Engineering Peace with Thom Bond

In this episode of Engineering Peace, Thom Bond reflects on 15 years of developing and teaching The Compassion Course (http://compassioncourse.org)—a structured approach to teaching Nonviolent Communication and real-world conflict resolution skills.Thom explores how the course has evolved over time, what makes it effective, and why compassion must be practiced as a skill—not just understood as an idea. Drawing on insights from thousands of participants, he shares what it takes to create lasting personal peace and navigate difficult conversations with clarity and care.If you're interested in emotional intelligence, Nonviolent Communication (NVC), or practical tools for resolving conflict, this episode offers a deep and thoughtful perspective.Support the show

In this episode you listen in as Thom interviews his own AI clone to find out if this technology can be genuinely life-serving. Find out for yourself, as Thom talks with a clone that has "memorized" his entire book and listened to a year's worth of Thom's trainings and conferences.Support the show

Thom and his colleague, Dr. Clara Moisello talk about how needs awareness effects how we take care of ourselves (or don't).Support the show

Thom and his colleague, Clara Moisello, PhD (Co-Director of NYCNVC), team up in this second installment of their "Needs Awareness" series. In this episode, they explore how we can reimagine and navigate difficult conversations, through the lens of Needs Awareness.Support the show

In this episode, Thom and Clara Moisello talk about the development and application of "Needs Awareness". They discuss what it is, how it changes the nature of human interaction, and brings hope to those seeking a more peaceful and compassionate existence for themselves and the world at large.For a copy of the needs list go to - https://www.nycnvc.org/needsSupport the show

In this episode Thom talks with Israel-based psychologist, counselor, mediator and NVC trainer,  Eran Teicher about their experiences, challenges and perspectives as peace activists, educators, and two earthlings doing their best to make a difference.In this episode, listeners will get insights, inspiration and know-how from these two peace educators, in their roles as lead  trainers in The Compassion Course Online (Thom in English, Eran in Hebrew), who share a common goal of creating a more peaceful existence for all of us.Support the show

In this insightful, inspiring episode, Thom Bond (from New York), talks with fellow peace educators, Cory Tyler (from Los Angles) and Samuel Odhiambo (from Kenya) to share the big picture of nonviolent systems in a world full of hatred and violence, including how they (and you) can be hopeful, living on such a turbulent planet.Subjects include, The Compassion Course (compassioncourse.org), the role of "enemy images", human needs awareness, conscious mourning, and celebration, culture, evolution and more...Support the show

In this thought-provoking installment of "Engineering Peace with Thom Bond" Season 3, Episode 4: "Fear = Attention... Why," Thom delves into the intricate dynamics of fear, safety, and the internal mechanisms that generate attention within us. Join us as Thom unpacks the profound connections between fear and our sense of security, offering deep insights into the experience of fear and its role in directing our attention. Prepare for a captivating exploration that sheds light on the intricate workings of our inner world, offering valuable perspectives on cultivating awareness and navigating the landscape of fear. Tune in for an enriching journey into the depths of our emotional intelligence!Support the show

In this enlightening installment of "Engineering Peace with Thom Bond" Season 3, Episode 3: "The Radar System of Feelings," Thom unveils the profound purpose behind our emotional landscape, revealing how feelings serve as our radar system, guiding us to recognize when our needs are either fulfilled or unmet. Join us as Thom sheds light on this fundamental aspect of humanity, offering invaluable insights into how our emotions act as powerful indicators of our well-being. Prepare for an illuminating journey that seamlessly blends wisdom, compassion, and practical understanding. Tune in for a transformative exploration into the depths of our emotional intelligence!Support the show

In this episode of "Engineering Peace with Thom Bond" Season 3, titled "Turning Judgments into Something Useful," Thom explores the art of understanding needs behind judgments. Join us for a transformative journey as he reveals the power of turning judgments into valuable insights. Gain practical wisdom on connecting judgments to unmet needs, fostering personal growth and empathy. Don't miss this insightful episode blending wisdom, compassion, and practical understanding. Tune in for a perspective-shifting experience!Support the show

In this captivating episode of "Engineering Peace with Thom Bond" Season 3, Thom delves into the profound concept of "Everything We Do, We Do to Meet a Need." Join us as Thom shares the invaluable gift of vision and heightened awareness of our needs. Get ready for an insightful exploration that seamlessly combines wisdom, compassion, and practical understanding. Tune in for more!Support the show

In this "What Peace Sounds Like" Episode, Thom brings  listeners up to date on a project that has formed through his work here on this podcast. It is the next chapter in this real-life practice of Peace Engineering, a chapter which began with his series here with Reverend Dr. Michael Christie titled "A Conversation Between Two Americans".That episode led to a revival of Thom's work with his former student, retired NY Police Detective, Anthony Torres, who is featured in Thom's Engineering Peace episode, Feelings, Needs, and Police Work.Today's episode features Anthony Torres and Mike Roberts, a new partner in the journey. Mike is a software engineer that has tipped the scales in the direction of progress, by bringing the expertise that completes the team that's creating a whole new future for police and the public they serve. Thom, Anthony and Mike talk about their project's genesis, it's current status, and it's future.Support the show

Thom talks about how being connected to oneself first increases our ability to create more connection with others, and self-care for ourselves.Support the show

Thom talks about two self-empathy practices that help us take care of ourselves in a world full of horrors and miracles.Support the show

Thom talks about the importance of empathy from others in overcoming "stuckness" in our self-empathy process.Support the show

In this episode Thom discusses the things that were troubling for NVC creator, Marshall Rosenberg and how that effected the creation of The Compassion Course.Thom also discusses the "technology" of the course and what he has done to improve the way that we learn Marshall's work.Support the show

Thom talks about how self-empathy can help us make life-serving choices when we are triggered or upset.Support the show

This is a workshop clip where Thom gives us a powerful and practical way to explore the breadth and depth of our shared human needs.Support the show

This is a workshop clip from Thom about the discipline of not speaking while angry, and a moment Thom had with his teacher and friend, Marshall Rosenberg.Support the show

Thom talks about the profound value of asking about Life Energy (feelings and needs) in the current moment.Support the show

Thom describes a way to see ourselves as an empathic presence.Support the show

Thom talks about how we can start to deal with people we call Narcissists.Support the show

A closer look at why we like chocolate so much.Support the show

Thom talks about choices we can make when we don't have a shared understanding or "shared reality" with others.Support the show

New Dialog and Deescalation Training for Police starts July 7th.  For the whole talk, listen to Episode 3.Support the show

In this episode, Thom interviews his former student and current training partner- a seasoned police officer from NYC who  has successfully used, and now teaches, empathic interaction to encourage nonviolent resolutions and arrests.Listen in as Thom and Ret. NYC Police Detective Anthony Torres talk about their history and how Anthony applied what he learned in a class, to his work on the streets of New York City.Support the show

Thom answers a seemingly deep question about our nature.Support the show

This is a segment of Thom's recent Compassion Course Anger workshop where he paints a big picture of where we are today as individuals and as a planet when it comes to anger - and shows us something we can all do about it. In this session, Thom talks us through the transformation of anger with needs awareness. From the inner process of self-empathy and embodying needs to the outer process of expressing ourselves powerfully without anger.Listen in on  this step by step journey to deconstruct anger and harvest new  inspiration and creativity.Support the show

This is an excerpt from a conversation between Thom Bond and Reverend Dr. Michael Christie. They discuss how Needs-Based Relating (NBR) can help us navigate the inner and outer relationship challenges of family holiday celebrations, differing beliefs, masks, and more, in a Covid world.Support the show

This is a workshop excerpt where Thom discusses the inner and outer perspectives of connecting with people who are experiencing intense emotions - plus how to express your own intensity without judgment.Support the show

This is the continuation of a conversation between Thom Bond (author of The Compassion Course) and Reverend Dr. Michael Christie (Chaplain). They discuss, race, fear, disconnection, slavery, universal human needs, police violence, and much more. It provides a perspective on where we Americans are, how we got here, where we're headed, and what we can do right now.Support the show

This is the continuation of a conversation between Thom Bond (author of The Compassion Course) and Reverend Dr. Michael Christie (Chaplain). They discuss, race, fear, disconnection, slavery, universal human needs, police violence, and much more. It provides a perspective on where we Americans are, how we got here, where we're headed, and what we can do right now.Support the show

This is a generative conversation between Thom Bond (author of The Compassion Course) and Reverend Dr. Michael Christie (Chaplain). They discuss, race, fear, disconnection, slavery, universal human needs, police violence, and much more. It provides a perspective on where we Americans are, how we got here, where we're headed, and what we can do right now.Support the show

In this 3rd episode, Thom talks about transforming our awareness of feelings and needs (discussed in Parts 1 and 2) into action by living powerfully and compassionately in "Request Mode" - even in hard times.Support the show

A followup to Thom's previous episode, Feelings, Needs, and the Coronavirus, this episode explores more ways for us to use the skills of The Compassion Course, Needs Awareness and Nonviolent Communication to keep us more connected in these trying times.Support the show

This is a little talk on how the work of Nonviolent Communication and Needs Awareness can make a difference in how we respond to the Coronavirus.Support the show

Thom talks you through a meditation to help you move beyond the intellectual identification of your needs to a deeper experience and understanding of them. This meditation can be learned and repeated to increase our connection to any need - see http://nycnvc.org/needs.Please visit ThomBond.com for more info on Thom and his schedule, purchasing The Compassion Book  and joining the Compassion Course. Support the show

This Engineering Peace Episode is an excerpt from a meeting I had with a group of educators and peace activists from Lebanon, Egypt, and Sudan.It was my first real introduction and it gave me the opportunity to share my background, the work I've done so far and lay the groundwork for the coming months and years as work towards a more peaceful and productive life for all of us.I thought it was a good way to share the "big picture" of "Engineering Peace".Please visit ThomBond.com for more info on Thom and his schedule, purchasing The Compassion Book  and joining the Compassion Course. Support the show

Ice Cream in a Hardware Store is a recording about from one of Thom's workshops with a little extra commentary. He talks about how we can find ways to get along with people - even when their actions don't seem to meet our needs.Please visit ThomBond.com for more info on Thom and his schedule, purchasing The Compassion Book  and joining the Compassion Course.  Support the show

Breaking My Dishes is a recording from one of Thom's workshops where he talks about a creative way to view adversity - one that can greatly increase the likelihood of getting your needs met.Please visit ThomBond.com for more info on Thom and his schedule, purchasing The Compassion Book  and joining the Compassion Course. Support the show