Devoted

What happens when a disagreement happens in public?Last weekend, we found ourselves in one of those moments. A conflict escalated quickly, bringing up old triggers, unmet needs, and some uncomfortable emotions. Thankfully, it didn't stay there and we bounced back quickly.In this episode, we're sharing exactly what happened, what was going on beneath the surface for each of us, and how we were able to move through it with honesty, curiosity, and repair.We also share the reel where we resolved said conflict on our Instagram @devotedpodcastofficial - check it out!What we really want to drive home is that healthy relationships aren't defined by never having conflict, rather, they're shaped by how we navigate it in relationship together. Join us for a candid conversation about triggers, communication, accountability, and finding your way back to connection after rupture. We hope our story encourages you in your own relationships.

This week we're celebrating a special milestone - 15 years since we started dating and in this episode we reflect on 15 things we’ve learned in 15 years.What began with two young adults, and a deep friendship, has grown into a devoted relationship that has weathered seasons of change, growth, grief, joy, parenthood, and everything in between. From learning how to truly listen and communicate, to navigating misunderstandings, extending forgiveness, appreciating each other's strengths, and learning to love the many versions of one another we've become over the years, we're sharing the lessons that have shaped our relationship and helped us continue growing together.We also talk about what it means to create a sense of home within each other, show up when life isn't always 50/50, practice gratitude in the everyday moments, and keep God at the center of it all.Whether you're dating, engaged, married, or simply navigating a meaningful relationship in your life, we hope this conversation encourages you to embrace the beauty of growing alongside another person through every season.Thank you for celebrating this anniversary with us. We're so grateful for the journey behind us, the season we're in, and all that's still to come.

In this episode, we explore what it means to practice conscious, healthy communication in real life — not from a place of perfection, but from lived experience.We share openly about our own challenges with communication over the years and what has helped us grow: learning to listen with curiosity, communicating with the intention to connect rather than defend, and making requests while still allowing the other person freedom and choice.We talk about vulnerability and agency, our capacity to express ourselves honestly while also listening with empathy, and how to navigate triggers without losing connection to ourselves or each other. We also explore the importance of identifying and verbalizing feelings and needs, and how communication can become a practice of deeper understanding, accountability, and connection.Whether you’re navigating partnership, friendship, family dynamics, or your relationship with yourself, this conversation offers gentle reflections on communicating with more awareness, compassion, and intention.Follow Devoted to join us in the ongoing work of growing together.Connect with us on Instagram @amybecklerlcsw & @thebeckeffectIf there’s a topic or conversation you’d like us to speak on, please leave a comment or message us and we’ll do our best to bring it to Devoted!Your reviews and feedback of each episode are greatly appreciated.

In this episode, we dive into the reality of living in the in-between—the seasons where life is shifting, stretching, and asking more of you than feels comfortable.We open up about the transitions we’ve been navigating lately: Stephen returning to work after six months of unemployment, relocating out of state, adjusting to a whole new life, preparing for another move, and stepping into our next chapter as we get ready to become parents of two.This conversation is an honest look at what transition actually feels like - not just the highlight reel, but the uncertainty, identity shifts, stress, and growth that come with it. We talk about how we’ve learned to stay grounded through change, support each other when things feel unstable, and trust the unfolding even when we don’t have all the answers.If you’re in a season of transition - whether it’s a move, a career shift, a growing family, or an internal change—this episode is for you. Our hope is that you feel seen in the messiness/stress of it all, and reminded that even in the unknown, there can be connection, resilience, and a deeper sense of trust in where you’re headed.Sometimes the most transformative chapters of our lives are the ones that don’t feel settled… yet.

In this deeply personal episode, we open our hearts and reflect on the many layers of grief and loss we’ve walked through over the past 15 years together. From the passing of multiple loved ones, to moves, job changes, friendship endings, miscarriages, and the recent loss of a beloved pet—this conversation holds space for the full spectrum of what it means to love and grieve.We share not only the pain, but what carried us through: our faith, the quiet comfort of signs, leaning on each other, and allowing time, grace, compassion, and love to do their slow, healing work.Our hope in sharing this is simple—if you’re navigating your own season of loss, you're not alone. And maybe, through our story, you find gentle guidance and permission to grieve in your own way, and know that even in your darkest moments, there can be connection, meaning, and light.This is a conversation about loss along with resilience, partnership, and the ways we learn to keep growing, together.Follow Devoted to join us in the ongoing work of growing together.Connect with us on Instagram @devotedpodcastofficial @amybecklerlcsw & @thebeckeffectIf there’s a topic or conversation you’d like us to speak on, please leave a comment or message us and we’ll do our best to bring it to Devoted!Your reviews and feedback of each episode are greatly appreciated.

In this episode, we take you behind the scenes of our pregnancy and birth journey, sharing what it was like to choose a home birth and what that brought up for both of us. Stephen opens up about the fears he carried, the moments he questioned, and the quiet reality of not having a place or person to process it all with as a soon-to-be dad.At the same time, he shares why he chose to trust Amy, stand beside her, and fully support the decisions she felt called to make for her body and their baby.Together, Stephen and Amy reflect on how they supported one another, what they learned about communication and partnership, and why Stephen now feels called to create more space for other dads walking this path.If you're navigating pregnancy as a couple, this episode offers an honest look at what it means to move through it together.Follow Devoted to join us in the ongoing work of growing together.Connect with us on Instagram @devotedpodcastofficial @amybecklerlcsw & @thebeckeffectIf there’s a topic or conversation you’d like us to speak on, please leave a comment or message us and we’ll do our best to bring it to Devoted!Your reviews and feedback of each episode are greatly appreciated.

A couple’s therapist on instagram shared 7 patterns that she noticed in couples who didn’t make it. In this episode, we dive into each pattern and share our own experiences of working through some of them over the last 15 years.How, you ask? Honest conversations, putting in the emotional labor and staying devoted to our relationship.The 7 patterns we talk about:Having no boundaries with familyNot repairing after conflictOne partner doing all the emotional laborMaking jokes at your partners expenseNot giving each other graceExpecting your partner to read your mindBlocking your partners growthWe have talked about a few of these patterns in previous episodes and elaborate on them in this one. Through honest reflection and real-life examples, this conversation invites you to notice your own patterns, as well as your partners, with curiosity instead of judgment and to begin choosing what you want to leave behind or carry forward.Awareness and discomfort are where growth happens and we’re here to continuously evolve and grow together.Follow Devoted to join us in the ongoing work of growing together.Connect with us on Instagram @devotedpodcastofficial @amybecklerlcsw & @thebeckeffectIf there’s a topic or conversation you’d like us to speak on, please leave a comment or message us and we’ll do our best to bring it to Devoted!Your reviews and feedback of each episode are greatly appreciated.

How can thinking about your partner when making decisions create connection, safety, and trust? And what would it be like if you considered yourself too? Balancing both can transform the way couples navigate decisions together.In this episode, we’re talking about consideration in relationships—what it looks like, why it matters, and how it shapes our relationships.Often, it’s not the big gestures that make us feel loved. It’s the little things. The moments where someone clearly had you in mind. Considerate decisions can say a lot about how much someone is thinking about you and your experience.In this episode, we explore questions like: Do you consider your partner when you’re making decisions? Do you consider yourself? What is your natural process when something comes up that requires a choice?Some people tend to think about their partner first. Others focus on their own needs and forget to pause and think about how their partner might be impacted. And sometimes it depends on the situation.When consideration is present, relationships can feel like a safe space where both people feel seen, valued, and important. When it’s missing, it can leave one or both partners feeling unseen or like their experience doesn’t matter.Ultimately, the relationship belongs to both of you. And understanding each person’s needs is an important part of creating a devoted relationship.Follow Devoted to join us in the ongoing work of growing together.Connect with us on Instagram @devotedpodcastofficial @amybecklerlcsw & @thebeckeffectIf there’s a topic or conversation you’d like us to speak on, please leave a comment or message us and we’ll do our best to bring it to Devoted!Your reviews and feedback of each episode are greatly appreciated.

What happens when conflict arises and you feel the urge to criticize, defend, shut down, or say something you don’t mean?In this episode, Stephen and Amy respond to a listener’s heartfelt question about how to communicate through disagreements without barking, yelling, or being hurtful—especially in those heated moments when emotions take over.They share one of their biggest relationship aha moments: learning that listening isn’t about fixing, defending, or problem-solving, rather it’s about truly hearing your partner.We talk about:The four horsemen and how they’re destructive to relationshipsHow to give each other space without creating disconnectionThe power of reflecting back what you heardHow feeling seen and heard can transform conflict into connectionSimple shifts that help you move from reacting to relating and repairingAt the core, we all just want to feel safe, seen, and understood by the person we love most.This episode will help you slow down, soften, and communicate in a way that brings you closer—even in the hard moments.Follow Devoted to join us in the ongoing work of growing together. Connect with us on Instagram @amybecklerlcsw & @thebeckeffect

Welcome to the very first episode of Devoted — we’re so happy you’re here.In this episode, Stephen and Amy reflect on their third Valentine’s Day together — what went wrong, how high expectations led to disappointment, and what it revealed about their own patterns.We talk about the pressure we put on special occasions, how unspoken expectations can create resentment, and what real relationship repair looks like when expectations aren’t met.If you’ve ever felt disappointed by a partner or by a holiday that was supposed to feel magical, this conversation will feel familiar and shed some light.Follow Devoted to join us in the ongoing work of growing together.Connect with us on Instagram @amybecklerlcsw & @thebeckeffectIf there’s a topic or conversation you’d like us to speak on, please leave a comment and we’ll do our best to bring it to Devoted!