Don't Speak Defeat To Me

Have you ever had a day that just went downhill? In this episode, I discussed and expressed the lessons I learnt about having a bad day. It's okay to be down but the question is will you stay down? Take a listen and be blessed! For inquiries email [email protected]

Your girl has been missing in action but she's back and ready to challenge your views and ideologies. Time away has genuinely opened my eyes and widened my knowledge horizon, and I'm ready to share it with you all. Love ya'll to the moon and back!

What are the prerequisites of genuinely being a child of God? What does it mean to be refined?  In this episode, we broke down the steps one must take to be purified and refined. Narissa and I spoke about the revelations God gave to us as we pursue the path of righteousness. We discussed the importance of humility and how we ought to be making room for the younger generation and not trying to silence them. In diving, deeper this conversation led us to thrash out how relationships functions which led to some giggles and how much respect we truly have for leaders and their wives.  Contact: [email protected]

In this topic, we discussed how suffering brings humility. We often miss the mark because we're so focused on coming out or bouncing back, that we don't realize that there are gifts in every pocket of transition. We just need to activate the lenses that look outside and beyond the peripheral view. Our beautiful guest Karis Meier joined me in an erudite conversation that completely broke down the barriers and stigmas surrounding anxiety and suffering.  Hope you enjoy this episode! XOXO Contact us at: [email protected]

Hey guys, join me today as we get real about the difficulties of our struggles. From the time we were kids, even to adults how our struggles played an integral part in molding us into the men and women we are today. We acknowledged the past but embraced the future. We even got a bit petty as we discussed our scenario in the What Would Jesus Do? segment. Most importantly we took this episode all the way to church. Tune in and don't miss this dynamic discussion. 

In the words of Uncle Ben from Spider-Man "With great power, comes great responsibility." We learned in this episode, that the childhood memories we carry with us could really become lessons of great importance in the future. You may ask what Winnie the Pooh and smoking have to do with Spider-Man. I'll tell you It has a lot to do with Spider-Man, these two characters have a lot in common and a lot to say concerning life. Take a listen to this episode as I dive into the deep dialogues of these deep and intensely built characters. Hope you enjoy this episode and remember you can reach me at [email protected]

In this episode, the tea was bought and spilled. Everyone has their own definition of love but in this episode, we spoke about what is needed for love to be healthy and strong. As you listen, some toes will be mashed and some harsh truths were said. Let your love grow but leave space for grace.

Childdd Please!  In this episode revelations and encouragement were given from the point of view of when we should really use the phrase 'child please' and how I believe God would use it. It's not uncommon to come across something offensive or negative but our reaction to it is what matters.  

What is Love? In this episode, I give my very public and opinionated rant on what I believe love is. In this episode, you got an insight into a conversation I had with God as he corrected me on the correct definition of love. We discussed the meaning of love from biblical and humanistic points of view. You also were given a wonderful example of how the devil can send you your preference but it's packaged with pain to derail and distract you. We established that love is beautiful and sacred. Hope you enjoy this episode as much I enjoyed making it.  Listen to this episode and share with me your definition of love at [email protected].

Hey guys, I was joined by a passionate, budding entrepreneur Tyrone Murray. He had a lot to say when it came to finances, He spoke about the importance of fixing your mind and reassessing your social values. We also discussed the importance of having a partner who enables and not disables your vision. We discussed the importance of financial compatibility and the reason for building wealth. We came to the conclusion that wealth isn't just for our future but for the generations to come after us. We realized that conversations are important as someone who is invested in creating a lifestyle that they are comfortable with, we need to ensure our partners are helping us and not just there are beneficiaries of our wealth. We said to look for someone that makes our good... become better,

Kings and Queens, in this episode I was joined by well-renowned speaker Andrea Mason. We heard Andrea's story and came to understand how severely unforgiveness can impact you mentally, emotionally, and physically. The power of forgiveness doesn't just free us from the prison we may be in but also the vicious cycles we may be facing. We established forgiveness isn't just for people close to you but most importantly it's for you.  Don't allow toxicity to thrive in your settings but always ensure you have a serene and peaceful area to thrive. Your past makes you into who you were always meant to be it's not your final destination. If you have a question or need advice feel free to send me a message at [email protected]

You ever came across someone and they are appealing to you physically but along the way, little alarm bells begin to ring? Honey, that's your intuition-raising concern about the red flags you are seeing. In this episode, I was joined by Cesam Empowers, who is a coach on lifestyle, dating, and college. In this episode, she told us how to recognize deal breakers and what we must not tolerate in relationships.  Have you ever heard the term 'monkey bars'? Well, Coach Sam broke that term down for us and I tell you, this isn't something you should miss. She gave us the truth raw and candid just the way we like it at DSDTM. Come join us in this wonderful discussion. Need advice or have a question feel free to contact us at [email protected]

Hey Fam, In this episode we are joined by a best-selling author and relationship breakthrough coach Paul Sterling, who has traveled the world teaching couples the dynamics of a successful relationship. He joined us to teach us the importance of intimacy and how to develop it. We discussed communication and the importance of gratitude in a relationship. If ya' 'll know your girl by now, you know I can talk and this topic had me speechless. This isn't an episode to miss! P.S. If you listen to the end you will be given instructions on how to get his book FREE of charge. Don't say I never hooked you up! 3 Relationship Problems Video | Argue Less Love More Send me your questions at [email protected]

In this episode, I was joined by my best friend Rebecca. This episode was very candid and eye-opening, with lots of laughter and 'omg' moments. Within this conversation, we came to the conclusion that KFC represents Krazy Fiery Chick as we are no one's option if we are not the only option. We discussed how our parents not processing their trauma can affect us with their unresolved issues which in return creates us to have serious problems within ourselves and our relationships.  Want advice or even have a scenario we can react to contact us at [email protected].

In this episode, I was joined by my mother. If you know anything about my mom she is outspoken and very blunt thus this episode was full of laughter, disagreements, and advice. This episode shows the difference between the generation as we discussed the roles of a man and a woman in the marriage, finances as a couple and she gave advice to single women who still desire to be married. If you would like some advice or want to share your story, even have a story for us to react to contact us at [email protected].

Hey family, join us in this topic as we hear from a couple that has been married for over 20 years as they give us their essentials for a healthy marriage. We laughed, we got triggered and we found out some truths as we saw how well this couple knows each other. We also concluded that the way someone squeezes the toothpaste tube doesn't matter, love is enough. You can send your crazy stories or even your questions for our advice at [email protected]

In this episode, we wrapped up seasoned two with the tagline of the podcast. We dive into the discourse of what it means to truly survive, thrive, and flourish. We explained the importance of these three fundamental principles that the Don't Speak Defeat To Me team lives by. We also introduced a new segment of the show called 'Yo! that's crazy.' In this segment, we will be giving our reaction to some of the bizarre things we see on social media. We will also be giving our thoughts on scenarios as well. If you have any scenarios or have crazy questions to be answered, send them to [email protected]. How can you survive this season you're currently in? What has this season taught you to embrace? What areas of your life have you flourished in as you shifted your mindset?

What does it take to shift into position? In the episode we dissect the pre-requisites of shifting or we can say "leveling up". What is required of you to become who you are always meant to be. Take a listen be blessed as we get deep and candid about working on ourselves. Ask yourself these question: 1. How can I level up? 2. How do I ensure that all my bad habits are broken? 3. Am I putting on a persona or am I truly authentic in everything I do?

How do you react to rejection?  Are you someone who needs to be validated and approved by others? If you this episode speaks on how allowing others to affect us this way can create serious consequences. We must come to a place of accepting everyone isn't your friend.

Are you someone who gets triggered easily? This episode focuses on the point of view of what and why it triggers you and not pay heed to who says it. We also talk about the way we perceive criticism and others opinions. Let's be individuals who listen from a place of humility and not from emotional ears. Disclaimer: Volume in this episode is somewhat loud.

What do we do when life overwhelms us and we feel as though our emotions are swallowing us? Do we give into our negative thoughts and feelings or do we rise above it? I challenge you today after listening to this podcast to SHIFT in the way you deal with life and problems.

How often do we allow the words of others to affect us? In this episode I encouraged the listeners that no matter what comes their way. They must filter everything to know what is acceptable and what is not. I pray you will be encouraged and empowered to only allow God's voice to be prominent in your life and no other.

Why do we try to be who we are not just to be in the "it" crowd? In this episode I explore the strain of trying to be where you don't belong. This brings us to the answer that it better to stand out than to fit in. I hope this episodes helps you.

In this episode we discuss the stigma of being categorized as a "strong woman" or in my case a "strong black woman."

In this episode we discuss the closing of the year and some tips to approach 2021. I hope this helps!

In this episode we debunk some myths about suicide and we dive deeper into the meaning of it. We also mention some signs of someone who is suicidal.

In this episode we discussed the phrase "I'm tired" .

This episode we speak on the pros and cons of being emotionally vulnerable. We dive in deep into why people struggle to trust and show emotions to others.

In this episode we speak on when God doesnt answer us right away or tells us no! We need to understand the perspective of why he said no and ask what does he want us to learn.

In this episode we discuss what entanglement and engagement truly means. We also dive into what the benefits and cons of these relationships are.

In this episode I give you tips to break up with Negativity and begin a relationship with a positive perspective.

In this episode, we evaluate what our support system needs to be like. We also discussed the different types of support we encounter in life.

In this episode we speak about betrayal and what we should do when it happens.

In this episode, I speak on owning your truth and loving yourself. We as Christians need to know who we are and whose we are but first to do that. We need to learn about ourselves first.

In this episode I give you all tips on how I enjoy being single. Singlehood is a journey of trust,faith and patience. I shared with you all how I maintain all these traits whilst still waiting. Wanna hear? Well check it out!

In this episode, I give you guys tips on protecting your energy and having good friendships. I also highlighted the negative and positive effects of good energy.

This is my story of how I was in a toxic relationship without my consent.

This is my testimony on how God saved me from committing one of the biggest mistakes in my life. How I was so close to settling for what wasn't mine?

In this episode I speak on my ministry and the reason why I have the name that I was given by God.