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Done Being Single
by Treva Brandon Scharf and Robby Scharf
How did Treva and Robby Scharf know it was time to settle down? Because they were done being single. Before getting married for the first time at 51 and 57, Treva and Robby did it all, dated it all, and lived to tell.With a combined 108 years of single life experience under their belts, Treva and Robby are dating survivors. They’re the authorities on being single and finding love later in life.Treva and Robby don’t just offer empty platitudes and promises, they offer dating intervention. From dating apps to dating gaffes, from getting a second date to getting laid, Treva and Robby have a toolbox of tips, and a guest list of dating coaches, relationship experts, therapists, personal growth influencers, and thought leaders to help people get out of dating hell and find real love.If you’re a dating hater ready to up your dating game, then you’re ready for DONE BEING SINGLE.
Episodes
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Should I Stay or Should I Go?
If you’ve ever overstayed your welcome in a bad relationship, or struggled with when to call it quits, therapist and author Crystal Jackson knows why: Childhood trauma, low self-esteem, abandonment issues, anxious attachment, even love addiction, could be to blame. Should you stay or should you…
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Boundaries: Your Best Friend in Dating
If you have a need to be liked, a fear of being unloved, or if you're a people-pleaser or approval seeker, then you might be struggling with boundaries. Boundaries are protective and empowering for both singles and couples, and we're going to show you how to set boundaries and keep them. With…
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When Picky Becomes A Problem
Are you swiping more left than right or using pickiness as an excuse not to date? "I'm too picky" could be another way of saying "I'm not good enough." Dig a little deeper and you'll find that pickiness is fear-based. It signals insecurity, not selectivity, finding fault, not finding love. Join...
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Is Masculinity In Crisis?
Modern feminism, MeToo, and changing gender dynamics have put masculinity at a crossroads. Is our current idea of masculinity toxic or progressive? Are men expected to step up or back down? And what does this mean for the current dating culture? On this episode, Simon T. Bailey, author of “Ignite...
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Dating Apps, We Need To Talk
We're giving dating apps a piece of our mind. From bad behavior to no accountability, there's a supply chain issue of basic kindness in dating apps that must be called out! Author, podcaster, and singles advocate Shani Silver, is just the person to call it out. There are options to dating...
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Don’t Say No To Saying YES
When you say "YES," you activate your internal guidance, you connect with your Inner Authority, and you power out of your comfort zone. You don't find your "YES" in your head, you feel it in your heart, and it's not random. Don't get stuck in "NO." Let relationship coach Ken Bechtel author of the...
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The Lowdown On Love From A Psychic-Medium
World renown psychic-medium Matthew Stapley gives us the lowdown on love, loss, and divine timing, the way the spirits intended. Learn how to trust your intuition, process grief, distinguish between gut feelings and fear, break old cycles, and open yourself up to new possibilities. All you have…
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Commitment-Phobes & Anxious Daters, Help Is On The Way!
If you have a fear of abandonment, avoid intimacy, or struggle with relationship anxiety, you’ve come to the right podcast. This week, Behavioral Relationship expert Tracy Crossley comes to the rescue with her profound insights on attachment theory, and on how knowing your attachment style can…
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Men, Is Your Heart Talking To Your Other Parts?
On this episode of Done Being Single, we're connecting heart to c*ck by turning outdated male conditioning & culture into healthy templates for love. Men, it's time to breathe new life into your relationships (and your other parts too!) Click Here To View This Episode On Our YouTube Channel!
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Are We Hardwired To Date A Certain Way?
45,000 years of evolutionary psychology confirms it: humans are hardwired to date a certain way. In this episode of Done Being Single, Dr. Duana Welch shares her insights and data on human dating rituals. From playing hard to get, to the prerogative of pursuit, to waiting for sex, Dr. Welch…
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‘Nobody‘s Perfect: Are You Too Picky Or Not Picky Enough?‘
Ever heard someone use the excuse they're too picky and that's why they can't meet anyone? Or, maybe you know someone who isn't picky enough and keeps attracting losers. Haven't we all been a little of both at times? Remember, nobody's perfect--especially in the dating world. Join us as we…
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Meet The New Post-Pandemic You
After a year plus of pandemic stress eating and drinking, we're finally getting back to normal, and back into action. But what about those extra pounds and bad habits we picked up along the way? How do we lose the weight and get fit? What kind of diet should we be on, and where do we find the...
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Keeping Sex Alive & Well During COVID
Science geeks and horny bastards, this episode is for you! Sexpert and sexy brainiac Susan Bratton bares it all with her newest techniques, hottest tips, latest science, and reveals her own struggles and recovery from COVID. From cock rings to hyperbaric oxygen therapy, Susan knows all. Whether...
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The "It Factor" And How To Get It
What does business and dating have in common? The highly desirable, very elusive "It Factor." It's more than charm, looks, and charisma, it's about having conviction and passion about what you do, and who you are. Our guest this week, author and professor Suneel Gupta, cracks the code on how to...
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Get Rid Of Dating Anxiety Once and For All!
This episode is like Xanax for dating jitters. Get rid of nerves and performance anxiety by understanding your attachment style, honoring your needs, and practicing science backed coping mechanisms. With Chris Rackliffe's expert guidance and insights, you'll recognize your core gifts, and get the...
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How To Stop Chasing Love
We've all chased love at one time or another, some of us still do. We do it when we're lonely or insecure, when we're seeking approval or need connection. We chase love because we don't trust it will come on its own. And the harder we try to catch it, the further it stays away. Not even a…
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(Single) Parenting In A Pandemic
Robby and Treva aren't parents, but they're tipping their hats to the (single) parents doing the heavy lifting. Managing home, work, life, kids AND a love life is never easy, but doing it in a pandemic takes mad skills and patience. This week's guest, licensed marriage and family therapist…
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Politics & Love: The State of the Union
In an election year that's more contentious than ever, is it possible to hate someone's politics but still love them? According to our guests Jeanne Safer and Richard Brookhiser, it is. Jeanne is a Liberal, and the author of the book, "I Love You, But I Hate Your Politics." Richard is a...
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Older Women/Younger Men, Why The Hell Not?
Cougars are having a moment. Not that midlife women dating and marrying younger men is anything new, it's just that midlife isn't what it used to be. Gone are the rules, parameters, restrictions, and judgement. Today's post-50 women are free to be who they want, date who they want, and be equal...
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How To Slay Your Pandemic Anxiety
When you slay your anxiety, you slay your need for control. Dealing with the unknowns and tolerating the uncertainty of a pandemic are skills that need learned and practiced. On this week's episode, we've got the perfect teacher, Lisa Gornall. A spiritual medium, healer, mindset & energy coach…
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Look For A Spouse Like You Would A House
Who knew dating and real estate had so much in common! Whether it's a looking for a spouse or buying/selling a house, you need to assess the property, stage it properly, be ready to show, make the necessary repairs, and know the worth. The same rules apply for picking the right partner. In fact,...
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How To Love With Sobriety
If you're dating or in a relationship with someone who's sober, what do you need to know? Does loving a sober person require special protocols or understanding? What are the perils? How can you be a better partner to someone who's sober? How do you protect yourself? Answering all your questions...
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Perfectly Hidden Depression
You may be able to mask your depression behind a happy face, a good marriage, or a successful career, but in the middle of a pandemic, it becomes much harder. That's because a crisis like COVID--with the fear, anxiety, and trauma that comes with it--makes Perfectly Hidden Depression more…
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Divorce Pandemic Style: What Every Couple Needs To Know
One of the many symptoms of COVID19 is a massive spike in divorce rates. If your marriage was already teetering, and you're in lockdown, chances are, you want out. Since there's no vaccination for a bad marriage, divorce might be the only cure. So what to expect? Famed divorce lawyer and author...
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Go From Fear To Here
Acclaimed personal development thought leader Katie Hendricks joins Done Being Single to talk about fear: how to face it and conquer it. In this episode, you'll learn about the five responses to fear: fight, flight, flee, faint, and flee. You’ll learn breathing and movement techniques, plus…
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How To Know When Someone's Lying
Recorded before the pandemic, but always a relevant issue in life, love, and DATING! You can be your own detective, here's how. Former FBI Special Agent and counterintelligence specialist Robin Dreeke tells you how to catch a liar using his Five Steps to trust and Six Signs of predicting…
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“Who Will You Be After Coronavirus?”
When COVID19 is over, how will your life look? New job? No job? Dating or divorced? If there was ever a time to reinvent your life, and design your future YOU it’s now. This is the time to plan, pivot, and put the pieces into place. Giving you the skills and tools you need to jumpstart your...
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Mars & Venus Quarantined with John Gray
Author of the best-selling relationship book, Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus, John Gray joins Done Being Single to discuss what happens when Mars & Venus are quarantined. How does the power dynamic change when you're quarantined? Can you find balance? What do men need in time of need?…
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The Surprising Secret About Habits
Even though this episode of Done Being Single was recorded just before the coronavirus hit, its message and lessons are right on time. Building habits, maintaining structure, keeping a sense of normalcy is EVERTHING right now. From dating habits to living habits, your survival depends on how well...
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Mastering Chaos With Phil Morris
Known for his many roles on TV and film, but probably best known for his role as "Jackie Chiles" on "Seinfeld," Phil Morris is way more than a talented actor: he's a martial arts guru, a spiritual seeker, and fountain of wisdom when it comes to mastering a zen attitude in the face of crazy and...
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Being Single & COVID19: A Doctor And Dating Expert Speak
There's nothing like a pandemic to cramp your dating style. Should you keep swiping? Get tested before meeting? Can you go on a date and stay 6ft. away? When is it safe to hug, kiss, or get intimate? Physician Dr. Andre Berger and dating expert Sandy Weiner give you the 411 on ways to stay safe…
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How To Care For Aging Parents And Still Have A Life
At a certain age, most of us will find ourselves caring for aging parents or elderly loved ones. How do you do it and still have a life? If you're single, how do you balance caring for a parent with dating and relationships? Even if you’re married, how do you find balance and set proper…
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How To Deal With Your Midlife Crisis
Whether you're a Boomer or GenX, the midlife crisis is true, and the struggle is real. Buying fast cars and dating younger women are nothing compared to the existential despair of financial worry, unmet expectations, self-doubt, hormonal changes, aging parents, and the pressures of social media.…
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Time To Kick The Sh*t Out Of Your Inner Bully
Your inner bully has been kicking the sh*t out of your self-esteem and confidence for years, convincing you you're not good enough. Now it's time to tell your inner bully (and anyone else who tries to bully you) who's boss. Empowering you with inspiration is our guest Theresa Byrne, global…
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Beware Dating Burn-Out & Bitterness!
Daters, beware: it can happen if you're not careful. Getting burned out and bitter from being single too long is all too common, especially if you've suffered through repeated disappointments or chronic rejection. If you're going to be in the game, if you want to be a successful dater and find...
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How To Find Love While Finding Yourself
On this week's episode, we're proving you don't need to have your shit totally together to find love. We're all a work in progress, and the quest for betterment is noble, but trying to find yourself shouldn't preclude you from finding love. You shouldn't have to wait. As a wellness expert and...
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Getting To The Heart of Love & Loss
In this very real and raw episode of Done Being Single, we share our stories of losing loved ones: from processing grief and finding healing, to understanding the impact of loss on relationships and dating, to surrendering to the power of love. Joining the conversation with his own inspiring…
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Bad Dating Habits To Break In 2020
Breadcrumbing, benching, gaslighting, and ghosting, are just a few hideous dating behaviors that must go in 2020. So are putting up obstacles and making excuses in your dating life. Whether you're a perpetrator or a victim of bad dating habits, make it your resolution to clean up your act and…
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How To Get Past Your Past
You can’t be fully present, free of limiting beliefs, and living your best life unless you take deliberate steps to unshackle yourself from your past. No matter what mistakes you made, or who you were then, there's always a chance to course correct. Your past was then; your potential is now.…
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Who's Got The Power?
When it comes to the gatekeepers of sex and relationships, who has the power, women or men? Who's got control? Is there even such a thing as power dynamics in today's modern world of love? Offering expert insights, keen observations, and smart takeaways, is Love & Life Transformational Coach,...
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Making The Case For Dating Age-Appropriate Women
Hitting midlife is no laughing matter, but it is on this episode of Done Being Single! Allison Cane & Jillian Franklyn, hosts of the hilarious YouTube show “Pretty Over,” are laughing about all things post-50: sex and menopause, aging gracefully (or trying to), hormones (they love them),...
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Face It, You Need Therapy
If life sucks, and you're mad as hell, depressed as shit, or confused AF, and it’s not getting any better, you may need some therapy. For pros who’ve been on the couch before, you know the drill, but for those who’ve never unloaded in front of a therapist, the next hour is for you. Guiding you...
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Are You Crazy For Chaos?
Are you a love junkie? Do you need a fix of drama or a hit of psycho to make you feel alive? Does danger turn you on? Are you jonsing for crazy, or attracted to people who drive you insane? HEALTHY love isn't always about the thrill, chase, or buzz. You may need to seek treatment, but this week,...
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The 4 Habits Of ALL Successful Relationships
Looking to improve your marriage, friendships, or business partnerships? Look no further. Your keys to relationship success are right here, and their names are Dr. Andrea & Jon Taylor-Cummings. Dr. Andrea & Jon are the foremost voices in building great relationships. Their 4-Habits is a simple…
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To Swipe Or Not To Swipe
To swipe or not to swipe, that is the question. What are the Dos and Don'ts of online dating? What should you look for in a profile? What are some red flags to watch out for? How can you design a profile that will get you maximum attention and traction? Answering all your digital dating questions...
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Keeping Married Sex Alive!
There's no one better to speak on the topic of married sex and keeping it alive than our guest, Susan Bratton--sex guru, goddess, and trusted sex advisor to millions. She and husband Tim (who joined us for the interview) are a wealth of information, insight, and ideas. From the 30-minute orgasm…
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How To Be A Confident MF'er
David Snyder, a world renown expert on hypnosis and neurolinguistic programming says, “Confidence is relentless determination combined with expectations of a positive result.” This was put to the test when Treva, who’s been recovering from bronchial pneumonia, experienced a little coughing fit,...
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What Does 'Doing The Work' Really Mean?
"Doing the work" means everything and anything you need to do in order to heal, grow, change, evolve, and get stronger. It can include therapy, journaling, exercise, meditation, self-help books, blogs, coaching, even 12-step programs. This week, life coach Bex Burton expertly guides a client...
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When Quitting Is The Best Thing You Can Do
If your current path isn't getting you anywhere, if you keep grinding it out without joy, if you keep hitting walls, or fail to get the results you want, it's time to quit. That’s right. QUIT. Contrary to popular belief, quitting isn’t only for losers. It actually can be a winning move, and used...
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I'm Doing Everything Right, So What's Going Wrong?
I'm Doing Everything Right, So What's Going Wrong? Episode Description This episode is dedicated to those of us who despite all our good intentions, desire, and hard work, still come up empty. Many things can be blocking us or holding us back: unconscious beliefs, lack of self-worth, negative...
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ABOUT THIS SHOW
How did Treva and Robby Scharf know it was time to settle down? Because they were done being single. Before getting married for the first time at 51 and 57, Treva and Robby did it all, dated it all, and lived to tell.With a combined 108 years of single life experience under their belts, Treva and Robby are dating survivors. They’re the authorities on being single and finding love later in life.Treva and Robby don’t just offer empty platitudes and promises, they offer dating intervention. From dating apps to dating gaffes, from getting a second date to getting laid, Treva and Robby have a toolbox of tips, and a guest list of dating coaches, relationship experts, therapists, personal growth influencers, and thought leaders to help people get out of dating hell and find real love.If you’re a dating hater ready to up your dating game, then you’re ready for DONE BEING SINGLE.
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Treva Brandon Scharf and Robby Scharf
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How did Treva and Robby Scharf know it was time to settle down? Because they were done being single. Before getting married for the first time at 51 and 57, Treva and Robby did it all, dated it all, and lived to tell.With a combined 108 years of single life experience under their belts, Treva and...
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