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Days Like These
by J. Malik Asher
Some days look normal on the outside…but inside you’re questioning everything: Your choices. Your relationships. Your past. Your next move. Days Like These is a podcast for the moments we don’t post about. The days you’re laughing one minute and fighting for clarity the next. The quiet realizations. The uncomfortable truths. The dark humor that somehow keeps you sane. Real conversations about life while you’re living it, not after you’ve figured it all out. Because the days that change you rarely look perfect while you’re living them.
Episodes
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That One Night Could've Cost Me Everything
The conversation explores the power of behavior, the challenges of navigating temptation, the relationship between art and discipline, the importance of choosing with integrity, and the role of fear in decision-making. Key takeaways include the emphasis on behavior as the key to change and the...
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If You Were Unsure About Me, You Were Already Hurting Me
The conversation explores the harmful effects of uncertainty in relationships and its impact on individuals. It delves into the consequences of uncertainty and the emotional toll it takes on those involved. Takeaways Uncertainty in relationships can be harmful The impact of uncertainty on...
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You Stopped Confusing Being Needed With Being Valued
The conversation explores the difference between being needed and being valued, highlighting the impact of mistaking urgency for importance and the realization of clarity and peace in recognizing one's true worth. Takeaways Being needed vs being valued Recognizing the difference between being...
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Hey Cousin. I've Been Through This Already.
The conversation delves into the illusion of love, the experience of rock bottom, the myth of endurance, addiction to chaos, and the final insult, highlighting the takeaways that love is not about access and endurance is not self-betrayal. Takeaways Love is not about access Endurance is not...
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Love Doesn't Talk This Much
The podcast episode explores the true nature of love and how it is expressed through consistent actions rather than just words. It delves into the concept of self-abandonment and the importance of recognizing real love through one's body's reaction to someone's presence. Takeaways Love is shown...
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[EP1] The Slow Break-Up
The podcast explores the process of breakup, focusing on the departure of the mind, body, and soul from a relationship. It delves into the impact of physical, mental, and spiritual intimacy on the breakup process, highlighting the challenges of letting go. Takeaways Breakups are a slow…
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[EP1] Two Kisses From Heaven
The podcast episode 'Two Kisses From Heaven' explores the idea that meaningful moments don't always fix day-to-day struggles. It delves into the concept of stress, burnout, and the importance of choosing oneself. The episode emphasizes that kisses from heaven are not solutions, but reminders that...
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[EP1] You're Wasting Your Life Trying To Be Accepted
The episode explores the idea that life changes in quiet moments, the impact of labels, and the personal nature of success. It delves into relationship realizations, intentional choices, questioning love and obligation, living honestly, and the realization that not everything that doesn't work is…
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[EP5] Why Men Cheat… And Why Women Almost Never Get Caught
The conversation explores the myth of finding 'the one' and the reality of love, challenging the idea of a perfect soulmate and emphasizing the importance of choosing and building real love. It delves into the influence of fairy tales on our perception of love and highlights the misconceptions…
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[EP2] I Never Felt This Way Before
The podcast explores the concept of love and reframes it as dysregulation and addiction. It delves into the impact of boundaries, attachment, and withdrawal, as well as the truth about closure and the sensation of relief. The series challenges the romanticization of destructive patterns and...
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[EP1] I Never Felt This Way Before
The podcast explores the concept of love and addiction, highlighting the distinction between the two and the impact of dependency on relationships. It delves into the physiological and emotional aspects of addiction in relationships, emphasizing the process of recovery and self-awareness.…
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16 Voice Notes And Still No Accountability
The conversation explores the dynamics of projection, gaslighting, and the patterns of dysfunctional relationships. It emphasizes the importance of recognizing these patterns and finding clarity as a form of closure. The speaker encourages listeners to stop participating in toxic loops and...
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The Way Your Friends Treat Me Tells Me Everything
The conversation delves into the influence of friends on relationships, the recognition of disrespect, and the role of friends in revealing the true character of a partner. Takeaways Recognizing the behavior of friends can reveal a lot about a person's character. The way friends treat a partner...
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[EP4] Why Men Cheat… And Why Women Almost Never Get Caught
The episode explores the nature of desire and its impact on relationships, highlighting the conflict between the brain's craving for novelty and the heart's need for safety. It emphasizes the importance of understanding and channeling desire within relationships. Takeaways Desire is not the…
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Stop Calling Everyone Your Friend
The conversation delves into the essence of real friendship, highlighting the importance of recognizing true friendship, the test of real friendship, and the impact of real friendship. Takeaways include the idea that real friendship doesn't need a speech and that familiarity does not equal…
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Built To Give. Not Built To Take
The conversation delves into the challenges men face in receiving and dealing with reciprocity. It explores the pressure to give, the double standard of pressure, the struggle with receiving, the negotiation of taking, being unpracticed at equal pressure, and the concept of real strength in...
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You Feel Alone Because He Doesn't See You
The importance of being seen and understood in a relationship is emphasized, highlighting the difference between providing for someone and truly connecting with them. The impact of feeling unseen on a relationship is explored, and the inability of money to replace genuine connection is discussed....
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You Were Fine Cheating...Until You Got Cheated On
The conversation explores the emotional impact of cheating on men and women, highlighting the differences in their experiences and perceptions. It delves into the shift in meaning and significance when infidelity occurs, and the emotional toll it takes on both parties. Takeaways Emotional…
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[EP3] Why Men Cheat… And Why Women Almost Never Get Caught
The episode delves into the complexities of relationships, exploring the contrast between stability and emotional hunger, the conflict between desire and love, and the importance of identifying and addressing unfulfilled needs in a relationship. Takeaways Emotional hunger can exist in seemingly...
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[EP2] Why Men Cheat… And Why Women Almost Never Get Caught
The conversation delves into the subtle moments that lead to infidelity, highlighting the significance of small choices and dissatisfaction. It explores the progression from micro-cheating to the turn towards infidelity, emphasizing the importance of understanding human curiosity and the need for...
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Oh...So now He's Your Husband?
The conversation delves into the impact of quiet moments on life and the unspoken boundaries within marriage dynamics. It explores the goal of relationships, the patterns of behavior, and the concept of competing with benefits. It also addresses the importance of the front door of marriage and…
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So Now She's Your Wife?
The episode explores the behavior of men in relationships and the discrepancy between their public and private treatment of their partners. It delves into the concept of protecting the title of 'wife' rather than the person holding the title, and the impact of behavior on relationships. Takeaways...
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Too Sensitive? Or Finally Done Pretending?
The conversation explores the evolution of emotional expression, the impact of social media on emotional communication, the recognition and validation of emotions, resilience and emotional evolution, building a hybrid generation, emotional evolution and the future, and the importance of…
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I Stayed Until I Realized I Wasn’t Chosen
The conversation delves into the concept of 'almost chosen' relationships, highlighting the importance of choosing each other and not settling for less. It explores the discomfort of temporary relationships, the avoidance of commitment, the value of clarity, and the destructive nature of delay in...
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[EP1] Why Men Cheat… And Why Women Almost Never Get Caught
The conversation delves into the nature of cheating, exploring the differences in how men and women cheat, the psychology behind cheating, motivations for cheating, and the importance of self-commitment. It provides insights into the complexities of infidelity and the underlying reasons behind…
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You Don’t Cross My Mind. My Body Just Remembers You
The conversation explores the nature of healing, the choice in remembering, the act of forgiveness, and the meaning of healing. It emphasizes that healing is a continuous process and that the passing of a memory is not a wound coming back. Takeaways Healing is a continuous process Memory passing...
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My Phone Won’t Let Me Forget Who I Used to Love
The conversation explores the theme of healing and growth, emphasizing the importance of integrating past experiences rather than erasing them. It delves into the significance of memories as indicators of personal growth and closure, highlighting the transformative nature of healing. Takeaways...
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You Knew Better. You Stayed Anyway
The conversation explores the theme of relationships, highlighting the distinction between needing someone and deserving access to someone. It delves into the complexities of human connections, the importance of self-respect, and the impact of misplaced hope. Takeaways Needing someone is not the...
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I Let You Finish Lying
The episode explores the art of identifying liars and dealing with deception. It provides insights into recognizing signs of dishonesty and navigating through confrontations with liars. Takeaways Silence is a powerful tool in uncovering lies. Repetition of lies reveals the true nature of a…
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Peace Is Cheaper Than Pretending
The conversation delves into the importance of recognizing patterns in relationships and the cost of lowering standards. It also emphasizes the value of embracing peaceful singleness and provides a clean truth about love. Takeaways Recognizing patterns in relationships The importance of setting…
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By The Time You Notice
The conversation delves into the misconception of 'building' a man, the difference between growth and aging, the illusion of change, and the futility of forcing change. Takeaways include the insight that men change when something hurts enough and the understanding that readiness cannot be forced....
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A Yes Without Capacity Is A Lie
The conversation emphasizes the importance of saying 'no' when necessary and knowing one's limits. It also delves into the impact of unmet expectations and the value of setting boundaries. Takeaways Respectful 'no' over a careless 'yes' Knowing your limits is maturity Chapters 00:00 The Value of...
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Built Different. Still Dumb
A powerful reflection on the experience of being in toxic relationships and the realization of self-deception. The speaker shares personal insights and lessons learned from past experiences, emphasizing the importance of recognizing patterns and choosing self-worth over familiarity. Takeaways…
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Don't Become What Disappointment Wants
The conversation delves into the experience of disappointment, faith, and the aftermath of disappointment. It explores the impact of disappointment on one's perspective and the power of clarity over armor. Takeaways Disappointment is information, not instruction Clarity feels boring compared to...
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Some Connections Only Work From Far Away
The conversation explores the evolution of connections, the shift in dynamics, the distinction between attraction and fit, and the process of making a decision to change the distance in a relationship. It delves into the complexities of human connections and the importance of understanding where...
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Avoidance Is Not A Boundary
The conversation delves into the distinction between boundaries and avoidance, highlighting the impact of each on relationships and personal growth. It emphasizes the importance of accountability, clarity, and integrity in setting boundaries and addressing conflict. Takeaways Boundaries require...
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Toxic, Tender & Torn
The conversation delves into the paradox of vulnerability, the truth about intimacy, the duality of masculinity, and the fear of punishment for feeling. It explores society's conflicting expectations of men and the desire for a hybrid masculinity that embraces both strength and softness.…
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The Answer Was Right There
The conversation delves into the importance of focus and clarity in our daily lives. It explores how distractions and stress can lead to a loss of focus, and how finding clarity requires slowing down and looking within. Takeaways Focus is key Clarity is in the center Chapters 00:00 Finding Clarity
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If It Were Easy, It Wouldn't Be Yours
The conversation delves into the challenges and perseverance of pursuing one's purpose, emphasizing the importance of commitment and honesty. It explores the internal struggles, sacrifices, and resilience required to stay aligned with one's true path. Takeaways Commitment over motivation Comfort...
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You Don’t Want God…You Want Approval
A reflection on the personal and authentic nature of prayer and faith, emphasizing the individual's unique relationship with God. Takeaways Authenticity in prayer Personal relationship with God Chapters 00:00 The Personal Relationship with God
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I Cried Over Someone Who Wasn’t Even Trying
The conversation delves into the emotional journey of love, loss, and self-discovery. It explores the themes of miscommunication in relationships and the importance of recognizing red flags. Each chapter provides a deep exploration of the emotional fallout, the impact of miscommunication, the...
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You’re Not Confused. You’re Just Not Ready to Change
The conversation explores the themes of faith and truth in challenging times, as well as the concept of self-sabotage and temptation in social situations. It delves into the complexities of loyalty, decision-making, and the impact of external influences on personal choices. Takeaways Faith and...
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Stop Trying to Fix People Who Like Being Broken
The conversation delves into the complexities of relationships, highlighting the importance of recognizing patterns in behavior and understanding the difference between empathy and taking on the role of fixing others. It explores the illusion of nobility in relationships and the necessity of...
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Everybody’s Business Except Yours
The conversation delves into the metaphor of traffic to illustrate how distractions and curiosity can slow down progress in life. It emphasizes the importance of staying focused and minding one's own lane to maintain momentum and avoid unnecessary delays. Takeaways Distractions slow down progress...
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Let's Be Friends, Is A Soft No With Hard Benefits
The conversation delves into the deceptive nature of the phrase 'let's be friends' after dating, exposing it as a form of rebranding and emotional downsizing. It highlights the lack of accountability and the desire for access without consequence, shedding light on the speaker's refusal to accept...
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The Most Dangerous Excuse Is the Reasonable One
The conversation delves into the nature of excuses, distinguishing between reasons and excuses, the polished nature of excuses, the cost of choices, and the impact of excuses on success and progress. It emphasizes the psychological aspect of excuses and the need for awareness to break free from...
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The Voice Note I Almost Didn’t Send
The conversation delves into the art of voice notes, exploring the challenges and nuances of authentic communication. It emphasizes the importance of intimacy and effort in conveying genuine care through voice messages. Takeaways Authentic communication is about intimacy, not perfection. The…
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I Love God But This Shit Is Hard
The conversation delves into the themes of prayer, faith, growth, humility, and gratitude. It explores the idea of prayer as a form of training and faith as active participation. The journey of becoming, the humbling nature of life's challenges, and the transformative power of gratitude are also...
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The Stories Your Mind Tells at Night
The conversation delves into the experience of nighttime fear and the power of imagination, contrasting it with reality. It explores the impact of the mind's creativity and the struggle to differentiate between imagination and reality, especially during the night. Takeaways Nighttime fear is…
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The Becoming - J. Malik Asher
This isn’t a rebrand. It’s a reckoning. In this short, intimate piece, Jonathan Miller Jr tells the truth about names, legacy, and the quiet moment when inheritance meets identity. What does it mean to honor where you come from without disappearing inside it? What does it take to stop echoing...
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ABOUT THIS SHOW
Some days look normal on the outside…but inside you’re questioning everything:
Your choices. Your relationships. Your past. Your next move.
Days Like These is a podcast for the moments we don’t post about. The days you’re laughing one minute and fighting for clarity the next.
The quiet realizations. The uncomfortable truths. The dark humor that somehow keeps you sane.
Real conversations about life while you’re living it, not after you’ve figured it all out. Because the days that change you rarely look perfect while you’re living them.
HOSTED BY
J. Malik Asher
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Some days look normal on the outside…but inside you’re questioning everything: Your choices. Your relationships. Your past. Your next move. Days Like These is a podcast for the moments we don’t post about. The days you’re laughing one minute and fighting for clarity the next. The quiet...
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Days Like These is created and hosted by J. Malik Asher.
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