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Defying Self
by Edvardo and Ntebo Archer
A living journey through personal transformation, family, faith and finances.
Episodes
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Defying Fear in Parenting
Parenting is HOPE! Hope for our children's future, hope for their wellbeing, and hope that everything we do matters. BUT the fear that often accompanies PARENTING is one of the greatest challenges we face. In today's episode, we discuss how fear can damage us and our children. And speaking of…
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Lessons We've Learned From Being Business Owners.
We started our Etsy furniture business as an adventure. Seven years later we have learned key lessons that have strengthened our peace, confidence and self-worth. Listen to learn how we started and the lessons we learned along the way.
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Reflecting on Lessons from the Lockdown
In December 2020, we sat down and reviewed the immediate lessons we were learning from spending most of the year in lockdown. We realized how the lack of normalcy created opportunities for us to grow stronger as a family, solidify our faith and refine the long time struggles we faced previously...
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Defying "Strict" Parenting
The stress of raising and disciplining children has been especially tough on parents over the last couple of years. We have all found ourselves struggling with the extremes of strict parenting. Listen in to hear our process as well as the principles to help keep us balanced as we parent our kids.
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Making Decisions, Mastering Habits, and Shaping Identity
In this episode, we reflect on the book Atomic Habits. We discuss the lessons that stuck. How do we building habits that last? And how do these habits shape the people we become? We reach into our personal experiences to distill how we can make decisions that matter in order to bring us forward…
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Book Discussion: Range, Why Generalist Triumph in a Specialized World
Have you ever felt like you are "behind the curve"? You haven't figured out how to be the best at one thing AND you are constantly interested in many things? We are joined by our good friend Stephanie Danclair, as we discuss our key takeaways from "Range" by David Epstein. We discover that life…
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Dealing with Personal Disappointment
We have all encountered some level of personal disappointment. It happens in the moments where we have missed the mark, felt stuck and sometimes unable to move forward. Listen in to learn how personal disappointment can impact our sense of identity, how we can then adjust our expectations and...
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Defying the Sense of Powerlessness
What has been clear as of late, is that we control little in life. In this episode we talk about the 3 areas where we can restore a sense of balance in these challenging times: 1) managing what we consume, 2) contributing towards our creative expressions and 3) focusing on the things we have an...
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Growing Together: When Therapy Helps
On average, couples wait seven years to seek help for relational issues from a professional. Perhaps a part of the reason for this is because most couples do not know what to expect from couples therapy. In this episode, we interview Sofia Robirosa, a good friend and relationship expert. She…
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Growing Together: Forgiveness
Episode 1: Conflict is good. Episode 2: How to engage conflict. The natural progression is forgiveness. The best ending to every confrontation is forgiveness. In this Episode 3, we discuss the importance and the HOW of forgiveness, for growth in our relationships.
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Growing Together: Learning How to Fight
In the last podcast, we spoke about how conflict can be a powerful tool of growth in relationships. Now...How do we engage in conflict well? We break down the steps to productive conflict into three: when conflict begins, navigating the conflict and managing to a good resolution.
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Growing together: Conflict is good!
We begin Season 2 with a look at CONFLICT in relationships. How do you embrace the productivity of conflict? We discuss the importance of engaging in conflict in a way that builds the relationship and BUILDS YOU as an individual. It can get messy but conflict can be a powerful tool for growth.
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Defying Self-Season 2
We are back! Starting off with some announcements of what to expect this year. We are excited about the journey ahead and grateful that you can join us!
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Engaging the Journey of Vulnerability
We all know vulnerability benefits our relationships BUT how do we even get started? How do we defy the fear of all we stand to lose if we let go and welcome vulnerability? In this episode, we speak to how to engage and walk out your journey of vulnerability.
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Parenting is Kicking my Butt
It's official, parenting is kicking our butts. In this episode, we talk through difficult parenting issues and areas where our parenting can use some improvement. So join us as we laugh at our struggles and cry (inside) while we learn and grow as parents.
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Surviving your Spouse - Reflections
The last two podcasts on Love, Tolerance and Combination has offered tons to chew on. Tune in as we reflect on what resonated and impacted us the most. We highlight the "forever" honeymoon state, the need for self love, the importance of correctly defining perfection/maturity in relationship and...
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Surviving your Spouse PT 2
This week we get into the nitty gritty of how to structure a marriage to ensure growth. It is going to take identity, vulnerability and sight. Join us as we discuss the details of applying Love, Tolerance and Communication.
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Surviving your Spouse PT 1
Marriage is challenging and can be traumatic if you are not ready. We replay a recent couples' workshop on Love, Tolerance and Communication. We start the series by looking at the 8 phases of relational breakdown and how our history can create relational dysfunction.
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Defying Parenting Differences
Another question from our listeners: "What do you do if both parents in a family have conflicting approaches to parenting?" This week we talk about synchronizing values and personalities to create a united front for our children.
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Affirming Healing for Healthy Relationships
This week we answer a question from one of our faithful listeners. We discuss practical and spiritual perspectives on how one can heal and bring less baggage into their relationships. If you would like us to ponder one of your questions, go to defyingself.com and click "Contact Us" on the top…
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Marital Support in Parenting
Your marriage relationship plays a critical role in giving you the strength and endurance to parent your children well. In this episode, we cover the principles and practical examples of what it means to give and receive support from your spouse.
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Defying the Resistance
Resistance is the events, people and unfortunate outcomes that create a valid reason to give up. In this episode, Eddie talks through a recent challenge that caused him to learn how to defy valid reasons to give up. We highlight several principles that affirm how we keep moving forward in spite…
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Defying Anxiety in Parenting
Parenting is full of tough moments. Though we are often able to get our kids through these moments, there are "other" moments that cause us to freak out. In this episode, we take a look at where parenting anxiety comes from and what we need to do to overcome it.
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Defying History. You are not your parents.
To be better for ourselves and our kids we cannot afford to be weighed down any longer by the breakdowns of our upbringing. In this episode, we review that compassion, sight and transformation is needed to break free from the history that keeps us stuck.
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Defying the Fear of Getting Started PT 3
We continue our conversation on defying the fear of getting started. We speak to Neo, an Investment Company owner in South Africa, about how she faced her fears and quit her job to start her own business. Neo Maruatona Ratau is a finance professional, turned entrepreneur. She now co-owns an...
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Defying the Fear of Getting Started PT 2
Starting something new can be intimidating and overwhelming. Listen in to learn how Eddie journeyed through leaving his job and starting his private practice. In this episode we talk about the specific principles that will help you defy the fear of starting your next project.
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Defying the Fear of Getting Started
How many times have you been on the edge of starting something new? Looking for a new job, starting a business, relocating or simply changing a habit, but the fear of getting started has you stuck? In this episode we talk about defying the fear of getting started.
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Defying the Noise of Negative Opinions | PT 2
Episode # 2 of our series on Defying the Noise of Negative Opinion. In this episode we look at how we can begin to heal from the pull of negative opinions. How do we push past the noise? How do we manage ourselves so that negative opinions don’t immobilize us anymore?
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Defying the Noise of Negative Opinions | PT 1
In this episode we deal with the noise of negative opinion. Why do other people's opinions affect some of us? And where does it all come from? We also talk about the factors that keep us stuck in our insecurities.
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Defying Inexperience: Parenting with Confidence | Part 2
In this episode we continue our conversation on how we parent with confidence even though we are inexperienced. We discuss two truths of parenting: (1). We are all “inexperienced” parents and (2). There are guiding principles that give us confidence.
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Defying Inexperience : Parenting with Confidence | Part 1
In this episode we discuss two truths of parenting: (1). We are all "inexperienced" parents and (2). There are guiding principles that can help us parent our children with confidence. Listen in to hear our journey and how these principles have guided us.
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Defying the perfectionist - Ntebo’s Story
Ntebo has the “superpower” of self-discipline. When she chooses to do something, it will get done. This episode is for individuals who are executors, perfectionist and who generally have no problem taking control. Listen in to learn how Ntebo defies her perfectionism in a way that gives her freedom.
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Defying the HERO - Eddie’s Story
We love heroes that come and save the day! But when does the need to save and serve get in the way? In this episode we confront the mindset that informs and motivates the HERO. We also take a specific look at how to manage our heroism in a way that is actually beneficial.
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You cannot have it all. So what are you gonna choose?
It’s not a coincidence that this is our second episode. In this podcast we are speaking to ourselves and the people who strive for the best in their lives. We believe it’s important to start balancing the hope for a better life with a dose of reality. The
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Meet the host through our Google PRX application
In this episode, we do a quick, but deep dive, on who we are and why we are doing this podcast. We also share with you the process involved in our Google Podcast Grant Application.
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A living journey through personal transformation, family, faith and finances.
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Defying Self is created and hosted by Edvardo and Ntebo Archer.
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