Come Talk with Aimee: Bringing Sex Out of The Shadows

What if the reason you struggle to receive pleasure has everything to do with how your nervous system was wired?In this episode, I sit down with Lorina Manzanita, somatic intimacy coach, somatic experiencing trauma resolution practitioner, author, and educator with over 25 years of experience in the healing arts. We get into why so many empaths, caregivers, and people pleasers have a hard time receiving, how your nervous system sets your pleasure threshold, and how to expand your capacity for pleasure, intimacy, and connection through somatic practices. Lorina also introduces us to the savoring practice, the Wheel of Consent, and her own framework called the Four Rs of Fulfillment, all of which are practical tools you can start using right now.We also talk about:how self-abandonment shows up in intimate relationships, from tolerating touch you do not love to overgiving financially and emotionallywhy receiving a compliment, touch, money, or pleasure can feel physically uncomfortablethe savoring practice and how mindfully luxuriating in good feelings rewires your nervous systemwhy grief is a common response when people finally begin to receivehow advocating for your pleasure becomes even more important as your body and desires change over timeIf you have ever deflected a compliment, tolerated less than you deserve, or felt uncomfortable the moment things started to feel really good, this episode is your permission slip. You do not have to nibble on scraps. The full course meal is available, and you are allowed to receive it.Connect with Lorina ManzanitaWebsite: https://www.lorinamanzanita.com/Held and Fulfilled: A 6-week small group program for professional empaths who struggle with owning our desires & boundaries: https://integratingeros.com/Nourished: The Neuroscience of Receiving Beautifully http://www.integratingeros.com/nourished-mini-courseUse code WELCOME for 10% off your first orderhttps://motherlode-market.com/Download your FREE Pleasure Power Workbook: https://www.cometalkwithaimee.com/pleasurepowerguideElevate Your Intimacy with Lubify Lux lube. Use code AIMEE25 to get 25% https://ilubify.com/?srsltid=AfmBOorPNdYi9J1NN0TWDq4iO8PYcwNxzwi5nmACAU2aseFBxVms8RO6 Become a FirstComer on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/14753586/joinStay Connected with Come Talk with Aimee:Website: https://www.cometalkwithaimee.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/cometalkwithaimeeTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@cometalkwithaimeeYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@cometalkwithaimee

How well do you know your finger techniques? In this second anniversary episode, I’m sharing another After Hours moment with you! This time, it’s with Steph Zapata, sexual health educator, anti-colonial organizer, and the visionary behind SLAM, a groundbreaking conference centering sex, liberation, and movement work. We kick things off with a game called Fingering It Out, where Steph schools us on fingering techniques, erogenous zones, and why lube is always the answer. Then we get real and go deeper into Steph's personal journey from years of shame and disconnection to reclaiming their body, their pleasure, and themselves. We also talk about:how shame shows up in the bedroom and what to do instead of fighting itreclaiming your identity and body as home through sex educationhow to live from your heart instead of your anxiety-riddled mindusing dirty talk to turn intrusive thoughts into real-time communication with your partnerwhy imposter syndrome and fear do not have to hold you back from showing upIf you have ever felt disconnected from your body, stuck in your head during sex, or like pleasure is something you have to earn, this episode is your reminder that becoming whole is a process, shame is not yours to keep, and dirty talk might just be the hack that changes your sex life.Connect with Steph Zapata https://www.instagram.com/risewsteph/https://www.tiktok.com/@risewstephhttps://linktr.ee/RISEwStephUse code WELCOME for 10% off your first orderhttps://motherlode-market.com/Download your FREE Pleasure Power Workbook: https://www.cometalkwithaimee.com/pleasurepowerguideElevate Your Intimacy with Lubify Lux lube. Use code AIMEE25 to get 25% https://ilubify.com/?srsltid=AfmBOorPNdYi9J1NN0TWDq4iO8PYcwNxzwi5nmACAU2aseFBxVms8RO6 Become a FirstComer on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/14753586/joinStay Connected with Come Talk with Aimee:Website: https://www.cometalkwithaimee.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/cometalkwithaimeeTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@cometalkwithaimeeYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@cometalkwithaimee

Did you know that different kinds of lube are designed for different sensitivities, toys, and sexual activities? Because yes, your lube actually matters more than you think.In this anniversary episode, I’m sharing an After Hours moment with previous podcast guest and founder of Lubify, Orla Maguire. We break down the differences between water-based, silicone, oil-based, and organic lubes, how to know which one works best for your needs, and why ingredients matter when it comes to intimate care. We also talk about:ingredients to look for and why lube should feel like skincare for your vulva and penissomatics and what it means to reconnect with your bodyself-pleasure, sensation, and embodied intimacysimple breathwork techniques for grounding and nervous system regulationwhy slowing down helps you experience more pleasure and connectionhow to become more aware of what your body actually wants and needsIf you have ever grabbed a random bottle of lube without thinking twice, this episode might completely change the way you think about pleasure products. Your body deserves care, attention, and products that actually support your pleasure instead of working against it.Connect with Orla Maguirehttps://ilubify.comhttps://www.instagram.com/lubifyhttps://www.tiktok.com/@ilubifyUse code WELCOME for 10% off your first orderhttps://motherlode-market.com/Download your FREE Pleasure Power Workbook: https://www.cometalkwithaimee.com/pleasurepowerguideElevate Your Intimacy with Lubify Lux lube. Use code AIMEE25 to get 25% https://ilubify.com/?srsltid=AfmBOorPNdYi9J1NN0TWDq4iO8PYcwNxzwi5nmACAU2aseFBxVms8RO6 Become a FirstComer on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/14753586/joinStay Connected with Come Talk with Aimee:Website: https://www.cometalkwithaimee.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/cometalkwithaimeeTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@cometalkwithaimeeYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@cometalkwithaimee 

Your sexual energy is not dirty, shameful, or something you need to suppress. It is life force, creativity, connection, and one of the most powerful expressions of being human.In this episode, I sit down with transformational life coach, Kundalini yoga teacher, and Sacred Alchemy podcast host Elizabeth Hudson for a deeply expansive conversation about sacred sexuality, shame, spiritual connection, and reclaiming pleasure. We talk about the ways religion, purity culture, trauma, and societal conditioning disconnect people from their bodies and desires, and why so many people carry shame around the very energy that created them. Elizabeth breaks down the sacral chakra, sexual energy as creative force, and the connection between spirituality, embodiment, pleasure, and healing. We also talk about:healing sexual trauma through somatic work, breathwork, and nervous system regulationwhy pleasure is your birthright and not something to feel guilty aboutthe connection between spirituality, sensuality, and divine energyconscious partnership and creating deeper intimacy through presence and awarenessfeminine energy, embodiment, and reclaiming pleasure without shamewhy creativity and sexuality are more connected than most people realiseIf you have ever struggled with shame around your body, your pleasure, or your desires, this episode is your reminder that there is nothing inherently wrong with your sexuality. Your body is not something to disconnect from. It is something to come home to. Connect with Elizabeth Hudsonhttps://elizabeth-hudson.com/https://www.instagram.com/elizabeth.hudson11/https://elizabeth-hudson.com/sexual-alchemy-podcast/Use code WELCOME for 10% off your first orderhttps://motherlode-market.com/Download your FREE Pleasure Power Workbook: https://www.cometalkwithaimee.com/pleasurepowerguideElevate Your Intimacy with Lubify Lux lube. Use code AIMEE25 to get 25% https://ilubify.com/?srsltid=AfmBOorPNdYi9J1NN0TWDq4iO8PYcwNxzwi5nmACAU2aseFBxVms8RO6 Become a FirstComer on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/14753586/joinStay Connected with Come Talk with Aimee:Website: https://www.cometalkwithaimee.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/cometalkwithaimeeTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@cometalkwithaimeeYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@cometalkwithaimee

What exactly happens in an erotic bodywork retreat? In this solo episode, I take you behind the scenes of my experience attending a seven-day Back to the Body retreat in Sicily with Pamela Madsen. Ten days after interviewing Pamela on the podcast, I booked a flight to Italy and found myself immersed in somatic work, erotic touch, sisterhood, consent conversations, breathwork, body-based healing, and some of the most profound nervous system regulation I have ever experienced. I share what the retreat structure actually looked like, what surprised me the most, the emotional and physical shifts that came up during the experience, and why this work was about so much more than orgasms. I talk about:the importance of consent conversations before entering erotic spaceswhy safety changes your ability to access pleasure and embodimentsisterhood, connection, and the unexpected emotional impact of the retreatwhy erotic touch is not just about orgasms, but presence, safety, and healinghow to advocate for yourself and your boundaries in erotic spacesIf you have ever been curious about erotic bodywork, somatic sex education, or retreats like Back to the Body, this episode is an honest look at what these spaces can actually feel like from someone who experienced it firsthand. This conversation is not about shock value or fantasy. It is about embodiment, consent, safety, pleasure, and what becomes possible when you finally allow yourself to fully drop into your body.Use code WELCOME for 10% off your first orderhttps://motherlode-market.com/Download your FREE Pleasure Power Workbook: https://www.cometalkwithaimee.com/pleasurepowerguideElevate Your Intimacy with Lubify Lux lube. Use code AIMEE25 to get 25% https://ilubify.com/?srsltid=AfmBOorPNdYi9J1NN0TWDq4iO8PYcwNxzwi5nmACAU2aseFBxVms8RO6 Become a FirstComer on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/14753586/joinStay Connected with Come Talk with Aimee:Website: https://www.cometalkwithaimee.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/cometalkwithaimeeTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@cometalkwithaimeeYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@cometalkwithaimee 

Abortion is not shameful, controversial, or up for debate. It is normal, common, and a fundamental part of healthcare.In this episode, I sit down with Sophie Nir, co-founder and CEO of the Abortion Positivity Project, for a bold, unfiltered, and deeply necessary conversation about abortion, stigma, and reclaiming the narrative. We talk about what abortion positivity actually means, why abortion is not a political issue but a politicised one, and how shame has been intentionally taught and reinforced in both culture and policy. Sophie breaks down the language we have been using for decades, from “pro-choice” to “safe, legal, and rare,” and why those frameworks actually distance us from abortion instead of supporting it. We also get into the real-life impact of abortion access, why abortion is overwhelmingly common and supported, and what it looks like to move from apologising for abortion to proudly standing behind it.We talk about:why abortion is not political, but politicizedthe problem with language like “pro-choice” and “safe, legal, and rare”why abortion does not need to be justified to be validhow stigma directly impacts policy, access, and people’s lived experiencesthe reality of abortion access, restrictions, and who is most affectedwhy the most common emotional response after abortion is reliefhow to start having confident, stigma-free conversations about abortion in everyday lifeIf you are ready to drop the shame, question the narratives you have been taught, and start speaking about abortion with clarity and confidence, this episode is your permission slip. You do not need to soften it. You do not need to apologise for it. You can support it, talk about it, and stand behind it fully.Connect with Sophie Nirhttps://www.abortionpositivity.com/,https://www.instagram.com/abortionpositivity/Use code WELCOME for 10% off your first orderhttps://motherlode-market.com/Download your FREE Pleasure Power Workbook: https://www.cometalkwithaimee.com/pleasurepowerguideElevate Your Intimacy with Lubify Lux lube. Use code AIMEE25 to get 25% https://ilubify.com/?srsltid=AfmBOorPNdYi9J1NN0TWDq4iO8PYcwNxzwi5nmACAU2aseFBxVms8RO6 Become a FirstComer on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/14753586/joinStay Connected with Come Talk with Aimee:Website: https://www.cometalkwithaimee.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/cometalkwithaimeeTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@cometalkwithaimeeYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@cometalkwithaimee

What if the reason your desire feels confusing, inconsistent, or even absent… is because it is not actually aligned with who you think you are?In this episode, I sit down with the OG in the sexual wellness space, somatic sex educator, and founder of Back to the Body Retreats, Pamela Madsen, for a bold and deeply eye-opening conversation about sexual identity and what it really means to live in alignment with your desire. We talk about the sexual authenticity model, the tension between who you believe you are, what you actually want, and how you show up in your relationships. Pamela shares her journey from being the “good girl” who had the perfect life on paper to confronting desire that did not fit her identity, and how that misalignment became the catalyst for everything that followed. We also get into why so many women feel disconnected from their bodies, how desire gets suppressed over time, and what it takes to reconnect with your pleasure in a real, embodied way.We talk about:why your desire can feel out of sync with your current lifebecoming erotically fluent and learning how to feel againwhy safety is required for women to access pleasurethe difference between performing sex and experiencing itreconnecting with your body through somatic awarenesswhy your pleasure is something you actively take ownership ofIf you have ever felt like your desire does not match the life you are living, or like you are playing a role instead of actually experiencing pleasure, this episode is your invitation to get honest about what you want and start aligning your life around it. Your desire is not random. It is information. And when you learn how to listen to it, everything begins to shift.Connect with Pamela Madsen http://www.backtothebody.orghttps://www.instagram.com/backtothebodyorg/https://www.facebook.com/BacktotheBody/https://www.instagram.com/thepamelamadsen/Use code WELCOME for 10% off your first orderhttps://motherlode-market.com/Download your FREE Pleasure Power Workbook: https://www.cometalkwithaimee.com/pleasurepowerguideElevate Your Intimacy with Lubify Lux lube. Use code AIMEE25 to get 25% https://ilubify.com/?srsltid=AfmBOorPNdYi9J1NN0TWDq4iO8PYcwNxzwi5nmACAU2aseFBxVms8RO6 Become a FirstComer on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/14753586/joinStay Connected with Come Talk with Aimee:Website: https://www.cometalkwithaimee.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/cometalkwithaimeeTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@cometalkwithaimeeYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@cometalkwithaimee