Get Out of Your Own Damn Way Podcast

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gC9DofV2G7M&feature=youtu.be Have you ever found yourself standing in the cereal aisle at the grocery store, staring at the dozens of boxes, pacing, agonizing, comparing nutritional information, calories, prices, absolutely paralyzed from making a simple, ultimately inconsequential decision? At the time, it can feel huge, even life altering. I mean you are committing to at least a few days worth of breakfast here. It could set the tone for your whole week. What if you pick the Raisin Bran and you wake up tomorrow totally not in the mood for dried grapes? Or maybe you go with GrapeNuts and you chip a tooth? Or you buy that fancy healthy stuff only to realize as you're eating it that you had forgotten that everyone else in the house but you hates that fancy healthy stuff? What if? Decisions. Decisions. Decisions. We easily make hundreds of these suckers every day. So why are some of them harder than others? You might be saying to yourself, "That's easy, Krylyn. Some of them are bigger and more important and warrant more consideration and will have more impact!" To which I can only reply, "Ehem...really? So your breakfast dilemma was truly that earth shattering?" So what did you do when faced with your epic cereal conundrum? Maybe you bought all three boxes, giving you even more decisions to make. Perhaps you closed your eyes and pointed or some other form of random selection. Maybe you gave up and didn't buy any cereal, putting that decision off for another day. All of the above are valid decisions. But make no mistake, even when you don't actively decide, you are still making a decision. In this episode I'm going to walk you through my proven 5 step decision process. It may not make all of your decisions easy, but it will make them conscious and doable. Let's face it, some decisions are going to be tough. You won't always be in your comfort zone. But I promise you that you'll feel so much more empowered when you make your decisions your way and on your terms. So are you ready to listen to this week's podcast? You decide...

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DY5l6f9B_aE I have so much to do right now. Maybe I should start by making a list. But first I'll make a pot of tea. And I should check my email, FB, IG, Twitter... I just wasted several hours. I'm way too unfocused. I think I'll watch Netflix for 30 minutes and try to clear my head. Still not feeling it. A little yoga? A walk? Oh wait, didn't I need to buy something on Amazon? And call the phone company? Okay, I'd better do that before they close. I'll get to that other stuff later. I mean, I can do it anytime. Right? Oh crap! I have at least two hours worth of stuff to do in 45 minutes! I'm going to miss my deadline. But wait, was that a hard deadline? I think that's just the timeline I set for myself so that I wouldn't stress it. Phew! I've still got like two days. I can just chill out with Mr. Haagen-Dazs and cruise YouTube. I'll do that other stuff. Tomorrow. Does any of this sound familiar? Be honest. Let's face it: we all have our glorious moments of world class procrastination. And way too often these marathon sessions of avoidance can leave you feeling guilty, stressed, inadequate, even a little dirty. But it doesn't have to be that way. Have you ever stopped and asked yourself why you're procrastinating? The truth is that procrastination can be a profound, teachable event. In this episode I will reveal the two reasons why you procrastinate. I'll tell you your three choices every time you are faced with doing something that elicits a procrastination response. And I'll guide you through exactly how to get the most out of this often misunderstood life lesson. So let's jump right in - after a piece of chocolate - and discover just what procrastination has to offer!

https://youtu.be/JKZIr8UwUCM We all have that one friend. You know who I'm talking about. She never seems to truly listen to what you say. You can pour your heart out to her about how you just wrecked your car and will be broke and riding the bus for the next two months and before you've finished your tale of woe, she's already bored, checking her phone, and interrupting you to ask for a ride to the store. She asks you vague, polite questions and immediately transitions into an angry monologue about her boss before you can get a word in edgewise. Then a week later, she texts you, asking if you want to go out to have dinner and a movie...and B T Dubs, can you pick her up? We all have that one friend. But what's worse is this: We are all guilty of sometimes being that friend. You've heard the cliche that communication is a two-way street. It's a cliche because it's true. But often it's easy to get so caught up in what's going on in your own lane that you wind up paying no attention to oncoming humans. And that's when communication accidents are most likely to happen. Last week I helped you identify potential communication breakdowns that can be caused by what you say and how you say it. And I bet if you're using the techniques I shared to remedy that, you've already noticed a marked improvement in the quality of your conversations and relationships. This week I discuss the other part of the equation: Listening. And I saved the bigger piece for of the pie for last. So sit back, click play, and let me share three major ninja tricks guaranteed to instantly improve your listening skills. You won't believe your ears. Warning: Do not try this at home unless you're ready for instant and amazing results!

https://youtu.be/hQ7Tbghcg-k Did you ever play that game where you replace the lyrics to a popular song so that they still sound similar, fit into the tune, even rhyme...but completely change the meaning, tone, and spirit of it all? In other words, have you ever gone Weird Al? Maybe you fell in love with a song and sang it all of the time only to be embarrassed and disoriented to learn that the lyrics that moved you to your very core were not the ones recorded...or even heard by anyone else but you. How many times have you been in a heated discussion where the other person was reacting to words that never left your mouth? And trying to explain yourself only made it worse. The point is that communication is precariously fragile at best. We often hear what we want to hear. What's even more curious is that we sometimes hear what we expect to hear, despite what's actually being said. And when you're the one doing the talking, this can prove to be baffling and frustrating. It can create rifts, build walls, cause unbearable tension and resentment. You may even want to throw in the towel and walk away. How awesome would it be to instead be able to successfully transmit your thoughts from your brain to your mouth to the ears of the people you talk to, to truly be listened to? That's where I come in. In this episode, I will help you identify the key reasons why what you say may not be heard the way you mean it to be. Then I'll teach you three simple techniques to use anytime you want to ensure that people really listen to what you have to say. So go ahead, listen to this week's podcast...and excuse me while I kiss this guy because we built this city on sausage rolls!

https://youtu.be/4QuWHWQC49g What if a complete stranger approached you on the street and asked you for a kidney? Would you say yes or would you say no? Okay, I realize that this is an absurd situation that would almost definitely never happen. And if it did, you'd probably pull out your pepper spray or scream at the top of your lungs. But indulge me for a moment; there's a method to my madness. If it did hypothetically happen, you'd probably say no. So let me ask you this: Why? If you've already mastered the skills I'm teaching in this week's podcast, you might be crossing your arms, shaking your head a little, and thinking to yourself, "No is a complete sentence." But if like so many people you have been conditioned to justify yourself when you say no, you may actually be feeling a bit anxious and defensive and even involuntarily forming a response for this imaginary crazy person asking you for body parts. No is always an option. In fact, it's often the right option. But if you find it hard to just say no, you're not alone. Now, think about a more realistic situation in your life where you've said yes when every fiber of your being wanted to say no. Think about what it would have been like if you'd followed your instincts. And think about a time when you said no but felt guilty and felt the need to justify yourself and possibly even allowed that no to morph into a yes. What if you could retrain yourself to say no when it's the right and appropriate choice for you? How would that affect your esteem, your focus, even your health? In this episode I will help you identify why you hate saying no, recognize what always saying yes is costing you, and reveal three surprising truths about saying no that could immediately change your perspective...and your life.

https://youtu.be/VPeXXg1jwac   Hi, my name is Krylyn and I'm a good girl! Okay, to be perfectly honest, I'm a recovering good girl. Which is not to say that I'm a bad girl or no longer a good one or that being a good girl is bad or that being a bad girl is good. Deep. Breath. Got it? Probably not. Because this isn't an easy topic with black and white lines that you need to stay inside of. In fact, that's kinda the point. All that matters is whether or not you're the right kind of girl for YOU. I believe I probably popped out of the womb a good girl. In fact, I think they had a box labeled "Good Girl" ready and waiting for me. And instead of being handed to my mother to be held raw and new and pink and warm, the nurses gave her the box..with me in there somewhere. That box became mine. I owned it. I inhabited it. I stayed firmly inside the lines all through my childhood with very little exception. I did so because it was expected. I did so to survive. And I did so to the point where I got lost and redefined. When people looked at me, they saw only a box. I wore that box so obediently that when someone declared the box needed to change, I shape-shifted right along with it. No questions asked. No bumps in the road. Just me, being that good! Am I ringing your bells, triggering any aha! moments for you? If so, you need to listen to this episode. Right now! Unless of course you'd rather wait. But don't. Be a good girl one last time and let me guide you towards becoming the girl you truly are. Let me reintroduce you to the glorious girl inside your box. And let me help you decide for yourself what kind of girl you want to be!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8YrBS2TUtDA   If you've ever been in a dysfunctional relationship. If you don't always feel your power. If you find yourself being walked all over, used, abused, or just plain drained by how someone in your life is treating you, you might by in urgent need of Boundary Setting for Dummies! If you're ready to get in my face for insinuating that you might be a dummy, congratulations: You got boundaries! But if you're nodding your head, tearing up, and/or hoping desperately that I can guide you where others may have failed, read on. This podcast was made just for YOU. I'm sure you've heard this one before: "You teach people how to treat you". But what exactly does that mean? And who in their right mind would actively, knowingly teach someone to repeatedly knock the stuffing out of them? So here's the chase: You can choose to do it consciously from a place of balance and empowerment. Or you can obliviously bounce through situations, out of control, wondering why these things always happen to you. And if the latter is more your style, it's about freakin' time we gave you a boundary makeover...STAT! In episode 90, I walk you through 4 steps to setting boundaries. Chances are you already know them. And you've even employed them in various aspects of your life to varying degrees. But like the rest of us, you're human, with battle scars and blind spots and moments of low self esteem. And you have an arch enemy archetype. We all do. That certain type of person who's essentially your emotional kryptonite. It's very likely that you've not sat down calmly - from a place of strength - and consciously journeyed through these powerful game-changing exercises with your nemeses. So do it now! Listen to this podcast and start teaching everyone in your life exactly how you need to be treated. At the end of the day, this gift to yourself is actually the greatest gift you can give to everyone who truly respects you. As for anyone else....who needs 'em?

Ever have one of those days when everyone seems 100% committed to pushing your buttons and testing your boundaries? That overnight package got lost in the mail. You've wasted over 40 minutes of your lunch break on hold with an apathetic customer service representative trying to resolve a $3 issue. Meanwhile, your barista put herbal tea in your triple espresso. On a different day, you'd probably let these things go. But not today. Today you're ready to rumble. Some days you just wake up with your fight face on. You're ready to go 12 rounds with any fool who crosses your path. No one is safe. No one is spared. No one is getting out unscathed…not even you. Now I'm not saying that there's nothing out there worth going to the mat for; of course there are times you'll have to fight for what's right. But even then, you have choices. Even then you can decide how to approach the situation. Even then you can choose your battles wisely. And even then you can assess which battles are truly worth your energy…and which situations are better left behind as you consciously walk away. In this episode, I'll get down in the ring with you. We'll get real and explore some of the ways to gracefully manage that fight face. And I'll share 4 steps that you can take every time you hear that bell in your head, signaling another round. These tips will allow you to take control and make conscious decisions about when, how, and if you want to do battle. And best of all, they will help you transform the battles you do need to pursue into more pleasant negotiations. Imagine working with the post office to find your lost package and cooperating with customer service to quickly resolve billing discrepancies. Visualize walking away from those conflicts feeling warm and happy and knowing that you've helped others feel that way, too. Imagine hugging your barista…okay, maybe that's pushing it too far. After all, I pity the fool who messes with my latte! Want an exclusive behind the scenes VIP look at this episode? Get access to the video footage by joining KryU.

Have you ever lost a tooth? Of course! You lost a bunch of them. You were told to put them under your pillow at night while you slept. And instead of freaking out in terror that your own body parts would attack your face in your dreams, you were giddy and hopeful that some mythical, winged creature was going to daintily flit into your bedroom, reach under your head, take that useless hunk of bone, and replace it with cold, hard cash. It seemed perfectly logical. And you believed it right up until that aha! moment that shattered the illusion. Then the morbid ridiculousness of this bizarre ritual crystallized. You may have felt a bit confused, even betrayed. But you probably also experienced a sense of liberation. Now you knew the truth. The truth is calmer than lies. The truth isn't always pretty but it's always centered. The truth will indeed set you free. Because the truth is empowerment and possibility. It's objective, not personal. And it's the only place from where true change and transformation can begin. In spite of all that, you are lying to yourself right now. About what, I don't know. But I do know that the lies you tell yourself are likely rooted in the lies you grew up with. And I can confidently say that they are holding you back from fully embracing the life you deserve. That's right; even though they seem to offer comfort and prizes, those shiny little fairies are actually messing with your happiness. In this episode, I'm going to provide three steps to obliterate those fairytales from your life once and for all. I'll share the most powerful way I know to instantly uncover pure truth. And just like when you were a child, while it may sting initially, that pinch transforms into possibilities the moment you let the lies go. Are you ready to face the endless wonders on the other side of those ugly lies? Listen now because you deserve the beautiful truth. Want an exclusive behind the scenes VIP look at this episode? Get access to the video footage by joining KryU.

Remember when you were little and someone close to you would tell you how beautiful you were? Or smart, talented, sweet, etc. Maybe you even had a special nickname that lit you up like a fireworks show every time you heard it. What's more, you believed it. You allowed yourself to be enveloped in that admiration. And chances are, it manifested in your actions...even shaped your identity. You became more of whatever wonderful aspect of you was highlighted and celebrated by those around you. It's also likely that you experienced the polar opposite. Someone in your life - possibly even you - told you that you were lacking, inadequate, or even downright bad in some aspect of your life. And I'd bet that you lived up to that label as well. Here's the cold, hard truth: You rise or fall to your own perceptions and expectations, not to objective realities. If you believe you are beautiful, you are. And you will radiate that beauty into the world, regardless of your physical shape or state. If you know you are lovable, you are. Not just to yourself, but to others around you. So how easy is it to flip a switch and become the person you want to be - to yourself and to the world? The good news is that it's an elemental skill which you already possess and can summon any time. The challenging news is that it's a two-way switch and can revert to the off position anytime you allow yourself to become stuck in negativity, stress, or defeat. In this episode I walk you through 3 powerful exercises guaranteed to instantaneously flex your self-love muscle. And I provide a simple bonus step to provide a constant reminder to yourself that to know you truly is to love you. Listen now because it's high time to rediscover just how amazingly lovable you really are! Want an exclusive behind the scenes VIP look at this episode? Get access to the video footage by joining KryU.

Here it is, almost Valentine's Day again. And here I am, single. Like me, you may find yourself feeling a bit lonely, depressed, and unloved when this holiday rolls around. Even if you're in a relationship, if your sweetheart has gone tart, this holiday can leave you feeling empty, sad, and utterly disappointed. Let's face it: It's hard to feel worthy when you watch the parade of flower deliveries at the office, the sumptuous boxes of chocolates in the hands of the coupled, and glittery cards everywhere, brimming with red hearts and gooey sentiments. Valentine's Day is like the Memorial Day of the romantically disenfranchised. And all you can do is hunker down and bear it, hoping that next year will be different; next time you'll find love. Psych! If you're walking around feeling that way, you've been duped by the chubby little cherub in the diaper with the arrow. Hallmark has kicked your heart and submerged your brain in creamy nougat centers. You've lost touch with the indisputable, universal truth that you not only deserve to be loved, you already are! So why do you get caught up in the madness? Why do the holiday aisles filled with heart-shaped boxes and disturbingly adorable bears knock the stuffing out of you? How can such a blatant campaign for your February dollars suck you dry of hope, confidence, and well-being? It's all about truly understanding and embracing love. Not the store-bought substitutions or commercially viable alternatives. But true love. On your terms. The way you need to experience it. In this episode, we'll kick Cupid to the curb. I'm giving you 3 powerful exercises that'll reboot your heart with the myth-busting, expectation-smashing truths about love. And I've provided a quiz designed to instantly clarify what love truly means to you. Because when it comes to love, why wait when you can create? Want an exclusive behind the scenes VIP look at this episode? Get access to the video footage by joining KryU.

Have you ever lost your keys? Let me paint a picture: You're running late. One voice in your head is berating you for always loosing your keys. Another voice chimes in and reminds you that you knew this was going to happen. A third voice is muttering manically about how you'll never find your keys. And yet a fourth voice - this one may even be coming out of your mouth - screams, "What is wrong with you?!?" So what IS wrong with you? And no, the answer is not multiple personalities. Chances are that the only thing wrong here is that you're focusing on what's wrong instead of what's right. Let's rejoin the voices in your head. What if you tune them out or change what they're telling you for just a minute. How many times have you done just that only to discover that your keys are in your hand? You attract what you focus on. You know this and yet you may still be focusing on what's wrong with you....instead of what's right. But before you start scolding yourself, know this: We ALL do it. And what's more, we live in a world that encourages it. Every day you are bombarded with messages and adverts encouraging you to focus on what's wrong with you. How else can they sell you a solution unless you have a problem? But what if you could reframe that and stop the madness? What if you could approach every day knowing that you're amazing just the way you are? In this episode, I'm giving you 3 tips to immediately switch from wrong to right. And I've thrown in a powerful bonus tip to instantly up your game. It's just that easy! Because, as Glenda the Good Witch said, "You've always had the power, my dear. You just had to learn it for yourself." Want an exclusive behind the scenes VIP look at this episode? Get access to the video footage by joining KryU.

It's one of those days. The alarm didn't go off. The coffee can is empty. You can't find your left shoe. And late isn't an option. So what do you do? Maybe you take some deep breaths. Perhaps you grab a pair of running shoes and sprint out the door, hitting Starbucks on the way to the office. Or you might renegotiate and conference yourself into that big meeting over the phone. But no matter what you chose to do in this situation, it involves change. Every day you make choices and changes. You often do it unconsciously. In fact, when faced with the prospect of doing it boldly and bravely, it can be overwhelming. But what if there was a way to not only embrace the prospect of change - actively and enthusiastically pursuing it - but to identify when and where you're ready for it? And what if you could master the process like the fearless warrior you know you are? I call this The Pivot. It's the kind of proactive change that transforms and empowers you. The kind you don't sit around dreading or putting off. The Pivot is that fierce and deliberate change that energizes you because you've done it on your own terms, for yourself, no prisoners, no compromises. No, I didn't invent it. But I did give it The Fear Whisperer makeover and I'm going to teach you exactly how to put this process to work for you. I've turbo-charged this episode to reveal the #1 reason why people resist change. I share the 3 signs that tell you that you're ready for The Pivot. And finally, I teach you 3 powerful steps to transform you into the master of The Pivot. The best part? The Pivot works for all situations - big and small! Want an exclusive behind the scenes VIP look at this episode? Get access to the video footage by joining KryU.

Her business model is more successful. His bank account is bigger than mine. I wish I had her shoes! So here's the deal: We ALL compare ourselves to others. We all pine away for that which we do not have. We all get sidetracked by pulling out that measuring stick and bucking under the weight of our own inadequacies....burying ourselves at the bottom of our own insecurities. But let me ask you this: Would you really trade your life - your journey - for anybody else's? Let's assume for a moment that you actually could. Are you willing to take on the unknown baggage, the heartaches, the scars and the setbacks that inevitably come with that package? Would you willingly sacrifice your greatness for whatever is behind door number two? Get honest. You love who you are! And all of those bumps and bulges that sometimes make you frown are some of the essential building blocks that make up the wonder that is you. Let's take it a step further: I'd even bet that if you could magically pull off a Freaky Friday moment, you'd discover that those shoes you so desperately dream of being in cause blisters. You may even discover that all this time you've been wasting wishing you were in her ruby red slippers, she's been staring at your shoes with the same longing and desire! So what if I could give you 3 simple tips to break that spell and instantly bring you back to embracing your own journey? You guessed it: In this episode I'll not only hand you my magic wand to do just that, I'll help you renew your belief that you're not only on the right path - the only path! - for you, I bet I'll have you happily dancing in your own damn shoes! Want an exclusive behind the scenes VIP look at this episode? Get access to the video footage by joining KryU.

Ready to Rock 2017 with your own customized theme? Weddings have them. So do T.V. shows, sporting events, books, even political campaigns. In fact, a good theme can be the difference between overwhelming failure and spectacular success. Why? Because themes are all about lazar sharp focus and clarity. They provide aspiration, motivation, and the drive to get things done, realizing even the loftiest of goals. Themes appeal not only to your sense of purpose, they actually stimulate your emotions and desires. In fact, the better the theme, the wider the reach. Good themes not only achieve their visions, they actually attract the enthusiastic support and buy-in of others. So why don't you have a theme? If they work so well for parties and Olympic Games, just imagine the turbo boost a great personal theme could give to your life, your career, your wildest dreams! In this episode, I'll tell you why you need a yearly theme and share with you both my 2017 theme and the thought process I used to create it. I'll also give you 4 comprehensive steps to craft your very own. So listen now to rock your best 2017 with a customized theme! Want an exclusive behind the scenes VIP look at this episode? Get access to the video footage by joining KryU.

Ever wonder about the down side of self improvement? Are you on the self-help bandwagon? Tis’ the season. Every New Year brings with it the hope and promise of a clean slate. Maybe you want a new bod, a new J-O-B, or a new slice of life. And these days you don’t have to look too far to get bombarded with products and services that lure you in with the promise all this…and MORE! But what happens when these messages infiltrate your brain? Marketers are pulling at your heart strings and pushing all your buttons. And before you know it, you may find yourself believing that you’re not good enough, feeling that you're flawed or even broken. Not only can this start a vicious cycle of low self worth and doubt, but it's hard to see yourself for the beautiful person you are through a filter of criticism and endless scrutiny. Don’t get me wrong. I’m a total self-help junkie. I LOVE the path of healing and enlightenment. But what I don’t like are those deeper messages we sometimes glean. So here's my New Year's message for you: I happen to think that you are perfect just the way you are – even if you want to improve yourself. In fact you are amazing because you want to do so! In this episode, I share my thoughts and strategy on what you can do to defeat those unfair and untrue messages that are flying at you at warp speed at this time of year. I’ll even give you 3 tips on how you can ensure you are approaching your self-improvement journey from a place of power. So take back the reigns of your own journey. Own it. And make the decision to work on you not because you need to, but because you want and deserve to!

Listen in as Dr. Natalie Forest dives into faith, trust, fear, and the patterns that keep us stuck.

Listen in as Diana Elizabeth Jordan chats about faith, determination, and risking disappointment to live your own path.

Listen in as Julie Salisbury shares how she unleashed her life purpose.

Listen in as Emi Kirschner talks about the connection between life, relationships, food, and more!

Listen in as Luci McMonagle shares 3 tips on how to triumph in your life.

Listen in as Georgette Rowland Osborne talks about the connection between health, finances, relationships…and CAKE!

Listen in as Connie Curtis shares her journey to gluten-free and what she overcame to get healthy physically and emotionally.

Listen in as Natasha Koo dives into the connection between mind, body, and emotions and how she learned to overcome perfectionism.

Listen in as Nancie Vito shares a different spin on healing from burn out and stress.

Listen in as Gail Dixon chats about the deciding to own her value, make her needs a priority, and create her dream biz after retirement.

Listen in as Amber Slaughter shares some #truthbombs about moving past fear, limiting beliefs, and being the architect of your own life.

Listen in as Sya A.D. discusses how quitting her job opened up the space to re-discover herself, heal her past, and follow her dreams.

Listen in as Marilyn R. Wilson talks about embracing your quirks, accepting yourself, and other golden nuggets she's learned from interviewing people around the world.

Listen in as Boom Shikha shares the incredible benefits of meditation, including overcoming self sabotage, manifesting, and getting clearer about your purpose.

Listen in as Pegi Burdick dives deep into overcoming self-sabotage and learning to trust yourself.

Listen in as Tandee A. Salter discusses some of her best tips to boost your confidence.

Listen in as Wendy Foster shares the power of gratitude, support, and taming the Monkey Mind.

Listen to Amy Oestreicher shares the lessons she's learned from trauma through what she calls her beautiful detour.

Listen in as Gloria Rand talks about the importance of clarity and how it can shift and shape your biz.

Listen in as Devonia Reed chats about the idea of "planting seeds" to change our thoughts.

Listen in as Sam Nordberg shares how letting go is crucial to getting out of her own damn way.

Listen in as Syndee Hendricks talks about how she's created amazing results using her amazing gifts.

Listen in as Olga Reinholdt talks about the possibilities in ALL opportunities (including one that surfaced during the show).

Listen in as Vanessa Canteberry discusses how to break the cycle of being broken.

Listen in as Sheronda L. Barksdale talks about the power of manifestation and the missing ingredient that makes all the difference.

Listen in as TalibahAset talks about the life-changing lessons we learn from suffering and pain.

One Year Anniversary Series: Step 4 of 4 to Get Out of Your Own Damn Way and Embrace Your Friggin’ Greatness Already

On June 4, 2015, the first weekly episode of the Get Out of Your Own Damn Way Podcast aired with me sharing a bit of my story and how I got in AND out of my own damn way. Since then, I’ve interviewed guests from 8 countries across 4 continents around the world to find out how they have learned to get out of their own damn way too. For those of you who don’t know me yet, my name is Krylyn Peters. I’m known as “The Fear Whisperer,” and my mission is to help female entrepreneurs and want-repreneurs tame their fear, embrace their greatness, and get out of their own damn way so they can create their mission-filled, heart-centered, soul-inspired business. This is the third episode of my one-year anniversary series, where I’m sharing what I’ve learned from my podcast guests this first year. Today I’m going to share Step 3 of 4 to Get Out of Your Own Damn Way and Embrace Your Friggin’ Greatness Already. If you missed me sharing about Step 1, head on over to krylyn.com/krylyn-com50 or step 2, head on over to krylyn.com/krylyn-com51. You might want to download the special worksheet I created to go along with this episode, “Accept Yourself to Greatness.” You can use it to dive in a little deeper into step 3. [et_bloom_inline optin_id=optin_9] Step 3: Be Yourself You’d think that knowing yourself and accepting yourself would be enough to fully embrace your greatness and get out of your own damn way. But you’d be wrong. A HUGE theme that came up as I interviewed my podcast guests was that of following the path we’re meant to take. We sometimes stay in a box without even realizing it – the box of the “good employee,” or the “good partner,” or the “good mother.” In other words, we’re playing that damn GOOD GIRL role we were cast in long ago, and letting it play out in every area of our lives. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with enjoying a good or great job, relationship, or family. But what I hear a lot is that while it may be a fantastic situation on paper, it just isn’t matching our vision for our lives. We long for more. Something’s missing. We’re being called to a higher purpose. And for many of us, that calling doesn’t go away simply because we’re enjoying our lives. What happens is that if we ignore the call, our lives begin to fall apart, making it less a choice we’ve made than an answer to a call we ignored for far too long. Not being yourself can look like: Having a really good life or job but not really being happy or satisfied Trying to fit in a box of what is expected rather than what we truly want Lusting after other people’s lives Talking ourselves out of “going for it” because of what others might think The path to true greatness involves being who you are. That means giving up the good-girl, people-pleasing nonsense that was ingrained in so many of us. [et_bloom_inline optin_id=optin_9] Here’s one way to shed that role: Let your light shine. I’ve been categorizing different profiles of my clients and students for a while now, and I have to say the one where we hide in the shadows and don’t own our value is one of the biggest ones I’m seeing these days. I call it Wallflower Syndrome. Remember at the junior high dance those girls standing against the wall waiting to be asked to dance? Key word waiting. How many of us are waiting for the time to be right, enough money to be in the bank, circumstances to be perfect, and the universe to line things up just so in order to START. It doesn’t even matter what you’re waiting to start. The point is…PERFECTIONSIM is keeping you from shining. So what if things aren’t perfect? So what if you’re working full-time? So what if you weigh more than you want? So what if you’re juggling a million balls right now? You are NOT your bank balance, your weight, your excuses. You are destined for greatness and need to embrace that reality so you can stop feeling so miserable, dissatisfied, and unfilled, AND so that you can help others heal in only the way you can. Be bold. Be brave. Be Yourself. Take it from several of my guests who threw caution to the wind, made some bold choices, and just went for it…like Dr. Gregory Canillas, Kate Wan, Maria Allyn, Liz Dederer, Rev. Aliza Bloom Robinson, Puja Madan, and Nicole Lewis-Keeber. Once we let our light shine, we can play a little…in the world of possibilities. Live in the possibilities. As I was going through all my guest notes, I came across this theme of living in the possibilities and wasn’t quite sure where it fit in. It encompasses all four steps and is really more of an underlying theme or even way of being. So I thought it would fit in here nicely in the BE YOURSELF section. What do I mean by possibilities? All those yummy, awesome-sauce, fudge-covered DREAMS and GOALS you have. It’s the place you probably lived in during at least part of your childhood – the part that got squashed as you got older and the “shoulds” took over. The land of possibilities is also where our greatness lies. It involves creativity, fun, play, and all the child-like things we sometimes do silently in our minds when others are acting a hot mess. It’s the dance like no one is watching and sing like no one is listening place. Full of YES and wonder and “what if,” rather than NO and “if only” and “yeah, but.” Got it? Now go there…what do you SEE, FEEL, and HEAR? WHO do you see? WHERE are you? WHAT are you doing? HOW are you helping those you are here to serve? Take it from: Derrick Kwa who asked himself “what’s the worst that could happen” before reaching out to some big name people in his industry who ended up helping him. Stephanie Ghoston who said “I can do anything.” Philip Dhingra who talked about the joy of missing out – JOMO. In the last installment in this special one-year anniversary series, I’ll be sharing Step 4 to Get Out of Your Own Damn Way and Embrace Your Friggin’ Greatness Already.

One Year Anniversary Series: Step 2 of 4 to Get Out of Your Own Damn Way and Embrace Your Friggin’ Greatness Already

One Year Anniversary Series: Step 1 of 4 to Get Out of Your Own Damn Way and Embrace Your Friggin’ Greatness Already

Listen is as Philip Dhingra shares his journey of learning self help tools over 16 years, and ultimately what has really helped make all the difference in him getting out of his own damn way.

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Listen in as Stephanie Ghoston dishes on how to get over the "comparison-itis" that plagues many fem-preneurs and the importance of putting ourselves as a higher priority in our lives and businesses. "When I stopped living my life according to my moods, things really changed for me."   - Stephanie Ghoston ABOUT THIS GUEST: Stephanie Ghoston is the founder and life coach of Cultivated Sense, a movement that promotes ordinary ways to live extraordinarily and encourages people to stop settling in life and love. She's also a coach and matchmaker with the Paul C. Brunson Agency, an award-winning boutique matchmaking and lifestyle coaching firm. Stephanie has been featured on blogs such as the HuffPost. For Harriet, The Black Life Coaches Network, and The Art of Perspective. She's also a Best-selling author featured in 20 Beautiful Women Volume 3. Stephanie is also the forthcoming author of I Am Beautiful and The 42%. www.cultivatedsense.com

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