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Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast
by Ali Jackson
On Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast, dating & relationship coach Ali Jackson (@findingmrheight) brings you her positive and practical approach built from personal experience in the dating trenches. No matter where you are in your relationship journey, you’ll learn how to identify your needs, embrace your feelings, and directly communicate both.Ready to feel more authentic and grounded in your relationships and more joyful in your life overall? Tune in as Ali brings you relatable conversations with both expert guests and listeners just like you, peppering in her own personal insights along the way.Listen now on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or any major podcast network. Find even more content from Ali on her Patreon, (https://www.patreon.com/findingmrheight)Instagram: @findingmrheight (https:// www.instagram.com/findingmrheight) TikTok: @findingmrheight (https://www.tiktok.com/ @findingmrheight)
Episodes
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295. The Farewell One ft. Roark and Erica
After six years and nearly 300 episodes, this is the final episode of Finding Mr. Height on the public feed, and Ali didn’t want to do it alone. Her first co-host, Roark, and her second, Erica, come back to catch up on where they are now, then go all the way back to when the show started, their...
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294. The Nickname, The Private Stuff, and The Ending ft. Skyline
Skyline is back, this time for his send-off from the public pod. He talks about finding out what FMH actually was, going back to listen after their first few dates to scope out the competition, and why hearing your own date recapped on air feels like eavesdropping on a job interview. Ali tells…
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293. The Friends I Made Along the Way ft. Ilana Dunn & Talia Koren
For one of the last episodes of Finding Mr. Height, Ali sits down with the two friends she made in a podcasting world she assumed would be cutthroat: Ilana Dunn of Seeing Other People and Talia Koren of Dating Intentionally, recorded separately, back to back. Ilana was the first podcasting friend...
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292. If She's Not Too Much, Why Am I? ft. Serena Kerrigan
Serena Kerrigan went on 50 blind first dates on Instagram Live, and she is still making the same argument she made then: most of us decide who a person is before we have met them. She and Ali get into the mirror work behind her new book, out this week, why “being chill” is not an attachment…
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291. Six Years of the Pod, Reread by a Psychologist (Pt 1) ft. Dr. Katie Rickel
Dr. Katie Rickel is a clinical psychologist and a longtime FMH listener, and over six years of listening she kept collecting moments. Not clinical notes, just things Ali had said on the pod that a psychologist recognized. Eventually she brought Ali the list, and this episode is that list! It is…
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290. The Announcement
After more than five years and almost 300 episodes, Ali is ending the public podcast. In this solo episode she says it out loud for the first time, and then sits with the harder part: why now, and why she still is not sure it is the right call. The show will end sometime this fall. Ali does not...
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289. What I Only Say on Patreon
Ali is away this week, so this episode goes behind the Patreon paywall. It pulls together four of her favorite Updates segments from the last few months: designing an engagement ring and then getting immediately steamrolled by the wedding algorithm, admitting how much she hates being seen trying...
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288. Hot Topics #24: The Half Full Glass on the Counter
Ali is back with another Hot Topics episode answering listener questions. She opens with a question about her own path toward getting evaluated for ADHD: what finally pushed her to pursue a neuropsych evaluation after years of circling the idea, what the five hour eval was actually like, and why...
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287. What Everyone Can Learn From Kink ft. Amanda Dames, aka The Kink Consultant
Ali sits down with Amanda Dames, aka The Kink Consultant, a sex and relationship coach and former NYC dominatrix, for a conversation that might surprise you in its relevancy - even if you don’t consider yourself kinky. Amanda reframes kink as something far broader than it sounds, as the two get...
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286. What Your Jealousy Is Trying to Tell You ft. Ally Iseman
This week Ali sits down with relationship coach Ally Iseman, founder of Passport 2 Pleasure, for a full reframe of the emotion we love to hate. Ally's case: jealousy is not a character flaw or proof of love, it's information, and there's no such thing as a jealous person. She gets into why it…
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285. Moving In Together, Part 3 ft. Skyline
Ali is joined by Skyline for part three of the moving-in-together series, and this time he is in the chair to answer for the version Ali told solo in parts one and two. They get into whether a 50/50 split actually feels fair, the CFO and CTO roles they have each fallen into, how they divide the...
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284. Decentering Men When You're Already Partnered ft. Sam Showalter
Ali is joined by creator Sam Showalter, who went viral for a series about decentering her own husband. Eleven years into a relationship with her now-husband, she realized how much invisible mental load she was carrying that had nothing to do with him, from tracking whether he'd eaten lunch to...
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283. Moving In Together, Part 2: The Emotional Side of Sharing a Home
We're continuing the multi-part moving-in series inspired by listener questions. In part two, Ali gets into the stuff you can't put in a spreadsheet: sharing a space with another person, protecting alone time when you live together, merging two homes' worth of stuff, and picking your battles...
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282. Moving In Together, Part 1: Money, Chores, and the Mental Load
We’re talking all about moving in with a partner in this multi-part series I inspired by listener questions. In part one, Ali breaks down the practical side of moving in with a partner: splitting expenses, navigating one partner moving into the other’s home, divvying up housework, and more. She...
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281. Why Self-Sufficient Women Are Still Codependent ft. Esin Pinarli
Esin Pinarli, a psychotherapist with 18 years of experience, joins Ali to talk about people-pleasing, attachment, and what she calls modern codependency. Esin breaks down the unspoken childhood contracts we sign without realizing it, and how codependency shows up today in high-achieving,...
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280. Live a Longer Lonely Life: What Tech Is Actually Doing to Connection ft. Alex Wolf
Alex Wolf, the founder behind the original Boss Babe movement turned tech philosopher, joins Ali to explore what the attention economy is quietly doing to our ability to connect with each other, including romantically. The conversation covers why "just delete the app" misses the point entirely…
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279. Hot Topics #23: First-Time Manager Nerves, Single Mom Dating Apps, Timeline Anxiety, Dating Burnout, and the Talking Stage
Ali answers five listener questions that all share a common thread: the gap between wanting something and being able to follow through. A first-time manager grappling with imposter syndrome, a single mom navigating kid disclosure on the apps, someone processing timeline anxiety after leaving a...
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278. Listener Storytime: Rebuilding Intimacy After Desire Faded
This week, Ali is joined by Sarah, a listener who reached out to share her journey with desire and intimacy. Sarah opens up about how her health anxiety quietly muted her desire for sex until she sought out a specialized sex therapist, and how that work helped her reframe arousal, communicate…
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277. What If the Best Dating Profile Was Written by Your Best Friend? ft. Brooke Janousek
TW: This episode contains a brief discussion of cancer and loss. If you want to skip it, the guest segment begins at approximately minute 13. Brooke Janousek, founder of Someone You Should Meet, joins Ali to make the case for letting the people who know you best do the talking. Brooke and Ali dig...
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276. Ali’s Guide To Getting The *Right* Job Offer (Parts 1 & 2 of 3)
You're being interviewed, but you're also doing the interviewing. Most people forget the second part. Ali shares two episodes from the Finding Mr. Height Patreon in this special re-air, covering the interview process from both sides of the table. Part one is a practical guide to vetting a company...
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275. When You Outgrow the Life You Built ft. Sarah Vacchiano
This week, Ali sits down with Sarah Vacchiano, author of Soft Launch, who got married at 21, divorced at 27, and moved to New York City to start over from scratch. Sarah shares what it felt like to leave a marriage that looked fine on the outside, how she navigated a world she’d skipped the entry...
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274. Listener Storytime: When Staying Felt Safer Than Leaving
TW: This episode includes discussion of grief, miscarriage and emotional abuse. This week, Ali is joined by a listener who shares her story of leaving a marriage rooted in cultural pressure, low self-worth, and years of emotional abuse. The conversation covers the internal voice she ignored while...
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273. Two Years In: The Anniversary Episode ft. Skyline
Ali and Skyline are celebrating two years together! Together from Italy, they go deep on what two years actually looks like, covering how they handle disagreements, how intentional they've been about the relationship and whether that was by design or just who they are, what they've each learned...
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272. Designing a Life That Fits ft. Danielle McGeough
Danielle McGeough joins Ali to talk about what happens after you hit the goal you've been chasing your whole career and realize it doesn't feel the way you thought it would (and how this relates to dating!). Danielle, a professor and creator of the RISE Ritual Method, unpacks the difference…
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271. Dating Burnout and the Patterns Behind It ft. Jordanne Sculler
Jordanne Sculler, licensed therapist, joins Ali to talk about dating burnout from the inside out. Rather than pointing to apps or circumstances as the culprit, Jordanne breaks down the internal patterns that are really driving exhaustion in dating, including the productivity trap of treating…
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270. The Relationship Advice You Inherited Might Be Wrong ft. Monica Tanner
Marriage coach Monica Tanner joins Ali to challenge the unwritten rulebook most of us absorbed about relationships without ever questioning it. Monica, the author of Bad Marriage Advice, breaks down why a lot of the advice well-meaning people pass down is not just unhelpful but actively working...
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269. Interdependence, Earned Security, and the Art of Being Unsingle ft. Amy Chan
Amy Chan returns to the pod for an in-person recording with Ali, a conversation spurned from her own deep attachment work. The two chat about Amy’s new book Unsingle, where she leverages her personal experiences to help you identify your recurring patterns in relationships. The two get into why…
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268. Listener Storytime: Building a Full Sex Life on Your Own Terms
This week, Ali sits down with Julia, a listener who shares her experience discovering that vaginal sex just doesn't work for her body. She walks through how that shaped her early dating experiences, including a two-and-a-half year situationship, and what it was like to tell her current partner....
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267. The Deeper Pattern Beneath Your Dating Life ft. Meg Tuohey
Relationship coach and author Meg Tuohey joins Ali to introduce her concept of the HeartPrint, the idea that each of us is as unique as our fingerprints in how we move through the world and relate to others. Meg breaks down why frameworks like attachment styles and love languages, while helpful,...
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266. The NYT Tried to Give Us Dating Rules and We Have Notes ft. Darcy
Returning guest and Ali’s good friend Darcy is back on the pod, and they’re diving straight into the New York Times' crowdsourced list of 35 dating rules. Some of them? Genuinely solid. Some of them? Completely unhinged. And several of them directly contradict each other, which is so indicative…
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265. Dating Advice We Wish We'd Taken Sooner ft. Ilana Dunn
Ali sits down with Ilana Dunn, host of Seeing Other People, for a conversation about the dating advice they both either ignored in the past or wish they’d taken sooner. They dig into the patterns that kept them stuck longer than necessary: from ignoring gut feelings and making excuses for bad...
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264. Hot Topics #22: First Messages, Being Someone's "Type," and People-Pleasing in Progress
We’ve got some amazing listener questions this week, and the thread running through all of them is a concept introduced in this week's Media Mention: high involvement, low attachment, inspired by a TikTok from @mother.of.a.dilemma. From there, she answers three listener questions: one from a man...
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263. Listener Storytime: Holding Grief While Choosing What’s Next
TW: This episode includes discussion of grief, loss, and suicide. If you or someone you know is struggling, please reach out. You can call or text 988 to connect with the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline — they're available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, and it's free and confidential. This week, Ali…
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262. Are We Watching Love (Is Blind) Stories or Unresolved Patterns? ft. Jackie Dorman
Matchmaker Jackie Dorman joins Ali to break down the latest season of Love Is Blind through the lens of someone who has helped over 1,600 people get engaged or married. They dig into why the pod format rewards anxious attachment, what emotional over-functioning really looks like on screen, and…
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261. How to Stop People-Pleasing Without Becoming Rigid ft. Dr. Paula Freedman-Diamond
Dr. Paula Freedman-Diamond joins Ali to discuss people-pleasing and how it relates to control in dating and relationships. Paula, a therapist and author of Toxic Striving, breaks down how people-pleasing and rigid boundary-setting are two sides of the same coin: both are attempts to control...
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260. Hot Topics #21: Attachment Patterns, Workplace Feedback, and Dating Dynamics
Ali is back with another Hot Topics episode, starting with listener updates and reflections sparked by a recent listener storytime and a past Hot Topics question. She then dives into your submitted questions, covering losing interest once the chase ends, making sense of mixed signals when…
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259. Using Conflict to Build Trust ft. Anna Lecat
This week, Ali hosts Anna Lecat for a conversation that reframes conflict as a powerful tool for connection rather than something to avoid. Together, the two unpack why so many of us fear uncomfortable conversations (especially in dating) and how that fear can quietly sabotage intimacy.…
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258. Relatability Creates Chemistry: Feel a Real Connection on Dates ft. April Beyer
This week, Ali sits down with veteran matchmaker April Beyer (who has 25+ years in the industry!) to unpack why dating feels harder than ever and how to make it more human again. They talk about letting go of attachment to outcomes, loosening rigid “criteria,” and why going on more dates can...
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257. Listener Storytime: Designing a Relationship That Breaks All the Rules
Ali sits down with FMH listener Allison for a storytime episode all about building a relationship that works for you, even if it breaks societal norms. Allison shares what it was like feeling like a late bloomer as she navigated finding her now-partner in her late 30’s. From dating a divorced dad...
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256. How To Make First Dates More Fun ft. Miriam Katz
Did you ever think that improv could apply to dating? Repeat guest Miriam Katz is back this week, a fun, hands-on conversation about how to feel lighter, more confident, and more authentic on dates…using improv! They talk about tone and enthusiasm, how to practice presence in low-pressure…
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255. New Year Reset: Foundation, Routines, and Intentional Living
In this New Year episode, Ali shares her word for the year, foundation, and the theme guiding how she’s setting up the year ahead: less chaos, more intention. She explains her process for reflecting on the past year and talks through the unglamorous but powerful changes she’s focusing on in her...
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254. The 2025 Relationship Year In Review One ft. Skyline
In this episode, Ali is joined by Skyline for a continuation of last week’s year in review episode, this time focused on their relationship. Using a framework from her friend Talia, host of the Dating Intentionally podcast, they reflect on the past year as a couple. It’s an honest, conversational...
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253. The 2025 Year In Review One
In this solo Year in Review episode, Ali shares an honest recap of 2025, including the wins, the messy parts, and why this year felt more like a quiet level-setting season than a highlight reel. She reflects on how Finding Mr. Height has evolved, what surprised her about self-employment, and what...
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252. The Family Holidays One ft. Mama J
Ali is joined by her mom (aka Mama J) from their girls trip to Costa Rica for a real, funny, and super practical convo about holiday logistics when you’re dating someone. They start with trip updates (a crab in the hallway, a fully gluten-free resort, and the upcoming “48-hour travel day + cats”...
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251. Listener Storytime: Entering Menopause at 36
Content note for this episode: we talk in detail about menopause, infertility and IVF, chronic pain, medical dismissal, and depression. This week, Ali is joined by longtime listener Sara, who shares a powerful Storytime about discovering she was essentially in menopause at 36. After years of...
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250. The Seventh Dating Diaries One ft. Katy & Tony
Katy & Tony are back this week to share their updates from the dating trenches. First, Tony tells us about the guy he’s surprisingly started dating long distance - we unpack mixed signals, hookup-to-date pivots, and how long distance might work better for him. Then we chat with Katy, whose dating...
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249. The Unspoken Etiquette One ft. Miriam Tinberg
This week, Ali welcomes the brilliant and endlessly curious Miriam Tinberg, a content creator who describes herself (rightly so!) as a conversation starter. If you like discussions that make you say, “wait, I’ve never thought about it like that,” you’re in the right place. We dive into unspoken...
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248. The Somatic Sex Coach One ft. Rachel Overvoll
In this episode, Ali sits down with somatic sex coach and author Rachel Overvoll for an honest, expansive conversation about divorce, desire, and learning to feel safe in your own body. The two talk about the shifting stigma around divorce, why “it might end” is not a reason to avoid marriage…
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247. The Twentieth Hot Topics One
Ali is solo this week answering questions submitted by you, the listeners! Our question round up includes: navigating comfort vs spark chasing in a new relationship, starting to date when you’re still getting over your ex, how Skyline and I establish de-escalating tactics in every day life…
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246. The Self-Trust One ft. Stacey Sherrell of Detangling Divorce
Therapist and creator of Detangling Divorce, Stacey Sherrell, joins Ali to talk about the role of self-trust in finding a strong partnership, her own path to divorce, and how couples can set themselves up for success long before a crisis. Topics also include: respect as a non-negotiable and how…
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ABOUT THIS SHOW
On Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast, dating & relationship coach Ali Jackson (@findingmrheight) brings you her positive and practical approach built from personal experience in the dating trenches. No matter where you are in your relationship journey, you’ll learn how to identify your needs, embrace your feelings, and directly communicate both.Ready to feel more authentic and grounded in your relationships and more joyful in your life overall? Tune in as Ali brings you relatable conversations with both expert guests and listeners just like you, peppering in her own personal insights along the way.Listen now on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or any major podcast network. Find even more content from Ali on her Patreon, (https://www.patreon.com/findingmrheight)Instagram: @findingmrheight (https:// www.instagram.com/findingmrheight) TikTok: @findingmrheight (https://www.tiktok.com/ @findingmrheight)
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