Conscious Kink with Ms. Elle X
by Ms. Elle X
Although "Dominant" and "submissive" (Dom/sub) are often viewed as BDSM-exclusive, these terms fundamentally refer to a spectrum of naturally occurring strengths, traits, and expressions in every person and every relationship structure. That's why you'll find mind-blowing insights, powerful wisdom, and practical advice on leveraging your natural Dom, sub, or switch personality for ultimate personal empowerment and relational fulfillment in every episode! Subscribe to this podcast wherever you listen, and if you love what you hear, you can support future episodes and join these monthly Group Coaching sessions on patreon.com/ellexerotica! Cheers to dominating in every area of life and love! XOXO, Ms. Elle
Episodes
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The Six Types of Arousal Every Dominant Should Understand
In this episode, I explore a question submitted live by a community member wanting more insight on how to utilize arousal points in a scene and how to layer erotic elements for deep surrender and subspace. Support the show SUPPORT THIS PODCAST | FOLLOW ON SOCIAL
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Keeping the Dom/sub Fire Alive During Big Life Changes
In this episode, I work with a Dom/sub couple trying to build a deeper dynamic while going through a move, construction, and other life stressors, offering simple and quick options for keeping the kinky spark alive. Support the show SUPPORT THIS PODCAST | FOLLOW ON SOCIAL
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How Submissives Sabotage a Developing Femdom
In this episode, I explore why you can’t fully step into your dominance when you’re still uncertain about your sub’s hard limits, and unpack how clearer boundaries and greater submission can create the confidence a developing Femdom needs to actually lead. Support the show SUPPORT THIS PODCAST |...
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The Submissive's Role in Building a Femdom Dynamic
In this episode, I talk with a Femdom building a 24/7 dynamic about where her responsibility ends and her submissive’s begins. I narrow his role down to two essential attitudes and explore why giving a woman room to find her own Dominant voice matters in a female led relationship. Support the…
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The Cultural Conditioning Killing Your Dominance
In this episode, I explore how cultural conditioning can undermine your erotic authority and weaken your Dom/sub dynamic through a conversation with an experienced Dominant struggling to reconcile his Southern upbringing with the authority he wants to embody. Support the show SUPPORT THIS PODCAST…
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What To Do When Your Dom(me) Acts Like a Sub
In this episode, Ms. Elle speaks with a submissive who feels stuck in "mommy mode," unable to break out of a caregiver headspace due to apathetic leadership and lacking dominance, exploring what options remain when the person you're trying to submit to no longer feels dominant. Support the show...
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Overcoming the Shy FemDom's Dilemma
In this episode, Ms. Elle helps a new FemDom who feels intimidated by her own power develop the confidence to lead more naturally and overcome shame and vanilla conditioning surrounding letting her Dominant voice roar. Support the show SUPPORT THIS PODCAST | FOLLOW ON SOCIAL
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Exploring D/s After Seven Years of Apathy
In this episode, Ms. Elle helps a submissive woman navigate the transition from being the primary initiator, planner, and "doer" in her marriage to embracing surrender. Learn practical strategies for letting go of control, creating space for leadership, and shifting long-established relationship...
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Secrets to Building Lasting Confidence
In this episode, Ms. Elle shares the practical strategies She has personally used to build lasting confidence as a woman. Learn how to stop overthinking, break free from constant self-monitoring, and develop the trust, presence, and self-assurance needed to show up more fully in your Dom/sub...
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Kink in Caregiving Dynamics: Creating D/s Containers
In this episode, Ms. Elle guides a couple navigating disability and medical caregiving to build clear, consensual D/s containers that protect autonomy while reigniting polarity, desire, and erotic charge. Support the show SUPPORT THIS PODCAST | FOLLOW ON SOCIAL
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Low-Protocol D/s That Works: Maintaining Erotic Touchpoints
In this episode, Ms. Elle helps a married couple integrate simple, strategic erotic touchpoints that restore tension, deepen connection, and make arousal fast and reliable—without overcomplicating their Dom/sub dynamic. Support the show SUPPORT THIS PODCAST | FOLLOW ON SOCIAL
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From Friends to Fetish: Clarifying Desires and Boundaries in a FWB
In this episode, Ms. Elle helps a dear community member clarify her desires and boundaries surrounding a friends-with-benefits dynamic she hopes to turn kinky! Support the show SUPPORT THIS PODCAST | FOLLOW ON SOCIAL
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From Flat to Fiery: Unlocking Multi-Dimensional Dominant Communication
In this episode, Ms. Elle helps a Dominant find his erotic voice and expand past his one-dimensional communication style for deeper inducement and power-exchange in his kinky relationships. Support the show SUPPORT THIS PODCAST | FOLLOW ON SOCIAL
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When the Cane Hits Too Hard: Recognizing Covert Narcissistic Abuse
In this episode, Ms. Elle works helps a submissive process the realization of their covert narcissistic abuse as they dissect a recent scene in which a slow-word was called as a result of a boundary violation. Support the show SUPPORT THIS PODCAST | FOLLOW ON SOCIAL
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Mature Sub + New Daddy Dom: Mastering Erotic Authority
In this episode, Ms. Elle helps a new Daddy Dom deal with pushback and resistance from his submissive, a mature woman who seems to be testing His capacity for dominance... Support the show SUPPORT THIS PODCAST | FOLLOW ON SOCIAL
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Avoidant Attachment Unchained: From Freeze State to Dominant Mastery
In this personal episode, Ms. Elle shares a powerful link between the fear of intimacy and entertaining dismissive-avoidant relationships, and how to embrace personal power to dominate life without reactivity to past abuse. Don't miss this powerful conversation! Listen now! Support the show…
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Repressed Rage Reborn: Discovering Kink-Fueled Fury Fixes
In this episode, Ms. Elle gets personal with her own trauma story involving repressed anger and reframes anger as validation of injustice, pointing to the restorative power of healing through secure relationships. Don't miss this incredible conversation! Listen now! Support the show SUPPORT THIS...
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Trauma-Forged Kink: From Dark Roots to Delicious Reclamation
In this episode, Ms. Elle helps calm overthinking and self-analysis with insight into navigating kinks born of unhealthy or traumatic circumstances, with a powerful analogy that will help you enjoy your desires without judgment! Don't miss this incredible conversation! Listen now! Support the…
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Finding Strength After Trauma Using Discomfort as a Tool
In this intimate episode, Ms. Elle talks with a sweet submissive in the community who is struggling to navigate intimacy after trauma and reframes emotional discomfort as an empowering tool for growth. Don't miss this incredible conversation! Listen now! Support the show SUPPORT THIS PODCAST |...
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Forniphilia Fears: Building Trust and Limits for Human Furniture
In this episode, Ms. Elle offers advice on human furniture play, the importance of building trust in physical limits for this kink, and viewing BDSM as a mirror for growth! Don't miss this incredible conversation! Listen now! Support the show SUPPORT THIS PODCAST | FOLLOW ON SOCIAL
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Femdom Awakening: From Craving Control to Commanding Your First Scene
In this episode, Ms. Elle inspires a hesitant woman who craves the allure of stepping into her Femdom power but struggles to know what to say or where to begin. Don't miss this incredible conversation! Listen now! Support the show SUPPORT THIS PODCAST | FOLLOW ON SOCIAL
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Unpacking Toxic Shame: The Silent Saboteur of Your Dominant Fire
In this episode, Ms. Elle helps a Dominant man reframe toxic shame from his childhood that is limiting his ability to show up in healthy, empowered masculine energy. Don't miss this incredible conversation! Listen now! Support the show SUPPORT THIS PODCAST | FOLLOW ON SOCIAL
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HSV2 Heartbreak: How Oral Rejection Can Crush Self-Esteem
In this episode, Ms. Elle works with a dear community member diagnosed with HSV2, struggling with insecurity and rejection about her partner's refusal to engage in oral sex. Don't miss this incredible conversation! Listen now! Support the show SUPPORT THIS PODCAST | FOLLOW ON SOCIAL
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Suave or Pseudo Dom? Identifying Kinky Dating Red Flags
In this episode, Ms. Elle helps a submissive process recent events in a relationship that left her questioning whether she experienced authentic dominance or narcissistic control! Support the show SUPPORT THIS PODCAST | FOLLOW ON SOCIAL
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Overcoming Insecurity and Reviving Intimacy in a Poly Dynamic
In this episode, Ms. Elle helps a Dominant in a disconnected D/s dynamic pinpoint what is causing insecurity in his open relationship, discover the power of emotional intelligence, and learn how to lead with empathy for greater intimacy! Support the show SUPPORT THIS PODCAST | FOLLOW ON SOCIAL
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Striking a Balance Between Extreme Switch Points
In this episode, Ms. Elle helps a Femdom switch identify her triggers surrounding submission and navigate the extreme emotions she feels on both sides of the slash! Support the show SUPPORT THIS PODCAST | FOLLOW ON SOCIAL
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Turning a Triggering Request into Erotic Domination
In this episode, Ms. Elle helps a triggered switch process a sub's request for sexy photos in a way that empowers her and provides erotic opportunity for Domination! Support the show SUPPORT THIS PODCAST | FOLLOW ON SOCIAL
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From Flare-Ups to Femdom Flair: Reframing Worship & Service
In this episode, Ms. Elle helps a Femdom with an autoimmune condition reframe her beliefs surrounding worship and service, so she can manage her dynamic even during flare-ups that trigger urges to withdraw! Support the show SUPPORT THIS PODCAST | FOLLOW ON SOCIAL
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Untangling Ties: A FemDom’s Path to Clarity and Freedom
In this episode, Ms. Elle helps a FemDom in the #ellexarmy evaluate the health of her current romantic relationship with her girlfriend and end feelings of guilt and codependency about possibly moving on. Support the show SUPPORT THIS PODCAST | FOLLOW ON SOCIAL
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From Guilt to Grandeur: A FemDom’s Reclamation of Space
In this episode, Ms. Elle helps a FemDom in the #ellexarmy process latent guilt and self-doubt from a long-term abusive relationship to start taking up more space in her Dom/sub dynamic. Support the show SUPPORT THIS PODCAST | FOLLOW ON SOCIAL
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Dom/sub Dynamics Unveiled: Decoding Power vs. Poison
In this episode, Ms. Elle helps a curious newbie in the #ellexarmy distinguish between healthy D/s and her abusive marriage, highlighting the differences between Domination and narcissism, submission and compliance. Support the show SUPPORT THIS PODCAST | FOLLOW ON SOCIAL
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Outsmarting the Pseudo-Sub: A FemDom’s Path to Power and Peace
In this epside, Ms. Elle helps a FemDom in the #ellexarmy sort through manipulative ploys being used by a pseudo-sub and overcome these toxic strategies to find resolve and empowerment in Her feminine identity. Support the show SUPPORT THIS PODCAST | FOLLOW ON SOCIAL
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Unshackling Self-Trust: Rewriting the Sub’s Script
In this episode, Ms. Elle helps a submissive in the #ellexarmy sort through obstacles prohibiting their self-trust and detach this narrative from the relationship with their Dominant. Support the show SUPPORT THIS PODCAST | FOLLOW ON SOCIAL
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The Toxicity of Positive Projection
In this episode, Ms. Elle helps a community member identify and end toxic positive projections that put her in victimized positions with dysfunctional people. Support the show SUPPORT THIS PODCAST | FOLLOW ON SOCIAL
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Crafting Submissive Communication
In this episode, Ms. Elle helps a growing Dominant understand the importance of setting boundaries and training respectful communication in Her dynamic without apology. Support the show SUPPORT THIS PODCAST | FOLLOW ON SOCIAL
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Limerence After Loss
In this episode, Ms. Elle helps a fawning submissive process their latent attachment and limerence for their former Dominant after a recent breakup. Support the show SUPPORT THIS PODCAST | FOLLOW ON SOCIAL
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Overcoming Masculine Shame as a Lesbian Dominant
In this episode, Ms. Elle helps a masculine lesbian struggling with confidence in her Dominant role find her power and overcome societal shame in her D/s relationship. Support the show SUPPORT THIS PODCAST | FOLLOW ON SOCIAL
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How to Confidently Vet a New Sub After Being Burned
In this episode, Ms. Elle shares Her insights on how to vet a new submissive with confidence while struggling with codependency and self-doubt from toxic situations with former subs. Support the show SUPPORT THIS PODCAST | FOLLOW ON SOCIAL
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The Mental Game of Thrilling Domination
In this episode, Ms. Elle talks to a Lifestyle Domme in Her community about the powerful aspects of mental play in physical Domination and Dom/sub relationships. Support the show SUPPORT THIS PODCAST | FOLLOW ON SOCIAL
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Increasing the Dom/sub Gap Without Correction or Punishment
In this episode, Ms. Elle discusses seven powerful ways to increase the power gap in your Dom/sub relationship without resorting to harsh correction or punishment! Watch Ms. Elle cover this topic on Her YouTube channel! https://youtu.be/tJDTqLt2W7s?feature=shared Support the show SUPPORT THIS...
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Caring for the Flare-Up
In this episode, Ms. Elle helps a long-distance lesbian D/s couple figure out the best way to deal with caring for the Dominant during a flare-up of a chronic illness. Support the show SUPPORT THIS PODCAST | FOLLOW ON SOCIAL
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Getting Kinky with a Chronic Illness
In this episode, Ms. Elle discusses how to navigate sexual kinks while dealing with a chronic illness or physical limitation and shares some surprising benefits you may not realize... Support the show SUPPORT THIS PODCAST | FOLLOW ON SOCIAL
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Embracing the Darkness: A Guide to Shadow Work
In this episode, Ms. Elle discusses some basic guidelines for shadow work, specifically in a kink-friendly context as a Dominant. Support the show SUPPORT THIS PODCAST | FOLLOW ON SOCIAL
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Dealing with a Donut of Love
In this episode, Ms. Elle gives Her insight into a confusing and emotionally triggering work situation for one of Her community members who is recovering from narcissistic abuse. Support the show SUPPORT THIS PODCAST | FOLLOW ON SOCIAL
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Boundaries and the Baiting Beta
In this episode, Ms. Elle helps a Dominant-switch woman figure out the hot and cold behavior of their submissive play partner and set boundaries around his emotional manipulation. Support the show SUPPORT THIS PODCAST | FOLLOW ON SOCIAL
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Building BDSM Muscle as a Dominant-Switch
In this episode, Ms. Elle helps a Dominant-switch woman identify Her Dominant desires and set healthy boundaries in Her romantic relationship to encourage more D/s play both in and out of the bedroom. Support the show SUPPORT THIS PODCAST | FOLLOW ON SOCIAL
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Protecting the Panicked Peanut
In this episode, Ms. Elle helps a young Patron understand and re-process her feelings of panic surrounding a recent trauma in a season of homelessness. Support the show SUPPORT THIS PODCAST | FOLLOW ON SOCIAL
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Finding Confidence for the Codependent Dominant
In this episode, Ms. Elle helps a Dominant re-process their rejection sensitivity and overcome insecurity in order to effectively train their submissive and provide discipline within the dynamic. Support the show SUPPORT THIS PODCAST | FOLLOW ON SOCIAL
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Embracing the Freedom to Feel as a FemDom
In this episode, Ms. Elle inspires a female Dominant to embrace her emotions and teaches Her how to express them in a healthy way when disciplining Her submissive. Support the show SUPPORT THIS PODCAST | FOLLOW ON SOCIAL
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No Heavy Petting: Scripting Non-Sexual Pet Play
In this episode, Ms. Elle helps an interim Handler navigate impact and service scenes with His pup without crossing the line into sexual play. Support the show SUPPORT THIS PODCAST | FOLLOW ON SOCIAL
About this show
Although "Dominant" and "submissive" (Dom/sub) are often viewed as BDSM-exclusive, these terms fundamentally refer to a spectrum of naturally occurring strengths, traits, and expressions in every person and every relationship structure.
That's why you'll find mind-blowing insights, powerful wisdom, and practical advice on leveraging your natural Dom, sub, or switch personality for ultimate personal empowerment and relational fulfillment in every episode!
Subscribe to this podcast wherever you listen, and if you love what you hear, you can support future episodes and join these monthly Group Coaching sessions on patreon.com/ellexerotica!
Cheers to dominating in every area of life and love! XOXO, Ms. Elle
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Ms. Elle X