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Dating Unsettled
by Joy Ofodu
Welcome to the Dating Unsettled Show where we dare to date differently hosted by Joy Ofodu, a Creative Executive who has reached millions of people with my original comedy content, voiceover and original stories.I am unsettled by my Nigerian culture's expectations of dating. I'm unsettled by American dating norms and traumas. I harnessed my inner romantic and childhood dreams of a healthy BLACK relationship to author a new set of dating rules, ones that work for me, rules that made Black love not only possible but PROBABLE. I was going to fall in love, and I knew I would find it online. I refused to settle.I swiped on over 2,000 profiles, matched with over 150 fine young gentlemen and went on about 20 first dates with some amazing guys.You already got 50 apps in your phone baby, what's one more? Dating Unsettled, where we dare to date differently.Make sure you're subscribed anywhere where you can listen to podcasts. Follow me @joyofodu and follow the show @datingunsettled. It wou
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But Their Family Tho!
Sure you like them -- but their Family tho?! Dating, Family and everything in between. Be sure to like & subscribe to my newsletter! You can visit my website "From Joy to the World" and join my mailing list at https://joyofodu.komi.io/ Follow the show and DM or email me your requests for bonus...
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Dating Immigrants to the United States
We're back every week! Thoughts on dating immigrants to the united states, cultural differences, how Ivan & I mesh in music, culture and more and we respond to an immigrant woe from an online lover. Immigrants? We get the job done. Be sure to like & subscribe to my newsletter! You can visit my...
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Egg Freezing Start to Finish - My Complete Cryopreservation at Spring Fertility ft. Dr Srini Reddy
You're here because you have questions about balancing and freezing, and your career or relationship, and we are here to answer them. We're going to spend the next hour breaking down what egg freezing is and talking about making unconventional dating and fertility decisions. I'm joined by special...
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I Froze My Eggs 2x… Wanna Hear About It Live Wednesday? RSVP
Come Meet My Doctor on Dating Unsettled - My Egg Freezing Story Spreading my legs for SCIENCE! Join me Weds Sep 10 at 4PST/7EST to interview my doctor, OR send this to an egg-carrier you love....
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What Are Girlfriend Duties vs. Wife Duties? Threads Explains
What Are Girlfriend Duties vs. Wife Duties? Threads apparently explains! Alright, picture this—you're vibing in a relationship, doing all the things, but then you stop and ask yourself: Wait… is this a girlfriend thing to do/give/be or a wife thing? We're unpacking that strange perpetually...
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My Boyfriend Thought I Abandoned Him During Evacuation ft. Dr. Chidi Ohaeri
Unsettler Request: My Boyfriend Thought I Abandoned Him During Evacuation ft. Dr. Chidi Ohaeri Psychoeducation on how we respond to our partners taking past hurt and gender roles into account. If you are dating, loving, losing anything duirng this natural disaster: I am with you and feeling for...
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I Redownloaded the Dating Apps: What Changed? Dating in 2025
New Year, So I Redownloaded the Dating Apps: What Changed? Dating in 2025: how to use these features to find love in the New Year! I redownloaded the dating apps—Tinder, Bumble, Hinge—you know, the usual suspects. In this episode, I dive into what's changed, what hasn't, and whether the swipe…
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Unsettled Summer: I'm Reading and Giving Relationship Advice
In this episode of Dating Unsettled, we're (yes, you and me) diving BACK LIKE WE NEVA LEFT into the chaos of summer relationships. I'll be reading your submissions and offering some no-nonsense advice—sprinkled with just the right amount of sarcasm. Whether you're navigating summer flings or...
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Unsettler Requests: Divorced and Dying in Florida
In this episode, I respond to an Unsettler's DM about abeing divorced and not finding the folks she's looking for in her area (South Florida). Tips for distance and going the distance! + I will be meeting and greeting in Florida at the Miami Beach Convention Center June 14 in the early afternoon!...
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Say It Out Loud and Brown Girl Problems ft. Vasavi Kumar
Joy interviews Vasavi Kumar (@mynameisvasavi) about her experiences as a Brown girl, divorcee, dater in her 40s and voice actor/author! The two really get into what it's like to grow up as immigrant kids in the U.S. with a media landscape that makes them feel Othered, with blonde white girls as…
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Dating as a Hot Funny Girl with a Dynamic Disability ft. Danielle Connolly
Joy interviews Danielle Connolly (@_Daniellevates) about her experiences as a hotgirllll who just takes a lil bit more time getting out of chairs on dates! The two talk infantilization, common misconceptions, whether or not she discloses her disability and MORE! Yes, more. Follow the show and DM…
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Love Is Blind Season 6: Thoughts and Patterns to Watch For
Fun this week: DU has been featured by Apple Podcasts on TikTok and in curation with a new series! https://www.instagram.com/p/C4RXAGjPDM5/ Ride through the latest Love Is Blind Season 6 drama with your favorite dating podcast host, Joy! In this episode, Joy spills the tea on all the jaw-dropping...
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An Unsettled V-Day and Lessons from "Players" on Netflix
Join Joy in this episode as she delves into her thoughts after the film "Players" on Netflix, exploring the complex themes it unravels about love, relationships, and the challenges that come with being an adult looking for grown folks love. First, Joy reflects on the societal pressure of feeling...
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Listen to the Segment: Dating Unsettled is on Good Morning America
Good Morning America recently recognized me as a Dating Expert and featured my advice from this beloved pod! Here's my full appearance on GMA and dating tips to help you build a real relationships from the apps this year Seeing myself Good Morning America was a surreal experience, one that I…
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Get to Know Me as a Dater with Skin Deep + GMA and Apple Podcasts Features!
Get to Know Me as a Dater with Skin Deep + GMA and Apple Podcasts Features! Thanks for listening to this podcast, and entering a space that proves dating can be a comedy goldmine, full of love and mistakes and healing and not just the he-said-she-said the Internet is making it out to be. Also -...
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Swiping With Atlanta Peach Destiny Jackson
Follow the show and DM or email me your requests for bonus episodes! [email protected] www.DatingUnsettled.com YouTube: JoyOfodu IG: @datingunsettled TikTok: datingunsettled Twitter: @datingunsettled Connect with Joy www.joyofodu.com IG: @joyofodu TikTok: joyofodu Twitter: @joyofodu
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Unsettler Requests: Is It His Condition or Is It Me? Dumped and Dubious
In this episode, I respond to an Unsettler's DM about a man who dumped her and blamed it on his medical condition..Should she believe what he shared, or is he using it as an excuse? I go off with loving affirmation and evaluation! Follow the show and DM or email me your requests for bonus…
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Unsettler Requests: Date Him or Drop Him? ft. Joy's Holiday Love Update
In this episode, I respond to an Unsettler's DM about the Ghost of Bumble's past -- a man who insists on being a recurring character. Should she date him or drop him? I also spill tea on where my own relationship with self/Ivan/podcast is this holiday season. Follow the show and DM or email me…
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Why Is He Single and "Not Looking?" ft. Alex Clewis
"I'm single but tbh I'm not looking for anything serious. I'm really working on myself right now." UGH! We've all heard it. But have we interrogated it? What can we do when we meet someone we really want to be there for who isn't really into dating? Meet local man Alex Clewis, and goalie for Napa...
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Cosmic, A New Dating App from Friend and Founder Mike Sayman
Is Michael's new app, Cosmic, gon' save the dating scene? We're about to find out... it'll at the very least save people who don't like to write bios about themselves..themselves. Listen and learn more -- or read about it in TechCrunch! Follow the show and DM me your requests for bonus episodes...
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EP. 27: Meet My Man - Our Online Love Story
A legendary moment. The reason for my season and to my rhyme. What every dating podcast needs: I get to introduce you to my maaaan, Ivan! We discuss his surprising first impressions of me, why he asked me to be his girlfriend and what it's been like since. RSVP for Dating Unsettled Experience: LA...
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Love is Blind and Unsettling S5 (Episodes 1-4)
Joy gives her thoughts on the Unsettling world of Netflix's hit series, "Love is Blind." Get ready for an engaging recap of all the jaw-dropping moments, unexpected twists, and Joy's personal icks that Season 5 Episodes 1-4 brought to the screen. Contains spoilers for the footage aired in…
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EP. 26: Visionboarding Black Love
This week, I talk about literally visionboarding the love I wanted for myself and how you can do the same! Here's a link to my actual visionboard (Click the VZN BRD highlight) RSVP for Dating Unsettled Experience: LA with The Skin Deep on October 10th We've all heard or said "They not checking…
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Announcing Dating Unsettled Experience: LA (Oct 10)
RSVP for Dating Unsettled Experience: LA on October 10th - https://www.eventbrite.com/e/dating-unsettled-experience-los-angeles-tickets-725615003007?aff=oddtdtcreator We've all heard or said "They not checking for people like me in LA." Let's challenge the scarcity we've developed around dating…
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Free and Free-Ish Date Ideas
Money is tight, a recession is near, but that doesn't mean you should stop dating! With that being said, I took it upon myself to come up with a fantastic list of free/affordable dates for those that are looking for love while on a budget! Hosted and Created by Joy Ofodu. Filmed by TownFuturist....
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Which Dating Apps Are Worth Paying For?
I break down the Dating Apps I used and which, in my opinion, are worth paying for. I talk features, subscriptions, memberships, swipes and everything I truly believe/invested hundreds of dollars in! Thinking about paying for an app? Listen in! Hosted and Created by Joy Ofodu. Filmed by...
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Apps That Aren't Dating Apps But Should Be
Get those download fingers ready for this side-splitting episode of Dating Unsettled 🤣 Join Joy as she starts exploring apps that should be dating apps, but aren't actually. Because she's sick like that. Get her help actually Hosted and Created by Joy Ofodu. Filmed by TownFuturist. Edited by…
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Unsettled by The Ultimatum Season 2 (Episodes 9-10)
It's finally over! Join host Joy and special guest keke-ing friend Brittany in this exciting episode as they dive deep into the thrilling world of Netflix's hit series, "The Ultimatum." Get ready for an engaging recap of all the jaw-dropping moments, unexpected twists, and character developments...
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Unsettled by The Ultimatum Season 2 (Episodes 1-8)
Join host Joy and special guest keke-ing friend Brittany in this exciting episode as they dive deep into the thrilling world of Netflix's hit series, "The Ultimatum." Get ready for an engaging recap of all the jaw-dropping moments, unexpected twists, and character developments that Season 2...
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Unsettled Reminders: Hope For Your Online Dating Life
Dating Unsettled emerges out of summer break with a thanks for New York Experience attendees and reminders for optimistic online dating! Listen for more inspiration. Follow the show and DM me your requests for bonus episodes! www.datingunsettled.com YouTube: JoyOfodu IG: @datingunsettled Fanbase:...
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Dating Unsettled Experience London: A Pleasure with Gigi Engle
Joy is live in London with special guest Gigi Engle for an 18+ episode about the body and reclaiming pleasure while dating! The podcast ventures where it hasn't before and won't stay, but is so happy to be right now. This episode was recorded live in front of an audience of real Unsettlers at The...
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Joy's Voice Note: Dating Unsettled Summer
Dating Unsettled takes a summer break and may be coming to your city! Listen for more and find out tf going on with Joy and the show. Follow the show and DM me your requests for bonus episodes! www.datingunsettled.com YouTube: JoyOfodu IG: @datingunsettled Fanbase: @joyofodu TikTok…
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EP. 22: Back to Dating School ft. Monique Coleman
Has it been a while since your eager behind graced the streets? Look no further than this episode with special guest and Disney High School Musical plus Disney High School Musical the Musical the Series star Monique Coleman! Monique offers her perspectives on vulnerability and following your…
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EP. 21: A Sensible Black Man Locked it Down ft. Camron Jones
Joy is coming to LONDON on June 17 to meet you and your mama or your ex or whoever you decide to show up with; Listen for a special announcement about the next Dating Unsettled Experience and DM me to make sure you get the invite! Join Joy and childhood friend/Amazon Prime "Panic" actor Camron...
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EP. 20: Dating in Los Angeles ft. @sirabiola
Joy is coming to LONDON on June 17 to meet you and your mama or your ex or whoever you decide to show up with; Listen for a special announcement about the next Dating Unsettled Experience. But this episode isn't just about London! Nooooo silly! It's about a London boy turned LA actor Benjamin...
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EP. 19: If You Can Make Her Laugh ft. Ike Slimster
Follow Ike @ikeslimster Follow the show and DM me your requests for bonus episodes! www.datingunsettled.com YouTube: JoyOfodu IG: @datingunsettled Fanbase: @joyofodu TikTok: datingunsettled Twitter: @datingunsettled Connect with Joy www.joyofodu.com IG: @joyofodu TikTok: joyofodu Twitter: @joyofodu
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EP. 18: I Wasn't Kidnapped ft. Nimay Ndolo
In this new visually stunning and wow they are finally on a set episode, Joy sits down with Nimay Ndolo, a bombastic Internet creator with a squeaky clean dating history. Nimay shares her experiences and insights about dating Nigerian and not, what New York has to offer, and why she her favorite...
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Unsettler Requests: What to Wear on Your First Date
Wondering what to wear on a first date? Now you can wonder... while you listen to Joy's very subjective opinion! Play this while you swipe or get ready. Follow the show and DM me your requests for bonus episodes! www.DatingUnsettled.com YouTube: JoyOfodu IG: @datingunsettled TikTok…
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Unsettler Requests: Shooting at Your Best Friend
Have you ever developed feelings for your best friend like your PERSON your bestie and wondered if you should take things to the next level? In this episode, we explore the delicate topic of asking your best friend on a date and how to navigate the *potential* transition from friendship to…
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Unsettler Requests: Building First Date Confidence
In this episode, Joy responds to an Unsettler's DM about tips for first date confidence. If you don't gas yourself up (and not the image of how you're supposed to perform for this imaginably perfect person opposite you) who will? Follow the show and DM me your requests for bonus episodes!...
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EP. 17: Men Are Pretenders ft. Lonnie IIV
On this episode, Joy and Lonnie talk about his experiences with the LA dating scene, his thoughts on daters in LA. Joy asks Lonnie if he's ever been guilty of pretending to be someone he's not, if he's open to being matchmade with an Unsettler (he is!!) and finally tips for guys who are looking…
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Unsettler Requests: What to Wear on a First Date
In this episode, Joy responds to an Unsettler's DM about tips for what to put on your body by way of clothing (what else would you be putting on your body????) before your first encounter in a publicly available and mutually agreed upon location with your desired romantic prospect. Or first date....
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EP. 16: Swipe Till Your Fingers Fall Off
SWIPE BABY SWIPE I NEED YOU TO STAY WITH ME! In this episode I discuss how finding love on dating apps is a game of probability, the most common online dating lies, the best time to swipe and how time-consuming and emotionally draining unless you're investing financially or training a few...
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EP. 15: Listen if You Hate Going With The Flow
Listen to this episode if you hate "going with the flow." or if the phrase "let's just see what happens" triggers you when dating. Also listen to the sound of Joy's distant chewing/mukbang, lunch was lunching. Follow the show and DM me your requests for bonus episodes! www.DatingUnsettled.com...
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EP. 14: Poly Dating Differently Amorously Dating Amorously Poly Dating Unsettledly ft. Renise Alexander
In this ridiculously titled episode, Joy kekes enthusiastically with Renise Alexander (that's that curly girl rae!) from The Black Roses and Married At First Sight "Unmatchables." They discuss the ups and downs of Renise having or seeking to date multiple partners simultaneously while being a...
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EP. 13: The Finest Black Men in History
In this episode about Black Men in History, we pay homage to the finest black men who have made a lasting impact on American society. From civil rights leaders, to entrepreneurs --- JK! Hahahah this would be an amazing episode though wouldn't it? Tune in to see what Joy really did, what she…
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EP. 12: Can I Be Me Though? ft. Andrew Licout
In this week's episode, Joy sits down with Instagram and TikTok creator and human being Andrew Licout (@andrewlicout) to discuss how to maintain a strong sense of self and hold onto your personal preferences in a romantic partnership. Andrew shares his insights and experiences on how to navigate...
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EP. 11: Single Straight Black Man Learning
Where do straight men go looking for love? What do they struggle with? Joy sits down with Shayne, the short form comedy-loving single straight Black and notable Hispanic man who's decided to take his dating game to the next level by studying Joy's comedy. From Repressed Coworker to Tré, Shayn's...
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EP. 10 Hardballing as a Dating Method
In this episode of the Dating Unsettled show, host Joy shares her personal experience with hardballing in dating and how it ultimately led to finding a partner. She explains the concept of hardballing, which involves setting strict boundaries and being unapologetically selective in the dating...
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EP. 9: Pakistani Dating ft. Zoya Awan
In this episode of the Dating Unsettled show, we speak with Zoya about the coveted culture around Pakistani-American dating. Zoya shares her personal experiences navigating the traditional expectations placed on women in Pakistan when it comes to relationships and courtship. She talks about how…
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ABOUT THIS SHOW
Welcome to the Dating Unsettled Show where we dare to date differently hosted by Joy Ofodu, a Creative Executive who has reached millions of people with my original comedy content, voiceover and original stories.I am unsettled by my Nigerian culture's expectations of dating. I'm unsettled by American dating norms and traumas. I harnessed my inner romantic and childhood dreams of a healthy BLACK relationship to author a new set of dating rules, ones that work for me, rules that made Black love not only possible but PROBABLE. I was going to fall in love, and I knew I would find it online. I refused to settle.I swiped on over 2,000 profiles, matched with over 150 fine young gentlemen and went on about 20 first dates with some amazing guys.You already got 50 apps in your phone baby, what's one more? Dating Unsettled, where we dare to date differently.Make sure you're subscribed anywhere where you can listen to podcasts. Follow me @joyofodu and follow the show @datingunsettled. It wou
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