Divorce in Plain English

Nobody asked how I was coping.They just expected me to keep going.And I did.In this episode of Divorce in Plain English, I talk openly about something I have never addressed directly before: the silence many men carry through divorce.I share my own experience of working seven days a week, carrying financial pressure alone, watching my mortgage jump to 8.8%, taking out loans to cover bills, and convincing myself I was fine when I wasn't.This is not a legal episode.It is a personal one.We talk about why men stay silent, what that silence costs us financially and emotionally, and what I wish I had done differently.If you are going through a divorce right now, or know someone who is, I hope this episode helps.No legal advice. Just plain English from someone who has been there.📩 Free weekly newsletter: https://divorceinplainenglish.substack.com📅 Book a personal session (£95): https://calendly.com/adejames/talk-to-vincent-personal-divorce-experience-session📖 Financial Remedy Roadmap ebook (£25): https://shinajames.gumroad.com/l/drdgzb

What divorce actually does to a person emotionally — and why the weight of it is so rarely talked about honestlyHow prolonged financial stress during proceedings affects you psychologically — and what happens when grief gets pushed down instead of processedWhat Dr Venus Olla wishes every person going through divorce knew about their own emotional response to itVincent James is joined by Dr Venus Olla — Registered Psychotherapist, trauma specialist and founder of Olla Healing Arts in Windsor, Ontario — for the most personal and important conversation this podcast has ever had. Dr Olla brings over 20 years of clinical experience in trauma, grief and life transitions to a discussion that goes far beyond the finances.This content is based on personal experience and clinical expertise. It is for information only — not legal, financial or therapeutic advice. Always seek advice from a qualified professional for your specific circumstances.📩 Free weekly newsletter: https://divorceinplainenglish.substack.com📅 Book a personal session with Vincent (£95): https://calendly.com/adejames/talk-to-vincent-personal-divorce-experience-sessionhttps://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLq4xFuF59tYompLnGumBPqzaR3ddGilFz📖 Financial Remedy Roadmap ebook (£25): https://shinajames.gumroad.com/l/drdgzb🌐 Work with Dr Venus Olla: https://www.venusolla.com🎙️ Season 2 of Divorce in Plain English is now live — new episodes every week. Follow on Spotify so you never miss one.

I have answered questions about divorce finances for two seasons. In two days I ask the questions I could never answer myself — with Dr Venus Olla, Registered Psychotherapist with many years experience in trauma and grief. Dropping 1st June.This content is based on personal experience of the financial remedy process in England and Wales. It is for information only — not legal or financial advice. Always seek advice from a qualified professional.📩 Free weekly newsletter: https://divorceinplainenglish.substack.com📅 Book a personal session (£95): https://calendly.com/adejames/talk-to-vincent-personal-divorce-experience-session📖 Financial Remedy Roadmap ebook (£25): https://shinajames.gumroad.com/l/drdgzb🎙️ Full episodes on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/6co6pfsXEjTLB2XRhXZRCG▶️ YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@DivorceinPlainEnglish

In eight days the most personal and important episode of Divorce in Plain English drops. Dr Venus Olla — Registered Psychotherapist — joins Vincent James for a conversation about the emotional weight of divorce that most people carry completely alone.This content is based on personal experience of the financial remedy process in England and Wales. It is for information only — not legal or financial advice. Always seek advice from a qualified professional.📩 Free weekly newsletter: https://divorceinplainenglish.substack.com📅 Book a personal session (£95): https://calendly.com/adejames/talk-to-vincent-personal-divorce-experience-session📖 Financial Remedy Roadmap ebook (£25): https://shinajames.gumroad.com/l/drdgzb🎙️ Full episodes on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/6co6pfsXEjTLB2XRhXZRCG▶️ YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@DivorceinPlainEnglish

There was a moment in my divorce when I realized that nobody was coming to explain the process to me — and that if I did not start understanding it myself I was going to lose things I could not afford to lose.Why the fog of not understanding the financial remedy process costs you more than you realize — in money, in decisions and in your sense of controlThe moment Vincent stopped reacting and started understanding — and how that single shift changed everything about how he approached his proceedingsWhat 22 years of carrying the financial weight of a marriage actually means in the eyes of the court — and why Vincent found out too lateThis content is based on personal experience of the financial remedy process in England and Wales. It is for information only — not legal or financial advice. Always seek advice from a qualified professional.📩 Free weekly newsletter: https://divorceinplainenglish.substack.com📅 Book a personal session (£95): https://calendly.com/adejames/talk-to-vincent-personal-divorce-experience-session📖 Financial Remedy Roadmap ebook (£25): https://shinajames.gumroad.com/l/drdgzb🎙️ Season 2 of Divorce in Plain English is now live — new episodes every week. Follow on Spotify so you never miss one.

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Form E is not just a form — it is the foundation of your entire divorce case. And most people do not realize that until they have already made mistakes they cannot take back.Why Form E is the most important document in the financial remedy process and what the court actually does with itThe documents you must gather before you fill in a single word — and why starting without them causes costly delaysWhat happens when the other side does not complete Form E honestly — and what tools the court has to deal with itThis content is based on personal experience of the financial remedy process in England and Wales. It is for information only — not legal or financial advice. Always seek advice from a qualified professional.📩 Free weekly newsletter: https://divorceinplainenglish.substack.com📅 Book a personal session (£95): https://calendly.com/adejames/talk-to-vincent-personal-divorce-experience-session📖 Financial Remedy Roadmap ebook (£25): https://shinajames.gumroad.com/l/drdgzb🎙️ Season 2 of Divorce in Plain English is now live — new episodes every week. Follow on Spotify so you never miss one.

Season 2 Episode 2 - Grey Divorce: What No One Tells You About Splitting Later in Life | Divorce in Plain EnglishNobody prepares you for what it means to rebuild your financial life in your fifties or sixties — when everything you planned together suddenly has to be divided.Why the pension — not the house — is almost always the most important asset in a grey divorceWhat most people miss about the state pension and how divorce later in life affects your entitlementHow the adult children dynamic leads people to accept less than they are entitled to — and what to do insteadThis content is based on personal experience of the financial remedy process in England and Wales. It is for information only — not legal or financial advice. Always seek advice from a qualified professional.📩 Free weekly newsletter: https://divorceinplainenglish.substack.com📅 Book a personal session (£95): https://calendly.com/adejames/talk-to-vincent-personal-divorce-experience-session📖 Financial Remedy Roadmap ebook (£25): https://shinajames.gumroad.com/l/drdgzb🎙️ Season 2 of Divorce in Plain English is now live — new episodes every two weeks. Follow on Spotify so you never miss one.

Season 2, Episode 1.Divorcing a Narcissist: What It Means for Your FinancesWhen you are divorcing a narcissist the financial process does not just feel difficult — it is designed to feel impossible. And that is not an accident.Why narcissists rarely cooperate with financial disclosure and what the court can do about itHow money is used as a control mechanism during the marriage — and how that affects your caseThe one decision Vincent made that cost him more than it should have — and what he would do differentlyThis content is based on personal experience of the financial remedy process in England and Wales. It is for information only — not legal or financial advice. Always seek advice from a qualified professional.📩 Free weekly newsletter: https://divorceinplainenglish.substack.com📅 Book a personal session (£95): https://calendly.com/adejames/talk-to-vincent-personal-divorce-experience-session📖 Financial Remedy Roadmap ebook (£25): https://shinajames.gumroad.com/l/drdgzb🎙️ Season 2 of Divorce in Plain English is now live — new episodes every week. Follow on Spotify so you never miss one.

If this is resonating, please follow the podcast — it takes 3 seconds and you will never miss an episode. And if you know someone going through a divorce right now, please share this with them. It might be exactly what they need to hear.Practical Advice for Moving Forward After Divorce | Divorce in Plain EnglishDivorce is not just an ending — it is the start of a new chapter, and this episode gives you the practical guidance to move forward with confidence.Straightforward practical advice for anyone who has been through or is going through a UK divorceThe key things Vincent wishes someone had told him when he was navigating the process himselfA closing message from Vincent on resilience, rebuilding and why the best is still ahead of youThis content is based on personal experience of the financial remedy process in England and Wales. It is for information only — not legal or financial advice. Always seek advice from a qualified professional.📩 Free weekly newsletter: https://divorceinplainenglish.substack.com📅 Book a personal session (£95): https://calendly.com/adejames/talk-to-vincent-personal-divorce-experience-session📖 Financial Remedy Roadmap ebook (£25): https://shinajames.gumroad.com/l/drdgzbLegal Notice: This podcast is hosted by Vincent James, sharing personal experience of the financial remedy process in England and Wales only. Nothing in this podcast constitutes legal, financial or tax advice. Vincent is not a solicitor, barrister, financial adviser or legal professional. Every divorce situation is unique. Always seek advice from a qualified professional about your own circumstances. Any support offered by the host is peer emotional support only — not case-specific legal guidance.

If this is resonating, please follow the podcast — it takes 3 seconds and you will never miss an episode. And if you know someone going through a divorce right now, please share this with them. It might be exactly what they need to hear.Common Questions and Myths About UK Divorce Finances Answered | Divorce in Plain EnglishThere is so much misinformation about divorce finances in the UK — this episode separates the facts from the myths once and for all.The most common questions people going through a UK divorce ask about their finances — answered honestly and in plain EnglishThe biggest myths about how money and assets are divided in England and Wales and why they are wrongWhat Vincent discovered about the gap between what people believe and what actually happens in the financial remedy processThis content is based on personal experience of the financial remedy process in England and Wales. It is for information only — not legal or financial advice. Always seek advice from a qualified professional.📩 Free weekly newsletter: https://divorceinplainenglish.substack.com📅 Book a personal session (£95): https://calendly.com/adejames/talk-to-vincent-personal-divorce-experience-session📖 Financial Remedy Roadmap ebook (£25): https://shinajames.gumroad.com/l/drdgzbLegal Notice: This podcast is hosted by Vincent James, sharing personal experience of the financial remedy process in England and Wales only. Nothing in this podcast constitutes legal, financial or tax advice. Vincent is not a solicitor, barrister, financial adviser or legal professional. Every divorce situation is unique. Always seek advice from a qualified professional about your own circumstances. Any support offered by the host is peer emotional support only — not case-specific legal guidance.

If this is resonating, please follow the podcast — it takes 3 seconds and you will never miss an episode. And if you know someone going through a divorce right now, please share this with them. It might be exactly what they need to hear.How to Stay Financially Healthy After Your Divorce | Divorce in Plain EnglishDivorce can leave your finances in a difficult place — but with the right steps you can rebuild and come out stronger.The practical steps to take immediately after your divorce to get your finances back on trackHow to manage your budget, credit and financial identity when starting over on your ownWhat Vincent did to rebuild his own financial health after divorce and the habits that made the biggest differenceThis content is based on personal experience of the financial remedy process in England and Wales. It is for information only — not legal or financial advice. Always seek advice from a qualified professional.📩 Free weekly newsletter: https://divorceinplainenglish.substack.com📅 Book a personal session (£95): https://calendly.com/adejames/talk-to-vincent-personal-divorce-experience-session📖 Financial Remedy Roadmap ebook (£25): https://shinajames.gumroad.com/l/drdgzbLegal Notice: This podcast is hosted by Vincent James, sharing personal experience of the financial remedy process in England and Wales only. Nothing in this podcast constitutes legal, financial or tax advice. Vincent is not a solicitor, barrister, financial adviser or legal professional. Every divorce situation is unique. Always seek advice from a qualified professional about your own circumstances. Any support offered by the host is peer emotional support only — not case-specific legal guidance.

If this is resonating, please follow the podcast — it takes 3 seconds and you will never miss an episode. And if you know someone going through a divorce right now, please share this with them. It might be exactly what they need to hear.What Happens After Your Financial Settlement Is Agreed? | Divorce in Plain EnglishReaching a financial settlement feels like the finish line — but there are important steps that happen after that most people are not prepared for.What actually happens once your financial settlement is agreed and how the order is put into effectThe practical steps you need to take after the financial remedy process concludes to protect your positionWhat Vincent experienced in the period after his own settlement was agreed and what he learned during that transitionThis content is based on personal experience of the financial remedy process in England and Wales. It is for information only — not legal or financial advice. Always seek advice from a qualified professional.📩 Free weekly newsletter: https://divorceinplainenglish.substack.com📅 Book a personal session (£95): https://calendly.com/adejames/talk-to-vincent-personal-divorce-experience-session📖 Financial Remedy Roadmap ebook (£25): https://shinajames.gumroad.com/l/drdgzbLegal Notice: This podcast is hosted by Vincent James, sharing personal experience of the financial remedy process in England and Wales only. Nothing in this podcast constitutes legal, financial or tax advice. Vincent is not a solicitor, barrister, financial adviser or legal professional. Every divorce situation is unique. Always seek advice from a qualified professional about your own circumstances. Any support offered by the host is peer emotional support only — not case-specific legal guidance.

If this is resonating, please follow the podcast — it takes 3 seconds and you will never miss an episode. And if you know someone going through a divorce right now, please share this with them. It might be exactly what they need to hear.The Emotional Toll of the Financial Remedy Process | Divorce in Plain EnglishNobody prepares you for how emotionally draining the financial side of divorce can be — this episode talks honestly about what it really feels like.How the financial remedy process affects you mentally and emotionally as well as financiallyWhy the stress of dealing with money, assets and legal proceedings during divorce is so often underestimatedWhat Vincent experienced emotionally during his own financial remedy process and how he got through itThis content is based on personal experience of the financial remedy process in England and Wales. It is for information only — not legal or financial advice. Always seek advice from a qualified professional.📩 Free weekly newsletter: https://divorceinplainenglish.substack.com📅 Book a personal session (£95): https://calendly.com/adejames/talk-to-vincent-personal-divorce-experience-session📖 Financial Remedy Roadmap ebook (£25): https://shinajames.gumroad.com/l/drdgzbLegal Notice: This podcast is hosted by Vincent James, sharing personal experience of the financial remedy process in England and Wales only. Nothing in this podcast constitutes legal, financial or tax advice. Vincent is not a solicitor, barrister, financial adviser or legal professional. Every divorce situation is unique. Always seek advice from a qualified professional about your own circumstances. Any support offered by the host is peer emotional support only — not case-specific legal guidance.

If this is resonating, please follow the podcast — it takes 3 seconds and you will never miss an episode. And if you know someone going through a divorce right now, please share this with them. It might be exactly what they need to hear.How Does a Fair Financial Settlement Actually Come Together? | Divorce in Plain EnglishUnderstanding how all the pieces of a financial settlement fit together can be the difference between a fair outcome and a costly mistake.How everything covered in the first five episodes — assets, the family home, pensions and entitlements — combines into one overall financial settlementWhat a fair settlement actually looks like in practice and how the court balances everything upWhat Vincent learned about pulling the full picture together during his own financial remedy processThis content is based on personal experience of the financial remedy process in England and Wales. It is for information only — not legal or financial advice. Always seek advice from a qualified professional.📩 Free weekly newsletter: https://divorceinplainenglish.substack.com📅 Book a personal session (£95): https://calendly.com/adejames/talk-to-vincent-personal-divorce-experience-session📖 Financial Remedy Roadmap ebook (£25): https://shinajames.gumroad.com/l/drdgzbLegal Notice: This podcast is hosted by Vincent James, sharing personal experience of the financial remedy process in England and Wales only. Nothing in this podcast constitutes legal, financial or tax advice. Vincent is not a solicitor, barrister, financial adviser or legal professional. Every divorce situation is unique. Always seek advice from a qualified professional about your own circumstances. Any support offered by the host is peer emotional support only — not case-specific legal guidance.

If this is resonating, please follow the podcast — it takes 3 seconds and you will never miss an episode. And if you know someone going through a divorce right now, please share this with them. It might be exactly what they need to hear.How Are Pensions Handled in a UK Divorce? | Divorce in Plain EnglishPensions are often the most valuable asset in a divorce and the most overlooked — here is what you need to know.The different ways pensions are dealt with in a UK divorce including pension sharing, offsetting and earmarking explained in plain EnglishWhy so many people make costly mistakes with pensions during the financial remedy processWhat Vincent discovered about pensions during his own divorce and why he wishes he had understood this soonerThis content is based on personal experience of the financial remedy process in England and Wales. It is for information only — not legal or financial advice. Always seek advice from a qualified professional.📩 Free weekly newsletter: https://divorceinplainenglish.substack.com📅 Book a personal session (£95): https://calendly.com/adejames/talk-to-vincent-personal-divorce-experience-session📖 Financial Remedy Roadmap ebook (£25): https://shinajames.gumroad.com/l/drdgzbLegal Notice: This podcast is hosted by Vincent James, sharing personal experience of the financial remedy process in England and Wales only. Nothing in this podcast constitutes legal, financial or tax advice. Vincent is not a solicitor, barrister, financial adviser or legal professional. Every divorce situation is unique. Always seek advice from a qualified professional about your own circumstances. Any support offered by the host is peer emotional support only — not case-specific legal guidance.

If this is resonating, please follow the podcast — it takes 3 seconds and you will never miss an episode. And if you know someone going through a divorce right now, please share this with them. It might be exactly what they need to hear.What Happens to the Family Home in a UK Divorce? | Divorce in Plain EnglishFor most people the family home is the biggest asset in their divorce — and what happens to it is rarely straightforward.The main options for what can happen to the family home during a UK divorce and how each one worksWhat the court considers when deciding whether the home is sold, transferred or retained by one partnerWhat Vincent experienced with his own family home during the financial remedy process and the lessons it taught himThis content is based on personal experience of the financial remedy process in England and Wales. It is for information only — not legal or financial advice. Always seek advice from a qualified professional.📩 Free weekly newsletter: https://divorceinplainenglish.substack.com📅 Book a personal session (£95): https://calendly.com/adejames/talk-to-vincent-personal-divorce-experience-session📖 Financial Remedy Roadmap ebook (£25): https://shinajames.gumroad.com/l/drdgzbLegal Notice: This podcast is hosted by Vincent James, sharing personal experience of the financial remedy process in England and Wales only. Nothing in this podcast constitutes legal, financial or tax advice. Vincent is not a solicitor, barrister, financial adviser or legal professional. Every divorce situation is unique. Always seek advice from a qualified professional about your own circumstances. Any support offered by the host is peer emotional support only — not case-specific legal guidance.

If this is resonating, please follow the podcast — it takes 3 seconds and you will never miss an episode. And if you know someone going through a divorce right now, please share this with them. It might be exactly what they need to hear.Who Gets What in a UK Divorce? | Divorce in Plain EnglishOne of the biggest fears in any divorce is not knowing what you are entitled to — this episode cuts through the confusion.How assets are divided in a UK divorce and what the court actually looks at when deciding who gets whatWhy the split is rarely 50/50 and what factors influence the final outcomeWhat Vincent learned about asset division during his own financial remedy process and what surprised him mostThis content is based on personal experience of the financial remedy process in England and Wales. It is for information only — not legal or financial advice. Always seek advice from a qualified professional.📩 Free weekly newsletter: https://divorceinplainenglish.substack.com📅 Book a personal session (£95): https://calendly.com/adejames/talk-to-vincent-personal-divorce-experience-session📖 Financial Remedy Roadmap ebook (£25): https://shinajames.gumroad.com/l/drdgzbLegal Notice: This podcast is hosted by Vincent James, sharing personal experience of the financial remedy process in England and Wales only. Nothing in this podcast constitutes legal, financial or tax advice. Vincent is not a solicitor, barrister, financial adviser or legal professional. Every divorce situation is unique. Always seek advice from a qualified professional about your own circumstances. Any support offered by the host is peer emotional support only — not case-specific legal guidance.

If this is resonating, please follow the podcast — it takes 3 seconds and you will never miss an episode. And if you know someone going through a divorce right now, please share this with them. It might be exactly what they need to hear.Where Do I Start With Divorce in England and Wales? | Divorce in Plain EnglishKnowing where to begin when your marriage is ending financially is one of the hardest parts — this episode gives you a clear starting point.The very first steps to take when facing the financial side of divorce in England and WalesWhat the financial remedy process looks like from the beginning and who is involvedWhat Vincent did at the start of his own journey and what he wishes he had known from day oneThis content is based on personal experience of the financial remedy process in England and Wales. It is for information only — not legal or financial advice. Always seek advice from a qualified professional.📩 Free weekly newsletter: https://divorceinplainenglish.substack.com📅 Book a personal session (£95): https://calendly.com/adejames/talk-to-vincent-personal-divorce-experience-session📖 Financial Remedy Roadmap ebook (£25): https://shinajames.gumroad.com/l/drdgzbLegal Notice: This podcast is hosted by Vincent James, sharing personal experience of the financial remedy process in England and Wales only. Nothing in this podcast constitutes legal, financial or tax advice. Vincent is not a solicitor, barrister, financial adviser or legal professional. Every divorce situation is unique. Always seek advice from a qualified professional about your own circumstances. Any support offered by the host is peer emotional support only — not case-specific legal guidance.

If this is resonating, please follow the podcast — it takes 3 seconds and you will never miss an episode. And if you know someone going through a divorce right now, please share this with them. It might be exactly what they need to hear.If you are facing divorce in England and Wales and do not know where to turn, this is the place to start.Who Vincent James is and why he created this podcast from personal lived experienceWhat Divorce in Plain English covers and why plain-English guidance mattersWhat you can expect from every episode and how this podcast can help you right nowThis content is based on personal experience of the financial remedy process in England and Wales. It is for information only — not legal or financial advice. Always seek advice from a qualified professional.📩 Free weekly newsletter: https://divorceinplainenglish.substack.com📅 Book a personal session (£95): https://calendly.com/adejames/talk-to-vincent-personal-divorce-experience-session📖 Financial Remedy Roadmap ebook (£25): https://shinajames.gumroad.com/l/drdgzbLegal Notice: This podcast is hosted by Vincent James, sharing personal experience of the financial remedy process in England and Wales only. Nothing in this podcast constitutes legal, financial or tax advice. Vincent is not a solicitor, barrister, financial adviser or legal professional. Every divorce situation is unique. Always seek advice from a qualified professional about your own circumstances. Any support offered by the host is peer emotional support only — not case-specific legal guidance.