Dimming The Gaslight: Our Healing Journey From Narcissistic Abuse

Allison Scott joins us for one of the most raw, emotional, and honestly jaw-dropping conversations we’ve had on the show yet.What starts as a conversation about her song Superman quickly turns into a deep dive into covert narcissistic abuse, religious manipulation, emotional control, infidelity, trauma, motherhood, and what it actually feels like to slowly lose yourself inside a marriage that looks “perfect” from the outside.🎵 The Lyric That Hit Us Like a Truck: Allison opens up about the inspiration behind her song Superman—and the heartbreaking feeling of believing you “deserve to be unseen.” 🧠 “He Was Nice While Destroying Me”: No screaming. No obvious explosions. Just years of subtle criticism, control, judgment, and emotional erosion disguised as kindness. We talk about the kind of abuse that’s almost impossible to explain to people who haven’t lived it.⛪ Religious Abuse & Weaponized Faith: Allison shares how scripture, theology, and “being a good wife” were used to keep her quiet, submissive, and constantly questioning herself. 👀 The Moment Everything Finally Clicked: After years of chaos, infidelity, emotional neglect, and manipulation, one realization changed everything: “This is abuse.” We get into the terrifying moment when you finally see the relationship clearly for what it actually is.💔 The Stories That Will Make Your Jaw Drop: From emotional cruelty during pregnancies… to being compared to prostitutes… to subtle psychological control behind closed doors… some of these moments are genuinely hard to believe.🎶 Music as Trauma Therapy: One of the most beautiful parts of this episode is hearing how songwriting, singing, dancing, and creativity became part of Allison’s healing journey after years of emotional survival mode.JOIN US ON DISCORD!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Click ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to join us on Patreon!For all things DTG, visit 👉 ⁠www.dimmingthegaslight.com⁠⚖️ Disclaimer (because our lawyers make us say this): Dimming The Gaslight is based entirely on true events—except for the stuff we totally made up. Names, locations, and other identifying details have been changed. If you think we’re talking about you in this podcast… newsflash: you’re the narcissist.

Sonnet Daymont is a licensed marriage and family therapist specializing in relational trauma, but she also brings a profound, heavy lived experience to the table.🧠 When Dangerous Feels Like Home: Sonnet details her intense personal experience of working for a boss who later committed murder, explaining how early childhood trauma creates blind spots that cause us to choose danger because it feels familiar.⚠️ The Dark Triad Spectrum: We break down the exact differences between narcissists, sociopaths, and psychopaths, discussing what actually motivates them and whether these personality disorders can ever truly be treated.👁️ Rewiring the Brain with EMDR: A massive deep dive into exactly how EMDR therapy works. Sonnet explains how bilateral stimulation engages the prefrontal cortex to literally clear the physical and emotional charge of a traumatic memory down to a zero.🎸 Music & Finding Your Voice: Mac discusses his own healing journey through playing his new guitar, while Sonnet and Phil explore why society often silences the male emotional experience and how men can finally find a voice for their trauma.JOIN US ON DISCORD!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Click ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to join us on Patreon!For all things DTG, visit 👉 ⁠www.dimmingthegaslight.com⁠⚖️ Disclaimer (because our lawyers make us say this): Dimming The Gaslight is based entirely on true events—except for the stuff we totally made up. Names, locations, and other identifying details have been changed. If you think we’re talking about you in this podcast… newsflash: you’re the narcissist.

We’ve talked a lot about the damage narcissists leave behind… but this episode flips the script in a way we’ve never explored before.Lily joins us to share her story as a mother of a narcissist — a role that comes with intense shame, silence, and judgment. For years, she believed what many parents are conditioned to believe: if something is wrong with your child, it must be your fault.So she did what she thought a “good mother” should do. She apologized. She took responsibility.She gave more, sacrificed more… and kept trying to fix something that only seemed to get worse.But behind the scenes, something far more complex — and far more disturbing — was happening.In this episode, we dive into:What it looks like when narcissistic abuse comes from your own childHow guilt, societal pressure, and therapy culture can keep parents stuckThe subtle shift from loving relationship to emotional chaosWhy narcissists can appear vulnerable, self-aware… even empatheticThe breaking point where Lily realized: this isn’t me… this is herAnd the eerie sense of peace that comes with finally letting goThis conversation is raw, uncomfortable, and deeply eye-opening — especially if you’ve ever questioned your own reality in a relationship.Because sometimes… the roles aren’t what you think they are.JOIN US ON DISCORD!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Click ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to join us on Patreon!For all things DTG, visit 👉 ⁠www.dimmingthegaslight.com⁠⚖️ Disclaimer (because our lawyers make us say this): Dimming The Gaslight is based entirely on true events—except for the stuff we totally made up. Names, locations, and other identifying details have been changed. If you think we’re talking about you in this podcast… newsflash: you’re the narcissist.

We have a massive episode for you today! We talk a lot on this show about the absolute wreckage a narcissist leaves behind, but this week, we are getting into the actual science of how that damage fundamentally changes our brains and our bodies.Mac and Phil are joined by holistic psychologist and betrayal recovery expert, Dr. Debi Silber, to break down the exact roadmap for putting the pieces back together.🧠 The Science of Betrayal: Dr. Debi explains the fundamental difference between surviving a general life crisis and surviving a betrayal, and why traditional healing methods often fail to fix a shattered sense of trust.📉 Post Betrayal Syndrome (PBS): We dive into the staggering statistics of PBS and how emotional abuse directly manifests into chronic physical illnesses, digestive problems, and severe exhaustion.🛑 The "Stage 3" Trap: We break down the 5 Stages of Betrayal Recovery, focusing heavily on the dangerous "survival mode" where victims often get stuck for years—and why support groups can sometimes make it worse.📖 Getting Unstuck: Dr. Debi shares actionable steps from her newest book, Unstuck, on how to transition from mere survival into total transformation, even when you still have to co-parent or deal with the betrayer in everyday life.JOIN US ON DISCORD!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Click ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to join us on Patreon!For all things DTG, visit 👉 ⁠www.dimmingthegaslight.com⁠⚖️ Disclaimer (because our lawyers make us say this): Dimming The Gaslight is based entirely on true events—except for the stuff we totally made up. Names, locations, and other identifying details have been changed. If you think we’re talking about you in this podcast… newsflash: you’re the narcissist.

We are diving into the intersection of religion and narcissism. Following up on last week's Buddhist perspective, this episode takes a completely different, highly satirical approach to surviving toxic environments.🙏 Gaslighting for God: We sit down with author Becky Garrison to discuss her new book, a satirical guidebook and memoir that tackles spiritual abuse using personal stories and scholarly research. Click the link to buy her book! ❤️ The Ultimate Weapon: Mac and Becky discuss the power of satire when dealing with narcissists, including why a southern "bless your heart" is the absolute best way to tell someone off.🔥 Shattering Idols: Becky breaks down her philosophy on surviving a global reckoning, why tearing down false idols is painful but necessary, and how to find glimpses of real goodness in the fragments left behind.JOIN US ON DISCORD!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Click ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to join us on Patreon!For all things DTG, visit 👉 ⁠www.dimmingthegaslight.com⁠⚖️ Disclaimer (because our lawyers make us say this): Dimming The Gaslight is based entirely on true events—except for the stuff we totally made up. Names, locations, and other identifying details have been changed. If you think we’re talking about you in this podcast… newsflash: you’re the narcissist.

Mac and Phil sit down with special guest Nana Gyesie, a lifecoach, mentor and buddist! We uncover the exact "crossroads" in life that separates a humble empath from a manipulative narcissist.🧠 The Narcissism Spectrum: Guest Nana joins the show to explore how narcissism runs on a spectrum and how people consciously lean into dark manipulation.🔀 The Ultimate Crossroads: We break down the pivotal moment in life where a person goes through extreme hardship and must choose a path: become a toxic abuser or a humble empath.❤️ Surviving the Fire: Phil and Mac reflect on their own traumatic pasts, discussing why enduring real pain makes you highly empathetic rather than turning you cold and calculating.JOIN US ON DISCORD!⁠For all things DTG, visit 👉 ⁠www.dimmingthegaslight.com⁠⚖️ Disclaimer (because our lawyers make us say this): Dimming The Gaslight is based entirely on true events—except for the stuff we totally made up. Names, locations, and other identifying details have been changed. If you think we’re talking about you in this podcast… newsflash: you’re the narcissist.

What happens when the love-bombing is so intense that you find yourself trapped for nearly three decades? This week, we are joined by Mia Hanks @npd.andme , author of the upcoming memoir “Bride-Made”. Mia shares the terrifying reality of surviving a 29-year marriage to a narcissist.From the lavish dates and over-the-top gifts that reeled her in, to the relentless gaslighting that convinced her she was the root of every problem, Mia breaks down her journey. We discuss the danger of marrying someone who constantly paints themselves as the “smartest guy in the room” and the incredible strength it takes to finally walk away.JOIN US ON DISCORD!⁠⁠⁠⁠ Click ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to join us on Patreon!For all things DTG, visit 👉 ⁠www.dimmingthegaslight.com⁠⚖️ Disclaimer (because our lawyers make us say this): Dimming The Gaslight is based entirely on true events—except for the stuff we totally made up. Names, locations, and other identifying details have been changed. If you think we’re talking about you in this podcast… newsflash: you’re the narcissist.

Eva Lavina survived 25 years of narcissistic abuse, but she almost didn't survive the final discard. In this gripping interview, the author of "Death Is No Reason To Stop Living" joins us to tell a story that sounds like a movie script.After a mysterious incident left her in a coma with complete amnesia, Eva woke up to a nightmare: her husband wasn't trying to help her recover—he was trying to have her committed to a psychiatric ward.In this episode:The Poisoning Suspicion: Eva opens up about why she believes she was poisoned and the "missing" toxicology report that could have proved it.The Frame-Job: How her ex used her hospitalization to paint her as "suicidal" and "dangerous" to doctors.The Savior: The incredible moment her couple's therapist intervened and saved her from being locked away.JOIN US ON DISCORD!⁠⁠⁠ Click ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to join us on Patreon!For all things DTG, visit 👉 ⁠www.dimmingthegaslight.com⁠⚖️ Disclaimer (because our lawyers make us say this): Dimming The Gaslight is based entirely on true events—except for the stuff we totally made up. Names, locations, and other identifying details have been changed. If you think we’re talking about you in this podcast… newsflash: you’re the narcissist.

It started with an obsession with K-Dramas. It ended with a month-long solo trip to Korea for "plastic surgery" that was actually a cover for something much darker.Our guest Tyler shares one of the most insane discovery stories we have ever heard. After his wife left him home with their three kids for a month, Tyler heard a literal voice in his head say three words: "Check the iCloud."What he found wasn't recovery photos. It was a hidden folder containing over 1,000 pieces of evidence that shattered his reality. From the ultimate gaslight ("I cheated because you didn't love me enough") to living with the enemy for a year during the divorce, this is a story of survival you have to hear to believe.JOIN US ON DISCORD!⁠⁠ Click ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to join us on Patreon!For all things DTG, visit 👉 ⁠www.dimmingthegaslight.com⁠⚖️ Disclaimer (because our lawyers make us say this): Dimming The Gaslight is based entirely on true events—except for the stuff we totally made up. Names, locations, and other identifying details have been changed. If you think we’re talking about you in this podcast… newsflash: you’re the narcissist.

Sean survived the 2002 Bali Bombings and a car crash that shattered his pelvis—but nothing prepared him for the war inside his own home. A high-powered Tech CEO by day, Sean was living a nightmare by night with a wife who averaged 55 drinks a week and terrified their children.When his 16-year-old daughter whispered, "Mom is drunk-driving, she nearly killed me," Sean knew he had to act. He treated his divorce like a military operation: reading The Art of War, secretly moving documents to a storage unit, and spending $12,000 on a "fake" final holiday just to keep the peace before the extraction.The Aftermath: It wasn't just a breakup. It was a scorched-earth legal battle involving false allegations of sexual abuse that destroyed his reputation across two major cities.JOIN US ON DISCORD!⁠ Click ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to join us on Patreon!For all things DTG, visit 👉 ⁠www.dimmingthegaslight.com⁠⚖️ Disclaimer (because our lawyers make us say this): Dimming The Gaslight is based entirely on true events—except for the stuff we totally made up. Names, locations, and other identifying details have been changed. If you think we’re talking about you in this podcast… newsflash: you’re the narcissist.

“It felt like the total package. The chemistry, the deep conversations, the shared future—and then, overnight, it was gone. No reason. No explanation. Just a cold exit.”In this episode of Dimming the Gaslight, Phil and I sit down with psychologist @drj.smith to deconstruct the “Discard Phase.” We dive deep into why high-character “Givers” are targeted by “Empty Vessels” and the psychological blueprint of a relationship that has a pre-determined shelf life.In this episode, we discuss:*The Mirroring Phase: How they project your own best qualities back at you to create a “soulmate” illusion.*The Lack of Closure: Why searching for a “reason” from an empty shell is a trap.*The Recovery Blueprint: How to sit with the “maddening” discomfort and reclaim your worth through discipline and truth.*Humanism vs. The Mask: Recognizing the difference between someone who is beautiful on the outside and someone who is truly loving on the inside.You aren’t “broken” because they left; you are being liberated from a fake version of reality. It’s time to see your victory.JOIN US ON DISCORD! Click ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to join us on Patreon!For all things DTG, visit 👉 ⁠www.dimmingthegaslight.com⁠⚖️ Disclaimer (because our lawyers make us say this): Dimming The Gaslight is based entirely on true events—except for the stuff we totally made up. Names, locations, and other identifying details have been changed. If you think we’re talking about you in this podcast… newsflash: you’re the narcissist.

This is unlike any episode we have ever recorded. Our guest, John, isn’t looking back on abuse from years ago—he is actively escaping it right now. Recorded just 24 hours after fleeing a house where he was held prisoner, John joins Mac and Phil to tell a story of survival that sounds like a horror movie.From 24/7 camera surveillance and starvation tactics that left him emaciated, to financial devastation and a literal plot to hide his body in a crawlspace, John breaks down how he went from a successful father to a “prisoner of war” in his own relationship. Phil isn’t just a co-host on this one; he was the extraction team. This is a raw, unpolished, and terrifying look at coercive control and the fight for freedom.Click ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to join us on Patreon!For all things DTG, visit 👉 ⁠www.dimmingthegaslight.com⁠⚖️ Disclaimer (because our lawyers make us say this): Dimming The Gaslight is based entirely on true events—except for the stuff we totally made up. Names, locations, and other identifying details have been changed. If you think we’re talking about you in this podcast… newsflash: you’re the narcissist.

So I thought about it. And then thought about it, and thought about it, and thought about it some more.And then I got a case of the fuck-its.Why should I stay quiet? If it’s the truth, then let the truth be told. I’m putting this one-time Patreon episode out on the public podcast.This episode is a marathon. It's a 2.5-hour purge of the demons from a relationship I thought was real. Unfortunately, I fell for another narcissist.I'm breaking down every detail: the red flags I painted yellow, the warning signs I missed, and the cold reality of the discard. Am I crazy? Was none of it real? Or am I back to recovering from narcissistic abuse?You be the judge.Click ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to join us on Patreon!For all things DTG, visit 👉 ⁠www.dimmingthegaslight.com⁠⚖️ Disclaimer (because our lawyers make us say this): Dimming The Gaslight is based entirely on true events—except for the stuff we totally made up. Names, locations, and other identifying details have been changed. If you think we’re talking about you in this podcast… newsflash: you’re the narcissist.

🎄👻 Holiday Horror Stories is here.From ice that somehow caused a meltdown, to a pie that turned into a full-blown nightmare, to one person quietly planning their escape while the lights are still up…If your ex ever ruined the holidays, this episode is for you.Click ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to join us on Patreon!For all things DTG, visit 👉 ⁠www.dimmingthegaslight.com⁠⚖️ Disclaimer (because our lawyers make us say this): Dimming The Gaslight is based entirely on true events—except for the stuff we totally made up. Names, locations, and other identifying details have been changed. If you think we’re talking about you in this podcast… newsflash: you’re the narcissist.

@lets_talk_about_narcissism hosts the “The Narc Mother In Law” podcast. She is an old friend and I’ve been trying to have her on the pod for a long, long time!Erica’s ex-mother-in-law is a nightmare, and she didn’t get much help from her ex-husband either. Her MIL constantly badgered her about her weight, invited her husband’s ex-girlfriend to Christmas, and even made statements that led Erica to believe her life was in danger! You gotta hear this one!Click ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to join us on Patreon!For all things DTG, visit 👉 ⁠www.dimmingthegaslight.com⁠⚖️ Disclaimer (because our lawyers make us say this): Dimming The Gaslight is based entirely on true events—except for the stuff we totally made up. Names, locations, and other identifying details have been changed. If you think we’re talking about you in this podcast… newsflash: you’re the narcissist.

This week on Dimming the Gaslight, we welcome back Jennifer — you’ll remember her from Episode 113. Since then, her husband’s NEx has been busy, and Jen is here to give us an unbelievable update on the chaos she’s been dealing with.From the NEx stealing Jen’s idea for a special Disneyland trip… to taking cheap shots about Jen’s body… to even mocking a family member battling cancer — the shenanigans are somehow both shocking and painfully familiar.If you’ve ever found yourself screaming “OMG, ME TOO!” at this show, buckle up — Jen’s story is going to hit home.Click ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to join us on Patreon!For all things DTG, visit 👉 ⁠www.dimmingthegaslight.com⁠⚖️ Disclaimer (because our lawyers make us say this): Dimming The Gaslight is based entirely on true events—except for the stuff we totally made up. Names, locations, and other identifying details have been changed. If you think we’re talking about you in this podcast… newsflash: you’re the narcissist.

We always joke that “this whole situation could be a movie”… so why not a full-blown theatrical performance? This week, we’re joined by Brooke — writer, director, producer, and star of a one-woman show that exposes gaslighting for what it truly is: a full-on circus.She gives us a sneak peek into the plot, the characters, the chaos, and how each moment connects to her own lived experiences. This story is wild, raw, and unlike anything we’ve featured before.Trust me — you don’t want to miss this one.Click ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to join us on Patreon!For all things DTG, visit 👉 ⁠www.dimmingthegaslight.com⁠⚖️ Disclaimer (because our lawyers make us say this): Dimming The Gaslight is based entirely on true events—except for the stuff we totally made up. Names, locations, and other identifying details have been changed. If you think we’re talking about you in this podcast… newsflash: you’re the narcissist.

One of our all-time favorite guests is back this week! Dr. Josh Smith @drj.smith — psychologist and expert in narcissistic abuse — joins us to break down the victim complex of narcissists. It all starts with a real situation that happened with Mac, and unfolds into a powerful talk about how toxic people twist communication, flip the script, and play the victim… and how you can protect your peace.Click ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to join us on Patreon!For all things DTG, visit 👉 ⁠www.dimmingthegaslight.com⁠⚖️ Disclaimer (because our lawyers make us say this): Dimming The Gaslight is based entirely on true events—except for the stuff we totally made up. Names, locations, and other identifying details have been changed. If you think we’re talking about you in this podcast… newsflash: you’re the narcissist.

This week, we share one of the most harrowing “neighbor from hell” stories you will ever hear. Our guest, Heather, details a relentless campaign of terror that goes far beyond a simple dispute. She describes enduring constant stalking, high beams shone into her home at all hours, and disruptive heavy machinery (bobcats) running day and night. The harassment allegedly escalated to horrifying levels, including arrows and Molotov cocktails being shot at her home. Heather’s story of survival is a must-listen.Click ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to join us on Patreon!For all things DTG, visit 👉 ⁠www.dimmingthegaslight.com⁠⚖️ Disclaimer (because our lawyers make us say this): Dimming The Gaslight is based entirely on true events—except for the stuff we totally made up. Names, locations, and other identifying details have been changed. If you think we’re talking about you in this podcast… newsflash: you’re the narcissist.

@kaylynhakansontheauthor is a new friend of the podcast that wrote a book called “You Can’t Break Me”. She joins us on this exciting episode to detail how her good intentioned journey to find her biological brother turned into a harrowing journey of narcissistic abuse, unmitigated danger, and ultimately, parental alienation by an absolutely broken court system!Click here to buy Kaylyn's book "You Can't Break Me"Click here for Kaylyn's new Podcast!Click ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to join us on Patreon!For all things DTG, visit 👉 ⁠www.dimmingthegaslight.com⁠⚖️ Disclaimer (because our lawyers make us say this): Dimming The Gaslight is based entirely on true events—except for the stuff we totally made up. Names, locations, and other identifying details have been changed. If you think we’re talking about you in this podcast… newsflash: you’re the narcissist.

Eddie is back from last week with part 2 of his story! From how he met his NEx, to the torment from her family, to realizing he was in a toxic relationship, Eddie’s story will continue to have you on the edge of your seat!Click ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to join us on Patreon!For all things DTG, visit 👉 ⁠www.dimmingthegaslight.com⁠⚖️ Disclaimer (because our lawyers make us say this): Dimming The Gaslight is based entirely on true events—except for the stuff we totally made up. Names, locations, and other identifying details have been changed. If you think we’re talking about you in this podcast… newsflash: you’re the narcissist.

Eddie is here with an insane story! With what starts with a road trip with his NEx that turns into a compete meltdown, Eddie takes us down memory lane with stories that will make the hair on your arms stand up!Click ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to join us on Patreon!For all things DTG, visit 👉 ⁠www.dimmingthegaslight.com⁠⚖️ Disclaimer (because our lawyers make us say this): Dimming The Gaslight is based entirely on true events—except for the stuff we totally made up. Names, locations, and other identifying details have been changed. If you think we’re talking about you in this podcast… newsflash: you’re the narcissist.

Matilda joins us all the way from Ireland to tell us about her story of parental alienation! After a shocking turn from her NEx at the birth of her first child, he began systematically trying to alienate her from her children. Now, Matilda is in the fight of her life to reconnect with them!Click ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to join us on Patreon!For all things DTG, visit 👉 ⁠www.dimmingthegaslight.com⁠⚖️ Disclaimer (because our lawyers make us say this): Dimming The Gaslight is based entirely on true events—except for the stuff we totally made up. Names, locations, and other identifying details have been changed. If you think we’re talking about you in this podcast… newsflash: you’re the narcissist.

Ethan is a new friend of mine, and his story is WILD. From his ex constantly accusing him of cheating… to attacking him in his sleep… to even trying to stop him from learning about narcissism—Ethan’s journey will have you gasping from start to finish.Click ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to join us on Patreon!For all things DTG, visit 👉 www.dimmingthegaslight.com⚖️ Disclaimer (because our lawyers make us say this): Dimming The Gaslight is based entirely on true events—except for the stuff we totally made up. Names, locations, and other identifying details have been changed. If you think we’re talking about you in this podcast… newsflash: you’re the narcissist.

We all know the courts look for physical violence when ruling on family court cases, but what about coercive control? How does that fit in? Well, Sanda Fava ESQ is here to talk with us about some updated laws and rulings in NJ! We discuss what judges look for, the evidence we need to present, and what we can do to help our children!Click ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to join us on Patreon!For all things DTG, visit us at ⁠⁠⁠DimmingTheGaslight.com⁠⁠⁠!DISCLAIMER: Our lawyers say we need this disclaimer. So, Dimming The Gaslight is based entirely on true events, except for the shit we totally made up. Names, locations, and other identifying characteristics have been altered. If you think we’re talking about you in this podcast, newsflash: you are the narcissist!

David Littman is a retired Detective that spent over 27 years on the force. He breaks down how he responded to a domestic violence call, what he looks for, what he thinks about the justice system, and shares some of his craziest stories from the force!Click ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to join us on Patreon!For all things DTG, visit us at ⁠⁠DimmingTheGaslight.com⁠⁠!DISCLAIMER: Our lawyers say we need this disclaimer. So, Dimming The Gaslight is based entirely on true events, except for the shit we totally made up. Names, locations, and other identifying characteristics have been altered. If you think we’re talking about you in this podcast, newsflash: you are the narcissist!

Christopher Anderson is an attorney at New Leaf Family Law Firm (@newleaf.family), a full service law firm out of Colorado, USA. He's here to discuss what narcissism looks like in the court room. We discuss a range of topics such as how he allows a narcissist a long rope of lies before reeling them back in, how he manages cases in high conflict divorces, and whether or not the courts are equipt to handle the charade a narcissist loves to parade in the court room! Click ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to join us on Patreon!For all things DTG, visit us at ⁠DimmingTheGaslight.com⁠!DISCLAIMER: Our lawyers say we need this disclaimer. So, Dimming The Gaslight is based entirely on true events, except for the shit we totally made up. Names, locations, and other identifying characteristics have been altered. If you think we’re talking about you in this podcast, newsflash: you are the narcissist!

Kelly is back to tell part 2 of her story - how the county prosecutor's office TOTALLY dropped the ball on her case! She goes in depth on the legal process, how she was wrongfully accused of a felony, and how her psychotic ex was stalking her - all under the prosecutor's nose!Kelly's links:Kelly's K9s: Tails of CourageThrive Therapy ServicesKelly's Therapeutic Counseling Services_________________________________Click ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to join us on Patreon!DimmingTheGaslight.comDISCLAIMER: Our lawyers say we need this disclaimer. So, Dimming The Gaslight is based entirely on true events, except for the shit we totally made up. Names, locations, and other identifying characteristics have been altered. If you think we’re talking about you in this podcast, newsflash: you are the narcissist!

Kelly Sutliff survived a brutal attack that was featured on HBO Max's series "Toxic". Her ex husband turned her home into a blood bath, trying to make it look like Kelly tried to kill HIM! She joins Phil and I to break down the early love bombing phase, red flags and lies she wishes she had caught in the beginning, and details the attack that will leave your heart beat pumping!Kelly's links:Kelly's K9s: Tails of CourageThrive Therapy ServicesKelly's Therapeutic Counseling Services_________________________________Click ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to join us on Patreon!Click⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for the DTG Merch Store!Click⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for all things DTG!DISCLAIMER: Our lawyers say we need this disclaimer. So, Dimming The Gaslight is based entirely on true events, except for the shit we totally made up. Names, locations, and other identifying characteristics have been altered. If you think we’re talking about you in this podcast, newsflash: you are the narcissist!

@dougbuggle is one of my absolute favorite people I’ve ever connected with in the narcissistic abuse community! He’s back - with a friend @robbyseinschwartz - to be our first ever third time guest! Doug wrote a book called “Goodbye Tammy: Third Time Was Not A Charm”, and now has a HUGE announcement that he’s sharing exclusively on DTG! Listen to the episode to find out the big announcement!Click here to buy Doug’s book!Click ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to join us on Patreon!Click⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for the DTG Merch Store!Click⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for all things DTG!DISCLAIMER: Our lawyers say we need this disclaimer. So, Dimming The Gaslight is based entirely on true events, except for the shit we totally made up. Names, locations, and other identifying characteristics have been altered. If you think we’re talking about you in this podcast, newsflash: you are the narcissist!

Derrick is a long time listener and friend of the pod with a story to tell! He had an abusive step father that made his life hell. He went to the military just to get away, wrestled with his mental health, and his step father even triangulated his immediate family against him!Click ⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠ to join us on Patreon!Click⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for the DTG Merch Store!Click⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for all things DTG!DISCLAIMER: Our lawyers say we need this disclaimer. So, Dimming The Gaslight is based entirely on true events, except for the shit we totally made up. Names, locations, and other identifying characteristics have been altered. If you think we’re talking about you in this podcast, newsflash: you are the narcissist!

JP is back to tell part 2 of her story! From violent outbursts towards her kids, to police calls, and court dates, JP’s story keeps getting crazier and crazier!Click ⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠ to join us on Patreon!Click⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for the DTG Merch Store!Click⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for all things DTG!DISCLAIMER: Our lawyers say we need this disclaimer. So, Dimming The Gaslight is based entirely on true events, except for the shit we totally made up. Names, locations, and other identifying characteristics have been altered. If you think we’re talking about you in this podcast, newsflash: you are the narcissist!

On this episode of the podcast, Phil’s sister’s best friend joins the show with a wild story! She has stories about her NEx weaponizing religion, dating her roommate, and even screwing up the labor process of having their first child!Click ⁠⁠here⁠⁠ to join us on Patreon!Click⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for the DTG Merch Store!Click⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for all things DTG!DISCLAIMER: Our lawyers say we need this disclaimer. So, Dimming The Gaslight is based entirely on true events, except for the shit we totally made up. Names, locations, and other identifying characteristics have been altered. If you think we’re talking about you in this podcast, newsflash: you are the narcissist!

Danny is another fan of Phil’s old podcast that came over to DTG. Danny has been through the wringer, and is looking to fight back. We talk about coping techniques, how can we change the system to stop crippling parents fighting for more time with their kids, and our outlook for the future!Click ⁠here⁠ to join us on Patreon!Click⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for the DTG Merch Store!Click⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for all things DTG!DISCLAIMER: Our lawyers say we need this disclaimer. So, Dimming The Gaslight is based entirely on true events, except for the shit we totally made up. Names, locations, and other identifying characteristics have been altered. If you think we’re talking about you in this podcast, newsflash: you are the narcissist!

TRIGGER WARNING: This episode of DTG is a gritty one, where Lynn joins us to talk about how her narc used sexual coertion to trap her into staying in the relationship. We have talk about abortion, stalking, abuse, and how Lynn came out a warrior through it all! Click here to join us on Patreon!Click⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for the DTG Merch Store!Click⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for all things DTG!DISCLAIMER: Our lawyers say we need this disclaimer. So, Dimming The Gaslight is based entirely on true events, except for the shit we totally made up. Names, locations, and other identifying characteristics have been altered. If you think we’re talking about you in this podcast, newsflash: you are the narcissist!

Whitney has a heralding story about overcoming narcissism. She details domestic violence, her bouts with brain fog, and the differences between men and women as it relates to narcissism.Click⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for the DTG Merch Store!Click⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for all things DTG!DISCLAIMER: Our lawyers say we need this disclaimer. So, Dimming The Gaslight is based entirely on true events, except for the shit we totally made up. Names, locations, and other identifying characteristics have been altered. If you think we’re talking about you in this podcast, newsflash: you are the narcissist!

Jennifer is in the process of writing a book about her tumultuous divorce from a narcissist. From flipping out about getting engaged, to her friends pleading with her to get divorced, to her steps from healing, Jennifer shares her triumph over a crazy narc!Click⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for the DTG Merch Store!Click⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for all things DTG!DISCLAIMER: Our lawyers say we need this disclaimer. So, Dimming The Gaslight is based entirely on true events, except for the shit we totally made up. Names, locations, and other identifying characteristics have been altered. If you think we’re talking about you in this podcast, newsflash: you are the narcissist!

@carlalittotherapy is a therapist that specializes in Narc Abuse recovery! She wrote a book called “Outsmarting Egomaniacs” and she’s here to talk to us about therapy with a narcissist and those affected. She tells us about therapy patterns she sees from the narc and victim, what signs she looks for during therapy, and when she says it’s time to rip the cord and set yourself free!Click⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for the DTG Merch Store!Click⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for all things DTG!DISCLAIMER: Our lawyers say we need this disclaimer. So, Dimming The Gaslight is based entirely on true events, except for the shit we totally made up. Names, locations, and other identifying characteristics have been altered. If you think we’re talking about you in this podcast, newsflash: you are the narcissist!

Dr. Joshua Smith, known on Instagram as @drj.smith, is a psychologist specializing in chronic illness, pain, relationships, boundaries, and communication.His Instagram content includes posts and reels addressing various psychological topics - from the tactics narcs use to how to break free! He's here to to break down their thought process, how you can break free, and have some laughs along the way! Click⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for the DTG Merch Store!Click⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for all things DTG!DISCLAIMER: Our lawyers say we need this disclaimer. So, Dimming The Gaslight is based entirely on true events, except for the shit we totally made up. Names, locations, and other identifying characteristics have been altered. If you think we’re talking about you in this podcast, newsflash: you are the narcissist!

Do you know those times when you find yourself loving a page’s content, but you don’t know their story? Well that’s me with @sincerelydivorced ! Bethany and Hillary are here to talk about how they’re tag teaming narcissism and bringing their humor along with it. Bethany divorced a narc after 20+ years. Hillary filed for divorced while pregnant. And they tell some hilarious stories along the way!Click⁠⁠⁠⁠ here⁠⁠⁠⁠ for the DTG Merch Store!Click⁠⁠⁠⁠ here⁠⁠⁠⁠ for all things DTG!DISCLAIMER: Our lawyers say we need this disclaimer. So, Dimming The Gaslight is based entirely on true events, except for the shit we totally made up. Names, locations, and other identifying characteristics have been altered. If you think we’re talking about you in this podcast, newsflash: you are the narcissist!

Dr. Anthony Mazella @thenarcissism.decoder a NYC psychologist and is the face behind “The Narcissist Decoder”, another podcast that dives deep into the mind of dealing with narcissism. He’s with us today to discuss what we have deemed as the “forgotten spectrum of narcissism” - the vulnerable narcissist. He’s here to talk about the similarities and differences of this version of narcissism, what their triggers are, and how you can navigate life around a vulnerable narcissist!Click⁠⁠⁠ here⁠⁠⁠ for the DTG Merch Store!Click⁠⁠⁠ here⁠⁠⁠ for all things DTG!DISCLAIMER: Our lawyers say we need this disclaimer. So, Dimming The Gaslight is based entirely on true events, except for the shit we totally made up. Names, locations, and other identifying characteristics have been altered. If you think we’re talking about you in this podcast, newsflash: you are the narcissist!

Kristina is our first ever top tier Patreon member who is here to share her story about her NEx. From getting her pregnant as a teenager, to being completely uninvolved, to stalking and intimidating, her NEx is absolutely fit for a straight jacket!Click⁠⁠ here⁠⁠ for the DTG Merch Store!Click⁠⁠ here⁠⁠ for all things DTG!DISCLAIMER: Our lawyers say we need this disclaimer. So, Dimming The Gaslight is based entirely on true events, except for the shit we totally made up. Names, locations, and other identifying characteristics have been altered. If you think we’re talking about you in this podcast, newsflash: you are the narcissist!

Kristina is our first ever top tier Patreon member who is here to share her story about her NEx. From getting her pregnant as a teenager, to being completely uninvolved, to stalking and intimidating, her NEx is absolutely fit for a straight jacket!Click⁠ here⁠ for the DTG Merch Store!Click⁠ here⁠ for all things DTG!DISCLAIMER: Our lawyers say we need this disclaimer. So, Dimming The Gaslight is based entirely on true events, except for the shit we totally made up. Names, locations, and other identifying characteristics have been altered. If you think we’re talking about you in this podcast, newsflash: you are the narcissist!

Judge Anthony Mohr is a California Supreme Court judge that recounts his experience of being between an affluent step dad and his bio dad, struggling to make ends meet. His book is called “Every Other Weekend” where he goes through his feelings about his family, how it motivated him to attend Harvard, and what ultimately led to him becoming a judge. He also answers some questions about what judges do and don’t know about narcissism!Click here for the DTG Merch Store!Click here for all things DTG!DISCLAIMER: Our lawyers say we need this disclaimer. So, Dimming The Gaslight is based entirely on true events, except for the shit we totally made up. Names, locations, and other identifying characteristics have been altered. If you think we’re talking about you in this podcast, newsflash: you are the narcissist!

Did you listen to last week’s episode about my dating life after narc abuse? Well, Christian did and he’s a former DTG guest from episode 80! Christian is back to share his post narc abuse dating stories, some red flags he’s noticed, and why he’s even getting wrongfully doxed online by other bitter jaded daters!Enjoy Christian’s episode!For all things DTG, click the link in my bio!DISCLAIMER: Our lawyers say we need this disclaimer. So, Dimming The Gaslight is based entirely on true events, except for the shit we totally made up. Names, locations, and other identifying characteristics have been altered. If you think we’re talking about you in this podcast, newsflash: you are the narcissist!

A question we get a lot is, "How were you ever able to date again after your narcissistic relationship?" Well, you to turn over a lot of stones! Phil and I share some fun stories about stepping stones on our paths to finding new relationships, red flags new prospective partners presented, and some bullets we dodged along the way! For all things DTG, click the link in my bio!DISCLAIMER: Our lawyers say we need this disclaimer. So, Dimming The Gaslight is based entirely on true events, except for the shit we totally made up. Names, locations, and other identifying characteristics have been altered. If you think we’re talking about you in this podcast, newsflash: you are the narcissist!

Phil and I always like to try different stuff, so this week, Phil tells me the story about Courtney Clenney, the OnlyFans model accused of unaliving her boyfriend! He breaks down the story for me, tells me about her narcissistic traits, and I relate the stories he tells me to my own experiences!Enjoy Episode 140!For all things DTG, click the link in my bio!DISCLAIMER: Our lawyers say we need this disclaimer. So, Dimming The Gaslight is based entirely on true events, except for the shit we totally made up. Names, locations, and other identifying characteristics have been altered. If you think we’re talking about you in this podcast, newsflash: you are the narcissist!

For some crazy reason, narcissists have to ruin the happy holidays we enjoy! On this episode, Phil and I cover listener submitted stories about your “Holiday Horror Stories”, where the narc has to siphon all of the attention to them. And Mac even shares some crazy stories of his own!Enjoy Holiday Horror Stories!For all things DTG, click the link in my bio!DISCLAIMER: Our lawyers say we need this disclaimer. So, Dimming The Gaslight is based entirely on true events, except for the shit we totally made up. Names, locations, and other identifying characteristics have been altered. If you think we’re talking about you in this podcast, newsflash: you are the narcissist!

Heidi’s story @heidistarkauthor is a crazy one, from her NEx saying he manifested her (flaws and all), to her finding out he has a criminal record, to breaking her skull, she details a tumultuous relationship with a psychopath narcissist!Enjoy Heidi’s episode story!For all things DTG, click the link in my bio!DISCLAIMER: Our lawyers say we need this disclaimer. So, Dimming The Gaslight is based entirely on true events, except for the shit we totally made up. Names, locations, and other identifying characteristics have been altered. If you think we’re talking about you in this podcast, newsflash: you are the narcissist! #podcast #narcissist #narcissisticabuse

Last week we covered part 1 of Matt’s story, a former guest from Phil’s podcast. Last week, Matt told us about meeting his now NEx in China, having children, and that NEx trying to take the children back to China from Matt! This week, we talk the trial of Matt’s life, fighting for his kids, co-parenting with his crazy NEx, and some shocking revelations that leave Phil and me shocked!Enjoy Part 2 of Matt’s story!For all things DTG, click the link in my bio!DISCLAIMER: Our lawyers say we need this disclaimer. So, Dimming The Gaslight is based entirely on true events, except for the shit we totally made up. Names, locations, and other identifying characteristics have been altered. If you think we’re talking about you in this podcast, newsflash: you are the narcissist!