Cool Mum Super Dad

Assalaamualaikum & Greetings!Welcome to Cool Mum Super Dad, your companion on this rollercoaster ride called parenthood. I'm your host, Jamilah Samian, a parenting author and speaker. In this episode, I talk about adolescence, a critical stage in life. Throughout adolescence, the brain is still developing, especially the part that helps with decision-making and self-control.  PreTeens & TeensGain insights into the differences and similarities between preteens and teens. Ongoing Brain Development Understand why your teenager may engage in risky behaviors and may struggle with planning and foreseeing consequences.Heightened Emotional Responses Teenagers experience intense emotions, mood swings, and challenges in emotional regulation.Reward System Sensitivity Adolescents have a particularly sensitive reward system. Impact of Social Media and Technology Constant engagement with social platforms can influence the brain's reward system and emotional processing, often leading to issues with self-esteem, anxiety, and depression. Changes in Teenagehood Understand the physical/emotional/psychological/social changes your teenager experiences, and what you can do to guide teenagers to be responsible, dependable and avoid the pitfalls of teenagehood.         Whatever good is in this work is from Allah; any shortcomings are mine alone.~~~~~~~~~~~~~~MORE RESOURCES:Hop over to my website, www.coolmumsuperdad.comBOOK ORDERS:To order my books, click the link: Cool Mum Super Dad Book Order.  Please note that your shipping address must be in Malaysia only.  If your shipping address is not in Malaysia, please write to [email protected] to make alternative delivery arrangements.~~~~~~~~~~~~~~REFERENCES1)  "Leadership In Parenting: Real Stories, Examples And Practical Strategies To Enable You To Lead Your Child Better". Author:  Jamilah Samian. MyriadVentures Enterprise. ISBN: 978-967-10430-5-9.2) "Cool Mum Super Dad". Author: Jamilah Samian. True Wealth Sdn Bhd.  ISBN: 983-3364-16-0.3) "Cool Boys Super Sons". Author: Jamilah Samian. True Wealth Sdn Bhd.  ISBN: 978-983-3364-79-4.4) "Teens and Social Media Use: What's the Impact?" Mayo Clinic. (2021).https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/tween-and-teen-health/in-depth/teens-and-social-media-use/art-204744375) "The Clear Qur'an Series" English Only. A Thematic English Translation. Author: Dr Mustafa Khattab. Book of Signs Foundation. ISBN: 978-0-9773009-8-3. 6) "Parenting Skills Based on The Qur'an and Sunnah". 2017. Dr Ekram & Dr Mohamed Rida Beshir. amana publications. ISBN: 978-1590080290.7) sunnah.com. (2024). "The Hadith of the Prophet Muhammad (صلى الله عليه و سلم) at your fingertips".  https://sunnah.com/Jamilah Samian is the author of "Cool Mum Super Dad", "Raise Me Right", "Cool Boys Super Sons", "Leadership In Parenting", "Parenting Generation Y & Z", "The Kindness Miracle" and "77 Power Parent Tips". 

Assalaamualaikum & Greetings!Welcome to Cool Mum Super Dad, your companion on this rollercoaster ride called parenthood. I'm your host, Jamilah Samian, a parenting author and speaker. In this episode, I explore the concept of intelligence by focusing on practical, everyday aspects which are things your children would encounter in their daily lives. "Intelligence is the ability to learn from experiences, solve problems, understand complex ideas, and adapt to new situations."Whether you’re an extrovert or an introvert, the most important thing is connecting with your child in a way that feels natural to you while also meeting their needs. Learn how you can raise a smart, intelligent child through real, face-to-face, human interactions. Real, face-to-face human interactions in the form of words, gestures and touch ensure that your son or daughter is getting the daily dose of connection they need to grow into intelligent adults.Whatever good is in this work is from Allah; any shortcomings are mine alone.~~~~~~~~~~~~~~  MORE RESOURCES:Hop over to my website, www.coolmumsuperdad.comBOOK ORDERS:To order my books, click the link: Cool Mum Super Dad Book Order.  Please note that your shipping address must be in Malaysia only.  If your shipping address is not in Malaysia, please write to [email protected] to make alternative delivery arrangements.~~~~~~~~~~~~~~REFERENCES1)  "Leadership In Parenting: Real Stories, Examples And Practical Strategies To Enable You To Lead Your Child Better". (2017). Author:  Jamilah Samian. MyriadVentures Enterprise. ISBN: 978-967-10430-5-9.2) "Cool Mum Super Dad". (2006). Author: Jamilah Samian. True Wealth Sdn Bhd.  ISBN: 983-3364-16-0.3) "The Clear Qur'an Series" English Only. A Thematic English Translation. (2016). Author: Dr Mustafa Khattab. Book of Signs Foundation. ISBN: 978-0-9773009-8-3.4) Romeo, R. R., Leonard, J. A., Robinson, S. T., West, M. R., Mackey, A. P., Rowe, M. L., & Gabrieli, J. D. (2018). Beyond the 30-Million-Word Gap: Children's Conversational Exposure is Associated with Language-Related Brain Function. Psychological Science, 29(5), 700-710. https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/29442613/5) The Harvard Center on the Developing Child provides extensive research on how early experiences, including face-to-face interactions, are crucial for brain development, vital for healthy brain architecture.https://developingchild.harvard.edu/science/key-concepts/serve-and-return/5) "Parenting Skills Based on The Qur'an and Sunnah". (2017). Dr Ekram & Dr Mohamed Rida Beshir. amana publications. ISBN: 978-1590080290.6) sunnah.com. (2024). "The Hadith of the Prophet Muhammad (صلى الله عليه و سلم) at your fingertips".  https://sunnah.com/Jamilah Samian is the author of "Cool Mum Super Dad", "Raise Me Right", "Cool Boys Super Sons", "Leadership In Parenting", "Parenting Generation Y & Z", "The Kindness Miracle" and "77 Power Parent Tips". 

Assalaamualaikum & Greetings!Welcome to Cool Mum Super Dad, your companion on this rollercoaster ride called parenthood. I'm your host, Jamilah Samian, a parenting author and speaker. In this episode, I present  three legacies worth leaving your children with:Legacy of OptimismIf you maintain a hopeful and positive outlook, you inspire your children to see the best in every situation and encourage them to keep moving forward, even in challenging times. Legacy of HopeBe a source of hope for your children; give them the strength to face their struggles and the courage to pursue their dreams.  Legacy of EnthusiasmYour excitement for new experiences, and your joy in the little things can encourage your children to embrace life’s adventures and to find joy in their own pursuits.Explore how these positive traits help your children bounce back from setbacks, stay motivated, solve problems creatively, and build strong, positive relationships. Fostering hope, optimism and enthusiasm can set them up for long-term success and help them navigate life's uncertainties with confidence.         Whatever good is in this work is from Allah; any shortcomings are mine alone.~~~~~~~~~~~~~~MORE RESOURCES:Hop over to my website, www.coolmumsuperdad.comBOOK ORDERS:To order my books, click the link: Cool Mum Super Dad Book Order.  Please note that your shipping address must be in Malaysia only.  If your shipping address is not in Malaysia, please write to [email protected] to make alternative delivery arrangements.~~~~~~~~~~~~~~REFERENCES1)  "Leadership In Parenting: Real Stories, Examples And Practical Strategies To Enable You To Lead Your Child Better". Author:  Jamilah Samian. MyriadVentures Enterprise. ISBN: 978-967-10430-5-9.2) "Cool Mum Super Dad". Author: Jamilah Samian. True Wealth Sdn Bhd.  ISBN: 983-3364-16-0.3) "The Clear Qur'an Series" English Only. A Thematic English Translation. Author: Dr Mustafa Khattab. Book of Signs Foundation. ISBN: 978-0-9773009-8-3.4) "Teens and Social Media Use: What's the Impact?" Mayo Clinic. (2021).https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/tween-and-teen-health/in-depth/teens-and-social-media-use/art-204744375) "Parenting Skills Based on The Qur'an and Sunnah". 2017. Dr Ekram & Dr Mohamed Rida Beshir. amana publications. ISBN: 978-1590080290.6) sunnah.com. (2024). "The Hadith of the Prophet Muhammad (صلى الله عليه و سلم) at your fingertips".  https://sunnah.com/7) "The History and Development of the Hopelessness Depression Theory" by W. Harrison Combs. (2021). Student Publications. 916. https://cupola.gettysburg.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?article=2004&context=student_scholarship8) “Learned Helplessness: Seligman’s Theory of Depression”. Courtney A. Ackerman, M.A. 2018. Positive Psychology.https://positivepsychology.com/learned-helplessness-seligman-theory-depression-cure/#seligman-learned-helplessnessJamilah Samian is the author of "Cool Mum Super Dad", "Raise Me Right", "Cool Boys Super Sons", "Leadership In Parenting", "Parenting Generation Y & Z", "The Kindness Miracle" and "77 Power Parent Tips". 

Assalaamualaikum & Greetings!Welcome to Cool Mum Super Dad, your companion on this rollercoaster ride called parenthood. I'm your host, Jamilah Samian, a parenting author and speaker.It’s easy to think that a legacy is all about grand achievements, monumental successes, or accumulating material wealth, but there’s so much more to it than that. At its heart, as a parent, a legacy is about the love you share, the values you uphold, and the positive impact you make on the lives of your children.In this episode, I discuss several legacies parents leave behind, and how you can consciously choose the impact of each of them on your children:1) Physical Legacy A contemporary issue is the impact of social media on children and youths, in particular, their body image. 2) Emotional LegacyYour emotional legacy is all about the impact your words and actions have on your child’s emotional well-being. 3) Cultural LegacyEverything that shapes our minds and manners, influencing how we see the world and interact with it. This isn't just about the obvious stuff like what we wear, the foods we love, or the language we speak—though that's definitely part of it.4) Social LegacyHow you interact with other human beings is closely observed by your children; kids are always watching us, even when we think they’re not. I also discuss how parents influence children's minds, and the legacy of parents' self-talk in their children.    As parents, at times we do not realize the extent towards which  we influence our own children. Our words and actions do not cease to exist with our own passing. Every single act, every word that we utter in their presence is engraved in their souls.  They carry these into adulthood and, in turn, transmit them to their children, who will then teach them to their children, consciously or otherwise. The legacy that we leave behind endures long after we have passed on.             Whatever good is in this work is from Allah; any shortcomings are mine alone.~~~~~~~~~~~~~~  MORE RESOURCES:Hop over to my website, www.coolmumsuperdad.comBOOK ORDERS:To order my books, click the link: Cool Mum Super Dad Book Order.  Please note that your shipping address must be in Malaysia only.  If your shipping address is not in Malaysia, please write to [email protected] to make alternative delivery arrangements.~~~~~~~~~~~~~~REFERENCES1)  "Leadership In Parenting: Real Stories, Examples And Practical Strategies To Enable You To Lead Your Child Better". Author:  Jamilah Samian. MyriadVentures Enterprise. ISBN: 978-967-10430-5-9.2) "Cool Mum Super Dad". Author: Jamilah Samian. True Wealth Sdn Bhd.  ISBN: 983-3364-16-0.3) "The Clear Qur'an Series" English Only. A Thematic English Translation. Author: Dr Mustafa Khattab. Book of Signs Foundation. ISBN: 978-0-9773009-8-3.4) "Teens and Social Media Use: What's the Impact?" Mayo Clinic. (2021).https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/tween-and-teen-health/in-depth/teens-and-social-media-use/art-204744375) "Parenting Skills Based on The Qur'an and Sunnah". Dr Ekram & Dr Mohamed Rida Beshir. amana publications. ISBN: 978-1590080290.Jamilah Samian is the author of "Cool Mum Super Dad", "Raise Me Right", "Cool Boys Super Sons", "Leadership In Parenting", "Parenting Generation Y & Z", "The Kindness Miracle" and "77 Power Parent Tips". 

Assalaamualaikum & Greetings!Welcome to Cool Mum Super Dad, your companion on this rollercoaster ride called parenthood. I'm your host, Jamilah Samian, a parenting author and speaker.In this episode, I present the "Proactive Purposeful Parenting Approach" to help you identify strategies to raise your son or daughter to achieve excellence. Based on your children’s ages and stages, I introduce the four roles you can play: Nurturer, Coach, Mentor, and Adviser. Nurturer: newborn - 6 years oldCoach: 7 - 13 years oldMentor: 14 - 21 years oldAdviser: 22 years and older I also present five parenting styles along with clear examples:- Permissive- Neglectful- Manipulative- Aggressive- AssertiveIdentifying your dominant parenting style will help you become a better Nurturer, Coach, Mentor, and Adviser as you lead your children to better outcomes no matter their age. Whatever good is in this work is from Allah; any shortcomings are mine alone.~~~~~~~~~~~~~~  MORE RESOURCES:Hop over to my website, www.coolmumsuperdad.comBOOK ORDERS:To order my books, click the link: Cool Mum Super Dad Book Order.  Please note that your shipping address must be in Malaysia only.  If your shipping address is not in Malaysia, please write to [email protected] to make alternative delivery arrangements.~~~~~~~~~~~~~~REFERENCES1)  "Leadership In Parenting: Real Stories, Examples And Practical Strategies To Enable You To Lead Your Child Better". Author:  Jamilah Samian. MyriadVentures Enterprise. ISBN: 978-967-10430-5-9.2) "The Clear Qur'an Series" English Only. A Thematic English Translation. Author: Dr Mustafa Khattab. Book of Signs Foundation. ISBN: 978-0-9773009-8-3.3) Parenting Skills Based on The Qur'an and Sunnah. Dr Ekram & Dr Mohamed Rida Beshir. amana publications. ISBN: 978-1590080290.Jamilah Samian is the author of "Cool Mum Super Dad", "Raise Me Right", "Cool Boys Super Sons", "Leadership In Parenting", "Parenting Generation Y & Z", "The Kindness Miracle" and "77 Power Parent Tips". 

Assalamualaikum & Greetings!Welcome to Cool Mum Super Dad, your companion on this rollercoaster ride called parenthood. I'm your host, Jamilah Samian, a parenting author and speaker.In this episode, I talk about "Mothers In The Qur'an".  Among Muslims, the Qur'an is sacred text, a divine revelation from Allah (God). There are many lessons and insights regarding mothers in the Qur'an. Examples:-  in the Qur'an, Allah recognises the sacrifices and hardships that mothers endure, from pregnancy to childbirth and beyond- Allah stresses the importance of treating mothers with respect and kindness, regardless of their beliefs or actions- In Islam, mothers hold a significant and revered position. In the Qur'an, Allah emphasizes the importance of honoring and respecting mothers. Several verses in the Qur'an highlight the role of mothers and emphasize the duty of kindness, care and obedience towards mothers.  If you’re not a Muslim, I urge you to keep listening, as I trust that you can benefit from it too. The Qur’an is the ultimate guide for parents to raise better leaders among children and youths.The mothers highlighted in this episode are:- the mother of Maryam (Mary) a.s.- Maryam a.s., mother of Prophet Isa a.s.- Prophet Musa a.s.'s motherWe have much to learn from the insights of these true stories. When you become a better mother/parent, you're a step closer to becoming your child’s "Inspirer: Leading Your Child With A Clear Purpose", an idea  embedded in The Hierarchy of Successful Parenting Leadership Model, as presented in my book, “Leadership In Parenting”.  Whatever good is in this work is from Allah; any shortcomings are mine alone.~~~~~~~~~~~~~~  MORE RESOURCES:Hop over to my website, www.coolmumsuperdad.comBOOK ORDERS:To order my books, click the link: Cool Mum Super Dad Book Order.  Please note that your shipping address must be in Malaysia only.  If your shipping address is not in Malaysia, please write to [email protected] to make alternative delivery arrangements.~~~~~~~~~~~~~~REFERENCES1)  "Leadership In Parenting: Real Stories, Examples And Practical Strategies To Enable You To Lead Your Child Better". Author:  Jamilah Samian. MyriadVentures Enterprise. ISBN: 978-967-10430-5-9.2) "The Clear Qur'an Series" English Only. A Thematic English Translation. Author: Dr Mustafa Khattab. Book of Signs Foundation. ISBN: 978-0-9773009-8-3.Jamilah Samian is the author of "Cool Mum Super Dad", "Raise Me Right", "Cool Boys Super Sons", "Leadership In Parenting", "Parenting Generation Y & Z", "The Kindness Miracle" and "77 Power Parent Tips". 

Assalaamualaikum & Greetings!Welcome to Cool Mum Super Dad, your companion on this rollercoaster ride called parenthood. I'm your host, Jamilah Samian, a parenting author and speaker.In this episode, I talk about "Fathers In The Qur'an".  To Muslims around the world, the Qur’an is considered the sacred text, divine revelation. If you're a mother, please do listen to it, too.  Many mothers do not realise the critical role that fathers play, and therefore, unwittingly undermine their children's father's presence in the family.   If you’re not a Muslim, I urge you to keep listening, as I trust that you can benefit from it too. The Qur’an is the ultimate guide for parents to raise better leaders among children and youths.The fathers highlighted in this episode are:- Luqman The Wise- Prophet Ibrahim a.s.- Prophet  Yaaqub a.s.- Prophet Shuaib a.s.- Prophet Nuh a.s. - Aazar (the father of Prophet Ibrahim a.s.)We have much to learn from the insights of these true stories. When you become a better father/parent, you're a step closer to becoming your child’s "Inspirer: Leading Your Child With A Clear Purpose", an idea  embedded in The Hierarchy of Successful Parenting Leadership Model, as presented in my book, “Leadership In Parenting”.   Whatever good is in this work is from Allah; any shortcomings are mine alone.~~~~~~~~~~~~~~MORE RESOURCES:Hop over to my website, www.coolmumsuperdad.comBOOK ORDERS:To order my books, click the link: Cool Mum Super Dad Book Order.  Please note that your shipping address must be in Malaysia only.  If your shipping address is not in Malaysia, please write to [email protected] to make alternative delivery arrangements.~~~~~~~~~~~~~~REFERENCES1)  "Leadership In Parenting: Real Stories, Examples And Practical Strategies To Enable You To Lead Your Child Better". Author:  Jamilah Samian. MyriadVentures Enterprise. ISBN: 978-967-10430-5-9.2) "The Clear Qur'an Series" English Only. A Thematic English Translation. Author: Dr Mustafa Khattab. Book of Signs Foundation. ISBN: 978-0-9773009-8-3.Jamilah Samian is the author of "Cool Mum Super Dad", "Raise Me Right", "Cool Boys Super Sons", "Leadership In Parenting", "Parenting Generation Y & Z", "The Kindness Miracle" and "77 Power Parent Tips". 

Assalaamualaikum & Greetings!Welcome to Cool Mum Super Dad, your companion on this rollercoaster ride called parenthood. I'm your host, Jamilah Samian, a parenting author and speaker.In this episode, I talk about how you can become your child’s "Inspirer: Leading Your Child With A Clear Purpose". This idea is embedded in The Hierarchy of Successful Parenting Leadership Model, as presented in my book, “Leadership In Parenting”. This parenting model has 5 Parenting Functions, also known as Levels i.e.: Builder, Provider, Connector, Developer,  and Inspirer.Builder:  Level 1Build A Strong Marriage Foundation(Synergistic and Supportive Relationship)Provider – Level 2Provide Basic Physical Needs (Subsistence Parenting)Connector  - Level 3Fulfill Holistic Human Needs (Connect to the Creator: Spiritual, Intellectual, Social, Emotional)Developer – Level 4Develop Personal Aspiration (Empower the Passion)Inspirer – Level 5Inspire Future Leader(Leading with Impact)As you listen, you'll identify which level you're currently at. As well, you'll learn how you can move to the next, higher level. Understanding all levels will expand your capacity to lead your child better, so that your child earns their place as a wise, balanced, future leader.  Whatever good is in this work is from Allah; any shortcomings are mine alone.~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ MORE RESOURCES:Hop over to my website, www.coolmumsuperdad.comBOOK ORDERS:To order my books, click the link: Cool Mum Super Dad Book Order.  Please note that your shipping address must be in Malaysia only.  If your shipping address is not in Malaysia, please write to [email protected] to make alternative delivery arrangements.~~~~~~~~~~~~~~REFERENCES1) A Liter Of Light At Night https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cQCHvO2H0_02) "When I grow up ... the dream of primary pupils that came true" as published in The Guardian, Saturday, September 29, 2007. Study led by Jane Elliot of The Centre for Longitudinal Studies backed by The Nuffield Foundation. https://www.theguardian.com/uk/2007/sep/29/schools.children 3) "Truly, Madly, Deeply: Consumers in the Throes of Material Possession Love" by  John L. Lastovicka, and Nancy J. Sirianni. 2011. Journal of Consumer Research, Volume 38, Issue 2, 1 August 2011, Pages 323–342.  https://doi.org/10.1086/6583384) "Leadership In Parenting: Real Stories, Examples And Practical Strategies To Enable You To Lead Your Child Better". Author:  Jamilah Samian. MyriadVentures Enterprise. ISBN: 978-967-10430-5-9.Jamilah Samian is the author of "Cool Mum Super Dad", "Raise Me Right", "Cool Boys Super Sons", "Leadership In Parenting", "Parenting Generation Y & Z", "The Kindness Miracle" and "77 Power Parent Tips". 

Assalaamualaikum & Greetings!Welcome to Cool Mum Super Dad, your companion on this rollercoaster ride called parenthood. I'm your host, Jamilah Samian, a parenting author and speaker. Your marriage shapes your parenting experience. Children in happy, stable marriages feel more secure, perform better in school and have less disciplinary issues. This is reason enough for us parents to pay attention to the state and quality of our marriage. In this episode, I will show more case studies, to illustrate how you can transform challenging moments in your marriage into something positive, that can help to enhance your marriage, just by the way you respond. These case studies are based on real life cases that I documented in my book, “The Kindness Miracle”.Case Study 5: Do I Have To Sacrifice All The Time? Case Study 6: Dealing With Blind Spots   Case Study 7: The Introvert – Extrovert Pair   The names of couples and their personal particulars in these case studies have been changed to protect confidentiality.  For each case, I present an alternative which is likely to produce a more positive outcome. By listening to this episode and reflecting on your own unique circumstances, I hope you will be able to resolve any present conflict or sidestep serious potential conflicts in your own marriage.Whatever good is in this work is from Allah; any shortcomings are mine alone.~~~~~~~~~~~~~~MORE RESOURCES:Hop over to my website, www.coolmumsuperdad.comBOOK ORDERS:To order my books, click the link: Cool Mum Super Dad Book Order.  Please note that your shipping address must be in Malaysia only.  If your shipping address is not in Malaysia, please write to [email protected] to make alternative delivery arrangements.~~~~~~~~~~~~~~REFERENCES1) “Does a Long-Term Relationship Kill Romantic Love?” by  Bianca P. Acevedo & Arthur Aron. (2009). Review of General Psychology. Volume 13, Issue 1. https://doi.org/10.1037/a00142262) “The Social and Cultural Predictors of Generosity in Marriage: Gender Egalitarianism, Religiosity, and Familism” by W. Bradford Wilcox & Jeffrey Dew. (2013). Journal of Family Issues. Volume 37, Issue 1.https://doi.org/10.1177/0192513X13513581 3) "The Kindness Miracle: A 5-Point Plan To Make Your Marriage Work". Author:  Jamilah Samian. MyriadVentures Enterprise. ISBN: 978-967-10430-3-5. Jamilah Samian is the author of "Cool Mum Super Dad", "Raise Me Right", "Cool Boys Super Sons", "Leadership In Parenting", "Parenting Generation Y & Z", "The Kindness Miracle" and "77 Power Parent Tips". 

Assalaamualaikum & Greetings!Welcome to Cool Mum Super Dad, your companion on this rollercoaster ride called parenthood. I'm your host, Jamilah Samian, a parenting author and speaker.Your marriage shapes your parenting experience. Children in happy, stable marriages feel more secure, perform better in school and have less disciplinary issues. This is reason enough for us parents to pay attention to the state and quality of our marriage. In this episode, I introduce the Thomas-Kilmann Conflict Mode which relates to five animal characters that simplify the way we respond to conflicts, namely: shark, turtle, owl, fox,  and teddy bear. You may, of course, use different animal characters that you think are more suitable for you. I shine the spotlight on some case studies to help you see how you can transform challenging moments in your marriage into something positive, just by the way you respond. These case studies are based on real life cases that I documented in my book, “The Kindness Miracle”. Case Study 1: She Couldn’t Communicate Case Study 2: The Lost Child Case Study 3: He Got The Date WrongCase Study 4: He Never Did Any HouseworkThe names of couples and their personal particulars in these case studies have been changed to protect confidentiality.  For each case, I present an alternative which is likely to produce a more positive outcome. By listening to this episode and reflecting on your own unique circumstances, I hope you will be able to resolve any present conflict or sidestep serious potential conflicts in your own marriage.Whatever good is in this work is from Allah; any shortcomings are mine alone. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~MORE RESOURCES:Hop over to my website, www.coolmumsuperdad.comBOOK ORDERS:To order my books, click the link: Cool Mum Super Dad Book Order.  Please note that your shipping address must be in Malaysia only.  If your shipping address is not in Malaysia, please write to [email protected] to make alternative delivery arrangements.~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ REFERENCES 1) “Does a Long-Term Relationship Kill Romantic Love?” by  Bianca P. Acevedo & Arthur Aron. (2009). Review of General Psychology. Volume 13, Issue 1. https://doi.org/10.1037/a0014226 2) “The Social and Cultural Predictors of Generosity in Marriage: Gender Egalitarianism, Religiosity, and Familism” by W. Bradford Wilcox & Jeffrey Dew. (2013). Journal of Family Issues. Volume 37, Issue 1. https://doi.org/10.1177/0192513X13513581 3) "The Kindness Miracle: A 5-Point Plan To Make Your Marriage Work". Author:  Jamilah Samian. MyriadVentures Enterprise. ISBN: 978-967-10430-3-5. Jamilah Samian is the author of "Cool Mum Super Dad", "Raise Me Right", "Cool Boys Super Sons", "Leadership In Parenting", "Parenting Generation Y & Z", "The Kindness Miracle" and "77 Power Parent Tips". 

Assalaamualaikum & Greetings!Welcome to Cool Mum Super Dad, your companion on this rollercoaster ride called parenthood. I'm your host, Jamilah Samian, a parenting author and speaker.Your marriage shapes your parenting experience. Children in happy, stable marriages feel more secure, perform better in school and have less disciplinary issues. This is reason enough for us parents to pay attention to the state and quality of our marriage. Misunderstandings happen in the best of marriages. In this episode, I explain:- why conflict occurs- a 3-step strategy to think well of your spouse- how to confront limiting beliefs- emotional closure- how to get out of an argument- proactive step to sustain a marriageYou will gain valuable ideas on how you can get better at resolving conflict, especially by changing how you respond to disagreements. Getting into an argument is easy. Getting out of one takes humility. Think of what you can possibly say and do to create deeper understanding and respect between you and your spouse. Choose to be kind by not giving in to impulsiveness and the desire to win an argument just for the sake of winning. In an argument that has gone out of hand, nobody wins, even if it seems at the time that one side has the upper hand.Whatever good is in this work is from Allah; any shortcomings are mine alone. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~MORE RESOURCES:Hop over to my website, www.coolmumsuperdad.comBOOK ORDERS:To order my books, click the link: Cool Mum Super Dad Book Order.  Please note that your shipping address must be in Malaysia only.  If your shipping address is not in Malaysia, please write to [email protected] to make alternative delivery arrangements.~~~~~~~~~~~~~~REFERENCES1) “Does a Long-Term Relationship Kill Romantic Love?” by  Bianca P. Acevedo & Arthur Aron. (2009). Review of General Psychology. Volume 13, Issue 1. https://doi.org/10.1037/a00142262) “The Social and Cultural Predictors of Generosity in Marriage: Gender Egalitarianism, Religiosity, and Familism” by W. Bradford Wilcox & Jeffrey Dew. (2013). Journal of Family Issues. Volume 37, Issue 1.https://doi.org/10.1177/0192513X135135813) "The Kindness Miracle: A 5-Point Plan To Make Your Marriage Work". Author:  Jamilah Samian. MyriadVentures Enterprise. ISBN: 978-967-10430-3-5. Jamilah Samian is the author of "Cool Mum Super Dad", "Raise Me Right", "Cool Boys Super Sons", "Leadership In Parenting", "Parenting Generation Y & Z", "The Kindness Miracle" and "77 Power Parent Tips". 

Assalaamualaikum & Greetings!Welcome to Cool Mum Super Dad, your companion on this rollercoaster ride called parenthood. I'm your host, Jamilah Samian, a parenting author and speaker.Your marriage shapes your parenting experience. Children in happy, stable marriages feel more secure, perform better in school and have less disciplinary issues. This is reason enough for us parents to pay attention to the state and quality of our marriage. In this episode, I explained the 5 Stages Of Marriage:       Stage 1: The Honeymoon Stage                  Stage 2: Discovery                     Stage 3: Adjustment                       Stage 4: Acceptance                         Stage 5:  Everlasting Love                 I also covered the subject of DISTANCING, which are like dangerous potholes in your marriage.  Distancing is a period when either spouse or both man and wife feel they are drifting apart.  You can deal with Distancing  by having a SHARED VISION and applying the concept of the Emotional Bank Account or EBA for short.  A SHARED VISION is a deal maker, a dream maker.  Shared visions make good things happen in a marriage. Your shared visions may cover 5 main areas: Faith (spirituality); Fitness (Health); Family; Finance; and Fulfilment.   The EMOTIONAL BANK ACCOUNT or EBA is a simple but powerful concept that you can apply straight away, to also pull you and your spouse together.   Whatever good is in this work is from Allah; any shortcomings are mine alone.~~~~~~~~~~~~~~MORE RESOURCES:Hop over to my website, www.coolmumsuperdad.comBOOK ORDERS:To order my books, click the link: Cool Mum Super Dad Book Order.  Please note that your shipping address must be in Malaysia only.  If your shipping address is not in Malaysia, please write to [email protected] to make alternative delivery arrangements. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~REFERENCES1) “Does a Long-Term Relationship Kill Romantic Love?” by  Bianca P. Acevedo & Arthur Aron. (2009). Review of General Psychology. Volume 13, Issue 1. https://doi.org/10.1037/a00142262) “The Social and Cultural Predictors of Generosity in Marriage: Gender Egalitarianism, Religiosity, and Familism” by W. Bradford Wilcox & Jeffrey Dew. (2013). Journal of Family Issues. Volume 37, Issue 1.https://doi.org/10.1177/0192513X135135813) "The Kindness Miracle: A 5-Point Plan To Make Your Marriage Work". Author:  Jamilah Samian. MyriadVentures Enterprise. ISBN: 978-967-10430-3-5. Jamilah Samian is the author of "Cool Mum Super Dad", "Raise Me Right", "Cool Boys Super Sons", "Leadership In Parenting", "Parenting Generation Y & Z", "The Kindness Miracle" and "77 Power Parent Tips". 

Assalaamualaikum & Greetings!Welcome to Cool Mum Super Dad, your companion on this rollercoaster ride called parenthood. I'm your host, Jamilah Samian, a parenting author and speaker.Your marriage shapes your parenting experience. Children in happy, stable marriages feel more secure, perform better in school and have less disciplinary issues. This is reason enough for us parents to pay attention to the state and quality of our marriage.In this episode, I debunk the top 3 myths about love and marriage:Myth No. 1: Love Is Too Much Of A Mystery. You Can’t Grow It Myth No. 2: You Must Be Perfect To Be Loved And Happily MarriedMyth No. 3: The Magic Of Love Never Lasts You can still be deeply in love with your spouse no matter how long you have been married. Not the kind of love that revolves around convenience: you-do-some-work-and-I-do-some; you share the workload as roommates do. Rather, the kind of love where you and your spouse look forward to see and talk to each other every day.    The key to such an enduring marriage is KINDNESS. Discover  how deliberate and constant acts of kindness can grow love between you and your spouse, to create a more stable home for you to raise your children. With deliberate and constant acts of kindness, growing love is no longer a mystery but rather, an emotion, a feeling and commitment that will naturally develop over time.Whatever good is in this work is from Allah; any shortcomings are mine alone.~~~~~~~~~~~~~~MORE RESOURCES:Hop over to my website, www.coolmumsuperdad.comBOOK ORDERS:To order my books, click the link: Cool Mum Super Dad Book Order.  Please note that your shipping address must be in Malaysia only.  If your shipping address is not in Malaysia, please write to [email protected] to make alternative delivery arrangements. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~REFERENCES 1) “Does a Long-Term Relationship Kill Romantic Love?” by  Bianca P. Acevedo & Arthur Aron. (2009). Review of General Psychology. Volume 13, Issue 1. https://doi.org/10.1037/a00142262) “The Social and Cultural Predictors of Generosity in Marriage: Gender Egalitarianism, Religiosity, and Familism” by W. Bradford Wilcox & Jeffrey Dew. (2013). Journal of Family Issues. Volume 37, Issue 1. https://doi.org/10.1177/0192513X135135813) "The Kindness Miracle: A 5-Point Plan To Make Your Marriage Work". Author:  Jamilah Samian. MyriadVentures Enterprise. ISBN: 978-967-10430-3-5. Jamilah Samian is the author of "Cool Mum Super Dad", "Raise Me Right", "Cool Boys Super Sons", "Leadership In Parenting", "Parenting Generation Y & Z", "The Kindness Miracle" and "77 Power Parent Tips". 

Assalaamualaikum & Greetings!Welcome to Cool Mum Super Dad, your companion on this rollercoaster ride called parenthood. I'm your host, Jamilah Samian, a parenting author and speaker.For parents in particular, stress is a short word with a BIG impact. For working parents, stress means juggling deadlines from demanding bosses, handling tasks that keep coming beyond office hours, even as they struggle to raise a family. A stay-at-home parent also works round the clock: cooking, cleaning, disciplining, making sure the kids get along most of the time while getting the chores done take all day and almost all night. Staying at home and staying sane isn’t a breeze either.In this episode, we focus on prolonged, chronic stress, where, despite hours of sleep, you still feel exhausted and not looking forward to go through another day. You feel trapped, lethargic.  Not acknowledging that you’re highly stressed, not knowing how to deal with it can cause you to vent your frustrations and anxieties on your loved ones – children, spouse, family. They do not deserve to be mistreated just because you’re stressed at work. Learn top myths tied to prolonged, chronic stress, and  discover self-care strategies that can help you  deal with your stress better, that can lead to positive outcomes, physically and mentally.Whatever good is in this work is from Allah; any shortcomings are mine alone. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~MORE RESOURCES:Hop over to my website, www.coolmumsuperdad.comBOOK ORDERS:To order my books, click the link: Cool Mum Super Dad Book Order.  Please note that your shipping address must be in Malaysia only.  If your shipping address is not in Malaysia, please write to [email protected] to make alternative delivery arrangements. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~REFERENCES 1) HARVARD Business Review: How to Recover from Work Stress, According to Science2) World Health Organisation: Mental Health At Work3) The Effects of Psychological Stress on Depression4) The Link Between Stress and Depression~~~~~~~~~~~~~~Jamilah Samian is the author of "Cool Mum Super Dad", "Raise Me Right", "Cool Boys Super Sons", "Leadership In Parenting", "Parenting Generation Y & Z", "The Kindness Miracle" and "77 Power Parent Tips". 

Assalaamualaikum & Greetings!Welcome to Cool Mum Super Dad, your companion on this rollercoaster ride called parenthood. I'm your host, Jamilah Samian, a parenting author and speaker.Cool Mum Super Dad aims to be a lifeline for those moments when you feel like you're navigating the parenting maze blindfolded. Think of it as your regular dose of inspiration and practical insights. We'll be diving into effective parenting strategies, tackling the challenges head-on, and celebrating the victories, big and small. Whether you're a Cool Mum or a Super Dad, or in the case of single parents, a bit of both, this podcast is for you. We're here to create a supportive space where you can find comfort, guidance, and the occasional tears and laughter because, let's face it, parenting is a wild ride.  Whatever good is in this work is from Allah; any shortcomings are mine alone.~~~~~~~~~~~~~MORE RESOURCES:Hop over to my website, www.coolmumsuperdad.comBOOK ORDERS:To order my books, click the link: Cool Mum Super Dad Book Order.  Please note that your shipping address must be in Malaysia only.  If your shipping address is not in Malaysia, please write to [email protected] to make alternative delivery arrangements.  Jamilah Samian is the author of "Cool Mum Super Dad", "Raise Me Right", "Cool Boys Super Sons", "Leadership In Parenting", "Parenting Generation Y & Z", "The Kindness Miracle" and "77 Power Parent Tips".