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Couples Therapy In Seven Words

by Dr. Bruce Chalmer

Be Kind, Don‘t Panic, and Have Faith. Psychologist Dr. Bruce Chalmer and educator Judy Alexander talk about relationships, and answer your questions.

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  1. Betrayed and Stayed: An Interview with Rev. Monica Humpal

    Our guest for this episode, Rev. Monical Humpal, helps clients recover from betrayal, with a special emphasis on clients who choose to reconcile. Monica speaks from experience: she tells us about her own marriage, betrayal, and reconciliation journey. Judy and I found Monica’s story both moving…

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  2. Help Before You Take Those Vows: An Interview with Stephanie Wise

    If you’re married, did you write your own vows? Our guest in this episode, Stephanie Wise, is a therapist who provides therapy to couples. And she also works with couples in another way, to help them craft their vows before marriage. As we discuss in the episode, it’s not just about coming up…

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  3. The Architecture of Love: An Interview with David Gottfried

    David Gottfried, our guest in this episode, is well-known in the world of green buildings, having founded the U.S. Green Building Council and the World Green Building Council. Why, then, is he a guest on our podcast that focuses on couples issues? It turns out that the ideas David has been...

  4. The Art of Nonviolent Communication: An Interview with Micah Salaberrios

    Nonviolent Communication (NVC) is a way of communicating originally developed by Marshal Rosenberg. Our guest in this episode, Micah Salaberrios, first encountered NVC when a colleague in a project he was working on used it to help calm a volatile situation, and he was so impressed with its...

  5. Can an AI App Help Build Stronger Relationships? An Interview with Lior Illouz

    For the video of this episode, go to https://youtu.be/Db2MhycBH50. How might AI help couples have better relationships? What are the advantages, and what are the dangers? Our guest in this episode, Lior Illouz, tells us about the app his company has developed, and what he and his colleagues have...

  6. The Five Lust Languages: An Interview with Susan Bratton

    Download the free 4-page Relationship Clarity Check or explore my video courses at: 👉 https://brucechalmer.com When Gary Chapman first published The Five Love Languages, it became a massive best-seller because the idea that we offer and receive love differently deeply resonated. However, over...

  7. Living in Love: An Interview with Pete and Kalindi

    Download the free Relationship Clarity Check or explore Bruce’s video courses at 👉https://brucechalmer.com Our guests in this episode of "Couples Therapy in Seven Words" are Pete and Kalindi, partners in life and work, devoted to helping individuals and couples experience deeper connection,...

  8. Mind the Gaps: An Interview with Kirsten Davidson

    For the video of this episode, go to https://youtu.be/kIgLpVpu8mM. Internal Family Systems (IFS) is a way of working with people that recognizes that, metaphorically or literally, each of us is made up a whole bunch of parts, sometimes vigorously disagreeing with each other. Our guest in this...

  9. Finding the Right Person Sometimes Becomes the Problem: An Interview with Dr. Andrea Medaris

    For the video of this episode, go to https://youtu.be/IP-pNKMlzyY. Is it possible those wonderful qualities of the person you fell in love with—that perfect match for you—could also be the source of problems in your relationship? Our guest in this episode, Dr. Andrea Medaris, tells us how that…

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  10. How Couples Therapy and AI Can Coexist: An Interview with Keith Jordan

    For the video of this episode, go to https://youtu.be/TUXfsCRa0Sw. Does Artificial Intelligence have a place in couples therapy? That thought is both intriguing and horrifying, at least to us! Our guest in this episode, Keith Jordan, has developed an app that incorporates AI, with guardrails, to...

  11. Reigniting the Spark

    For the video of this episode, go to https://youtu.be/iUELr23ilxY. Long-time listeners of our podcast, or those of you who follow my (Bruce’s) work, might recognize that title, “Reigniting the Spark,” as the title of my first book on relationships. Now I’ve created a self-paced video course based...

  12. Practical Steps for Healing from Infidelity: An Interview with Tyler Patrick

    For the video of this episode, go to https://youtu.be/muVs-NhSv-U. Our guest in this episode is Tyler Patrick, a marriage and family therapist who works with couples dealing with betrayal trauma and addiction recovery. Tyler tells us about his own journey, and how the struggles he and his wife…

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  13. It’s Not About Communication: An Interview with Dr. Rachel Orleck

    For the video of this episode, go to https://youtu.be/7bf-FUL0Hw8. Our guest in this episode, Dr. Rachel Orleck, uses Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) in her work with couples. She explains how EFT applies the insights of attachment theory to help couples find safe, deep reconnection. And, much…

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  14. Sex Begets Sex: An Interview with Caroline Hood

    For the video of this episode, go to https://youtu.be/Lt1GOUpHFFo. Why does libido so often seem to fade in a long-term relationship, especially for women? Is it possible it’s not inevitable? Our guest in this episode, Caroline Hood, says it’s not inevitable—and tells how couples can support a...

  15. Creating a “Story of Us”: An Interview with Penny Goldmuntz & Michael Trachtman

    For the video of this episode, go to https://youtu.be/FDZUJQEnR28. How can a couple reinforce and deepen their emotional connection? Our guests in this episode, Dr. Penny Goldmuntz and Rabbi Michael Trachter, are a married couple who help other couples do just that. They tell us about how they…

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  16. The Kink Consultant: An Interview with Amanda Dames

    For the video of this episode, go to https://youtu.be/Wacw1Cz7JfM. We had a blast having this conversation with Amanda Dames! Amanda is “The Kink Consultant,” on a mission to destigmatize kink, empower exploration, and help individuals and couples build bridges so they can own and express their...

  17. Can a Marriage Heal After Betrayal?

    For the video of this episode, go to https://youtu.be/1b8w45QIbX8. If your spouse or partner has betrayed you, can you heal the marriage? Dealing with betrayal trauma is, obviously, painful and difficult—but can the marriage heal? In this episode Judy and I talk about the three options couples…

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  18. What Counts as Betrayal?

    For the video of this episode, go to https://youtu.be/E33G8rILKy4. If you’ve been betrayed—or if your partner has accused you of betrayal—what is it about what happened that makes it betrayal? It’s not just semantics. You can be hurt, but betrayal isn’t just hurt. Betrayal shakes your entire...

  19. What Does It Mean When You Say “I Forgive”?

    For the video of this episode, go to https://youtu.be/9OvsfA9HEOI. Forgiveness can mean different things—and those differences can have a significant impact on the process of healing when someone has hurt or betrayed you. Judy and I talk about what forgiveness might mean, and how some ways of...

  20. Betrayal Trauma: How Can You Heal and Move On?

    For the video of this episode, go to https://youtu.be/6_CuvZO8qbQ. What is betrayal trauma? What makes it particularly painful? Judy and I talk about betrayal, including some insights we’ve gained from our own experience. Our newly redesigned website is at https://ctin7.com. Let us know what you...

  21. Why is It So Hard to Talk About Money? An Interview with Carl Richards

    For the video of this episode, go to https://youtu.be/y74GP_wzKGU. For many couples, talking about money is the third rail—you just don’t go there, or if you do, you get shocked. Our guest in this episode, Carl Richards, talks about why it’s so hard for couples to talk about money, and why money...

  22. Discernment Counseling: Should You Work On It, or Call It Quits?

    For the video of this episode, go to https://youtu.be/aRN7sDmcjfU. What is Discernment Counseling? And how might it help you? In this episode, Judy and I talk about situations in which Discernment Counseling is appropriate, and ways that my approach is consistent with its goals. You can find more...

  23. Narcissism and Couples Therapy: An Interview with James Christensen

    For the video of this episode, go to https://youtu.be/h3McIE-iuIM. The term “narcissist” has become something of a slur these days, and our guest in today’s episode, couples therapist James Christensen, recognizes this phenomenon. He doesn’t use the term much in working with couples, but his own...

  24. Can a Couple Survive Political Differences?

    For the video of this episode, go to https://youtu.be/-nl4dO3qCpk. In an era of political polarization, how can couples survive when they belong to different political tribes? Is it even possible? Well.. Judy and I talk about the possibilities and pitfalls. The GMA segment we refer to is at...

  25. Reclaiming Your Body and Desire: An Interview with Laura Jurgens

    For the video of this episode, go to https://youtu.be/6pp6GZAgptY. How can a couple cope when one partner wants sex more often than the other? Is this inevitable in long-term relationships? Does it have to involve conflict, pressure, rejection, and pain? Our guest in this episode, Laura Jurgens…

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  26. Love, Sex, AI, and Faith

    For the video of this episode, go to https://youtu.be/JaYYg5luP_E. Why are people having less sex than they used to? What role does AI play in this tendency? Have we evolved to just want sex, or are we actually looking for the deep bond of love? Judy and I talk about these issues, and try to end…

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  27. Life in Transition: An Interview with Art & Tonya Blanchford

    For the video of this episode, go to https://youtu.be/iw0zfpvcwTU. How can a couple navigate difficult, often painful transitions at different stages of life, and emerge stronger than before? Our guests in this episode, Art and Tonya Blanchford, tell us how they’ve done it, and continue to do so....

  28. When Couples Therapy is Basically Useless…and When It Helps

    For the video of this episode, go to https://youtu.be/BdRj4uZJuys. Is couples therapy always a good idea? (Turns out, no!) When might it hurt, and when might it help? And how can you make the best use of couples therapy if you decide you want to do it? In this episode, Judy and I talk about those...

  29. The Passion Paradox and Radical Moderation

    For the video of this episode, go to https://youtu.be/TmH4h0QPNB0. In this episode, Judy and I talk about Lauren Hall’s concept of Radical Moderation, and why I find the parallels between her ideas and my ideas about couples work so exciting. Our podcast interview with Lauren is at...

  30. Compassionate Divorce: An Interview with Sarene Arias

    For the video of this episode, go to https://youtu.be/-pQ0RKqexVQ. What is compassionate divorce? Our guest in this episode, Sarene Arias, works with couples to help them work together to create a healthy family for themselves and their children, even when they’ve decided to end their marriage....

  31. From a Sexless Marriage to Intimacy Coach: An Interview with Xanet Pailet

    For the video of this episode, go to https://youtu.be/9QHgncrcyCc. Our guest in this episode, Xanet Pailet, went from a 26-year sexless marriage to become an intimacy coach. We talk about how Xanet helps couples discover deep, passionate intimacy, both sexually and emotionally. Xanet’s website is...

  32. Should You Use a Chatbot as Your Therapist? An Interview with ChatGPT

    For the video of this episode, go to https://youtu.be/HCPMLeURKJM. And now for something completely different… More and more people are developing relationships with chatbots—including client-therapist relationships. You might have heard some of the horror stories about chatbots leading people...

  33. The Lightbulb Moment in Couples Therapy That Changes Everything

    For the video of this episode, go to https://youtu.be/eUR0twlYpd0. There’s a moment in my first sessions with couples that I’ve come to expect. I’ve explained to them a way of understanding what’s happening in many long-term relationships, and then ask them if that resonates with them. And that’s...

  34. Recovering from Infidelity: An Interview with Dr. Monique Thompson

    For the video of this episode, go to https://youtu.be/jPbj3Gm5Seo. How can couples recover from infidelity? Our guest in this episode, Dr. Monique Thompson, specializes in helping couples do just that. As you’ll notice, I (Bruce) speculated that if I weren’t clearly 20+ years older, Monique and I...

  35. This Will Save You Ten Sessions of Therapy!

    For the video of this episode, go to https://youtu.be/K-sFebiiql8. Couples therapy can help—especially if you know how to use it effectively. Bruce’s recent book, The Passion Paradox: When You Feel Miles Apart and Still Love Each Other, is becoming a video course. And what you’ll learn can save…

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  36. The Masks Men Wear: An Interview with Mordy Gottlieb

    For the video of this episode, go to https://youtu.be/-Kee1cpdglw. Why do men have such difficulty talking about emotions, and how does that affect relationships? Our guest in this episode, Mordy Gottlieb, works with men to help them find their way through relationship issues with courage and...

  37. Intimacy is A Lot More Than Sex: An Interview with Keri Green

    For the video of this episode, go to https://youtu.be/4Op-8-uVNqU. Our guest in this episode, Keri Green, is a sex therapist in San Diego. She tells us how she got into that work (Judy and I heard echoes of Otis from the TV series “Sex Education”), and how she works with couples to help them find…

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  38. Should You Work On It, or Call It Quits?

    For the video of this episode, go to https://youtu.be/Vtxd-WhmdhQ. Are you wondering if you should stay together or call it quits on your relationship? This is a question many of the couples who consult me (Bruce) are struggling with. How can you figure it out? We offer some basic guidelines. And...

  39. The Lie of Purity Culture: An Interview with Juno Thorne

    For the video of this episode, go to https://youtu.be/5Zjls4_QWWw. Our guest in this episode, Juno Thorne, describes his personal—very personal—journey to escape from ideas he found toxic, accept his natural urges rather than suppress them, and revitalize his marriage. His recent book, Sacred...

  40. Parent Rx – How to Communicate with Your Child: An Interview with Dr. David Marcus

    For the video of this episode, go to https://youtu.be/6po5SBY5QMQ. How can you talk to your kids to soothe them and get through to them, rather than shut them down? Our guest in this episode, Dr. David Marcus, has worked with families dealing with high-conflict divorce, and advocated for children...

  41. Marrying America: An Interview with Jeremy Nelson

    For the video of this episode, go to https://youtu.be/vhzae0ucbjQ. What’s the difference between dating and courting? Why do so many women pick guys on dating apps who later turn out to be bad husband material? Our guest in this episode, Jeremy Nelson, has created a dating app with a very…

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  42. A Family Story of Anorexia: An Interview with Nancy Levine and Rachel Levine-Spates

    For the video of this episode, go to https://youtu.be/7FQ3i_dWbBk. Our guests in this episode, Nancy Levine and Rachel Levine Spates, are a mother and daughter who collaborated on a book called Light: A Family Story of Anorexia. Their book is a beautifully written, insightful, and courageous...

  43. The Passion Paradox: Can Passionate Love Last?

    For the video of this episode, go to https://youtu.be/KD19fzxYYgg. What happened to the passionate love you had when you first got together? Is it possible for that kind of love to last? We talk about Bruce’s latest book, The Passion Paradox: When You Feel Miles Apart and Still Love Each Other....

  44. Soulful Power: An Interview with Christian de la Huerta

    For the video of this episode, go to https://youtu.be/TjcflWWUghM. Our guest in this episode, Christian de la Huerta, talks about his own journey toward spiritual transformation, and how he helps people along their own journeys. His most recent books are Awakening the Soul of Power: How to Live...

  45. The Meta-Serenity Prayer

    For the video of this episode, go to https://youtu.be/cXEgVCnBIq4. You’ve heard of the Serenity Prayer, especially in the context of 12-Step programs such as AA. But what is the Meta-Serenity Prayer? In this episode, we talk about it. Why did Bruce invent it? What does it have to do with faith?...

  46. From Hot Mess to Therapist: An Interview with Caroline Kobylinski

    For the video of this episode, go to https://youtu.be/xvDCFU85faA. Our guest in this episode, Caroline Kobylinski, overcame a history of emotional chaos, substance use, eating disorders, and toxic relationships. She’s applied what she learned through those struggles to helping both individual...

  47. Dating in Your 40s and 50s: An Interview with Padmini Pandya

    For the video of this episode, go to https://youtu.be/UG6QrQsK-Uo. Our guest in this episode, Padmini Pandya, has lived and worked all over the world. She shares her experiences, especially in the area of relationships. Padmini’s website is https://www.youtube.com/@PiecesOfMissMini. Do you have...

  48. Rebuilding Intimacy After Shame: An Interview with Chandler Rogers

    For the video of this episode, go to https://youtu.be/7rhyEG5S260. Pornography can be addictive. Our guest in this episode, Chandler Rogers, has founded Relay, an app that helps people with their recovery. We talk about Chandler’s own experience that led him to found the app, how connecting with...

  49. What If It’s Not Therapy You Need? An Interview with Dr. Alison Greco

    For the video of this episode, go to https://youtu.be/VuKfsIb8Fe4. Is everyone mentally ill? Or is it possible that most of us need support from a caring human being, rather than treatment of a diagnosed illness? Our guest in this episode, Dr. Alison Greco, is reanimating an idea from last…

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  50. You’re Miles Apart and Still Love Each Other: Now What?

    For the video of this episode, go to https://youtu.be/i3vNYsGMDtc. Why do couples so often start off passionately in love, and over time end up feeling miles apart? And if you’re in that situation, what can you do about it? In this episode, we talk about how that happens and how to deal with it.…

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Be Kind, Don‘t Panic, and Have Faith. Psychologist Dr. Bruce Chalmer and educator Judy Alexander talk about relationships, and answer your questions.

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