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Convergently Speaking
by Dan Anear
Dan (relationship counselor/husband) and Caitlin (personality enthusiast/wife) talk about improving your relationship with yourself and others using both their professional and personal experiences.
Episodes
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Decoding Narcissistic Abuse with Dr Tracy's "Narctionary"
Dr Tracy is a the Feminine Boss Academy Founder and she helps women from all walks of life on their journey to true self-love. Through her program "Reclaiming Me" she walks with women coming out of narcissistic abuse situations, helps them make sense of what has happened, and how to move forward...
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How to Process Trauma in the Body - Interview with Trauma Therapist Addie Michlitsch
Local friend and colleague Addie Michlitsch joins us to share about her work as a trauma therapist. We discuss how trauma is stored in the body and some of the ways that she brings people through the process of resolving this. We also discuss codependency and boundaries. Overall, Addie shares her...
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The Gottman Method - Practical Ways to Increase Positivity in your Relationship
Jumping off from last week's episode about positive vs. negative sentiment in relationships, today Dan shares some practical ways that you can increase the positivity between you and your partner. Find Dan (including bookings for couples therapy and personality coaching) at danielanear.com
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Positive vs Negative Sentiment in your Relationship - The Gottman Concept
In this episode Dan discusses how negative feelings in your relationship can pile up and create their own momentum, so that it colors every interaction you have. He also shares how to get out of this pattern and why it's not as hard as you think! Find a helpful article on this topic HERE Find Dan...
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Hacking your Nervous System with Line Silseth
We're back! Join us for this incredible chat with Line, who is a Nervous System Coach and a wealth of information about the way our nervous system works, how it always has a reason for doing what it's doing. She shares how to know if your nervous system needs more up regulation or down…
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Re-Release: Couples and Personality Types - Judger vs Perciever
Enjoy the last episode in this series - the differences between Judgers and Perceivers. We'll be back with a new episode next week! Find Dan: danielanear.com
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Re-Release: Couples and Personality Types - Thinker and Feeler
In the 3rd episode of this series on relationships and personality, Dan discusses the difference between thinkers and feelers. Do thinkers still have feelings underneath all that cold, hard logic? (yes!) Can we ever get on the same page? Listen to understand where your partner may be coming from...
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Re-Release - Couples and Personailty Types: Sensors vs Intuitives
This second episode in the series about personality and relationships, Dan discusses the differences between Sensors and Intuitives. Understanding this difference between people can make a huge impact on how we relate to each other, maybe more than any of the other 3 dichotomies of the…
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Re-release: Couples and Personality Types - Introvert vs Extrovert
We're taking a break from podcasting for the month of January, but we won't leave you hanging! In case you missed it, here is a re-release of our series on Myers-Briggs and relationships. This week, Introverts and Extroverts - how this difference plays out for couples and how to manage some of…
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Couple Matchup: ENFP and ISTP Kyle and Laura Friesen
We are SO excited to bring this episode to you. This is an awesome conversation with Kyle and Laura Friesen, owners of Friesen Holistic Wellness in Manitoba, Canada. Kyle is a Life and Relationship Coach and Laura is a Neuromovement practioner and they are both well-versed in Myers-Briggs and...
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Rerelease: Why we Talk Past Each Other in Romance and Friendship
Happy New Year and enjoy this re-release as we work on a big episode for next week! Find Dan at danielanear.com
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The Empowerment Dynamic - Drama Triangle Part 2
This episode is part 2 to last week's about the Dreaded Drama Triangle. Learn how you can flip the script on the vortex that is the Drama Triangle, and change your mindset into a more empowered one. Find more info into Dan's practice HERE Book an appointment with Dan HERE Stay Curious!
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The Dreaded Drama Triangle - Part 1
Do you find yourself stuck in relational dynamics that are just never-ending drama? You want to break out of it, but feel powerless to the pull of the drama and the familiar cycles. On this episode we share a very simple and yet profound model to look at these dynamics called the Drama Triangle....
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Why you are Never Powerless in a Relationship
You may be in a situation in your relationship that you feel completely powerless over. You don't like how your life is going, but you don't know how you could possibly change things. You are tired of the status-quo, and feel like if your partner could change, then things would be better. But…
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Revolutionize your Relationship using Personality Types
Intro to our new ongoing series where we will be interviewing couples about how understanding personality types has impacted their relationships. Dan and Caitlin discuss some examples of how personality types have massively helped their relationships and those of clients. danielanear.com
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Will Having a Baby Save my Marriage?
Do you feel like you and your partner have started drifting apart, or lost your spark? Or you're feeling bored in your relationship? Maybe a baby will fix it! This is a question that is often asked, and Dan speaks to this as a marriage therapist. Is having a baby an experience that may bring you...
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Bad Deals in Relationships
Dan talks about a concept he uses in his practice, which was coined by Terry Real as "Bad Deals". This is when a couple gets into a pattern or unspoken agreement that really doesn't work for either of them, but they just keep continuing their side of the "bargain" because they are just stuck and...
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Enneagram 101 with Heidi Wiese
Caitlin has her little sister, Heidi, in for a chat about the Enneagram. Heidi is a certified Enneagram Coach and takes us through an overview of what the Enneagram is and a brief rundown of all the numbers. She also shares how she uses the Enneagram as a coach and how it has made a huge…
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Navigating Change as an IxxJ Couple
Dan and Caitlin share a huge change they've undertaken as a family. They've recently moved from Adelaide, Australia to live in Caitlin's hometown in Minnesota, USA. You'll hear a bit about the reason for this big move and also plans for Dan's practice going forward. Dan is an INFJ and Caitlin is…
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Stay Curious
We're back! We've been quiet on here, for reasons we'll explain in the next episode. But we're back with this chat about what it means to be curious in life and especially in relationships. Are you more likely to get stuck in your own perspective or are you able to keep an open frame of mind? How...
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Applying the Scientific Method to your Relationship
Solo episode from Dan discussing the downfalls of using only logic and facts when working through relationship issues.
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The Gottman Method and How it Helps Couples Thrive - Interview with Psychologist Steve Wiese
To round out our series on the Gottman Method, we have an interview with Psychologist Steve Wiese who has been working with couples and singles for over 30 years and using the Gottman Method for nearly 20. Steve talks about the research-based tools that he uses with couples - things to build…
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Stonewalling In Relationships - Why it's Dangerous, How to Spot it and What to do About it (Gottman's Fourth Horseman of the Apocalypse)
This is the final episode of our 4-part series on the Gottman's Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse. We outline what stonewalling is, and why it happens. We talk about why someone who is stonewalling and appears calm is actually anything but calm. And we give you some excellent ways to remedy the...
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Contempt in Relationships: The #1 Predictor of Divorce, but not a Relationship Death Sentence (Gottman's Third Horseman of the Apocalypse)
This is our third episode in the series on the Gottman's "Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse" . Dan and Caitlin discuss contempt: what it looks like, what is behind it, and why it is the number one predictor of divorce. We also discuss what the antidote is - what you can do about it if you see it in...
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Defensiveness in Relationships: Why Does it Happen, Why is it so Bad and What can we do About it? (Gottman's second Horseman of the Apocalypse)
Dan and Caitlin discuss the second of the Gottman Institute's 4 Horsemen: Defensiveness. Do you find in your relationship that whenever one of you bring up an issue, the other person gets immediately defensive and either shuts down or goes on the attack? This is a common issue, and one that can...
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Criticism in relationships - What To Do About It (Gottman's first Horseman of the Apocalypse)
Caitlin joins to talk about the first of the Gottman Method's "Four Horsemen" - Criticism. What is it? How does it affect our relationships? Where is it coming from? What is the antidote? We share some of our under the surface if you are feeling the urge to criticise. Hope you enjoy! Find Dan:...
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Archetypes with Garry Gilfoy
Dan has a great chat with Garry Gilfoy (Author, Counsellor and Teacher in Adelaide) about the developmental archetypes and how we can use their energies throughout our life. They also discuss some of the dynamics they see in relationships in their counselling practices. Check out Garry's website…
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Navigating Life and Parenting as a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP)/ Empath/ Introvert with Naomi Harrington
Naomi Harrington (fellow INFJ) joins Dan all the way from Hawaii for a chat about being Highly Sensitive and an Empath, and how this shows up for her in her work, marriage and parenting. You'll really enjoy all that she has to say, especially if you are someone who finds lots of sensory input...
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Parenting for your Child's Personality Type with Sandra Etherington
Dan and Sandra from Family Personalities talk about how to discover your child's personality type and how that understanding can bring more empathy and harmony to your family system. Sandra works with families to go deep in their understanding of each other, and she also hosts a brilliant…
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The Biggest Personality Difference a Couple Can Have with Dan and Caitlin
For this 40th episode Caitlin joins Dan to discuss the biggest personality difference a couple can have in the myers-briggs personality system and understanding this difference as a gift rather than a curse. Find Dan: Instagram: @convergentlyspeaking @danielanearcounsellingcoaching Facebook:...
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Life without Rules with Sarah Beale
Sarah Beale joins today to chat about her family's journey to parenting without rules or force and how they sold everything and moved to Europe to start over and live in their values. Dan and Sarah also chat about rites of passage and the awakening that often happens when women find a taste of...
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Having a Better Relationship with Yourself with Samantha Mackay
Dan has an incredibly interesting chat with Samantha Mackay who is a fellow Typology-Lover and Personality Hacker Profiling graduate. Samantha is a former Lawyer, current Trainer and Coach who uses personality frameworks to work with people. Dan and Samantha chat typology and health - Samantha...
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Why we Talk Past Each Other in Romance and Friendship
In this solo episode, Dan talks about the root of many misunderstandings in relationships and friendships and what we can do about it. He shares some insights on how we can gain more understanding and empathy for the people around us, rather than getting frustrated and annoyed at our differences....
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Interview with Dan - Personality Psychology, Podcasting and Spiral Dynamics
Something a little different - here we are posting Dan being interviewed by Neville Starick (you may remember him from Episode 26). He asked Dan some great questions about his counselling practice, personality psychology, spiral dynamics and podcasting. If you're quite familiar with Dan and his...
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When Smart People are Dumb
A solo episode from Dan, exploring how intelligent people can get tripped up by being unaware of their emotions. Find Dan: Bookings (new website!!): danielanear.com Instagram: @convergentlyspeaking @danielanearcounsellingcoaching Facebook: @convergentlyspeaking @danielanearcounsellingcoaching
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Personality, Development, Non-Dualism, Self-Coaching (and more) with Dr Dario Nardi (Part 2)
Here we have for you a huge guest and a great chat! Dario Nardi, Ph.D. is a world renowned author, researcher, speaker and expert in neuroscience, personality, and body-mind practices. He holds a Senior Lecturer position at University of California (Los Angeles), where he won UCLA's Copenhaver...
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Personality, Development, Non-dualism, Self-Coaching- an interview with Dr Dario Nardi (Part 1)
Here we have for you a huge guest and a great chat! Dario Nardi, Ph.D. is a world renowned author, researcher, speaker and expert in neuroscience, personality, and body-mind practices. He holds a Senior Lecturer position at University of California (Los Angeles), where he won UCLA's Copenhaver...
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Personality and the Cost of Specialisation
Dan digs into some more of the technical parts of the Myers-Briggs System and how the different parts of a person's personality interact. He talks about the upsides and downsides of "specialising" in our strengths, and how this can play out in our lives. Find Dan: Instagram: @convergentlyspeaking...
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From Pain to Purpose
Life brings us pain, unfortunately there's no way around that. It is certainly not easy, but when we have particularly painful times, we have the opportunity to harness and use that pain to learn and grow and transform. We may just find ourselves coming out the other end with purpose, all the...
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Mental Health, Transformation and Lived Experience with Jamie Ryan
Enjoy this beautiful conversation with Jamie Ryan, who is a social worker, counsellor and educator with over 25 years experience in the Mental Health field. He and Dan talk about the ways that the mental health sector is transforming to put people's experiences more in the centre and how Peer…
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Self Development: What if I'm Leaving my Partner Behind?
Dan discusses what can happen when one partner in a relationship begins to get into self development, heal past traumas or question their beliefs. How do you manage these changes and how they affect your relationship? How do you best communicate about what you're learning and what's going on? Is...
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The Stories We Tell Ourselves
Solo episode with Dan talking about the stories we tell ourselves. Dan shares a personal story of how looking at the stories he was telling himself was holding him back and how the stories we are telling are vital to our sense of well-being. What are the stories you're telling yourself? Do you…
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Rejecting Auto-Rejection
Solo episode from Dan, talking about how to deal with our human tendency to immediately reject and therefore not listen to ideas that are contrary to our own beliefs or are from the other side of a particular issue. What is the antidote to this seemingly inbuilt wiring? How can we teach ourselves...
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Change and Grief with Neville Starick
Interview with Neville Starick, who shares some of his story as a third culture kid and a life of international travel. Neville is a counsellor who specifically looks at the role of change in people's lives, and how they can move through the grief that change brings with it. He shares some...
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Why I Love the Enneagram
The Enneagram is pretty ubiquitous in culture at the moment, everyone is talking about it and everyone wants to tell you your number. Dan talks about the Enneagram, which he's been studying for over a decade, how he's found it helpful and transformative in his life, and some insights on how to...
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Overcoming Adversity with Rohan Harry
Rohan Harry - comedian, podcaster, and friend from way back - joins the podcast to share his story of overcoming some incredible health issues. It's an inspiring, funny, and at times heartbreaking interview, you're sure to enjoy it! Dan and Rohan talk personality (Rohan is a classic INFP),...
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Personality Types & Relationships: Judgers vs Perceivers
The fourth and final episode in our series about personality and intimate relationships. The Judger/Perceiver split can be a tricky one to navigate, but with a little understanding, a J/P couple can really thrive as they appreciate and grow from the other's way of doing things. And what if you're...
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Personality Types & Relationships: Thinkers vs Feelers
In the 3rd episode of this series on relationships and personality, Dan discusses the difference between thinkers and feelers. Do thinkers still have feelings underneath all that cold, hard logic? (yes!) Can we ever get on the same page? Listen to understand where your partner may be coming from...
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Personality Types & Relationships: Sensors vs Intuitives
This second episode in the series about personality and relationships, Dan discusses the differences between Sensors and Intuitives. Understanding this difference between people can make a huge impact on how we relate to each other, maybe more than any of the other 3 dichotomies of the…
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Personality Types & Relationships: Introverts vs Extroverts
The first episode in a 4-part series, Dan talks about the differences, tension points, and strengths in romantic relationships in regards to the Introvert/Extrovert dichotomy. Is it ideal to both be the same type? How do you get your introvert partner out of the house? How do you navigate the...
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ABOUT THIS SHOW
Dan (relationship counselor/husband) and Caitlin (personality enthusiast/wife) talk about improving your relationship with yourself and others using both their professional and personal experiences.
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Dan (relationship counselor/husband) and Caitlin (personality enthusiast/wife) talk about improving your relationship with yourself and others using both their professional and personal experiences.
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