Divorcing With Sanity

The divorce left you feeling like you're left with nothing, save a few scratches and scars. The blankness feels terrifying. But guess what - it is also the first time in years that nothing (other than you) is dictating what comes next. Now whip out your creativity and dream - what are you going to paint next?

There's a nagging question that haunts you now and even years after a divorce: "What was I thinking??" In this podcast episode from Divorcing With Sanity, we talk about the woman who keeps prosecuting her younger self. But hindsight is 20/20, and you made the you could with what you had. That is enough.

Continuing to do a fantastic performance at work can convince and mislead you into believing you're doing a great job after the divorce (you're not). In this podcast episode of Divorcing With Sanity, Yan talks about why doing less is the secret to protecting and keeping the next most important thing to you after losing your marriage - your job.

You moved across the world, gave 20 years to the marriage and built a life that has now fallen apart. Every night you ask: was it all for nothing? In this episode, Yan offers a different way to read your story, and how this unlikely moment is the best raw material you have to upcycle into the best creation of your life.

It may feel like you're completely destroyed from the divorce. The secret nobody tells you is - your life is already changing for the better, even if it doesn't feel like it. In this podcast episode, Yan talks about why breaking down is not the same as being destroyed, and why the mess you're in right now might be exactly where you need to be.

When she was going through her divorce, my client R didn't tell a single person at work. It wasn't because she was coping with flying colours - it was because in her tight-knit expat community, she (felt like) she couldn't afford to. This podcast episode is about what it costs you to "be fine" every day while secretly falling apart, and how R broke through that wall to find herself again.

The marriage hurt you and your children, and you made the brave and very right decision to leave. So why does it still hurt this much? This episode talks about the pain that doesn't disappear just because you did the right thing - and offers 3 honest, practical ways to carry the pain without letting it take your life away.

When a marriage breaks down, the first thing we do is blame ourselves. We replay every flaw, every mistake, every way we weren't enough. But what if the breaking was never really about you? This episode explores why your cracks are not your failures - and how to start being kinder to yourself.

When divorce arrives, it sometimes brings a second betrayal - the family you gave everything to suddenly becomes the family that turns against you. This episode is for the nights when that bitterness won't let you rest, and you need someone to remind you: their version of you is not the truth.

When your marriage falls apart, we may cognitively fault the other party, but blame ourselves deep down inside. In this episode, Yan unpacks the quiet, 3am question most divorcing women never say out loud: "Was I enough?"

You wake up and immediately feel the weight of your emotions on your chest or stomach, day after day. It doesn't go away. But you continue to hold it together in the classroom, on the phone with your mum, at the school gates. The reality is behind closed doors, you're falling apart. This episode is for every expat educator who is exhausted from pretending to be okay - and wondering if they ever will be.

In this heartfelt episode, Yan addresses the inner struggles of educators navigating divorce. She emphasises that strength is not in handling everything alone but in embracing vulnerability and asking for help. Join her for a compassionate exploration of support, resilience, and the path to reclaiming your life during challenging times.

A challenging perspective on divorce that questions the common advice to "fight harder" and "win at all costs." This episode explores why aggressive divorce battles create more pain than peace, how they impact children, and why true healing comes from reclaiming yourself - not from defeating your ex.

Life throws unexpected surprises - like divorce - that shatter everything. For expat educators, juggling career survival, custody, and identity loss feels impossible. But striking back isn't about fighting harder; it's about surprising yourself by choosing peace, asking for help, and reclaiming your worth.

Researcher Brené Brown argues true courage requires embracing vulnerability. She advocates “Courage over comfort,” urging us to reject the safety of silence and isolation. Choosing to share our struggles, despite the risk, is the only path to authentic human connection and healing support.

A divorced art teacher's testimonial on the coaching journey that made her realise she was allowed to love herself.

This powerful episode explores how teachers trapped in toxic marriages overcome fear, guilt, and financial anxiety to reclaim their lives. Through energy healing, meditation, and practical planning, they transform from exhausted and defeated to confident and thriving - becoming living proof to their children that you can fall apart and rebuild yourself stronger.

After losing everything and spending 10 years in depression, I discovered life coaching through Tony Robbins. Traditional counselling failed because I needed action, not just emotional awareness. Through self-help books and journalling, I literally coached myself out of depression, then became certified to help others rebuild their lives.

You're not damaging your child just because you're going through a divorce - you're teaching them strength. This episode is for every mother who's sobbed in the shower so her children won't hear, wondering if choosing yourself means failing them.

Your mind races at 3am: visa, job, custody fears. But lying awake searching for solutions only finds more problems. Survival mode isn't problem-solving - it's threat-scanning. You can't think your way to safety alone. This episode explains why, and what actually helps.

In today's episode of "Finding True Fulfillment," we dive deep into the concept of fulfillment and explore what truly satisfies us in life. We'll discuss three key aspects to understanding our fulfillments: Balance Community Emotional Wisdom We also explore what happens when our pursuits don't bring the expected fulfillment. Join me as I uncover how to find true fulfillment in our lives, looking beyond superficial qualities and seeking deeper connections that resonate with our true selves.