Don’t Let The Selfies Fool You!
by Nyckki Cervantes
My husband Anthony and I have been married ELEVEN beautiful blessed years. We discovered after many blowouts and breakdowns in communication, tools to help US get US. Join our journey and discover how we continue to grow, heal, and evolve as individuals AND as a married couple. Not being the representative or who we thought we should be for each other, but by telling the truth in love, being vulnerable and accountable to one another AND being our authentic selves. Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/nyckki-cervantes/support
Episodes
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How do I connect with my heavenly Father, when I do not have a connection with my earthly father?
Today we dive in, after a long day with deadlines, meetings and errands to run. We take time to talk about how He shows up when we least expect Him. We discuss why we still stand despite what our flesh thinks and feels. We do we still move forward even thought we might be tired. Sound familiar?...
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Outtakes and Bloopers #3
A mentor once told us ,"Take one is better than none." We shared this three outtakes with you this morning in hopes to encourage you to just allow Holy Spirit to use you as your gift will make room for you. It doesn't have to be perfect AND how honesty is FREEDOM! Remember God loves and accepts…
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Outtakes and Bloopers #2
Take 2.. we thought!
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Outtakes and Bloopers #1
Today's outtakes and bloopers.. what just happened!
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Don't Touch My Stuff! How our childhood trauma and triggers show up in marriage with everyday breakdowns.
Join us as we continue to share how we are growing, healing and learning more about each other and the love of our Heavenly Father through everyday experiences. Make sure to go back and listen to the outtakes 1-3 from this morning's breakdown...lol. We are not ashamed to be raw, open and share…
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What gifts do you have that were birthed out of trauma?
Today my husband and I chew on what gifts of ours were birthed out of pain and trauma in our childhoods, marriage and as individuals and how God's hand has been on our lives since day one.
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Debrief and recap on the previous chapters
Join us as we recap and discuss what came up for us so far as individuals and a married couple, since reading the previous chapters. We talk candidly and transparent about our thoughts, feelings , expectations. We also share some of the things Holy Spirit has revealed to us, heal us and restored…
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Chapter 11 Butterfly Chronicles
Join us for another unscripted episode as we deep dive into how drugs affect children and change the trajectory of everyone's lives involved. Also we discuss my personal relationship with the Lord( then and now) as my Heavenly Father.
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Chapter 10 Butterfly Chronicles
Join us as we get into Chapter 10 and discuss mental health and finding peace within traumatic circumstances.
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Chapter 8 Butterfly Chronicles
Join us today as we deep dive into my relationship and the dynamics between my father and I. We also talk about how God is a good father to all and is available to heal, restore and deliver to anyone that is willing to ask for help. My husband also talked about how this all played out in the…
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Chapter 8 Butterfly Chronicles
Happy Thanksgiving! Join us as we have a discussion on violation and how it showed up in our marriage. Also talk about the gratitude of the love of God and how He was there even in the darkest times, where I felt trapped and alone as a child. Remember Holy Spirit is our comforter and His job is…
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Chapter 7
Join us today as we talk about a mixed bag ( with no coffee!) lol and debrief on what life was like as a single child going into a marriage and early childhood memories learning about God and forming relationships with others.
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Chapter 6 of Butterfly Chronicles
Join us today as we discuss domestic violence relationships and trauma bonding. We provide hope and resources for those who may be ia victim ( past or present relationship) of domestic violence.
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Chapter 5 Butterfly Chronicles (continued)
Join us as we continue to deep dive into my book Butterfly Chronicles as we have an organic Holy Spirit led conversation on parental family history as its trauma ( fatherless children, and various abuse) and the affects. How God never leaves us but will send lighthouses along our paths. We also...
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Recap on the week and what came up for us!
Happy Sunday! Today we were led by Holy Spirit to talk about how discussing the book, gave us an opportunity to heal on a deeper level with things we are still struggling with today as individuals, in our marriage and as parents. We also talked about familiar spirits and how they tormented not…
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Runaway Child Running Wild (Chapter 5)
Join us as we continue to read and deep dive and process together my book Butterfly Chronicles.
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Chapter 3 of Butterfly Chronicles
Join us as we discuss how various forms of child abuse affect all relationships most important our relationship and understanding of God our Father.
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Butterfly Chronicles Ch 2
Join us today as we continue with reading my book Butterfly Chronicles as my husband Anthony gently leads me into processing my journey. We highlight how God's forgiveness and love gave me the conviction and courage to forgive my mom.
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Continued Chapter One of The Butterfly Chronicles
Please tune into part two of chapter one and my reflections of the process of reading out loud.
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Reflections Chapter 1
Press play to listen to my book The Butterfly Chronicles. It is a brutally honest portrayal of a life layered with pain, helplessness, hopelessness, loss, and a precocious knowledge about drugs and violence that no child should ever learn. However, there was also hope and faith that propelled the...
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Don't Delay ! Release it Today!
We are back! We know it's been awhile! Well, tune in for and update on where we have been and what is to come !
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Soulversation: What you said, what I heard
Are you a spontaneous listener or are you a thinker with a resolution to your spouses issue? In todays episode we discuss what happened following church this morning and the importance on truly listening to your spouse.
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Drama King and Triple OG Gangsta ( being sensitive to how process experiences)
Hey Hey Hey! We are back for another Soulversation. Ya'll know what it is!! we deep diving into parenting styles and how our kids have QUICKLY identified them all!
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Deeper dive on the power of resetting a painful narrative through music.
Join us for a 5 minute deeper dive on the power of resetting a painful narrative through music.
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Soulversations: The power of a good playlist. How music joined our hearts and healed our souls.
What "background" music is shaping, affecting and creating the soundtrack of your life? Tune in this week as we discuss HOT ( Humble, Open and Transparent) how music can create, set a mood, heal a relationship, and connect you back to your true self. Words have LIFE and we have the power to…
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Soulversations: Life is not a cookie cutter
How many times do you have a wonderful day with your family, your spouse, your kids and You say, YES, this is what I need to do "exactly" next time! We discuss that life is not a cookie cutter and each day we need to approach our relationships, marriage, raising our kids as a new experience. We…
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Soulversations: Stay a student between the breakdowns and breakthroughs
What do you ask God to take away, purge or teach you? Does He just beam the breakthrough or does he.....We share some of our techniques that we have with both our children and with each other. Do you stay a student while letting God work on your soul?
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V-DAY CELEBRATION! LOVING YOUR SPOUSE THROUGH THEIR UGLY
This week we are back after a 4 month break !! We deep dive into how it looks to discover the beautiful parts of your spouse as they lean into their own past pain and ultimately embrace those "ugly" parts that we would like to keep covered and hidden. By becoming vulnerable, sensitive and…
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Soulversations: Celebrating Our Anniversary, Giving Each Other Our Flowers.
We discuss how we celebrated our anniversary and focused on giving each other our flowers. We also share some insights on what we have learned together in this journey of life.
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Soulversations: How do You reconnect with Yourself
In this episode, The Queen is back. After serving others across the world, yes she is back. We share that reconnecting and reminiscing help our marriage our relationship stay strong.
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Soulversations: How do You tend to Your garden?
In this episode, I am solo, that is right folks, solo as my Queen is serving overseas. I discuss what I have realized about myself and pray that You too will take something away from this weeks episode. I also give an exercise that You can use to help "release" things in Your life.
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Soulversations: Honoring the "Former versions of yourself."
Hey HEY HEY! We are back with another episode, this time focusing on honoring and celebrating the previous versions of ourselves, rather than criticizing them. Listen to our testimony on how we honor, celebrate and embrace each day the former us.
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Soulversations: Loosing a loved one
In this episode, we reflect on our pioneers with our marriage. We discuss some great memories with our loved ones and also offer some tools on how You can too process your feelings for a loved one that has transitioned.
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Soulversations: The lessons we have learned from doing life together rather than alone
In this episode, we discuss lessons we've learned from one another, our children and even our cat! These beautiful, messy breakdowns & breakthroughs provided insight, awareness and expounded our capacity to exhibit compassion as individuals, parents, spouses, friends and pet owners.
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Soulversations: Tools to connect with your loved ones.....plus a letter to our son from his..... cat!
In this episode we provide you with some tips to use to connect with your loved ones.....remember we are to sometimes to hold the space. We also read a letter from our son's.......CAT??
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Soulversations: Parenting over... 40
In this episode we discuss how we come back to the middle with laughter. We also share some tools on how to to give yourself grace. We also put each other in the hot seat. You are not going to want to miss this episode.
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Soulversations: Loving your kids through grace.
In this episode we deep dive by ripping the band aid off and have a raw conversation on some of our recent experiences with our adult son post high school and post college experiences and now transitioning into the Navy!
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Soulversations: We back from hiatus, season 2, You know what to do, we hit that "button".
We are back and FULL effect! Season 2 of our podcast. In this episode we discuss why we needed to take a step back and hit a button. What button you ask? Find out by listening today.
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Soulversations: Using I statements to compromise with Your spouse
In this episode, we share the process of moving into our first home together and the compromising that we had bringing furniture and past habits/routines with us. We dive into some tips on how You can effectively communicate Your needs to Your spouse.
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Soulversations: Let's talk about SEX
How do You keep Your SEX life a priority in the bedroom (and/or other rooms) after having little children? Today we discuss how we ensure both of our feelings and needs are heard and met. Today's SOULwork will have You and Your spouse setting up the foundation for a more open dialogue on how to...
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Soulversations: What is Your reality, what does spending time with God look like?
In this episode we discuss the importance to pray! Pray for a deeper understanding on Your life. We give some tips on how to see if You/We are not addressing other see a different reality. We encourage You and each other to spend time with The Holy Spirit daily. He is as real as You want Him to be.
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Soulversations: Healing
How do You heal? Better yet, how can You help your spouse, partner, friend heal? We share our journey on on-going healing and drop some jewels how to heal.
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Soulversations: Vulnerability and communicating Your personal needs
When is the last time You were naked with your spouse? We all should be comfortable with being naked, intimate with our spouse. Part of being more intimate is being transparent with Your needs. We give You some nuggets in this episode while being transparent in our walk. Soulwork: If You are…
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Soulversations: Lessons from Our parents; gratitude and honoring them
What lessons can you recall learning? You choose..... to carry what You want into your family! How do You honor and show gratitude for the lessons You learned from your parents/parental figures/caretakers? Today we share what We learned and chose to carry on from our parents and have fun in the...
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Soulversations: Vacation to staycation to remodel
In this episode, We talk about making plans and pivoting all while staying committed to working on Ourselves (mentally and physically). We share some gems in this episode thank to The Holy Spirit leading the conversation. Last, we discuss what could be root to ........ you will have to listen to...
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Soulversations: Multitasking and how does it serve You?
When you read multitasking, what is the first thing that You think of? Are you the "multi-tasker" in Your marriage? How does multitasking serve You? Drop us a line and let us know.
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Soulversations: Listening to God (praying together, praise God together)
How do you start Your day? Better yet, how do you get filled up before being able to fill up your partner? We talk about what We are doing right now and how when putting God first, the rest of Our day is peaceful.
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Soulversations: Giving You your flowers now
Who attends to Your garden? Who pours life into You? We all have those in our lives that have poured in to us. Who can You let know that they poured into Your life? Call them, text them, pray for them.
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Soulversations: Host Doing the Most
This time around WE had some fun making fun of an event that might have not been as "fun" at the time. In relationships, someone is always doing more than the other. Listen now to hear who was doing the most and who was the host! Who was doing the 80 and who was doing the 20 that YOU can recall.
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Soulversations: The courting stage
Do you remember courting your spouse? What was it like, how did you meet your spouse, what led you to pursue them? In this episode we discuss the courting stage and also highlight a very important tip.....tune in today.
About this show
My husband Anthony and I have been married ELEVEN beautiful blessed years. We discovered after many blowouts and breakdowns in communication, tools to help US get US. Join our journey and discover how we continue to grow, heal, and evolve as individuals AND as a married couple. Not being the representative or who we thought we should be for each other, but by telling the truth in love, being vulnerable and accountable to one another AND being our authentic selves. Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/nyckki-cervantes/support
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