Forever Home for our kids with disabilities.

Send us Fan MailIn this inspiring and heartfelt episode, Valerie welcomes Jennifer Buchanan, certified music therapist, author, and founder of JB Music Therapy.With more than three decades of experience, Jennifer shares the powerful impact music can have on the brain, nervous system, emotional regulation, memory, connection, and belonging — especially for children and adults with disabilities.Jennifer opens up about the deeply personal experience that first led her into music therapy after her grandfather suffered a major stroke. What began as a simple Friday evening of singing his favorite song became a life-changing realization of music’s ability to connect, heal, and bring people together.Together, Valerie and Jennifer explore:The science behind music and the brainHow music supports neuroplasticity, regulation, memory, and emotional wellnessWhy music is deeply connected to human development and belongingThe role music can play in the home environmentUsing music intentionally to support routines, calm, energy, and connectionThe importance of exploring different genres and musical experiencesHow live music and shared musical moments create lifelong memoriesWhy music should remain part of a child’s life into adulthood and within their forever homeValerie also shares personal stories about her daughter Melody-Anne’s lifelong love of music, including how music became part of their family routines, worship, communication, and expression.Jennifer reminds parents that music is not reserved for performers or professionals — "It belongs to everyone."Key TakeawaysMusic activates more areas of the brain than almost any other activityMusic can support regulation, emotional expression, memory, and developmentShared musical experiences create strong family memories and connectionMusic can help set the emotional tone within the homeEvery person is musical, whether they perform or notBelonging, inclusion, and expression matter deeply for children with disabilitiesAbout Jennifer BuchananJennifer Buchanan is an award-winning music therapist, speaker, author, and founder of JB Music Therapy, which delivers over 20,000 music therapy sessions annually across medical, educational, and wellness settings. Connect with Jennifer@jbmusictherapy @jenniferbuchananinc https://jbmusictherapy.com/Connect with [email protected] Music Acknowledgement: Audio Coffee - Denys KyshchukEditor: Scott ArbeauLink for book: The S.H.I.N.E. Principle: The special needs mom's path to strength, hope and happiness by Valerie Arbeauhttps://www.amazon.ca/dp/B0CW18ZXGX (Canada)https://a.co/d/03hFdZI4 (United States)Final Thought“Continue advocating for belonging because you are becoming something so beautiful.” — Jennifer BuchananRemember to Live with Intention and Embrace the Journey. Learn more about your host at:https://coachingwithvalerieanne.com/

Send us Fan MailIn this final episode of our series with estate planning lawyer and disability advocate Gordon VanderLeek and disability advocate Annie VanderLeek, we explore a critical shift in understanding the Disability Tax Credit (DTC).The DTC is often misunderstood as “just a tax credit.” But as Gordon and Annie explain, its real value lies in what it unlocks.This episode reframes the DTC as a gateway benefit—a foundational qualification that opens access to essential federal supports for individuals with disabilities.Key Takeaways:- The DTC is not about taxes—it’s about access.Even if your child earns little or no income, qualifying for the DTC can unlock life-changing programs.- Registered Disability Savings Plan (RDSP):Eligibility for the DTC is required to open an RDSP—one of the most powerful long-term financial tools available. With government grants and bonds of up to $90,000, this plan can grow into a substantial financial safety net for your child’s future.- Canada Disability Benefit (CDB):A newer federal support providing additional monthly income. Again, DTC eligibility is a key requirement.- Additional supports:Access to retroactive tax refunds, the Child Disability Benefit, and stronger positioning when applying for provincial programs.- Provincial implications (e.g., AISH in Alberta):In some cases, applying for the DTC is becoming mandatory to maintain or qualify for provincial supports.When Applications Are Denied:- Many applications fail due to incomplete or unclear information.- Strong applications rely on storytelling backed by documentation (medical reports, assessments, IPPs).- The key is clearly demonstrating how the disability impacts daily living, not just diagnosis.- One of the hardest parts of the application process is being honest about your child’s challenges.- Parents often provide extensive support behind the scenes—support that masks the true level of disability. For the DTC, it’s essential to describe what life would look like without that support.System Challenges & Needed Improvements:- Lengthy, complex applications- Limited time and support for medical professionals completing forms - Long wait times and administrative barriers- A system that may exclude many who still need supportFinal Words of Advice:- Apply—even if you’re unsureThe DTC is a doorway to your child’s long-term financial security. “Live with iIntention - Embrace the Journey.” Connect with the VanderLeeks·       Website: vanderleeklaw.ca·       Disability Advocacy Services: disabilityadvocates.ca·       https://facebook.com/vanderleeklaw·       https://www.linkedin.com/company/vanderleeklaw·       https://www.instagram.com/vanderleek_law/ Connect with [email protected] Music Acknowledgement: Audio Coffee - Denys KyshchukEditor: Scott ArbeauLink for book: The S.H.I.N.E. Principle: The special needs mom's path to strength, hope and happiness by Valerie Arbeauhttps://www.amazon.ca/dp/B0CW18ZXGX (Canada)https://a.co/d/03hFdZI4Learn more about your host at:https://coachingwithvalerieanne.com/

Send us Fan MailWhat if the homes we build today are the very thing limiting our independence tomorrow?In this eye-opening episode, Valerie sits down with builder and entrepreneur Adam Arsenault to explore the critical gaps in accessible housing—and why so many homes still aren’t designed for real life across the lifespan.Adam has always been interested in building. He started at the beginning with how to read a red tape measure to studying every trade in the industry. After a decade of learning, he decided to turn his passion for building into a business. Adam shares his journey into accessible construction, inspired by both industry experience and personal experience with family. After witnessing firsthand how traditional homes fail people as they age or face mobility challenges, he set out to challenge the status quo and create better solutions.Together, Valerie and Adam unpack:Why accessibility is still not the standard in home buildingThe surprising role basements play in limiting accessibilityThe concept of level-entry, no-step homes and why they matterThe stigma and mindset barriers that prevent proactive planningThe pros and cons of renovating vs. building newWhy “one-size-fits-all” (universal design) often falls shortHow ADUs (Additional Dwelling Units) can create independence while keeping families connectedAdam also introduces innovative approaches like building without basements, incorporating future-ready features like residential elevators, and designing homes that are both functional and beautiful—without looking “accessible.”Valerie brings her lived experience as a parent and former physiotherapist, emphasizing the importance of planning early and thinking long-term—especially for families raising children with disabilities.Key Takeaway:Accessible housing isn’t just for “someone else.” It’s for all of us—if we’re willing to think ahead.Whether you’re considering renovations, building a forever home, or simply starting the conversation, this episode will expand your perspective on what’s possible.Connect with Adam:Website: redpladhomes.comInstagram & Facebook: Red Plaid DevelopmentsValerie’s Reminder:Start planning early. The best outcomes come from informed, proactive decisions—not reactive ones.Live with Intention - Embrace the Journey. Connect with Adamwww.redplaidhomes.com Connect with [email protected] Music Acknowledgement: Audio Coffee - Denys KyshchukEditor: Scott ArbeauLink for book: The S.H.I.N.E. Principle: The special needs mom's path to strength, hope and happiness by Valerie Arbeauhttps://www.amazon.ca/dp/B0CW18ZXGX (Canada)https://a.co/d/03hFdZI4 (United States)Learn more about your host at:https://coachingwithvalerieanne.com/

Send us Fan MailIn this episode Ron shares his perspective: accessible, universal, and inclusive design isn’t specialized—it’s simply good design. But when designing for neurodivergence, the focus shifts toward creating calm, choice, and sensory-aware environments that support regulation and well-being.Calm is FoundationalDesigning for neurodivergent individuals often means reducing overstimulation. This includes thoughtful choices around color, lighting, acoustics, and layout to create a soothing, predictable environment.Wayfinding Matters More Than You ThinkSimple navigation within a home can significantly impact comfort and independence. Subtle visual cues—like consistent flooring and strategic use of color—can either support or hinder movement.Choice = Dignity and ControlRon emphasizes that the most important design principle is choice. When individuals can move freely and make decisions within their environment, it enhances autonomy, reduces anxiety, and improves quality of life.Sensory Design is Critical- Lighting: Opt for dimmable, low-flicker LED lighting with soft, diffused tones- Acoustics: Use insulation and acoustic panels to minimize noise- Materials: Choose matte finishes to reduce glare and sensory overload- Temperature: Ensure consistent, comfortable climate controlThese elements don’t just benefit neurodivergent individuals—they improve the experience for everyone.Space Variety Supports RegulationIncorporating a mix of open, social areas and smaller, cozy spaces allows individuals to choose environments that match their sensory needs. Dedicated sensory rooms can also offer a safe place to decompress.Every Individual is DifferentThere is no one-size-fits-all solution. Designing for neurodivergence requires listening, curiosity, and collaboration with families and caregivers who understand the individual best.Parents Are Powerful DesignersFamilies often develop incredible, intuitive solutions tailored to their child’s needs. Trust your instincts, get creative, and don’t be afraid to challenge limitations.Plan for the FutureDesign not just for today, but for what your child may need years from now. Early, proactive planning creates more sustainable and supportive living environments.Advocate and Stay CuriousIf someone says something “can’t be done,” dig deeper. Innovation often comes from questioning assumptions and seeking better solutions.Final Thought:You are the expert on your child. When you combine your insight with thoughtful design, you can create a home that supports not just survival—but true comfort, independence, and thriving.Check out Part 1 in Episode 23!Live with Intention - Embrace the Journey🎒 Connect with RonGoogle Ron Wickman Architect online to visit his website and explore his publications on accessible housing.Check our Ron’s resources…👇🏽https://www.ronwickmanarchitect.ca/resources Connect with [email protected] Music Acknowledgement: Audio Coffee - Denys KyshchukEditor: Scott ArbeauLink for book: The S.H.I.N.E. Principle: The special needs mom's path to strength, hope and happiness by Valerie Arbeauhttps://www.amazon.ca/dp/B0CW18ZXGX (Canada)Learn more about your host at:https://coachingwithvalerieanne.com/

Send us Fan MailIn this episode, Valerie continues her conversation with estate planning lawyer Gordon VanderLeek and disability advocate Annie VanderLeek about an important support available to Canadian families raising children with disabilities: the Disability Tax Credit (DTC).Gordon is the founder of VanderLeek Law, and Annie leads the firm’s Disability Advocates division, helping families navigate disability-related programs and supports.Together they explain what the DTC is, how eligibility is determined, and why this credit can be much more significant than a simple tax reduction.What is the Disability Tax Credit?The DTC is a federal program administered by the Canada Revenue Agency. While it can reduce income tax, it also acts as an important gateway to other federal disability supports.Eligibility is not based on diagnosis alone. Instead, the CRA evaluates how a disability affects a person’s daily functioning.To qualify, a person must be:- Markedly restricted in one area of daily living, or- Significantly restricted in multiple areasAreas assessed may include walking, hearing, eliminating, mental functioning, and life-sustaining therapy.Why Documentation MattersStrong documentation is critical when applying. Helpful records may include:- Medical and psychological assessments- School reports or IPPs/IEPs- Therapy reports- Historical diagnosesAs Annie emphasizes, keeping documentation helps families clearly demonstrate the real-life impact of a disability.Challenges in the Application ProcessThe DTC application requires a medical professional to complete part of the form. Challenges can arise when doctors:- Do not know the individual well- Have limited time to complete forms- Are unfamiliar with certain disabilitiesWorking with professionals who understand the complexity of disability can make a significant difference.Retroactive BenefitsOne powerful aspect of the DTC is that approval can be retroactive for up to 10 years, depending on when the disability began. This can result in meaningful tax refunds that help offset the additional costs families often face.Final AdviceAnnie’s biggest recommendation for families:Keep your documentation.Medical reports, school records, and assessments may become essential when applying for disability supports.This episode is part of a continuing series exploring financial and legal planning for families raising children with disabilities.Live with intention - Embrace the journey. Connect with the VanderLeeks- Website: vanderleeklaw.ca- Disability Advocacy Services: disabilityadvocates.ca· https://facebook.com/vanderleeklaw· https://www.linkedin.com/company/vanderleeklaw· https://www.instagram.com/vanderleek_law/ Connect with [email protected] Music Acknowledgement: Audio Coffee - Denys KyshchukEditor: Scott ArbeauLink for book: The S.H.I.N.E. Principle: The special needs mom's path to strength, hope and happiness by Valerie Arbeauhttps://www.amazon.ca/dp/B0CW18ZXGX (Canada)Learn more about your host at:https://coachingwithvalerieanne.com/

Send us Fan MailIn this episode, Valerie sits down with architect, author, and accessibility advocate Ron Wickman to explore what it truly means to design homes that support independence, dignity, and lifelong connection.Ron brings over 30 years of experience in accessible architecture—and a deeply personal perspective. His father became paraplegic in 1964 at just 23 years old and was told he would likely live in an institution and never work again. Instead, he became a city councillor in Edmonton and later a Member of the Legislative Assembly, advocating for change across Alberta.Growing up immersed in disability advocacy shaped Ron’s professional mission: transforming accessible design from a “special feature” into the cultural norm.We Discuss:How Lived Experience Shapes DesignRon shares how navigating the world alongside his father exposed the barriers embedded in the built environment—from backdoor restaurant entrances to inaccessible homes—and how those experiences led him to architecture instead of politics.What “Accessible Design” Really MeansRon clarifies the differences between:Accessible DesignUniversal DesignInclusive DesignBarrier-Free DesignVisitabilityThe Power of VisitabilityInspired by disability advocate Eleanor Smith, the concept of visitability ensures that every home has:A no-step entranceWider doorwaysA main floor bathroom accessible to wheelchair usersThese features benefit everyone.The 3 Critical Features of a Forever HomeIf you are searching for or building a home that can be modified for accessibility, Ron recommends focusing on:Ground-to-Front-Door RelationshipCan someone enter without steps?If not, what modifications (ramps, lifts) would be required?Vertical CirculationIf it’s not a bungalow, is there room for:A stair lift?A vertical platform lift?An elevator?Bathroom Size & LayoutOlder homes often have bathrooms that are too small to modify without major structural changes. Adequate space from the beginning makes aging in place—and caregiving—significantly easier.Ron advocates for “wet rooms”—fully waterproofed bathrooms with sloped floors and open shower areas. Shifting the Cultural MindsetOne of the biggest barriers to accessible housing isn’t cost—it’s perception.Make accessibility the norm—not the exception. Coming NextRon will return to discuss his work designing homes for the neurodivergent population—an area requiring even more nuanced, individualized planning. Connect with RonGoogle Ron Wickman Architect online to visit his website and explore his publications on accessible housing. Connect with [email protected] Music Acknowledgement: Audio Coffee - Denys KyshchukEditor: Scott ArbeauLink for book: The S.H.I.N.E. Principle: The special needs mom's path to strength, hope and happiness by Valerie Arbeauhttps://www.amazon.ca/dp/B0CW18ZXGX (Canada)https://a.co/d/03hFdZI4 (United States) If this episode encouraged or informed you, please share it with another parent navigating the forever home journey.Live with ILearn more about your host at:https://coachingwithvalerieanne.com/

Send us Fan MailIn Part Two of this informative conversation, I sit down again with estate lawyer Gordon VanderLeek, founder of VanderLeek Law, to unpack the legal and practical realities of securing a forever home for our children with disabilities.If you think buying the right house is the hard part — think again.Gordon walks us through the integrated planning that must happen behind the scenes to truly protect your child’s future. From tax implications to vulnerability risks, from Trusteeship to roommate agreements, this episode is full of insight every parent needs to hear.In This Episode We Cover:The most common mistakes families make when purchasing or transferring a homeWhy “just putting the house in your child’s name” can create serious long-term risksHow Canada’s principal residence exemption factors into planningWhy tax should never be the first priority — protection shouldHow to legally structure living arrangements with roommates or support workersThe importance of written agreements (even when everyone gets along)What happens when parents are no longer able to advocateCreating a Letter of Wishes or roadmap document to guide future caregiversPassing on financial knowledge (banking, bills, supports) before it’s neededWhether a Henson Trust can own property in Alberta — and how that worksHow Trustees should be empowered to manage repairs, renovations, or sale of the homeEnsuring there are enough funds in the Trust to support not just housing — but the whole lifeGordon also reminds us that a Trust is not just a tax tool — it’s a protective structure. And planning isn’t just about legal documents; it’s about transferring knowledge.One of the most practical takeaways?Start small. Open a document. Write one paragraph. Add to it over time. A roadmap doesn’t need to be perfect — it just needs to exist.Because when crisis hits, the worst time to figure this out is after the funeral.Final EncouragementYou do not have to do this alone.Bring in professionals. Talk to other parents. Build your circle. Refine your plan over time.Peace of mind comes from preparation — not perfection.If this episode helped you think differently about your child’s forever home, share it with another parent who needs this conversation. Connect with Gordon VanderLeekWebsite: vanderleeklaw.caDisability Advocacy Services: disabilityadvocates.ca·       https://facebook.com/vanderleeklaw·       https://www.linkedin.com/company/vanderleeklaw·       https://www.instagram.com/vanderleek_law/ Connect with [email protected] Acknowledgement: Audio Coffee - Denys KyshchukEditor: Scott ArbeauLink for book: The S.H.I.N.E. Principle: The special needs mom's path to strength, hope and happiness by Valerie Arbeauhttps://www.amazon.ca/dp/B0CW18ZXGX (Canada)https://a.co/d/03hFdZI4 (United States)Learn more about your host at:https://coachingwithvalerieanne.com/

Send us Fan MailEpisode OverviewIn this episode, Valerie sits down with Al Neary, a mobility and rehabilitation expert with nearly 40 years of experience, to discuss how thoughtful equipment choices and home planning can support dignity, independence, and long-term quality of life for individuals with disabilities.Al shares practical insights for families navigating wheelchairs, seating, bathing, transfers, and home modifications—along with powerful stories that reframe mobility from limitation to possibility.Meet Al NearyFounder and president of Maximum Mobility (est. 2007)Calgary native and longtime volunteer with CADS – Canadian Adaptive Snow SportsSpecializes in pediatric and complex rehabilitation equipmentPassionate advocate for function, safety, and inclusionWhat You’ll Learn in This EpisodeMobility Is More Than a WheelchairA wheelchair is just one part of daily independence. Al explains the importance of complementary equipment such as lifts, commodes, shower chairs, hospital beds, grab bars, and change tables—to keep both individuals and caregivers safe.Why Proper Seating MattersComfort, positioning, and support directly impact function, energy, and dignity. Al explains how customized seating enables independence and reduces physical and mental fatigue.Follow-Up & Maintenance (Especially in Alberta)Pediatric equipment is reviewed regularly due to growthAdult equipment is user-driven—vendors cannot initiate follow-upsFamilies must track replacement timelines through AADLRoutine servicing extends equipment life and improves daily functionBathrooms, Transfers & Home DesignCommonly overlooked areas include:Bathroom size and layoutTrue roll-in showers (no lip)Space for commode accessLighting, doorway width, and transfer zonesEarly planning—before drywall or final layouts—can save money and stress.Future-Proofing the Forever HomeAl emphasizes:Zero-threshold entriesWider doorwaysCeiling lift planningMultiple accessible exits for safetyAccessible design can be beautiful, functional, and a strong resale asset.Reframing MobilityMobility equipment is a tool, not a setback. Al shares moving stories of children gaining independence, inclusion, and confidence through the right supports.“It’s not about what someone can’t do—it’s about giving them the tools to participate.” Key TakeawaysThink long-term, not just for todayInvolve professionals earlyPlan for growth, aging, and caregiver safetyFocus on dignity, function, and inclusionLive with intention. Embrace the journey.Thank you for listening to Forever Home for Our Kids with Disabilities. Connect with Al Neary🌐 www.maxmobility.ca📞 403-769-6166📧 [email protected] Connect with [email protected] Music Acknowledgement: Audio Coffee - Denys KyshchukEditor: Scott ArbeauLink for book: The S.H.I.N.E. Principle: The special needs mom's path to strength, hope and happiness by Valerie Arbeauhttps://www.amazon.ca/dp/B0CW18ZXGX (Canada)Learn more about your host at:https://coachingwithvalerieanne.com/

Send us Fan MailEpisode SummaryIn this powerful and deeply validating episode, Valerie is joined by Dr. Theresa Lyons—international autism educator, Ivy League scientist, and autism parent—for an honest conversation about the hidden toll of parenting a child with autism, the emerging science around parent PTSD, and the hope found in evidence-based supports.Dr. Lyons shares her personal journey following her daughter’s autism diagnosis and reflects on the lack of clear guidance parents often receive—even years later. Together, Valerie and Dr. Lyons explore the reality of chronic stress, trauma, and nervous system dysregulation experienced by many parents, and why acknowledging this is not a failure of love, but an act of care.Key Topics CoveredNew 2025 research linking autism parenting stress to PTSD diagnosesWhy parent trauma remains a taboo topic—and why that must changeHow EMDR therapy helps parents process trauma and restore regulationThe critical role of sleep, breathing, and nervous system supportLeucovorin explained: the science, testing (FRAT), benefits, and controversyEvidence-based approaches vs. fear-driven decision-makingIncluding children and young adults with disabilities in housing decisionsReal-life examples of supported independence and forever homesThe profound impact of AAC on communication, advocacy, and identityLetting go as an act of love: roots, wings, and dignity in adulthoodNotable TakeawaysTrauma can occur without blame—and it can be healedParents need support systems, not just child-focused interventionsIndependence often unlocks communication, confidence, and joyPlanning a forever home creates continuity, security, and peace of mindParenting may not look as imagined—but it can be even more meaningful*** Listen to season 2 episode 13 to hear Ishan Manerikar’s story of moving out from his parents’ home. Closing ReflectionThis episode is a reminder that caring for yourself is not separate from caring for your child—and that with intention, planning, and support, families can move from survival to sustainability. Connect Theresa Lyonshttps://navigatingawetism.com/https://awetism.net/ Connect with [email protected] Music Acknowledgement: Audio Coffee - Denys KyshchukEditor: Scott ArbeauLink for book: The S.H.I.N.E. Principle: The special needs mom's path to strength, hope and happiness by Valerie Arbeauhttps://www.amazon.ca/dp/B0CW18ZXGX (Canada)https://a.co/d/03hFdZI4 (United States)Learn more about your host at:https://coachingwithvalerieanne.com/

Send us Fan MailIn this episode, Valerie sits down with Gordon VanderLeek, founder of VanderLeek Law and a nationally respected voice in estate planning and disability advocacy. As both a lawyer and a father of five adopted children, three with long-term disabilities, Gordon brings rare professional expertise grounded in lived experience.They explore what it truly means to plan for a child’s future when lifelong supports are required, with a particular focus on the Registered Disability Savings Plan (RDSP) and how it fits into a comprehensive forever home strategy.Gordon VanderLeek is the founder and managing lawyer of VanderLeek Law, with a practice focused on wills, estates, trust planning, and guardianship for families impacted by disability. He holds the Trust and Estate Practitioner (STEP) designation and is a member of the Canadian Bar Association’s Wills and Estates Section.Alongside his wife Annie, Gordon co-founded Disability Advocates, a division of the firm dedicated to helping families navigate complex social service systems through practical, compassionate advocacy.Gordon hosts two podcasts, the latter with Annie: Estates Made Simple and We Advocate.You’ll learn-Gordon’s personal journey as a foster and adoptive parent navigating disability, education systems, and advocacy-Why estate planning for families with disabilities is fundamentally different—and where many families unintentionally go wrong-The origin and purpose of the Registered Disability Savings Plan (RDSP)-How the RDSP works, including: Government grants and bonds, Contribution limits and timelines, Why starting early matters-How RDSPs interact with government income supports like AISH (Alberta)-A critical but often-overlooked downside of RDSPs: what happens when the beneficiary passes away-When an RDSP is ideal—and when alternative strategies may be more appropriate-Why advocacy is often required to access supports (and why “no” is not always the final answer)-The importance of guardianship and trusteeship planning-Why long-term planning must address both financial security and human support-Words of encouragement for parents raising a child with disabilities Key Takeaways-The RDSP is one of the most powerful financial tools available to Canadians with disabilities—but it must be used thoughtfully within a broader plan (https://www.canada.ca/en/revenue-agency/services/tax/individuals/topics/registered-disability-savings-plan-rdsp.html)-Government systems are complex and siloed; families should not be expected to navigate them alone-Advocacy is not optional—it is often the difference between access and exclusion-Planning ahead is an act of love, not fear-Parents and partners must care for each other in order to sustain the long journey aheadLive with Intention – Embrace the Journey Connect with Gordon VanderLeekWebsite: vanderleeklaw.caDisability Advocacy Services: disabilityadvocates.caConnect with [email protected] Acknowledgement: Audio Coffee - Denys KyshchukEditor: Scott ArbeauLink for book: The S.H.I.N.E. Principle: The special needs mom's path to strength, hope and happiness by Valerie Arbeauhttps://www.amazon.ca/dp/B0CW18ZXGX (Canada)Learn more about your host at:https://coachingwithvalerieanne.com/

Send us Fan MailAs we close out 2025 and step into the Christmas season, Valerie offers a reflection on gratitude, hope, and the quiet, steady work of building a forever home for a child with disabilities. Through a beautiful allegory of a lantern maker, this episode reminds listeners that secure futures are not created overnight — they are built layer by layer, with clarity, consistency, and love.This episode weaves together storytelling, practical encouragement, and spiritual reflection to honour the courage of parents, caregivers, and advocates who show up every day for their children. Valerie revisits two core themes explored this fall in her Newsletter — Clarity and Consistency — and invites listeners to carry them forward into the New Year as guiding lights for their child’s future.In this episode:- A Christmas allegory illustrating how forever homes are built over time, not all at once- Why a forever home is a vision, not just a building- The role of clarity in imagining your child’s adult life before making plans- The power of consistency through small, intentional steps- How hope is built through action, not perfection- Navigating the emotional weight of the holiday season as a caregiver- Encouragement and reassurance for parents and families carrying long-term responsibility- A faith-based reflection on rest, hope, and sustaining strength- What’s coming in 2026 for the Forever Home communityKey Themes:Clarity:- Starting with vision before funding, housing models, or legal structures- Asking meaningful questions about independence, safety, belonging, and purpose- Allowing yourself to imagine the future through the lens of loveConsistency:- Taking one small step at a time toward your child’s future- Building momentum through gentle, repeatable actions- Trusting that steady progress creates alignment and hopeHope:- Hope as something we actively build- Seeing light even in seasons of uncertainty- Honouring every quiet effort made on behalf of your childNotable Quotes:~ “The future is not something we enter. The future is something we create.” — Leonard Sweet~ “Hope is being able to see that there is light despite all of the darkness.” — Desmond TutuIn the coming year, listeners can expect:- Practical guidance on housing models and forever home options- Step-by-step breakdowns of the forever home planning process - Interviews with families actively building or living in forever homes- Conversations with planners, lawyers, designers, and support professionals- New workshops, tools, and resources designed to move families from planning into actionValerie’s goal for 2026: to help families move from thinking about a forever home for their child to building it.From my family to yours — Merry Christmas, and thank you for being part of this growing Forever Home community.Live with Intention – Embrace the JourneyConnect with [email protected] Music Acknowledgement: Audio Coffee - Denys KyshchukEditor: Scott ArbeauLink for book: The S.H.I.N.E. Principle: The special needs mom's path to strength, hope and happiness by Valerie Arbeauhttps://www.amazon.ca/dp/B0CW18ZXGX (Canada)Learn more about your host at:https://coachingwithvalerieanne.com/

Send us Fan MailIn this episode, Valerie sits down with Katie Hall—wife, mom, Gigi, mentor to teens and young adults with disabilities, and founder of Secure Your Hive. Katie shares her journey into mentoring, how this work has shaped her life and business, and how she now helps families save on essential services and create flexible, sustainable income streams—something especially meaningful for caregivers who cannot work traditional jobs.Katie and Valerie also dive into the crucial topic of home security for forever homes, including smart-home options, safety features, and real-life considerations for families whose children may wander or require additional layers of monitoring.Key Moments:Katie’s unexpected journey into mentoring teens and young adults with differing abilitiesHow caretaking for her sister opened her heart.The Facebook post that changed her life.Why dignity and language matter (“You are not a babysitter”).The beautiful moment when one of the teens later wrote a school paper naming Katie as her hero.How mentoring shaped Katie personally and professionallyWhy she intentionally uses the word mentor rather than aid.The deep relationships she’s built with the families she serves.How walking alongside one family opened doors to support many others.Flexible, home-based income for caregiversKatie breaks down:How she helps families save 30–50% on health care.Ways to reduce costs on essentials like mobile services, identity protection, and home utilities.Why service-based income can create residual earnings that grow over time.How this income can be left to your child in a trust—a financial game changer for many families.Opportunities for parents to learn, train, and build their own flexible business at home.Home security for forever homesKatie shares real, practical insights into:Smart locks, keypads, and phone app accessIndoor and outdoor cameras (and why you may choose one or the other)Door and window sensorsWhy these systems offer peace of mind for families with kids or adults who may wanderHow automation (lights, thermostats, door locks) can support safety and independenceThe security company she uses and recommends (Vivint) Key Quote from the Episode“People say I’m changing their lives, but they’re changing mine.” – Katie Connect with Katie Hallwebsite: www.secureyourhive.biz email: [email protected]: 1-949-228-7443. (Quote Forever Home) Thank You for Listening!Thank you for being part of the Forever Home for Our Kids with Disabilities community.Your support throughout 2025 has meant the world.If this episode encouraged you or opened your eyes to new possibilities, please share it with another parent or caregiver navigating this journey. Connect with [email protected] Music Acknowledgement: Audio Coffee - Denys KyshchukEditor: Scott ArbeauLink for book: The S.H.I.N.E. Principle: The special needs mom's path to strength, hope and happiness by Valerie Arbeauhttps://www.amazon.ca/dp/B0CW18ZXGX (Canada)Learn more about your host at:https://coachingwithvalerieanne.com/

Send us Fan MailIn this episode Valerie sits down with special guest Dr. Elisabeth (Betsy) Woolner — an 'almost' retired family physician, university clinical lecturer, and mother of two adult children, one with developmental disabilities.Betsy shares her 30-year journey of raising her daughter Scarlett, discovering her needs beyond diagnosis labels, and navigating three failed attempts at independent living before finally finding a sustainable model. This conversation is a compassionate look at what it really takes to support our neurodivergent young adults — not by assuming they’re ready, but by meeting them where they are.Key Themes & TakeawaysBright ≠ ready for independence — Intelligence doesn’t replace executive functioning, social capacity, emotional maturity, or processing speed.Failed launches don’t mean failure — They are data points that help families course-correct.Parents sometimes unknowingly overestimate — When expectations shifted to match actual ability, battles disappeared and communication improved.Support for life is not a limitation — Accepting lifelong support needs opened the door to realistic planning and healthier independence.Home models matter — Supervised living, duplexes, apartment rentals, condo ownership… each option comes with pros, cons, and legal considerations.Teaching independent living requires breaking things down — Something as “simple” as paying bills may actually be 8+ steps that need practice, tools, and repetition.After exploring multiple options — renovating their home, building a carriage house, agency-supervised living, rentals — the family landed on purchasing a condo 15 minutes away so they could:• tailor support without landlord barriers• monitor needs and independence over time• provide roommates (which Scarlett wanted)• minimize outdoor maintenance responsibilitiesSkill-Building Wins Along the WayPaying rent — learning reminders, collecting roommate payments, e-transferring on timeMeal planning & cooking — supported by interest and shared responsibility with roommatesOngoing work — cleanliness remains a challenge, and they’re learning as they goFor Parents Walking This PathIndependence isn’t all or nothingSupport isn’t a setback — it’s a step forwardYou’re not behind if success takes timeEvery child’s journey is unique — and so is yoursSuggested Reflection• List the life skills your child will need for the level of independence they want• Choose one skill to focus on first — and break it into micro-steps• Celebrate progress over perfection Creating a forever home isn’t just about the physical space — it’s about building confidence one skill at a time, exploring models of support, and honoring our children’s identities, needs, and dreams. Connect with Betsyhttps://www.linkedin.com/in/elisabeth-betsy-woolner/https://www.facebook.com/betsy.woolner Connect with [email protected] Music Acknowledgement: Audio Coffee - Denys KyshchukEditor: Scott ArbeauLink for book: The S.H.I.N.E. Principle: The special needs mom's path to strength, hope and happiness by Valerie Arbeauhttps://www.amazon.ca/dp/B0CW18ZXGX (Canada)Learn more about your host at:https://coachingwithvalerieanne.com/

Send us Fan MailEpisode OverviewIn this powerful and heart-opening episode, Valerie is joined by father–son duo Mark and John Cronin, founders of John’s Crazy Socks, the world’s largest sock store with a mission to spread happiness and create meaningful employment opportunities for people with differing abilities.Mark X. Cronin – Social entrepreneur, policy leader, advocate for disability inclusion, co-founder of John’s Crazy Socks and Abilities Rising. Two-time TEDx speaker, published author, and EY Entrepreneur of the Year award winner.John Cronin – Co-founder and Chief Happiness Officer of John’s Crazy Socks. Public speaker, advocate, and role model for inclusion. Entrepreneur with Down Syndrome.Together, they share:Their personal family story, including John's early medical challenges and the expectations others placed on him.How their family philosophy—“With us, not for us”—has shaped John’s autonomy, independence, and confidence.The origin story of John’s Crazy Socks: a 21-year-old with vision and determination creating his own business when he couldn’t find employment he loved.How their company intentionally hires people with differing abilities and why that workforce has become their greatest competitive advantage.Their advocacy efforts, including speaking at the U.N., testifying before Congress, and pushing to end sub-minimum wage laws that allow people with disabilities to be paid as little as 5 cents per hour. Key Themes & Takeaways1. Never underestimate ability.John’s story challenges assumptions and reminds families to give children space to try, fail, and succeed.2. “With us, not for us.”John makes his own decisions. Support is available, but autonomy is essential.3. Entrepreneurism is for everyone.If a job doesn’t exist or isn’t welcoming—create one. Entrepreneurship can be a path to independence and purpose.4. Disability is not a burden.Mark shares how his son has made him a better man—and how societal messaging can unintentionally diminish a child’s perceived potential.5. Advocacy matters.The Cronins use their platform to champion policy change—especially the fight to end sheltered workshops and sub-minimum wage practices.Memorable Quotes“Please, don’t ever apologize for my son.” — Mark“With us, not for us. It’s my life, and I get to make my choices.” — John“We don’t lower the standards—every employee earns their job.” — Mark“Never underestimate their ability. Give them the chance to figure it out.” — Valerie Connect with Mark and Johnjohnandmarkcronin.com; abilitiesrising.com; johnscrazysocks.comConnect with [email protected] Music Acknowledgement: Audio Coffee - Denys KyshchukEditor: Scott ArbeauLink for book: The S.H.I.N.E. Principle: The special needs mom's path to strength, hope and happiness by Valerie Arbeauhttps://www.amazon.ca/dp/B0CW18ZXGX (Canada)https://a.co/d/03hFdZI4 (United States)Thank You for ListeningIf this episode encouraged or inspired you, share it with another parent or caregiver.Your child’s future Learn more about your host at:https://coachingwithvalerieanne.com/

Send us Fan MailEpisode SummaryA forever home isn’t just a physical space—it’s a lifelong foundation of love, care, and possibility. In this episode, host Valerie Arbeau, mom to two children with disabilities, author, and life coach, guides parents through the essential first steps in creating a secure and sustainable forever home for their child.Through the analogy of building a house, Valerie walks listeners through ten guiding questions that help families think practically and compassionately about their child’s future—from location and independence to legal planning and continuity of care.Key Topics CoveredBuilding a Strong FoundationHow planning a forever home is like building a house—every decision adds strength, structure, and purpose.Safety and ComfortCreating spaces that support physical, emotional, and sensory safety.Reflection: What helps your child feel grounded and calm?Independence and SupportEncouraging supported independence through tools, structure, and confidence.Real-life examples of adaptive supports and gradual independence.Choosing a Housing ModelExploring options like shared living, supported apartments, or suites on family property.Involving your child in decisions, no matter how they communicate.Location and BelongingConsidering proximity to family, community, healthcare, and inclusive spaces.Planting your child where they can grow and thrive.Building a Support NetworkIdentifying family, friends, and community members who will walk alongside your child.How to start gentle, future-focused conversations.Financial FoundationsUnderstanding government supports, grants, trusts, and financial planning.Why working with disability-informed professionals matters.Daily Routines that Nurture GrowthDesigning a rhythm of life that balances structure, joy, and rest.Legal ConsiderationsCreating clarity around guardianship, power of attorney, and documentation.Ensuring your child’s care continues seamlessly.Continuity of CarePlanning for your child’s future beyond your lifetime.Passing on your vision, values, and love with confidence and clarity.Reflection PromptsWhat would make my child’s home feel like a sanctuary—for their body and heart?How can I gradually increase their independence with dignity?Who can I invite into our long-term circle of care?What legacy of love and security do I want to leave behind?Key Takeaway“You don’t need to have all the answers right now. With each question you ask and each decision you make, you’re laying the foundation for a future that will stand strong.”Keep building your child’s future.Live with Intention — Embrace the Journey.Connect with [email protected] Music Acknowledgement: Audio Coffee - Denys KyshchukEditor: Scott ArbeauLink for book: The S.H.I.N.E. Principle: The special needs mom's path to strength, hope and happiness by Valerie Arbeauhttps://www.amazon.ca/dp/B0CW18ZXGX (Canada)Learn more about your host at:https://coachingwithvalerieanne.com/

Send us Fan MailIn this powerful and eye-opening episode, Valerie reconnects with Ishan Manerikar — a witty, fiercely independent 24-year-old student living with Spinal Muscular Atrophy Type 2. Diagnosed at 18 months and raised alongside a younger sister who also has SMA, Ishan grew up with a family who encouraged independence at every turn — even when it required a little ruthlessness.At just 18, Ishan made the bold decision to move out of his parents’ home — not into a group setting or institution, but fully on his own. Now living in an accessible university residence, he manages his own care team, juggles a psychology and philosophy degree, plays power hockey, and navigates daily life with equal parts strategy and sarcasm! This episode offers a rare flip side perspective — not from a parent advocating for independence, but from a young adult with a disability who demanded it for himself.Key Topics:-Understanding SMA (Spinal Muscular Atrophy) Type 2 — Ishan breaks down the different SMA types and how modern treatments have shifted life expectancy and expectations.-Growing Up Independent (Whether You Want To or Not!) — How his parents fostered capability, confidence, and competitiveness between siblings with disabilities.-Why Moving Out Was Never Not an Option — Even when few peers with his level of disability had done it before.-Finding & Managing Caregivers — How he recruits support workers on Kijiji (with hilariously honest ads) and why he prefers hiring people with little to no medical background. (See Transcript for full ad)-The Housing Dilemma — The harsh realities of finding accessible housing on a budget — and why student residence is currently his lifeline.-The Hidden Cost of Independence — The emotional realities of living alone, the isolation that comes with autonomy, and the limitations of government support programs like AISH.-The Broken Support System — Candid commentary on navigating healthcare funding, caregiver limitations, and why “playing the game” determines survival for many adults with disabilities.-Independence can be empowering and isolating at the same time — both truths can exist together.Final Thoughts from Valerie·       This episode is a raw and real reminder of why I do the work I do with Forever Home Consulting. Parents need guidance — yes — but young adults like Ishan also need agency, dignity, and pathways to chart their own lives.·       If you’ve ever wondered:·       “But will my child really want to move out? And what would that look like?”·       …this conversation gives you an answer — straight from someone who’s living it!Live with Intention - Embrace the JourneyConnect with Ishan Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ishan.manerikar Instagram: @man_in_a_car Connect with [email protected] Music Acknowledgement: Audio Coffee - Denys KyshchukEditor: Scott ArbeauLink for book: The S.H.I.N.E. Principle: The special needs mom's path to strength, hope and happiness by Valerie Arbeauhttps://www.amazon.ca/dp/B0CW18ZXGX (Canada)https://a.co/d/03hFdZI4 (United States)Learn more about your host at:https://coachingwithvalerieanne.com/

Send us Fan MailIn this episode, Valerie chats with Shannon Laymon-Pecoraro, a certified elder law attorney, founder of East Coast Elder Law, and a nationally recognized voice in special needs planning. Shannon not only brings deep expertise in guardianship and estate planning but also shares her own journey as a special needs mom.Shannon brings to her practice an exceptional legal skill, and a deep personal commitment to serving the community. Shannon is a recognized authority in her field frequently sharing her knowledge as a lecturer, both locally and nationally. She has delivered multiple presentations at Stetson University School of Law's prestigious Special Needs Trust Conference and is a professor for their tax certification program.Together, Valerie and Shannon discuss:Shannon’s personal story of navigating her daughter’s diagnosis and the challenges of advocating for school supports.How early experiences volunteering at a camp for children with disabilities shaped Shannon’s career path.The realities of guardianship—why it’s required, how the process differs by state, and what parents need to know as their child approaches adulthood.The importance of estate planning and common mistakes families make when planning for their child’s future care.Why giving ourselves grace as parents matters when navigating late diagnoses and the day-to-day challenges of raising children with disabilities.This conversation offers guidance for families thinking ahead about guardianship, special needs trusts, and transition planning—while reminding us of the empathy and patience we need to grow along the way.Key Takeaways:Girls are often misdiagnosed or underdiagnosed with ADHD or autism; deeper evaluations may be needed.504 plans can make a powerful difference in school success—even without a formal ADHD or autism label.Guardianship laws vary by region but share one truth: at 18, your child is legally considered an adult. Preparing early helps avoid gaps.Estate planning is essential—avoid disinheriting your child or relying solely on siblings to manage care. Special Needs Trusts exist to protect both assets and benefits.Parents must remember to give themselves grace—we don’t miss things out of neglect, but because we are often just trying to get through the day. Connect with: Shannon Laymon-Pecorarohttps://www.facebook.com/EastCoastElderLawPLLC https://www.instagram.com/eastcoastelderlaw/ https://www.linkedin.com/company/east-coast-elder-law-pllc https://www.linkedin.com/in/shannon-laymon-pecoraro-cela-6271bb139/https://www.eastcoast-elderlaw.com Connect with me:[email protected] Music Acknowledgement: Audio Coffee - Denys KyshchukEditor: Scott ArbeauLink for book: The S.H.I.N.E. Principle: The special needs mom's path to strength, hope and happiness by Valerie Arbeauhttps://www.amazon.ca/dp/B0CW18ZXGX (Canada)https://a.co/d/03hFdZI4 (United States)Learn more about your host at:https://coachingwithvalerieanne.com/

Send us Fan MailEpisode Summary:In this episode, Valerie sits down with Dr. Molly Sullivan Denny, Director of  Daymark Living to talk about preparing young adults with intellectual and developmental disabilities (IDD) for life beyond the family home. Dr. Molly shares both practical strategies and inspiring stories, highlighting the importance of starting early, building independence step by step, and engaging a supportive team of family, friends, and professionals. Whether your child is just beginning to learn daily living skills or is closer to transitioning into their forever home, this episode will give you encouragement, ideas, and hope for the journey ahead.Dr. Molly Sullivan Denny has a BA degree with a focus in communication sciences and disorders. She has a master’s and doctoral degrees from Texas Woman’s University with a research focus on the effects of early intervention on the development of children with Down syndrome and the family dynamics of perceptions of siblings who have a child with special needs in their family. Currently she is the Director of Community Life for Daymark Living since 2015.Key Takeaways:Build a team: Involve family, friends, and even special needs attorneys or financial planners to support decision-making and long-term planning.Start early: Daily living skills take time—teaching tasks like dressing, cooking simple meals, or cleaning up should begin when children are young.Focus on independence: Break tasks into steps and allow children to practice, even when it takes longer. Skills learned early reduce reliance later.Celebrate small wins: From buckling a car seat to folding socks, every achievement matters and builds confidence.Inclusion matters: Even if a child cannot perform tasks independently, exposing them to routines (like laundry or cooking) helps them understand their world and participate in family life.Adaptive tools and therapy: Occupational therapists and adaptive equipment can make daily tasks more manageable and empowering.Think forward: Look at your child’s current day and compare it to what you want their day to look like in the future—then bridge the gap step by step.Reflection Question:What’s one small skill you can begin teaching or encouraging your child this week that will help them build independence for the future?We’d love to hear your thoughts! Share your biggest takeaways from this episode on social media or send us a message. If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe and leave a review! Your support helps us reach more families who need guidance and encouragement on this journey.Connect with Dr. Molly Sullivan Denny:[email protected]                         https://www.daymarkliving.comhttps://www.facebook.com/DaymarkLivinghttps://www.instagram.com/daymarkliving/Connect with me:[email protected] Music Acknowledgement: Audio Coffee - Denys KyshchukEditor: Scott ArbeauLink for book: The S.H.I.N.E. Principle: The special needs mom's path to strength, hope and happiness by Valerie Arbeauhttps://www.amazon.ca/dp/B0CW18ZXGX (Canada)https://a.co/d/03hFdZI4 (United States)Learn more about your host at:https://coachingwithvalerieanne.com/

Send us Fan MailIn this episode we explore what it means to parent with humility, surrender, and unconditional love while also equipping children with disabilities to live fully and independently.What happens when your child with disabilities starts dreaming about their own future? In this powerful conversation, Valerie sits down with Theresa Noye  an ordained minister and a radical self-love coach. She trains women to authentically master the life changing skills of self-love, self-acceptance, and self-compassion on a deep soul level. Theresa is also the author of Hello Autism. Today she talks about her son Regal’s dream of moving to Arizona and what it looks like to prepare him for independent living.author of Hello Autism, to talk about her son Regal’s dream of moving to Arizona and what it looks like to prepare him for independent living.Theresa shares her journey of learning to surrender control, honor her child’s voice, and embrace the process of helping him imagine a life beyond the family home. Together, they discuss the courage it takes for parents to let go of fear, the importance of equipping young adults for independence and preparing young adults for independent living.This is a conversation filled with hope, faith, and practical wisdom for parents preparing their own child’s forever home.Key TakeawaysHonoring Dreams: Supporting Regal’s vision of living in Arizona shows the importance of listening to our children’s goals for their future.From Fear to Freedom: Parents often cling to control, but real transformation happens in surrender.Equipping for Independence: Steps to help young adults with disabilities live confidently beyond the family home.Unconditional Love: Acceptance is the foundation of trust and growth.Spiritual Wisdom: Our children can be teachers if we are willing to listen.Encouragement from Theresa"A special needs child is not a life sentence. It’s actually an opportunity. There is a bigger purpose unfolding — one more beautiful than you could ever imagine. When Regal said he wanted to move to Arizona, it stretched my faith. Trust that journey."Connect with Theresa NoyeWebsite: https://www.theresanoye.com/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/theresanoye/  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@theresa_noye/featured Bedtime Stories for High Achieving WomenBook: Hello Autism: How to Love Like And Learn From Your Special Needs Child  https://www.theresanoye.com/bookFree Sacred Self Masterclass: https://theresanoye.com/sacredselfConnect with me:  [email protected] Music Acknowledgement: Audio Coffee - Denys KyshchukEditor: Scott ArbeauLink for book: The S.H.I.N.E. Principle: The special needs mom's path to strength, hope and happiness by Valerie Arbeauhttps://www.amazon.ca/dp/B0CW18ZXGX (Canada)https://a.co/d/03hFdZI4 (United States)Learn more about your host at:https://coachingwithvalerieanne.com/

Send us Fan MailABLE accounts with financial planner John Gallia Keywords:Special needs, financial planning, ABLE accounts, special needs trusts, government benefits, SSI, RDSP, financial literacy, tax benefits, early planningSummary:In this conversation, John Gallia shares his expertise on financial planning for families with special needs children. He discusses the importance of starting financial planning early, navigating government benefits like SSI, and the differences between ABLE accounts and special needs trusts. The conversation also covers the benefits of RDSPs in Canada, tax implications, and common mistakes families make in financial planning. John emphasizes the need for individualized planning and the importance of seeking professional advice to ensure a secure financial future for children with disabilities.John is a seasoned financial advisor and the founder of Gallia wealth management group, LLC, an independent financial planning practice that he established in 2015. John gained a financial planner designation in 2010. And he obtained his chartered special needs consultant designation in 2024. This specialization allows him to provide dedicated guidance to families navigating special needs planning across the US. John is the father of two boys seven and almost five and his eldest is on the spectrum. Takeaways:- John Gallia emphasizes the importance of starting financial planning early for children with special needs.- Families should navigate government benefits like SSI to secure financial support.- ABLE accounts allow for gradual contributions, making them accessible for families.- Special needs trusts are suitable for larger inheritances, while ABLE accounts are for smaller, ongoing contributions.- RDSPs in Canada provide significant government contributions and tax-deferred growth.- It's crucial to monitor account balances to avoid exceeding limits that affect benefits.- Cash distributions from accounts can complicate financial planning and should be avoided.- Quality of life for families is paramount, and outsourcing financial planning can help.- The earlier you start financial planning, the more you can benefit from compounding interest.- Families can view their journey as a blessing, despite the challenges they face.Keep building your child’s futureLive with Intention – Embrace the Journey If you found this episode helpful, please like, subscribe and leave a review! It helps other families like yours find support and guidance. Please help spread the word! Connect with John Gallia:https://galliawealthmanagement.com/https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-j-gallia-jr-cfp%C2%AE-chsnc%C2%AE-55263734/ Connect with me:  [email protected] Music Acknowledgement: Audio Coffee - Denys KyshchukEditor: Scott ArbeauLink for book: The S.H.I.N.E. Principle: The special needs mom's path to strength, hope and happiness by Valerie Arbeauhttps://www.amazon.ca/dp/B0CW18ZXGX (Canada)https://a.co/d/03hFdZI4 (United States) Learn more about your host at:https://coachingwithvalerieanne.com/

Send us Fan MailIn this conversation, Valerie and Dr. Molly Sullivan Denny discuss the journey of creating a supportive environment for individuals with special needs, focusing on independence, early intervention, and community support. Dr. Denny shares her experiences and insights from working with children and adults with disabilities, emphasizing the importance of teaching life skills and fostering a sense of belonging. The discussion highlights the challenges and successes of transitioning individuals to independent living while addressing the unique needs of each resident. This conversation explores the evolving landscape of adult living for individuals with disabilities, focusing on community support, the spectrum of disabilities, family dynamics in letting go, and the importance of finding purpose and independence in daily life. The discussion highlights the need for planning and understanding the unique needs of each individual, as well as the societal shifts towards more inclusive living environments. Dr. Molly Sullivan Denny has a Bachelor of Arts degree with a focus in communication sciences and disorders. She has also received both her master’s and doctoral degrees from Texas Woman’s University with a research focus on the effects of early intervention on the development of children with Down syndrome and the family dynamics of perceptions of siblings who have a child with special needs in their family. She worked at the RISE School of Dallas as a lead teacher and the Educational Coordinator. Currently she is the Director of Community Life for Daymark Living since 2015.Takeaways•   Watching residents learn independence is rewarding.•   Community support is vital for families.•   Independence looks different for everyone.•   Teaching life skills is essential for success.•   Transitioning to independent living requires planning. •   Societal views on disabilities have shifted from isolation to community integration.•   Peer groups are essential for social interaction and personal growth.•   Independence is fostered through daily activities and responsibilities.•   Family dynamics play a crucial role in the transition to independent living.•   Planning ahead is vital for the future of individuals with disabilities.•   Purposeful activities enhance the quality of life for residents. Join the Conversation: We’d love to hear your thoughts! Share your biggest takeaways from this episode on social media or send us a message.Subscribe & Review: If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe and leave a review! Your support helps us reach more families who need guidance and encouragement on this journey.Keep building your child’s futureLive with Intention – Embrace the Journey Connect with Molly Denny:[email protected]                         https://www.daymarkliving.com Connect with me:[email protected] Music Acknowledgement: Audio Coffee - Denys KyshchukEditor: Scott ArbeauLink for book: The S.H.I.N.E. Principle: The special needs mom's path to strength, hope and happiness by Valerie Arbeauhttps://www.amazon.ca/dp/B0CW18ZXGX (Canada)https://a.co/d/03hFdZI4 (United States)Learn more about your host at:https://coachingwithvalerieanne.com/

Send us Fan MailEpisode Summary:In this episode of ‘Forever Home for Our Kids with Disabilities’, Valerie is joined for the second time by John Gallia from Gallia Wealth Management for a powerful and practical conversation about special needs trusts - Henson Trust in Canada - and how families can begin planning NOW to secure their child’s financial future.John is a seasoned financial advisor and the founder of Gallia wealth management group, LLC, an independent financial planning practice that he established in 2015. John gained a financial planner designation in 2010. And he obtained his chartered special needs consultant designation in 2024. This specialization allows him to provide dedicated guidance to families navigating special needs planning across the US. John is the father of two boys seven and almost five and his eldest is on the spectrum.  They unpack the role of a trustee, why not just anyone should fill that position, and the key responsibilities involved. John offers insight into choosing between an individual trustee versus a corporate trustee and stresses the importance of starting early - even if it's one small step at a time. What You’ll Learn in This Episode:- What a Special Needs Trust is (Henson Trust in Canada) and why it matters- The critical role of a trustee and how to choose the right one- Key qualities to look for in a trustee: values, financial understanding, longevity, and trustworthiness- The difference between an individual trustee and a corporate trustee- Why it's important to start creating a special needs trust now - not later- Practical advice on how to get started, even when life already feels overwhelming- Encouragement and validation for families navigating life with a child with disabilities Memorable Quotes:~  “You can't just pick anybody to be your child's trustee. This is a lifelong commitment.”~  “The key is — don’t wait. Start now. Even one step forward a month will add up to peace of mind.”~  “We can't have paralysis by analysis. Take one bite at a time, and it will come together.”~  “Mental, physical, financial, and time — these are our four limited resources. Planning helps preserve them all.” Final Encouragement from John:You're not alone. Even when it feels like you're on an island, know there’s a network of families, professionals, and resources who understand and are here to help. Keep going, one step at a time. Keep building your child’s futureLive with Intention – Embrace the Journey If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe and leave a review! It helps other families like yours find support and guidance. Please help spread the word! Connect with John Gallia:https://galliawealthmanagement.com/https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-j-gallia-jr-cfp%C2%AE-chsnc%C2%AE-55263734/ Connect with me:  [email protected]  Music Acknowledgement: Audio Coffee - Denys KyshchukEditor: Scott ArbeauLink for book: The S.H.I.N.E. Principle: The special needs mom's path to strength, hope and happiness by Valerie Arbeauhttps://www.amazon.ca/dp/B0CW18ZXGX (Canada)https://a.co/d/03hFdZI4 (United States)Learn more about your host at:https://coachingwithvalerieanne.com/

Send us Fan MailEpisode Summary:In this informative episode of ‘Forever Home for Our Kids with Disabilities’, I sit down with resilience coach, accessibility advocate, and realtor Susan Janzen. Fun fact about Susan – she is the lead singer of the Trocadero Orchestra and an accomplished recording artist. Together, we explore the importance of accessible home design, community support, and sustainable living solutions for families raising children and caring for adults with disabilities. Susan shares how she came to be in the special needs world. Susan introduces us to inspiring professionals she collaborates with in her realtor role, like an Edmonton architect passionate about "visitability" and a builder creating fully accessible garage suites.Your host shares the story behind her daughter’s Forever Home — a beautifully accessible bungalow that required almost no modification. We dive into practical strategies for home design, including ramps, porch lifts, and wheelchair-friendly bathrooms.We also touch on: * The challenges of aging in place* Why so many older homes are ill-equipped for accessibility* The emotional impact of being unable to visit loved ones due to physical barriers* How thoughtful design can change lives Susan’s passion for building community shines as she shares her vision of a supportive space for caregivers and families of individuals with adaptive needs. From her daughter’s consulting group to potential retreats and virtual coffee chats, Susan is committed to helping families feel seen, supported, and empowered. Key Takeaways:* Accessibility begins at the entrance — and every detail matters* Community collaboration is essential to long-term solutions* Self-care is not optional: it’s vital for caregivers* You are not alone — and there is a growing network ready to help Connect with Susan: Website: [www.suejanzen.ca](http://www.suejanzen.ca)LinkedIn: [Susan Janzen](https://www.linkedin.com/in/susan-janzen)Facebook: [Susan Whalen Janzen](https://www.facebook.com/susanwhalenjanzen)Podcast: Living and Loving Each Day: Bridging Barriers (Available on Spotify)Janzen Consulting Group: [www.janzenconsultinggroup.com](http://www.janzenconsultinggroup.com) Final Words of Encouragement: “You are not alone. There’s no judgment here — just support, practical tips, and a community that gets it.” Keep building your child’s future Live with Intention - Embrace the Journey. If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe and leave a review! It helps other families like yours find support and guidance. Please help spread the word! Connect with me:  [email protected] Music Acknowledgement: Audio Coffee - Denys KyshchukEditor: Scott ArbeauLink for book: The S.H.I.N.E. Principle: The special needs mom's path to strength, hope and happiness by Valerie Arbeauhttps://www.amazon.ca/dp/B0CW18ZXGX (Canada)https://a.co/d/03hFdZI4 (United States)  Learn more about your host at:https://coachingwithvalerieanne.com/

Send us Fan MailEpisode Description:In this episode, we dive into the vital first steps every parent should take when thinking about a "forever home" for their child with disabilities. If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed by all the options or unsure where to start, you’re not alone. This conversation will guide you through the initial phase of envisioning your child's future from a financial perspective.  John J. Gallia, CFP®, ChSNC®, is a seasoned financial advisor and the founder of Gallia Wealth Management Group, LLC, an independent financial planning practice he established in 2015. With both a Master’s and Bachelor’s degree from Lindenwood University, John has built a strong foundation of expertise, having earned his Certified Financial Planner (CFP®) designation in 2010. Motivated by a close family connection to the special needs community, he obtained his Chartered Special Needs Consultant (ChSNC®) designation in 2024. This specialization enables him to provide dedicated guidance to families navigating special needs planning across the U.S.John has two sons, his eldest son is on the Autism spectrum. Highlights:- John’s story as a special needs dad- A brief look at trusts, government programs- How John and your host have given back to the special needs community - Easter bunny event and AAC Camp Alberta (Augmentative and Alternative Communication)- What to be mindful of when choosing a financial planner – do they have a Chartered Special Needs Consultant designation- Why starting financial planning early matters more than you might think. Whether you're just beginning to think about the future or are ready to take action, this episode will give you encouragement, insights, and a reminder that you're not walking this road alone. ANNOUNCEMENT: John will be back to share more in-depth information – watch for his episode at the end of next month!!! If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe and leave a review! It helps other families like yours find support and guidance. Help us spread the word!Connect with John Gallia:https://galliawealthmanagement.com/https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-j-gallia-jr-cfp%C2%AE-chsnc%C2%AE-55263734/ Connect with me:  [email protected] Music Acknowledgement: Audio Coffee - Denys KyshchukEditor: Scott ArbeauLink for book: The S.H.I.N.E. Principle: The special needs mom's path to strength, hope and happiness by Valerie Arbeauhttps://www.amazon.ca/dp/B0CW18ZXGX (Canada)https://a.co/d/03hFdZI4 (United States) Learn more about your host at:https://coachingwithvalerieanne.com/

Send us Fan MailNiti Prakash is a Disability Sector Consultant & Lawyer as well as disability accommodation/independent living options specialist at Disability Housing Solutions. Niti recently took on the role of Head of Engagement and Growth at Disability Housing Solutions. Niti’s most important role is a single parent to her 11-year-old daughter with multiple disabilities and challenges. Episode Description: In this insightful episode of ‘Forever Home for Our Kids with Disabilities’, Valerie sits down with Niti Prakash, an Australian advocate, parent, and expert in purpose-built housing for people with disabilities. With both professional insight and lived experience, Niti shares how families in Australia are navigating the complexities of creating forever homes through innovative housing models, like Specialist Disability Accommodation (SDA).   Whether you're just beginning to explore housing options or already knee-deep in planning, Niti offers a look at how it works in Australia. In this episode, you’ll learn:  - How Australia’s NDIS and SDA systems support individuals with disabilities in purpose-built homes - The concept of “robust housing” and how it's designed to protect both residents and carers  - What it means to be a “self-provider” and the responsibilities involved  - Real-life examples of care burnout, system challenges, and how to proactively advocate for your child - The importance of community, forgiveness, and staying strong on the caregiving journey   Key Takeaways:  - Purpose-built housing is not just about bricks and mortar — it’s about creating safety, independence, and a better quality of life.  - Parents must juggle planning for the future while managing the intense demands of the present.  - Bad things can happen, but with good design, supportive care teams, and strong advocacy, a thriving future is possible.  - You are not alone — there is a global community of parents walking this path with you.   Words of Encouragement from Niti:  “Forgive yourself. You didn’t do anything wrong. You’re supporting a child with complex needs, and that’s not easy. There’s no manual — even for neurotypical kids. But you can do it. Hold on. There’s a whole community out there walking this journey with you.” Don’t forget to:  - Share this episode with another parent who might need it  - Subscribe so you never miss an inspiring conversation  - Keep building your child’s future with courage and intention   Keep building your child’s futureLive with Intention – Embrace the Journey Connect with Niti Prakash https://www.linkedin.com/in/niti-prakash-a38aa6108/https://disabilityhousingsolutions.com.au/ Connect with me:[email protected]  Music Acknowledgement: Audio Coffee - Denys KyshchukEditor: Scott ArbeauLink for book: The S.H.I.N.E. Principle: The special needs mom's path to strength, hope and happiness by Valerie Arbeauhttps://www.amazon.ca/dp/B0CW18ZXGX (Canada)https://a.co/d/03hFdZI4 (United States)   Learn more about your host at:https://coachingwithvalerieanne.com/

Send us Fan MailThis week's guest is Angela O’Brien a mom of 2, professional organizer, Enneagram coach, and host of the podcast, Especially Organized: Sensible Solutions for Special Needs Moms. After spending 18 years raising her kids and advocating for her daughter who has Down Syndrome, Angela took her love of home organizing and turned it into a business where she speaks to and coaches fellow special needs moms through their clutter so that they can reclaim the space, freedom, and energy to do what they love. She especially enjoys speaking to them weekly through her podcast, providing tips, resources, and encouragement along the way.  Angela lives in Dallas, TX with her husband and daughter and is constantly trying to find her way to a beachEpisode Summary: In this episode of Forever Home for Our Kids with Disabilities, we explore the emotional and practical journey of planning a forever home for your child with disabilities. Many parents feel overwhelmed by the thought of their child’s future, especially when considering where they will live and who will care for them. Today, we discuss the fears, challenges, and the transformative mindset shift that can turn uncertainty into hope.What You’ll Learn in This Episode:The common fears parents face when thinking about their child’s long-term housing and care.The importance of taking the first step, even when it feels overwhelming.How to shift from a fear-based mindset to one of hope and proactive planning.Practical strategies for creating a roadmap for your child’s forever home.Real-life examples of families who have taken steps toward securing a bright future for their child.Key Takeaways:It’s okay to feel scared, but don’t let fear paralyze you. Taking even small steps toward planning can bring peace of mind.Your child’s forever home can be a place where they thrive, not just survive.Building a supportive community and seeking expert guidance can make the process less daunting.You are not alone—other families have walked this path, and their stories can inspire you to take action.Join the Conversation: We’d love to hear your thoughts! Share your biggest takeaways from this episode on social media or send us a message.Subscribe & Review: If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe and leave a review! Your support helps us reach more families who need guidance and encouragement on this journey.Keep building your child’s futureLive with Intention – Embrace the JourneyConnect with Angela:Website: https://yourspacereclaimed.net/Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/yourspacereclaimed/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourspacereclaimedConnect with me:[email protected] Music Acknowledgement: Audio Coffee - Denys KyshchukEditor: Scott ArbeauLink for book: The S.H.I.N.E. Principle: The special needs mom's path to strength, hope and happiness by Valerie Arbeauhttps://www.amazon.ca/dp/B0CW18ZXGX (Canada)https://a.co/d/03hFdZI4 (United States)Learn more about your host at:https://coachingwithvalerieanne.com/

Send us Fan MailWelcome to Forever Home for Our Kids with Disabilities! I’m Valerie, a mom, life coach, and author passionate about helping parents create secure futures for their children with disabilities.Key Topics:1.        Understanding Your Child’s NeedsConduct a needs assessment covering physical, emotional, and social needs.Maintain a Comprehensive Child Profile to ensure consistent care.Visualize their future in 5, 10, and 20 years.2.        Financial PlanningBudget for daily expenses, home modifications, and long-term care.Leverage government benefits (SSI, Medicaid, AISH, PDD, RDSP).Secure private funding (trusts, grants, ABLE accounts).Protect your family with life, health, and disability insurance.Financial Vision Statement Example:“Our goal is to build a secure financial foundation for [child’s name]’s lifelong care and opportunities.”3.        Legal ConsiderationsSet up a Special Needs Trust (US) / Henson Trust (Canada) to maintain benefits.Identify key legal roles: Trustee, Financial & Healthcare POA, Guardianship.Real-Life Housing Models: Our ExperienceEden House (Supported Living Arrangement): Family-owned, personalized support, community integration.Legal Suite Model: Independent living with oversight, future rental income potential.Take Action & Dream Big!Envision your ideal future for your child—what would it look like without barriers?Quote: “The best way to predict the future is to invent it.” ~ Alan KaySubscribe & Connect:Follow the podcast for more insights.Contact me at [email protected] Keep building your child’s futureLive with Intention – Embrace the JourneyTranscript available.Connect with me:Valerie's Contact Links:Music Acknowledgement: Audio Coffee - Denys KyshchukEditor: Scott ArbeauLink for book: The S.H.I.N.E. Principle: The special needs mom's path to strength, hope and happiness by Valerie Arbeauhttps://www.amazon.ca/dp/B0CW18ZXGX (Canada)https://a.co/d/03hFdZI4 (United States)Learn more about your host at:https://coachingwithvalerieanne.com/

Send us Fan MailEpisode Summary: In this first episode of Forever Home for our kids with disabilities, we explore various options for creating a forever home for children with disabilities. I speak with two moms who have taken different approaches to ensure their children have a secure and supportive living environment. We hear from Cheryll  Wagner about apartment living with support; Dr. Lisa Campbell on choosing a residential facility for her daughter; and I share the solutions my husband and I created for our two children.Key Takeaways:1.  Cheryll Wagner’s Story – Apartment Living with Support: (skip back to episode 41 for full episode) - Cheryll has two sons with disabilities who live in an apartment with support services.- She highlights the importance of fostering independence while ensuring they have the assistance they need.- This option works well for individuals who can manage some aspects of daily life but still require structured support.2.   Dr. Lisa Campbell’s Journey – Choosing a Residential Facility: (skip back to episode 42 for full episode) - Dr. Campbell shares her emotional journey of placing her daughter Jasmine in a residential facility.- She discusses the cultural and personal challenges she faced in making this decision.- Despite the difficulty, she found that this choice allowed both her and her daughter to grow and thrive.- Over time, Jasmine moved between different facilities that best suited her needs, ultimately thriving in an environment where she could make choices and live on her terms.3.  My Personal Experience – Two Unique Housing Solutions:- My husband and I made the decision to transition our oldest daughter, Melody-Anne, into a supported living environment within our own home.- We moved out and had two other young women with disabilities join her, while an agency provided 24-hour care.- This choice allowed Melody-Anne to remain in a familiar setting while gaining independence and developing essential social skills.- For our youngest child, we created a separate legal basement suite with the goal of fostering gradual independence.- While they are not yet ready to move in, we remain hopeful that, with time and support, they will gain the necessary skills to transition successfully.Final Thoughts: This episode highlights that there is no one-size-fits-all solution when it comes to housing for children with disabilities. Each family must consider their unique circumstances, cultural expectations, and what will best support their child’s growth and well-being.If you found this episode helpful, please share it with other parents, caregivers, or family members who could benefit from these insights. And, if you're ready to start planning your child's forever home but aren't sure where to begin, I invite you to connect with me—I’d love to brainstorm with you!Stay Connected:·  Sign up for my monthly newsletter for insights and guidance on planning a forever home for your child. Email me at hello.hellocoachingwithvalerieanne.com.·  Follow the podcast for more inspiring stories and practical advice.Until next time - Live with Intention - Embrace the Journey!Learn more about your host at:https://coachingwithvalerieanne.com/

Send us Fan MailEpisode Summary:In this episode, I sit down with K. Crystal Griffith to discuss the importance of giving our children the opportunity to grow, learn, and develop independence—especially when raising kids with disabilities. We dive into the fears many parents face, the importance of allowing our kids to fail as a stepping stone to success, and how to navigate the delicate balance of supporting them without overstepping. Crystal shares her personal experiences, valuable resources, and words of encouragement for parents walking this journey.Key Takeaways:The Power of Hope: As parents, we need hope, and so do our children. Believing in their abilities and potential is crucial for their growth.Letting Them Learn: It’s natural to want to protect our kids from failure, but allowing them to stumble helps them build resilience and confidence.The Gift of Failure: Inspired by the book The Gift of Failure, we discuss why failure isn’t something to fear but a necessary part of the learning process.Encouraging Independence: Finding the balance between guidance and letting them make their own choices is key to fostering self-advocacy.Parental Growth: Our children often absorb more than we realize—even when they push back against our coaching or advice.Finding Joy in the Journey: Parenting a child with disabilities comes with unique challenges, but it also brings moments of joy and deep connection that many parents don’t experience.Guest Information:Crystal Griffith is a passionate advocate for parents raising children with disabilities. She provides community, support, and resources through her work with Medical Mom Warriors. Connect with Crystal: https://linktr.ee/kcrystalgriffith.comResources Mentioned:The Gift of Failure by Jessica LaheyCrystal’s membership community for parents seeking advocacy and supportFinal Words of Encouragement:Crystal reminds us to hold onto hope, embrace the unexpected moments, and find joy even in difficult situations.Free Gift from Crystal - A printable Acrostic is available that corresponds to her Chapter Seasonal Purpose in the Women of Purpose Book.https://linktr.ee/kcrystalgriffith.com Live with Intention and Embrace the Journey! Connect with me:Valerie's Links: https://bit.ly/3RL0da2Music Acknowledgement: Audio Coffee - Denys KyshchukEditor: Scott ArbeauLink for book: The S.H.I.N.E. Principle: The special needs mom's path to strength, hope and happiness by Valerie Arbeauhttps://www.amazon.ca/dp/B0CW18ZXGX (Canada)https://a.co/d/03hFdZI4 (United States) Learn more about your host at:https://coachingwithvalerieanne.com/

Send us Fan MailEpisode Highlights:New Focus for 2025:Valerie announces the podcast’s transition from sharing stories to offering practical, step-by-step guidance for forever home planning.The mission remains the same: empowering and supporting parents of children with disabilities.Why This Change?Many parents feel overwhelmed by the legal, financial, and emotional aspects of planning for their child’s future.Valerie’s expertise and lived experience uniquely position her to offer structured solutions.The podcast aims to provide a supportive space with actionable steps, ensuring families feel less isolated in the process.Key Topics in Forever Home Planning:Legal Considerations: Navigating guardianship, Power of Attorney, Henson Trusts (Canada), and Special Needs Trusts (U.S.).Financial Planning: Exploring funding options such as RDSPs, grants, and personal investments.Housing Options: Evaluating independent living, supported housing, and cooperative housing models.Building a Circle of Care: Establishing a network of professionals, family, and community members to support your child.Emotional Readiness: Addressing guilt, anxiety, and uncertainty while embracing self-care and planning a fulfilling life beyond caregiving.Real-Life Success Stories:A couple who secured a forever home for their son, allowing them to retire and travel with peace of mind.A newly married couple who found a supported living arrangement that enabled them to strengthen their relationship while ensuring their child’s well-being.Parents who successfully relocated for work, knowing their child was securely cared for in a stable living arrangement.What’s Ahead for the Podcast?Step-by-step guidance on developing a forever home plan.Conversations with financial planners, housing specialists, and disability advocates.Personal stories from families at various stages of creating their child’s forever home.Strategies for overcoming logistical and emotional challenges in the transition process.How to Get Involved:Share your thoughts on the podcast’s new direction.Submit questions or topics you’d like to hear covered.Text Valerie through the podcast host platform to join her monthly newsletter for key insights on forever home planning.Save the Date!The next chapter of Special Needs Mom's Circle of Strength launches on March 5th with fresh content and a renewed focus.Live with Intention – Embrace the Journey. Connect with me:Valerie's Links: https://bit.ly/3RL0da2Music Acknowledgement: Audio Coffee - Denys KyshchukEditor: Scott ArbeauLink for book: The S.H.I.N.E. Principle: The special needs mom's path to strength, hope and happiness by Valerie Arbeauhttps://www.amazon.ca/dp/B0CW18ZXGX (Canada)https://a.co/d/03hFdZI4 (United States)Learn more about your host at:https://coachingwithvalerieanne.com/

Send us Fan MailAaron DeVries is a relentless advocate for building stronger communities through inclusion. Aaron's journey into the world of disability and special education began when his daughter was diagnosed with epilepsy and cerebral palsy at a young age. For over 15 years, he has fearlessly championed his daughter's inclusion in school and community. Aaron has actively served on boards and committees of disability-related organizations. Aaron’s TEDx talks, "The Power of Inclusion” and “Unlocking Inclusion for People With Disabilities,” have been opportunities for him to passionately share his insights and experiences.  Episode Summary: Coach Valerie sits down with Aaron, The Inclusive Dad, to discuss his journey parenting a child with disabilities and advocating for inclusion. Aaron shares practical tips, encouragement, and the importance of self-care, offering inspiration for parents navigating similar paths.What You’ll Learn:Aaron’s story and mission behind The Inclusive Dad.Why inclusion matters and how to promote it.Practical advice for advocating for your child.The importance of self-care for parents.Finding joy in small but meaningful moments.Episode Highlights:Aaron’s Journey:Aaron’s experiences as a dad led him to create The Inclusive Dad, a platform advocating for acceptance and understanding.His focus: promoting inclusion and building a supportive community.Parenting Wisdom:Trust your instincts—you are your child’s best advocate.Tips for navigating IEPs and aligning them with your child’s unique goals.Celebrate joyful moments that provide strength and hope.Self-Care Matters:Aaron emphasizes taking breaks to recharge and avoid burnout.Simple micro-breaks, like a walk or listening to music, can make a big difference.Valerie and Aaron highlight the need to prioritize self-care daily.Words of Encouragement:Trust yourself and focus on your child’s needs.Find strength in joyful moments.Take care of yourself to better care for your family.Connect with Aaron:Website: theinclusivedad.com for links to his podcast, social media, and resources.Closing Thoughts:  Even in tough times, moments of joy and hope are always within reach.Call to Action: Take five minutes for yourself today. Whether it’s a walk, dancing, or quiet reflection, self-care is essential. Live with Intention and Embrace the Journey! Connect with me:Valerie's Links: https://bit.ly/3RL0da2Music Acknowledgement: Audio Coffee - Denys KyshchukEditor: Scott ArbeauLink for book: The S.H.I.N.E. Principle: The special needs mom's path to strength, hope and happiness by Valerie Arbeauhttps://www.amazon.ca/dp/B0CW18ZXGX (Canada)https://a.co/d/03hFdZI4 (United States)Learn more about your host at:https://coachingwithvalerieanne.com/

Send us Fan MailBuilding Routines for Stability and Success in 2025Episode Summary:Welcome to the first episode of 2025! Get ready to shape your day with intention and embrace the power of small, consistent habits!What You’ll Learn:- Why Routines Matter:How routines help us move from a reactive to a proactive mindset.The mental health benefits of consistent habits, backed by research from Harvard and insights from the book Willpower: Rediscovering the Greatest Human Strength.- Crafting a Proactive Morning Routine:Key elements to include, such as:Guarding your first moments of the day.Movement, reflection, gratitude, and planning.Incorporating breathing exercises, hydration, affirmations, and intention setting.Practical examples like the SNAP framework (Stop, Notice, Assess, Pivot) and the importance of documenting daily wins.- Creating an Evening Routine:Tips for winding down, reflecting on the day, and preparing for tomorrow.Strategies like habit stacking (from Atomic Habits by James Clear) and reducing mental clutter before bedtime.- Personal Reflections and Stories:How my morning routine helped shift my mood and perspective after a frustrating moment.Practical steps I take to balance being a planner while maintaining calm before bed.- Practical Tips for Success:Start small and focus on one or two new habits at a time.Stay flexible and adjust routines as life evolves.Seek accountability by sharing your routine goals with someone you trust.Key Takeaways:Routines are the rails that keep your train on track, ensuring you move toward your goals with stability and focus.Start your day proactively and end it with intentional reflection to set yourself up for success.Flexibility is essential - routines should serve you, not stress you out!Celebrate small wins and focus on one new habit to implement this week.Your Challenge for the Week:Choose one new routine element to try this week. Pick one and give it a go!Live with Intention. Embrace the Journey.Let’s Connect: Valerie's Links: https://bit.ly/3RL0da2I’d love to hear about your routines! Music Acknowledgement: Audio Coffee - Denys KyshchukEditor: Scott ArbeauLink for book: The S.H.I.N.E. Principle: The special needs mom's path to strength, hope and happiness by Valerie Arbeauhttps://www.amazon.ca/dp/B0CW18ZXGX (Canada)https://a.co/d/03hFdZI4 (United States)Here's a community for special needs moms to share, uplift and learn from each other...https://www.facebook.com/groups/specialneedsmomscircleofstrengthLearn more about your host at:https://coachingwithvalerieanne.com/Learn more about your host at:https://coachingwithvalerieanne.com/

Send us Fan MailHey there,Quick announcement to say we are now publishing two episodes a month.See you January 8th 2025!Best wishes for 2025 and may you experience good health, more love, peace and joy! Live with Intention - Embrace the JourneyLearn more about your host at:https://coachingwithvalerieanne.com/

Send us Fan MailJoin me, Coach Valerie, in this special Christmas episode of Special Needs Mom’s Circle of Strengthas I share insights on how reflection helps families celebrate both the small victories and significant milestones, fosters resilience, and strengthens emotional bonds. I’ll also share my family’s unique Christmas traditions, how we will incorporate reflection into our celebrations, and simple ways you can make reflection part of your holiday season as you pause, appreciate the journey, and create meaningful traditions.Reflection isn’t just about looking back—it’s about finding balance, cultivating gratitude, and setting intentions for the future.What You’ll Learn in This Episode:How reflecting on small and big moments creates balance and perspective.Why celebrating progress—no matter how small—builds resilience and pride.Ways reflection strengthens family bonds and fosters emotional connection.Practical ideas for incorporating reflection into your family’s holiday traditions.How to use reflection to set intentions for a hopeful and purposeful new year.Ideas to Try with Your Family:Holiday Journals: Create a journal to document favorite memories through writing or drawing.Memory Jars: Write down memorable moments throughout the year and revisit them together.Group Conversations: Share reflections or special memories during a meal or bedtime.Photo Reflections: Review photos from the year and reminisce about the moments they capture.Creative Keepsakes: Turn favorite photos into scrapbooks or slideshows to treasure as a family.Key Takeaways:Reflection helps families acknowledge growth, celebrate accomplishments, and build gratitude.Sharing reflections fosters deeper connections and creates meaningful traditions.Small moments of joy, kindness, and connection are just as important as major milestones.Looking back helps families find hope, strength, and purpose as they move forward.Closing Message:As we wrap up this year and look ahead to 2025, remember that reflection is a gift. It’s not about perfection but about recognizing the love, effort, and dedication that shape your family’s journey.Take time to celebrate the little wins, cherish the memories, and carry these moments with you into the new year. Thank you for joining me today. Wishing you a peaceful, reflective holiday season and a New Year filled with growth, hope, and love.And as always, Live with Intention – Embrace the Journey.Connect with me:Valerie's Links: https://bit.ly/3RL0da2Music Acknowledgement: Audio Coffee - Denys KyshchukEditor: Scott ArbeauLink for book: The S.H.I.N.E. Principle: The special needs mom's path to strength, hope and happiness by Valerie Arbeauhttps://www.amazon.ca/dp/B0CW18ZXGX (Canada)Here's a community for special needs moms to share, uplift and learn from each other...https://www.facebook.com/groups/specialneedsmomscircleofstrengthLearn more about your host at:https://coachingwithvalerieanne.com/Learn more about your host at:https://coachingwithvalerieanne.com/

Send us Fan MailThe holiday season can bring excitement, chaos, and unique challenges—especially for families of children with disabilities. In today’s episode, I share encouragement and practical strategies to help you create a meaningful, imperfectly perfect holiday season. From using visual schedules and social stories to reducing sensory overload and handling those well-meaning (but unsolicited) comments, this episode is packed with tips to help you navigate the holidays with grace and joy.You’ll also hear real-life examples from our community and empowering responses for those tricky moments with friends or family. Whether it’s simplifying traditions, focusing on connection, or celebrating small wins, this episode reminds you: You are enough. Your family’s version of the holidays is beautiful and worthy, just as it is.What You’ll Learn in This Episode:How to use visual schedules and social stories to create predictability and reduce anxiety.Ways to adapt holiday traditions to avoid sensory overload and foster inclusion.Benefits of embracing imperfection and prioritizing connection over perfection.Real-life tips from moms like Rhonda Moss, Melissa Shatney-Foran, Lisa Tschudi, and Rebecca Finch-Vitsmun.Empowering responses to handle common (and sometimes judgmental) holiday comments.A glimpse into Mary Ann Hughes’ “25 Days of Holiday Tips”.How to prepare family and friends for your child’s needs and set boundaries with confidence.Resources Mentioned:Mary Ann Hughes’ 25 Days of Holiday Tips -https://bit.ly/SFTholidaytipvideos PDF of empowering strategies for handling holiday comments—message me with the word “advice” to get your copy! Key Takeaways:Let go of perfection. The magic lies in the small, imperfect moments of connection and joy.Simplify and adapt. Prioritize what works best for your family and leave behind what doesn’t.Advocate with confidence. Respond with grace and empowerment when navigating tricky holiday conversations.Focus on connection. Sometimes the simplest traditions—like reading a book or watching a movie together—make the biggest impact.If this episode encouraged you, share it with a fellow mom who could use a little extra support this holiday season. Let’s spread love, hope, grace, and connection.The holidays don’t have to be perfect to be beautiful. Give yourself permission to let go, embrace the joy in the chaos, and create moments that truly matter for your family. You’ve got this!Wishing you a peaceful, love-filled holiday season. Live with intention and embrace the journey. Connect with me:Valerie's Links: https://bit.ly/3RL0da2Music Acknowledgement: Audio Coffee - Denys KyshchukEditor: Scott ArbeauLink for book: The S.H.I.N.E. Principle: The special needs mom's path to strength, hope and happiness by Valerie Arbeauhttps://www.amazon.ca/dp/B0CW18ZXGX (Canada)https://a.co/d/03hFdZI4 (United States)Learn more about your host at:https://coachingwithvalerieanne.com/

Send us Fan MailSpecial guest Jorunn Liland joins us to share her expertise on how strengthening your vagus nerve can transform how you navigate stress, create calm, and find balance in your day-to-day life.Jorunn is an occupational therapist who specializes in stress management and polyvagal theory, with a focus on complex PTSD survivors. Jorunn runs a yoga group designed to help people regulate their nervous systems, particularly those dealing with trauma.Jorunn has a son who is profoundly deaf and lives with her family and their two dogs in Norway.You can hear more about Jorunn in episode number 30. Through micro-mindful moments, self-expression, and simple daily practices, June guides us on how to bring peace into our homes and our lives. You’ll learn about the science behind the vagus nerve, why it’s crucial for our mental and physical health, and how easy, actionable steps can make a big difference.What You’ll Learn in This Episode:- Why the vagus nerve is your body’s “calming superhighway” and how it impacts everything from digestion to stress response.- The power of simple practices like the 4-4-4 breathing exercise to reset your nervous system in just 60 seconds.- How "kitchen sink mindfulness" can turn everyday chores into moments of calm and grounding.- The importance of self-expression for emotional well-being and how to make it a non-negotiable part of your daily routine.- A gentle 5-minute guided body scan meditation to leave you feeling recharged and at peace.Key Takeaways:- Micro-Mindful Practices: Regulating your nervous system doesn’t require hours of meditation. Find moments throughout your day to breathe, hum, or practice mindfulness.- The Ripple Effect: When you calm yourself, you’re setting a powerful example for your children and those around you.- Make Self-Expression a Habit: From journaling to dance, even five minutes of creativity can help you process emotions and reconnect with joy.Try This Today:Practice the 4-4-4 breathing exercise: Transform a routine task into a mindful moment. .Dedicate five minutes to self-expression. Free Resource: Strengthening Your Nervous System Handout - https://stan.store/JorunnConnect with Jorunn:https://www.tiktok.com/@jo.mindful.mentorhttps://www.instagram.com/jorunnliland/Thank You for Listening!Don’t forget to share this episode with a fellow mom who might benefit from these tools. And if you enjoyed this conversation, leave us a review—it helps us reach more moms like you!Live with Intention - Embrace the Journey. Connect with me:Valerie's Links: https://bit.ly/3RL0da2Music Acknowledgement: Audio Coffee - Denys KyshchukEditor: Scott ArbeauLink for book: The S.H.I.N.E. Principle: The special needs mom's path to strength, hope and happiness by Valerie Arbeauhttps://www.amazon.ca/dp/B0CW18ZXGX (Canada)https://a.co/d/03hFdZI4 (United States)Learn more about your host at:https://coachingwithvalerieanne.com/

Send us Fan MailDescription:The holidays can be a season of joy, but for parents of children with disabilities, they can also bring unique challenges. In this episode, we explore how to navigate the holiday season with peace, intention, and resilience. Through actionable tips and heartfelt insights, you’ll discover how to focus on what truly matters while minimizing stress.We’ll also dive into the PEACE framework—a simple, five-step guide to cultivating a more peaceful and fulfilling journey, even when life feels overwhelming.What You'll Learn in This Episode:Practical strategies for simplifying the holidays with meaningful traditions.Tips for integrating peaceful practices into your daily routine, like journaling, mindfulness, and gratitude.How to identify and address common disruptors of peace, such as unpredictable schedules, emotional overwhelm, and financial stress.The power of the PEACE framework:P: Presence – How to embrace the moment and connect with your child and yourself.E: Empathy – Fostering compassion for yourself and others.A: Adaptability – Cultivating flexibility to manage challenges gracefully.C: Calmness – Creating a serene environment and practicing mindfulness.E: Empowerment – Equipping yourself with knowledge, support networks, and self-care strategies.Key Takeaways:Simplify the season by focusing on what’s meaningful to you and your family.Incorporate small daily habits, like gratitude journaling and mindful walks, to create moments of calm.Recognize the disruptors of peace and learn strategies to restore balance.Use the PEACE acronym as a guiding reminder to navigate challenges with grace.Quotable Moments:“Peace is not an absence of conflict; it is the ability to handle conflict by peaceful means.” ~ Ronald Reagan“Being fully present with my child is one thing, but being present with myself is a journey I’m still learning.” ~ Valerie ArbeauResources Mentioned:[Episode 54: Emotional Waves – Do You Experience Them?]Tips for financial planning, including working with a special needs-experienced financial advisor.Online forums and local support groups for connecting with fellow parents.Final Thoughts:This holiday season, take a moment to reflect on how you can embrace PEACE in your life. Whether it’s by being present, setting boundaries, or cultivating support networks, remember—you’re not alone in this journey.Share this episode with a fellow parent who could use more peace in their life. Let’s spread the gift of peace this holiday season!Live with Intention - Embrace the Journey.Connect with me:Valerie's Links: https://bit.ly/3RL0da2Music Acknowledgement: Audio Coffee - Denys KyshchukEditor: Scott ArbeauLink for book: The S.H.I.N.E. Principle: The special needs mom's path to strength, hope and happiness by Valerie Arbeauhttps://www.amazon.ca/dp/B0CW18ZXGX (Canada)https://a.co/d/03hFdZI4 (United States)Learn more about your host at:https://coachingwithvalerieanne.com/

Send us Fan MailWelcome to another episode of Special Needs Moms Circle of Strength!Episode Description:Welcome back to Special Needs Mom's Circle of Strength! In this episode, Valerie sits down with Meredith Rusu, a talented author of over 100 children's books, including the award-winning Mighty Moods series. Meredith shares her journey as a mother of two and how navigating her children’s big feelings inspired her to create stories that resonate with kids and parents alike. From her unique dual role as a licensed and original content author to the heartwarming backstory of her picture books, There's a Yeti in My Tummy and There's a Robot in My Socks, Meredith offers valuable insights on building a "circle of strength" for every child.Together, Valerie and Meredith explore: -The importance of building a “village” to support children and parents alike-How moods—big and small—impact kids (and adults!) and are a universal parenting challenge-The inspiration behind Meredith’s Mighty Moods picture book series and its vibrant illustrations by Martin Moran who’s joyful artwork brings her stories to life.-Using stories to foster connection and understanding-The value of grandparents and community in a child’s emotional growth-Finding joy in the chaos of parenting Whether you’re parenting neurotypical kids, children with developmental delays, or navigating your own moods, this episode is filled with laughter, relatability, and practical takeaways. Meredith Rusu lives in New Jersey with her husband and two young sons. She is the author of more than one hundred children’s books, notably There’s a Yeti in my Tummy and There’s a Robot in My Socks, the first two picture books in her award-winning Mighty Moods series. She has also written for many popular licenses including LEGO, Disney/Pixar, Bluey, and Star Wars.Connect with Meredith:https://meredithrusu.com https://www.instagram.com/meredithrusuwrites/ Link for book: https://a.co/d/ijaa4KG  (US)https://a.co/d/3aTCuK2 (Canada) Live with Intention - Embrace the Journey. Connect with me:Valerie's Links: https://bit.ly/3RL0da2Music Acknowledgement: Audio Coffee - Denys KyshchukEditor: Scott ArbeauLink for book: The S.H.I.N.E. Principle: The special needs mom's path to strength, hope and happiness by Valerie Arbeauhttps://www.amazon.ca/dp/B0CW18ZXGX (Canada)https://a.co/d/03hFdZI4 (United States)Learn more about your host at:https://coachingwithvalerieanne.com/

Send us Fan MailDr. Marcia Nathai-Balkissoon is a special needs parenting speaker and coach who works to prevent special needs parents from feeling isolated and overwhelmed to the point where they lose touch with joy and fulfillment in their lives. She and her husband of 15 years have an older teen boy and preteen, bedridden girl whom Marcia considers her best teacher.Transforming Past Narratives:- Marcia delves into childhood memories and the perceptions that shaped her drive for approval and perfectionism.- Marcia now redefines these experiences with compassion, recognizing the need for validation and the freedom from it.- The journey of healing childhood wounds by becoming her own source of love and support.Overcoming the Inner Critic:- Confronting and redefining the role of the inner critic, turning harsh judgment into a source of protection and motivation.- Developing an inner dialogue of self-compassion and recognizing the transformative power of self-kindness.Discovering Self-Compassion:- The process of being gentle with oneself, breaking cycles of self-criticism, and learning to extend the same compassion inward that we offer to others.- How changing self-talk is a daily practice and a powerful tool for self-empowerment.Living with Authenticity and Empowerment:- The importance of being vulnerable in one’s journey to connect with others and find support.- Unburdening oneself of expectations and societal pressures to find inner peace and growth.Prioritizing Self-Care as a Caregiver:- The necessity of self-care for parents of special needs children.- Strategies for finding small moments of peace and self-replenishment in the midst of life’s chaos.“Adult me loves you, little Marsh. So you have a safe person always.” – MarciaConnect with Dr. Marcia Nathai-Balkissoon:- Special Needs Parent Podcast here: https://open.spotify.com/show/0wvHlIgcZc5T5sZRp3iFLK?si=dPckr6BuRUeVxGPLU3WRQw - Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/3dgabxN8vTEYAM9u/?mibextid=K35XfP - FB profile: https://www.facebook.com/MarciaNB8 - IG profile: https://www.instagram.com/specialneedsparentjourney?igsh=MjM4ZHlzNjNwcThx&utm_source=qr Gift: A free Level Up and Thrive coaching call with Marcia, tailored to support special needs parents. Interested persons should message Marcia. Marcia’s book, 'Lighting the Path'Get your copy here: https://books2read.com/lightingthepathLive with Intention and Embrace the Journey! Connect with me: Valerie's Links: https://bit.ly/3RL0da2Music Acknowledgement: Audio Coffee - Denys KyshchukEditor: Scott ArbeauLink for book: The S.H.I.N.E. Principle: The special needs mom's path to strength, hope and happiness by Valerie Arbeauhttps://www.amazon.ca/dp/B0CW18ZXGX (Canada)https://a.co/d/03hFdZI4 (United States)Learn more about your host at:https://coachingwithvalerieanne.com/

Send us Fan MailEpisode Summary:Valerie is joined by Kari A. Baker, a dedicated advocate for families raising neurodivergent children. Kari is former financial services executive and business owner turned author, speaker, and podcaster. She is the founder of KIND Families, a community of people who love Kids with Invisible Neurological Differences and is the host of The KIND Families Podcast. Kari became a KIND mom in 2014 when her son Brady was diagnosed with autism at age three. She started KIND Families to encourage, support, and inspire others to find God’s purpose and promise in KIND-ness. Her first print book Finding KIND, released on October 22nd 2024. Key Points Covered:Navigating Career Options for Neurodivergent Teens:Kari shares how she and her family explored career paths for her child with ADHD and autism, ultimately focusing on a potential future as an ultrasound tech. She emphasizes how the right environment can empower neurodivergent individuals and foster independence.The Writing Journey and Motivation Behind the Book:Kari discusses what inspired her to write her book, recounting her early struggles in finding relatable stories when her son was diagnosed. The journey transformed over time, shifting focus from hardship to embracing and celebrating her child’s strengths and achievements. Kari highlights how her faith and growth as a mother shaped the book’s uplifting message.Shifting from Pain to Purpose:Reflecting on the impact of being Brady’s mom, Kari describes how she evolved from focusing on challenges to finding purpose in their shared journey. Her book encourages families to see their children’s potential and recognize that every child is born with unique gifts meant to impact others positively.Building and Finding Community:Kari and Valerie underscore the importance of finding community as a parent raising a child with special needs. Sharing experiences with others who understand can be a source of comfort, strength, and connection. Kari offers practical suggestions for seeking out support groups and emphasizes that no parent has to go through this journey alone.Memorable Quotes:“What I thought was holding me back was leading me to a new purpose.” – Kari A. Baker“Your child was made exactly the way he or she is supposed to be made, and you were made to be their mom or dad.” – Kari A. Baker“Embrace the journey, because this is a marathon, not a sprint.” – Coach ValerieLink to Kari’s website to pick up your preview of the bookhttps://kindfamilies.com/#8371f6f9-af3f-4d01-8a04-72b28b4bbe66Connect with KariIG - @kariabaker & @kindfamilies, FB & LinkedIn: @kariabaker  Live with Intention - Embrace the Journey. Connect with me:Valerie's Links: https://bit.ly/3RL0da2Music Acknowledgement: Audio Coffee - Denys KyshchukEditor: Scott ArbeauLink for book: The S.H.I.N.E. Principle: The special needs mom's path to strength, hope and happiness by Valerie Arbeauhttps://www.amazon.ca/dp/B0CW18ZXGX (Canada)https://a.co/d/03hFdZI4 (United States) Learn more about your host at:https://coachingwithvalerieanne.com/

Send us Fan MailThis episode is packed with practical tools like the 4-7-8 breathing technique, ‘affect labeling,’ and self-compassion practices—all designed to help listeners respond thoughtfully to life's emotional waves rather than being swept away by them.Key Points Discussed:Awareness as the First Step:Recognizing and identifying emotions as they arise is the foundation of emotional regulation. Many people tend to push through tough emotions until they reach a point of overwhelm. Valerie encourages caregivers to increase emotional awareness in the moment.Understanding Emotions and Emotional Waves:Valerie breaks down various emotions—happiness, sadness, anger, fear, surprise, and disgust—and how they impact both mind and body. Emotions are natural responses, while emotional waves are the ebb and flow of these feelings, often intensified for caregivers.The Power of Pause with a Real-Life Story:Valerie shares a personal story about a stressful morning where frustration began to build. By using a quick breathing technique, she was able to pause and regain her focus, showing how small actions can create space to respond calmly.Emotional Regulation Strategies:Breathing Techniques: Valerie demonstrates the 4-7-8 breathing exercise, a technique that calms the nervous system by slowing down heart rate and increasing oxygen flow.Affect Labeling: Simply naming emotions (e.g., "I’m feeling overwhelmed") can reduce their intensity.Mindfulness and Reappraisal: Practicing present-moment awareness and reframing situations can ease tension, even in challenging caregiving moments.Building a Support System: Valerie reminds listeners that seeking support from friends, family, or a therapist can be invaluable for emotional regulation.Quotes and Mantras for Reflection:“You don’t have to control your emotions. You just have to stop letting them control you.” — Unknown“Breathe, let go, and remind yourself that this very moment is the only one you know you have for sure.” — Oprah Winfrey“Self-care is giving the world the best of you instead of what’s left.” — Katie ReedA simple mantra for caregivers: “I am here. I am enough. I am capable. "Almost everything will work again if you unplug it for a few minutes, including you." — Anne LamottSelf-Compassion for Resilience:Research by Dr. Kristin Neff supports the power of self-compassion in managing stress. Valerie encourages listeners to embrace their best efforts and trust that it is enough.Listener Call-to-Action: If this episode resonated with you, reach out to Coach Valerie on social media (@ValerieArbeau) or via the Buzzsprout platform. Share this episode with someone who could benefit from learning these emotional regulation tools.Live with Intention - Embrace the Journey.Connect with me:Valerie's Links: https://bit.ly/3RL0da2Music Acknowledgement: Audio Coffee - Denys KyshchukEditor: Scott ArbeauLink for book: The S.H.I.N.E. Principle: The special needs mom's path to strength, hope and happiness by Valerie Arbeauhttps://www.amazon.ca/dp/B0CW18ZXGX (Canada)https://a.co/d/03hFdZI4 (United States)Learn more about your host at:https://coachingwithvalerieanne.com/

Send us Fan MailIn this episode, Valerie interviews travel expert and special needs mom, Jenifer Breaux, who shares her insights on creating memorable, inclusive family travel experiences for children with neurodiverse needs. Jenifer provides valuable tips on planning vacations, selecting activities, and choosing accommodations to make travel more enjoyable and accessible for everyone.Jenifer Breaux is a retired army veteran who served the United States all over the world. Through those experiences she gained a love of service and travel. Jenifer opened a franchise of Dream Vacations called JB Travel Pros, where she helps people travel the world with excitement, designing luxury experiences that bring her client's dreams to life. As the mother of two amazing young men who both are on the autism spectrum, Jenifer has become an advocate for families and caregivers of special needs children.  Key Topics Covered:Choosing the Right Travel Experiences:Opt for inclusive activities like open-air trolleys, beach train rides, and dolphin swims.Highlighted the importance of considering sensory preferences and selecting family-friendly activities that allow for shared enjoyment.Navigating Cruise Travel with Special Needs:Jenifer shares that some cruise lines, particularly Royal Caribbean, train staff to support children with autism and other disabilities.Advises parents to communicate special needs in advance to ensure accommodations, such as priority boarding and accessible cabins.Practical Tips for Managing Sensory Needs:Jenifer suggests carrying familiar fidget toys and social stories to prepare children for new environments.She recommends her free downloadable guide, The Ultimate Top 10 Travel Tips for Planning with Neurodiverse Children, available on her website IamJeniferBreaux.com, along with her book Travel is Possible for additional travel tips and resources.Encouragement for Special Needs Parents:Jenifer reminds parents to celebrate small daily wins and embrace the unique journey of raising resilient children. She encourages parents to see themselves and their children as “warriors” capable of handling life’s challenges with courage and joy. Takeaway Message: Jenifer’s insights inspire parents to embrace intentional travel, plan for accommodations, and create lasting memories. She reinforces that with a bit of preparation and an open mind, family vacations can be accessible, fun, and inclusive for all. Connect with Jenifer:Website:  https://www.iamjeniferbreaux.com/about@iamjeniferbreaux on IG, FB, Twitter, Pinterest Live with Intention - Embrace the Journey. Connect with me:Valerie's Links: https://bit.ly/3RL0da2Music Acknowledgement: Audio Coffee - Denys KyshchukEditor: Scott ArbeauLink for book: The S.H.I.N.E. Principle: The special needs mom's path to strength, hope and happiness by Valerie Arbeauhttps://www.amazon.ca/dp/B0CW18ZXGX (Canada)https://a.co/d/03hFdZI4 (United States)Learn more about your host at:https://coachingwithvalerieanne.com/

Send us Fan MailAnnie Joy Carter is a certified life coach with a psychology degree. She has worked for many years in the mental health field and is a single momma of 2 children. Her oldest child has Autism and ADHD. She helps moms who have lost themselves so they can come home to who they've always been.Overview: Valerie and Annie explore what true self-care really means beyond the typical ideas of pampering. Together, they dive into meaningful self-care practices, the emotional journey of parenting children with special needs, and how persistence, playfulness, and honesty foster stronger connections with kids.Key Takeaways:True Self-Care: Self-care redefined as more than just spa days. It's about everyday habits like staying hydrated, maintaining dental health, and keeping up with medical appointments for self that contribute to overall well-being.Annie’s Playful Parenting Style: Annie talks about her unique approach to parenting through play and silliness. She sings, plays games, and creates fun moments to foster cooperation and joy with her 10- and 11-year-old kids. She believes this approach can even work with teens!Building Lasting Connections: Valerie and Annie discuss the importance of consistency and persistence in building strong relationships with children, especially as they grow into teens. While Annie’s style focuses on humor and fun, Valerie highlights the role of steady presence and commitment.Grieving Lost Expectations:  This grief is not about rejecting the child but mourning the loss of the life they once imagined. It is important to process these feelings and to fully embrace their child’s unique journey.Emotional Honesty and Growth: Raw emotional honesty is crucial for both personal healing and growth. Processing difficult emotions like guilt and anger helps parents heal and become more present.The Father's Role in Grief: Annie sheds light on the emotional struggles fathers face, especially when societal expectations discourage them from expressing their grief and emotions openly.Self-Care Beyond Pampering: Annie emphasizes that self-care is not just about physical indulgences but involves deeper emotional work, such as letting go of guilt and acknowledging difficult emotions. Fun and Lightness as Self-Care: Fun, laughter, and hobbies are integral to self-care. Valerie and Annie agree that incorporating joy through dancing, hobbies, and light-hearted moments helps parents and caregivers recharge.The Power of Community: Sharing experiences with other parents of special needs children is vital. You don’t have to do everything alone. Connect with Annie:Website:  https://anniejoy.com - Go here for the free  resource Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/anniejoy.speaks/ Live with Intention - Embrace the Journey. Connect with me:Valerie's Links: https://bit.ly/3RL0da2Music Acknowledgement: Audio Coffee - Denys KyshchukEditor: Scott Arbeau :)Link for book: The S.H.I.N.E. Principle: The special needs mom's path to strength, hope and happiness by Valerie Arbeauhttps://www.amazon.ca/dp/B0CW18ZXGX (Canada)https://a.co/d/03hFdZI4 (United States)Learn more about your host at:https://coachingwithvalerieanne.com/

Send us Fan MailRamona Kossowan discusses how parents can release trauma, regulate their nervous systems, and embrace their own worth beyond caregiving. Ramona walks us through her intuitive, strategic process for trauma release, offering insights on how unresolved trauma can keep us stuck in survival mode and disconnected from joy and creativity.You Matter Beyond Caregiving: Importance of recognizing your own needs and worthiness beyond your role as a caregiver.Trauma in Special Needs Parenting: Trauma isn't limited to catastrophic events but can be experienced as a chronic feeling of unsafety and helplessness, contributing to a highly dysregulated nervous system.Co-Regulation and Nervous System Health: Children unconsciously pick up on their parent’s emotional state. Grounding and trauma release can improve both the mother's well-being and the child’s emotional stability.Living in Survival Mode: As moms we need to ask “What do I need?” as a first step towards healing, especially for moms who are always in “go mode.”Signs of Trauma in the Body: Ramona lists common physical and emotional manifestations of trauma, from brain fog and autoimmune conditions to random bursts of crying and a sense of hopelessness. - Caregivers are worthy of care and attention, beyond their capacity for caregiving.- Trauma release can help reset the nervous system, reducing hypervigilance and burnout.- Practical steps to release trauma gently and strategically, offering a tangible shift in weeks.- The importance of building a life that honors your needs, boundaries, and joy—beyond survival mode.- How to recognize trauma symptoms that may be affecting your emotional, physical, and cognitive well-being.Words of Encouragement from Ramona: Be proud of yourself. You are doing amazing work, and it's okay to prioritize your healing and well-being. Resources Mentioned:Downloadable resource: https://ramonakcoaching.com/gentle-trauma-assessment/Ramona Kossowan transformed her life from stuck and directionless to the grounded, compassionate leader she is today as the founder of Ramona K Coaching. As a certified Gentle Trauma Release Practitioner, Personal Empowerment Coach and fitness professional, Ramona’s passionate about empowering women to create deep, sustainable transformations in their lives. She gently makes way for women to clear the baggage that’s in the way and build a new, empowered identity. It’s never too late to make that change and embrace your greatness.Connect with Ramona:https://ramonakcoaching.com/homehttps://www.facebook.com/RamonaKCoachinghttps://www.instagram.com/ramonakcoaching/https://www.linkedin.com/in/ramona-kossowan-380ba66a/ Live with Intention - Embrace the Journey. Connect with me:Valerie's Links: https://bit.ly/3RL0da2Music Acknowledgement: Audio Coffee - Denys KyshchukEditor: Scott ArbeauLink for book: The S.H.I.N.E. Principle: The special needs mom's path to strength, hope and happiness by Valerie Arbeauhttps://www.amazon.ca/dp/B0CW18ZXGX (Canada)https://a.co/d/03hFdZI4 (United States)Learn more about your host at:https://coachingwithvalerieanne.com/

Send us Fan MailJessica Fein is a mom to three adopted children from Guatemala and is a relentless warrior in the memory of her daughter who she lost to a rare disease in 2022. Jessica is a working mother who balances advocacy in her corporate job, writing (seasoned media contributor who has published more than 100 columns and essays. Jessica has also authored a book, is a podcaster, and does volunteer work as she serves on the board of directors of MitoAction.In today’s episode, Jessica shares her experiences of parenting on the precipice, caring for a medically fragile child, and finding joy even in the most challenging moments.Breaking the Ice in Social Settings:How we approach introducing our children to others to help bridge understanding and create an inclusive environment. The Power of Perspective & Advocacy:How early guidance from caregivers shaped our approaches to caregiving. Jessica’s Writing Journey and her book Breath TakingJessica shares the story behind her powerful memoir, Breath Taking, which she started writing while in the pediatric intensive care unit (PICU) with her daughter, Dalia. The book is about more than just grief and loss; it’s a testament to resilience and discovering joy amidst unimaginable challenges. Confronting Deepest Fears:Jessica opens up about the fears she faced while caring for Dalia as her condition deteriorated. Balancing Fear with Joy & Living in the Moment:The delicate balance of living with joy and purpose while managing ongoing medical crises.The Resilience of Children and Parents:Shared about a local mother making a difficult decision to start Dialysis for her daughter and how parents often need to lean into their child’s will to live and desire to continue. Pearls of Wisdom:Jessica concludes with a powerful reminder that joy always has a seat at the table. Finding joy requires intentionality and being open to small moments of gratitude, even when they seem hard to grasp.Valerie’s Gratitude Practice:Consider starting a gratitude journal. Even jotting down one thing each day can make a significant difference in your mental and emotional health. Connect with Jessica:Book: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1681151103?Podcast: https://www.idontknowhowyoudoit.comWebsite: JessicaFeinStories.com.FB: https://www.facebook.com/jessica.fein.92/ IG: https://www.instagram.com/feinjessica/ LI: www.linkedin.com/in/jessica-fein-b643b09 Final Thoughts:Joy doesn’t just show up—we have to invite it. Let’s be intentional about bringing it to the table and embracing it, even in the most challenging seasons. As always, I encourage you to Live with Intention and Embrace the Journey. See you in the next episode!Valerie's Links: https://bit.ly/3RL0da2Music Acknowledgement: Audio Coffee - Denys KyshchukEditor: Scott ArbeauLink for book: The S.H.I.N.E. Principle: The special needs mom's path to strength, hope and happiness by Valerie Arbeauhttps://www.amazon.ca/dp/B0CW18ZXGX (Canada)https://a.co/d/03hFdZI4 (US)Learn more about your host at:https://coachingwithvalerieanne.com/

Send us Fan MailWelcome & Thank You:A heartfelt thank you to all our dedicated listeners! Episode Highlights:Your host Valerie shares a personal story about returning to the office after working from home for some time. But the real heart of this episode is about how this change has deepened her relationship with her neurodivergent young adult, August. She reflects on the sacrifices made and how a simple 25-minute commute twice a day has become a precious opportunity to build trust and foster open communication. Key Takeaways:The Importance of Adaptability:Coach Valerie’s story serves as a reminder that sometimes life changes we initially resist can lead to unexpected blessings, like more time spent together.Active Listening & Communication Strategies:Valerie shares five strategies she’s adopted to nurture a healthier parent-child relationship, including active listening, offering praise and encouragement, using open-ended questions, modeling positive behavior, and engaging in collaborative problem-solving.Understanding & Acceptance:One of the most powerful lessons in this episode is about accepting neurodivergence not as something “wrong” but as something beautifully different. Valerie opens up about the guilt and regrets she experienced before she had a better understanding of her child’s needs.Building Trust & Breaking Patterns:Trust and connection don’t happen overnight—they’re built slowly through small, consistent actions and moments of presence. Learn how a car ride turned into a space of deeper understanding and appreciation.Top Quote: "Different is not wrong or bad, it’s just different. Wouldn’t the world be a sad place if we all thought and operated the same?"Practical Strategies for Parents of Neurodivergent Teens:Active ListeningBe fully present when your child is speaking. Validate their emotions and thoughts without judgment or trying to fix things.Praise and EncouragementRecognize their efforts and achievements often. Neurodivergent teens might need more affirmation than you think.Use Open-Ended QuestionsShift from suggesting what your child “should” do to asking thoughtful questions that encourage critical thinking.Model Positive BehaviorBe mindful that your child is observing you even when you think they’re not. Look for natural mentorship moments.Collaborative Problem SolvingInstead of dictating solutions, involve your child in the decision-making process. It builds confidence and trust.Final Thoughts:Remember, this journey is not about being a perfect parent—it’s about being present, compassionate, and willing to learn. We’re all a work in progress, and together, we can navigate the challenges and celebrate the victories.Live with Intention – Embrace the Journey Connect:Valerie's Links: https://bit.ly/3RL0da2Music Acknowledgement: Audio Coffee - Denys KyshchukEditor: Scott ArbeauLink for book: The S.H.I.N.E. Principle: The special needs mom's path to strength, hope and happiness by Valerie Arbeauhttps://www.amazon.ca/dp/B0CW18ZXGX   (Canada)https://a.co/d/03hFdZI4 (United States)Learn more about your host at:https://coachingwithvalerieanne.com/

Send us Fan MailMeet Natalie Karras, who is a passionate advocate for children on the spectrum and their families. With 24 years of experience across industries like travel, recruitment, and marketing, she holds a Master Practitioner of Coaching and is the CEO and founder of You Are Seen. Natalie’s personal journey began when her son was diagnosed with autism at age 2, and she now dedicates herself to guiding mums through the challenges of autism, helping them move from feeling helpless to empowered. Fun fact: She's also an avid baker, creating gluten, dairy, and sugar-free treats! Natalie also introduces her SING method, a powerful tool she created to help moms break free from negative thought patterns. This episode offers valuable insights, strategies, and hope for moms walking the challenging, yet beautiful, journey of raising children with special needs.Key Takeaways:The pressure moms feel to "do it all" and appear as though they have everything under control is real, but we don’t have to shoulder it alone.It’s important to ask for help and to share with others how they can support us—people want to help but often don’t know how.We don’t need to apologize for our children’s behaviors. Let's celebrate who they are instead of conforming to societal expectations.The SING Method (Stop, Inhale, Notice your thoughts, and Gain clarity) helps moms break out of negative thought loops and be more present with their children.We must distinguish between fear-based thoughts and reality, and not let anxiety drive how we advocate for or view our child’s future.Moms of children with special needs are not alone, and reaching out for support can make a world of difference. Connect with Natalie Karras:Website: www.youareseen.com.auFacebook: You Are SeenInstagram: You_Are_Seen_LinkedIn: Natalie Karras Free Resource from Natalie:Download Natalie’s free guide: My Child Was Diagnosed with Autism: Hop over to Natalie’s website to accessWords of Encouragement from Natalie: "I know that you feel like you’re in a dark place right now, and that this isn't what you signed up for. But your child will teach you so many lessons along the way, and you will emerge wiser and stronger. It’s okay to cry, curse, and get angry—but don’t walk this journey alone. There are people and resources ready to help; you just have to reach out."Connect with me:Valerie's Links: https://bit.ly/3RL0da2Music Acknowledgement: Audio Coffee - Denys KyshchukEditor: Scott ArbeauLink for book: The S.H.I.N.E. Principle: The special needs mom's path to strength, hope and happiness by Valerie Arbeauhttps://www.amazon.ca/dp/B0CW18ZXGX (Canada)https://a.co/d/03hFdZI4 (US) Learn more about your host at:https://coachingwithvalerieanne.com/

Send us Fan MailCarolyn Gardner is a solo mom by choice through adoption. She's been parenting her amazing son with chronic medical issues for ten years. Five years ago she left her teaching career to create a life that works better for her and her son. Carolyn is a digital product expert and it’s Carolyn’s passion to support other women - especially special needs moms - who need to create lifestyles that work better for them and their families. Carolyn helps business owners and fellow moms turn their trials into digital products and income streams from their passions to support their families and find empowerment.Key Topics:- Carolyn’s transition from teaching to freelancing while caring for her special needs child.- Emotional resilience, adaptability, and mindset shifts for special needs moms.- Practical steps to create digital products that are both fulfilling and profitable.- Encouraging moms to leverage their passions and expertise to support others.- The importance of community and emotional wellness.Words of Encouragement:“Every day is a new day. Don’t let today’s challenges overwhelm you. Remember that there’s a larger community here for support. And tomorrow brings new hope and opportunities—you’re not alone.”Connect with Carolyn:Website: Carolyn Gardner Consultinghttps://www.instagram.com/carolyngardnerconsulting/, https://www.facebook.com/designinglearningllc/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/carolynagardner/Download Carolyn’s 5-Step Guide to Starting a Digital Product Income Stream https://carolyn-gardner-consulting.ck.page/90eddc789c Connect with me:Valerie's Links: https://bit.ly/3RL0da2Music Acknowledgement: Audio Coffee - Denys KyshchukEditor: Scott ArbeauLink for book: The S.H.I.N.E. Principle: The special needs mom's path to strength, hope and happiness by Valerie Arbeauhttps://www.amazon.ca/dp/B0CW18ZXGX   (Canada)https://a.co/d/03hFdZI4 (United States)Learn more about your host at:https://coachingwithvalerieanne.com/

Send us Fan MailEpisode Summary:Jenn Fredericks, a Pro-sillience Coach and Personal Resilience Practitioner shares her deeply personal journey as a special needs mom. Jenn talks about navigating the challenges of raising a child with a brain tumor diagnosis, how it impacted her mental, emotional, and physical health, and how she found her way to life coaching. She offers insights on how special needs moms can cultivate resilience, manage their energy, and practice the pause to be more present in their lives and for their families.Key Takeaways:Jenn’s journey from struggling with physical and emotional exhaustion to becoming a life coach and resilience practitioner.The importance of "practicing the pause" and being mindful in both personal and caregiving roles.Strategies for managing personal energy to build resilience as a special needs mom or caregiver.How the simple, small acts of self-care can be more impactful than we realize, helping replenish our physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual energy.Jenn's personal story about learning to grieve the life she envisioned for her children, creating space for acceptance, and using proactive resilience strategies to adapt to ongoing challenges.A reminder that caregivers are not alone, and there are tools and resources available to help navigate the marathon of caregiving.Memorable Quotes:"Be where your feet are." — Jenn’s daughter, sharing her wisdom from a hospital stay."Resilience is maintaining high levels of effectiveness and well-being while dealing with high levels of challenge and disruption.""We often think of self-care as manicures and massages, but it's really about managing our personal energy so we can preserve our well-being.""Who do you want to be for your child? That question has guided me through this journey since my daughter’s diagnosis."Jenn Fredericks has overcome immense adversity and emerged as a beacon of resilience and hope for others. Her experience as a patient with a life-threatening, chronic illness spanning three decades and caregiver for her daughter with a life-threatening diagnosis speaks volumes about her strength, determination, and compassion. Jenn became an adoptive mom 15 years ago to a daughter. Connect with Jenn Fredericks:www.prosiliencecoach.com.FB:https://www.facebook.com/JennFredericksProsilienceCoach IG: https://www.instagram.com/jfredwi/ LI: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jennfredericks/Resources Mentioned:Linda Hoops’ Proresilience FrameworkLive with Intention - Embrace the Journey. Connect with me:Valerie's Links: https://bit.ly/3RL0da2Music Acknowledgement: Audio Coffee - Denys KyshchukEditor: Scott ArbeauLink for book: The S.H.I.N.E. Principle: The special needs mom's path to strength, hope and happiness by Valerie Arbeauhttps://www.amazon.ca/dp/B0CW18ZXGX   (Canada)https://a.co/d/03hFdZI4 (United States)  Learn more about your host at:https://coachingwithvalerieanne.com/

Send us Fan MailYour host Valerie, shares an exciting announcement about an upcoming seminar that’s tailored just for parents of children with disabilities. If you're looking for actionable steps and hands-on tools to plan for your child’s future, you won’t want to miss this episode - or the seminar!!!Key Takeaways:Save the date! On September 9th at 4 PM MST, Valerie will be hosting a special seminar titled "Guardians of Tomorrow: Create a Roadmap for Your Child with Disabilities’ Forever Home." This seminar is designed to help parents create a secure and loving future for their children.Seminar Overview:  - Long-Term Needs Assessment: Learn how to evaluate and plan for your child’s long-term needs.  - Financial Planning Tips: Discover strategies for ensuring your child’s financial security. - Legal Considerations: Gain knowledge about legal frameworks like special needs trusts, guardianship, and power of attorney.Valerie's Personal Journey: Valerie shares her experience in planning for her own children's futures, including the creation of Eden House for her eldest with cerebral palsy, and preparing her youngest, who is a high-functioning autistic person, for greater independence.Why Attend the Seminar?- Confidence in Planning: Develop a detailed and actionable plan for your child's future.- Financial Security: Structure a sustainable financial strategy.- Legal Preparedness: Understand the necessary legal frameworks to protect your child's future.How to Register:- Register through the Show Notes: Click the link [https://bit.ly/4dC8t5J] in the show notes to register for the seminar.- Text Valerie: Send a text message through the Buzzsprout platform to sign up.Final Thoughts:Valerie emphasizes the importance of planning ahead, sharing that the peace of mind it brings is invaluable. This seminar offers a unique opportunity to connect with other parents and gain the guidance and support needed for long-term planning. If you found this episode helpful, please share it with other special needs parents who could benefit from the seminar. Remember, together we can create a secure and loving future for our children.- Mark Your Calendar: September 9th at 4 PM MST.- Register Now: https://bit.ly/4dC8t5J"Until next time, stay strong, stay hopeful, and remember… Live with Intention – Embrace the Journey."Connect with me:Valerie's Links: https://bit.ly/3RL0da2Music Acknowledgement: Audio Coffee - Denys KyshchukEditor: Scott ArbeauLink for book: The S.H.I.N.E. Principle: The special needs mom's path to strength, hope and happiness by Valerie Arbeauhttps://www.amazon.ca/dp/B0CW18ZXGX   (Canada)https://a.co/d/03hFdZI4 (United States)Learn more about your host at:https://coachingwithvalerieanne.com/