Episodes
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Episode 425: What Would It Take...
After 18 months at a legal brothel, Bree explores one very important question with Brian: What would it take to want to engage with someone in the lifestyle after getting paid for all this time? We share our thoughts and slightly differing opinions. Stock up on ED meds, libido boosters and more!...
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Episode 424: Living a Double Life
"Secrets" are revealed... including why Bree is out of town for two weeks at a time... Plus, we talk about a major cheating scandal that has people questioning if monogamy can actually work long-term. Get a FREE month of Kasidie access when you click on the Kasidie banner at...
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Episode 423: Don't Take Those D**k Pills
After hearing HORROR stories about getting random medication from random people at lifestyle events... We knew we had to be a part of the solution. During this episode, we explain how Better Bedroom Body is revolutionizing the game when it comes to ED medication and other sexual wellness...
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Episode 422: You Decide Your Lifestyle Reality
Your thoughts are very powerful, and there's nowhere that's more evident than in the lifestyle. We share how we sabotaged some of our own lifestyle fun in the past, and what work can be done from a mental/emotional perspective to ensure you are calling in a fun and sexy reality at lifestyle…
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Episode 421: Can't You Just Be Poly?
A deep discussion on how our personal evolution has highlighted what we see as stagnation in the lifestyle. Plus, a very important question is dissected: Can't we just be polyamorous? Get a free month of Kasidie access when you click on the Kasidie banner at https://frontporchswingers.com Check…
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Episode 420: The Ole Steering Wheel Dilemma
We share VERY vulnerable thoughts on how our lifestyle journey was impacted by our two very different fitness levels for the first several years of us being enm. Plus we talk about some of the pitfalls couples experience in the lifestyle when they put drastically different amounts of effort into...
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Episode 419: If There Were No More Parties...
We discuss a phenomenon we have noticed many times in the lifestyle: When the party becomes more important than ENM itself. And it has us questioning: Without the alcohol, the dance parties, and the themes, how many people that we've met at lifestyle clubs would still want to be there if the…
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Episode 418: You're Going to Inject THAT? THERE?!
We've recently become aware of a phenomenon happening at lifestyle events: men sharing their prescription medications with each other for recreational purposes. We discuss why it's happening, what the risks are, and what we see as the best alternatives if you ACTUALLY need assistance from a...
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Episode 417: Your Standards Changed? Good!
A date night had our heads reeling about the concept of "changed standards." And that relates perfectly to a message we received from listeners about how to tell long-term play partners that they are no longer interested after realizing their sexual preferences had changed. Hint: It's not always…
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Episode 416: If We Had a Time Machine...
We discuss what we would change about our lifestyle journey if we had a time machine and could go back 8 1/2 years... Spoiler alert, we have very different answers! Plus, a deep dive into what lifestyle friendships ACTUALLY mean to us now. Schedule your free consultative call with us at...
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Episode 415: You Can Love Them AND Ask for More
We've all seen it in the lifestyle: The dreaded "steering wheel couple," where one half is SIGNIFICANTLY better put together than the other. And it has us wondering: Don't these people want more from their partners? We share intimately times when we didn't feel comfortable holding each other to a...
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Episode 414: A Mixed Bag in Atlanta
We took Better Bedroom Body to a hotel takeover in Atlanta recently. The experience was WILDLY successful for us from a professional perspective, but personally, we were left asking one important question: "Isn't there more to this?" We explain that, plus share some highlights from our Atlanta...
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Episode 413: Get That Skin Lobbed Off!
A recent consultation with a plastic surgeon has led to some very interesting conversations between the two of us about "vanity" in the lifestyle, and when it makes sense to "fix" something you don't like about yourself. Plus, are you curious which surgery Brenna is looking into next? Chat with…
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Episode 412: Couples Who Get Fit Together...
After being on vastly different pages with our health and wellness for YEARS, we discuss what it's now like to be on the same page. We also delve into an interesting phenomenon we've seen from our Better Bedroom Body clients... couples who are so open an honest with each other in the lifestyle…
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Episode 411: How Weight Loss Can Affect Your ENM Journey
As someone who herself lost 100 lbs while in the ENM lifestyle, Brenna shares the ups and downs of a major weight loss. We discuss the "dad bod" phenomenon, the importance of self-confidence, and a few considerations people need to make BEFORE beginning a weight loss journey. For more information...
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Episode 410: Better Bedroom Body
After much soul searching and discussions, we came to one important realization: It's time for us to share the things we are most passionate about with the lifestyle! That's where Better Bedroom Body comes in! We discuss this project and our plans for its debut in Atlanta during Eroticon next...
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Episode 409: Intentionality Versus Expectations
We have learned several times recently that there is a HUGE difference between having specific expectations at a lifestyle event versus setting intentions before going. What are the differences, and where can each get you in trouble in your lifestyle journey? Set up your FREE consultation call…
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Episode 408: Your Lifestyle Weekend Doesn't Have to Wreck Your Health
Going to a hotel takeover or other multi-day lifestyle event can completely throw you off your normal health and wellness game. But it doesn't have to! We share our tips and tricks for healthy habits throughout a weekend of fun. Plus, how is biohacking changing the lifestyle? Schedule your free...
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Episode 407: The Cost of Caring What Others Think
Everyone knows someone in the lifestyle who is TERRIFIED of their friends or family finding out about their non-monogamous world. We discuss how this can often be more of a showing of ego and paranoia versus a legitimate concern. Plus, we share our opinions on discussing the lifestyle with adult...
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Episode 406: No Glove, No Love
An INSANE forum conversation has us once again questioning the rise of raw play... We share recent stats on STI rates with and without condoms, and our theories on why so many in the lifestyle seem to want to play with fire. Try Kasidie FREE for a month! Click on the Kasidie banner at...
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Episode 405: The Ultimate Imposter Syndrome
We went to this year's Hotwife Palooza in Tucson! And the event itself was amazing! Great staff, friendly attendees, well organized. Yet we found ourselves questioning, from a purely personal perspective, if we belonged in that environment. Listen to find out what we mean! Get bonus content and...
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Episode 404: Does Non-Monogamy Make You Hotter?
Is getting into the lifestyler a motivator for people to work on their health and fitness? We share our personal and anecdotal experiences. Plus, why is nobody talking about the fact that visceral fat increases men's risk of ED related issues by four times?? Get 15% off the amazing pleasure...
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Episode 403: Cliques, Gatekeeping, and Social Politics in the Lifestyle
If we've heard it once, we've heard it a million times: "Cliques in the lifestyle are a problem!" Is that the case? As two self-proclaimed non-joiners, we dissect the world of cliques in the lifestyle, when they can be of value, and when they become downright toxic. Plus, what's the most common...
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Episode 402: Are We Still Lifestylers?
After several months of no play in the lifestyle, we have started to ponder one important question: Are we even still in the lifestyle? We discuss what it means to take a hiatus, why we personally aren't sure how or when to re-enter the lifestyle, and our plans for FPS as we move forward. Let's...
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Episode 401: Men Have Standards... Until They Don't!
Men online love to talk a big game about their standards and preferences when it comes to whom they will engage with sexually. But from hosting hundreds of lifestyle events, we can tell you that most of those standards go RIGHT out the window when these guys are interacting with women in-person.…
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Episode 400: Our Old Podcast Episodes Aged....Poorly
As a special treat for Episode 400, we thought it would be soooo fun to each go back and listen to one of our episodes from years past. But the little social experiment was anything but fun. Instead, we saw glimpses into very different versions of ourselves, versions we were not necessarily...
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Episode 399: Escapism in the Lifestyle
For years, we viewed the lifestyle as our chance to experience true freedom. But we've come to realize we were really using it as a form of distraction and escapism. In this episode, we get VERY honest about how chasing validation and excitement left us feeling emptier than ever. A darker side of...
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Episode 398: Predators in the Playrooms
As attendees of MANY events over the years, we've seen it all when it comes to group play. And while some of it has clearly been fun and consensual for all, other instances had us questioning if group play rooms are the "perfect" place for predatory behavior... Let's schedule your free peptide…
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Episode 397: Hot People as a Marketing Strategy
We all know that hot people are used in marketing campaigns. We see it in the sale of everything from dog food to cars to cleaning services. Is this still ethical in the lifestyle? And what happens if that marketing goes just a little too far, into the territory of being straight-up dishonest? We...
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Episode 396: There's No "I" in "Team," Right??
It's become one of the buzz phrases in the lifestyle: It should be about you as a couple. Do the things that bring you closer together as a couple. While we understand this concept, it does have us questioning.... When is it ok to be a little selfish in the lifestyle? And more importantly, when…
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Episode 395: When Religion and Non-Monogamy Collide
A controversial take on religious lifestylers from the perspective of two people who consider themselves anti-religion... Before you get offended, listen to our take! Join us for an upcoming event, including Hotwife Palooza in May: https://members.frontporchswingers.com Get bonus content and...
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Episode 394: Is Your D*** My Responsibility?
We all know it happens: Something doesn't work exactly as it should, we catch a funky odor, or something else happens that otherwise derails the fun. But whose responsibility is it? And when do you call it? All of that and much more discussed on this week's episode of the Front Porch Swingers...
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Episode 393: What the H*ll is Pre-Consent?
Brian was introduced to a new concept in the lifestyle this week: Pre-consent. It was argued that if you negotiate play prior to taking substances, it's a very ethical way to get f-ed up out of your mind and play in the lifestyle. We share our opinions on this, including the pros and cons to...
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Episode 392: The Dreaded Manosphere
After watching a documentary all about the rampant misogyny currently being spewed to young men on the internet, we were left with one important question: How is this going to impact the lifestyle? Plus, a VERY colorful message from a listener had us both laughing and shaking our heads at the…
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Episode 391: Where's the Intimacy?
A very raw and honest conversation about the intimacy issues we've experienced, in part because of our involvement in the lifestyle. How did jumping straight into ethical non-monogamy impact our sex lives together? And what's our plan moving forward? Photographer mentioned on this episode:...
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Episode 390: Setting Healthy Boundaries with Lifestyle Friends
We haven't always been the best when it comes to setting solid boundaries in our lifestyle friendships. When you combine sex with interpersonal relationships, things can get sticky fast. We explain how this has impacted the amount of time we dedicate to lifestyle friendships, and our plan moving...
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Episode 389: Coming Out of the Closet
Brenna finally reveals the catalyst for her sobriety, and it leads to a very real and honest conversation about how we plan to navigate our professional worlds moving forward. We also discuss the concept of "personality being more important than looks" in the lifestyle. Schedule your free…
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Episode 388: Wait, You're HOW OLD?
Our birthdays have spurred a renewed conversation around age in the lifestyle, specifically how different generations interact both digitally and at events. It's led us to one very important question: Is age really just a number in the lifestyle? Or is it deeper than that? Schedule your FREE...
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Episode 387: Frumpy Men in the Lifestyle
It's a running joke in the lifestyle: Women are almost always better put together than their male counterparts at clubs and events. We all laugh about it, but have you ever stopped to think about the WHY behind it? We examine some of our theories.... Plus, upcoming birthday celebrations! Let's…
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Episode 386: Read the Room, Man!
"We're trying so hard to connect with lifestylers online, but we're having no luck! What gives?" We discuss how we are currently receiving digital communication, and sometimes in the most inappropriate of places... So where should lifestylers be finding other lifestylers? And much more…
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Episode 385: The Lifestyle Isn't Dead - It's Evolving
Stagnation and a lack of safety protocols in the lifestyle have left many lifestylers disenfranchised with clubs and events over the last year. They're going less often and spending less money. But does that mean the lifestyle is dying? We discuss our opinions as people who have operated in the...
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Episode 384: I Regret You Banging Someone Else
A forum post leads to a very interesting conversation around shared sexual identities in couples, regret in the lifestyle, and when it's ok to keep some of your desires and fantasies a secret from your partner. Plus, is it more or less vulnerable to be raunchy with a new play partner? Join us for...
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Episode 383: I HATED My Body
An emotional and raw episode of FPS.... A listener email had Brenna all in her feels about her struggles with body image issues, including insight into how it felt being the "chubby girl" at lifestyle events. Plus, a discussion unlike we've ever had before on why we changed the format of the…
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Episode 382: Newbie Whisperers?
Everyone has to start somewhere in the lifestyle, but is it also ok to not want to bang people that are brand new to the space? We discuss this after Brenna gets an interesting proposition from a newbie couple. Plus, we look back on newbie mistakes we made when it all started seven and a half…
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Episode 381: Sperm Competition is a Real Thing
Since we're all just mammals at the end of the day, it makes perfect sense that the biological urges seen in nature can also be seen in the lifestyle, right? This time around, we discuss how male on male competition, biologically referred to as "sperm competition," can both help and hurt in a...
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Episode 380: Old School Swinging
A post on a swingers' forum had us scratching our heads about the state of "old school swinging," and led to in-depth conversations about consent, alcohol consumption, and where we fit into all of it as sober lifestylers. Plus, we chat about learning how to pick and choose our battles in the…
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Episode 379: Sometimes the Truth Hurts
A message from a single man looking to enter the lifestyle spurs a conversation on the balance between being honest and being kind... We also talk about how single men hold other single men accountable at our events, and our thoughts on why that doesn't happen more often. Plus, big life changes…
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Episode 378: I Envy the Newbies
A trip down memory lane reminds us of the things that felt very taboo and naughty before getting into the lifestyle. And how truly vanilla they seem now. We talk sex shops, strip clubs and more! Plus, what MOVES us to continue in the world of ethical non-monogamy? Check us out at...
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Episode 377: What the H*ll Am I Doing Here?
A jam packed and very vulnerable episode about Brenna's imposter syndrome in the lifestyle, fears for our future as a hotwife couple, and some very honest epiphanies from recent weeks. Plus... the return of Worst of the Week TIMES TWO! Join us for an upcoming event:...
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Episode 376: What Does Lifestyle Inclusivity REALLY Mean?
As two proud members of the LGBTQ community, we have some very strong opinions about inclusivity in the lifestyle. Nowhere is this more important that at lifestyle events and clubs. We discuss sexuality representation, as well as some new discoveries in our own world with regards to sexual...
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About this show
Each week, hosts Brenna and Brian share their real-life adventures in non-monogamy! Join them for a raw and titillating recount of their encounters as swingers, a hotwife and stag, and newly polyamorous people!
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Brenna and Brian