your health isn’t just about looking good, it’s about being equipped to fully walk in the purpose God has for you.✨ In this conversation we’ll cover:* How to start your health journey (and actually stick with it)* Why caring for your body is an act of worship and stewardship* Practical tips for balancing health and wellness with a busy, faith-filled lifeIt’s never too late to take that first step, sis. Let’s grow stronger, healthier, and more focused on what matters most in 2025 — so we can truly live the abundant life God promised in John 10:10. Get full access to Becoming Engaged with Cheryl Thomas at becomingengaged.substack.com/subscribe

Sis, let’s talk money. 💰✨In this episode of Church Girl Chats, we’re digging into a conversation that too many of us avoid — how to get our money mindset together as Christian women 40+. For far too long, fear, scarcity thinking, and old beliefs about money have kept us from walking in the financial freedom God already promised.But here’s the truth: money isn’t the enemy. It’s a tool — one God can use to bless you, your family, and the Kingdom.✨ In this conversation you’ll learn:* The most common money mindset blocks and how to break free from them* How to see money as a tool for Kingdom purpose (not a trap)* Practical, faith-based steps to move forward financially with confidenceIf you’ve ever felt stuck in your finances or struggled with balancing faith and money, this conversation is for YOU. Let’s explore what it looks like to embrace financial freedom, walk boldly in God’s provision, and steward your resources for His glory. 🙌🏾 Get full access to Becoming Engaged with Cheryl Thomas at becomingengaged.substack.com/subscribe

Sis, it’s time to finish the year with clarity, confidence, and unshakable faith. In this powerful episode of Church Girl Chats, I’m diving into three key steps every Christian woman 40+ can take to renew her mind, align her thoughts with God’s Word, and prepare for the incredible purpose He has waiting in 2025 and beyond.If you’ve been feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or unsure how to move forward, this conversation is for you. Together, we’ll explore practical ways to shift your mindset, embrace God’s truth, and walk boldly into the abundant life He promised in John 10:10.✨ In this episode you’ll discover:* Practical steps to renew your mind with God’s Word.* Biblical insights to help you embrace your next season with purpose.* Encouragement to grow spiritually, mentally, and emotionally in the new year.Let’s step into this year fully engaged and ready to live the best of the rest of our lives! Be sure to listen to the end and feel free to share it with a friend! Get full access to Becoming Engaged with Cheryl Thomas at becomingengaged.substack.com/subscribe