Defiance of Silence - A Sacred Witness

Healing gets strange when the chaos finally stops and you start missing it.That’s where Valerie and Suzette go in this conversation, tracing recovery beyond “not drinking” and into the deeper work of emotional sobriety, shame, and the patterns that keep us braced for impact even when life is calm.Suzette is a U.S. Army Veteran, transformational leader, and Director of Development at Save A Warrior, where she helps expand access to healing for Veterans, Active Duty Military, Ohio First Responders, and their families. With more than twenty years of sobriety and decades spent mentoring women through recovery and personal transformation, she brings both lived experience and hard-earned wisdom to this conversation.We talk about the breaking point that burns everything down, then the surprisingly powerful basics that rebuild a life: structure, one day at a time, and staying close to people who tell the truth with care.From there, we explore Internal Family Systems (IFS) in plain language, the manager and firefighter parts, and how coping can shift from substances to control, workaholism, gossip, or rumination. Suzette and Valerie unpack the “inside drugstore”—the adrenaline, dopamine, and stress chemistry that can make drama feel normal—and why peace can feel uncomfortable when your nervous system is used to intensity.If you love someone struggling with addiction, are navigating recovery yourself, or simply find yourself repeating the same patterns despite your best intentions, this conversation offers insight into what may be happening beneath the surface. Together, they explore boundaries, shame, witnessing, and the freedom that comes from letting go of what cannot be controlled.They close with a grounding release practice and a simple reminder: when people are suffering, what they often need most is not fixing, advice, or solutions.They need love.Contact Valerie Support the showRemember YOU are loved and worthy of being witnessed!If today’s episode stirred heavy feelings, you are not alone. Please reach out to a trusted friend or a professional if you need support:National Sexual Assault Hotline: 1-800-656-HOPE (4673) | rainn.orgSAMHSA Mental Health/Substance Use: 1-800-662-HELP (4357)988 LIFELINE: Call, Text or Chat https://988lifeline.orgVeterans Crisis Line: Dial or text 988, then press 1Help for Veterans suffering with CPTSD https://saveawarrior.org/https://www.scarsfoundation.org/*This podcast is not therapy. If you’re in immediate danger, please call 911 or your local emergency number.Want to tell your story? Send a DM or an emailFind us on IG @defiance_of_silence_podcast    [email protected]: https://www.instagram.com/defiance_of_silence_podcast?igsh=MWVxMHI3OXY1cm1paA%3D%3D&utm_source=qr

The hardest part of trauma is not always what happened. Sometimes it's what it taught you to believe about yourself.In this episode, Valerie sits down with Breanna —a Navy veteran, suicide prevention specialist, and moral injury specialist with Volunteers of America—for a conversation about the wounds too many veterans carry in silence and the paths that can lead them home to themselves.We explore Military Sexual Trauma (MST) as a betrayal-based trauma and the layers that often accompany it: distrust, isolation, hypervigilance, shame, and a reshaped sense of identity. Breanna breaks down moral injury in a way that is both accessible and profound, offering a distinction that lands deeply: PTSD often says, "I'm not safe." Moral injury often says, "I'm not worthy."Together, we discuss the difference between treating symptoms and tending to the deeper wounds of meaning, values, and belonging. Breanna shares her own experience with suicidal ideation, the courage it took to call 988, and what she now looks for when someone begins to reconnect with themselves: choice, agency, hope, and a nervous system that finally exhales.We also talk about boundaries, self-care for helpers, movement, community, and why presence—not fixing—is often the most powerful medicine we can offer another human being.This is a conversation about healing, but also about witnessing. About telling the truth. About what becomes possible when we no longer carry our stories alone.If this episode resonates with you, consider sharing it with someone who may need it. And if you're enjoying these conversations, subscribing and leaving a review helps these stories reach the people who need them most.Contact Valerie Support the showRemember YOU are loved and worthy of being witnessed!If today’s episode stirred heavy feelings, you are not alone. Please reach out to a trusted friend or a professional if you need support:National Sexual Assault Hotline: 1-800-656-HOPE (4673) | rainn.orgSAMHSA Mental Health/Substance Use: 1-800-662-HELP (4357)988 LIFELINE: Call, Text or Chat https://988lifeline.orgVeterans Crisis Line: Dial or text 988, then press 1Help for Veterans suffering with CPTSD https://saveawarrior.org/https://www.scarsfoundation.org/*This podcast is not therapy. If you’re in immediate danger, please call 911 or your local emergency number.Want to tell your story? Send a DM or an emailFind us on IG @defiance_of_silence_podcast    [email protected]: https://www.instagram.com/defiance_of_silence_podcast?igsh=MWVxMHI3OXY1cm1paA%3D%3D&utm_source=qr

In this solo reflection, Valerie looks back on the conversations that shaped Season 2 and the themes that kept surfacing beneath the stories: grief, survival, caregiving, moral injury, nervous system healing, and the quiet weight so many people carry while appearing strong on the outside.Together, we explore the losses we were taught to outrun—safety, identity, relationships, expectations, and the versions of ourselves we created just to survive. We examine the helper patterns our culture rewards and what happens when the body finally sends an invoice through insomnia, panic, chronic pain, exhaustion, numbness, or disconnection.Drawing from conversations from this season's guests, Valerie reflects on the power of being believed, why healing rarely happens in isolation, and what it means to stop abandoning ourselves long enough to tell the truth.This episode is also a bridge into Season 3, where the focus widens beyond trauma itself and into the humanity beneath the roles we play—the field of human stories all around us. Special thank you our special guest from this season - it means so much that you would share your hearts with us and help us grow in love and community.If this space has meant something to you, thank you for being part of it. Thank you for witnessing these stories, and for helping defy the silence that keeps people isolated and alone. See you in Season 3 - The Field of Human StoriesContact Valerie Support the showRemember YOU are loved and worthy of being witnessed!If today’s episode stirred heavy feelings, you are not alone. Please reach out to a trusted friend or a professional if you need support:National Sexual Assault Hotline: 1-800-656-HOPE (4673) | rainn.orgSAMHSA Mental Health/Substance Use: 1-800-662-HELP (4357)988 LIFELINE: Call, Text or Chat https://988lifeline.orgVeterans Crisis Line: Dial or text 988, then press 1Help for Veterans suffering with CPTSD https://saveawarrior.org/https://www.scarsfoundation.org/*This podcast is not therapy. If you’re in immediate danger, please call 911 or your local emergency number.Want to tell your story? Send a DM or an emailFind us on IG @defiance_of_silence_podcast    [email protected]: https://www.instagram.com/defiance_of_silence_podcast?igsh=MWVxMHI3OXY1cm1paA%3D%3D&utm_source=qr

People trained to save everyone else rarely get asked a simple question:Where do you put your own pain?In this season finale, Valerie sits down with Kim —known to many as Captain Kim—a U.S. Army Veteran, former combat medic and emergency room nurse, and founder of the Reveille & Retreat Project.Kim’s path to leadership wasn’t linear. It was shaped by childhood adversity, military service, years on the front lines of trauma care, and raising a child as a single mother. Like so many who live in constant readiness, she learned how to function, perform, and push through—until her body no longer allowed it.When foot surgery forced her to slow down, everything she had outrun caught up.Memories from the ER. Nightmares. Survival patterns that no longer worked.In this conversation, we talk honestly about what happens when a life built on resilience meets the reality of unresolved trauma. From childhood experiences like divorce and lack of emotional attunement, to the way blame turns inward when we’re trying to make sense of it all—Kim shares what it looked like to move from living in fight-or-flight to something steadier and more sustainable.You’ll hear real, practical tools for nervous system regulation—and what it actually takes to move beyond white-knuckling your way through life.We also go deeper into Kim’s work today. Through the Reveille & Retreat Project, she creates healing retreats where military women can step out of performance and into truth—using nature, movement, and shared storytelling as pathways back to connection.She shares what makes a space truly safe, why the outdoors can support trauma healing, and how community only works when it includes boundaries and the right people.Kim is also the co-founder and host of the Dog Tag Diaries, where women veterans have honest conversations about service, identity, moral injury, grief, and life beyond the uniform.Because the stories we once survived… often become the ones that help others heal.Listen to Dog Tag Diaries here - https://dogtagdiaries.captivate.fm/Contact Valerie Support the showRemember YOU are loved and worthy of being witnessed!If today’s episode stirred heavy feelings, you are not alone. Please reach out to a trusted friend or a professional if you need support:National Sexual Assault Hotline: 1-800-656-HOPE (4673) | rainn.orgSAMHSA Mental Health/Substance Use: 1-800-662-HELP (4357)988 LIFELINE: Call, Text or Chat https://988lifeline.orgVeterans Crisis Line: Dial or text 988, then press 1Help for Veterans suffering with CPTSD https://saveawarrior.org/https://www.scarsfoundation.org/*This podcast is not therapy. If you’re in immediate danger, please call 911 or your local emergency number.Want to tell your story? Send a DM or an emailFind us on IG @defiance_of_silence_podcast    [email protected]: https://www.instagram.com/defiance_of_silence_podcast?igsh=MWVxMHI3OXY1cm1paA%3D%3D&utm_source=qr

Four months for an appointment can feel like a door slamming the moment you finally admit you need help.In this episode, we sit down with Lisa—a licensed clinical social worker, Army veteran, and trauma survivor—to talk about what breaks in the mental health system, and what it could look like if care actually met people where they are.If you’ve ever been told you don’t have the right insurance, you’re not in enough crisis, or you just need to fill out one more form… this conversation is for you.Lisa shares the vision behind the Wellness Collaborative, a nonprofit growing out of Peaceful Waters Retreat Center in LaGrange, Texas. Her approach is different: trauma-informed care in a park-like setting that supports the whole person—counseling alongside nervous system regulation, movement, yoga, nutrition, and other holistic modalities.We talk about why place matters in healing, how diagnosis-driven systems can miss the human in front of them, and what it could look like to expand access in rural communities through visiting providers, interns, and volunteers.And we go there, personally.Assault. Iraq. Grief.And the way anger can become the only emotion that feels survivable.Lisa shares what helps over time, what real self-care looks like for those who are always the helper, and tools like Alpha-Stim and VA virtual reality therapy that some people have found helpful for anxiety and sleep.If you’re trying to get help, have been turned away, or are supporting someone who is—this conversation offers perspective, possibility, and a reminder that the system may be broken, but healing is still available.Contact Valerie Support the showRemember YOU are loved and worthy of being witnessed!If today’s episode stirred heavy feelings, you are not alone. Please reach out to a trusted friend or a professional if you need support:National Sexual Assault Hotline: 1-800-656-HOPE (4673) | rainn.orgSAMHSA Mental Health/Substance Use: 1-800-662-HELP (4357)988 LIFELINE: Call, Text or Chat https://988lifeline.orgVeterans Crisis Line: Dial or text 988, then press 1Help for Veterans suffering with CPTSD https://saveawarrior.org/https://www.scarsfoundation.org/*This podcast is not therapy. If you’re in immediate danger, please call 911 or your local emergency number.Want to tell your story? Send a DM or an emailFind us on IG @defiance_of_silence_podcast    [email protected]: https://www.instagram.com/defiance_of_silence_podcast?igsh=MWVxMHI3OXY1cm1paA%3D%3D&utm_source=qr

The phone rings at 6:30am.You don’t recognize the number.Minutes later, everything changes.In this episode Traci takes us inside the day her 19-year-old son Trent suffered sudden cardiac arrest during a Navy fitness assessment—and the decade that followed. What began as shock became a long, unrelenting journey through ICU decisions, anoxic brain injury rehabilitation, and the invisible labor of caregiving that few people truly understand.This is not a story about a moment. It’s about the long after.We talk about what caregiver burnout actually looks like when it’s not reduced to a buzzword: Sleeping in 15-minute fragments, forgetting to eat, living in a constant state of fight-or-flight, and carrying the quiet fear of what happens if you let yourself rest.Traci shares the weight of being asked to sign a DNR, the confusion of navigating medical systems that often misunderstand anoxic brain injury, and the hard-earned skill of becoming an advocate—inside both civilian hospitals and the VA.We also name what often goes unseen:The ripple effect of trauma on others, including the classmates who witnessed Trent’s collapse, CPR, and defibrillation—and were left without closure.And still, hope finds its way in.Through adaptive sports, brain injury clubhouse community, equine connection at Henry’s Home, and the slow, honest rebuilding of identity when “caregiver” becomes your whole world—until it can’t be the only thing anymore.If you’re caring for someone you love—whether you’re just beginning, deep in it, or somewhere you can finally look back—this conversation offers language, validation, and options.One clear truth remains:   You don’t have to do this alone. Ask for help. Let people show up.Contact Valerie Support the showRemember YOU are loved and worthy of being witnessed!If today’s episode stirred heavy feelings, you are not alone. Please reach out to a trusted friend or a professional if you need support:National Sexual Assault Hotline: 1-800-656-HOPE (4673) | rainn.orgSAMHSA Mental Health/Substance Use: 1-800-662-HELP (4357)988 LIFELINE: Call, Text or Chat https://988lifeline.orgVeterans Crisis Line: Dial or text 988, then press 1Help for Veterans suffering with CPTSD https://saveawarrior.org/https://www.scarsfoundation.org/*This podcast is not therapy. If you’re in immediate danger, please call 911 or your local emergency number.Want to tell your story? Send a DM or an emailFind us on IG @defiance_of_silence_podcast    [email protected]: https://www.instagram.com/defiance_of_silence_podcast?igsh=MWVxMHI3OXY1cm1paA%3D%3D&utm_source=qr

What if healing doesn’t come the way you expected—but reaches you anyway?In this episode, Valerie sits down with Melissa —a Navy veteran, mother of three, and a fierce advocate with a servant’s heart—for a conversation that is as honest as it is human. Melissa brings humor, warmth, and just the right amount of spice as she shares her journey through trauma, healing, and learning to trust her body again.What starts with curiosity about a sound bath becomes something much deeper. Melissa opens up about what shifted when she stopped trying to heal the “right” way and allowed herself to experience something that actually reached her nervous system.She shares the moment she realized childhood trauma was shaping her marriage—feeling the pull to push her husband away while also fearing abandonment. From there, we explore the realities of therapy, barriers to care, and why modalities like EMDR can feel safer when words are hard to access.The conversation expands into sound therapy, somatic release, and what it’s like to revisit memories while still feeling grounded and safe in your body. If you’ve experienced hypervigilance, night terrors, or chronic insomnia, Melissa’s experience with improved sleep may resonate deeply.We also connect the dots between inner child work, mindfulness, parts work, and the daily practice of interrupting old narratives—especially the ones that say “something bad is about to happen.” Melissa shares how prayer supports her healing, how she serves fellow veterans by connecting them to VA mental health resources, and why holistic approaches like Reiki deserve a seat at the table alongside traditional care.There’s laughter in this conversation, too—because healing isn’t only heavy. Sometimes it’s surprising, sometimes it’s uncomfortable, and sometimes it’s exactly what you didn’t expect.If you’re searching for trauma recovery tools that meet you where you are, this conversation offers possibilities without pressure.Take what serves you. Leave what doesn’t. You don’t have to carry this alone.Contact Valerie Support the showRemember YOU are loved and worthy of being witnessed!If today’s episode stirred heavy feelings, you are not alone. Please reach out to a trusted friend or a professional if you need support:National Sexual Assault Hotline: 1-800-656-HOPE (4673) | rainn.orgSAMHSA Mental Health/Substance Use: 1-800-662-HELP (4357)988 LIFELINE: Call, Text or Chat https://988lifeline.orgVeterans Crisis Line: Dial or text 988, then press 1Help for Veterans suffering with CPTSD https://saveawarrior.org/https://www.scarsfoundation.org/*This podcast is not therapy. If you’re in immediate danger, please call 911 or your local emergency number.Want to tell your story? Send a DM or an emailFind us on IG @defiance_of_silence_podcast    [email protected]: https://www.instagram.com/defiance_of_silence_podcast?igsh=MWVxMHI3OXY1cm1paA%3D%3D&utm_source=qr

Defiance of Silence is a place for real stories of trauma and healing - where lived experience matters more than advice. What holds a team steady when the stakes rise and the room goes quiet?In this episode, Valerie sits down with Dr. Jason Piefer—orthopedic trauma surgeon, OR leader, and host of Slice of Piefer—for a grounded and honest conversation about what it takes to stay human in high-pressure environments.Jason spends his days putting people back together after life has quite literally broken them apart. But beyond the technical skill required in trauma surgery, he shares something deeper: how presence, breath, and steady leadership shape outcomes just as much as surgical precision.Together, they explore what happens after the case—how to carry what you witness without bringing the full weight home, and how small, intentional practices like writing, prayer, and reaching out to a trusted person can help prevent compassion from turning into numbness.This conversation moves beyond medicine into something more universal: how we lead, how we regulate, and how we care without losing ourselves.You’ll hear practical insights for navigating high-stakes moments: How to steady yourself when everything feels urgent  Why lowering your voice can calm an entire room  How to step back and reorient when you feel overwhelmed  Ways to process what you carry without isolating Valerie and Jason also speak to the quiet impact of silence—how it isolates both survivors and caregivers—and how being witnessed creates movement where people often feel stuck.There’s humor here too, because levity is part of the medicine. And there’s a reminder woven throughout: recovery—whether physical or emotional—doesn’t follow shortcuts. Scars may remain, but they don’t define us.If you’ve ever carried what you’ve witnessed, questioned yourself under pressure, or wondered how to lead without hardening, this conversation offers something steady to hold onto.Take what serves you. Leave what doesn’t. You don’t have to carry this alone.Watch Dr. Piefer on his podcast Slice of Piefer!  Click Here - https://youtu.be/xNofebTduYM?si=uCR3bDF-OwGGaAcqContact Valerie Support the showRemember YOU are loved and worthy of being witnessed!If today’s episode stirred heavy feelings, you are not alone. Please reach out to a trusted friend or a professional if you need support:National Sexual Assault Hotline: 1-800-656-HOPE (4673) | rainn.orgSAMHSA Mental Health/Substance Use: 1-800-662-HELP (4357)988 LIFELINE: Call, Text or Chat https://988lifeline.orgVeterans Crisis Line: Dial or text 988, then press 1Help for Veterans suffering with CPTSD https://saveawarrior.org/https://www.scarsfoundation.org/*This podcast is not therapy. If you’re in immediate danger, please call 911 or your local emergency number.Want to tell your story? Send a DM or an emailFind us on IG @defiance_of_silence_podcast    [email protected]: https://www.instagram.com/defiance_of_silence_podcast?igsh=MWVxMHI3OXY1cm1paA%3D%3D&utm_source=qr

Defiance of Silence is a place for real stories of trauma and healing—where lived experience matters more than advice.Start with a breath. Then meet Ayana—a Navy veteran, therapist, author, caregiver, and peer support leader whose story moves from Brooklyn to the nuclear pipeline, through MST and grief, and into a life devoted to witnessing others with care.In this conversation, we explore the difference between breaking silence that isolates and honoring silence that protects. This isn’t trauma porn and there’s no pressure to share more than your nervous system can hold—just real language, lived experience, and practical tools for safety and healing.Ayana shares how one sentence from a therapist changed the course of her recovery, why anger often masks fear, and why regulation must come before processing trauma. We also unpack what peer support actually means—trained, ethical support grounded in lived experience—and why it can be a lifeline for veterans and families navigating complex systems of care.We talk about choosing therapy wisely—asking about modalities, tracking what actually helps, and remembering you can request a provider who fits your identity and needs. EMDR, Brainspotting, IFS, ART—these aren’t badges of honor. They’re pathways. Readiness is the gate.Along the way we explore the drama triangle, the cost of rescuing others, and the courage it takes to prune relationships that no longer support growth. Ayana introduces the idea of “transilience”—not just surviving what life hands you, but transforming it.If you’re breathing, you qualify for care.For workshops, speaking engagements   https://www.linkedin.com/in/ayanabrown/I currently see clients at Hope Village Wellness Center.  https://www.hopevillagewellnesscenter.com/Check out Ayana's book here: Buy Myka and the Mystery of the Treasure TrustA special thanks: This episode is gifted to you by a sacred witness & friend, Tara Pitcock - Thank you for the support, Tara!!!Contact Valerie Support the showRemember YOU are loved and worthy of being witnessed!If today’s episode stirred heavy feelings, you are not alone. Please reach out to a trusted friend or a professional if you need support:National Sexual Assault Hotline: 1-800-656-HOPE (4673) | rainn.orgSAMHSA Mental Health/Substance Use: 1-800-662-HELP (4357)988 LIFELINE: Call, Text or Chat https://988lifeline.orgVeterans Crisis Line: Dial or text 988, then press 1Help for Veterans suffering with CPTSD https://saveawarrior.org/https://www.scarsfoundation.org/*This podcast is not therapy. If you’re in immediate danger, please call 911 or your local emergency number.Want to tell your story? Send a DM or an emailFind us on IG @defiance_of_silence_podcast    [email protected]: https://www.instagram.com/defiance_of_silence_podcast?igsh=MWVxMHI3OXY1cm1paA%3D%3D&utm_source=qr

What happens when the story you’ve carried for years—I should have known, I should have stopped it—meets the truth your body has been holding all along?In this episode, Valerie sits with Lauren—a mother, veteran, and grassroots community advocate committed to building authentic connection and resilient communities. Lauren served two tours in Iraq as a logistician, later worked as an IT project manager, led change as a nonprofit executive, and has successfully administered multiple programs and businesses. Beneath all of those roles is another identity she rarely spoke about for years: survivor. That lived experience became a catalyst for earned wisdom and deep transformation, shaping her commitment to paying forward the grace and compassion she herself received.Together, Valerie and Lauren walk through betrayal, survival, grief, and the long middle space where healing isn’t dramatic or linear—but real. This is a grounded conversation about naming rape, navigating high-performance environments after trauma, and what silence can quietly cost our faith, relationships, and sense of self.Lauren shares the moment everything shifted—a call for help from a parking lot—and the unexpected turning point of working with a male therapist through cognitive processing therapy. She speaks candidly about releasing stored grief, rebuilding safety with men, and how co-regulation, breath, and simple presence can bring a spiraling nervous system back to steady ground. Along the way, humor, ceremony, and community become anchors, reminding us that healing rarely happens alone.Listeners will also find practical wisdom for rebuilding after trauma or moral injury: choosing one safe person, moving at your own pace, setting boundaries with the reminder not at the expense of me, and marking heavy moments complete through intentional ritual. Valerie and Lauren gently explore the complicated realities of reporting, career impact, and how agency can grow as language—and self-understanding—changes.At its core, this episode is not about what was done to someone. It’s about what becomes possible when someone is finally witnessed.Take what steadies you. Leave what doesn’t. You don’t have to carry this alone.Contact Valerie Support the showRemember YOU are loved and worthy of being witnessed!If today’s episode stirred heavy feelings, you are not alone. Please reach out to a trusted friend or a professional if you need support:National Sexual Assault Hotline: 1-800-656-HOPE (4673) | rainn.orgSAMHSA Mental Health/Substance Use: 1-800-662-HELP (4357)988 LIFELINE: Call, Text or Chat https://988lifeline.orgVeterans Crisis Line: Dial or text 988, then press 1Help for Veterans suffering with CPTSD https://saveawarrior.org/https://www.scarsfoundation.org/*This podcast is not therapy. If you’re in immediate danger, please call 911 or your local emergency number.Want to tell your story? Send a DM or an emailFind us on IG @defiance_of_silence_podcast    [email protected]: https://www.instagram.com/defiance_of_silence_podcast?igsh=MWVxMHI3OXY1cm1paA%3D%3D&utm_source=qr

Ready for a gentler way to face hard memories without getting stuck retelling the same story?In this episode of Defiance of Silence, we sit down with Victoria Garcia, a warm, down-to-earth therapist with over ten years in the mental health field, trained in EMDR and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. Passionate about helping people untangle the past and build lives that truly work for them, Victoria blends science, heart, and humor to make healing feel human, accessible, and grounded.Together, we demystify EMDR and explore what “being ready” really means. Victoria explains in plain language how bilateral stimulation works, why pacing matters, and how therapists identify targets by pairing memories with core beliefs like I’m not safe, It was my fault, or I should have done more. This isn’t about reliving trauma—it’s about helping the nervous system reorganize so the past no longer runs the present.We talk about the preparation that makes EMDR effective: naming body sensations, using slow body scans, and even working with colors as anchors for those who struggle to label emotions. For people who dissociate, overthink, or feel disconnected from their bodies, these practices become bridges back to safety and presence.Victoria shares real-life examples of healing in motion, like panic softening into neutrality and triggers losing their grip. The story doesn’t disappear, but its hold loosens.We also cover when EMDR isn’t the right move, why safety skills come first, and how virtual EMDR can be surprisingly effective using apps that tailor pace and visual cues.For first responders, nurses, caregivers, and helpers, EMDR applies deeply—often touching beliefs like I should have done more. Victoria shows how those quiet burdens can finally be witnessed and released.We close with a gentle guided body scan you can return to anytime.Your story deserves a witness. Your body deserves peace.Learn more about Victoria’s work at 🌿 www.victorioustherapy.comContact Valerie Support the showRemember YOU are loved and worthy of being witnessed!If today’s episode stirred heavy feelings, you are not alone. Please reach out to a trusted friend or a professional if you need support:National Sexual Assault Hotline: 1-800-656-HOPE (4673) | rainn.orgSAMHSA Mental Health/Substance Use: 1-800-662-HELP (4357)988 LIFELINE: Call, Text or Chat https://988lifeline.orgVeterans Crisis Line: Dial or text 988, then press 1Help for Veterans suffering with CPTSD https://saveawarrior.org/https://www.scarsfoundation.org/*This podcast is not therapy. If you’re in immediate danger, please call 911 or your local emergency number.Want to tell your story? Send a DM or an emailFind us on IG @defiance_of_silence_podcast    [email protected]: https://www.instagram.com/defiance_of_silence_podcast?igsh=MWVxMHI3OXY1cm1paA%3D%3D&utm_source=qr

Silence can protect us for a while—but eventually, it costs everything. In this powerful episode, Valerie sits down with Nicole, a decorated veteran, detective, and survivor whose 26-year career in law enforcement and the military was defined by service, strength, and relentless achievement. Rising to the role of Special Agent in Charge and Sergeant in the MA Army National Guard, Nicole Ferry also graduated from the FBI National Academy and holds advanced degrees in Criminal Justice and Public Administration. Her journey, however, was marked by unspoken trauma: military sexual trauma at age 19, the moral injury of losing a colleague to suicide, and the toll of chronic hypervigilance and pain. Nicole shares the messy reality of recovery—navigating the VA system, seeking culturally competent care, and spending 142 days in a first responder treatment program where she confronted her own patterns: addicted to leadership, willing to abandon herself to save others. She opens up about the somatic fallout of panic, insomnia, and a near-fatal medication reaction, and how a service dog named Cash quietly transformed her sense of safety. Through her advocacy for mental health and suicide awareness, Nicole leads impactful discussions and global resilience training, drawing from her own battle with PTSD and trauma. She sits on the Board of Directors for the Survive First Foundation, helping others find hope and healing. This episode offers practical tools and gentle honesty:Setting boundaries after sharing hard storiesUsing shaking and rhythmic movement to discharge what isn’t yours to carryThe importance of safe witnessesHow healing begins when the vow of silence finally breaks If you’ve ever felt alone in service, believed you had to be exceptional to be worthy of help, or carried strength at the cost of your own safety, Nicole Ferry's story will meet you where you are and invite you to breathe, soften, and try again. [email protected]/in/nicole-ferry-mpaCopLine 1-800-copline 1-800-267-5463Contact Valerie Support the showRemember YOU are loved and worthy of being witnessed!If today’s episode stirred heavy feelings, you are not alone. Please reach out to a trusted friend or a professional if you need support:National Sexual Assault Hotline: 1-800-656-HOPE (4673) | rainn.orgSAMHSA Mental Health/Substance Use: 1-800-662-HELP (4357)988 LIFELINE: Call, Text or Chat https://988lifeline.orgVeterans Crisis Line: Dial or text 988, then press 1Help for Veterans suffering with CPTSD https://saveawarrior.org/https://www.scarsfoundation.org/*This podcast is not therapy. If you’re in immediate danger, please call 911 or your local emergency number.Want to tell your story? Send a DM or an emailFind us on IG @defiance_of_silence_podcast    [email protected]: https://www.instagram.com/defiance_of_silence_podcast?igsh=MWVxMHI3OXY1cm1paA%3D%3D&utm_source=qr

What if grief isn’t only about death, but about every quiet loss we were taught to outrun?We open Season Two with a grounded, powerful conversation with Brad Gallup — veteran, transformational coach, and equine-guided educator. Together, we explore unmourned grief, moral injury, and the hidden cost of caring in a world that both hurts and heals.Brad shares his journey from Desert Storm to a near-suicide, secret therapy, and more than three decades of facilitating grief work, men’s circles, and equine-guided healing. We talk about how culture pushes grief into the shadows, why anger often masks sorrow, and how being safely witnessed can change a life.You’ll hear simple, practical ways to regulate your nervous system through breath, movement, and daily rituals that build resilience like money in the bank. We explore the difference between listening and deep listening, how to hold space without absorbing someone else’s pain, and the quiet internal boundary that says: this isn’t mine.Then we step into the round pen. Brad explains how horses, living fully in the present, help human nervous systems downshift. We talk about the science of co-regulation and why a few minutes with a horse can sometimes do what hours of talking cannot. Somatic awareness, gentle self-inquiry, and practical support come together to offer pathways for survivors, helpers, and anyone navigating loss after trauma.The throughline is simple and hopeful: you are not broken. Everything you’re looking for is already inside you.If this episode resonates, subscribe, share it with someone who needs a steady witness, and leave a review to help others find the show.We'd love to hear from you: what daily practice helps keep you steady when grief knocks?Uncle Brad would love to hear from you!  http://www.BradGallup.com  / [email protected] Integrator & Equine Wisdom Coach"The longest journey you will ever take is the 18 inches from your head to your heart."   -Andrew BennettContact Valerie Support the showRemember YOU are loved and worthy of being witnessed!If today’s episode stirred heavy feelings, you are not alone. Please reach out to a trusted friend or a professional if you need support:National Sexual Assault Hotline: 1-800-656-HOPE (4673) | rainn.orgSAMHSA Mental Health/Substance Use: 1-800-662-HELP (4357)988 LIFELINE: Call, Text or Chat https://988lifeline.orgVeterans Crisis Line: Dial or text 988, then press 1Help for Veterans suffering with CPTSD https://saveawarrior.org/https://www.scarsfoundation.org/*This podcast is not therapy. If you’re in immediate danger, please call 911 or your local emergency number.Want to tell your story? Send a DM or an emailFind us on IG @defiance_of_silence_podcast    [email protected]: https://www.instagram.com/defiance_of_silence_podcast?igsh=MWVxMHI3OXY1cm1paA%3D%3D&utm_source=qr

What if the most healing thing we can offer isn’t advice, but presence? We close our first season by honoring the stories that found a home here and the witnesses who listened with care. From sexual trauma to the quiet, everyday work of surviving, this conversation threads together what we learned, what surprised us, and why the body keeps holding truth long after the recording stops.We revisit the heart behind the show: to build a steady, humane space where truth lands without spectacle. You’ll hear the lessons that kept showing up—trust silence, resist fixing, and let people be seen as they are. We share guest-by-guest reflections: resilience that refuses to be defined by harm, faith that became a lifeline, a nurse creating decompression spaces for her team, nonlinear healing told without shame, and a loved one naming the grief and grit of supporting a survivor. Along the way, we offer grounded guidance for listeners who felt old pain wake up: slow down, recruit support, and treat that activation as evidence of something honest happening.Looking ahead, we keep the core focus on sexual trauma while widening the container to include grief, moral injury, and the unseen costs of caring. That expansion isn’t dilution—it’s depth. We’ll explore how recovery reshapes families, how healers carry what they witness, and how small practices build nervous-system steadiness. If you’ve been waiting for a place where your story won’t be rushed or sensationalized, you’re home.Take a breath, take what steadies you, and leave what doesn’t. Subscribe to follow season two, share this with someone who needs a gentler conversation, and leave a review to help others find the space. Your voice matters—and you are worthy of being witnessed.Contact Valerie Support the showRemember YOU are loved and worthy of being witnessed!If today’s episode stirred heavy feelings, you are not alone. Please reach out to a trusted friend or a professional if you need support:National Sexual Assault Hotline: 1-800-656-HOPE (4673) | rainn.orgSAMHSA Mental Health/Substance Use: 1-800-662-HELP (4357)988 LIFELINE: Call, Text or Chat https://988lifeline.orgVeterans Crisis Line: Dial or text 988, then press 1Help for Veterans suffering with CPTSD https://saveawarrior.org/https://www.scarsfoundation.org/*This podcast is not therapy. If you’re in immediate danger, please call 911 or your local emergency number.Want to tell your story? Send a DM or an emailFind us on IG @defiance_of_silence_podcast    [email protected]: https://www.instagram.com/defiance_of_silence_podcast?igsh=MWVxMHI3OXY1cm1paA%3D%3D&utm_source=qr

Start with a breath, stay for the truth. Valerie sits down with Lauren, a licensed professional counselor and former child life specialist, to unpack what it really means to be a sacred witness—how to show up for survivors without losing yourself to vicarious trauma. From emergency rooms and SANE exams to therapy rooms and courtrooms, we trace how the body stores stress, why memories fragment under threat, and how fight, flight, freeze, and fawn actually protect us in the moment.Lauren shares the signs helpers often miss—intrusive thoughts, numbness, headaches, sleep swings, quiet rage—and offers clear ways to notice when the weight you’re carrying isn’t yours. We explore prevention that goes beyond posters: peer debriefing, boundaries that stick, flexible self-care rituals, and leadership that treats mental health as readiness. You’ll hear simple scripts for hard moments: what to say (and not say) to someone in pain, how to set kind limits when you can’t hold more, and how to widen the net so no one becomes the only lifeline.For first responders, clinicians, and caregivers navigating stigma and policy, we talk candidly about confidentiality, reassignment, and finding safe spaces to release the day—prayer in the car, a walk in the sun, music that lets you cry, a quiet night with a book, even throwing ice in the backyard. The heart of it is presence: immediate debriefing when shock is fresh, deeper processing when the body is ready, and everyday rituals to let go of what doesn’t belong to you.If you’ve ever taken someone’s story home in your shoulders, this conversation offers language, tools, and hope. Subscribe, share with a teammate who needs it, and leave a review with your favorite grounding practice so others can try it too.Lauren Hollis is a Licensed Professional Counselor Supervisor who owns her own private practice in The Woodlands, Texas. She works with children, adolescents, couples and adult individuals. When she is not working, she is passionate about her faith in God, children and spending time with family. Lauren Hollis, MA, CCLS, RPT, LPC-SLicensed Professional Counselor- SupervisorRegistered Play TherapistSacred Connectionswww.laurenhollis.com832-299-4830Contact Valerie Support the showRemember YOU are loved and worthy of being witnessed!If today’s episode stirred heavy feelings, you are not alone. Please reach out to a trusted friend or a professional if you need support:National Sexual Assault Hotline: 1-800-656-HOPE (4673) | rainn.orgSAMHSA Mental Health/Substance Use: 1-800-662-HELP (4357)988 LIFELINE: Call, Text or Chat https://988lifeline.orgVeterans Crisis Line: Dial or text 988, then press 1Help for Veterans suffering with CPTSD https://saveawarrior.org/https://www.scarsfoundation.org/*This podcast is not therapy. If you’re in immediate danger, please call 911 or your local emergency number.Want to tell your story? Send a DM or an emailFind us on IG @defiance_of_silence_podcast    [email protected]: https://www.instagram.com/defiance_of_silence_podcast?igsh=MWVxMHI3OXY1cm1paA%3D%3D&utm_source=qr

Some stories crack the shell and let the light in. Valerie sits with Becca—a tattoo artist, mom, and survivor—who turns the old script of silence on its head and shows how radical self-forgiveness can rebuild a life. We move through early violations and the ache of not being believed, into the adult patterns that followed: people pleasing, numbing with alcohol, and mistaking compliance for consent. When a trusted friend crossed a line, Becca didn’t just name the harm; she learned to name her nervous system, too. Fawn and flop aren’t character flaws—they’re survival responses—and that simple truth can dissolve years of shame.What changes once shame loosens its grip? Becca shares the tools that actually worked. Journaling that challenges “Is this 100% true?” Mindset shifts that turn ten negatives into ten grounded positives. A practice of “neutralizing” people—not saints, not monsters—so the body can stop whiplashing between idealization and resentment. She even reframed abandonment, finding the ways it made room for real love, presence with her kids, and sharper empathy for unseen people. As a creative holding space for clients’ stories, she learned that carrying someone’s pain doesn’t lighten their load; witnessing without judgment does.The heart of this conversation is radical responsibility rooted in compassion. Not blame. Not perfection. A daily choice to send love to the self-inside the memory, to retire the word "should" and to take one steady step at a time. If you’re ready to heal without a checklist, to trade drama’s “internal drugstore” for nervous system peace, and to feel truly witnessed, this one meets you where you are and walks with you forward.If this resonated, subscribe, share with a friend who needs it, and leave a review telling us one belief you’re ready to rewrite. Your story deserves to be heard.Becca Nushell is a tattoo artist, content creator, and mom who has learned the power of radical self forgiveness. By taking full responsibility for her life, she has shifted from living in a victim mindset to finding genuine peace and freedom. Her story is about healing through accountability, compassion, and truth.Nushelltattoos.orgInstagram @Nushelltattoos Contact Valerie Support the showRemember YOU are loved and worthy of being witnessed!If today’s episode stirred heavy feelings, you are not alone. Please reach out to a trusted friend or a professional if you need support:National Sexual Assault Hotline: 1-800-656-HOPE (4673) | rainn.orgSAMHSA Mental Health/Substance Use: 1-800-662-HELP (4357)988 LIFELINE: Call, Text or Chat https://988lifeline.orgVeterans Crisis Line: Dial or text 988, then press 1Help for Veterans suffering with CPTSD https://saveawarrior.org/https://www.scarsfoundation.org/*This podcast is not therapy. If you’re in immediate danger, please call 911 or your local emergency number.Want to tell your story? Send a DM or an emailFind us on IG @defiance_of_silence_podcast    [email protected]: https://www.instagram.com/defiance_of_silence_podcast?igsh=MWVxMHI3OXY1cm1paA%3D%3D&utm_source=qr

What does it take to love someone through trauma without losing yourself? We sit down with Rachel—forensic nurse, educator, and secondary survivor—to unpack the messy, courageous work of building safety, voice, and trust when PTSD lives in the home. From a brave early disclosure on a blind date to a life-saving inpatient stay and a parking-lot pregnancy reveal, her story is equal parts raw and deeply hopeful.Rachel explains why their earliest agreements mattered: medication choices stayed with him and his doctor, he owned appointments, and she stepped out of the fixer role. We walk through the strain of loud PTSD episodes, the quiet damage of walking on eggshells, and the moment a therapist finally said, “It’s time.” Later, a shared trauma retreat reframed everything: secondary trauma is still trauma, and healing belongs to witnesses, too. Rachel describes laying down resentment, learning somatic regulation, and rebuilding a marriage around honest needs and compassionate boundaries. She also shares what didn’t work—unsafe communities that wanted curated stories—and how safe witnesses, consistent therapy, and body work changed their family’s rhythm.As a forensic nurse, Rachel brings a trauma-informed lens: consent, pacing, and the sacred weight of someone’s story. She offers practical takeaways for caregivers and survivors alike—safety plans with clear steps, removing lethal means, centering the patient’s voice, and modeling resilience for kids. We end with a simple grounding exercise you can use today to release what isn’t yours to carry.If this conversation resonates, follow the show, share it with someone who needs a witness, and leave a review so others can find it. Your voice helps build a braver, safer community.Rachael Reynolds is a Forensic Nurse and educator with over 15 years of experience in Labor & Delivery, Pediatrics, Hospice, and Sexual Assault Forensic Examination. As both a nurse, secondary survivor of sexual assault and the spouse of a survivor, Rachael brings a deeply personal perspective to her work and advocacy. She and her husband Ashton have been married for 15 and a half years, growing side by side as they navigate the realities of PTSD, trauma recovery, the healing power of empathy, and the everyday work of healing — while raising four incredible children. Together, they strive to break the silence and stigma surrounding trauma by embracing transparency, faith, and open communication in their home and community. Rachael believes storytelling has the power to connect, validate, and transform both in the exam room and around the dinner table.Contact Valerie Support the showRemember YOU are loved and worthy of being witnessed!If today’s episode stirred heavy feelings, you are not alone. Please reach out to a trusted friend or a professional if you need support:National Sexual Assault Hotline: 1-800-656-HOPE (4673) | rainn.orgSAMHSA Mental Health/Substance Use: 1-800-662-HELP (4357)988 LIFELINE: Call, Text or Chat https://988lifeline.orgVeterans Crisis Line: Dial or text 988, then press 1Help for Veterans suffering with CPTSD https://saveawarrior.org/https://www.scarsfoundation.org/*This podcast is not therapy. If you’re in immediate danger, please call 911 or your local emergency number.Want to tell your story? Send a DM or an emailFind us on IG @defiance_of_silence_podcast    [email protected]: https://www.instagram.com/defiance_of_silence_podcast?igsh=MWVxMHI3OXY1cm1paA%3D%3D&utm_source=qr

Silence can isolate — but it can also safeguard a story until it’s ready to be spoken. In this episode, we sit with Jeanine McNeill, CPS—an Army Veteran, Women Veterans Program Certified Peer Specialist, and Women’s Health Liaison at the Sheridan VA. With more than 40 years of lived experience, Jeanine has transformed her own journey through Military Sexual Trauma (MST) and Intimate Partner Violence (IPV) into advocacy, support, and education for her fellow Veterans.Jeanine’s healing path has led her into national recognition. She is a Daily Points of Light Award recipient for her work with The Pink Berets, was honored with a Quilt of Valor for her dedication to female Veterans, and served as Ms. Senior World Wyoming 2024, using that platform to elevate awareness of MST and IPV on an international stage.We begin this conversation with a grounding exercise to honor the weight of what follows. Jeanine speaks candidly about how the body often remembers what the mind cannot yet name—the freeze response, intuitive knowing, and the clarity that sometimes emerges years later. She shares a pivotal moment: an unexpected reunion with someone connected to her assault, which became a turning point in her healing and a powerful reminder of what it means to be witnessed.Jeanine also introduces the SELF Method she teaches to residents: Silence the noise Evaluate with a body scan Listen to your body Feel what you’re meant to feel, then move forwardWe explore what it means to support others while protecting your own energy—through breathwork, grounding walks, mindful drives, and prayer for what cannot be carried alone. Jeanine reframes triggers as information, not setbacks, and speaks to the shift from victim, to survivor, to thriver.This episode is an invitation to trust your pace, honor your body’s wisdom, and remember that healing is possible—and you are worthy of being witnessed.Contact Valerie Support the showRemember YOU are loved and worthy of being witnessed!If today’s episode stirred heavy feelings, you are not alone. Please reach out to a trusted friend or a professional if you need support:National Sexual Assault Hotline: 1-800-656-HOPE (4673) | rainn.orgSAMHSA Mental Health/Substance Use: 1-800-662-HELP (4357)988 LIFELINE: Call, Text or Chat https://988lifeline.orgVeterans Crisis Line: Dial or text 988, then press 1Help for Veterans suffering with CPTSD https://saveawarrior.org/https://www.scarsfoundation.org/*This podcast is not therapy. If you’re in immediate danger, please call 911 or your local emergency number.Want to tell your story? Send a DM or an emailFind us on IG @defiance_of_silence_podcast    [email protected]: https://www.instagram.com/defiance_of_silence_podcast?igsh=MWVxMHI3OXY1cm1paA%3D%3D&utm_source=qr

When the US Army stamps your discharge Chapter 8 and strips your benefits, it’s easy to believe your service didn’t count. Lucy wouldn’t accept that ending. She walks us through growing up in chaos, surviving assault in uniform, and carrying a story so heavy it nearly pushed her over the edge—until a clinician named PTSD and a fellow vet’s challenge rekindled her fire.We trace the moments that changed everything: a panic attack at work that sent her to the ER, the disappearance of Vanessa Guillen that turned avoidance into action. Lucy shows how advocacy can spark policy change while quietly draining a survivor’s reserves. She speaks frankly about the Netflix spotlight, the flood of requests from other survivors, and her decision t to ask for help. What follows is a blueprint for sustainable healing and service. Lucy returns to medication on her terms, builds daily breath work and yoga practices. Takes long walks with her husband to decompress and reconnect. She sets boundaries, practices seasonal advocacy, and reframes worth beyond a DD214. The message is clear and compassionate: give yourself grace. If you’re navigating MST, PTSD, or the invisible weight of silence, you’ll find practical tools, hard-won wisdom, and the courage to make your own pace.Lucy is a proud United States Army Veteran and a lifelong advocate for veterans’ rights and recognition, both in New Jersey and across the country. Lucy currently serves as Program Coordinator for YWCA Northern New Jersey’s Operation Sisterhood, a comprehensive initiative designed to support women veterans as they transition from military service to civilian life. Beyond her professional roles, Lucy is a dedicated volunteer and national advocate. She works with Minority Veterans of America, The Pink Berets, and is a prominent voice in the #MeTooMilitary movement, which emerged in the wake of Specialist Vanessa Guillen’s death. Lucy testified before the House Armed Services Committee on July 29, 2020, during the landmark hearing, The Military MeToo Movement. Her advocacy was featured in the Netflix documentary “I Am Vanessa Guillen.” In recognition of her leadership and service, Lucy was appointed by VA Secretary Denis McDonough to the VA’s Workgroup on Sexual Harassment and Sexual Assault. She was also appointed by Governor Phil Murphy to the New Jersey Commission on Women Veterans. In 2024, she was inducted into the Army Women’s Foundation Hall of Fame. Lucy lives in Essex County, New Jersey, with her husband and four children and is a proud grandmother. Her life’s work continues to center on honoring and uplifting those who have served.Contact Valerie Support the showRemember YOU are loved and worthy of being witnessed!If today’s episode stirred heavy feelings, you are not alone. Please reach out to a trusted friend or a professional if you need support:National Sexual Assault Hotline: 1-800-656-HOPE (4673) | rainn.orgSAMHSA Mental Health/Substance Use: 1-800-662-HELP (4357)988 LIFELINE: Call, Text or Chat https://988lifeline.orgVeterans Crisis Line: Dial or text 988, then press 1Help for Veterans suffering with CPTSD https://saveawarrior.org/https://www.scarsfoundation.org/*This podcast is not therapy. If you’re in immediate danger, please call 911 or your local emergency number.Want to tell your story? Send a DM or an emailFind us on IG @defiance_of_silence_podcast    [email protected]: https://www.instagram.com/defiance_of_silence_podcast?igsh=MWVxMHI3OXY1cm1paA%3D%3D&utm_source=qr

What holds a caregiver together when the work starts to pull them apart? We sit down with Halie—trauma nurse, survivor, and seeker—to explore the quiet, practical ways she rebuilt herself after moral injury, burnout, and years of outrunning her own story. She brings the ER and ICU into focus with unflinching honesty, then shows how small rituals and community transformed adrenaline into presence. We talk about how trauma lives in the body—fear in the chest, danger in the neck—and how EMDR helped her find and soften those beliefs without rushing herself back into pain. If you’ve ever thought “I’ll deal with this later” and then never went back, her framework for actually closing the loop will land: set an intention before shift, name what you’ll return to, and claim time after to release what isn’t yours. It’s direct, doable nervous system care for anyone navigating healthcare, trauma work, or high-stakes service.This conversation also challenges the old script that caregivers must be stoic to be strong. We talk candidly about vicarious trauma, profit and vulnerability in medicine, and why “leave it at work” only works when you have a real ritual of release. Halie models what a culture shift can look like—leaders making space, teammates witnessing without fixing, and clinicians regulating in real time without shame. A personal note and resources from Halie's heart to yours.www.CoDA.orgwww.adultchildren.orgDon’t Clock OutEach program has zoom meetings available outside of a structured recovery program, such as Save A Warrior. https://www.saveawarrior.orgRichard C. Schwartz -You Are The One You’ve Been Waiting For &-No Bad PartsI didn’t spend too much time during the podcast to disclose my childhood trauma, not because it didn’t matter, but more so because it no longer defines who I am now that I have found myself. I never would have believed a life full of self love and gratitude was possible, and now I can’t imagine living another day without this practice of self care. I encourage you, the listener, to go find you, through all of the mud and the muck, all of the self hatred, and all of the disbelief that life could be anything more than the despair you feel now. Have courage, take that first step, and keep trying until you find what works on your way back to yourself. It’s so beautiful on the other side, and I’m saying that while in the beginning-middle of my own journey.I love you.HalieContact Valerie Support the showRemember YOU are loved and worthy of being witnessed!If today’s episode stirred heavy feelings, you are not alone. Please reach out to a trusted friend or a professional if you need support:National Sexual Assault Hotline: 1-800-656-HOPE (4673) | rainn.orgSAMHSA Mental Health/Substance Use: 1-800-662-HELP (4357)988 LIFELINE: Call, Text or Chat https://988lifeline.orgVeterans Crisis Line: Dial or text 988, then press 1Help for Veterans suffering with CPTSD https://saveawarrior.org/https://www.scarsfoundation.org/*This podcast is not therapy. If you’re in immediate danger, please call 911 or your local emergency number.Want to tell your story? Send a DM or an emailFind us on IG @defiance_of_silence_podcast    [email protected]: https://www.instagram.com/defiance_of_silence_podcast?igsh=MWVxMHI3OXY1cm1paA%3D%3D&utm_source=qr

A two‑piece swimsuit turned see‑through. A cabin in the woods. Years of silence that felt safer than the truth. Susan joins us to trace a line from early humiliation and assault to a life rebuilt on wise vulnerability, safe witnessing, and a stubborn kind of joy that doesn’t vanish when life gets loud. We talk about how shame sneaks in when adults laugh instead of protect, how silence becomes a habit that looks like strength, and how one brave share can unhook a story from your identity.We get specific about what “safe space” really means—people who listen more than they talk, don’t moralize your pain, and hold your words with care.You’ll hear practical ways to test trust with small disclosures, spot red flags, and use discretion without feeling like you’re keeping secrets. We map the move from triggers to glimmers, showing how tiny moments of safety slowly retrain the nervous system. For those who hold space for others, we offer tools to witness without absorbing: journaling to move the weight of listening, debriefing with non‑identifying details to a trusted mentor, and simple rituals that return stories to their owners.Susan’s faith frames her courage: testimony brings light, and light starves shame. Whether you connect through spirituality, community, or professional support, the path forward starts with one step—making a call, walking into a resource center, or telling one kind person. If you’ve ever wondered how to share your story without breaking yourself open again, this conversation is your guide and your companion.If this helped, follow the show, share it with someone who needs it, and leave a review so others can find these stories. Your voice matters—what part of this conversation stayed with you?Susan lives in Virginia with her husband, she is a mother of three and Nanny to 8 Grandies. She has been mentoring and teaching for over 30 years. At twenty-eight years old, Susan fell in love with Jesus and God’s word in print. She takes the promise of Hope and overcoming wherever she goes, whether speaking to a large group, or just meeting a complete stranger. She can't help but share that God’s promises are bigger than any obstacle she or you face.https://www.facebook.com/susan.dunning.77/X @dunsuzInstagram @misseshopefulsusandunning.com #thereishope #celebrateeverythingContact Valerie Support the showRemember YOU are loved and worthy of being witnessed!If today’s episode stirred heavy feelings, you are not alone. Please reach out to a trusted friend or a professional if you need support:National Sexual Assault Hotline: 1-800-656-HOPE (4673) | rainn.orgSAMHSA Mental Health/Substance Use: 1-800-662-HELP (4357)988 LIFELINE: Call, Text or Chat https://988lifeline.orgVeterans Crisis Line: Dial or text 988, then press 1Help for Veterans suffering with CPTSD https://saveawarrior.org/https://www.scarsfoundation.org/*This podcast is not therapy. If you’re in immediate danger, please call 911 or your local emergency number.Want to tell your story? Send a DM or an emailFind us on IG @defiance_of_silence_podcast    [email protected]: https://www.instagram.com/defiance_of_silence_podcast?igsh=MWVxMHI3OXY1cm1paA%3D%3D&utm_source=qr

What happens when your very survival depends on disconnecting from your own body? For Paralympic champion and Army veteran Lia Coryell, this wasn't a philosophical question—it was her childhood reality.Born into extreme poverty in northern Wisconsin with a father in prison and an illiterate mother, Lia learned early that the world could be unimaginably cruel. By age nine, she had developed a profound dissociative response, believing her soul lived outside her physical form. "I was Lisa's soul and I'm like, 'It's okay,'" she explains. "My job as her soul was to love and protect her." What mental health professionals would later identify as a trauma response, young Lia experienced as her superpower.Despite teachers who dismissed her as "not worth it," Leah developed a rebellious determination that would define her life: "I'm going to know everything." This drive led to multiple academic degrees and accomplishments.  Lia's most powerful achievement might be her perspective on trauma and healing. After rebuilding her foundation "one rock at a time" following devastating setbacks, she now shares a truth both simple and profound: "You are not what happened to you. You get to choose who you are and what you want to be. You get to write your own story."Whether you're facing your own trauma history or supporting someone through theirs, this conversation offers wisdom on creating sacred space for healing, recognizing when you need boundaries, and transforming rebellion into resilience. As Lia proves through her remarkable journey, sometimes our deepest wounds become our greatest gifts to the world.See Lia's winning match from the 2022 World Para Championships in Dubai.https://youtu.be/5DACOWUm4zE?feature=sharedhttps://www.womensoutdoornews.com/2022/03/lia-coryell-wins-team-usas-first-women-w1-world-para-championship/Contact Valerie Support the showRemember YOU are loved and worthy of being witnessed!If today’s episode stirred heavy feelings, you are not alone. Please reach out to a trusted friend or a professional if you need support:National Sexual Assault Hotline: 1-800-656-HOPE (4673) | rainn.orgSAMHSA Mental Health/Substance Use: 1-800-662-HELP (4357)988 LIFELINE: Call, Text or Chat https://988lifeline.orgVeterans Crisis Line: Dial or text 988, then press 1Help for Veterans suffering with CPTSD https://saveawarrior.org/https://www.scarsfoundation.org/*This podcast is not therapy. If you’re in immediate danger, please call 911 or your local emergency number.Want to tell your story? Send a DM or an emailFind us on IG @defiance_of_silence_podcast    [email protected]: https://www.instagram.com/defiance_of_silence_podcast?igsh=MWVxMHI3OXY1cm1paA%3D%3D&utm_source=qr

"The body keeps the score." This phrase has become commonplace in trauma-informed circles, but what does it actually mean when your physical symptoms have emotional roots? How do we become truly present in bodies that have stored years of unprocessed experiences?In this profound conversation with Air Force veteran, former firefighter, and bodyworker Amber Miskovich, we explore the sacred art of witnessing—both ourselves and others. Amber breaks down the science of how our thoughts create physical constriction or dilation in our bodies, explaining why anxiety, digestive issues, and countless other symptoms often connect to emotional states we've yet to process.We will delve into what makes a good witness versus someone who simply wants to fix, rescue, or join in your drama. Amber shares powerful practices for healers and helpers to avoid absorbing others' pain while still holding compassionate space. The conversation also addresses the challenging balance between sharing your story and practicing discretion, why truth-tellers are essential on your healing journey, and how to recognize when your body is signaling "yes" or "no" to a person or situation. Join us for this deeply nurturing exploration of coming home to yourself while learning to witness others with presence and care.Find Amber on IG: @awonderly @thewonderwithinhttps://www.thewonderwithin.comContact Valerie Support the showRemember YOU are loved and worthy of being witnessed!If today’s episode stirred heavy feelings, you are not alone. Please reach out to a trusted friend or a professional if you need support:National Sexual Assault Hotline: 1-800-656-HOPE (4673) | rainn.orgSAMHSA Mental Health/Substance Use: 1-800-662-HELP (4357)988 LIFELINE: Call, Text or Chat https://988lifeline.orgVeterans Crisis Line: Dial or text 988, then press 1Help for Veterans suffering with CPTSD https://saveawarrior.org/https://www.scarsfoundation.org/*This podcast is not therapy. If you’re in immediate danger, please call 911 or your local emergency number.Want to tell your story? Send a DM or an emailFind us on IG @defiance_of_silence_podcast    [email protected]: https://www.instagram.com/defiance_of_silence_podcast?igsh=MWVxMHI3OXY1cm1paA%3D%3D&utm_source=qr

In this first episode Valerie shares her personal story of surviving sexual trauma, breaking the silence and discovering the power of being witnessed. Hear how being witnessed led to a spiritual awakening that ultimately led to the birth of Defiance of Silence - A Sacred Witness Podcast. For decades, I carried the weight of childhood sexual abuse and military sexual trauma without telling a soul. When I unexpectedly encountered my military assailant years later, it cracked open the vault of repressed memories, beginning a long and difficult journey of healing.In 2020 sparked by the collision of the #iamvanessaguillen and #metoo movements, and the stress of COVID isolation triggered a profound PTSD episode that forced me to confront the cost of my silence. Finding community among women veterans who simply said "me too" began to break that isolation. Being witnessed without judgment cracked open decades of silence.My heart and hope for Defiance of Silence: A Sacred Witness is to create space for survivors, healers, and witnesses to share their truth. This podcast isn't about sensationalizing trauma but honoring the journey through communal witnessing. We defy the silence that isolates while embracing the silence that allows true listening – sitting with someone's pain without judgment, without fixing, without rushing. Whether you're seeking healing or coming to witness others, you're welcome here. Your presence matters. Together, we'll discover the power of being seen and the healing that follows. Remember: you are not alone, your story deserves to be heard, and you are worthy of being witnessed.Contact Valerie Support the showRemember YOU are loved and worthy of being witnessed!If today’s episode stirred heavy feelings, you are not alone. Please reach out to a trusted friend or a professional if you need support:National Sexual Assault Hotline: 1-800-656-HOPE (4673) | rainn.orgSAMHSA Mental Health/Substance Use: 1-800-662-HELP (4357)988 LIFELINE: Call, Text or Chat https://988lifeline.orgVeterans Crisis Line: Dial or text 988, then press 1Help for Veterans suffering with CPTSD https://saveawarrior.org/https://www.scarsfoundation.org/*This podcast is not therapy. If you’re in immediate danger, please call 911 or your local emergency number.Want to tell your story? Send a DM or an emailFind us on IG @defiance_of_silence_podcast    [email protected]: https://www.instagram.com/defiance_of_silence_podcast?igsh=MWVxMHI3OXY1cm1paA%3D%3D&utm_source=qr