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Jodie is currently looking for people to participate in her documentary, including homeschool alumni, educators, people with experience in law or politics, and anyone with relevant experience to share.Reach out to her on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jodie_justice/Jodie was homeschooled from preschool through high school in a very Christian, Independent Baptist environment. Her mom gave her a lot of freedom to explore subjects she was interested in, but often relied on textbooks and self-teaching instead of actually teaching the material. Over time, Jodie fell behind academically (especially in math) and entered college realizing just how many educational gaps she had to overcome.In this episode, Jodie shares what it was like discovering that college was even an option, catching up academically as an adult, and realizing how homeschooling had affected her. We also talk about religious deconstruction, coming out as gay, family reactions, and the supportive role her wife has played. Jodie also shares her plans for a documentary exploring homeschooling, its lack of regulation, and the stories of people affected by it.In this episode, we talk about...Growing up in a strict Christian homeschool environmentThe challenges of self-teaching and falling behind academicallyEntering college and discovering just how much catching up was necessaryReligious deconstruction and coming out as gayWhy Jodie believes homeschooling requires community, accountability, and supportHer upcoming documentary about the realities of homeschoolingConnect with JodieJodie is currently looking for people to participate in her documentary, including homeschool alumni, educators, people with experience in law or politics, and anyone with relevant experience to share.Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jodie_justice/Support Ex-Homeschoolers ClubHave a story or thoughts you'd like to share? Email me at [email protected]: https://buymeacoffee.com/exhsclubEmail me at [email protected]: https://www.instagram.com/exhsclub/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@exhsclubNewsletter: https://exhsclub.beehiiv.com/Substack: https://exhsclub.substack.comIf you enjoyed this conversation, be sure to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with a friend who might benefit from hearing this story. Chapters00:00 Meet Jodi and the Show00:31 Newsletter and Episode Setup01:08 Jodi Homeschool Background01:41 Curriculum Chaos and Sale Bins03:50 Co-ops and the Church Bubble05:34 Religion in the Mix08:05 I Got To Pick My Electives But No One Was Teaching Me11:05 Self-Teaching Lead To Me Falling Behind16:46 Finding Motivation For College And Catching Up22:17 Discoverying My Career Direction24:39 The Making Of A Homeschool Documentary26:24 Unregulated Homeschooling Reality29:10 Realizing How Homeschool Harmed Me30:20 Finding Ex-Homeschool Support31:16 How Educated By Tara Westover Radicalized Me34:06 Grieving The Past And Rebuilding For The Future36:59 Partner Support System41:18 What Did Coming Out Look Like For You?49:29 Family Reactions To Coming Out52:42 Where Do You Stand With Homeschooling Today? 56:40 Documentary Call For Help59:41 Final Thanks And Wrap Up

If you want to support the channel, like, comment, share, or consider buying me a coffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/exhsclubToday, I'm sitting down with Rachael to unpack her experience growing up homeschooled in a deeply evangelical Christian environment. Rachael shares how undiagnosed ADHD, dyslexia, and dyscalculia made school difficult while the pressure to be a “perfect” homeschool kid led her to blame herself rather than question the system. She also talks about purity culture, rigid gender roles, the pressure to discover God’s perfect plan for her life, and why she felt completely unprepared to launch into adulthood after graduation. Her journey eventually took her to YWAM and overseas to Thailand, where new experiences helped her begin recognizing emotions she had spent years denying (including anger). Today, Rachael is working through years of religious deconstruction and therapy while reconnecting with the creativity and artistic identity she once felt ashamed to embrace.If you enjoyed this conversation, be sure to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with a friend who might benefit from hearing this story. Connect with meBuyMeACoffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/exhsclubEmail me at [email protected]: https://www.instagram.com/exhsclub/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@exhsclubNewsletter: https://exhsclub.beehiiv.com/Substack: https://exhsclub.substack.comChapters00:00 Welcome Back To The Ex-Homeschoolers Club00:41 Meet Rachel02:02 How Cancer Traumatized A Family05:19 What The Early Years Of Homeschooling Looked Like08:28 The Struggle Of Undiagnosed Learning Struggles11:23 How Faith Fostered An Environment Of Perfectionism15:00 What Did Homeschool Community Look Like For You?19:11 What Role Did Gender Roles And Purity Culture Play In Your Life?22:11 Moving To Colorado26:50 Finding Homeschool Friends Via Seminary29:25 Taking Public School Classes As A Homeschooler33:36 Homeschool Hierarchy Pressure36:19 Preparing Your Kids To Launch Into Adulthood37:50 Rachael Was Unprepared To Launch41:47 Crashing After High School Graduation43:42 What Is Gods Will In My Life47:35 Finding YWAM And Launching Into Adulthood54:32 Red Flags Of YWAM58:11 Discovering Anger01:02:41 Find Myself And Reclaiming Creativity01:08:35 Where Do You Stand With Homeschooling?01:14:00 Find Your Self-Autonomy01:16:19 Thanks For Tuning In

If you want to support the channel, like, comment, share, or consider buying me a coffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/exhsclubAfter growing up between Switzerland and the United States, Bradley Wyss had a homeschool experience that was anything but conventional. He moved between public school and homeschooling, eventually earning a Swiss education, starting college, and then returning to the U.S. where he had to complete high school all over again. But the biggest changes came after leaving the tightly connected Christian homeschool community he grew up in. Bradley shares what it was like to question the religious beliefs he had been raised with, deal with purity culture and the fear of breaking the rules, and eventually build a life based more on curiosity, independence, and taking chances. Today, he works in the wind industry, travels extensively, and embraces an adventurous approach to life.What I especially loved about this conversation was Bradley's perspective on fear. He's faced plenty of uncertainty, from being medically discharged from the Marine Corps because of his degenerative vision condition to figuring out a career and navigating life outside of his childhood religion. Instead of waiting until he feels completely confident, Bradley has learned to take the leap and figure things out along the way.In This EpisodeGrowing up between Switzerland and the United States and moving between public school and homeschoolingThe role of ACE/PACES and the homeschool community in Bradley's childhoodWhy leaving a religious community can be just as difficult as questioning the beliefs themselvesBreaking down the guilt and fear surrounding purity culture and religious rulesHow Bradley went from an unexpected Marine Corps setback to working in renewable energyBuilding a life around travel, adventure, hobbies, and taking chancesWhy fear doesn't necessarily have to disappear before you make a big changeFinding community and meaningful relationships after leaving the religious environment you grew up inIf you enjoyed this conversation, be sure to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with a friend who might benefit from hearing this story. Connect with meBuyMeACoffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/exhsclubEmail me at [email protected]: https://www.instagram.com/exhsclub/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@exhsclubNewsletter: https://exhsclub.beehiiv.com/Substack: https://exhsclub.substack.comChapters00:00 Welcome Back To The Ex-Homeschoolers Club00:38 Support The Show01:27 Meet Bradley02:43 Swiss To US Schooling03:57 Back To Switzerland Shift05:42 Divorce And US Return08:01 ACE Program And ACHEV12:32 Homeschool Community Life16:58 Graduating High School A Second Time17:33 Marine Corps Setback18:33 Vision Loss Reality21:15 Finding A Career In Wind22:39 Goals Travel And Freedom27:35 Taking Risks Pays Off33:38 Questioning Faith Begins39:20 Leaving Religion And Rules43:44 Tithing and Credit46:41 Gods Will and Free Will48:11 Purity Culture Guilt49:45 Leaving the Church53:23 Telling Your Parents57:20 What Do You Think Of Homeschooling Now?01:01:18 Tough Talks Not Bubbles01:06:01 Finding Zest for Life01:12:25 Freedom Through Travel01:15:31 Hobbies and Adventure Mindset01:18:20 Small Joys and Farewell

If you want to support the channel, like, comment, share, or consider buying me a coffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/exhsclubCheck out Part 1 of our convo: https://youtu.be/mUWjdOu6y5wSupport some fellow homeschool alum and grab a copy of Mixed-Up Metaphors: https://a.co/d/0bueQkeTWait no longer, part two of my conversation about friendship with Cari, Jenève, and Noah is here! Find out what happens to friendships as we grow up, move away, get married, have kids, change our beliefs, and become different versions of ourselves. We talk about how adult friendship often looks less like perfectly planned nights out and more like helping a friend clean the house, running errands together, or simply eating pizza and playing cards. We also dig into why shared values and the willingness to let people change can matter more than having identical beliefs. You’ll also here as we compare our homeschool experiences, talk about AWANA and Adventures in Odyssey, share creative projects we made together, and reflected on some of the "glow ups" we've experienced since leaving homeschooling. Ultimately, this conversation comes back to one thing: find the people who will keep showing up as you grow and change.In this episode, we talk about:How homeschool communities can create friendships that feel more like family.Why some childhood friendships naturally deepen while others don’t become close until adulthood.Maintaining friendships across distance, college, relationships, and major life changes.The strange pressure many homeschoolers experienced around boys and girls being friends and the assumption that friendship must mean dating.How purity culture and fear of romantic relationships affected the way we understood attraction, dating, and physical affection.Why protecting kids from every painful experience can leave them unprepared for adulthood — and how supportive friendships can give young people a safe place to learn from difficult experiences.The healing that can happen when adult children and their parents finally have honest conversations about the past.Wanna Join Book Club?Grab a copy of Educated by Tara Westover: https://tarawestover.com/bookIf you want to join our virtual Zoom meeting on August 29th 1pm EST - 10am PST, sign-up here: https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/bxCrsDpgTFGNvsWVgVdHXACheck Out My Previous Episodes With Cari, Jenève, and Noah!Cari: https://youtu.be/8cizKkNyLSo?si=5Y6IScdbDOnio0DJJenève: https://youtu.be/bxf9T5GFk4A?si=_eoI2xsjBCgi1ewVNoah: https://youtu.be/trh9iD3SvvA?si=8PTTowtUtKWG78seIf you enjoyed this conversation, be sure to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with a friend who might benefit from hearing this story. Connect with meBuyMeACoffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/exhsclubEmail me at [email protected]: https://www.instagram.com/exhsclub/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@exhsclubNewsletter: https://exhsclub.beehiiv.com/Substack: https://exhsclub.substack.comChapters00:00 Welcome Back To The Ex-Homeschoolers Club00:22 Ways You Can Support The Show01:04 Why Adult Friendships Are Hard02:06 Leaning Into Mom Friends05:10 Errands As Hangouts08:47 Friendship Phases And Adapting10:17 Kids As A New Hobby12:02 Values Keep Friends Close14:54 Sticking Through Big Changes17:58 Homeschool Similarities20:55 Mime Memories And Odyssey22:15 Nostalgia Versus Deconstruction24:54 Mime Confidence And Showman26:03 Showman Song Tangent26:52 Their Book Plug27:54 Mixed Metaphors Origin29:37 How The Book Works30:23 Old Songs And Videos31:09 Three Hour Movie Story33:21 Creating Together Lessons35:20 Homeschool Glow Up Talk36:53 Glow Up Stories46:42 Wrapping Up And Community

If you want to support the channel, like, comment, share, or consider buying me a coffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/exhsclubWhat happens to the friendships you make as a homeschooled kid once you grow up? In this episode of Ex-Homeschoolers Club, I sit down with three longtime friends, Cari, Noah, and Jenève, to talk about the friendships that started through homeschool groups, co-ops, extracurriculars, and family connections — and how those relationships changed as we became adults. We talk about childhood memories, long-distance friendships, reconnecting after college, and what it means to have someone who understands where you came from. We also get into the complicated rules many of us grew up with around opposite-sex friendships, dating, physical affection, and the pressure to avoid anything that might look romantic.In this episode, we talk about:How homeschool communities can create friendships that feel more like family.Why some childhood friendships naturally deepen while others don't become close until adulthood.Maintaining friendships across distance, college, relationships, and major life changes.The strange pressure many homeschoolers experienced around boys and girls being friends and the assumption that friendship must mean dating.How purity culture and fear of romantic relationships affected the way we understood attraction, dating, and physical affection.Why protecting kids from every painful experience can leave them unprepared for adulthood — and how supportive friendships can give young people a safe place to learn from difficult experiences.The healing that can happen when adult children and their parents finally have honest conversations about the past.Wanna Join Book Club?Grab a copy of Educated by Tara Westover: https://tarawestover.com/bookIf you want to join the conversation during the month, follow along on Fable: https://fable.co/club/ex-homeschoolers-book-club-with-jacob-gooden-585330795145And lastly, if you want to join our virtual Zoom meeting on August 29th 1pm EST - 10am PST, sign-up here: https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/bxCrsDpgTFGNvsWVgVdHXA Check Out My Previous Episodes With Cari, Jenève, and Noah!Cari: https://youtu.be/8cizKkNyLSo?si=5Y6IScdbDOnio0DJJenève: https://youtu.be/bxf9T5GFk4A?si=_eoI2xsjBCgi1ewVNoah: https://youtu.be/trh9iD3SvvA?si=8PTTowtUtKWG78seIf you enjoyed this conversation, be sure to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with a friend who might benefit from hearing this story. Connect with MeBuyMeACoffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/exhsclubEmail me at [email protected]: https://www.instagram.com/exhsclub/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@exhsclubNewsletter: https://exhsclub.beehiiv.com/Substack: https://exhsclub.substack.comChapters00:00 A Few Things Before We Get Into The Episode02:10 Welcome Back To The Ex-Homeschoolers Club 03:09 Cari's Homeschool Elevator Pitch05:20 Jenève' Homeschool Elevator Pitch07:19 Noah's Homeschool Elevator Pitch09:37 How We First Met15:00 Favorite Memories Together25:35 Post College Friendship Shift33:55 Opposite Sex Friend Stigma38:36 Prom Night Pressure41:27 Homeschool Dating Rules44:16 Rumor Mill Trauma45:30 Taboo And Modesty50:46 Side Hugs And Shame54:39 Friend Zone In College01:01:33 Protection Vs Preparation01:12:36 Healing With Parents01:14:45 Hugging Younger Self

Check out CRHE's Research: https://crhe.org/research/research-resources/Growing up homeschooled across multiple countries, experiencing homelessness, transitioning into public school, and eventually earning a PhD, Dr. Jonah Stewart has a story unlike most. In this episode, I sit down with Jonah to talk about their unconventional homeschool experience, the challenges of adapting to traditional education, and how those experiences ultimately shaped a career researching education and advocating for homeschool reform through the Coalition for Responsible Home Education (CRHE). We also discuss ADHD, social development, college, and why every homeschool story is unique.Key TakeawaysDr. Jonah Stewart shares what it was like being homeschooled across the U.S. and Australia.How Accelerated Christian Education (ACE) curriculum shaped—and limited—their learning experience.The difficult transition from homeschooling to public school during a period of family instability.Living with ADHD and discovering learning strategies that actually worked.Why social development is just as important as academic success.The mission of the Coalition for Responsible Home Education and why responsible oversight matters.Lessons learned from college, graduate school, and building an independent adult life.Resources MentionedCoalition for Responsible Home Education (CRHE)Accelerated Christian Education (ACE)Duke UniversityListener QuestionHave you ever transitioned from homeschooling into public or private school? What was the biggest surprise for you? Share your story in the comments!If you enjoyed this conversation, subscribe to the Ex-Homeschoolers Club and leave a review wherever you listen to podcasts. It helps more homeschool alumni discover these conversations and join the community.Connect with meBuyMeACoffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/exhsclubEmail me at [email protected] on Podcast: https://creators.spotify.com/pod/profile/exhsclub/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/exhsclub/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@exhsclubNewsletter: https://exhsclub.beehiiv.com/Substack: https://exhsclub.substack.comChapters00:00 Welcome to the Ex-Homeschoolers Club01:21 Jonah Homeschool Background03:22 Curriculum and Daily Routine08:22 How Our Parents Built Structure with ADHD Students11:29 Did You Find Homeschool Community or was it Isolating16:15 Why did you Switch to Public School19:20 Adjusting to Public School25:53 Finding Stability and Good Teachers32:04 The Different Forms of Intelligence and Social Skills35:57 Launching into Independence and College 39:25 Leaving Home Reality Check43:31 Hiding Homeschool Roots44:24 Stereotypes and Self Proof49:40 Reinvention in Grad School50:28 Coming Out and Finding Belonging55:42 Turning 30 Confidence Shift01:00:49 Finding CRHE and Purpose01:05:54 Research Gaps and Regulation01:12:58 Key Studies to Read01:19:39 Future Research Questions01:26:05 Why Lived Experience Matters01:28:35 Wrap Up and Resources

If you're loving the show and want to show some support, consider buying me a coffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/exhsclubThis week's episode is a little different. Instead of sitting down with a guest, I'm celebrating two major milestones: turning 30 and the Ex-Homeschoolers Club officially passing its second anniversary. I reflect on the challenges of my late twenties, the pressure of reaching a new decade, and why I'm choosing hope instead of fear as I step into this next chapter. I also share my gratitude for everyone who has listened, supported, and trusted me with their stories over the past two years.Join the Book ClubGrab a copy of Educated by Tara Westover: https://tarawestover.com/bookJoin the Fable discussion group: https://fable.co/club/ex-homeschoolers-book-club-with-jacob-gooden-585330795145Register for our Zoom meeting on August 29th 1pm EST - 10am PST: https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/bxCrsDpgTFGNvsWVgVdHXA If you enjoyed this conversation, be sure to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with a friend who might benefit from hearing this story. Connect with meBuyMeACoffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/exhsclubEmail me at [email protected] on Podcast: https://creators.spotify.com/pod/profile/exhsclub/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/exhsclub/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@exhsclubNewsletter: https://exhsclub.beehiiv.com/Substack: https://exhsclub.substack.comChapters00:00 Welcome Back To The Ex-Homeschoolers Club00:22 It's My Birthday!03:06 Happy Birthday To The Show06:52 August Book Club Announcement08:31 Thanks for Supporting

If you're loving the show and want to show some support, consider buying me a coffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/exhsclub*Trigger Warning:* This episode contains discussions of suicide, depression, trauma, and mental health.What happens when homeschooling, isolation, and identity all collide? In this episode, I sit down with Beau to talk about growing up homeschooled in a deeply religious environment, navigating gender identity, struggling with severe mental health challenges, and ultimately finding purpose through helping others heal. Beau shares an incredibly honest story about the realities of loneliness, recovery, and becoming a Recovery Support Specialist after surviving some of life's darkest moments.*Connect with Beau*• Substack: https://substack.com/@healingkind• Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/healingkind.bsky.social*Resources Mentioned*• CRHE: https://crhe.org• Homeschool Alumni Group Sessions: https://crhe.org/homeschool-alumni-groups/If you enjoyed this conversation, be sure to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with a friend who might benefit from hearing this story. *Connect with me*• BuyMeACoffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/exhsclub• Email me at [email protected]• Listen on Podcast: https://creators.spotify.com/pod/profile/exhsclub/• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/exhsclub/• TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@exhsclub• Newsletter: https://exhsclub.beehiiv.com/• Substack: https://exhsclub.substack.com*Chapters*00:00 Welcome Back to the Ex-Homeschoolers Club00:57 Let's Meet Beau02:17 Was Homeschooling Structured For You?05:58 How Much Responsibility Did You Hold At Home?08:38 Where Did You Grow Up?10:06 The Push To Get Into College Early12:59 Socializing As A Homeschooler17:17 What Was Making You Feel Out Of Place In School?22:06 When Did You Know You We're Trans?27:26 What Did Early Adulthood Look Like?30:45 Why Is Mental Health So Stigmatized In The Homeschool World?32:26 Trigger Warning: We're Talking About Suicide41:08 What Did It Take To Become A Recovery Support Specialist?51:06 How To Connect With Other Homeschool Alumni?58:06 What Do You Think About The Current State Of Homeschooling? 01:01:35 It's Always Ok To Change Your Mind01:02:42 Don't Be Afraid To Share Your Story01:05:44 Taking Care Of Yourself After Being Vulnerable01:10:04 Connect with Beau01:11:16 Do All The Internet Things

Audra is offering 50% discount on your first individual coaching session. Book a time at https://mamaaudra.com/oneonone and be sure to mention this podcast. Just a reminder, Audra coaches woman navigating faith transition after leaving a high control organization (not just Mormons).What happens when your entire identity is built around a high-control religion, and you begin to question it? This week, I sit down with Audra Phelps, an educator, former member of the LDS Church, and coach who helps people navigate life after leaving high-control religions. We discuss the overlap between homeschooling and religious environments, why questioning your beliefs can feel terrifying, and the long process of rebuilding your identity after deconstruction. Whether you've left religion yourself or are simply curious about how people reclaim their lives after high-control systems, this conversation is full of empathy, nuance, and hopeConnect with AudraWebsite: https://mamaaudra.comCheck Out Audra's FREE Masterclass: https://mamaaudra.com/trainingInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/mamaaudraofficial/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Mama-AudraTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@mamaaudra Resources MentionedWhen Religion Hurts You: https://drlauraeanderson.com/bookCoalition for Responsible Home Education: https://crhe.org If you enjoyed this conversation, be sure to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with a friend who might benefit from hearing this story. Connect with meBuyMeACoffee: buymeacoffee.com/exhsclubEmail me at [email protected]: https://www.instagram.com/exhsclub/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@exhsclubNewsletter: https://exhsclub.beehiiv.com/Substack: https://exhsclub.substack.comChapters00:00 Welcome to the Ex-Homeschoolers Club00:58 Meet Audra Phelps01:35 Audra's Teaching Journey02:57 Homeschooling Pros and Cons03:41 Teacher Training Respect05:46 Homeschool Outcomes Seen07:40 Teamwork With Schools10:40 Why Move Overseas13:14 Homeschool Bubble Effects14:48 Jacob Leaving the Bubble16:51 Growing Up in the Mormon Church18:24 High Demand Religion Explained20:36 Church Taught Me To Distrust Myself24:03 How Mormonism Adds Prophets and Extra Scripture To The Bible26:05 Comparing Faith Traditions28:47 Deconstruction Starts Small29:55 Exiting High-Controlled Religion33:11 Anxiety And Panic From Gender Roles35:13 Finding Independence Through Teaching36:56 Going Overseas Changed My Perspective39:06 Pandemic and Stepping Back41:21 Are These Sacred Spaces Evil?42:41 An Awakening In Sagrada Familia44:09 Saying It Out Loud44:53 Religious Trauma Resurfacing46:42 Identity Loss and Mom Guilt48:54 Leaving Leads To Loneliness and Family Fallout51:33 Marriage Through Deconstruction57:29 Grieving for the Unlived Life01:00:47 How To Get Out Of The Confusion01:05:02 Becoming A Coach For The Ex-Mormon Moms01:11:37 Regulating the Nervous System01:14:04 Body Based Belief Work01:16:56 Finding Your Voice Again01:19:17 Connect with Audra

Check out Liliana's Poetry on Amazon: https://bit.ly/4eYOJveIn this episode, I sit down with Liliana to talk about growing up homeschooled in a conservative Christian environment, navigating a sheltered childhood, and learning how to build a life on her own terms. We dive into culture shock after leaving home, making friends outside the homeschool bubble, questioning long-held beliefs, receiving an adult ADHD diagnosis, and finding healing through writing and poetry. Liliana also shares how creativity helped her process emotional abuse, difficult relationships, and rebuilding confidence. It's an honest conversation about growth, identity, and discovering who you are after homeschooling.Key TakeawaysGrowing up homeschooled in a highly religious and sheltered environment.Navigating culture shock and expanding your worldview after leaving home.Building a chosen family and meaningful friendships as an adult.How an adult ADHD diagnosis answered lifelong questions.Using poetry and creative writing to process trauma and healing.Connect with LilianaInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/valiantiaqueen/Poetry Books: https://bit.ly/4eYOJveConnect with meNewsletter: https://exhsclub.beehiiv.com/BuyMeACoffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/exhsclubInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/exhsclub/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@exhsclubEmail me at [email protected]: https://exhsclub.substack.comChapters00:00 Meet Liliana01:06 Homeschool Background01:46 Homeschool Normalization03:58 Typical School Day05:52 Co-ops and Classes09:27 Siblings and Dual Enrollment10:16 College Culture Shock13:58 Leaving Home and Work16:29 Marriage Roles Pressure19:32 New Friends New Views24:46 Trying Forbidden Things28:41 Homeschooling Today29:49 Homeschool Pros And Cons30:53 College Worries And Bigger Goals32:24 Chosen Family As Adults33:32 How To Make New Friends36:41 Writing And Self Publishing38:55 Why Poetry Hits Different41:39 Creativity Through Breakups44:30 Adult ADHD Diagnosis Story49:26 ADHD Coping Tools That Work52:04 Therapy Help 53:27 Wrap Up

Want to join our Purity Culture Livestream? Follow Kate on Substack: https://substack.com/@katejohnsonwrites or Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/katejohnsonwritesKate Johnson joins me to share one of the most powerful and difficult stories we've featured on the podcast. We talk about growing up homeschooled in a conservative Christian environment, navigating life after her father's arrest for child sexual abuse material, and how isolation, purity culture, and parentification shaped her childhood. Kate also reflects on finding her voice, questioning long-held beliefs, and rebuilding her identity as an adult. This conversation is heavy at times, but it's ultimately about healing, resilience, and why protecting vulnerable children must be part of the homeschool conversation.In this episode we discuss:Kate's experience growing up homeschooled using Abeka, Calvert, Classical Conversations, and other Christian curricula.How her father's arrest shattered the sense of safety her family had built around homeschooling and church.The hidden dangers of isolation, parentification, and secrecy within some homeschooling environments.Purity culture, consent, and the long-term impact those teachings had on both girls and boys.Finding healing, embracing authenticity, and reclaiming her own voice.Connect with Kate Johnson:Substack: https://substack.com/@katejohnsonwritesInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/katejohnsonwritesThreads: https://www.threads.com/@katejohnsonwritesTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@katejohnsonwritesYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@katejohnsonwritesResources Mentioned:Coalition for Responsible Home Educators: https://crhe.orgIf this conversation resonated with you, subscribe to the Ex-Homeschoolers Club, leave a review, and share this episode with someone who may need to hear it. If you'd like to support the show, be sure to join the newsletter for updates and future episodes.Connect with me:Newsletter: https://exhsclub.beehiiv.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/exhsclub/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@exhsclubEmail me at [email protected]: https://exhsclub.substack.comChapters00:00 Trigger Warning00:39 Invitation To Purity Culture Livestream01:20 Welcome and Guest Intro02:28 Kate’s Homeschool Origins02:43 First Day Was 9/1108:15 Finding a Homeschool Rhythm11:05 Classical Conversations Explained17:32 Curriculum Nostalgia and Resources23:16 Siblings and Public School Switch25:38 High School Culture Shock28:51 Pastor’s Kid Pressure31:21 TW: Dad’s Arrest and Fallout36:38 TW: Isolation and System Gaps39:36 TW: Silence, Control, Parentification44:04 TW: Healing and Purity Culture46:46 Guys Taught No Control50:17 Consent And Worthlessness52:45 College Identity Shifts57:27 Politics And Deconstruction01:01:32 Trusting Inner Intuition01:03:41 TW: Dad Arrested Again01:08:42 Somatic Healing Journey01:15:50 Ritual Of Letting Go01:23:20 Values And Bodywork Tools01:29:22 Where To Follow Kate01:31:45 Homeschool Safety Advocacy01:34:25 Final Thanks And Wrap

Where does online school fit into the homeschooling conversation? In this week's episode, I sat down with Mindy to explore that question while unpacking the similarities and differences between public online education and traditional homeschooling. We discuss educational gaps, socialization, student safety, and why the rapid growth of homeschooling is forcing us to rethink how we define home-based education.We also dive into the broader cultural and political influence of the homeschooling movement, the role of regulation, and why nuanced conversations are essential if we want to improve educational outcomes without losing the flexibility that makes alternative education valuable. Whether you were homeschooled, attended online school, or are simply interested in education policy, this episode offers plenty to think about.Resources we mentionedLifetime Prevalence of Investigating Child Maltreatment Among US Children: https://ajph.aphapublications.org/doi/abs/10.2105/AJPH.2016.303545?journalCode=ajphHow a true believer’s flawed research helped legitimize home schooling: https://www.washingtonpost.com/education/2023/12/11/brian-ray-homeschool-student-outcomes/The Christian home-schooler who made ‘parental rights’ a GOP rallying cry: https://www.spokesman.com/stories/2023/aug/31/the-christian-home-schooler-who-made-parental-righ/Ten Homeschooling Parent Myths Debunked: https://rlstollar.com/2025/06/06/ten-homeschooling-parent-myths-debunked/Online schools 'worse than traditional teachers': https://www.bbc.com/news/business-34671952Coalition for Responsible Home Education: https://crhe.orgHomeschooled by Stefan Merrill Block: https://bookshop.org/p/books/homeschooled-a-new-york-times-bestselling-memoir-and-read-with-jenna-pick-stefan-merrill-block/7e9b1465fdf608ff?ean=9781335000989&next=tConnect with MeNewsletter: https://exhsclub.beehiiv.com/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Ex-HomeschoolersClubInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/exhsclub/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@exhsclubEmail me at [email protected]: https://exhsclub.substack.comChapters00:00 Welcome and Introductions01:14 Mindy’s Early Schooling01:47 Middle School Pressures05:23 Bullying and High School Fears07:57 Homeschool vs Online School10:28 Online School Day to Day11:21 Tutoring Center Realities13:11 Did Online School Work15:55 Why Study Homeschooling Now22:15 Guardrails and Learning Gaps26:22 Homeschooling Political Pipeline30:45 Shiny Happy People Connections32:54 Homeschool Political Grooming33:24 Lobby Days And Fake Scores35:14 HSlda And Child Safety Gaps39:20 Online School Under Homeschooling40:44 Mandated Reporters And CPS Fear43:32 Bullying And Queer Panic46:58 Unlearning Homophobia51:31 Defining Laws And New Models55:51 Parental Rights And Anti Vax Roots01:02:06 Research Myths And Data Needs01:04:29 Former Homeschoolers Speak Up01:07:37 Wrap Up And Community Invite

Want to hear Liz's homeschool experience? Check out this episode: https://youtu.be/rvHUlhOM9hI?si=j7JGWwCJAMwtrChbLiz is back in the clubhouse to explore the role religion played in our homeschool upbringings and how those beliefs shaped our identities long after childhood. Liz shares what it was like growing up in an intensely Catholic homeschool environment, from her involvement in the Legion of Mary to embracing modesty culture, purity culture, and the expectation that she might one day become a nun.Together, we unpack the complicated process of questioning long-held beliefs, navigating religious trauma, and separating personal faith from the cultural expectations that surrounded us. We discuss purity culture, the lack of sex education in many homeschool environments, the experience of deconstruction, and the grief that can accompany rebuilding your worldview. Whether you're still religious, no longer religious, or somewhere in between, this conversation is about finding space to ask questions, heal, and better understand the stories that shaped us.Resources We MentionedWhen Religion Hurts You: https://drlauraeanderson.com/bookHomeschooled: A Memoir: https://bookshop.org/p/books/homeschooled-a-new-york-times-bestselling-memoir-and-read-with-jenna-pick-stefan-merrill-block/7e9b1465fdf608ff?ean=9781335000989&next=tThe Body Keeps the Score: https://www.besselvanderkolk.com/resources/the-body-keeps-the-scoreInterview with D.L. Mayfield: https://youtu.be/ohzrQqPq0Dw?si=vi3cp1QPt8fy3wfiChapters00:00 Welcome Back Liz01:07 Homeschooler Connection03:32 Catholic Roots And Belonging06:21 Evangelical Upbringing08:33 Confirmation And Commitment11:11 Legion Of Mary Explained13:30 Conference Culture And War Talk19:37 Performing Faith Publicly21:29 Christian Mime And Evangelism24:00 Modesty Purity And Shame28:29 Deconstruction And Questioning31:55 Where Beliefs Came From33:11 Silence Around Sex And Expectations34:56 Nunhood and Holiness35:41 Purity Books Osmosis36:40 Period Shame Lesson37:51 Apple Pie Purity Talk41:06 No Sex Ed Basics43:27 Bridgerton Level Ignorance45:20 Study Abroad Cracks Bubble47:43 Grief and Quiet Deconstruction54:34 Naming Religious Trauma01:01:30 Inner Child Healing01:04:20 Finding Community Through Stories01:06:50 Closing Thoughts and ResourcesIf you enjoyed this conversation, be sure to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with a friend who might benefit from hearing this story. Follow Ex-Homeschoolers Club on Instagram and TikTok for updates, and send us a message – we’d love to hear from you!Connect with MeNewsletter: https://exhsclub.beehiiv.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/exhsclub/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@exhsclubEmail me at [email protected]

Grab a copy of Homeschooled for yourself: https://bookshop.org/p/books/homeschooled-a-new-york-times-bestselling-memoir-and-read-with-jenna-pick-stefan-merrill-block/7e9b1465fdf608ff?ean=9781335000989&next=tThis week I have the honor of sitting down with author Stefan Merrill Block to discuss his memoir Homeschooled, his years in an isolating homeschooling environment, and the complicated relationship he shared with his mother. Stefan opens up about being pulled out of public school at age nine, the isolation that followed, the pressure of being told he was a prodigy, and the difficult transition back into traditional school after four and a half years of homeschooling.We also explore themes that will resonate with many former homeschoolers: loneliness, identity, friendship, family enmeshment, educational neglect, and the long-lasting effects of childhood narratives. Beyond homeschooling, Stefan shares how books became a lifeline, how writing helped him process grief after his mother's death, and why he believes storytelling can be one of the most powerful tools for healing.Whether you're an ex-homeschooler, current homeschool parent, educator, or simply interested in memoir and family dynamics, this conversation offers a thoughtful look at the complicated realities behind one family's homeschool experience.Connect with StefanGrab a copy of the book: https://bookshop.org/p/books/homeschooled-a-new-york-times-bestselling-memoir-and-read-with-jenna-pick-stefan-merrill-block/7e9b1465fdf608ff?ean=9781335000989&next=tFollow him on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/stefanmblock/Check out his website: https://www.stefanmerrillblock.comIf you enjoyed this conversation, be sure to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with a friend who might benefit from hearing this story. Follow Ex-Homeschoolers Club on Instagram and TikTok for updates, and send us a message – we’d love to hear from you!Connect with meNewsletter: https://exhsclub.beehiiv.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/exhsclub/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@exhsclubEmail me at [email protected]:00 Welcome and Guest Intro01:35 How Homeschooling Began02:53 Bluff Called Leaving School04:57 Unschooling Day to Day07:30 Math CDs and Drifting09:05 Isolation and Genius Myth12:02 Decision to Return16:06 High School Culture Shock20:01 Success Versus Scars24:35 Friendship After Homeschool25:54 2020 Isolation Flashbacks31:16 Owning the Homeschool Identity33:03 Sanity Is Consensus34:34 Finding A Writer Voice35:45 Books As Empathy39:35 Fiction Versus Memoir42:47 Writing After Loss47:42 Choosing Homeschooled Title52:18 Calling For Homeschool Reform53:54 Finding CRHE Community57:14 Hate Mail And Defensiveness59:15 Next Novel New Focus01:03:11 Stories Change Laws01:04:16 Wrap Up And Farewell

If you wanna support the work of CRHE, consider a donation: https://crhe.org/support-crhe/Today we're talking homeschool legislation. And who better to do that than Tess Ulrey, director of the Coalition for Responsible Home Education. Together, we're breaking down major legislative victories in Nebraska and Connecticut, explaining the goals behind the Make Homeschool Safe Act, and exploring the complicated balance between parental rights, children’s rights, and educational freedom. The conversation also dives into public school sports access, mandated reporters, homeschool stigma, and why reliable homeschool data matters more than ever.Key Topics CoveredNebraska’s LB1224 and what it changes for homeschool oversightConnecticut’s new homeschool registration requirementsWhy CRHE advocates for homeschool accountabilitySuspicious withdrawal during CPS investigationsAccess to public school sports and extracurricularsHomeschooling and children’s rightsWhy homeschool data and registration matterLegislative pushback from both homeschool and public school communitiesThe future of homeschool reform in the U.S.Resources MentionedCRHE Website: https://crhe.orgMake Homeschool Safe Act: https://crhe.org/make-homeschool-safe-act/Homeschooling's Invisible Children: https://hic.crhe.orgIf you enjoyed this conversation, be sure to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with a friend who might benefit from hearing this story. Follow Ex-Homeschoolers Club on Instagram and TikTok for updates, and send us a message – we’d love to hear from you!Connect with MeNewsletter: https://exhsclub.beehiiv.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/exhsclub/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@exhsclubEmail me at [email protected]:00 Welcome Back Tess Ulrey from CRHE01:08 What Is CRHE? And What Do They Do?02:27 Big Wins In Nebraska And Connecticut03:55 Make Homeschool Safe Act07:50 Nebraska LB1224 Breakdown11:36 Kids Rights Bipartisan Shift14:21 Connecticut HB5468 Changes16:18 Why Registration Matters20:16 Access Bills Sports Resources25:23 Pushback and Practicalities27:48 Homeschoolers on Teams28:21 Proms and Shared Events30:04 Breaking Homeschool Stigma32:49 What Bills Are Next34:13 How Laws Spread Statewide38:38 Federal Graduation Recognition43:58 Parents Rights Debate45:10 How Alumni Can Help53:15 Local Outreach and Wrap Up

You can try out Podspun for yourself here: https://podspun.com/@Ex-HomeschoolersClubToday I’m sharing something a little different, it's a bonus episode/demo of a new tool called Podspun that lets you search through podcast episodes to find the golden nuggets you might have forgotten. If you’ve ever remembered a conversation from the show but couldn’t remember which episode it came from, this tool is designed to solve that problem. You can search topics, keywords, and even ask questions that pull answers directly from past episodes and guest conversations.I walk through how the tool works, show a few real examples from the podcast, and explain how it can help both longtime listeners and brand-new audience members explore the show in a completely new way.After you test it out, I’d genuinely love to hear what you think. Whether you have ideas for new features, feedback on how it works, or topics you’d like to explore through the tool, send me your thoughts at [email protected]. I’ll be sharing listener feedback directly with the creators as they continue improving the platform.Connect with meInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/exhsclub/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@exhsclubEmail me at [email protected]:00 Welcome To A Special Announcement Episode00:33 Podcast Search Problem01:05 Meet Podspun01:24 Search Captions Demo02:27 Ask a Quesion Demo03:33 Try It and Share Your Feedback

What happens when homeschool parents actually listen to homeschool alumni?In this episode, I'm sitting down with homeschool mom and former teacher Kim Andrysczyk for a thoughtful conversation about homeschooling, parenting, emotional health, and accountability. Instead of getting defensive about criticism from homeschool graduates, Kim shares why listening matters — and how those conversations can help shape healthier homeschool experiences for future generations.Kim opens up about raising three homeschooled children, navigating learning disabilities and dyslexia, struggling with the blurred lines between parent and teacher, and eventually deciding to send one child back to public school when homeschooling stopped working. Together, Jacob and Kim explore authoritarian parenting, emotional regulation, testing and accountability, homeschool legislation, and why alumni voices deserve to be heard.This episode is a nuanced, compassionate discussion about growth, mistakes, and how families can do better moving forward.*Connect with Kim*• The South Carolina Homeschool Connection: https://www.homeschoolingsc.org• Cola City Homeschoolers Convention: https://www.colacityhomeschoolers.com*Resources Mentioned*• The Myth of Good Christian Parenting: https://www.amazon.com/Myth-Good-Christian-Parenting-Evangelical/dp/1587436647• Good Inside: A Guide to Becoming the Parent You Want to Be: https://www.amazon.com/Good-Inside-Guide-Becoming-Parent/dp/0063159481• Homeschooled by Stefan Merrill Block: https://bookshop.org/p/books/homeschooled-a-new-york-times-bestselling-memoir-and-read-with-jenna-pick-stefan-merrill-block/7e9b1465fdf608ff?ean=9781335000989&next=t• Stories Behind Stances: https://www.amazon.com/Stories-Behind-Stances-Creating-Empathy/dp/B0C6W15LK7• Rachel Denhollander: https://rachaeldenhollander.comIf you enjoyed this conversation, be sure to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with a friend who might benefit from hearing this story. Follow Ex-Homeschoolers Club on Instagram and TikTok for updates, and send us a message – we’d love to hear from you!*Connect with me*Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/exhsclub/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@exhsclubEmail me at [email protected]*Chapters*00:00 Welcome Back to the Ex-Homeschoolers Club01:24 Why Kim chose homeschooling04:23 Extracurriculars and co-op learning12:16 Dyslexia testing and support resources17:14 When homeschooling stops working18:49 Parent vs teacher role conflict24:39 Parenting style and emotional regulation29:53 Listening to alumni and handling criticism36:43 Authority triggers and accountability39:34 Kids Need A Voice41:17 Authoritarian Backlash42:26 Common Sense Safeguards43:45 Testing Builds Confidence46:13 Training DSS Agents48:48 South Carolina Accountability Work54:20 Prevention And Protective Factors01:01:46 Community Over Isolation 01:03:23 Transcripts And College Prep01:08:15 Homeschool Expo Details01:13:30 Final Thanks And Wrap

This week in the clubhouse, I'm sitting down with Lydia to unpack what it was like growing up homeschooled in a large “Fundy-lite” Christian family deeply influenced by Vision Forum culture, purity culture, and Quiverfull-adjacent ideology.Lydia shares her experience being the oldest of seven children, navigating homeschool co-ops, modesty culture, conservative Christian college, and the immense pressure of becoming the “obedient oldest daughter.” Together, Jacob and Lydia explore how homeschool isolation can exist even inside large communities, the hidden emotional burden placed on oldest daughters, and the long process of deconstructing beliefs that shaped adulthood.This conversation dives into homeschooling culture, Christian nationalism, purity culture, social isolation, and the struggle to build an identity outside of the expectations placed on homeschool kids.Some Of The Things We ReferencedI Kissed Dating GoodbyeHomeschool Legal Defense AssociationDoug PhillipsShiny Happy PeopleConnect with LydiaTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@90shomeschooler Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/90shomeschooler/If you enjoyed this conversation, be sure to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with a friend who might benefit from hearing this story. Follow Ex-Homeschoolers Club on Instagram and TikTok for updates, and send us a message – we’d love to hear from you!Connect with JacobInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/exhsclub/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@exhsclubEmail me at [email protected]:00 Let's Meet Lydia01:03 Growing Up On A Fundie Lite Homestead03:42 Is Virginia The Homeschool Hub05:33 Why Lydia's Family Homeschooled09:48 Did Your Homeschool Curriculum Prepare You For College13:12 I Went To College To Meet My Husband14:35 What Is Vision Forum19:00 Were Are Parents Even Reading What They Were Giving Us22:05 Did You Have A Homeschool Community27:17 Socialization Isn't The Same As Real Friends28:50 Did Big Family Dynamics Lead To Parentification33:22 Was College A Culture Shock37:58 Why College Didn’t Change Me40:43 Moving Out Was The Catalyst For My Deconstruction45:16 My Therapist Made Me Start A TikTok50:31 Today's Risks Of Homeschooling53:05 Embrace the Weird

This week on the podcast, I sat down with Jaycie to unpack what it was like growing up K–12 homeschooled in a deeply religious environment shaped by ACE curriculum, church culture, and isolation. From role-playing public school in her bedroom as a kid to struggling with depression and culture shock during college, Jaycie shares an honest look at how homeschooling shaped her relationships, faith, and transition into adulthood.In this episode, we covered:ACE curriculum often prioritized religious ideology over deep academic learningHomeschool isolation can make transitions into adulthood and college extremely difficultMany homeschoolers develop strong self-teaching and research skillsFear-based religious messaging can make social connection feel unsafeCollege became both liberating and emotionally overwhelmingCOVID gave many former evangelicals space to reevaluate faith and church culturePublic school and homeschooling both have tradeoffs, but involvement from parents matters mostCreative freedom and independent learning were meaningful positives from homeschoolingChapters: 00:00 Welcome to the Ex-Homeschoolers Club00:35 Jaycie's Homeschool Rundown01:36 ACE Curriculum Breakdown03:09 Pros and Cons of ACE09:45 Church as Social Life11:02 Moving Missouri to Texas13:59 Senior Year Depression16:35 College Culture Shock26:39 Gods Not Dead Mindset30:23 Dropping Out and Marriage32:50 Faith Shift During COVID36:49 Homeschooling Reconsidered40:22 Choosing Public School44:33 Art Career and Reading50:40 Cringey Co Op Puppets53:04 Wrap Up and GoodbyeIf you enjoyed this conversation, be sure to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with a friend who might benefit from hearing this story. Follow Ex-Homeschoolers Club on Instagram and TikTok for updates, and send us a message – we’d love to hear from you!Connect with me:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/exhsclub/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@exhsclubEmail me at [email protected]

This week on the podcast, I sat down with D.L. Mayfield for one of the most intense and thought-provoking conversations we’ve ever had on the Ex-Homeschoolers Club. We unpacked the influence of Focus on the Family, James Dobson, purity culture, and authoritarian parenting on an entire generation of homeschool kids — and what it means to revisit those ideas as adults.ResourcesSTRONGWILLED Project: https://www.strongwilledproject.comCoalition for Responsible Home EducationChapters00:00 Content Warning00:14 Meet DL and Homeschool Roots02:38 Pastor Kid Life and Moving Often03:33 Reading Escape and Uneven Schooling06:17 Public School Transition and Doomsday Prep07:20 Host Reflections and Shared Homeschool Vibes09:46 Focus on the Family in Childhood10:31 Dobson Parenting and Abuse Enablers13:38 Adventures in Odyssey Nostalgia vs Critique16:49 Fascism Framework and Why Dobson Matters21:48 Dobson Origins and Eugenics Links24:06 Deconstruction Reaction and New Thesis27:05 Porn Commission and Ignored Child Abuse32:26 Predator Profiles and Forgiveness Culture37:05 Wit as Trusted Authority39:29 Imagination Station Lessons42:53 Parenting Against Blind Trust44:54 Authority and Homeschool Myths46:26 Incest Denial and Epstein Parallels50:45 Purity Culture and Male Lust54:40 Girls Modesty and Predators57:21 Forgiveness Without Justice01:02:17 Stop Hitting Children01:06:05 Listen to Kids and Reform01:07:45 Strong Willed Resources01:09:48 Late Bloomer Hope01:11:42 Closing Thanks and WrapIf you enjoyed this conversation, be sure to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with a friend who might benefit from hearing this story. Follow Ex-Homeschoolers Club on Instagram and TikTok for updates, and send us a message – we’d love to hear from you!Connect with Jacob Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/exhsclub/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@exhsclubEmail me at [email protected]

Want to be alerted when new episodes drop? Join the newsletter: https://exhsclub.beehiiv.com/RB returns to the Ex-Homeschoolers Club to share how his life has changed since his first appearance. After years of trauma therapy, RB opens up about receiving an adult ADHD diagnosis and how it reshaped his understanding of his past, his behaviors, and his identity. From navigating burnout after a “manic phase” of newfound freedom to finding the right medication and building healthier systems, RB offers an honest look at what healing actually looks like in real life. The conversation also explores homeschooling, generational trauma, digital boundaries, and how to live in the “gray” instead of black-and-white thinking. This episode is a deep dive into growth, self-awareness, and what it really means to move forward.Connect with RB:• RB on Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/flyerbrown/⁠If you enjoyed this conversation, be sure to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with a friend who might benefit from hearing this story. Follow Ex-Homeschoolers Club on Instagram and TikTok for updates, and send us a message – we’d love to hear from you!Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/exhsclub/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@exhsclubEmail me at [email protected]:00 Welcome Back: RB Returns to the Ex Homeschoolers Club00:46 RB’s Homeschooling “Elevator Pitch” (States, Groups, and Religion)02:00 Homeschool Accountability & Why State Rules Matter04:40 Life Update: Adult ADHD Diagnosis—Why Get Tested Now?05:32 Trauma Therapy to “Manic Phase”: Freedom, Overcommitment, and Burnout12:24 Getting Evaluated: 6 Hours of Testing + Inattentive ADHD Explained17:55 Medication Journey: Non‑Stimulants, Ritalin Fears, and Doctor Oversight23:38 Dialing In Adderall + ADHD Coaching: Sleep, Phones, and Focus Loops28:28 Digital Boundaries & Circles of Trust (Notifications, Slack, After‑Hours)37:41 Reframing Childhood Through ADHD: The Pearl Harbor Paper & Healing the Story42:12 Trauma Isn’t the Event: Validating Your Past and Tracking Real Progress46:35 Seeing Parents as People: Generational Trauma, Estrangement, and Limits49:20 Breaking the Cycle: Becoming a Better Parent Than You Had49:42 From Black-and-White Faith to Living in the Gray52:13 Political Deconstruction: 2016, Voting, and the Right to Change57:26 Reframing the Past: Homeschooling Through Trauma & Poverty58:47 Pick Your Boat: Choosing a Cause Without Carrying Every Issue01:02:04 Healthcare Access 101: The ‘Boat’ He’s On and Why It Matters01:03:39 Fixing the System: Data Portability, QR Codes, and Killing the Fax Machine01:09:57 Owning Your Health Data: Consent, Walled Gardens, and Trust01:11:15 Crypto, AI, and Creativity: Where Tech Helps—and Where It Hurts01:24:25 Real Connection in a Digital World: Friends, Touch, and Sandlot Baseball01:28:20 Wrap-Up: Gratitude, Annual Check-Ins, and How to Share Your Story

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Subscribe to Un•Religiously on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@UnReligiously What happens when a homeschooled teenager raised in a deeply evangelical environment suddenly enters a community college classroom filled with new ideas, identities, and worldviews?In this episode of The Ex-Homeschoolers Club, I'm sitting down with YouTuber Lauren Howe, creator of the Un•Religiously channel, to talk about growing up homeschooled in a highly religious environment and navigating the massive culture shock of entering public education and college.Lauren shares how her family originally started homeschooling due to learning challenges like ADHD, but over time became immersed in the evangelical homeschool culture of the early 2000s. She reflects on everything from joking that school buses were “prison buses” as a kid to grappling with evolution, gender identity, and even yoga classes for the first time in college.The conversation explores both the benefits and drawbacks of homeschooling, the influence of homeschool culture beyond parents themselves, and the complicated process of reconciling faith with new perspectives.Chapters00:00 Sneak Peek00:50 Welcome to the Ex-Homeschoolers Club01:52 Lauren’s Background04:09 Is Public School Really That Bad?07:11 Homeschool Culture Influence08:35 Homeschooling Pros and Cons10:27 What Parents Did Well11:51 Testing Out and Dual Enrollment13:43 Transition and Socialization17:03 Faith vs Evolution20:45 Yoga and Moral Panic22:48 Four Year College Next24:18 Pop Culture Catch Up26:59 College Culture Shock27:53 Hiding Homeschool Roots29:27 Spotting Fellow Homeschoolers30:16 Unreligiously Channel Mission33:06 Deconstruction First Dominoes37:26 Fear Silence And Fallout40:09 Seeing Prayer As Love43:00 Catching Up On Pop Culture45:20 Homeschooling X Factor47:38 Advice For New Homeschoolers51:51 Religious Liberty Commission Warning53:26 Final Thanks And WrapConnect with MeInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/exhsclub/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@exhsclubEmail me at [email protected]

Want to be alerted when new episodes drop? Join the newsletter: https://exhsclub.beehiiv.com/In this episode of Ex-Homeschoolers Club, I sit down with my cousin Amanda, a second-grade public school teacher with 13 years of classroom experience, to explore education from the “dark side.” Haha!Amanda shares what it’s really like inside today’s public schools: what works, what’s frustrating, and what’s changed over the last decade. From student teaching stories to advocating for kids who need services, she offers an honest look at the realities teachers face, including funding challenges, inclusion classrooms, and navigating parents who are (and aren’t) involved.We also talk candidly about homeschooling; the myths, the shifts in perception, and the surprising reality that even a public school teacher might consider homeschooling her own children.Key PointsWhy Amanda believes second grade is the “sweet spot” What student teaching really looks like (including full classroom takeover)How public education has shifted in the last 13 yearsThe reality of funding and where resources actually goWhy parental involvement makes a massive differenceThe biggest myth Amanda had about homeschoolingWhy she’s now reconsidering homeschooling for her own kidsWhat kids actually remember about school (hint: not the standards)If this episode hit home, share it with a parent, teacher, or anyone who's ever wondered what's really going on in our schools. Leave a comment and tell Jacob what landed for you. Connect with MeInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/exhsclub/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@exhsclubEmail me at [email protected]:00 Why She Loves Teaching the Little Ones (Kinder–3rd Vibes)00:42 Growing Up Public Schooled: Favorite Teachers & Loving School02:40 When the ‘I Want to Teach’ Lightbulb Turned On05:15 College Path + Getting Credentialed (5-Year Track)06:36 Student Teaching Stories: Kindergarten, 6th Grade & Full Class Takeover09:43 13 Years in the Classroom: Landing in 2nd Grade for Good10:47 Why Second Grade Is the Sweet Spot: Independence & Interests Bloom13:23 Which Grades Are ‘Best’ to Teach? (And Why Junior High Is a No)15:19 Homeschooling From the Other Side: Myths, Social Life & Changing Views18:19 Homeschool Reality Check: Isolation, Co-ops, and Different Kids Thrive Differently20:00 How Public School Has Changed: Funding, Services, and Advocating for Kids23:14 Fighting for Students Without Support at Home23:40 Where the Money Goes: New Schools vs. Student Services25:32 Is Public Education ‘Broken’? Advocacy & Community Support26:21 Parents: Get Involved, Ask Questions, Know Your Rights29:39 Beyond Parents: Voting, Bonds, and Showing Up to Board Meetings32:03 Has a Public School Teacher Considered Homeschooling?34:10 Homeschool Reality Check: Space, Structure, and the Mom/Teacher Blur36:44 How Much Freedom Do Teachers Have? Standards, Pacing, and Customization40:57 What Kids Actually Remember: Hands-On Learning Over Test Prep42:36 Final Takeaway: Whatever You Choose, Stay Involved44:29 Wrap-Up, Thanks, and Call to Action

Get on the newsletter: https://exhsclub.beehiiv.com/What happens when homeschooling meets full-time travel, nature-based learning, and a family determined to break out of traditional education models? In this episode of The Ex-Homeschoolers Club, Jacob sits down with Kayla Mathieu to explore her family’s roadschooling journey, how travel shaped her children’s education, and why reconnecting with nature has become a central pillar in their homeschooling philosophy.Kayla shares how her family successfully visited all 50 states while educating their children on the road, the challenges of adapting to different learning styles, and how stepping outside conventional classroom structures helped her kids thrive. She also discusses the importance of flexibility, community, and self-grace for families navigating homeschooling.From nervous system regulation through outdoor experiences to practical advice for parents considering homeschooling, this episode offers a thoughtful and balanced look at alternative education through lived experience.Quick HitsKayla’s family traveled to all 50 states while roadschooling their childrenHow travel and experiential learning shaped her children’s educationAdapting homeschooling methods to accommodate different learning stylesThe role of nature in supporting emotional regulation and mental healthThe realities of transitioning from traditional education structures to flexible learningAdvice for parents considering homeschooling and finding educational approaches that fit their familyThe importance of homeschool communities and support networksConnect with Kayla MathieuWandering Past Limits Blog: https://www.wanderingpastlimits.comYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@wanderingpastlimits Chapters00:00 Introduction and Welcome00:56 Meet Kayla: A Homeschooling Journey Begins01:18 Challenges in Traditional Schooling10:44 A Turning Point: Deciding to Homeschool11:46 First Year of Homeschooling: Learning the Ropes14:52 Finding the Right Curriculum19:32 Integrating Travel with Learning21:10 Revolutionary War History and East Coast Travels21:54 Navigating ADHD and Autism in Homeschooling22:45 Socialization and RV Homeschooling Groups26:02 Favorite Travel Destinations27:12 Individualized Homeschooling Approaches29:24 Reconnecting with Nature34:00 Advice for New Homeschooling Families36:18 Conclusion and Final ThoughtsConnect with MeInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/exhsclub/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@exhsclubEmail me at [email protected]

In this episode of The Ex-Homeschoolers Club, I'm sitting down with Tess Ulrey, Executive Director of the Coalition for Responsible Home Education (CRHE). Tess shares her experience growing up homeschooled across multiple countries, transitioning in and out of public, private, and international schools, and how those experiences shaped her work advocating for homeschool children today.Together, they unpack the privilege embedded in homeschooling, the blurry lines between homeschooling and unschooling, the challenges many homeschool alumni face in college and adulthood, and why responsible oversight matters—not to punish families, but to protect kids.This conversation explores the good, the bad, and the uncomfortable realities of homeschooling, including abuse, neglect, and the gaps that exist in state laws across the U.S.Key Topics CoveredTess’s experience being homeschooled in Michigan, Japan, and GermanyHomeschooling vs. unschooling—and why the line is blurrier than everThe role of privilege in homeschooling decisionsTransitioning from homeschooling to college and adult lifeWhy many homeschool alumni hide their education backgroundHow public schools and community organizations fill critical support gapsThe mission and work of the Coalition for Responsible Home EducationThe reality of abuse, neglect, and lack of oversight in homeschooling lawsCurrent legislation impacting homeschool children in the U.S.🔗 Resources & LinksCoalition for Responsible Home Education: https://crhe.orgHomeschooling's Invisible Children Database: https://hic.crhe.org Connect with MeInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/exhsclub/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@exhsclubEmail me at [email protected]: https://exhsclub.beehiiv.com/If you’re a former homeschooler, your story matters. Consider connecting with CRHE to support research, advocacy, and responsible policy that centers the lived experiences of homeschool alumni.Chapters00:00 Coming Up00:44 Meet Tess Ulrey01:43 Tess's Homeschooling Journey04:12 Transitioning Between Education Systems08:14 Defining Homeschooling and Unschooling10:17 Challenges and Benefits of Unschooling14:09 College and Career: Post-Homeschooling Life18:18 Nonprofit Work and Community Support23:03 Public Schooling Decision for Tess's Kids26:41 The Coalition for Responsible Home Education33:05 How to Get Involved with CRHE44:42 Conclusion and Call to Action

Join the newsletter here: https://exhsclub.beehiiv.com/What happens when homeschooling leaves the house and hits the open road? In this episode of The Ex-Homeschoolers Club, I'm sitting down with Robin (aka BG Barnstormer), a former homeschooling mom who spent three years educating her kids while living full-time in an RV. Robin shares how a rotating pilot schedule led her family to homeschooling, how community support shaped their early years, and what really happens when learning differences, sensory needs, and emotional regulation collide in 350 square feet. Whether you’re a homeschool parent, an ex-homeschooler, or just curious about alternative education paths, this episode is packed with practical insight and lived experience.*Key Topics Covered*- Why a nontraditional work schedule pushed the family toward homeschooling- Building community through Classical Conversations and homeschool co-ops- Recognizing reading challenges, dyslexia, dysgraphia, and tracking issues- The power of audiobooks for kids with learning differences- Emotional regulation tools and “quiet corners” for kids (and adults)- How homeschooling in an RV forces flexibility and creativity- Why getting a diagnosis can be empowering, not limiting- Transitioning from homeschooling into online public school*Connect with Robin*- Website: https://bgbarnstormer.com- Blog Post Mentioned: https://bgbarnstormer.com/autism-spectrum/snowflakes-understanding-our-unique-self/- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bgbarnstormer- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/BGBarnstormerIf you enjoyed this conversation, be sure to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with a friend who might benefit from hearing this story. Follow Ex-Homeschoolers Club on Instagram and TikTok for updates, and send us a message – we’d love to hear from you!*Connect with Me*Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/exhsclub/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@exhsclubEmail me at [email protected]*Chapters*00:00 Introduction to the Ex Homeschoolers Club00:45 Meet Robin: The Homeschooling Mom on the Road01:55 The Decision to Homeschool04:34 Early Homeschooling Days and Community Building11:50 Homeschooling Challenges and Learning Difficulties28:36 Homeschooling in an RV: Strategies and Adaptations31:53 Creating Quiet Spaces for Emotional Regulation33:33 The Importance of Regulation Tools49:02 Navigating Public Online Schooling55:54 Experiential Learning Through Travel01:00:07 Robin’s Book and Blog01:03:16 Final Thoughts and Farewell

Wanna be on the podcast? Email your homeschool experience to [email protected] In this end of year episode I'm reflecting on the incredible year of conversations, stories, and community we've creating in the ex-homeschoolers club. Get a little sneak peek of what's coming in early 2026 and some of the ideas I've got percolating. Resources & Links- Email the show: [email protected] Follow on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/exhsclub/- Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@exhsclub- Learn more about the Coalition for Responsible Home Education (CRHE): https://crhe.orgChapters00:00 Welcome Back To The Ex-Homeschoolers Club00:23 Thank You For Coming On The Journey00:53 Happy Holidays01:26 Sneak Peek of 202603:01 What's Changing in 202604:34 I Need Your Feedback06:59 That's All FolksIf you enjoyed this conversation, be sure to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with a friend who might benefit from hearing this story. Follow Ex-Homeschoolers Club on Instagram and TikTok for updates, and send us a message – we’d love to hear from you!

Former public school teacher turned world traveler Patti Hunt joins Jacob to unpack what teachers really think about homeschoolers, why she eventually wished she homeschooled her own kids, and how road-schooling families are reshaping modern education. Patti also shares her journey from the classroom to RV life, and the powerful lesson that pushed her to stop waiting and start living.Key PointsWhat 20 years in public schools taught her about kids, parents, and the systemMyths homeschoolers believe about public school — and what’s actually truePatti’s honest experience growing up in Philadelphia’s school systemHow teacher bias shows up in classrooms (even unintentionally)Why she now believes homeschooling can be powerful...but not for everyonePatti’s transition from teaching to entrepreneurship to RV travelThe road-schooling families she met and the hilarious moment she told one she was a public school teacherThe urgent lesson from her mother’s final days: don’t wait to live your lifePractical encouragement for parents who feel guilty about their choicesConnect with PattiYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@InspiredTravelsWithPatti Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/10YFZMzAmwA305cI4W5Db5?si=1a0d269337d44814Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/inspiredtravelswithpatti/ If you enjoyed this conversation, be sure to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with a friend who might benefit from hearing this story. Follow Ex-Homeschoolers Club on Instagram and TikTok for updates, and send us a message – we’d love to hear from you!Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/exhsclub/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@exhsclubEmail me at [email protected]:00 Introduction and Welcome00:21 Meet Patti Hunt: A Journey from Teaching to Traveling01:43 Patti's Teaching Career: From Business to Education04:28 Homeschooling vs. Public School: Myths and Realities13:46 Parental Involvement in Education16:28 The RV Life: From Classroom to Open Road19:21 Road Schooling: Educating on the Move22:00 Parental Guilt and School Choices22:26 Homeschooling Success Stories24:11 Rethinking College Education26:41 The Value of Hands-On Learning28:53 Exploring the United States33:47 Encouraging Spontaneous Travel39:12 Final Thoughts on Parenting and Education

This week on the pod, I sit down with long-time friend Hannah to unpack her deeply personal journey through homeschooling, neurodivergence, and self-discovery. Growing up in a chaotic Christian homeschool environment with six siblings, Hannah reflects on what worked, what didn’t, and how a lack of structure and support shaped her sense of self-worth. She opens up about entering adulthood feeling unprepared, navigating community college with massive anxiety, and later discovering she’s neurodivergent, a revelation that reframed her entire childhood. Now working in education and pursuing behavioral-tech certification, Hannah shares how therapy, understanding, and self-compassion have helped her rebuild confidence and reclaim her love of learning. This conversation is raw, insightful, and incredibly validating for anyone who felt “behind” growing up homeschooled.Key PointsBig family life, AWANA memories, and mime team cultureHow chaos, parental conflict, and lack of structure shaped her educationFeeling “behind” and “dumb” the long-term effects of educational neglectNavigating college without foundational skillsDiscovering she’s neurodivergent at 30 & how therapy reframed everythingSensory issues, coping strategies, overstimulation, and emotional regulationHomeschooling today vs. “the bubble” we grew up inTimestamps00:00 Welcome to the Ex Homeschoolers Club00:32 Childhood Memories and AWANA Days07:39 Homeschooling and Family Dynamics12:10 Struggles with Education and Self-Worth16:23 College Challenges and Career Choices20:39 Discovering Neurodivergence and Therapy29:42 Managing Overstimulation30:30 Dealing with Everyday Frustrations33:10 Understanding Neurodivergence37:06 Homeschooling Reflections43:29 Big Family Dynamics46:39 Advice for Future Homeschoolers49:48 Pursuing New Learning Opportunities53:20 Homeschool Memories55:45 Final Thoughts and EncouragementIf you enjoyed this conversation, be sure to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with a friend who might benefit from hearing this story. Follow Ex-Homeschoolers Club on Instagram and TikTok for updates, and send us a message – we’d love to hear from you!Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/exhsclub/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@exhsclubEmail me at [email protected]

This week I sit down with Ashley Peek, a current homeschool parent, content creator, and founder of the Secular Homeschool Revolution. Ashley shares her journey from navigating a broken public school system to creating a thriving secular progressive homeschool community in Texas. She opens up about her daughter’s challenge getting the IEP services she needed, the struggle to find inclusive co-ops, and how she built a space that celebrates diversity, social justice, and child-led learning.Together, we unpack the evolution of homeschooling beyond religion—covering everything from micro schools and anti-racist curriculum to sex education and the role of community in raising curious, confident kids.🔑 Key Points- How Ashley transitioned from frustrated parent to homeschooling advocate- What “secular progressive homeschooling” really means—and why it matters- The challenges of finding (and creating) inclusive co-ops for families of color- Building child-led education through clubs, field trips, and micro schooling- The importance of sex education, open conversations, and justice-centered learning- How homeschooling parents can still advocate for better public schools- Why mutual aid and community support are essential for homeschool success🔗 References & Guest Links- Podcast “Secular Homeschool Revolution”: https://open.spotify.com/show/5O8R301kT316E67DOf6y17?si=df7803f117334631- TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@secular_homeschool_mama- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/secular_homeschool_revolution⏱️ Timestamps00:00 Introduction to Secular Progressive Homeschooling00:22 Meet Ashley Peek: Homeschool Parent and Content Creator02:03 Ashley’s Homeschooling Journey: Challenges and Decisions08:25 Building a Secular Progressive Homeschool Community15:59 Defining Secular Progressive Homeschooling25:34 Co-op and Micro Schooling: A New Approach40:23 Experiential Learning at Home41:18 The Role of Curriculum in Homeschooling42:14 Unschooling: Pros and Cons45:27 Encouraging Deep Dives into Interests46:42 Real-Life Skills vs. Academic Knowledge48:55 The Importance of Play and Exploration49:47 Parental Responsibility in Education59:20 Community Support in Homeschooling01:01:12 Advocacy for Public Education01:01:52 Conclusion and Final ThoughtsIf you enjoyed this conversation, be sure to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with a friend who might benefit from hearing this story. Follow Ex-Homeschoolers Club on Instagram and TikTok for updates, and send us a message – we’d love to hear from you!Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/exhsclub/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@exhsclubEmail me at [email protected]

This week I'm reconnecting with longtime friend Stephanie to unpack her full-circle journey through homeschooling, early marriage, motherhood, and now parenting kids in public school. Stephanie shares candid reflections on growing up in an unstructured homeschool environment, her surprising enrollment into El Camino, and the decision to homeschool her own children—before realizing public school was the right fit. We explore the tension between faith, education, and identity in the homeschool world, revealing how breaking away led to personal growth, renewed curiosity, and healthier family dynamics.🔑 *Key Points*- Stephanie’s experience growing up in a large, loosely structured homeschool family- Transitioning from homeschool to El Camino and earning her GED- Early marriage, motherhood, and the challenges of homeschooling her own kids- Letting go of the “public school is evil” mindset- Rediscovering a love for learning as an adult through podcasts and books🔗 *References & Mentions*- Adventures in Odyssey- Group Solutions Homeschool Co-op- El Camino Independent Study Program- Ken Ham / Answers in Genesis (mentioned critically)⏰ *Timestamps*00:00 Introduction and Welcome00:55 Meet Stephanie: A Lifelong Homeschooler01:46 Homeschooling Dynamics and Family Life06:52 Extracurricular Activities and Group Solutions12:45 Transition to El Camino and GED Journey20:07 Homeschooling Her Own Kids24:17 Rethinking Education Choices25:42 Public vs. Homeschooling: A Personal Journey26:18 Challenging Public School Stereotypes28:39 Parental Involvement in Public School30:22 Balancing Exposure and Protection35:12 Advice for Prospective Homeschoolers38:42 Rediscovering the Love of Learning42:20 Unique Homeschool Memories45:19 Conclusion and Final ThoughtsIf you enjoyed this conversation, be sure to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with a friend who might benefit from hearing this story. Follow Ex-Homeschoolers Club on Instagram and TikTok for updates, and send us a message – we’d love to hear from you!Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/exhsclub/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@exhsclubEmail me at [email protected]

Hey everyone—it’s Jacob Gooden, and I’m back with an update on the Ex-Homeschoolers Club! In this solo episode, I open up about why the show has been quiet for the past month, what’s been happening behind the scenes, and how I’ve been dealing with burnout, anxiety, and social media overload. I share the changes I’ve made to prioritize my mental health, including stepping back from social platforms, cutting down on caffeine, and making time for rest and fun. I also give you a sneak peek at the exciting new interviews coming soon—ranging from conversations with a sex education expert to homeschooling parents and college prep specialists. Finally, I ask for your feedback on the future direction of the show, possible community spaces, and ways we can grow together as ex-homeschoolers.🔑 Key TakeawaysWhy the Ex-Homeschoolers Club is not canceled and what’s coming nextMy personal journey with burnout, overwhelm, and how I’m working through itThe importance of mental health practices: less caffeine, better sleep, stepping away from social mediaSneak peek at upcoming guest interviews covering sex education, college prep, and modern homeschooling perspectivesCall for listener feedback on building community (book clubs, Zoom hangouts, Reddit/Discord, etc.)⏰ Timestamps00:00 WE ARE BACK BABY00:30 Where have I been?04:28 What is happening with the show05:53 I need your feedbackThe Ex-Homeschoolers Club isn’t going anywhere—but I want your help shaping its future! Share your thoughts in the YouTube comments, on Spotify, or by emailing me at [email protected]. Don’t forget to subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode with a friend who needs it. And if you’re new here, check out past episodes to get caught up. Let’s keep building this space for ex-homeschoolers together.

Get signed up for the newsletter here: https://exhsclub.beehiiv.com/In this solo episode of the Ex-Homeschoolers Club, I, Jacob Gooden, turn the mic on myself to share my full homeschooling journey. From starting in second grade to navigating private Christian homeschool co-ops in Southern California, I unpack the curriculum choices, the socialization opportunities, the challenges, and the lessons I carried into college and adulthood. I reflect on the strengths and weaknesses of Christian-based education, the role of extracurriculars like swing dance and theater, and how homeschooling shaped my worldview, work ethic, and career. This is a candid look at my personal story and what I’ve learned about education, growth, and identity along the way.Key Takeaways:Insights into different types of homeschooling: private, charter, and unschooling.Curriculum that worked (Math-U-See, Story of the World) and what fell short (Spanish with Rosetta Stone).The role of co-ops, church groups, and extracurriculars in building socialization skills.How Christian-based curriculum shaped my early worldview—and where it left gaps.Transitioning from homeschool to college: challenges, growth, and learning to adapt.Resources Mentioned:Math-U-See (math curriculum)Story of the World (history curriculum)Exploring Creation (science curriculum)Rod & Staff EnglishRosetta Stone (language learning)CHEA (Christian Home Educators Association)If this episode resonates with you, share it with a friend, leave a review on your favorite podcast app, and don’t forget to subscribe to the Ex-Homeschoolers Club newsletter for updates, resources, and community stories. Join the conversation with me on Instagram, Threads, and TikTok at @exhsclub.

If you haven't already, consider subscribing to the YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@Ex-HomeschoolersClubIn this episode of The Ex-Homeschoolers Club, I sit down with Julius, one of 12 siblings, to unpack what it was like growing up in a massive homeschool family led by a pastor dad. From the chaos of daily life in a household of 14 to navigating the isolating years of COVID, Julius shares candidly about academic challenges, sibling dynamics, extracurricular outlets, and ultimately, a journey of questioning faith and identity. We explore the highs and lows of homeschooling in a big family, the tension between church and education, and how discovering a love of learning outside those boundaries shaped Julius into who they are today. This conversation is raw, real, and deeply relatable for anyone who’s grown up homeschooled, in faith-heavy environments, or simply searching for identity beyond the structures they were raised in.Key Takeaways:Life inside a homeschool family of 12 kids: chaos, support systems, and sibling dynamics.Balancing academics with church commitments under a pastor parent.The impact of COVID on socialization, isolation, and extracurricular opportunities.Julius’ journey of self-discovery, questioning faith, and embracing identity.Why cultivating curiosity and a love of learning matters beyond traditional schooling.Timestamps:00:00 Introduction and Welcome01:13 Meet Julius: Growing Up in a Big Homeschool Family01:50 Homeschooling Dynamics and Daily Life06:06 Academic Challenges and Achievements14:08 Socialization and Extracurricular Activities16:53 Impact of COVID-19 on Homeschooling27:14 Deconstructing Faith and Personal Growth33:59 Realizing the Fallibility of Beliefs35:33 Exploring Other Religions36:44 Questioning Faith and God's Existence39:28 Controlling the Narrative of Personal Beliefs44:43 The Importance of Learning and New Experiences53:41 Balancing Extracurriculars and Church Commitments58:30 Advice for Homeschooling Parents01:04:19 Cherishing Sibling Bonds01:06:18 Conclusion and Final ThoughtsIf this episode resonated with you, please subscribe to The Ex-Homeschoolers Club on your favorite podcast platform, leave us a 5-star review, and share this episode with a friend who’d connect with Julius’ story. Don’t forget to follow me on YouTube, Instagram, and Threads at @EXHSClub to join the ongoing conversation.

In this episode of the Ex-Homeschoolers Club, we’re wrapping up our four-part series on Joshua Harris’s controversial book I Kissed Dating Goodbye. In this final installment, I dissect Part Four, “Now What?”, where Harris outlines his vision for marriage, intimacy, and what he calls “principled romance.” I share personal stories of feeling pressured to marry young, highlight the contradictions in Harris’s teachings on intimacy, and reflect on how purity culture created lasting shame around sex and relationships. If you’ve been following the series, this episode ties it all together and calls out the damaging legacy of purity culture.Key Takeaways:Why young Christians felt pressured to marry quickly and “redeem the time.”Harris’s inconsistent and harmful ideas on intimacy.The damaging effects of modesty culture and gender stereotypes.How parental control undermined personal agency in relationships.The lasting shame purity culture instilled around sex and marriage.Resources Mentioned:I Kissed Dating Goodbye by Joshua HarrisPrevious podcast episodes in this seriesPart 1: https://open.spotify.com/episode/5FUQajXv6SLZzwpQfkwE89?si=8b13dae4bd2f49b6 Part 2: https://open.spotify.com/episode/7eYDn78AVImTRde8Igfr9d?si=90b6d63245b74df5 Part 3: https://open.spotify.com/episode/4tlrZ8S9T2VjwNJJp8SuxO?si=e6b8022f3fb34db1 If this episode resonated with you, make sure to subscribe to the Ex-Homeschoolers Club on your favorite podcast app, leave a review to share your thoughts, and join the discussion in our community at r/ExHomeschoolersClub. Let’s continue unpacking the impact of purity culture together.

This week on the podcast, we’re throwing a birthday party! It's the one-year anniversary of the Ex-Homeschoolers Club, and to celebrate, I brought back my very first guest and longtime friend Cari Frantz for a fun and nostalgic conversation. We dive deep into the media, books, movies, and music we weren’t allowed to consume growing up as Christian homeschoolers—and the surprising ways we found our way to them as adults. From Harry Potter to Pitbull concerts, purity culture to Plugged-in reviews, we talk about the weird rules we lived by, what we now enjoy guilt-free, and how we're making peace with our past. Whether you're a fellow ex-homeschooler or just curious about the quirks of conservative upbringings, this episode will have you laughing, nodding along, and maybe even dusting off your old Adventures in Odyssey tapes.Key Takeaways:The irony of being banned from Harry Potter but encouraged to read NarniaPluggedIn, Christian DVD players, and other evangelical tools for "safe" mediaWatching or reading forbidden content as adults and learning to trust our own boundariesHow music like Pure NRG, Backstreet Boys, and even Pitbull shaped our teenage rebellionRespecting our parents' intentions while forging our own relationships with pop cultureResources Mentioned:PluggedIn.comAdventures in Odyssey by Focus on the FamilyThe Chronicles of Narnia by C.S. LewisHarry Potter series by J.K. RowlingThe Space Trilogy by C.S. LewisCrossroads Guitar FestivalPure NRG, Jump5, Charlie Puth (early covers), Christina GrimmieDid you grow up homeschooled with strict media rules? What were you not allowed to read, watch, or listen to? Drop a comment with your story. And if you’ve been with the podcast from the beginning, help us celebrate one year by sharing your favorite episode! Don’t forget to subscribe, leave a review, and follow the Ex-Homeschoolers Club for more stories every week. And share it with a friend who might benefit from hearing this story.Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/exhsclub/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@exhsclubEmail me at [email protected]

This week I'm diving into Part 3 of I Kissed Dating Goodbye by Joshua Harris—a section packed with so-called "practical tools" for keeping Christian teens pure. Spoiler: it's just more purity culture with a fresh coat of patriarchal paint.In this episode, I unpack chapters 8 through 11, covering Harris’s infamous four-step plan for building godly relationships. We look at what it means to “start with a clean slate,” why he thinks you need your parents’ permission to date, and the mental gymnastics required to avoid every ounce of human attraction. I also share personal stories about awkward birthday ceremonies, homeschool dating dynamics, and how being taught to distrust your own body messes you up well into adulthood.This one’s heavy but important—especially if you're trying to untangle the emotional damage of purity culture.In This Episode, I Cover:The “Four Steps” to godly dating and why they don’t hold upHow purity culture reinforces shame, secrecy, and lack of bodily autonomyMy own cringe memories of gendered homeschool rituals and toxic birthday partiesHow mentorship, boundaries, and even lust are twisted in this frameworkRedefining intimacy, friendship, and trust outside of evangelical fear-mongeringWant More Like This?Subscribe to Ex-Homeschoolers Club wherever you get your podcasts, leave a rating or review (it helps a ton!), and join the newsletter (https://exhsclub.beehiiv.com/subscribe)  for show updates, behind-the-scenes notes, and community discussion.If this episode brought back memories or stirred something in you, I’d love to hear your story. Share your thoughts with me on Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/exhsclub/)  or drop me an email at [email protected]

Subscribe to my email newsletter: https://exhsclub.beehiiv.com/subscribe This week on the Ex-Homeschoolers Club, I had an absolutely joyful conversation with artist, teacher, and former homeschooler Noah Fontana. From the moment we hit record, it felt like two longtime friends reconnecting. We dove deep into Noah's unique homeschool upbringing, how his love of comic books and creativity shaped his early education, and how homeschooling helped him lean into his artistic talents. We also explored Noah's journey from animation work at DreamWorks to discovering his true passion in art therapy and teaching. If you've ever wrestled with the intersection of creativity, identity, and education, this episode is for you.Key Takeaways:How Noah's homeschool environment nurtured his passion for art and comicsThe connection between storytelling, animation, and emotional expressionThe challenges of people-pleasing, code-switching, and growing up in a controlled homeschool bubbleHow art therapy changed Noah's career trajectory and how he connects with students through creative expressionThe value of reframing "bad" traits like people-pleasing into useful tools when used mindfullyConnect with NoahInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/teacher.noah/Grab a copy of his book Mixed-Up Metaphors: https://a.co/d/gHFVTq6Resources Mentioned:Jeneve Dube's podcast "Homeschooled": https://solo.to/homeschooled"Creativity, Inc." by Ed Catmull: https://a.co/d/h4CuAiQ"Blink" by Malcolm Gladwell: https://a.co/d/cfhPqpy Timestamps:00:00 Introduction and Podcast Overview01:16 Meet Noah: New Guest Introduction02:38 Noah's Homeschooling Journey06:33 Artistic Passions and Early Influences12:49 Public Speaking and Personal Growth27:48 From High School to Career Beginnings28:06 Reflecting on SATs and Standardized Tests29:58 SAT and ACT Experiences31:22 College Application Process34:00 Choosing Between BA and BFA36:12 College Life and Education System Critique39:29 Exploring Art and Creativity50:05 Art Therapy and Career Shift01:00:48 Teaching and Art Therapy in Practice01:03:18 Debating Art Therapy Practice01:03:46 Impact of Teachers on Kids01:04:44 Incorporating Art Therapy in Classrooms01:05:05 Engaging Kids Through Art01:08:37 Homeschooling Insights and Advice01:11:59 Challenges and Rewards of Teaching01:17:46 Parents Learning to Teach01:24:42 Nostalgic Homeschool Memories01:32:08 Final Thoughts and PromotionsEnjoying the show? Make sure you're subscribed so you never miss an episode. If you found Noah's story inspiring, leave us a review and share this episode with a friend who loves creativity or is on their own journey of self-discovery post-homeschooling. And don’t forget to sign up for my newsletter for updates, resources, and behind-the-scenes extras from the podcast!

This week on The Ex-Homeschoolers Club, I'm diving into Part 2 of I Kissed Dating Goodbye by Joshua Harris, tackling the chapters that aim to define "true Christian love" and promote the gift of singleness. As a former homeschooler who grew up immersed in purity culture, I bring my personal experience and critical reflection to the table. We unpack the book's problematic teachings around sex, self-love, gender roles, and its impact on developing healthy relationships. I also reflect on the emotional weight of shame, the myth of male self-control, and the limitations of evangelical definitions of love and purity. This episode is raw, personal, and full of the hard questions we need to ask about how books like this shaped a generation.Key Topics Covered:The toxic binary of Christian vs. worldly loveHow purity culture shames normal human emotions and desiresThe myth of male sexual helplessness and how it harms everyoneThe concept of singleness as a spiritual calling vs. realityThe failure of evangelical literature to cite evidence or acknowledge harmResources Mentioned:I Kissed Dating Goodbye by Joshua HarrisWhen Religion Hurts You by Laura E. AndersonThe Westminster CatechismThe story of King David and Bathsheba (2 Samuel 11-12)Timestamps00:00 Introduction to 'I Kissed Dating Goodbye'00:19 Recap of Part One01:29 Exploring Christian Love vs. Worldly Love02:10 Chapter Four: Looking Up "Love" in God's Dictionary04:42 Aphrodite or Christ: Defining Love10:04 Chapter Five: The Right Thing at the Wrong Time Is the Wrong Thing20:21 The Gift of Singleness26:14 Chapter Six: The Direction of Purity28:46 Purity as a Direction, Not a Fixed Point32:55 The Story of King David and Bathsheba33:58 Questioning Christian Justifications35:30 Proverbs and the Seductive Spirit36:30 Purity in Action38:58 Critique of Christian Literature40:40 Billy Graham and Evangelist Integrity41:58 Purity Culture and Male Accountability47:04 Gender Roles and Responsibilities52:34 Chapter Seven: A Cleansed Past: The Room01:00:17 Reflections and Future DirectionsIf this episode resonates with you, I want to hear your story. What was your experience with purity culture? Did you read I Kissed Dating Goodbye or grow up around its teachings? Send me a DM on Instagram or Threads or email [email protected]. And don’t forget to subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode with a friend who might need to hear it.

This week in the clubhouse, we're chatting with Marsh, the youngest guest to date and a recent escapee from the world of homeschooling. We dive into their story of growing up homeschooled in rural Oklahoma, using the ACE (Accelerated Christian Education) curriculum, and being raised by their grandmother in a deeply religious environment. Marsh opens up about the challenges of being a queer, creative kid in a conservative Christian bubble, and how homeschooling shaped (and sometimes hindered) their education, self-worth, and social development. It’s a raw and reflective conversation about isolation, religion, and finding your identity outside of the system.💡 Key Topics & Takeaways:What it’s like being homeschooled by your grandma using the ACE curriculumHow ADHD and rural isolation shaped Marsh’s academic and social experienceThe religious trauma and fundamentalist ideology baked into Christian homeschooling materialsThe importance of creative outlets like art in surviving mental and emotional hardshipReclaiming your identity as a queer person after leaving a controlling environment📚 Resources & Mentions:ACE Curriculum (Accelerated Christian Education)⁠When Religion Hurts You by Laura E. AndersonAwana (evangelical youth program)Indistractable by Nir Eyal (book on managing focus and technology)🔗 Connect with MarshTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@marshintobattleInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/marshin.to.battle/⏱️ Timestamps00:00 Introduction and Guest Announcement01:16 Meet Marsh: A New Ex-Homie02:09 Marsh's Homeschooling Journey04:03 The ACE Curriculum Explained07:15 Challenges and Dynamics of Homeschooling41:10 Creativity and Art in Marsh's Life43:22 Rediscovering Creativity Post-Internet43:59 The Ebb and Flow of Creative Waves44:54 Finding Comfort in Creativity46:21 The Therapeutic Power of Art47:37 Lego and Problem-Solving Creativity49:09 Dealing with Creative Blocks52:19 The Impact of Stress on Creativity55:12 Religious Upbringing and Homeschooling56:22 Questioning Religious Teachings01:09:33 Homeschooling Challenges and Advice01:14:55 Reflecting on Homeschooling Experiences01:17:21 The Importance of Tailoring Education01:20:47 Final Thoughts and FarewellIf you enjoyed this episode, please take a moment to rate and review the show on your favorite podcast app. It helps other ex-homeschoolers find the pod! Subscribe on ⁠YouTube⁠ to watch full video episodes.

I read "I Kissed Dating Goodbye" by Joshua Harris—so you don’t have to. This is Part 1 of a multi-episode series where I unpack the book’s harmful messages, its connection to purity culture, and its deep roots in the Christian homeschooling world. From courtship myths to repressed sexuality and emotional confusion, I explore how this 1997 “dating manual” shaped a generation—and how Harris himself eventually walked it all back.I also share personal experiences growing up in a conservative Christian homeschool setting, including my early encounters with the Harris family’s broader influence. Whether you're deconstructing your upbringing or just want to understand how purity culture warped an entire generation’s view of relationships, this episode is for you.Key Topics Covered:- The origin and impact of I Kissed Dating Goodbye- Why purity culture thrived in the homeschool movement- My own history with the Harris family’s teachings- Courtship vs. dating: myths, harms, and personal pushback- Emotional, sexual, and developmental confusion caused by purity messagingResources & Mentions:- I Kissed Dating Goodbye by Joshua Harris (now retracted)- Do Hard Things by Alex & Brett Harris- Sex Isn’t the Problem (Lust Is) by Joshua Harris- HSLDA (Homeschool Legal Defense Association)Timestamps00:00 Introduction to the Ex Homeschoolers Club01:09 Overview of 'I Kissed Dating Goodbye'02:39 The Harris Family and Homeschooling03:30 Personal Experiences with the Harris Family05:17 Initial Thoughts on 'I Kissed Dating Goodbye'06:34 Courtship vs. Dating07:35 Navigating Teenage Years and Sexuality12:38 Chapter One: Smart Love22:14 Chapter Two: 7 Habits of Highly Defective Dating28:20 Introduction to Defective Dating Habits29:12 Intimacy Without Commitment32:14 Physical Relationship vs. True Love34:44 Dating as a Distraction36:46 Artificial Environment in Dating41:25 Chapter Three: A New Attitude Towards Dating42:20 The Gift of Singleness47:22 Purity and Boundaries in Relationships51:48 Final Thoughts and Personal ReflectionsIf you enjoyed this conversation, be sure to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with a friend who might benefit from hearing this story. Follow Ex-Homeschoolers Club on Instagram and TikTok for updates, and send us a message – we’d love to hear from you!Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/exhsclub/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@exhsclubEmail me at [email protected]

This week, I sit down with Charlie Monroe, a licensed therapist and former youth pastor, to explore the complexities of growing up homeschooled in a large, religious family. Charlie shares his K-12 rural homeschool experience, the emotional toll of isolation, and the transition into college and career. We discuss the impact of evangelicalism, rigorous religious curricula, and emotional enmeshment in homeschool families. As a therapist, Charlie now works with modern homeschool families, offering insight into both the successes and systemic challenges they face. This is a powerful conversation about deconstruction, emotional maturity, and how we can better support future generations of homeschoolers.Key Topics & Takeaways:Life in a rural homeschool family of nine with a rigorous religious focusThe emotional and social cost of isolation during middle and high school yearsTransitioning from homeschool to a Christian university and later to youth ministryLeaving evangelicalism and navigating spiritual deconstructionHow emotional enmeshment affects homeschool familiesWhat Charlie sees today as a family therapist working with homeschooling clientsA call for humility and emotional health in educational choicesConnect with Charlie:Charlie’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/charles_irving/ Timestamps00:00 Introduction and Guest Introduction00:52 Charlie's Homeschooling Background01:40 Daily Life on the Farm03:39 Social Dynamics and Isolation10:27 Religious Influence in Homeschooling13:47 Transition to College21:20 Questioning Faith and Career in Ministry26:56 Reflecting on Youth Ministry and Transition to Therapy27:56 Dealing with Anger and Writing as a Coping Mechanism31:39 Experiences in Family Therapy and Homeschooling34:42 Challenges and Dynamics in Homeschooling40:13 Emotional Health and Homeschooling49:42 Final Thoughts and Advice for Homeschooling Parents55:25 Conclusion and Contact InformationIf you enjoyed this conversation, make sure to subscribe to Ex-Homeschoolers Club on your favorite podcast app, leave a review, and share this episode with a friend who grew up homeschooled. Follow us on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/exhsclub/ and TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@exhsclub, or email us at [email protected]. We want to hear your story too!

This conversation dives into the highs, lows, and hard truths of RB's journey through homeschooling, patriarchal systems, and his path to healing. We discuss his early education in Pennsylvania, the move to Kansas, and the gendered disparities in educational investment he witnessed as the oldest of five siblings. RB opens up about the unintended privileges he received, his culture shock entering college and the workforce, and how he later found healing through therapy, community, and authentic adult friendships. Topics like male friendship, trauma recovery, and starting a coworking space in Texas also make this an episode full of raw honesty and powerful insights.Key Takeaways:Homeschooling looked vastly different in Pennsylvania vs. Kansas, with the latter having virtually no oversight.Patriarchal religious beliefs led to unequal educational opportunities for RB and his sisters.Post-homeschool life brought intense culture shock, but also personal and professional growth.RB found healing through therapy, adult friendship, and creating Bastrop Coworking in Texas.Real success is about embracing curiosity, connection, and lifelong learning, not replicating rigid ideals.Timestamps:00:00 Introduction and Podcast Overview01:18 Guest Introduction: RB's Homeschool Experience02:31 Early Homeschooling in Pennsylvania08:27 Transition to Homeschooling in Kansas16:26 Challenges and Gender Disparities in Homeschooling30:37 Post-Homeschool Life and Culture Shock37:23 Reflecting on Religious Upbringing38:51 College Life and Career Goals43:50 Homeschooling and Socialization46:02 Friendships and Community Building51:17 Challenges and Growth in Adulthood54:18 The Importance of Social Connections01:07:17 Homeschooling Reflections and Advice01:09:31 Final Thoughts and Contact InformationConnect with RBBastrop Coworking: https://www.instagram.com/bastropcowork/RB on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/flyerbrown/If you resonated with this episode, share it with a friend, leave a review, and subscribe to The Ex-Homeschoolers Club. YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Ex-HomeschoolersClub Newsletter: https://exhsclub.beehiiv.com/subscribe Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/exhsclub/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@exhsclubEmail me at [email protected]

Join the Newsletter for the latest Ex-Homeschooler News: https://exhsclub.beehiiv.com/subscribeIf you’re an ex-homeschooler with a story to tell—this episode is your invitation to share it. Today I’m breaking down everything you need to know about becoming a guest on the show. Whether your homeschooling experience was amazing, traumatic, or somewhere in between, your voice matters here. In this episode, I walk you through the kind of stories I’m looking for, the interview process (spoiler: it’s super chill), and even give you a sneak peek at the types of questions I ask. If you’ve ever thought, “Could I be on a podcast?”—this episode invites you to find out. Let's get to know each other. Shoot me an email at [email protected].💡 Key Topics Covered:- Why your homeschool story is definitely worth sharing- The types of guests and topics I’m looking for (neurodivergence, purity culture, curriculum wins/fails, LGBTQ+ experiences, and more)- What the interview process looks like from start to finish- Sample questions I’ll likely ask in your episode- How this show helps shape the next generation of homeschoolers📌 Takeaways:- Your story matters. Even if it feels ordinary to you, it could mean the world to someone else.- Everyone’s homeschool experience is different. I want to highlight the full spectrum—from big families to agnostic households.- You don’t need to be a pro. The process is designed to be low-pressure, flexible, and collaborative.- This podcast is more than therapy. It’s a way to connect, validate, and impact future homeschoolers and parents.- We edit the episodes. So don’t worry about messing up—we got you.⏰ Timestamps:00:00 Introduction and Welcome00:49 Why You Should Be a Guest01:47 Topics of Interest08:11 Interview Process Overview13:07 Sample Questions16:16 Upcoming Episodes and Closing Remarks✅ Call to Action:Think you’ve got a story worth telling? You do. Email me at [email protected] and let’s make it happen. Also, don’t forget to subscribe to the show, leave a review on your favorite podcast platform, and join the newsletter to stay in the loop.Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/exhsclub/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@exhsclub

Join the Newsletter for the latest Ex-Homeschooler News: https://exhsclub.beehiiv.com/subscribeIn this powerful follow-up episode of The Ex-Homeschoolers Club, Alyssa Gaona is back for a raw, insightful conversation about her personal experiences with autism and neurodivergence. While her first appearance focused on the wild realities of growing up homeschooled, this episode takes a deeper dive into how her undiagnosed autism shaped her social development, relationships, and self-worth. Alyssa opens up about the challenges of masking, navigating dating and friendships as a neurodivergent adult, and how the homeschooling environment lacked the resources and awareness she needed. We also explore broader societal perceptions of autism, the impact of labeling, and how entrepreneurs and creatives often operate with neurodivergent brilliance. This is a must-listen for anyone who wants a better understanding of what life on the spectrum truly feels like.Key Takeaways:What autism is, how it develops neurologically, and common misconceptionsAlyssa's self-diagnosis journey through studying child development and taking the RAADS testThe reality of masking and its emotional tollWhy clear, direct communication is essential for neurodivergent individualsThe failure of many homeschool environments to recognize and support neurodiverse learnersResources Mentioned:RAADS-R test (for self-assessing traits of autism): https://embrace-autism.com/raads-r/Love on the Spectrum (Netflix series)Kaelynn Partlow's YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Kaelynnism Alyssa's Substack: https://alyssagaona.substack.com If you enjoyed this conversation, be sure to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with a friend who might benefit from hearing this story. Follow Ex-Homeschoolers Club on Instagram and TikTok for updates, and send us a message – we’d love to hear from you!Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/exhsclub/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@exhsclubEmail me at [email protected]

On today's show I'm joined by Mia Brooks, a longtime family friend. We dive into Mia's unique homeschool upbringing as the youngest of several siblings, her early leap into community college at age 14, and her reflective journey as a neurodivergent adult. From a less structured homeschool experience to discovering her ADHD as an adult, Mia shares candidly about burnout, creativity, and finding her voice through music. If you're a former homeschooler navigating adulthood, neurodivergency, or the creative grind, this one's for you. We discuss everything from educational gaps to emotional growth, and how embracing one's uniqueness can unlock surprising paths. Key Takeaways:Mia's flexible homeschool education fostered independence but masked underlying struggles.Community college at 14 gave Mia early access to higher learning but came with social culture shock.Getting diagnosed with ADHD as an adult reframed many of Mia's childhood behaviors and coping methods.Burnout and shame were lingering effects from trying to "overachieve" in a neurotypical world.Today, Mia channels her experience into music, releasing indie work under the name "Babi Manatee."Check out Mia's Music Here:Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/artist/0ObF6Vylh7jUtpMeRx7GXr?si=5OS23T24SkS8SYdG5WygPgInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/babimanatee/Timestamps00:00 Welcome to the Ex Homeschoolers Club01:13 A Day in the Life of Mia Brooks02:58 Homeschooling vs. Public Schooling05:21 Early College Experience16:05 Graduating Early and Future Plans22:58 Discovering Neurodivergence30:04 Childhood Memories and Dramatic Moments30:57 Understanding Emotions and Therapy32:30 Stigma and Neurodivergency35:13 Coping Mechanisms and Self-Discovery36:50 Homeschooling Experiences and Reflections50:16 Music Career and Creative Journey55:28 Final Thoughts and FarewellIf this episode resonated with you, hit that subscribe button, leave a review, and share this episode with a friend who grew up outside the box. Want more behind-the-scenes content? Sign up for my free newsletter—link in the show notes below. And don’t forget to stream Mia's album and follow her musical journey as Babi Manatee!#ExHomeschoolersClub #ADHD #Neurodivergent #HomeschoolLife #CreativeJourney #IndieMusic #BurnoutRecovery #BabiManatee #PodcastInterview

Stream Jeremy's New Album Here: https://www.blondemedicine.com/bm142-almost-a-grown-man In this episode of, I sit down with comedian Jeremy Alder to unpack his wild and winding journey from fundamentalist Christian homeschooling in rural Texas to releasing his debut stand-up comedy album, Almost a Grown Man. Jeremy shares what it was like to be one of the only homeschoolers in South Texas during the 1980s, his early curriculum of Bible studies and Highlights magazines, and how his world expanded through music, friendship, and eventually a dive into philosophy. We discuss his later-life entry into stand-up comedy, how preaching prepared him for the stage, and the ups and downs of crafting a career in comedy. This episode is filled with laughs, insights, and nostalgia for anyone who has ever felt like an outsider trying to make sense of their past. Key Takeaways:Jeremy was homeschooled starting in the mid-80s with no local community or support network.His early education relied on Highlights magazines and Bible memorization.A shift occurred in the '90s when homeschooling became more accepted and structured.Jeremy's path included Christian rock dreams, a dip into philosophy, and eventually stand-up comedy.He uses humor to process and reflect on his strict religious upbringing.Timestamps:00:00 Welcome to the Ex Homeschoolers Clubhouse00:09 Introducing Jeremy Alder: From Rural Texas to Stand-Up Comedy03:05 Jeremy's Homeschool Journey: Early Years and Challenges12:48 The Evolution of Homeschooling: Community and Acceptance24:44 High School and Beyond: Navigating Adulthood36:42 Exploring Faith and Philosophy: A New Path38:23 Connecting with the Intelligent Design Community39:42 Transition to University Life40:14 Challenges and Triumphs of Homeschooling40:44 Applying to College as a Homeschooler44:35 Embracing the Homeschool Identity47:30 Journey into Comedy54:19 The Art and Struggle of Stand-Up Comedy01:08:21 Reflections on Homeschooling and Public Education01:16:02 Conclusion and Final ThoughtsConnect with Jeremy AlderVist his website for the most up to date information: https://www.jeremyalder.comSee his previous special: https://youtu.be/i9OmDo5Weoc?si=nBFGW9emmrnVr5hMIf you enjoyed this conversation, be sure to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with a friend who might benefit from hearing this story. Follow Ex-Homeschoolers Club on Instagram and TikTok for updates, and send us a message – we’d love to hear from you!Join the Newsletter: https://exhsclub.beehiiv.com/subscribeInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/exhsclub/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@exhsclubEmail me at [email protected]

Join the Newsletter for the latest Ex-Homeschooler News: https://exhsclub.beehiiv.com/subscribeIn this episode of The Ex-Homeschoolers Club, I'm reflecting on a decade of being homeschooled and dive into three specific areas I would approach differently if I had the chance to go back. While I appreciate much of what my parents did, this episode explores critical reflections on my understanding of government, religious curriculum, and emotional boundaries. I also unpack how these elements have impacted my adult life and what I think future homeschoolers can do better. Whether you're a current homeschooler, a curious ex-homeschooler, or just someone interested in education reform, this one's for you.Key Takeaways:Government Education Matters: I discuss the missed opportunity to deeply understand local and state politics beyond textbooks—through field trips, town hall meetings, and active involvement.Challenging Religious Narratives: Why I'd encourage exposure to a broader spectrum of belief systems rather than faith-based exclusivity in every subject.Emotional Boundaries in Education: The crucial need for learning to set boundaries, communicate discomfort, and recognize the importance of emotional well-being from a young age.The Power of Perspective: Looking back on my homeschool journey offers powerful lessons for educators, parents, and students alike.Self-Reflection as Growth: Honest retrospection is key to personal development and helps create better systems for the next generation.Timestamps00:00 Welcome Back to the Ex-Homeschoolers Club00:35 Reflecting on 10 Years of Homeschooling01:00 Understanding Government and Politics03:11 Challenging Religious Curriculum12:21 The Importance of Emotional Boundaries16:38 Conclusion and Final ThoughtsIf you enjoyed this conversation, be sure to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with a friend who might benefit from hearing this story. Follow Ex-Homeschoolers Club on Instagram and TikTok for updates, and send us a message – we’d love to hear from you!Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/exhsclub/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@exhsclubEmail me at [email protected]#Homeschooling #ExHomeschoolers #EducationReform

Join the Newsletter for the latest Ex-Homeschooler News: https://exhsclub.beehiiv.com/subscribeI can't believe it's been over 7 years... on today's podcast I reconnect with my longtime friend Katrin McGoogan (formerly Frantz). We dive deep into our shared homeschooling past, her experience navigating adulthood and motherhood, and her recent ADHD diagnosis. Katrin opens up about what it was like growing up in a highly creative homeschool family, her time in ministry, and how that shaped her view on faith, parenting, and education. We talk about the challenges of re-evaluating childhood beliefs, raising independent kids, and the real-life mental load that comes with being a mom. Whether you were homeschooled, are a parent considering education options, or someone who just loves a good reflective convo—this one’s for you.Key Takeaways:What it’s like reconnecting after years apart—and how much life changesThe ups and downs of growing up homeschooled in a creative, flexible environmentNavigating an ADHD diagnosis as an adult and learning to work with your brain, not against itHow motherhood shapes your view of your own upbringing and education choicesLetting go of fear-based beliefs, questioning narratives, and giving your kids room to growTimestamps00:00 Reunion After Seven Years01:07 Homeschooling Memories02:55 Creative Homeschooling Experiences11:45 Navigating ADHD22:18 Post-High School Adventures28:09 Navigating Beliefs and Independence29:01 Leaving Home and Facing the Real World30:26 Parenting and Personal Growth31:39 Questioning and Evolving Beliefs37:14 Educational Choices for Children47:42 Homeschool Memories and Extracurricular Activities53:02 Conclusion and Final ThoughtsResources & Mentions:Pomodoro Timer technique: https://pomofocus.io/KONOS and Group Solutions (homeschool co-ops)Mrs. Yip (legendary writing teacher in our community!)Tools for ADHD (timers, breaks, multi-sensory learning strategies)Loved this episode? Subscribe to The Ex-Homeschoolers Club wherever you listen to podcasts! Leave us a review, share this episode with a friend, and don’t forget to sign up for my newsletter for updates, resources, and behind-the-scenes goodness.