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Control or Be Controlled
by Darlington Ogbuka
Most people aren’t in control of their lives they’re driven by habits, addictions, emotions, and distractions they don’t question.Control or Be Controlled explores discipline, self mastery, modern addiction, and the psychology of ambition. Through raw solo episodes and real conversations, it breaks down what it takes to take back control mentally, emotionally, and financially.No surface level motivation just honest, direct insight for those ready to live with intention and build consistency, focus, and long term growth in a distracted world.New Episodes Weekly
Episodes
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Steve Ward: STEPS to a Better Life—How to Prevent Addiction and Help Families Thrive
What if the key to preventing addiction and mental health struggles isn't waiting for a crisis—but taking small, practical steps toward a healthier, more integrated life right now? Steve Ward—founder and Executive Director of STEPS Ministries, author, speaker, and coach—joins us for a…
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Joella Hopkins: The Aloha Advantage—Building Brands Through Culture, Community, and Connection
What if the secret to building a brand people genuinely love isn't better design or cleverer marketing—but understanding people, culture, and community? Joella Hopkins—President of Branding Aloha and The Branding Teams, and a proud homegrown Oʻahu entrepreneur—joins us for a conversation about...
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Savio P. Clemente: Clarity Fails First—Adaptive Resilience and Performing Under Prolonged Pressure
What happens to human performance when pressure lasts longer than expected—and what if the first thing to fail isn't your performance, but your clarity? Savio P. Clemente—keynote and TEDx speaker, journalist, board-certified health and wellness coach, and bestselling author—joins us for a...
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Margie Allman: From Surviving Straight, Inc. to Thriving at 60 —Tools for Peace After Trauma
What does it take to finally feel at peace with yourself after surviving institutionalized child abuse, addiction, prostitution, and the loss of your partner of 22 years? Margie Allman author of The Sufferfest: How Sex, Drugs, and Triathlon Saved My Life and Pilates instructor joins us for a raw...
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Daniel Neissany: I'm The Problem—How Leadership Blind Spots Quietly Cost You Millions
What if the biggest threat to your practice isn't market forces, insurance reimbursement, or staffing shortages—but leadership blind spots you can't see? Daniel Neissany, DPT—healthcare leadership strategist, co-founder of Best Practice Strategies, and author of I'm The Problem: Take Your...
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Karen Bentley: The WarriorSTRONG Manifesto Life Energy Is Your Most Valuable Asset
What if the most valuable asset you own isn't money, time, or talent but your life energy? And what if you're leaking it every single day without even realizing it? Karen Bentley bestselling author of the WarriorSTRONG Manifesto, winner of the Literary Titan Book Award, and creator of…
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Dr. Steve McGough: The Nervous System's Role in Healing, Intimacy, and Resilience
What if your recovery stalls not because you're doing something wrong but because your nervous system never gets the signal to stand down? Dr. Steve McGough cofounder of Women and Couples Wellness, inventor of the hi® massage system, and holder of six US and international patents joins us for a...
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Keith Harris: Ballot Beacon—Why Most Voters Don't Really Know What They're Voting For
What if the reason you feel confused at the ballot box isn't because you're uninformed but because the language is designed to be confusing? Keith Harris entrepreneur and founder of Ballot Beacon joins us for a conversation about voter confusion, the psychology behind ballot language, and his...
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Marianne Page: How Systems Run the Business and High-Performing Teams Run the Systems
What if the secret to a business that runs smoothly even when you're not there isn't about working harder, but about building systems that make consistency inevitable? Marianne Page author, speaker, and former senior manager at McDonald's with nearly three decades of experience joins us for a...
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Dr. Delali Hevi: Not Willpower, The The Real Reason Diets Fail and How to Keep Weight Off for Good
What if the reason you keep regaining weight isn't a lack of discipline but your own biology working against you? Dr. Delali Hevi Medical Director of Zenith Health Institute, founder of Zenith Coaching Academy, and double board-certified physician in Internal Medicine and Obesity Medicine joins…
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Margie Allman: The Sufferfest—How Sex, Drugs, and Triathlon Saved My Life
What does it take to survive institutionalized child abuse, drug addiction, and prostitution and then become an Ironman triathlon contender? Margie Allman author of The Sufferfest: How Sex, Drugs, and Triathlon Saved My Life and Pilates instructor joins us for a raw, unflinching, and ultimately...
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Steven C. Markoff: An Improbable Solution—Seeing Both Sides of the Israeli-Palestinian Conflict
What if you could understand both sides of the most divisive issues of our time without being told what to think? Steven C. Markoff acclaimed researcher, author, and educator joins us for a conversation about critical thinking, historical context, and his latest book, An Improbable Solution to…
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Leslie Draffin: Somatic Science - Healing the Nervous System for Women Stuck in Survival Mode
What if the reason you can't stop the spirals, feel safe in your body, or access your intuition isn't a mindset problem—but a nervous system stuck in survival mode asking for safety? Leslie Draffin—trauma-informed somatic practitioner, psychedelic microdosing guide, and host of The Light Within...
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Kim Griffith: Deborah Dialogues—The Guidance You've Been Asking For Is Already Here
What if the answers you've been asking for have been showing up all along—and you just haven't recognized them? Kim Griffith international bestselling author, angel communicator, and the voice of Deborah joins us for a conversation that offers a strikingly different perspective on guidance,...
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Michael Kelly: The Grappling Legend Records, Russia, and Coaching Champions in UFC, and WWE
What does it take to compete at a world-class level into your fifties, hold the most No-Gi World medals in USA Wrestling history, and coach athletes who go on to the UFC, WWE, and military special forces? Michael Kelly current wrestler, No-Gi grappling legend, and one of the most decorated…
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Nicholas Ruchlewicz: The Gift of Perspective Trauma, Brain Injury, and the Power of Gaming to Heal
What happens when a motorcycle crash changes your life in an instant and you discover that the very things that helped you survive can also help others? Nicholas Ruchlewicz trauma and brain injury survivor, mental health advocate, and avid tabletop roleplayer—joins us for a powerful conversation...
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Liz Coleman: The High-Achiever's Secret Emptiness—Quieting the Noise and Trusting Yourself Again
What happens when you look successful and steady from the outside—but you can't remember the last time you truly relaxed? Liz Coleman certified transformational life coach, Mind Shifting and NLP practitioner, and creator of the MindLife Reset™—joins us for a conversation about the hidden…
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Adam Goldman: Turning Corporate Exit and Immigration Goals into Business Ownership
What if the path out of Corporate America or into it runs through franchise ownership? Adam Goldman franchise coach, consultant, author of The Franchisee Lifestyle, and founder of FranchiseVisa joins us for a conversation about how franchising can transform lives, build wealth, and even secure…
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Mari Reisberg: How to Spark Joy, Manage Stress, and Thrive Through Creative Living
What if creativity isn't just for artists—but a life skill that can help you manage stress, build confidence, and transform challenges into growth? Mari Reisberg—therapist, performer, podcast host of the Sustaining Creativity Podcast, and creativity cultivator—joins us for a conversation about…
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Marianne Page: How Systems Run the Business and High-Performing Teams Run the Systems
What if the secret to a business that runs smoothly even when you're not there isn't about working harder, but about building systems that make consistency inevitable? Marianne Page author, speaker, and former senior manager at McDonald's with nearly three decades of experience joins us for a...
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Jerry Fu: Helping Asian-American Leaders Navigate Work, Family, and Themselves
What if the biggest conflicts you face aren't with other people—but within yourself? Jerry Fu—conflict resolution coach for Asian-American leaders—joins us for a conversation about culture, leadership, difficult conversations, and the challenges that come with navigating work, family, and…
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Douglas & Heather Beaven: Hard Love, Toxic Exposure, and Embracing an Unwanted Chapter Two
What happens when a weekend fling on a Mexican beach becomes a lifetime of shared missions—and then, decades later, an advanced cancer diagnosis linked to toxic exposure in Afghanistan changes everything? Douglas Beaven and Heather Beaven—veterans, advocates, parents, and co-authors of the...
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Victor Jones: Liquor Talk—Real Conversations, No Chaser, and the Reality of the Creator Journey
What happens when you get tired of surface-level conversations and decide to create the space where grown adults can finally have the talks that actually matter? Victor Jones—podcast host, storyteller, entrepreneur, and the man behind the Liquor Talk Podcast—joins us for a conversation about...
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Dr. David Hoskins: From Russian Crime Networks to Christian Psychology and Treating the Addictions
What happens when a Pentecostal minister's son walks away from the faith, spends two decades inside Russian organized crime and the adult entertainment industry, and then returns—not just to faith, but to become one of the most respected Christian psychologists treating the very addictions he…
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Grigory Agrest: The Four Pillars of College Admissions—Why the Industry Has It Backwards
What if the key to college admissions isn't about becoming who a school wants—but about revealing who you already are? Grigory Agrest—college admissions advisor, founder of Pinnacle Academic Solutions, and author of The Four Pillars of College Admissions—joins us for a candid conversation about...
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Larry W. O'Nan: Discovering Purpose, Igniting Abundance, and Thriving in a Confused World
What if the key to a life of fulfillment isn't about how much you accumulate—but about how intentionally you live and give? Larry W. O'Nan—author, stewardship strategist, and founder of Larry O'Nan Consulting—joins us for a conversation about intentional living, biblical stewardship, and how to...
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Dr. Mary Sanders: Bouncing Back from Burnout and Aligning Your Mind, Body, and Spirit
What happens when the successful, self-employed businesswoman who has it all together crashes hard—and discovers that the path back isn't about doing more, but about healing from the inside out? Dr. Mary Sanders—medical intuitive, chiropractor, energy medicine practitioner, and host of the...
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Sheila Glazov: What Color Is Your Brain?—Decoding Personality to Improve Communication
What if you could instantly decode why some people are a pain in the neck while others are a song in your heart—and what if that understanding could transform every relationship in your life? Sheila Glazov—best-selling author, award-winning personality expert, internationally known speaker, and...
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Kim Brant-Lucich & Alexander Nury: Survival Guide to Caring for Aging Parents
What happens when a parent's needs suddenly outpace what the family can manage on their own—and you're left making life-altering decisions with no roadmap and not enough time to figure it out? Kim Brant-Lucich and Alexander Nury—co-authors of Survival Guide to Caring for Aging Parents—join us for…
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Daniel Carpio: The Unfirm—Why the New Unit of Scale Is You
What if the future of work isn't about building a bigger company—but about becoming a more powerful individual? Daniel "Danny" Carpio—organizational architect, systems builder, entrepreneur, and author of the upcoming book The Unfirm: The New Unit of Scale Is You—joins us for a forward-thinking...
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Mary Rothwell: Reconnecting with Your Essential Nature to Grow, Thrive, and Take Up Space
What if the wisdom you've been searching for has been growing quietly in the natural world all along? Mary Rothwell—licensed therapist, Master Gardener, Certified Forest Therapy Practitioner, podcast host, and author of Nature Knows: Grow and Thrive through the Wisdom of Plants—joins us for a...
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Geoff Grant: The Caregiver's Journey—Resilience, Self-Care, and Creating Intentional Impact
What happens when the person caring for everyone else is forgotten—and what does it take to ensure caregivers are seen, supported, and equipped? Geoff Grant—caregiver advocate, consultant, speaker, and founder of Geoff Grant Consulting—joins us for a deeply human conversation about the emotional,...
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Pam Warren: The Lady in the Mask—Resilience, Recovery, and Falling in Love with Change
What happens when a near-fatal event changes your life in an instant—and you emerge not just as a survivor, but as a force for systemic change? Pam Warren—widely known as "The Lady in the Mask" following the Paddington rail crash, international inspirational speaker, author, and national rail...
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Saril Vasquez: Hair Loss Is Reversible—Uncovering the True Root Causes and Reclaiming Confidence
What if the hair loss you've been told is just genetics or hormones is actually reversible—and the solution has been overlooked by conventional medicine all along? Saril Vasquez—triple certified functional practitioner, CEO of Belle Organix LLC, and creator of the Bellechanics program—joins us…
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Carol Waldman: Navigating the Transition to Adulthood for Neurodivergent Young Adults
What happens when your neurodivergent child turns 18 and the systems of support that carried them through school suddenly disappear? Carol Waldman—parent advocate, parent mentor, and founder of The Waldman Way—joins us for a powerful conversation about supporting neurodivergent young adults…
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Anne Topenot: The Flow Method—Why Authentic Communication Is the Key to Freedom and Leadership
What if the key to personal liberation and professional leadership isn't in what you say—but in how authentically you say it? Anne Topenot—TEDx speaker, European improvised speaking champion, and creator of the Flow Method—joins us for a profound conversation about communication as a force of...
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Greg Junge: Raising Financially Confident Kids—You Don't Have to Be a Money Expert
What if your children are learning more about money from your habits and fears than from anything you actually tell them? Greg Junge—entrepreneur, author, Internationally Certified Results Coach, real estate investor, co-owner of Your Clean Books, and founder of Money Mindset Academy—joins us for…
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Troy Haslinger: Beautifully Dysfunctional Addiction, Near-Death, Marathons, and Truth About Survival
What happens when life hits you with a double blow on the same day—your dream job slipping away and your sister's cancer diagnosis—and you spend the next 15 years learning what not to do, and what to do, from the depths of hell? Troy Haslinger—TedTalk speaker, medical sales professional,...
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Wayne Hesler-Mondore: Looking In—Growing Up Gay, Impoverished, and Forgotten
What happens when you spend your childhood hiding, burying, and carrying alone the very parts of yourself that make you who you are? Wayne Hesler-Mondore—author, podcast host of Looking In... Growing Up Gay, Impoverished, and Forgotten, and creative entrepreneur—joins us for a raw and deeply...
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Teri M Brown: From Abuse to Adventure—How a Tandem Bike Ride Across America Healed a Heart
What happens when you leave an emotionally abusive marriage, ride a tandem bicycle 3,102 miles across the United States, and discover you're capable of anything you set your mind to? Teri M Brown—author of four novels, an inspirational cycling memoir, a children's book, and host of multiple...
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Albert Butler: Accounting Is the Heartbeat of BusinessBuilding a Life That Outlives Achievement
What if the numbers you avoid looking at are the very things that could set you and your family free? Albert Butler, CPA, MBA—Resident Partner-in-Charge of a national accounting firm, author of LIFE: Truth, Love, Loss, Success & Failure, and creator of the Legacy Alignment System—joins us for a...
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Ron Sosa: Rewriting the Rules—Neuroinclusive Leadership and the Hidden Cost of Masking
What if the exhaustion you feel as a leader isn't a personal failing—but the predictable result of adapting to systems that weren't built with you in mind? Ron Sosa—neuroinclusive leadership coach, international speaker, author of Rewriting the Rules: A Leadership Model for a Neuroinclusive,...
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Ingrid Moss: Your Voice Isn’t Gone — Reclaiming Your Confidence, Passion, and Voice in Midlife
What if the part of you that you thought you lost isn’t actually gone? For many women, singing was once a huge part of their lives—choir, school musicals, college performances, or simply singing for the joy of it. Then life got busy. Careers, children, relationships, and responsibilities took…
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Bill Ferrier: Is Your Cash Flow Controlling Your Business? How to Unlock Money in Your Receivables
What if the cash your business needs isn’t missing—it’s simply sitting in your customers’ accounts? In this episode of CONTROL OR BE CONTROLLED, Bill Ferrier, founder of Ready Set Collect and a veteran of nearly 40 years in the credit and collections industry, joins us to reveal how companies can...
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Kneet Music: When They Try to Silence You, Reclaim Your Voice Identity, Resilience and Power to Rise
What happens when life, circumstances, or other people make you question your own voice? In this powerful conversation, Kneet, Thai Sikh–Punjabi independent recording artist, songwriter, storyteller, advocate, and founder of Protect Children NY, joins CONTROL OR BE CONTROLLED to explore the power...
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Elke Scholz: When Anxiety Takes Control of Your Life — How to Become Your Own Anxiety Warrior
What happens when anxiety becomes the voice making decisions for you? In this powerful conversation, Elke Scholz, MA, RP, REACE, registered psychotherapist, expressive art consultant and educator, and internationally certified EMDR therapist, joins CONTROL OR BE CONTROLLED to explore how we can...
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Debbie Engle: Don’t Let Fear of Being Alone Control Your Love Life Knowing When to Walk Away
How do you know when someone is truly right for you—and when you’re simply afraid to let them go? In this episode of CONTROL OR BE CONTROLLED, Darlington sits down with Debbie Engle, three-time award-winning author of I Am the Real Runaway Bride, to explore failed relationships, broken…
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Susan Eileen: What If Your Unresolved Trauma Is Controlling Your Life?
Susan Eileen spent more than 30 years as an educator before turning her attention to another kind of teaching: sharing what she learned through sobriety, healing, and the inner work of recovery. On this episode of CONTROL OR BE CONTROLLED, Susan and Darlington explore the connection between...
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Susan Schleppegrell: When Manipulation Takes Control Romance Scams, Betrayal & Reclaiming Your Life
Susan Schleppegrell thought she was building a real relationship. Instead, she became the target of a sophisticated romance scam that left her facing devastating financial and emotional losses. And then it happened again. When someone came along promising to help her recover what she had lost,...
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Haley Elise Ridgel: Stop Letting Your Past Define You Finding Yourself in the Middle and Start Again
What if healing isn’t about getting back to who you were? What if it’s about learning how to move forward from where you are? Haley Elise Ridgel is an author, speaker, mother, mental health advocate, and creator of the Begin Again Framework, built around one powerful belief: the middle is where…
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ABOUT THIS SHOW
Most people aren’t in control of their lives they’re driven by habits, addictions, emotions, and distractions they don’t question.Control or Be Controlled explores discipline, self mastery, modern addiction, and the psychology of ambition. Through raw solo episodes and real conversations, it breaks down what it takes to take back control mentally, emotionally, and financially.No surface level motivation just honest, direct insight for those ready to live with intention and build consistency, focus, and long term growth in a distracted world.New Episodes Weekly
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Darlington Ogbuka
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Most people aren’t in control of their lives they’re driven by habits, addictions, emotions, and distractions they don’t question.Control or Be Controlled explores discipline, self mastery, modern addiction, and the psychology of ambition. Through raw solo episodes and real conversations, it breaks...
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