Conversations with People Who Hate Me
by Dylan Marron & TED
In an internet era characterized by comment section wars, devastating clapbacks, and anonymous vitriol, Dylan Marron explores what happens when online feuders step out from behind the keyboard and get to know the human on the other side of the screen. Join Dylan as he connects people who have clashed online – from old friends to complete strangers — to explore why we believe what we believe, how we relate to each other on the internet, and just what a phone call can accomplish. Don’t be fooled by the title! It’s actually a loving show that fosters unlikely connections in an age of increasing digital isolation. Whether Dylan is speaking with someone who wrote him a negative comment or is moderating a call between two strangers at odds, the results are often surprising, usually heartwarming, and always compelling. Webby Winner, Best of 2018 (Apple Podcasts), “The Timeliest Podcast” (Fast Company), “Essential” (Vulture), Podcast Pick (USA Today & The Guardian) New episodes
Episodes
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OUT NOW: The Redemption of Jar Jar Binks
It’s 1999, and sixteen years after its original release, a new Star Wars is finally coming. Fans have been camping out in front of theaters across the country just to be the first to see it. The beloved intergalactic saga is set to debut a slew of brand new characters, one of whom is a...
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NEW PODCAST: Introducing The Redemption of Jar Jar Binks
Jar Jar Binks became one of the most polarizing figures in cinematic history when he made his debut in Star Wars Episode 1: The Phantom Menace in 1999. He was even named “the most annoying movie character of all time” by Complex Magazine. After the release, Ahmed Best, the man who played Jar Jar,...
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Episode 46: Conversion Part 3
A conversion therapy survivor speaks to the man who ran the conversion therapy clinic he escaped from. (Part 3 of 3) Order Conversations with People Who Hate Me (the book!) here: https://tedtalks.social/398oDrs Submit an episode idea: https://tedtalks.social/3oTuTsd Sign up for Dylan's…
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Episode 45: Conversion Part 2
John Smid recounts how he came to run a well-known conversion therapy clinic. (Part 2 of 3) Conversations with People Who Hate Me The Book is out now! Get it here: https://tedtalks.social/3HUsF3m Submit an episode idea: https://tedtalks.social/3oTuTsd Conversations with People Who Hate Me is part...
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Episode 44: Conversion Part 1
Garrard Conley, a survivor of conversion therapy, recounts his experience. (Part 1 of 3) Conversations with People Who Hate Me The Book is out now! Get it here: https://tedtalks.social/3HUsF3m Submit an episode idea: https://tedtalks.social/3oTuTsd Conversations with People Who Hate Me is part of...
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How to Be a Better Human
This is... NOT an episode of Conversations with People Who Hate Me. We're taking a week off, so instead we're sharing an episode of another podcast from the TED Audio Collective called How to Be a Better Human. It's a show hosted by comedian (and good friend of Dylan's) Chris Duffy, about how we...
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Episode 43: Throw Your Book In The Fire
Dylan speaks to a friend who has been openly critical of this project since it began. Conversations with People Who Hate Me The Book is out now! Get it here: https://tedtalks.social/3HUsF3m Submit an episode idea: https://tedtalks.social/3oTuTsd Transcript for this episode:...
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Episode 42: Vaccines
A listener who is scared of the COVID vaccine speaks to Dylan's doctor about the vaccine's benefits. To learn more about the safety of COVID vaccines, check out the CDC's website here. Find Dr. Keith Roach on Facebook and Twitter. Preorder Conversations with People Who Hate Me (the book!) here:...
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Episode 41: Balloon Guy
Dylan tries (and fails) to produce a conversation for Michael James Schneider, a popular artist who is derisively known to some as "balloon guy.” Preorder Conversations with People Who Hate Me (the book!) here: dylanmarron.com/book Submit an episode idea: https://tedtalks.social/3oTuTsd…
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Episode 40: What a Disgrace
Two colleagues speak for the first time since their falling-out in a text message. Preorder Conversations with People Who Hate Me (the book!) here: https://tedtalks.social/3HUsF3m Submit an episode idea: https://tedtalks.social/3oTuTsd Transcript for this episode:...
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Episode 39: You're a Meme
A widely recognized actor speaks to a teenager who participated in a misogynistic meme against her. Preorder Conversations with People Who Hate Me (the book!) here: https://tedtalks.social/3HUsF3m Submit an episode idea: https://tedtalks.social/3oTuTsd Transcript for this episode:...
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Episode 38: Cheap Ass Sponsored Ad
When Amanda left a snarky comment in response to a sponsored ad, she assumed she was taking a shot at a gigantic corporate entity who wouldn’t care what she had to say. In reality, it was a small business run by a husband-and-wife team who are trying to make ends meet. Today, they speak to each...
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Episode 37: Salvation
A young trans man and his mother speak about her struggle to accept his gender identity. Preorder Conversations with People Who Hate Me (the book!) here: https://tedtalks.social/3HUsF3m Submit an episode idea: https://tedtalks.social/3oTuTsd Transcript for this episode:...
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Returning in 2022: Conversations with People Who Hate Me
The first rule of the internet: avoid the comments sections. On Conversations with People Who Hate Me, host Dylan Marron breaks that rule. He explores what happens when online feuders step out from behind the keyboard and get to know the human on the other side of the screen. Join Dylan as he...
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Episode 36: Dangerously Dead Wrong
Two longtime friends talk after getting into a Facebook altercation about COVID-19. Conversations with People Who Hate Me is a production of Night Vale Presents. Credits: Dylan Marron (creator, producer, host), Vincent Cacchione (audio engineer, mixer), Emily Newman & Mark Stoll (associate...
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Episode 35: I Hate Hank Green
Popular writer, vlogger, and creator Hank Green speaks to someone who tweeted “popular opinion but I hate hank green.” If you’d like to be a guest on this show fill out the form at conversationswithpeoplewhohateme.com Conversations with People Who Hate Me is a production of Night Vale Presents....
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Episode 34: Peloton Husband
When a Peloton commercial went viral, countless people shared their thoughts online. In this episode, Dylan connects Sean, an actor in that commercial with Tom, a man who called him a loser. If you’d like to be a guest on this show fill out the form at conversationswithpeoplewhohateme.com...
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Episode 33: Bernie Bros
A Bernie supporter and an Elizabeth Warren supporter connect after clashing online. If you’d like to be a guest on this show fill out the form at conversationswithpeoplewhohateme.com Conversations with People Who Hate Me is a production of Night Vale Presents. Credits: Dylan Marron (creator,...
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Episode 32: Trash
In the summer of 2017 journalist Katie Herzog wrote a piece that was widely criticized. Ultimately she found herself at the bottom of a social media pile-on. 3,000 miles east of Katie, a woman named Robyn Kanner joined that pile-on tweeting “ur just trash.” In this episode, taped live in front an...
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Empathy is not Endorsement
Host Dylan Marron shares his 2018 TED Talk “Empathy is not Endorsement.” TED Talks Daily features a new TED Talk every weekday. You can find it wherever you get your podcasts. You can watch his talk here: https://www.ted.com/talks/dylan_marron_empathy_is_not_endorsement
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Episode 31: High School Reunion
Dylan speaks to Carl, an old high school classmate, about something Carl wrote online seventeen years ago - before social media as we know it was even invented. If you’d like to be a guest on this show fill out the form at conversationswithpeoplewhohateme.com Conversations with People Who Hate Me...
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Episode 30: Easy Target
Dylan speaks to Brian, a stranger who called him a gay slur. If you’d like to be a guest on this show fill out the form at conversationswithpeoplewhohateme.com Conversations with People Who Hate Me is a production of Night Vale Presents. Credits: Dylan Marron (creator, producer, host), Vincent...
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Episode 29: Bob The Drag Queen
Celebrated drag queen & winner of RuPaul’s Drag Race Bob The Drag Queen chats with James, a stranger who tweeted “I really really really don’t like Bob The Drag Queen.” If you’d like to be a guest on this show fill out the form at conversationswithpeoplewhohateme.com Conversations with People Who...
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Episode 28: Hypocrite
Jesse called Dylan a hypocrite. Dylan admits he may be right. If you’d like to be a guest on this show fill out the form at conversationswithpeoplewhohateme.com Conversations with People Who Hate Me is a production of Night Vale Presents. Credits: Dylan Marron (creator, producer, host), Vincent...
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Episode 27: I Hate Amanda Palmer
Amanda Palmer is a celebrated musician and artist with a whole bunch of devoted fans… and some vocal detractors. In this episode Dylan moderates a conversation between Amanda and a woman who tweeted “I’m not sure I hate any celebrity the way I hate Amanda Palmer.” If you’d like to be a guest on...
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Episode 26: Happy & Merry
“Merry Christmas” can be a divisive phrase. In this episode Dylan connects two strangers who open up to each other about their respective feelings about the holiday season. Want to be a guest on the show and take your own online conversation and move it offline? Fill out the form at...
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Listener Call: Nick
Dylan speaks with Nick, a listener of the podcast who had a very personal connection to one of the episodes. Want to be a guest on the show and take your own online conversation and move it offline? Fill out the form at conversationswithpeoplewhohateme.com Conversations with People Who Hate Me is…
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Listener Call: Jamie
Dylan speaks to a listener about their family dynamics. Want to be a guest on the show and take your own online conversation and move it offline? Fill out the form at conversationswithpeoplewhohateme.com Conversations with People Who Hate Me is a production of Night Vale Presents. Credits: Dylan...
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Listener Call: Kaleb
Dylan answers listener questions from a man named Kaleb. Want to be a guest on the show and take your own online conversation and move it offline? Fill out the form at conversationswithpeoplewhohateme.com Conversations with People Who Hate Me is a production of Night Vale Presents. Credits: Dylan...
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Episode 25: I Hope You're Eaten Alive
Benjamin was a guest on this show and K is a listener who became so upset by Benjamin’s comments said that she publicly wrote “Ben, if you’re reading this I hope you’re eaten alive by wild dogs.” Dylan connected them on a call for this season’s finale. Want to be a guest on the show and take your...
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Episode 24: I Hate This Podcast
Dylan talks to Steve who really does not like this podcast at all. Want to be a guest on the show and take your own online conversation and move it offline? Fill out the form at conversationswithpeoplewhohateme.com Conversations with People Who Hate Me is a production of Night Vale Presents....
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Episode 23: Unfriended
Jabari and Andrew were Facebook friends until the 2016 election tore them apart and one unfriended the other. Dylan connects them on a phone call for their first extended conversation about what happened. Want to be a guest on the show and take your own online conversation and move it offline?…
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Episode 22: Is This Racist?
Three years ago Lauren called in to Andrew Ti’s popular call-in podcast Yo Is This Racist? with a question. She felt Andrew and his guest co-host slammed her and has spent the last three years afraid that Andrew hates her. Dylan connects the two of them on a call. Want to be a guest on the show…
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Episode 21: Nauseating
Iain is a college senior who writes a bi-weekly column for his campus newspaper. In commenting on the current state of media he referred to Dylan’s past work as “nauseating” so Dylan called him up to chat. Want to be a guest on the show and take your own online conversation and move it offline?...
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Episode 20: They/Them
Lindsay makes a web series that teaches young kids about LGBTQ issues. Lennox is a high schooler who wrote Lindsay a message saying the show is harmful to children. Dylan connects them on a call. Want to be a guest on the show and take your own online conversation and move it offline? Fill out…
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Episode 19: Latinx
Latinx is the gender-neutral alternative to the terms Latino and Latina. Kat Lazo is a content creator who made a video explaining why some people use it. Alvaro commented “this chic is annoying” beneath that video. Dylan connects them on the phone. Want to be a guest on the show and take your…
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Episode 18: Civility
Dylan connects two strangers to talk to about civility in the age of Trump. (Here’s a link to the article referenced in the episode.) Want to be a guest on the show and take your own online conversation and move it offline? Fill out the form at conversationswithpeoplewhohateme.com Conversations...
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Episode 17: You Are a Liar
A rape survivor speaks to someone who called them a liar. Want to be a guest on the show and take your own online conversation and move it offline? Fill out the form at conversationswithpeoplewhohateme.com Conversations with People Who Hate Me is a production of Night Vale Presents. Credits…
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Episode 16: Bitch Talk About Palestine
Intesar told Dylan "bitch talk about Palestine" so Dylan called him up and they did. Want to be a guest on the show and take your own online conversation and move it offline? Fill out the form at conversationswithpeoplewhohateme.com Conversations with People Who Hate Me is a production of Night...
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Episode 15: Teens and Guns
Two teenagers from opposite ends of the political spectrum speak to each other about guns in the United States. Want to be a guest on the show and take your own online conversation and move it offline? Fill out the form at conversationswithpeoplewhohateme.com Conversations with People Who Hate Me...
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Episode 14: Digital Self-Harm
Alyson anonymously sent herself hateful and homophobic messages online. Dylan Marron asks her why. Want to be a guest on the show and take your own online conversation and move it offline? Fill out the form at conversationswithpeoplewhohateme.com Conversations with People Who Hate Me is a...
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Episode 13: Talentless Hack
Doug called Dylan Marron a “talentless propaganda hack” so Dylan called him up to ask why. Want to be a guest on the show and talk to someone who said something negative to you? Fill out the form at conversationswithpeoplewhohateme.com Conversations with People Who Hate Me is a production of…
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Episode 12: Burned At The Stake
Jaya wrote an essay suggesting the television show ‘The Office’ doesn’t hold up to today’s standards. The essay was tweeted out and Tom tweeted back that she should be “burned at the stake” for her opinion. Dylan connects the two of them on a call. Want to be a guest on the show and take your own...
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Episode 11: The Trans Ban
Tyler Gilmore is a veteran of the Marines who vocally expressed his support for the trans ban. In this episode Dylan connects him to Maddie Makara, a veteran who served for 16 years and recently came out as a trans woman. Want to be a guest on the show and take your own online conversation and…
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Episode 10: Bigot Scum
Dylan moderates a conversation between two strangers who clashed online. Marcia is a stand up comedian and proud feminist who frequently writes things like “men are scum” on social media and Andrew is an “anti-feminist” who reached out to Marcia to call her a “bigot.” In this episode the two of...
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Episode 9: Conclusion (For Now)
To close out this chapter Dylan calls up people who love the show and have used it as motivation for conversations in their own life, including a conservative listener who’s a fan of the podcast. (Thanks for listening, we’ll be cooking up some new episodes for you soon.) Conversations with People...
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Episode 8: (Don't) Kill Yourself
Content Warning: This episode contains a conversation about suicide. Dylan calls someone who publicly told him to kill himself and that people like him "deserve to be put on island to die." Conversations with People Who Hate Me is a production of Night Vale Presents. Credits: Dylan Marron…
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Episode 7: Sissies and Flaming Queens
Lee publicly called Dylan a “flaming homo,” a “sissy,” a “flaming queen,” and an “idiot.” The twist? Lee is a gay man himself… with a fascinating life story. Conversations with People Who Hate Me is a production of Night Vale Presents. Credits: Dylan Marron (creator, producer, host), Christy...
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Episode 6: The Good Troll
Dylan Marron calls James, a stand up comedian and self-identified troll, who publicly wrote that Dylan was “condescending as f*ck.” James walks Dylan through the difference between a good troll and a bad troll, and his views on comedy. Conversations with People Who Hate Me is a production of…
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Episode 5: The Seeds of Hate
Today’s guest not only doesn’t hate Dylan Marron, but at one point in the conversation he says he loves him. So why include this episode as part of the show? Listen to the end to find out why. Conversations with People Who Hate Me is a production of Night Vale Presents. Credits: Dylan Marron...
About this show
In an internet era characterized by comment section wars, devastating clapbacks, and anonymous vitriol, Dylan Marron explores what happens when online feuders step out from behind the keyboard and get to know the human on the other side of the screen. Join Dylan as he connects people who have clashed online – from old friends to complete strangers — to explore why we believe what we believe, how we relate to each other on the internet, and just what a phone call can accomplish. Don’t be fooled by the title! It’s actually a loving show that fosters unlikely connections in an age of increasing digital isolation. Whether Dylan is speaking with someone who wrote him a negative comment or is moderating a call between two strangers at odds, the results are often surprising, usually heartwarming, and always compelling.
Webby Winner, Best of 2018 (Apple Podcasts), “The Timeliest Podcast” (Fast Company), “Essential” (Vulture), Podcast Pick (USA Today & The Guardian)
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