Curious Conversations About Sex

New Pan-Political feed: https://media.rss.com/pan-political/feed.xml Or find it on our old website: https://www.curiouscreatures.biz/ …then come and chat with me on X: https://x.com/Pan_Political And if you’re in a position to support on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/curiousconversationsaboutsex   In this episode: Redirecting listeners to the new podcast feed has been moderately successful at best. In any case, this old feed […]

This podcast, Curious Conversations About Sex, is coming to an end. In coming weeks, your feed will be automatically forwarded to my new podcast, Pan-Political. (You can subscribe to this separately, now, at https://media.rss.com/pan-political/feed.xml.) For my amazing Patreon supporters: nothing changes with your membership. I’m looking forward to offering some special new perks very soon. […]

Rog explains why they closed Curious Creatures after ~14 years of running influential in-person workshops on consent, communication, relationships, and self-development that directly reached 10–20,000 people and helped shift consent culture in Australia and beyond. They outline seven intriguing – and sometimes disturbing – reasons leading to the closure, along with descriptions of specific events […]

From a counsellor, sex educator, and sex therapist who’s directly taught 10,000+ people how to have positive relationships and great sex: The tried, tested, and ultimate list of What Women Want, and What Men Want deep down after socialisation is removed. Herein lies your secrets to success in relationship and bed. For same-sex, hetero, and […]

Over the course of the Pan-Political series, there were many great questions and comments! Such juicy territory! Today, I answer some of them, and add some nuance around some ideas from the series.   Links are at https://www.curiouscreatures.biz/ Rog / Curious Creatures’ Patreon page if you’d like to support: https://www.patreon.com/curiousconversationsaboutsex  

Over the course of the Pan-Political series, there were many great questions and comments! Such juicy territory! Today, I answer some of them, and add some nuance around some ideas from the series.   Links are at https://www.curiouscreatures.biz/ Rog / Curious Creatures’ Patreon page if you’d like to support: https://www.patreon.com/curiousconversationsaboutsex

Today, we continue on from previous live episodes to review what was in the original ‘Pan-Political’ series, and also explore the question of where we’d go from here, if we were to implement the thinking captured in the episodes. Today embraces episodes five through to nine, with responses to your most excellent questions, comments, and […]

Links referred to in episode are below and also at https://www.curiouscreatures.biz/ Temporarily taking a break from gender, getting back to sex. Today, interview with Isiah McKimmie, from podcast ‘Your Patients Are Having Sex’: https://isiah-mckimmie.com/blog-podcast/ Topics: Sexuality and kink from a therapist’s perspective. This is not related to the course I recently ran with Process Work […]

LINKS: All links are on Curious Creatures website: https://www.curiouscreatures.biz/ Our Patreon page: https://www.patreon.com/curiousconversationsaboutsex Rog’s course on sexuality for therapists: https://www.processwork.edu/a-therapists-guide-to-sexuality-taboos-and-kink-with-roger-butler-sept-2025-online-course/ The free one-hour webinar taste-tester for above course: https://community.processwork.org/posts/explore-free-on-demand-video-a-therapists-guide-to-sexuality-taboos-and-kink-with-roger-butler   NOTES: This is the second part of a recording made in July, 2025, following the first nine episodes of the Pan-Political series. It reviews each […]

This is a recording made in July, 2025, following the first nine episodes of the Pan-Political series. It reviews each episode, adds ideas around what future-focused ideas might look like, and engages in juicy discussions with participants. Listen in, and maybe you want to attend the next one? Our Patreon page: https://www.patreon.com/curiousconversationsaboutsex Next show recording […]

This is an interview, a conversation, and a bit more information about an upcoming course you might be interested in. I’m being interviewed by James Boutin, who’s with Process Work International. In partnership with them, the course I’m running in September is called “Interpreting and Understanding Sexuality, Kinks, and Fetishes”. This conversation covers how I […]

Show-notes are below… Links: Curious Creatures: https://www.curiouscreatures.biz/ Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/curiousconversationsaboutsex Live show: https://www.facebook.com/events/1034160991497938/ Course for therapists: https://www.processwork.edu/a-therapists-guide-to-sexuality-taboos-and-kink-with-roger-butler-sept-2025-online-course/ Mila Gaca’s Intro to Process Work: https://community.processwork.org/posts/beginners-toolkit-june-10-17-24-learn-essential-processwork-concepts-and-skills-with-mila-gaca Show-notes: Okay, so what’s the potential conclusion and ways forward from here? What might the next wave of the gender movement look like, and why’s this series called “pan-political”? Why do you […]

I’d like to update you about a few things to do with this podcast, and let you know about some things you might want to get involved in. Specifically, I’ll be talking about five topics: Where this podcast is going, and the Pan-Political series in particular Online live show recording of Pan-Political Episode 10/9 (July […]

Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/curiousconversationsaboutsex Why is this ‘Pan-Political’ perspective so different to the mainstream of gender equality thinking? How could anyone have not noticed that in this world, the evidence overwhelmingly shows that women and minority genders suffer, and men have extreme advantages? How come almost every article you read, and almost every gender expert, agrees that […]

In this episode, we explore two separate questions: Is the world built, shaped, or referenced, around male sexuality? If it is, then why is it so easy to find so many complaints about men and sexuality? First, we rigorously (and often humorously) explore the ways that the world is, and isn’t, built around male sexuality. […]

Is there a wage gap? …It seems overwhelmingly likely that there is. But what causes it? …Here’s where things get interesting. Traditional thinking tells us it’s from a devaluing or outright hatred of women – or a prioritizing of men – that happens almost fractally from the individual level, through to the whole-of-society level. The […]

So… What, exactly, is the Patriarchy? Who, exactly is in it? What is its purpose, and how’s it going against its Key Performance Indicators? Do we at some stage get to participate in some kind of a review process? Is there a way we can get involved, and maybe change it from the inside? Is […]

The default assumption is that a lot of the work we need to do to move forwards, needs to be done in gender-separate spaces. Without a doubt, a lot of great work happens in those spaces. Intriguing questions remain, however, around how we hold these spaces in a way that ensures they have positive outcomes […]

What exactly do we mean when we say ‘toxic masculinity’? Where did it come from? (Hint: Closer to home than you think). More importantly, what’s keeping it going? What do we need to do to stop it? Can toxic masculinity, as a concept, lead us to world peace? Can it solve the gender war while […]

Today, we take the useful but politicised and weaponised perspective of privilege, and turn it into and even more useful perspective that leads us to understanding, peace, and solutions. We start with a review of the current state of thinking, and articulate how that leads us to The Great Privilege Paradox. From there, we add […]

The gender revolution is one of the most important changes that’s ever happened in human culture. Its core intentions, its core missions, are undeniably needed. Now that we’re 70 years into it, in some areas the gender revolution continues to progress. However, in other areas progress has slowed or stalled. Worse, in some areas we’re […]

Well this is a rollicking romp of a conversation, in three parts. I’m chatting with Dr Elliot, from https://myfirmtech.com/. Links are in the shownotes. Dr Elliot Justin has a background in emergency medicine, more recently specialising in sex and technology. We started by having a chat about his product lines, which might be of a […]

I’m still here. I still love you. Since we last spoke, a lot of extraordinary things happened, resulting in me stopping workshops kind of abruptly, and selling The Practice Lab. I will probably say more about all of that in a future episode, but for now, perhaps as a down-payment on some of that, let’s […]

Today, we’re chatting about gender, and how your identity is influenced by the events you experience in your life. The conversation is especially interested in how minority genders such as non-binary and trans identities are formed, and how there’s healthy and less than healthy ways that plays out. My guest is Avgi Saketopoulou, who along […]

Today, we talking about the Death Cult Club, Lomi Lomi, and Integrated Oncology with Alice Peebles. It includes a couple of side-journeys around consent and trauma-informed practice, and touches on Alice’s and Rog’s personal Death Cult Club Goals. Oh, and some tips on how you can start your own Death Cult Club! Links: Alice’s Lomi […]

Today, answering the question, of what to do when things go wrong – especially when you’re topping. To answer it, I’m back with Seani Love, an award-winning sex-worker and workshop facilitator. The conversation comes across like you’ve walked in on a couple of kinky therapists having a chat, which is precisely what it is – […]

Lee Harrington, who’s been on the show a couple of times previously, has recently written the book “Becoming Your Own Beloved”. It’s a wild investment in yourself, and a radical piece of activism against some modern dilemmas. Lee and Rog talk self-care, gender, lateral violence in minority gender groups, and some good old life philosophy. […]

Today, I’m doing a reaction video to a Jordan Peterson interview, except without the video. So I’m just having a reaction, I guess. In the original interview, which I’ll link to in the shownotes, Jordan is speaking about sex, consent, and sex outside of marriage. On top of that, I want to add another couple […]

Today, we’re chatting with Joli about jealousy – how it’s an awesome thing waiting to happen, what to put in place to avoid unnecessary amounts of it, how it pairs with attachment styles, and how to talk about it. Also, a bunch of thoughts on starting poly, navigating poly, and some relationship ideas that are […]

A revisit of comments Rog made in the last episode, particularly around a criticism of the grass-roots Christian movement. (This is one of those rare times where we strongly recommend you listen to that episode first). Link to two-day workshop ‘Adventurous Touch and Intimacy’: www.curiouscreatures.biz/adventurous-touch-and-intimacy.html Link to the Curious Creatures forum: forum.curiouscreatures.biz/ Link to Consent […]

Today, we’re getting back to our journalistic roots, and exposing one of Australia’s biggest sex scandals. You might be wondering why an otherwise light and accessible sexuality podcast would venture into such territory, however the editorial team here at Curious Conversations About Sex felt that if we’re to explore the positive elements of sex, then […]

Today, I’ve hand-selected a bonus episode for you. It’s from the podcast ‘Come As You Are’, and it’s about your hardware – by which I mean, your genitals, junk, hoo-har, your funky fandangle, whatever it is you call it. More specifically, it’s about how all of our genitals have things in common, and how we […]

Today, I’m having a fast and exciting conversation with Fiona Patten, who leads the Australian Reason Party. We get into politics, sex, gender equality, and collaboration as an alternative to the adversarial political system. Oh, and we touch on assisted dying, drug legalisation, and a bunch of other stuff. What stands out for me about […]

I’ve been going on a lot lately about the way porn winds up being sex education if there’s no other sex education available, and how that’s sometimes a good thing and sometimes maybe not such a good thing. So I thought it would be great to go back and listen to this episode from 2019 […]

Today, I’m being interviewed by Steve from the Choose Love Podcast. Since he was interviewing me, some of it’s about me and how I came to be doing what I do… Then from there, we launch into what’s going on for most people in the world of sex, how sex education is meeting our needs […]

This is the no-bullshit, all honesty, useful sex education that most teenagers never receive, myself included.

I would like to see if I can blow your mind, at least a little bit, regarding unsolicited dick-pics. Actually, what’s happening in this episode, is that you get to listen in on a conversation I had with two people, where I set about blowing their minds about dick-pics – about the phenomenal circumstances that […]

I’ve got great news… this podcast is back, baby! I’m looking forward to being back in your ears, starting with a cracker of a conversation in about a week. In the meanwhile, I’m going to pop in a bonus episode from our friends over at Pushkin. It’s the first episode from a podcast of theirs […]

Things are busy, as we come out of lockdown. This episode is an update about that. In short, Curious Conversations About Sex is taking a break. We suggest just leaving us subscribed in your feed, and at some stage in the future, we hope to be in your ears again.

Today, we’re looking into Restorative Justice again; this is the second in a two-part series, and I hate to do this to you, but I need you to go back and listen to the previous episode, if you haven’t already.  Seriously, a bunch of stuff in the following episode won’t make sense, and I’m worried […]

Today, we’re listening back to the first of two episodes from 2019, on Restorative Justice. I’ve chosen these episodes to listen to again because I got a lot of positive feedback from other listeners about these episodes – to which I’d add that they’re two of my faves, too. At the end, I’ll provide a […]

Tess and I created the workshop ‘Opening Up To Opening Up’, as a deep-dive into the world of non-monogamy. We’ve had a think about which bits might be interesting here on the podcast, and would like to share with you the chapters on mythbusting, agreements, and jealousy. A lot of this stuff is relevant to […]

Okay. Today, we’re angling in the general direction of getting more insight around a very juicy topic. To do that, I’m going to give you some of the theory from one of my workshops, called “Playing with the cards you’ve been dealt”. I promise, this is not a teaser, where you then have to pay […]

Sex and cancer. If you think this doesn’t apply to you, you’re almost certainly wrong. About one in two, or maybe one in three of us, will have cancer at some stage in our lives. But almost all of us will have someone close to us get cancer, and so will find ourselves as partners […]

Today, we’re dropping back in on an episode from 2017, on the question of whether or not consent is sexy. The background, btw, is that in trying to sell the idea of consent, for most of the last 50 years we’ve taken a perspective of using the stick, rather than the carrot; we’ve said “Do […]

I wrote a book, and I’m going to read some of it to you today. It’s got nothing to do with sex, but it’s on a topic I know many of you find interesting. It’s called ‘Success for Slackers’, and it’s about how to come up with a business or a role that’s good for […]

Today, I want to share with you some ideas on how to have an ‘altered states’ date. From a psychological perspective, an altered state is a state of mind that is different from whatever you regard as your normal. It means that the way your mind is working, or the way you’re feeling, is somehow […]

Today, I’m being interviewed by the crew from Off The Cuffs, which is a podcast with a focus on bdsm and the lifestyle around it. These folks are funny – I like them. Their names are Dick-Wound, Minimus Maximus, and Lexual Romance. The conversation covers one of my favorite kinks – bum-drumming, kinky scenes as […]

Today, we’re listening back to one of our most popular – and adventurous – episodes from early 2019: Kissing. What do you like, and not like, about kissing? How good are you at training a new person in how to kiss you? More importantly, how do you feel about training this person that’s in front […]

Today, I’m having a spirited conversation with Georgie Wolf. You’ve heard her on the show before, because she’s 68 different kinds of awesome. When I say, “I’m having a conversation with Georgie”, what I actually mean, is, “Georgie is having a conversation with me”. She recorded this for her podcast, which is called the Art […]